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[@TwoHotTakes]

Here's a little news clip for anyone that would like to learn more about the picnic comment: kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y3jRpKGnltedrdk There's obviously so much more to it than my couple second convo. It's always so interesting what gets pulled out of these episodes. But as many said, the word picnic itself is not racist. However, due to context many people find it has racist connotations and can be insensitive. It's all about context.

[@rpstgag]

If people make an honest attempt to be educated & sensitive to the very real history of racial terrorism & pogroms in this country, I'm of the opinion that they shouldn't twist themselves into knots of anxiety about innocuous word choices. Moving through life with a praxis of cross-racial solidarity is more important to me than someone signaling their Officially-Not-Racist™ credentials through language. And not that I speak for any Black person's experience other than my own, but I was never taught to be tetchy about the word picnic where I grew up in the South. It just wasn't a thing until the last 10ish years. As a young adult (circa 2009), none of us in my Black Studies program had a problem with the word picnic... UNTIL we heard the urban legend (which sounds like it *could* be true history, though it's an internet-era tale). It was a short-lived sensitivity. Our field of study meant that the b.s. was quickly corrected by our professors, but A LOT of Black folks have come to believe this fabricated picnic history.... To the point where they call news stations about it, apparently.

[@soniam603]

I watched the clip. I am from Sweden and since Sweden has been in close contact with France and other countries in Europe the word didn't come to Sweden from the US, but directly from France. For an example a Swedish lieutenant used the word in his memoirs in the 1700's. I understand the horrifying history and why some people may find that the word is connected to lynchings, but the word itself is so innocent. As an example we can talk about nordic mythology. The Swedish nazis really love to wear the Thors hammer around their necks and claim the nordic mythology. For history nerds like me it can become a problem who love to talk and read about our nordic history. Maybe also for those who love the Marvel movies. Don't let the nazis claim Nordic history and don't let some psychopaths from the south of the US claim the word picnic. It is too much.

[@MidniteFlower]

Hey, I was going back and listening to older podcasts. In one of your earlier podcast you used the term “eskimo sisters.” This is an extremely derogatory term. I am a First Nation person and I found it extremely offensive.

[@tthawkins9035]

@@MidniteFlower notice how you said older videos? Usually anytime Morgan learns that a phase is offensive in some sort she apologizes, def not intentional.

[@andya.9422]

@@tthawkins9035 there’s nothing wrong with pointing it out though? all this person said is that they heard her say it, and they’re letting her know it’s an offensive term. if she already apologized for it and she knows not to use it anymore, great! if not, she does now? surely you don’t expect this person to go through every single episode of the podcast since to see if anything’s changed, no?

[@windmill9998]

36:25 Lauren: "how many guys actually watch this show?" Morgan: "there's some guys" me: _looks at my gf with a smile while pointing to myself_ Lauren: "they're just watching with their girlfriend who introduced them" me and my gf: _dies of laughter_

[@KetiefulV2]

I am a single guy and watching this, seeing the female perspective is actually quite nice, tbh.

[@dany6517]

So… the girl who hated the brother’s girlfriend was looking to keep her around FOREVER?! 😂😂

[@MoneyHouse3421]

LMFAO

[@cerpquake]

yeah, don't think she thought that through lol

[@anocas196]

That was exactly my thought! Can't believe they didn't pick up on that. 🤣

[@ileanaperez5894]

LMAOOO

[@CamCadie]

*Wisdom: -50* 😂😂😂

[@mickymcbryan4814]

