"The MOST Unhealthy Mom on The Internet"

[@ange3193]

I will always 100% judge negatively someone putting their kids on social media, for an income

[@dandeliondizzy]

I was going to say something similar, she appears to be online begging- not showcasing her issue.

[@tarabooartarmy3654]

That's unfair. I'm not a huge fan of it, either. But honestly, if they can make a decent income to feed their kids and still stay home with them, why should we judge? When I as a kid, I would have been THRILLED if my dad did something like this, because I could have had clothes that didn't come from yard sales and get me bullied in school. We lived in a singlewide trailer that was falling apart, I used jackets and backpacks and shoes until they were falling apart, and ate beans and cornbread until I was so sick of them it took decades for me to enjoy them again. My dad worked fast food, and my mom was on disability. If I could have been on the internet and had a "normal" life (not wealthy, just average) I would have jumped at the chance. Maybe not all kids would feel the same way I did, but if it can save them from poverty, I say let's not judge. Is it an ideal situation? No. But neither is never being able to afford health care, or healthy food, or school supplies, or the other necessities of a healthy life.

[@ange3193]

@@tarabooartarmy3654 sorry but they are to young to give consent. Their image being distributed online do lend anywhere for any p*do to see and use. It has been proven! They should put themselves not the kids

[@Kaitlynslaymaker1943]

Same.

[@Seirashot]

THIS.

[@demgphix]

I feel that there is a misconception about the cost of food. Fast food isn't cheap anymore, and yes highly processed food is... but ya know what's even cheaper than donuts? oatmeal... way cheaper and a significantly better breakfast.

[@carlamoss89]

Exactly. My food budget is $100/month and I don't buy junk food. Simple food is a lot cheaper.

[@veronicavatter6436]

Those donuts are like $4 a bag where I live!

[@rachy9824]

@@veronicavatter6436they go on sale a lot at specific stores. I know cuz my husband loves to snack on them 😂

[@betty-y3m9y]

I was going to say that! A container of oats would be less expensive than donuts.

[@jaxsally]

Bananas would be a great alternative as well. Easy and they’re healthy..

[@Petty_Omen]

I work with neglected children and I see hundreds of parents like her every month. They take offence when we mention their child’s obesity, because they are obese themselves. When you point out that a diet high in sugar is rotting the child’s teeth, they shrug and say ‘so pull them out, they have more coming!’ They don’t want to hear about proper brushing habits and replacing soda with water. You explain just pulling teeth will also mess with their permanent teeth, they tell you they can sort it out when they grow up. Literally just waiting until it’s not their problem. It’s not poverty, it’s absolute disdain.

[@skyemccready]

This is my brother with his kids to a T. My nephew is going to be 10 and he already has like… 6 silver teeth

[@LeShadowFawkes]

It's definitely poverty.

[@byeleanorwidya]

She got roof over her head, a fridge, overall her house looks fine. It's NOT poverty. ​@@LeShadowFawkes

[@eustacelongbottom9672]

Bullshit

[@snobuni77]

Maybe it’s donuts she got for free. When I was homeless, they gave donuts from Inman to all the women and children for free.

[@ayeitsa3299]

it’s not a matter of being low income or high income. she prioritizes things with high sugar that taste “sweet” over things with nutrients that don’t taste as “good”

[@jackiecollins928]

I was a young poor single mother n never ever would I have given my child donuts 4 breakfast! Especially at 2! I at least made eggs n toast! No excuses

[@Wtvrflotesurgoat]

For real though. My husband and I had our first at 19. We had to be on food stamps until he graduated college which he did and he makes a lot now. During that time our food stamps provided very healthy nutritious foods. We are so lucky in America to have this kind of support and resources.

[@lauraluna337]

Yeah, she could have got store brand cheerios for the same price as the donuts and frozen broccoli for the price of the french fries or even just baked them instead of frying (all that oil isn't cheap).

[@taylorbug9]

There are so many healthy things that taste better than those little donuts at the beginning of this video. She's just fucking lazy and eats like that herself. She's going to give those kids diabetes and life-long health problems.

[@t_ylr]

Also she could give them something sweet that's actually healthy lol. The big container of applesauce probably costs as much as those donuts and will last 3 kids at least a week. Oatmeal is great. Sprinkle a pinch of sugar and some maple syrup. That's a healthier breakfast. Also instead of making burgers make spaghetti and meat sauce. $10 worth of spaghetti can feed a small army lmao

[@mlizf]

you know what else bugs me,whenever her kids talk to her or ask her questions she responds with the most monotonous voice and expressionless face,but when one of her partners interacts with her she’s all smiles and giggles. that has to mess up the kids in the long run. the still faced mother.

[@inkassosjefen6315]

Thats even worse than the diet

[@averysspookshowspectacular6205]

There are studies that show that even as babies we have an adverse reaction to expressionless carers. There are videos of a mother responded to their child emotionlessly compared to a stranger (usually researchers) responding to them with expressions and the baby responds better to the stranger.

[@heyizz]

That is more disturbing to me than even the food. How do you treat your children like this compared to the partners in these precarious arrangements of sexual convenience.

[@emmahyzjuziefhej53356]

Is it possible that she has post-partum depression or this type of thing ? In France we have a lot of awareness campaigns about is when we have a child, and this type of apparent disinterest is one of the symptoms. And it can stay while the kid has grown a bit, it's not the same as baby blues. Do they also raise awareness on this topic in the us ?

[@carlamoss89]

Not feeding your kids actual junk is not privilege. It's parenting. I grew up poor and I didn't have fast food until I was an adult. Almost never junk food at home. If there was nothing else to eat, I would have a plain bread roll, a banana, other cheap items. Not doughnuts and sugar. That is ridiculous. She's a bad parent. and yes I am judging. And they have three adults in this "throuple" yet can't buy the kids some real food? Selfish, disgusting people. We need to stop being soft on these people because they are doing actual damage on kids.

[@monkfruit2389]

Literally. I can't imagine buying my girlfriend soda when I could treat a child to some fresh fruit or a piece of lower fat meat instead.

[@cindyharris5442]

I agree!! I literally commented the same thing!

[@simona_merkinin]

Yeah. I grew up in a farm and we barely had money. I grew up eating all kinds of meat (chicken, cow, even rabbits) and home grown vegetables and fruits.

[@MyDuckSaysFucc]

Yeah, grown ass adults don’t get to be victims when they abuse their kids. They are the perpetrators. We shouldn’t be coddling their feelings. You chose to have 3 kids, they are the victims here that had no say. you should have chosen better.

[@junglefe]

👏🏽

[@gmessec732]

If she's in a throuple relationship, wouldn't that mean there are potentially two other incomes she can use to feed her kids?

[@marissariley7319]

Right? Or someone around to cook when the others are busy?

[@veronicavatter6436]

That's what I was thinking!

[@once.upon.a.time.]

