Mma Letsoalo ON the hardships and wins of blending a family | Step Parenting

[@mphomoatshe9300]

Please let's match the views. Like and watch. Why do we choose to watch through the window 😂😂😂😂😂 Let's do better guys.Great interview and learning

[@katliness796]

N not skipping them ads plssss

[@mphohappiness1736]

As women we need to refrain from dating married men. The fact that she moved in the same house ya ex wife. Let's not be the deciding factor of a marriage ending. She lacks empathy for what the ex wife had to go through

[@menniekumalo3276]

She thinks she is an exception, the same fate will befall her

[@noxolosakang6547]

Kuzomthola naye one day.

[@thembisilemsiza942]

The comment I was waiting for ✋

[@nomsachironda9624]

Karma is a bitch...🚮

[@auntyb4130]

Some girls dem watching😅

[@sebolelomapoti3093]

Aowa in sepedi children that are born out of wedlock should still keep their mother's maiden surname and not the husband's( ka sepedi ke bana ba bo malome) such maturity I'm in awe, may God bless and protect your union.

[@favour664]

Yoh bathong ke go mora malome

[@selinabatlhaodi612]

But again ka sepedi ngwana ke wa kgomo,hance the say"o e gapa le namane".which mostly is included in the lobola negotiation.

[@lesam965]

Nna I want us to touch on finances and investments in blended families from policies, sharing of pension fund should you die, the Will, the most suitable and realistic marriage contract to benefit all kids in the blended family. Do we blend our finances and investments as well to benefit the entire children/family? Do we plan for the future and uncertainties of the future as a blended family. When we say your kids are my kids, do we mean it in ALL aspects? I am not referring to things like I buy my kid a pair of tekkies and I buy yours as well. E.g Should I die, is it fair for my 1 kid to share assets with 3 of your kids where as she will not be benefiting anything from their biological mother. I feel like we romantisize alot and willy dilly around lots of things and never really get to the hard issues complex issues.

[@RayOfLetsatsi]

Now these are real issues actually worth talking about.

[@KamoMamabolo]

I've never thought of the dynamics of a blended family to this extent.This is such an important topic that needs to be discussed.

[@lesam965]

@@KamoMamabolo I honestly always do. Most people seem to be doing okay with blending families in terms of LIVING expenses (it's easy to share groceries, rent, entertainment, school fees to an extent) but is there a sit down to say okay e.g I will include my own children in policies/investments/Will and you cover your own kids and if we have biological kids together then I will include them. What about the house we live in? I wonder how this is addressed in blended families. Most of the time such things cause a divide when parents are no more.

[@MLM424]

So glad someone brought it up. It's so difficult speaking on blended families as a step mom because we are so vulnerable to being labeled unfair but honestly where do we draw the line between being practical vs making decisions based on emotions. The exact example you make of a step child basically having and benefiting from 3 parents as opposed to the children within the marriage which only have and will benefit from 2 parents is so key and always overlooked! Even with living expenses it's a slipper slope nje because the minute you point it out now you are deemed as only looking out for your biological kids. Go boima

[@nondo2.045]

If you start a podcast discussing these issues, I'll definitely subscribe.

[@mapasekamoeketsi6090]

I'm so impressed by ur mom. I'm a single parents raising my 2 boys and I'm a hustler. I'm selling anything I'm so happy to hear ur story

[@hloshichuene2420]

She's such a wife, mistakes and all...your story is so inspiring. Happy union to the Letsoalos!

[@ThatoMatsetse]

Wow mma Letsoalo❤❤ Mrs Law, there's absolutely no problem when you share your side of the story. We learn a lot from you too❤❤❤

[@connymontsho]

Thato,Mrs Law just shared something that i related.Cos i was feeling like a bad mom.

[@LivingCourageously]

Love her honesty and how she clarifies everything

[@hlengiweyourstruly]

Promise thank you for adding your personal experience in some of the things she mentioned. It doesn't take away from the interview but it adds on to what is discussed

[@debramontymmatau5136]

This was fully packed. Enjoyed it

[@Leratolekola]

What an insightful Conversation❤️ You were raised by a Mbokodo wena Mma Ledwaba and nawe self you're so strong and confident...love that about you🥺

[@MentalHealthMatters11]

This woman is remarkable

[@azukentapaneingazi1808]

Promise you just interviewed the type of woman who can destroy your family and have no remorse. She was a catalyst.