Hey guys, just thought I’d let you know as a mixed race, part Black, French speaker. There absolutely IS a history of people having festival like occasions around lynchings and that should be remembered. But the word and event picnic has nothing to do with that in origin. Picnic comes from the old french Pique-Nique which literally translates to “little dig.” It describes an event in which a small gathering of people each contribute a dish to a “little dig” or party. In addition, Dr David Pilgrim, a specialist in the history of Jim Crow law confirmed that picnic can be seen in use all the way back in 1600’s France referring to completely neutral social parties and it’s use in English did not originate in the US or in any way related to racially based hate crimes. The origin of this rumour was, in fact, anonymously posted screenshot with no sources whom multiple Black historians have discounted, and it’s a rumour especially irksome to French-creole Black language speakers as picnic is very commonly thought to have come to the USA through French creole language. EDIT: Just looked it up, and though the originating claim was made by anonymous screenshots, apparently this was popularized by Florida politician Robert McKinzie. Also, I asked a fellow French speaker just now who speaks the French from France (I speak an African-indigenous dialect popular in the Caribbean) about how she associates the word Pique-Nique. To me it meant simply a party. To her, the word Pique-Nique is associated with the French Revolution when revolutionaries would set up things called Pique Nique societies to meet on a schedule and have a small social party where they explored various political ideas that could get them arrested if discovered, which is why they covered up these meetings as Pique Niques. I thought these were important additions. Extra fun fact Edit: Apparently I translate Pique Nique as “little dig” but she translates it as “little thing” as in short for piquer-nique or “pick a little thing to bring.” Interesting different dialectical interpretations. The most all encompassing article in the fact with testimony from both American Black History specialists and French Linguistic specialists: www.politifact.com/factchecks/2019/feb/21/robert-mckinzie/fact-checking-myth-word-picnic-racist/

[@elizabethharris7203]

Thank you for sharing the history.

[@stairstothesky286]

This is so interesting, thanks for sharing!!

[@josiesmith1415]

And here I've always spelt it as a picnic, nice to know about other info though

[@mickymcbryan4814]

@@josiesmith1415 I think you are spelling it correctly in English, I spell it Picnic in English as well.

[@caffe1n8ed]

Really appreciate you taking the time to write all that! Thanks for the info :)

[@pearlycomplaints]

I saw a comment somewhere that said “traditions are just dead people peer pressuring us” 😂

[@mtshyna]

So true tho it really is 😂 at some point there traditions didnt exist and they had to come up with it. So new ones should still be made

[@YoYo_Ma]

​@mtshyna yeah! Chucking traditions can be a new tradition.

[@abeer3169]

“Just because you put the word tradition on it doesn’t make everything ok” Well said Lauren

[@morganator1]

OP left a comment under an update saying that after drinking some wine at a get together with her husband, his friend, and the friend's husband, she blurted out that she knew about the affair. The friend and her husband were reconciling but once the friend's husband found our, it was over. OP's husband begged for forgiveness and says he wants to do couples counseling to mend the marraige. OP says she knows the marraige is over but is going to play along with reconciling until she gets her degree. In one of her comments, she details that she doesn't live in a western country and wouldn't be able to get alimony if she left him. Once she gets her degree, she is planning on divorcing him.

[@jadeaylen3811]

Oh gosh that would be so challenging

[@aalao7372]

,,,,33

[@stephjovi]

thx for the update!

[@genesishale7523]

Why wouldn’t she take him to court for infidelity? School paid for?

[@rileybaker9224]

@@genesishale7523it says her country doesn’t do alimony, so maybe she wouldn’t get much money from him in a divorce

[@aginger8690]

OP updated regarding the cheating husband- apparently she couldn’t hold it in anymore after drinking wine with her husband, the friend and the friends husband after they began to “reconcile”. She just popped off and said “I’m happy you two are getting back together so she stops fucking my husband” 😂 apparently the friend popped off at her and her husband stormed off, the cheating husband burst into tears and begged for couples counselling. He’s in the guest room and the friend is gone

[@sharoxx1894]

Damnn

[@Kissmyasinine]

Lmaoo well I hope her situation gets sorted for the better on her part

[@ginaharris7595]

How do you see updates on Reddit?

[@woman_of_mayhem]

Daaayyyuuummm!!!! Good for her tho! 🤯 wrecked them!!

[@mariankospix]

I cant find the post, can you put the link here?

[@beautifullcuhh]

story 4: they would've hated me, because I would've laughed so hard and them shushing me would've made me laugh harder LMAO

[@heatherchesshire]

I could never stay quiet for 3 years if I caught my husband cheating. It would be an almost immediate confrontation and at BARE minimum she’d be out.