When I got to that part in the video I got chills because I have been through something eerily similar. When I was 19 (and extremely sheltered and naive) I was essentially groomed into a throuple with a married couple. The woman was 26 and the man 32 when I met them. They had two young kids and their house was an absolute wreck. Trash everywhere, just squalid conditions. The man was on welfare and the woman on social security, I was the only one working (two jobs at that). They had severe mental illness and didn't really cook or clean. They got food stamps but spent it all on junk food. I would use my paychecks to buy fruits and veggies for the kids. There was this sort of deeply engrained mindset and refusal to change or better themselves that is very reminiscent of the attitude of this woman. They just genuinely don't think it's that bad.

[@silversurfer231]

Nobody takes her seriously in a relationship look at her. Lets be real

[@goosehonks1549]

They all refuse to work and are on welfare

[@ashleytyraisaacs]

pause. i can't let it go or even get through the video without mentioning it. I'm so filled with confusion and rage. MIX THE SEASONING INTO THE BURGER!

[@-MaryPoppins-]

Imagine biting into that and there’s a crisp layer of garlic salt. IMAGINE. AGGHHHHHHHH 🤮

[@ZeaStoner]

That burger was burnt, undercooked, over seasoned and under seasoned at the same time 😂

[@BaDazai]

Or better yet, make a different meal altogether. Fry the Mince, add some onions, diced carrots, green beans and tomatoes + the seasoning. Make mashed potatoes to go with it, and some brocoli on the side! She already had the ingredients 😭😭😭

[@lesliek1808]

It’s just super low effort. I don’t think it’s the poverty. It’s just the effort. Seasoning on the outside made me crazy too

[@boosqueezy2418]

yes!!!!!

[@abigailgrant2199]

Those apple sauce pouches are so expensive. Bananas are like 50 cents a pound. A dozen eggs are less than that bag of donuts.

[@rachelatwater7576]

She could have made the baby scrambled eggs

[@tarabooartarmy3654]

Eggs are horrific for the body, though. They are absolutely not healthy to eat often. Beans are a much healthier source of protein and contain fiber and other vitamins and minerals. They are also cheap, even cheaper than eggs these days if you buy in bulk, and contain very little fat and no cholesterol. They are also much easier to make than eggs, because they cook in water while you're doing other things and don't tend to stick to the pan, so cleanup is easier.

[@Dixielanddelight83]

That part! I live in Iowa and our Kwik Star will have sales on eggs for less then $2.00 per dozen.

[@averysspookshowspectacular6205]

I always buy applesauce in bulk. You can get a jar with 3 times as much as those packets for cheaper.

[@katie8325]

@@tarabooartarmy3654eggs are not horrific for the body, at all. Stop spreading ridiculous misinformation.

[@catherinecox573]

the plate toss annoys the hell out of me, and she clearly doesn't give a single F about what those kids eat. those kids are gonna form detrimental habits they'll struggle to break.

[@lisalarsen2384]

She’s making money from rage baiting like nik avocado did

[@eclipsedbadger]

B-but she has mental illnesses 🥺 how can we be so mean?! 😢

[@x.y.7385]

That's her schtick. Does it on many of her videos...that's how she gets views.

[@MyiaLaShaun]

Right I felt the same.

[@Learninglotsoflanguages]

I was bothered how she gave the kid food on a trampoline. Sit the child at the table and develop some good habits! But just eat whatever whenever wherever.

[@beauenferae2438]

Where I live those hostess donuts cost $6.24 and a 12-pack of applesauce packets are 5.68. That brings us to 11.92 prior to tax and after tax it'll probably be around 12.44. For two items that likely wouldn't last very long for a family with three kids. For that amount, you could alternatively get the following. A dozen eggs, 42oz container of oats, 16oz frozen bananas, and a 16oz great value peanut butter. Not only would the meals from that likely last longer, be more filling, and be healthier. It's also cheaper. Costing just 11.17 before tax and 12.21 afterwards. I do think that your income does have an effect on your ability to eat healthy but it isn't impossible.

[@Babesinthewood97]

This isn’t really about money but about education. Oats for breakfast are cheaper than eating those sweets for sure.

[@urgavecommunist]

i just randomly googled “large bag of oats” i found a 1 GALLON container of oats for $20. that gallon would last her 3 kids MONTHS. shes paying that many times over in processed food.

[@blondbraid7986]

My thoughts exactly. Plus oats have near infinite shelf life and doesn't even need to be refrigerated.

[@junglefe]

And lack of care.

[@carred-r7c]

​​@@urgavecommunisti disagree that it would last months for her kids, they can go through a lot of oatmeal. im a single adult and i could consume that much in a month. but i agree that it would be the better, cheaper, healtheir chouce.

[@ActuallyAShrimp]

Similar to under feeding your kid, over feeding them is also bad. I genuinely believe if a kid has extreme weight issues that their parents pay no mind to, I am suspicious of neglect. Neglecting your child's health both mental or physical is inhumane and cruel. Children deserve nutritional meals, ESPECIALLY LITTLE BABIES AND TODDLERS! If she has two partners at least ONE of them should step up, but none of them do. This is just straight up fucked

[@jayebradley8849]

Omg stfu. I was an actual abused child, these kids are fine

[@e_i_e_i_bro]

Not even just weight. Processed foods like this are filled with horrible stuff. Shoot look at Cheerio's recent issue. Microplastics and endocrine dysruptors will be the end of us.

[@ActuallyAShrimp]

@@e_i_e_i_bro Im 17 and recently been trying to get myself into fardening for this reason. I want to be able to afford things for leisure, not just necessity! I think growing some of your own food is a great way to stay healthier. more greens and fresh vegetables or even berries for dirt cheap so long as you prep properly Edit: Gardening, not fardening 😂

[@e_i_e_i_bro]

@@ActuallyAShrimp you should try! Growing food is an invaluable skill. Very rewarding. I personally kill almost everything I've tried grow, but I'm going to continue trying lol. I can bake and cook so I got that going for me.

[@ActuallyAShrimp]

@@e_i_e_i_bro I definitely need to work on my cooking skills as well, lol!

[@TJR-ju8dj]

she has to be ragebaiting for views/engagement...this is the new clout for social media lmao..yes its wrong asf but shes doing it on purpose.

[@Chelseabee55]

Fully agree. 3 adults for child care and 3 incomes and she can’t make a breakfast for her kid? She’s using this for rage bait

[@nottoday3561]

IDK, you'd be surprised. I think I read in the comments somewhere that the other adults aren't even employed. But I agree with the fact that low income isn't an excuse. Just goes to show the kind of people they are. @@Chelseabee55

[@urgavecommunist]

and the fact she’s doing it to the detriment of her child is crazy. because one could argue “oh she’s just plating it no one’s actually eating it” no clearly she doesn’t have a great diet and she films herself giving it to the child + the child eating it.

[@taylorbug9]

I'm choosing to believe this cause it's the only way I'll sleep tonight

[@mamawray]

💯

[@cclee6987]

I grew up very poor with stubborn parents that refused government assistance. This made me frugal and smart with my money. The reality of being poor is that you have to learn how to cook. Me and my siblings always ate good. Eating healthy even when you have money takes effort. Cooking takes effort. This woman has a job that keeps her home and yet she cant find time to cook legitimate meals. I believe this comes down to laziness. This woman is lazy and its going to impact her children incredibly.