[@matanato01]

I am glad she did, we get to see all perspectives. Even if Promise had not interviewed her, it wouldn't change that this happened.

[@kedibonephasiwe9333]

Omg this is deep…the presence of a parent is everything.

[@TheMindfulfoodie633]

This was such a nice interview, i didn't want it to end ❤

[@Zihleizibele_Lusani]

This lady is exceptionally wise❤. Thanks Promise for this content❤

[@beverlywilson4029]

Loved and enjoyed this episode ❤ Mrs Letsoalo, you are an amazing woman, brought up by a phenomenal woman. Such wisdom shared. Took out a lot from your story. Thanks Promise for bringing this women. 🙏

[@Elle_Tee_MrsM]

Wonderful episode very much needed as a step mom who brought her own child into the marriage and planning on having kids in the marriage. Very informative thank you Mma Letsoalo le Mrs M.

[@EsseyLekalakala]

You make my day ❤️ you are strong woman MMA Letsoalo

[@jabulilemotsai]

I grew up at L4 . You just explained my upbringing . I loved that womens hostel ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@lovelyheart800]

i agree with her don’t marry or stay in a horrible relationship for the kids i watched my mother do that and the truth is i was waiting to get older so that i can ask her why she stayed in a horrible marriage for us . we were better of being raised by them separated then them together today we are all trying to heal from our childhood traumas and some where some how it affects the kind of people we become when we are older

[@lindi8119]

Mma Letsoalo's story is remarkable. If there's a lesson I take from this episode is not to generalise, every story is unique. She is brave, calm and full of wisdom. On which social media can one follow her conversations?

[@ReshoketsweMthombeni]

Very insightful conversation ladies! I learnt a lot from both of you.

[@DieketsengSempe]

Powerful Lessons MaLetsoalo❤❤

[@giftubisi182]

Mma Letswalo you are that girl with a mother’s heart. I love how you think,from how you were brought up,being a step child to other mothers growing up,all the context of your step mothering. I love how realistic you are💯🤞🏽🤍

[@hildadavids217]

There nothing better than present parents. Money is not everything. We all grew up poor during apartheid. Nothing beats present parents.

[@noxiek]

She knew exactly he was married, but still dated him . Now she is lying to save her dignity

[@marthazakes1823]

Yes evn bragging tht he choose her

[@XoliswaGayiza]

You missed hearing her when she said they were DIVORCED but still staying together

[@Asabele_fitness]

Wow… such a powerful interview. I love listening to positive stories ❤❤❤

[@mamakhooamphahama3938]

your mom is such a hard worker . i sulute her

[@dikesekwane3555]

I agree I’m also a mother and wife to blended family …before my husband and I marriage was weak and the fight between i and my step child and my daughter with my husband was too much . Now that we have a strong bond in our marriage we are happy and all of our 6 kids get along smoothly ❤

[@khetimthembu8465]

In a blended family do you discuss what will happen should 1 partner pass away? Because in most cases, step kids are left out

[@khetimthembu8465]

S/O to Letswalo for fighting for his kids! We need more men like him in society!! Being a deadbeat is a choice!!🤍

[@Rele.S]

They always know these men. I also met my husband, and he said "you're my wife" 6 months later we got married. It's been 10 years now in marriage ❤

[@mosedimayo1919]

I learnt a lot today this episode was worth watching..and i saved it for future reference.

[@DIKELEDIMpshe]

Mrs letsaolo I'm proud of u n ur mum my dear,😊ur story is empowering us as single parents

[@SiphesihleNameng1]

Aaaaai this woman dated a married man nje. They lived together and were still married. She shouldn’t be surprised if the man goes and lies to another woman that they are divorced

[@amukelanimaswanganyi4838]

True🎉

[@ntebomoela8443]

😂😂😂

[@RemoKobue]

Her story doesn't add up. She dated this man while married.