[@girlextasy]

right? this is so traumatizing to sleep with someone who is disgusting to you. I could never. This woman is going to be a mess in 3 years.

[@gcarr1089]

I got the impression she was on her last yea if a 3 year course,, if so she is doing the right thing, it would give her the chance to get herself in a better financial position.

[@Srabubulupa]

I mean, she is basically staying with him because he is paying for everything soo

[@madeline56]

right, if she went for a kiss or whatever why didn’t the husband go and tell the wife and kick her out? or in the case he did “regret” why didn’t he come clean to the wife about it? nah he’s aware, he just doesn’t care!

[@LemonSte]

When I suspected my boyfriend was cheating and saw some messages that I thought confirmed it I couldn't even stay silent for 3 minutes lmao. Thankfully it all turned out to be nothing, bless up my partner he is the best person ever and would never do that. he was so mortified that I would ever think that and made a huge effort to show he was trustworthy after that (I've been cheated on by everyone I've dated so I was just paranoid)

[@earth2claire]

Lauren's outbursts in the third story are just absolutely cracking me up. the energy is amazing

[@Lauren-ib3ok]

Ahahahahahah my impulse control decreases everyday 😂😭

[@Conformist138]

The quiet dinner would destroy me if I wasn't prepared. In my family, there's no such thing as "silence" if more than two of us are in a room at the same time. If it was a surprise silent time, I'd want to understand, but also not want to break the rules. The paradoxical situation of wanting to ask why I can't talk would result in increasing internal pressure until my eyes popped out of my head.

[@sandraweaver6068]

I know this is an old video/comment, but for real. My misophonia could never. I cant deal with hearing the sound of chewing. Nope Nope Nope

[@sweetflinn]

I honestly thought at first that it meant may the food taste so good we forget to talk 😅

[@louisedowling475]

As for the gold digger story: I took alot of shit from my parents growing up and was treated in a way that I wouldn't stand for now as an adult. When I got into a relationship with my current boyfriend my mother tried to talk badly on him and I IMMEDIATELY shut that shit down. That played a big part in me realising that I shouldn't accept her behaviour towards me. If I don't like someone I love being treated that way, why should I accept the same treatment right? I have empathy for OP's partner's unbringing but there is no excuse for not standing up for his partner.

[@kateduggan2827]

Story 5. This sister in law had had 10 years to learn some basic phrases in Japanese. Get her a subscription to babble for Christmas

[@blackgirlmagicc]

Well let’s not pretend it’s just super easy to “just learn” Japanese the sister in law may have learning disabilities or a speech impediment or a millions other things that make learning another language extremely difficult for her

[@aakanshagharde]

@@blackgirlmagicc you're right but learning a few phrases here and there can't be that big a task, given that she did have 10 years. its really the effort that matters and I'm sure that if the grandparents or her parents in law knew about the disability, they'd recognise the respect she has for them

[@blackgirlmagicc]

@@aakanshagharde I mean we don’t know that she hasn’t done that just that’s she’s not fluent enough to keep up with a conversation she very well may know some greetings please and thanks yous but nothing close to fluent like OPs girlfriend

[@jadeaylen3811]

IKR. I wondered if he was worried about his own fluency compared to hers...

[@michellenworah8587]

That guy doesn’t own the Japanese language. 🙄

[@Riyaanreality]

For the cheating story with the engineering student…that’s her husband right? Girl, get evidence of his infidelity and file a divorce and for alimony. Get him for all you could get! Hell no! Deal with that mentally effed up situation for three years? I can’t imagine.

[@Chelseabee55]

Yes, that’s exactly what I though! Ideally, leave before she’s an engineer making a good salary

[@FernandaShirley3008]

Maybe they have a prenup

[@BunnieOfDestruction]

Like a part of me can’t even get mad at ol girl because life is real and money makes it easier so do what you gotta do to get your bag. But if she’s planning on staying with him even after school is done, and she’s no longer dependent on him financially she definitely needs to speak up and set boundaries, get paperwork in place to ensure she’s taken care of if she does leave, ect. But…if she is planning on leaving then, yes! Get a lawyer, get everything lined up, and take anything and everything that you can from his ass.