[@ladellg267]

Bets are this is how she grew up and how she ate as a kid. However if there are 2 other adults in the house they should be assisting her with meals or something.

[@TheChihuahuaLady]

I agree with you.

[@mummytrolls]

Agreed. I’ve been there. If you’re poor you either learn how to cook or you go hungry because junk food is not only too damn expensive but it’s also unsatisfying. I could’ve given in to my cravings or I could’ve had a full stomach.

[@karinalemus2305]

Exactly! Pure laziness, she just doesn’t put effort into cooking, what a shame!

[@Strawberry__crochet044]

I work with young kids (12 months-3 years) and this lady is unreal. I come from a low income family and have dealt with weight issues my entire life because of a mom like this. She could get a couple bags of frozen veggies, bread, and maybe some sausage and that last a week or more for those kids for breakfast. It’s all about making the small difference you can. My work kids who have even slight weight issues at that age are already struggling. I see the difference not only in terms of their ability to play but also how much fatigue they have and how quickly they get hungry because it’s all goldfish and cookies in their lunches which doesn’t fuel them at all. Even if you are struggling there is no excuse to give your one year old donuts for breakfast. At the very least giver her some real fruit and not sugar packed applesauce that will not fuel her for more than a couple hours. I have seen low income families at work make sure that at the least they throw in some cucumbers or carrots and not give their kid juice or soda 24/7. All my kids that come from moms like this have one thing in common. They are pacified with food instead of being parented.

[@mummytrolls]

Seriously. I’ve had a very low budget before and made it work. I could never afford junk if I didn’t want to be hungry. I consistently bought frozen veggies, canned veggies, apples, bananas, maybe some in season fruit if it was cheap, beans, tofu, eggs, milk, peanut butter, bread, rice, tortillas, cheese, and yogurt. That didn’t cost much for me where I lived and where I shopped. I could feed 2 people for $25 a week at one point when money was really tight. When I was much broker than I am now I’d crave junk food and be tempted by it when passing it at the grocery store. Remembering that I could only afford a bag of chips OR veggies it made it clear to me which choice was right. Veggies are nutritious and filling. Chips only satisfy a craving, but they would not cure my hunger. I chose long term health over short term satisfaction.

[@ariao.4982]

But I think there's still a lack of awareness and access to that information when you grow up in *certain* low income communities. If everyone around you has always eaten a certain way, how would you even know that there's something so wrong with what you're doing to take time and do research and find alternatives, etc. It sucks, but I can see how this cycle is hard to stop

[@chanlanee]

People are saying it has a lot to do with the cost of food. There are three able bodied adults in her house that refuse to work because her going on the internet to rage bait pays them too good.

[@heyizz]

Exactly. How do you have 3 adults capable of working and not have a single one working full-time to properly raise the children? They are all lazy, selfish leeches. This is why I wholeheartedly believe not everyone should have children.

[@earthstar7534]

Listen, eating highly processed shelf stable food is extremely expensive. Cookies, doughnuts, soda, juice, boxed meals all that costs a fortune. I have been on a poverty budget before. $75 for 4 people for 3 meals a day and a snack. I had to bake my own bread, make pots of soup, sandwiches were made out of whole chicken that i roasted at home or peanut butter. Vegetables and potatoes are the least expensive sides. Fried rice stretched out with vegetables is what i called a free meal because it goes so far. Breakfast, oatmeal, eggs, buy a bag of frozen fruit its less expensive than fresh, bake muffins for easy fast meals. Frankly, if you are buying junk food you arent that broke because you need a lot of it to fill a belly up. Its a nonsense excuse that makes zero sense based on the cost of food.

[@nottoday3561]

Exactly, I don't know why people always say its expensive to eat healthy.

[@rebekahtyler7406]

Exactly! I remember going to the store in college and grabbing an apple, carrot as a quick “lunch” just on the go. Cost less than a dollar.

[@mummytrolls]

Damn that was basically my exact diet when I was really poor lol. People who say it’s too expensive to eat healthy lack creativity. And they’re probably lazy, not to be mean. Premade “health” meals, takeout from “health” restaurants, organic food sold at grocery stores, and stuff like that is expensive. If you shop the sales, use coupons, and most importantly you cook, you can eat well enough. I bought stuff like frozen/canned veggies, in season fruit, rice, tofu, beans, milk, cheese, and bread pretty much every week. With that plus stuff that lasts longer (soy sauce, seasoning, oatmeal, etc.), I could make meals like soup, sandwiches, tofu scramble, oatmeal, bean burritos, beans+rice+veggies, eggs in various styles with veg, and more. Those are all super easy to make, you just gotta be willing to cook a little bit and toss in whatever veggies you got to make it work. Junk food was too expensive for me to afford. I couldn’t just spend $3-$5 on a bag of chips or $7-$10 on a box of granola bars or even spare $2 for some candy that’ll last me 5 minutes. None of it was worth it. I could have veggies OR chips. Candy OR fruit. Juice OR milk. The decision was easy once I remembered that.

[@viviannichols3582]

THIS

[@aliengreeneyes0727]

Exactly! And that junk food isn't filling for long.

[@ambersummer2685]

“My family is just big boned, we’re all just naturally fat” The kid’s diet:🍔🍩🌭

[@mattrose99]

Its literally Cartmans mom in the first episode saying 'Youre not fat, youre just big boned!' Then handing him a cake stuffed pie and topped with powdered donuts

[@Kangamoos]

That opening video was so upsetting, I feel teary for that child.

[@boosqueezy2418]

and ofc she feeds the kid in front of the tv

[@jayebradley8849]

@boosqueezy2418 bahaha nothing wrong with that. Get off your soap box hunty

[@tessmoffett5512]

I don’t even know if I can watch this video. I stopped it after eight seconds because I’m also finding this upsetting. Poor kid.

[@jayebradley8849]

@@boosqueezy2418 🙄 bro...

[@alijane6675]

Donuts make you cry? Lols

[@madisonsnellings8501]

My mom has been morbidly obese since she was 19 years old. I grew up to be a severely obese child. I ate junk snacks because they were always available , my parents tried to cook healthy dinners. But 80% of our meals were fast food/takeout/dining out… But grandmas house there was no rules. That’s where I got my first taste of binging, no longer was I stealing my moms snacks. She wanted us to have them, Little Debbie full size oatmeal cream pies, nutty buddys, Swiss cake rolls, ice cream and my parents would bring us fast food to eat while we are there. I was being built to self destruct. I’m down from 350 pounds to 180 now. The behaviors are still so ingrained in me. Going vegan saved me because most sweets I can’t have, and I can’t just walk into restaurant and order something if it strikes my fancy. Unless I go to a vegan restaurant I have look at the ingredient list, google it, ask the restaurant, this gives me plenty of time to really think about what I want and what I’m actually eating.