[@sontofakude7724]

Straat maid klaar

[@sinenhlanhlabuthelezi6834]

karma

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

The pressure that is put on women to have kids in marriage is a topic we're not ready for shem. There's a lot about that topic that needs to be discussed.

[@nonzwakaziprecious9507]

Followed this lady last month and I just loved her I didn't know that she has this big heart ❤ thanks for this cc

[@lehlogonolov2217]

Basadi baka ❤❤❤❤❤ le nkwesa bose and baga letsoalo nna ke le gopotse hle le boya neng gaLetsaolo. Mma Letsoalo ke ikgantsha ka wena ngwana geso❤❤❤❤❤

[@kagisothando9880]

Promise i'm learning alots from the your interviews hle❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Ownnarrativepodcast]

Thank you for watching live❤

[@dikesekwane3555]

I have to share my story also here

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[@siphokazimagaya9113]

How does future financial provision work in blended families? Husband’s ex wife is not baby momma.

[@Prism446]

I think its easier as a woman to accept step kids when you also have kids

[@esthermphanda4836]

I enjoyed this episode ❤️.

[@elizabethmphioe73]

Mma Letsoalo she is an Amazing Woman

[@runganotavengwa3286]

The other woman afraid of being bewitched by the 1st wife through her children is something is else😮 and she is now the baby mama and you the wife Smh!!

[@AkiM357]

I have learnt alot from this interview about blended families.

[@Ottilia_Gama]

Wow, I really love this. I've learn a lot

[@sibongisenisakhele3114]

Great interview mommy!

[@MatshidisoTau]

Proud of you sis❤❤

[@sindiswanyandana1423]

Very insightful & educational interview

[@elizabethmphioe73]

Hi Promise, this is the first time I see your show since in the beginning of June and I feel encouraged, since my situation.. On this show ddnt enjoy so much since you talking much more the ur client😮

[@DuduM27]

" am not a mom,mom,mom"😂😂😂😂u killed me bcs thats me shem.

[@missp7244]

Promise said i am not a 'Mother mother'. Guys i thought i hated my son kanti noo...i just need to gt a nanny. Huuh i love that. I learned something

[@NSIKA1]

Mma Letsoalo you are indeed a courageous remarkable woman .kids witnessing what healthy Love is ,how I hope that message will register with all parents and adults in general. Love and light

[@thokimagoro7764]

U had a twisted mind the man is raising ur kids and ur man's kids must not stay with him. Basadi this is evil. Big ups for Letsoalo

[@nthatisidimema9084]

Promises' exclamation 51:42 😂. That Iyohhhhh!!! N side lean took me out. Reminded me of Musa Khawula for a sec 😂😂😂😂😂

[@tshiamoangel6718]

You just gained a follower ❤

[@TheReal_GuguG]

Can we please have subtitles for future episodes for the part/s where you communicate in vanac, there are points of the conversation we miss out.. Love your podcast ❤

[@lindatafeni9402]

Enjoyed this 👌

[@reflioekheswa6314]

Blue hills 🔥🔥👌👌

[@ladyb5843]

"I got her point when she said no one can be taken," but i think there are a lot of things that she filtered... She has influenced the man to divorce somehow.I wish her luck though.May this kind of love and connection not locate me

[@sediemasemola4909]

😂😂😂😂

[@khetimthembu8465]

Same😭😹

[@maeshelafarren109]

😂😂😂😂😂😂you were coming so well the end🤣🤣😂😭

[@ladyb5843]

@@maeshelafarren109 😂😂😭

[@thepriestess5969]

No man can be taken from his marriage, and no man can be convinced to leave the woman he loves. You give side chicks too much undue power. The power remains with the man, he makes the choice. Women must stop redirecting/shift the blame to other women, call out the adulteror in the marriage by his right name. By the way I'm a married woman too.

[@LoloMookgo]

Big up to MaLetsoalo❤❤❤

[@lekolanetheministry8789]

Wene Promise ke gorata bjang...just got to know ur channel...lov you...o hlalifile...