[@Chelseabee55]

@@FernandaShirley3008 most prenups have an infidelity clause that would make the prenup void

[@shelbert7808]

Yes!!!!

[@sarahkathleenstewart8445]

For story 2: since they’re married and he cheated, if she gets a good enough attorney, couldn’t she get enough alimony to cover the rest of her schooling?

[@heezypeasy8611]

My thoughts exactly. I don't think him paying for her education is worth the toll it will take on her mental health. I personally couldn't do it.

[@Skittle2296]

Not everyone gets alimony in all states and she may not get it because they were not married for long

[@itsme_anniedee]

Alimony (which is usually now called Spousal Support) determinations have nothing to do with things like cheating. Only about financial earnings/abilities to earn. So if someone was a stay at home mom for 10 years so husband could build huge career, she could potentially get spousal support for a period of time so she could get a degree/build up to decent employment earning ability. The idea would be to counter the effect being out of the work pool for 10 years would have on her ability to earn a living once the divorce is final. It's rehabilitative.

[@cristinaignat4052]

@@Skittle2296 You are right...but the thing is there are other options out there other than her loosing her mind over staying with him for 3 years...she will also have to deal with the stress from school and the stress in her relationship. She has to be a very strong person to pull this through.

[@zomuchmore]

I looked into the story, she’s not in a western country so there’s no option for alimony. The reason she can’t leave is because the alternative is her having nothing, she said she’s going to play along with them reconciling (she ended up confronting both of them) until she’s out of college and able to be financially stable on her own.

[@kassandrarogers4286]

The girl you got hushed at dinner: I just can't figure out why the boyfriend didn't give her a heads up on their eating tradition. I think it would have went alot smoother if she knew in advance 😆

[@katie18976]

Same, like would it have been hard to tell it beforehand ?

[@ChocolateChick1000]

Lmao Lauren's laughter during the silent dinner story was so contagious. Made it a 10× more enjoyable story

[@thecamples2553]

The irony of Morgan talking about trying to pass as Canadian while calling them "providences". Almost. You almost got it. ❤

[@TwoHotTakes]

Hahaha idk why my brain said that versus province 🙈😂

[@DefSusApril]

Omg that was ADORABLE

[@TheTooComplicated]

I had to run to the comments to make sure someone else caught that. My brain spazed each time I heard it haha. It hurt me. But I love it 😅

[@MzJamaicanBeauty12]

Lmao I was thinking about this like have I been wrong this whole time.

[@LysandreGagne]

Morgan talking about faking being Canadian saying "providences" instead of "provinces" killed me! 😂 Sending you love from Québec girls, I've been in love with your podcast since week 1 ❤️

[@unstoppabledoris]

So my husband in the five to six years that we've dated he has taught himself Spanish. He listens to podcasts he's on Duolingo and he purposely watches movies in Spanish to learn since my parents do not speak great English... I appreciate him so much for that effort.

[@k3upikachu]

Yeah my boyfriend is Mexican and I moved to Texas to be with him and I've been putting in a lot of work on duolingo to learn Spanish. It's going to take a while, but I understand a little bit more everyday. It's worth it to me... If the spouses of that story haven't bothered to learn Japanese, that's on them lol

[@TheSandiify]

Swede here! 🙌🌸 Just have to say, growing up it was not that people where cheap. It had more to do with respect for the other family. Of course we had lunch and dinner at friends but to feed someone’s kid without asking the parents before can be seen very disrespectful. Usually I ran home when my friend where sitting down for dinner because then it was our time to eat at my house too. It’s definitely been a cultural change now 😊 this was 25 years ago now

[@TwoHotTakes]

Thank you for sharing! The Reddit thread was so interesting on this

[@vilsqu]

Same here in Finland too! I did eat at friends sometimes but my family never served lunch for a friend. Our reasoning was difference in foods other families had, so basically prevent food waste 😅

[@mtsddideriksen]

Same. Im from Denmark

[@rai2423]

Nah that traumatized me growing up in Denmark. I’m a child of an immigrant and so when I was told to wait upstairs as a kid i was so hurt cause it’s considered extremely rude to not offer your guests food in my culture. And it is being cheap cause most of my danish friends were not allowed to offer friends food without asking their parents, which i still think is crazy till this day.