[@cloudthief8918]

Ok I gotta say, going vegan saved me too. I was never obese but my mom definitely overfed me as a kid, and my obese dad didn't see how his portion sizes were too much for a kid. In middle school I developed a lil bingeing problem. I couldn't stop eating chocolate bars and sweets. I went vegan for ethical reasons but it really stopped me from picking up any mars bars or snickers I saw at the supermarket checkout. It can be annoying when so many snacks and potato chips have milk powder added for no reason, but personally it helped me.

[@silversurfer231]

Yup vegan is the only way. Eating meats n dairy is the cause of diseases

[@Tishanb]

Had my first at 19, followed by two more at 22 and 23. Single parent and never fed them like that. Three people and not one of them have common sense. Ugh.

[@Bullen_3]

Right! I wasn't prepared for the whole throuple thing. You would think there would be MORE income, and heathier, well prepared meals, because: Hey,3 able bodied adults live in that household.

[@MamaKat53]

There is an indifference towards the child, yet almost anger from this mom. Reminds me of mine.

[@Bullen_3]

This. I'm glad someone brought this up. And btw,WHY does she have 2 others if mother clearly isn't doing it for her. Poor kids..they didn't deserve this

[@BeckyLooLah]

This!!! This is what upset me most.

[@purplew93]

Most pregnancies in the US are unplanned…

[@seitanbeatsyourmeat666]

Yeah, she’s got a real attitude

[@BaDazai]

6:46 😅 how can you have 3 adults in a household and NONE of them can cook? Statistically speaking, how it that possible probability wise? I would have made amazing meals with the ingredients she had. It's not the lack of food, its the lack of not knowing how to cook. 😅

[@julianlaresch6266]

There's a lot of people becoming adults in the past few years who never learned how to cook

[@april4657]

This was my thought. I figured this was a single mom and here she has two partners. Where are they in this?

[@jd5368]

This is exactly what I thought. 3 adults in the house and the kids are still eating like this? What are her partners doing? ETA: After watching the whole video it makes more sense why her partners aren't helping with this.. She broke up with her boyfriend and then he started seeing another woman, then gaslit her into accepting a relationship with both of them if she wanted him back. This is not a story about three loving adults helping to share each other's burdens.

[@brookealecxa4002]

how can u have 3 adults in 1 household and none of them EARNING AN INCOME???????

[@LaPenserosa1]

Yeah, that triangle nonsense is what flipped it for me. Really?! Out of three adults no one can cook or come up with enough money for meat and veggies?

[@yomomma8237]

When she said she is in a trouple!!!!! That’s 3 incomes! No excuses man

[@SkyeMelodyy]

I have so many thoughts, whew. Also, if this is about cost, how do you have 3 adults and not enough income to get some better foods for the kids.

[@SkyeMelodyy]

Oh snap what we are seeing is let's give the kids junk for the content. They is beyond selfish.

[@gunnargislason5221]

What really got me, and John didn't show this clip, was when she put chocolate syrup in her kid's milk. Chocolate syrup is expensive! And not necessary at all. The kid could have just had a glass of milk. I think the main problem is that the mom doesn't know how to budget or prioritise her money. A lot of people are like that, unfortunately.

[@Nopee906]

​@@gunnargislason5221 That's exactly why we need a financial literacy class mandatory to graduate high school. It would help so many people.

[@beauenferae2438]

@@gunnargislason5221 Definitely. I grew up low income and still am in that bracket. I actually did the math, because I have too much time on my hands lol. For what it would cost to buy those donuts and applesauce where I live. You could get a dozen eggs, 42oz container of oats, 16oz frozen bananas, and a 16oz jar of peanut butter for 23 cents cheaper. I would bet she just isn't financially literate and hasn't been taught how to wisely spend money. Grocery shopping is probably one of the best ways to teach people to purchase with a purpose.

[@SkyeMelodyy]

@gunnargislason5221 Yeah milk is just as adequate. It seems that she's monetizing her children's poor eating habit and I just can't wrap my brain around being okay with that as a parent.

[@standdownrobots_ihaveoldglory]

Really appreciate your nuance on this one. I was getting a bit high & mighty and your talk about privilege was spot on. And I worked for part of my career in juvenile mental health & foster care. This is absolutely not a “take the kids away” situation, you don’t traumatize kids to punish parents. She needs help but this is nothing compared to more typical abuse

[@Bullen_3]

Sad to learn she has more than one kid . She shouldn't have had ANY.

[@pokemami]

When my children were going we were super poor. Like living below poverty. I got us chickens for fresh eggs, tended a huge garden for fresh veggies, made everything from blackberry jam, to bread, to canning fresh sauces. I would buy everything on sale and use as many coupons as possible. I stretched every penny. It's not easy, it's not for everyone, but you can eat healthy in a low income house.

[@jaimereynolds258]

Now that's a parent doing their best ❤❤❤

[@ActuallyAShrimp]

AMEN! Not quite religious but people like you are those I genuinely pray for, in a way. Children should never have to suffer a life where they're brought up into a sugar addiction :(

[@diamandis07]

Yep we grew up with a four family household for a few years before my other siblings were born. We had no family except us four, no aunts or uncles or cousins, nothing. My mom stayed home and made food from scratch (she made bread from scratch, boiled lentils and beans instead of buying canned, made french fries from scratch) and thus made each dollar stretch to its full capacity while my dad worked 3 jobs. It was the right balance of cheap and healthy.

[@AprilMonger]

Wow!! How did you afford a chicken coop? We are looking into chickens but wood and prefab coops are SO expensive! I'd love any tips!

[@pokemami]

@@AprilMonger we used scrap pallets and plywood we collected during bulk pick ups. We only had to buy chicken wire and the tin roof esque material. It wasn't tin but sun resistant plastic. After they were full size I just trimmed flight feathers and let them free range. They helped so much with the composting and provided great soil for our garden. We built it two stories so the bottom was a chicken run and the second floor was the nesting box and night coop.

[@Nahbrochill]

Beyond her income and situation, her energy is openly hostile, aggressive and apathetic. Putting that kind of energy towards feeding your helpless 1 year old kind of makes me sick. Don’t have kids that you don’t want, or can’t care for.

[@KendraSmith087]

I came from a very poor home with four brothers and sisters. We lives in a two bedroom trailer with one bathroom. My mom cooked us food and didn’t feed us this shit. I actually think a couple eggs and toast is cheaper than the crap she served her kids. Being poor is really now an excuse. It’s fun every once in a while but that’s not the case here. On top of that she seems miserable. Not just the expression on her face, the throwing of the plates and food. She really doesn’t give a shit.

[@genevamckenzie9608]

She looks so depressed, angry.

[@pissip]

If she is unable to properly care for her children why don't any of the other adults in the home do it? Depression is real, but you can't neglect those who are dependent on you.

