Pathological Loneliness is A Bone-Aching Existential Disease

[@RossRosenberg]

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[@karenhartman9774]

I’m so grateful for your clarification of this symptom. Im 30 years into healing and Ive been alone for that long too. What hurts, is to watch my beloved son stay in a trauma bond marriage. He abandoned his healing work when he realized it would lead to divorce if he continued. He has the worst case of pathological loneliness Ive ever witnessed. It’s so hard when you can’t save your kid!

[@SoulSeeker2025]

@@karenhartman9774 proud of you!

[@kevinhornbuckle]

Consider learning a music instrument. You earn self respect by practicing and making increasingly interesting tones and rhythms. You develop friends by playing with others and enjoying music together.

[@kovenmaitreya7184]

Ye

[@kevinhornbuckle]

@@kovenmaitreya7184 Yo

[@RebeccaRuano]

This is a great idea!

[@ambern.9887]

Thank you for offering a solution instead of pathologizing the problem alone.

[@kevinhornbuckle]

@@ambern.9887 I had jazz band rehearsal last night, and I enjoyed myself and my bandmates.

[@Jewelliet]

I love you, Ross Rosenberg. Thank you so much. God bless you. If I could afford treatment I’d love to treat with you, but I’ve been destroyed beyond those resources. I’m not able to function well enough for the treatment I’d need. Most therapists don’t get it, thus not any therapist would be helpful; so just a waste of time. I’ve tried over and over and over again. With you there would be real breakthrough. I know it because you get it. It’s so frustrating to find the remedy, then not having the resources to afford it. Makes me so sad. But this is some degree of help as I try my best to self treat myself. I’ve been suffering for more than half a century so far. I can’t wait until it’s all over. I don’t do romantic relationships anymore, but that alone isn’t enough, but it’s leaps and bounds from where I was. I love you. Thank you.🙏🏻💗🕊️✝️

[@ABlessman]

I 100% affirm your statement that it's pointless to speak with therapists , who don't understand this.. It's not just pointless it's traumatizing.

[@Jewelliet]

@@ABlessman What a very good point. "It's not just pointless it's traumatizing". So true! They often perpetuate the gaslighting, though well intended but nonetheless. Thank you for your comment.

[@cristinadelapisa6908]

I feel identified with you.... I hope you get soon the opportunity to get treatment with Rosenberg. I don't know why but you know he knows. He is the right ❤😊

[@katarzynalpzm0arajko-nenow32]

Yes, exackly! I'm a daughter of slightly narcissistic mom and I had SLDD. I felt this pain for years. Than I married a narc. Truły malignant, covered narc, right next to a psychopath or as I call him ”home psychopath". All kinds of violence were present. I lived like this for 3 years and now, after another 5 years alone, free and happy, I can say I'm happier than ever before. My narc was my cure. 😅

[@naej6888]

This makes so much sense, thank you

[@xefirah8753]

I’m looking forward to this. I definitely feel it in my bones!

[@SoulSeeker2025]

It's an emptiness like being marooned.

[@californiadreamer2580]

Thanks for explaining this, and mentioning the addiction -codependency that is involved! I have always enjoyed my alone time and have never felt lonely. Seeing people so desperate for a relationship that they will sacrifice their children, etc has always baffled me, so this makes good sense!

[@tigereye508]

Truth❤ Thank you Sir! Walking on eggshells is no way to live. The materials are here. Set yourself free to run for peace and happiness. You can make it happen.❤

[@chimi1924]

Reminds me of adhedonia, dystimia. Its a Dopamine/pleasure center deficit.

[@anthonywhite6530]

Thank you for sharing Ross. You helped me in my life.

[@AndreeaPrisacariu]

I love you, mr. Ross!!🤍🤗🙏🏻

[@NeighborhoodOfBlue]

Pathological loniness is also a common problem with neurodiverse people like myself. I was honestly hoping your video was going to touch on that? I understand how problematic codependency can be, but lacking connections with others is itself a problem. I find that it's a' blend of chronic illness and distrust due to religious and complex trauma that keeps me from connecting with others, and feeds this sense of pathological, aching lonliness that I have on an existential level. I feel like an alien that was placed on the wrong planet, and it's those feelings that made me vulnerable to religion. And ultimately religion took my sense of identity and warped it.

[@FunkyMunky-w2m]

Loneliness is not pathological, it's normal, it means someone is healthy

[@californiadreamer2580]

​@@FunkyMunky-w2msome types of loneliness are definitely pathological. ANY emotional state can become pathological if used in unhealthy self- negating ways.