[@selma8337]

@@rai2423 it is crazy and i don’t really care if it’s cultural. i think that’s just rude to teach your kids not to share… like it’s common decency especially when you’re dealing with kids…

[@kirstenmcmaster1125]

I would not be surprised if the mother herself was a gold digger, you can always tell “new money” as opposed to old. No one born into wealth talks like that or asks prices. It’s tacky. Can’t buy your way into class

[@TheHerothief]

i know! i was thinking the same, her atitude SCREAMS new money

[@mtgsk5180]

Yup! My close friends from highschool and college were rich rich and we never knew until they invited us to their home for vacation

[@emwagss]

I immediately thought that!! I was like, if she is that wealthy why tf is she talking about prices?! Definitely came from a lower income family

[@isacarral2736]

RIGHT stop obsessing over my things, old lady

[@epod85]

Maybe, maybe not My MIL asked my husband once if I was just "after his money" she is divorced and definitely not a gold digger. He told me when he got home and I howled (he worked at a fast food joint when we met, not exactly rolling in the dough, and nowadays I still make more then him)

[@Ohh_valll]

37:01 how adorable how Justin pops in and out of the camera and how Morgans smiles after that so cute

[@cydneychurchwell9213]

I had to go back and watch it again because I only saw it briefly and was confused at first

[@markusdulgar6397]

Morgan! With my ADHD, I also interrupt a lot. So when I want to say something but want to be an active listener I “hold the thought” but putting a finger in my nose or forehead! It’s always helps because I connect the thought to the nose so when I let go 8.5/ 10 times I remember the thought!

[@TwoHotTakes]

Ooo I am totally going to try this!! Thank you :)

[@nickid7117]

Dude same

[@deanna7294]

I might try this... ASD though, might work

[@carolinevale7569]

I do this too!!

[@crystallovingfairy1]

Thank you for making this comment I am ADHD autistic and I struggle with this all the time too I'm going to try to keep this in mind to try I think I'm going to screenshot it to help me remember

[@nmpm5661]

Just a little note: The word "Picnic" originated from the French word "Pique-Nique" to describe a social gathering in which attendees each contribute with a portion of food or another useful item. The word wasn't used in English 1800s. Yes, people had picnics when doing horrible and disgusting things during that time in USA but not using a word vaguely linked with a bad association means we would to need to amend every language on earth. BTW: no hate, all love

[@trueMAXIMUS]

i adore morgan and all her co-hosts but i am B E G G I N G them to do even the most base-level of research into claims that they find off tiktok. they are such a bright and intelligent group of people but to just spout information that is so boldly WRONG can be super damaging. peace and love to all of them 100% tho

[@summerava5674]

@@trueMAXIMUS agreed

[@lexiegee5331]

@@trueMAXIMUS I actually think they do a pretty good job doing their research when they make claims or state what they think to be facts. But yeah, it's probably a good idea to look up whatever you see on social media before you repeat it as fact. There are a lot of people out there that spread misinformation. Even so, I really admire Morgan and her guests' open mindedness. Nobody can be right all the time.

[@trueMAXIMUS]

@@lexiegee5331 i never said they were wrong all the time, love. they’re humans and as such make mistakes, but on such a big platform and with such a delicate matter as deciding what is and isn’t anti-black racism even though they are not black, they should do a bit more research before spreading misinformation. edit to say: i know they weren’t being malicious at all, and were doing so from a place of love-people are allowed to point out when they are wrong though and no one is trying to persecute them 💖

[@koushi._.2745]

For the 5th story. Personally think when OPs gf met the parents she should say “I work as an interpreter and I sometimes speak Japanese” and then if the parents show any Inter in her speaking level then she can speak with them. OP having a double standard is very weird though and his excuse being that “we’ve only been dating for a couple of months” shows that he may not take this relationship serious. Him not letting her speak to his parents in their native language is going to put a HUGE strain on her relationship with the parents.