[@ElysV135]

She said she is depressed. I wonder how the food she eats contributes to that 🤦

[@genevamckenzie9608]

@ElysV135 you know what they say.... "you are what you eat" that's 1000% true, you eat like shit, you feel like shit

[@emilyplewes7817]

As someone who is currently low income and saw her videos I can full heartedly sag she is not low income. She buys very very expensive name brand foods. Everything I see her feed that baby is name brand. Those Dino nuggets are 10 bucks alone! Like, if your broke get the plain boring nuggets that are off brand for 5 dollars. She buys name brand donuts, cheedos, squeeze apple sauce, and so on. There is no way this woman is poor. She buys ground beef. Ground beef! I can only afford chicken and tuna in a can. Maybe shrimp if it's on sale. Ground beef is over 10 dollars at the least to feed a family! How is this woman poor?! I shop at Aldi, the Dollar Tree, and Trader Joe's for some items I can't get at the other two. All of my food is off brand. I can't go to the food bank because it's only open on Thursday's when I'm at work. I'm currently working on getting food stamps. She is not poor. This is just a cover up. There is absolutely no way. If she is she is the richest poor person I've ever seen. Plus she has three kids and can still afford all that fancy food! I'm 1 person and can't afford that. Nope. Can't believe it. Sorry.

[@KM-nq7ez]

Single college student extremely low income raising one child alone. Many mornings my little girl ate oatmeal with a cut up apple and a few raisins. Lunch was a peanut butter sandwich and carrot sticks dipped in ranch. Dinner was refried beans and rice or scrambled eggs and toast…..Cheap and healthy. How about a banana with peanut butter?

[@docjc1842]

These meals you list are great for your kid! Divorced mom here too! My son eats shredded wheat or oat meal and a fruit every day! Oatmeal is definitely cheaper than donuts this lady is pushing.

[@xgenisejigglygirlx]

Those powdered donuts cost the same as a dozen eggs. It's not just lack of money, it's lack of proper nutrition and being too lazy too COOK.

[@thepoormansguidetothegalax3981]

Åke a couple of scrambled eggs with a sliced up apple and toast for the kid. That would be much better.

[@wintermoon7003]

@@thepoormansguidetothegalax3981 This is what I feed my 1 year old niece when I babysit her.

[@emmahyzjuziefhej53356]

French mom here, I'm super surprised at all your breakfast alternatives because here in France the recommendation at one year old is just milk for breakfast (like, either breast milk for those who still have it or this powdered baby milk). Now my little one is 18 months and we sometimes give her some bread but usually it's still just milk and there's absolutely no problem to wait until lunch then. I'm not saying it's better, I'm just intrigued as to what is the medical advice for kids in the US at that age, because I know this kind of things is super culture/country dependent.

[@CherrrrBear]

18:01 “dint comment in my MINOR children” - that I film without consent and make money off of so they have no privacy and no rights.

[@jaimereynolds258]

Child abuse. You don't have to have a lot of money, to make better choices. Mother is morbidly obese, and passing on her bad habits. Also, if one has been dealing with mental illness for a long time, maybe don't have 3 kids. Saying, "This looks bad, but it is what it is," is a cop out.

[@powderandpaint14]

I think that CPS should be involved with this family, she should be sent to parenting classes which include how to feed children adequate nutrition. I don't know if it's ignorance or lack of care on her part but either way it can't be allowed to continue.

[@diamandis07]

And it's pure fucking laziness. It's because she doesn't eat healthy and it's much easier to feed the kids the foods that SHE eats (donuts, disgustingly burnt burgers, etc.) The throuple thing made me puke a bit, too. Just gross all around.

[@cclee6987]

Exactly because how does she have enough time to develop relationships with two other adults but doesn't have to learn how to cook? If they're all living together that is a 3 person household. There is no excuse. Her actions are selfish and she's not a good mom.

[@Chelseabee55]

100%. This is neglect. Neglect is abuse.

[@ruthhorowitz7625]

For someone who doesn't have money she sure looks like she spends plenty on her own food.

[@lisarae7823]

Eh, my husband hardly eats and maintains his weight because of other health/mobility issues. I'm judging more on the quality of their food...it is all expensive nutritionally void "food". Those kids need vitamins like...years ago.

[@venus_envy]

I think you might be in denial about your husband's caloric intake, or he's a secret eater. You can't maintain excess fat on air just because you don't move around much, not how that works.@@lisarae7823

[@quartknee22]

I appreciate your take, John. I understand the concept of poverty and not having the money to purchase high end meals. I grew up on WIC, in the middle of nowhere for some time, but i think the difference between this mom and my mother is education and dedication to feeding kids proper meals. She learned to grow some of our veggies, we ate government cheese and yeah some of the meals COULD have been better. But they were all homecooked and made with care. The amount of porkchops I ate as a kid because that's the only meat we could afford... but I was still fed meat and veggies. This mom either doesn't have the education or willingness to learn how to coupon and grocery shop smart so she can purchase somewhat healthy meals. I have sympathy but it really only goes so far.

[@iLoveKibumAndHeechul]

John saying 'Yes Queen' was not in my 2024 bingo card ngl

[@RachelReduces]

✅😂

[@beckatea]

I wish weight were the only issue her children have to worry about as a result of these eating habits. Tooth decay is going to be a major problem, too.. and while you can do the work to lose weight as an adult, you can't regrow adult teeth that were lost as a teen because you ate nothing but sugary foods/drinks. Such a shame. I grew up in a low income family, and when you're so poor that you think you can't afford to eat healthy, you also aren't going to the dentist... not that the dentist can reverse damage done on a daily basis. When I moved out as an adult, I was dirt poor.. could barely keep a roof over my head.. and I ate the healthiest I ever had.. I just had to do some simple cooking. That bag of donuts is more expensive than basic ingredients.

[@amiblueful]

Not just that, but Type 2 diabetes is being seen more often in children, whereas it used to be practically unheard of. Unlike Type 1, which people are born with, Type 2 can be directly linked to diet. It shouldn't be a child's disease.

[@e.r.2411]

i’m glad that no one in the comments is coddling this. i’m not buying a single one of her sorry excuses

[@aiquinn]

That child is going to probably have her teeth pulled out by age 5. And it is a thing, i sadly saw a documentary on it. Don't have children if you can't be bothered to care.

[@genevamckenzie9608]

Was it the British documentary? If so, I saw it too, extremely sad

[@aiquinn]

@@genevamckenzie9608 yeah it was

[@averysspookshowspectacular6205]

Not that it makes it okay, but wouldn't those all be baby teeth anyway?

[@aiquinn]

@averysspookshowspectacular6205 and then those new adult teeth end up going black with cavities. I knew a girl in primary school who had BROWN HOLES in her adult teeth because her parents let her eat whatever she wanted

[@averysspookshowspectacular6205]

@@aiquinn Oh wow! That's actually horrifying.

[@biggraydog1652]

We grew up lower middle class. My mom did her best, but sometimes times were hard. We ate a lot of things of questionable nutritional value, but when times were a little better we ate more fruit and vegetables and home cooked meals. This was in the 90's. Today, grocery prices are so out of control and I don't know how lower income families are managing.