[@romygarcia3782]

This resonates completely… although I never felt it so hard before my last relationship with a covert narcissist… when I think about it now, I’ve realized that I had more relationships with people with narcissistic traits … I’m in therapy for 6-7 years already, but I keep making steps forward and than 2 steps back 😏 At least : that’s what it feels like 😢

[@kimlawson9869]

I have followed you and appreciate your insights into this field

[@susananderson6882]

thank you soo much for this ,,,, a lightbulb is going off in my mind 😉🤔🥰 ....

[@daxion9416]

After 20 years in 3 relationships now I prefer to be alone, is that pathological? I only feel ok with my mother I am 54 she is 82, I am afraid when she dies I will feel like I will not exist.

[@FunkyMunky-w2m]

Well I hope you find good friends and a healthy relationship. You still have a lot of life ahead of you

[@CarolinaAverbuj]

52 years of struggling with exactly what you just described. Not knowing what it was.

[@simplypositiveme]

You nailed it.

[@student.emails286]

To break free, you need the help. It becomes overwhelming or you will want to give up wanting to try. That's it.

[@marywolfe6598]

I wonder if he was loved, seen and validated by his parents.

[@AuraRodriguezGomez]

He was not, he grew up with a narcissistic father he has a book called “human magnet syndrome” explaining further

[@linden7390]

Jesus Christ, the Son of God, cured my co-dependent ways. Thank you Jesus!! ❤🕊

[@elenamartinez6461]

And what can we do to solve this pathological loneliness? Are there things we can do or is it something we have to simply go through to overcome? (I.e. one year without any dating) Thanks

[@gobetter350]

How do we know if we feel this loneliness because of previous addiction and not plane simple loneliness because we are alone?

[@lindltailor]

What differentiates pathological loneliness from what most would describe as "the human condition". Don't we all yearn for romance, companionship and fear loneliness?

[@theexistenshield]

what if everything matches but without the relationship?

[@Jdawn92]

I’m in an addictive relationship

[@theideaplace]

Have you done any videos for having a narcissist child...?

[@FunkyMunky-w2m]

Dr. Romani has talked on KZbin about how you cannot know if someone is narcissistic until their brain is fully developed in their mid-20s or so because that is when their personality is set. She had teens and she said all teens can seem narcissistic..she may have had suggestions on how to help develop empathy in your kids. There is plenty of time to work on that while they are little, they can still grow a lot in that department. It is something important. I know by now- do not abuse them (being overly controlling, emotionally or physically harsh/cruel, or isolating them). And do not overcoddle and spoil them and enable/allow bad behavior regularly. Teach them to be a kind person and hold them to it.

[@WitchyHocusPocus]

Me too..

[@juliamorgan4878]

Life is meaningless without the Love of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. The peace beyond all understanding is real, something no person here on earth can give you. You can’t even give it to yourself. But Ross is correct. We need to love our neighbors as ourselves. Yes we are to love ourselves. All the answers are in the Bible. Ross has a very good grasp on this narcissistic relationship addiction. I would recommend his work, knowledge is power. SLD codependent, enmeshed.

[@NeighborhoodOfBlue]

@juliamorgan4878 While your intentions are likely good, many of us here have religious trauma. Your proselytizing is harmful, and misleading, and I'd like to ask you to keep your beliefs out of counseling forums.

[@justkim339]

Well said. Jesus pbuh not god

[@juliamorgan4878]

@@NeighborhoodOfBlue Please don’t tell me what to do. I’m not talking about religion, I’m talking about a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. No church required. If you don’t like what I post just scroll on by. Don’t try to control other people. Thanks and God bless.

[@lesliebolick2407]

Your religious beliefs are a crutch.

[@juliamorgan4878]

@@lesliebolick2407 Ok that’s your opinion. Thanks for sharing.

[@vlad3k]

He can't rly pronounce existential well maybe because he's not grownded in the present

[@chrisfrank2981]

You need a new mic. It’s painful how much noise there is. Too distracting from the message ugh

[@henrydembski1032]

No cure

[@FireStarterWreckingBall]

Total bullsh*t, your'e never alone, God has always got your back

[@FunkyMunky-w2m]

God does but we are socially wired so relationships are important too, loneliness is painful for everyone even the most godly. But yes God has our back, if we truly know Him

[@ambern.9887]

That may be so but we were not meant to be an island alone in the world. Two we wouldn't have orphanages were children emaciate and never develop to their full potential for lack of human contact