[@SakuraMagic]

That story just had me wondering if he dated a Japanese woman, would he ask her to do the same thing?

[@blackgirlmagicc]

See I think he’s not sure about her and is trying to negate any future “do you remember Sasha she spoke Japanese why can’t you find a girl like that” I especially wonder what the parents reaction to the sister in law not speaking Japanese if they make comments about it all the time

[@crystallovingfairy1]

@@blackgirlmagicc that's surviving game too. It doesn't seem like he's really so serious or sure about the relationship. If she starts taking Japanese parents and grandparents are going to probably adore her and he's worried that if he's like yeah no this isn't going to work they will never let him live it down

[@isacarral2736]

My feeling was that if his parents knew that she speaks japanese maybe they would push the son to marry her and he didn’t want This kind of pressure

[@waternymph8085]

Then don't freaking bring her! Like wait till you're sure if it's such an issue

[@jessicavalladares1932]

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself or the Podcast. If it stops being fun, we notice. Just do what you enjoy. The real fans will stick with you. ❤

[@Graves933]

"Nothing bad happenes in Canada " *residential schools have entered the chat* *MMIWG2S has entered the chat*

[@jesssandhu9432]

And there's so many racist white people in Canada. It's extremely normalized towards East Asians and South Asians

[@Graves933]

@@jesssandhu9432 I'm a white person that was born and lives in a part of Canada that has a lot of indigenous people. The ammout of casual racism I hear towards them IN public is fucking disgusting. MMIWG2S is so big, despite being such a small part of the population indigenous women are 10x more likey to go missing or be killed. The fucking POLICE took indigenous people on "starlight tours" which consisted of picking up indigenous individuals and bringing them to the edge of town to drop them off and freeze to death. We also have immigrants here, and they are so nice. Absolutely lovely people that work their asses off and deserve the world, and people treat them like absolute shit. "Taking our jobs" when they themselves wouldn't work it. This place is FULL of racism, sexism, all of the LGBT phobias, murders and coverups, ect.. This place is a big ol rat hole too if you actually look into it....

[@jesssandhu9432]

@@Graves933 I'm Punjabi but born here and I agree with everything you've said! I feel incredibly heartbroken for the Indigenous people that got everything stolen from them. What part of Canada are you from?

[@Lauren-ib3ok]

It was dry humor I didn’t mean to diminish 🙏♥️

[@jesssandhu9432]

@@Lauren-ib3ok We know, don't worry! Not many know how dark Canada is. Love your insights in all the stories:)

[@Maza_09]

Wedding story: tradition can apply to your direct family members, your traditions don’t apply to people entering a family. The person can opt in or out of these traditions

[@bobbii]

Yeah maybe the groom should have worn a blush suit, or maybe the bride could have used a blush sash or something. Either way, it's her wedding and she should absolutely have final say in what she wears. And maybe explain to them that the color of her dress won't be what eventually kills her lol

[@jordanleighwheatley]

For the wife with the rich husband, I wonder if she could confront him and demand that he pay the remainder of her school and lodging in exchange for a clean divorce.

[@stephanieflower9802]

Great idea

[@zoeinkerman969]

They probably have a prenup

[@jordanleighwheatley]

@@zoeinkerman969 even still, she may be able to leverage like "hey, I won't tell everyone what you and your bestie did if you work out this agreement with me". Wealthy people care about their reputations a lot.