[@michelereynolds14]

We aren’t 😅

[@RachelReduces]

Unfortunately, I think most of us know someone who is living like this or knew someone like this in the past. I don't think Alex should be on social media showcasing this content to make money, because there can be long term effects on herself and her kids. This makes me think of Honey Boo Boo, Mama June and their family. I don't think she's a bad mom, because there's many people like Ruby Franke that are doing much more horrible things imo. I hope that Alex finds balance in showing her true life, but not wanting to stay in that unhealthy chaos just because it gets a lot of views 😔

[@pluckyfox]

In a world of frozen and steamable vegetables, frozen fruit, oatmeal packets, microwavable or steamable rice… I feel like even at the lowest executive function, you can do better for your kids. Is it the healthiest, whole food diet you could feed your child, no, but if all you can do is convenience foods, you can still do better than powdered donuts for breakfast. It’s just the teensiest bit more effort. Glad to see that there are some videos where she’s trying more, like with the spinach wraps.

[@languageishard]

I used to live in a food desert (19 million Americans live in a food desert). For anyone without a car, the only place to buy food was a small gas station with a fried chicken restaurant. They didnt even sell fresh foods like nicer gas stations do. Idk this creator's situation at all, but there are people who live in very dire food situations. A lot of people in this area qualified for food stamps, but what good are they when there is nowhere to even buy food? And I'm not saying this to defend this creator or anything, I just thought I'd share because I don't think it's talked about enough

[@bodaciousbean]

Very interesting. Are these areas in the Bible Belt? Because I am from Fl and visited Arizona which is a literal desert but they had lots of amazing restaurants of all cultures/ cuisines. I imagine you’re talking about very rural areas in South Dakota or Mississippi or somewhere people don’t always travel to so they don’t get much money from tourism/hospitality

[@languageishard]

@broski8728 the majority of them are in the south, especially the Louisisana, Arkansas, Mississippi area and up towards Kentucky and Tenessee and also large areas of the west (unsurprisingly). They can occur within cities too, especially inner city areas. The place I lived was in northern Minnesota in a city of about 70,000 people. I think a lot of them fall into the areas of Native American reservations as well, unfortunately.

[@corrie977]

Do work trade with someone who has a car and get rides when they go into town.

[@languageishard]

@corrie977 If you have the time, know the person well, and someone happens to find a car seat if you have a kid, sure. In the area I lived in there was some pretty bad gang activity so it was hard to trust people, sadly.

[@JennBennett-Genthner]

​@broski8728 a food desert can occur anywhere that one must get into a vehicle and drive at least 20 to 30 minutes to get to a store with fresh produce, meat, and other groceries. If someone lives in a populous downtown with many restaurants but no grocery store within walking distance: food desert. Assuming everyone has a car is a privilege. Many low income folx have to take public transport, and I know very little public transport that makes carrying multiple bags of groceries easy. Assuming a low income momma with 3 kids is gonna get all 3 meals from the dozen restaurants within walking distance to her every day for her kids is unsustainable and unaffordable.

[@Tanulis]

Watching her waddle up to the camera and then give us the soulless stare gets me 😢 that poor child

[@jaimereynolds258]

Just tosses plate on the counter 😒

[@boosqueezy2418]

she always tosses the plate. at every meal.

[@jaimereynolds258]

@@boosqueezy2418 Imagine living with that woman. Just sucks all the fun and love out of a room. Jeez

[@valeriekehrt7566]

Miserable. Why does she have kids? I really want to know.🫢😢

[@lisarae7823]

​@@valeriekehrt7566I mean...all it takes is one time. I don't know that they were exactly planned. Which is fine, but I can't stand people who would rather put their energy into "content creating" over taking care of themselves.

[@Jululuian]

I feel like she knows it’s wrong, but does it for the “shock” factor and views 😬

[@LifeAfterLosing]

100%. I get the same thing from watching it. Totally fake BS.

[@yianna147]

I think its both. She doesn’t care and wants attention.

[@abilea4081]

People who complains about the cost of healthy food clearly haven't bought fruit. It's literally the cheapest item in my grocery list every week. A bundle of grapes cost less than those donuts.

[@hlhs_mama_britt]

My almost 4-year-old has at least a smoothie, a protein shake, or fruit with some yogurt for breakfast. It's fast and simple, he is picky. He has a heart condition and he's special needs. He loves snackboards too. And by snackboards, I make chopped veggies and fruit, cheese, and turkey rolls. For dinner he actually will eat salad, but I have trouble getting him to eat much else. As long as he gets some fruit and veg, and some kind of protein, I count it as a mom win. ❤

[@emmycaitlin1019]

Yeah I had my kids at 20 and 22 and I've been in positions where I've nearly had my utilities cut off. My kids have eaten some crappy food because it's what I could afford. But as you pointed out, she's now making money from these videos. There's a woman on TikTok who makes healthy meals from Dollar Tree items, so it is possible to do better. I hope she starts to do better now that her finances are likely improving. I would not go so far as to say she's a bad mom or abusing her kids, but I think if she does not start to improve as her finances improve because those videos don't make money then my opinion on that might change.

[@boosqueezy2418]

she can get wic for the child up to age 5. i work at a grocery store. she can use wic and food stamps to get healthy food.

[@kathleentate8343]

The biggest problem I see is that she gave donut pieces to a 1 yr old who is on a trampoline. A trampoline is a bouncy object. Checking hazards.

[@electra424]

You are a much needed voice of reason and empathy in this world. Thank you

[@janeprepper177]

She's filming evidence for CPS. 😮

[@alyssamcdowell2631]

The “Fed is best” movement took a seriously wrong turn. It’s so disheartening when people use that as an excuse for only feeding their children nuggets and Mac n cheese “At least they’re eating” unless the child has true sensory issues that’s such a crap excuse and even with sensory issues if you don’t feed your child garbage they’ll never know what that garbage tastes like and therefor will eat other options.

[@justine8387]

This was such a vulnerable video to make and more nuanced than i expected. Thank you. I wonder how this woman will see this period in her life in 10 years time.

[@lanki548]

it is child abuse, and this is coming from a point of not a privileged person. i had 6 people living in a studio apartment with an outside toilet (read - hole in the ground with 4 walls). weekly, we go to the local bath house to wash. and i ve never gotten donuts for breakfast. Why? because we were too poor to buy junk food. and for the price of the donuts you can get a week worth of rice or flour. i had a kinder bar exactly once a year on my birthday. other time, i got soups and rice,maybe some fish and chicken. this mother is privileged to have a phone and internet and enough time to cause a tiktok drama. this mother just doesn't know how to manage her money and her kids.

[@carlamoss89]

Agreed. She has internet to look up and learn about food for kids. She just doesn't want to. I'm tired of excuses "she's doing her best" - she is not.

[@Oliver_Flower]

Feeding your child like this should be counted as child neglect

[@yianna147]

Agreed. This will no doubt cause long term, if not life long issues. physical and mental.

[@donielleroberts3764]

The way she tossed that plate proved how little she cares for her child, even before cutting up the nasty donuts to make it appear like more food. 0:03

[@eldowns379]

She literally just made a video of her spending time doing her makeup….but god forbid she puts in effort to her kids nutrition

[@hiddenhand6973]

You just helped me realize why I was so disgusted by my mom spending an hour in front of the mirror every morning…she would do that instead of making breakfast.