[@letushilaalina]

Right at the start of this interview I love Mma Letsoalo already, but the calling of the ex wife “baby momma” isn’t sitting too nice with me. This is a woman that kept herself and only has children with her husband, let’s accord her that respect maybe refer to her as ex wife, baby momma is a bit tarnished these days..I am not a wife or mom though so I might be wrong… this is just my 2 cents🤷‍♀️

[@sparrow62210]

I concur.According to me, the term is used in society in manner and intention to belittle someone Therefore,I find it disturbing and disgusting.As a result, it then means all women that have kids should be referred to as baby mama,regardless of a marital status as we are all highly favoured and amazing human beings ❤

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

​@@sparrow62210definitely agree with you.

[@thepriestess5969]

You're absolutely correct, she was married and had a covenant regardless of the ending. She's rightfully deserving of such respect after all.

[@RayOfLetsatsi]

Basadi y'all are so brazen hey. Coming on podcasts & so casually speaking about how when you met your now husband he was still married and living with his wife. Of course you and the now ex wife are not gonna be friends, you saying you & the wife don't have to be friends as if it's a choice? Lol it was not by choice. Men move crazy but as women we move equally crazy. She fought with the husband for 2 years because she didn't want his kids to live with them👀 but yena she came with her 2? Her 2 kids were supposed enjoy that man as a present father in the home everyday while his biological kids were only supposed to experience him during visits when they had been living with their father before she came into the picture according to her logic? Yah no basadi😂

[@gimbles7358]

Isibindi

[@tsakanimugari9583]

It's scary

[@NCarterMed]

Bare how you get him is how you are going to lose him. A lot of the things men do and get away with, ba kgona go di etsa bcos there are equally many women out there who make it possible for them.

[@andisani257]

Yoh, I thought I was the only one whose like HAAAAAAA!!!

[@marciamohale6720]

The comment I was looking for LOL

[@mathapelomphahlele6629]

You've gained m subscription 😍😍😍

[@PromiseKekana-h9t]

Wow ❤

[@ledwabakayg7369]

Big ups to my home girl... Well unpacked 🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@RoseKotana]

True we will grow older and left with our partner while kids marry and married❤❤❤❤

[@degraciangubane480]

I love Promise honesty as a mom 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@SiphesihleNkambule-vy2oj]

We are not saying become best friends with ubaby mama kodwa have a healthy relationship with her for the kids' sake. I am speaking from experience, I made sure ukuthi I have a relationship with her because I feel ukuthi it easier that way.

[@zamambhele242]

Now that I have listened to to her I can’t judge her harshly but saying she broke an already broken home, she said the man lied right, and when she found out ukuth Kanti they are separated and in a process of a divorce and I would think by that time she was already in too deep , no excuses for her though she could have told the man divorce first than we carry on, but not all of us think the same or have the same moral campus, this is her side of the story , though I wish to hear the ex wife’s as well Anyways my take away is the parenting I think she’s really doing well there

[@unlockwiththandomaumela]

Basadi ba hudisa basadi-sadi 😍

[@MbaliNgwenya-xj2bu]

Promise you need to allow people to speak in their own language cause they express themselves better. I feel it's unfair to ask people to speak only English, what if someone desperately wants to share their story but can't speak English?.. I suggest you get someone to assist you with subtitles.

[@tlotlolegodi1759]

So true....

[@sinenhlanhlabuthelezi6834]

sooo true

[@lesegobeverlymoeti2828]

And they bring people who are not fluent in English most of the time, they should write subtitles and allow people speak their mother tongue.

[@vuyooglebethunana]

I know it is nice to be chosen, but the sentiment that men are always worthy of acceptance and that as women we are being done a favour by being chosen irks me. We evaluate women and put value on them based on their probability of being chosen but we are not evaluating these cheating men with kids as not worthy of acceptance. There can be no friendship between the x-wife and current wife when the entry and exit dates are blurred, OBVIOUSLY....