[@xo_ashleynicole255]

I had both of my daughters at 19 and 20 age is no excuse I would never feed my kids like this.. I wouldn’t even feed my dog this junk.

[@Conformist138]

We didnt have much money when I was a kid, which is why we didn't have donuts like that very often. Toast and oatmeal were cheaper.

[@applegal3058]

My mom was very young and had no cooking skills. We didn't have very much money. My mom learned how to cook and made a lot of basic traditional Newfoundland meals with root vegetables and meat. She made cost effective meals and bought the cheapest fruit and vegetables. We played outside all the time. We definitely didn't eat perfect, but my mom made sure we had the best she could afford and make. I totally get the being poor part, but putting in some effort to put the best you can on the table goes a long way!

[@Montana677]

The throuple thing annoys me, only because you're dating 2 people and apparently still can't get enough help to make your kids proper food.

[@fortifyjoy]

I'm polyamorous but I don't think it takes a poly person to say that your bf wanting to get back together IF you can be a throuple is a bad sign and uuuuuusually not a healthy form of poly-a

[@yianna147]

especially when kids are involved

[@yianna147]

@StarryWaters-gq1oj and it’s definitely not good for the kids to be around that

[@LimitedSpoons1943]

The throuple thing is just ridiculous imo horrible example to set for your kids

[@kellym.7113]

How’s that setting a bad example? I mean, plenty of things are but a poly relationship isn’t inherently bad. Three loving adults would be awesome for a kid.

[@terrykingpin1452]

As the oldest of 9 that grew up in poverty, eating junk food and being lazy is a damn privilege! My dad worked hard as hell to put food on the table and it sure as hell wasn't powdered donuts. Privileged my ass.

[@nataliazart]

I grew up very poor and my mother care so much about my nutrition and she tried her best even working for give proper meals. My grandma was even more poor and she always cooked me, her food was the best food I eat in all my life. That food was made with love and nutrition is a way to say that she loved me. So seeing the way she throws the kid plate and how little energy and care has for her kid meals makes me sad.

[@demgphix]

In the 90's & early 2000's sugary breakfasts were pretty common for us... That said, we have learned quite a bit about nutrition over the last 35 years. She might not be quite educated on this, but giving highly processed sugary "food" to a one year old is not fair to them, this WILL have health ramifications in their future.

[@ACLeBoeu]

And she’s clearly internet literate - I learned so much about calories and nutrition as a curious teenager with internet access back in the day. It’s not hard to learn just by scrolling a bit in the right direction.

[@lanky_annie]

This is a difficult watch

[@xo_kayde]

My six-year-old told me a few weeks ago “ Mommy I know you love me because you pack me fruits for snacktime at school. “ That's a six-year-old guys. These kids are smarter than we give them credit for.

[@ximar0ckstrx]

Im sorry, as someone with mental health issues, many of which she claims to have: she should NOT have children. My mental health issues were created by an abusive and neglectful mother who didnt deal with her mental health issues. The ones paying the price for her mental health are her children. And that is not okay.

[@Atchison949]

​@jasminesploots6986 mental health problems aren't always genetic and I think the point is not to limit the number of people with them, but to limit the damage caused to children because of them. Her mental health issues seem to be a barrier for her.

[@once.upon.a.time.]

​@jasminesploots6986I think the issue is that she isn't receiving proper treatment and help with her mental illness. It is unfair to bring a new life into the world who is entirely dependent on your care when you can't properly take care of yourself, let alone a highly vulnerable new human. I don't think they mean they should be prevented from having kids at all. It would just be way more selfish to have kids when you don't have the capacity to care for them.

[@once.upon.a.time.]

@jasminesploots6986 The time to get help was before she had the kids, though. The first couple years are crucial for development. Obviously that's a moot point and I'm glad she's getting help but it's still worth saying.

[@sierraroselyn]

don’t have kids if you don’t have the money to raise them properly 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@taylorhillard4868]

She has the money. It is impossible to maintain that size without spending an inordinate amount of money on food. We can see it in the portions she makes as well. Those patties are like 6 normal burgers in one. Thats 6x the amount of money spent on one meal that is 6x as much food as she needs for nutritional purposes. Even if she still buys the same food, just eating the normal amount will mean she could save roughly 80% of her food bill.

[@WolfGan0178]

Those pouches are very expensive. I feel like this is mostly just depression/lack of effort. Or even lack of nutrition education, even on my lazy days my kid usually has peanut butter toast and whatever fruit we have left for breakfast.

[@chanlanee]

You could be wealthy and not raise children properly. Has nothing to do with money.

[@amadeus3339]

that's easier said than done, especially considering that many american women now live in states where they do not have access to abortions (and/or there's a lot of social stigma surrounding it), and birth control is not easy to get. I am not sure what her circumstances were or are. circumstances also change over time; you can be able to provide things one year and the next year suddenly that stops. I do agree that yes, ideally, you shouldn't be having kids if you know you can't provide the right things to raise them well, but life doesn't always work out that way.

[@SiriuslyMeg]

💯

[@EleniK166]

its kind of obvious money isnt the problem... how can she, instead of buying healthier food fo her kids she goes on buyes almost 1000 dollars worth of books.... make it make sense...

[@simona_merkinin]

Unhealthy food aside, i don't think that she should be allowed to take care of her kids. She seems seriously troubled and I'm scared to even think about what these poor kids have to go through every day

[@MariaCaterina2012]

Great point about the perverse incentives of feeding the kids junk in this outrage economy.

[@ozgevarl7714]

Man, I’ve been coming across to a few videos of yours about different topics and I wanna say that the way you word things are so thoughtful and well spoken. Plus natural! Keep up the good work!

[@marielamoyenne]

I think the most important reason why I follow you, is that you are being so kind, respectful and thoughtful even when everybody else is completely outraged. Between all the hateful content out there it's truly calming. Thank you for your thoughts and this video, John!

[@eliannahankin2971]

I feed my 1 year old whatever she will eat. She eats edamame, beets, homemade dessert, fruits, peas, oranges, some donut if I am having which doesn’t happen often.

[@hiddenhand6973]

Protein

[@ellabean3042]

I always like your empathetic takes! ❤

[@nonameface90]

At almost 34, I'm forever grateful for my mom who even at the worst financial moments made sure there was warm soup and a healthy second meal for us. I'm grateful she taught me how to cook, season, how important are veggies.

[@billcorn2]

I know I’m literally going to get DRAGGED for this comment, but…I kind of feel like mental stability should be a requirement for raising kids. Like, what’s gonna happen to the kids if her mental health takes a dramatic decline? I also feel like rattling off a list of mental health issues you have while being a mother is not the best look? Everyone has their own opinions, but that’s just mine.

[@valeriekehrt7566]

Your'e right in my opinion. Too much of this happening. Bad for kids mental & physical health into growing years. It's stupid.

[@Duhe23]

as a child welfare social worker you are 1000% correct.

[@Hearth123]

I had my first at 19, but I was married and on my own with my husband. We have 3 kids now with one on the way and we've been together for almost a decade. I was a young mom and my husband worked on the road trucking for a few years when we had our first 2. We did not have a lot of money and neither of us grew up rich (we were both working class). I still managed to work a job and feed my kids good food. People are making too many excuses for her.

[@JessBisme123]

Bananas, frozen fruit, and oats are pretty cheap and much healthier than donuts.

[@sabrinastratton1991]

It doesnt take that long to crack a couple eggs, make toast and serve scambled eggs (and i say this as someone whose poor currently, eggs are a cheap source of protien - and beans too)

[@nrbeck1]

Beans were always go to toddler snacks for us. Through poor times and not poor.

[@monkfruit2389]

Literally and add some butter or oil to the eggs to help with fullness if you can't afford to eat too many eggs

[@sabrinastratton1991]

​@@monkfruit2389i learned to make my own butter and oil too which saved money.

[@wenpahe]

Something I cannot understand is how a low income family can afford to have sweets and donuts and stuff like that… because in my country a low income family are non fat and some can’t even afford to eat daily and if they can, they are not going to buy McDonald or sweets, they will buy potatoes to be able to eat soup even if daily. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@A.The.H.]

Could be a number of reasons. There are some food deserts where fresh produce and decent food isn’t as readily available but plenty of junk and fast food to go around. Lack of education could also factor into it as well. Lack of support, whether it’s financial, transportation, delivery, (good) food, mental and physical health programs and children’s programs could deeply affect this as well Also could be downright willful ignorance or unwilling to change their diet for their kids benefit. I cant exactly understand her situation due to having multiple avenues of income and adding two other adults involved…

[@Starchild91]

I grew up in a household with lack of focus on healthy foods. I remember once my mum bought a big bar of chocolate for me instead of real food, because ShE cOuLdN't AfFoRd FoOd ThAt EvEniNg. As an adult, looking back at it, it baffles me. I think what bothers me the most about this situation are the people defending her saying "at least the child is fed and happy" like what, how LOW is the bar for parenting these days?? As if giving your child a bag of the unhealthiest food on earth because you're too lazy to do anything else is good enough because "at least the child - that is too young to make an educated decision on the subject anyways - has food in their belly and because of that they are happy." Some people are also trying to compare it to children that are off worse, saying things like "at least the child is getting food, many children go hungry, so this isn't that bad". Might as well be saying it's ok to beat your child 5 times a day, because there are children out there that are beaten 10 times a day! The fact that a worse alternative exists, doesn't make the first one better. And don't even get me started on the comparison with sugary cereals, claiming it's just as bad... First of all, sugary cereals usually have way more fiber and general nutrition. It's already better for you. But second of all, who even feeds sugary cereals to a toddler who should barely know what sugar is. Toddlers are so young it's usually easy to keep them away from sugary things, at least on the daily. Give them something non-sugary and they'll be happy. Unless you've trained them to like sugar covered donuts, there is. What also really disappointed me is Abbey Sharp defending her, basically saying it was ok. When it absolutely isn't. Children aren't old enough to make their own decisions on food. It's the parent's god damned job to make sure their child is fed healthy enough things. It doesn't have to be perfect all the time, but giving your child sugary donuts for breakfast and later pretending it is because you couldn't afford anything else is ridiculous. There is no way in hell you couldn't find a better option for the same prize as the donuts. She bought the donuts because she wanted the donuts. End of story. She made a bad decision and it backfired onto her children. The bar for parenting is higher than this, folks. She has the means to educate herself and learn what to eat and what not to eat. The child doesn't. This is the parent's responsibility. She needs to do her damn job as a parent.

[@cmoney351]

I want to say shout out to your mother - getting kids back means she did a LOT of work, jumped a million hurdles, and often does not happen.

[@oldcrowcornhole]

I get where she's coming from. She is basically my Mom. We grew up very poor. My mom was young. She didn't know how to cook really. So she did her best with what she had. Also, we lived 20miles from the nearest grocery store and didn't have a car. We were able to get a ride once a month to shop, sometimes twice. So fruits and veggies were not abundant as a months worth would rot before we ate it all.

[@monkfruit2389]

So no one in the whole Throuple will precooked something better than donuts for this baby to eat😟 that's the sad part 3 adults involved here.

[@bodaciousbean]

Yeah three adults should be able to come together to get frozen veggies and such… these are just three mentally ill adults not focused on what’s important which is ok, but wasn’t ok to bring multiple children into this. Having one and then taking responsibility is good, but too many women have 3 or 4 before they’ve learned to be Independent with the first one : (

[@ladydi-lynn]

Absolutely no excuse, you can buy fresh veggies, fruits and meat at Dollar Stores and grocery stores, Walmart, Target etc.

[@Sageddegas]

People love to argue about being poor and food deserts but when it comes to cheap processed high calorie foods YOU EAT LESS OF IT. Or you’re supposed to… being poor doesn’t make you fat… overeating does. If you’re poor and are buying cheap high calorie foods then you should be eating less of it making it EVEN CHEAPER. I’ve never understood this argument for obesity in low income houses ok… like it’s fully counterintuitive

[@ActuallyAShrimp]

Exactly. If I go to the store, a large chip bag is 5$ the same price as a bag of frozen vegetables! 1 candy bar for 1$ could be 1$ for a can of soup.. So many alternatives, yet not one used instead of junk.

[@hollymorgan8723]

Pouches are expensive AF, too poor for good is a lie

[@MRPandoraHartDR]

Her Q and A didn't help, It just keeps getting worse. If that laundry list of issues is true she doesn't need Tik Tok she needs therapy and someone to explain to her as reasons you should get into a throuple go, so your ex will get back with you is not one that screams this means they really care about you tbh. It's all too sad to see and hear tbh..

[@ami5077y]

Those name brand hostess donuts are not cheap. You cannot tell me a bundle of bananas cost more than those donuts. She needs to stop feeding her child processed garbage .

[@snipingway]

Sorry to hear about your mom--I grew up similarly. My mom had a drug problem my whole life, until she died last year and I ate awful and cheap food too as a kid, gained tons of weight from it and I still haven't lost it. I feel for this kid. But she is totally rage-baiting too, like that thruple nonsense, lol.

[@sammiegable6728]

I grew up in a very similar household and something I think people are missing here is that low income households (some not all) lack nutritional knowledge to prepare foods correctly and choose balanced meals. I didn’t fully understand proper diet and nutrition until I was in college and lived on my own. My family still prepares meals that look like that. They just don’t know any different

[@MummaMia5]

Maybe she should think about how her kids feel about themselves having a mother who doesn’t smile, has a flat affect, is depressed (which she is). She is damaging them which is heart breaking and I hope her kids aren’t exposed to her relationship decisions.

[@mothercat6083]

I really appreciate family channels that hide their child’s identity by hiding their face and not saying their name. I think that’s the least you could do if you’re going to use them for your content, you know?