[@mokubungntswaki4817]

Mmaletswalo🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@Elle_Tee_MrsM]

I'm also here to say I was subscribed but only realized today after Promise mentioned the disfunction that I'm not anymore. I'm just here to say please go check if you are still subscribed maybe we think we aren't but actually not. Let's keep this channel going

[@mahlohonololebuso741]

This lady Tsholofelp restored my faith in humanity

[@kellyjoseph7448]

In Botswana, nowadays children dont change surnames to their mothers if they get married. I agree with that coz they end up losing natural identity. But then they keep the mother's maiden surname.

[@letlhogonolomotswe4770]

This lady is so intelligent ijooo

[@highandmightyqueen79]

Promise please diversify guests every time its a pedi women or someone from Limpopo other tribes watch as well dear

[@noxolosakang6547]

What is the purpose of this interview? other than how proud she is to be loved by a married man to a point of leaving his wife.

[@sparrow62210]

My sister,exactly what I thought 😂

[@azukentapaneingazi1808]

So disturbing

[@zamambhele242]

Ay let’s watch and learn guys but disturbing indeed

[@tshiamosehunoe3540]

" That guy loved me"😂😂😂

[@HloiMollo]

I thought I was the only one seeing this. Trust me marriages like these mhhhh

[@bongythwala9840]

Asoze ngashada nendoda or ngathandana nendoda eshadile ,baya divorcer 🙄wena u happy ukuthi uzongena ,Kazi Yini oncono Ngayo Kuna X Wife ,yin le expecial ngawe cc, mybe even to his fist wife ,makaqala ukushela wathi wena uzoba umfaz wam,as he did to you don't think you are special than the first wife .he cheated on his wife ,he will do the sam to you.

[@amukelanimaswanganyi4838]

😂😂She must be ready

[@sparrow62210]

She will learn the hard way this one😂

[@HloiMollo]

Am scared for her

[@Roseofnomansland201]

My favourite episode thus far. The lessons are applicable to my life in so many ways. Thank you

[@khalilivhunephalamo8297]

I just subscribed 😊

[@mercyjefutala5064]

Promise no woman wud accept tht she broke some1 marriage, we alwys defend ourselfs

[@proxlee]

I think for this woman if her husband can raise another mans kids she too can raise another womans kids. This is different. Situations are not gonna be the same

[@RayOfLetsatsi]

Exactly!

[@neegee3755]

It’s advisable to have kids before you get married? Where though? Yoh Promise can be a lot at times 🤪

[@matanato01]

I hope the ex wife has healed, this can't be easy. Sad that the husband had to fight for two whole years to stay with his own kids, while she was happy having him parent her kids. It's not her fault that the marriage ended , if it wasn't her, It would have been someone else, men do what makes them happy, we need to learn to do that as women.

[@nomthandazojohanna6094]

I'm staying with my 2 stepdaughters it's been 4 years now and sometimes I forget that they are not biologically mine ❤

[@khetimthembu8465]

As much as it didn’t start off well it seems to be going well!🤍 i like how she’s so self aware & seems to be having a good relationship with her step children. All the best to her & her family!!!

[@HloiMollo]

I think she is doing this interview to spite the exwife

[@leefortunate5764]

She's not a baby mama she's an ex-wife, put respect on her name.

[@nokuzolapenelopemazibuko7638]

Wow

[@Mandisa168]

❤❤❤

[@rotondwamulaudzi5319]

If your children are staying with their father and you dont contribute financially to their maintenance, you are a deadbeat mother!

[@matanato01]

I reaally wish she would refrain from speaking about the ex wife, that's not her story to tell. It's distateful

[@PortiaLethoba-lx4gh]

His ,hers and ours relationship

[@pulanemotsetsela5413]

Stop calling the ex-wife "baby" mama please

[@Hazelbeing]

Bathong, I don't understand why she can't extend grace to the ex wife. The husband was trash, cheated on her and couldn't wait to get married to her. On top of that took her children from her. Tjesis!!!

[@SibsM93]

I cringed everytime time she called her that!!! 😩

[@livingthelifewithlillysoco5297]

I thought I was the only who picked that up

[@azukentapaneingazi1808]

Such a horrible woman masked with calmness.

[@khetimthembu8465]

@@Hazelbeingdamn😭your so right

[@nozukomngxozana6182]

Ausi, baby mama mmmmmhhh