[@jordanleighwheatley]

@@zoeinkerman969 like reverse manipulation. "If you really loved me and still did this to hurt me, then you'd still help me set my future up"

[@samanthaduke6660]

The bf should have warned her about the no speaking rules at the dinner table bc I would have been super uncomfy

[@RhodaPhone98]

On the wedding dress story: I bought mine last week and I have some thoughts on what you said about talking to your partner about it. Before I went dress shopping I was absolutely certain I would buy a very simple, “clean” wedding dress without any kind of embroidery and such. I had a whole Pinterest board ready and even showed it to my partner, just to confirm that we have similar taste in the dress. (I already knew what he likes but it’s always good to make sure imo as sometimes you think of the same concept wiiiildly differently, what it simple to me might not be simple to you.) He told me he would prefer me in a simple dress as he loves the type but would still be fine with whatever I chose as he trusts my taste. Well… I went dress shopping, found the one and it’s pretty much the opposite of simple. It has leaves and flowers and tulle - and honestly I look like a forest fairy in it. I love it so much. He’s not gonna see my dress until the wedding but I did warn him that my dress looks very different from what he expects. I know he is gonna love it because I love it but I always think it’s good to be prepared. Long way to say: if you do something unexpected, maybe let your partner know so they can adjust their expectations and fall in love with whatever you’re doing.

[@CommonHorseGirl]

How was your wedding???

[@jocelynflores6580]

Love when Lauren ALWAYS says “let’s do it” right before the intro, always look forward to it 😅

[@Lauren-ib3ok]

Hehehe

[@wynp5896]

Love the blind reaction, the genuine laughter and outrage at the stories was the amazing. Best episode yet! Love it!

[@vixen205]

Lauren worded her thoughts extremely well on the third story, I love how she can explain and understand both sides even if she doesn’t agree, like where they’re coming from and stuff. I always love Lauren on these episodes

[@peytn20]

Morgan!!! I was dying for a thanksgiving episode, THANK YOU

[@rachell783]

YES!!! I appreciate it too!!

[@jessikadoyle8919]

Ahhhh absolutely love how long episodes have been lately🤩🤩 thank you guys for an amazing podcast❤️❤️

[@macattac1002]

Saaaaame!!!!!!

[@LemonSte]

Lol being shushed is one of those things that can send me from zero to 100 in rage

[@angelac5954]

The family who accused the woman of being a gold-digger sounds exactly like a narcissistic family dynamic. Devaluing her to elevate themselves… the son keeping the peace by keeping quiet. The gaslighting from the son (most likely a learned behavior from the parents). Definitely run far from this family. What a nightmare!

[@PamArg]

I think mother uninvited him from holidays not bc he was unemployed, but bc she looked like a fool in front of everybody

[@dylpickled]

Putting my same PSA in this video that I did the last condom video: oil based lubes deteriorate latex condoms! Make sure to use water based lube if using latex condoms (silicon based lube works too but can deteriorate silicon based toys/prosthetics)

[@jessicajessica8690]

My now husband went wedding dress shopping with me. It was only the 2 of us and honestly one of my favorite memories. We have a "non traditional" marriage where we are equal partners so we through out the traditions of dress shopping. Made sense for us.

[@Chihirios10]

I came off of Apple Podcasts to let y’all know I am pro-long episode because I CANNOT clean my apartment without a little THC and THT, so the longer the episode, the more I get done 😂 love you guys!!

[@Long_May_They_Raine]

I remember when I fell down a DEEP rabbit hole of these videos last semester. Let me do that again.

[@emmasandberg2968]

Love you guys little rambles outside of the actual reddit posts! its so cozy just listening and getting to know you guys!!

[@SM-ru8ud]

Really? These rambles are becoming too much for me. I end up skipping through and it’s frustrating cause I’d rather them just play. I’d rather an extra story or two.

[@carlesbarkley8573]

@@SM-ru8ud ​ same. relating stories to personal experiences is fine and can be interesting but with every story there’s like 2 or 3 side stories

[@SM-ru8ud]

@@carlesbarkley8573 yup, exactly. I listened to them read a story, then hopped in the shower and by the time I came out they were just finishing up..this included me washing my hair 🤣 Check out Charlotte Dobre. She’s hilarious and keeps it brief and engaging.

[@heezypeasy8611]

I love the side stories too!

[@test-kf2zv]

@@SM-ru8ud I think there might be a difference in whether you listen for the group dynamic versus listening for the stories. I'm somewhere in between. I actually do feel like the more recent episodes HAVE been quite rambly, to the point where I either skip or just watch the shorter clips. But if I listened to hear from Morgan, Lauren etc. I'd probably be more interested in the OT discussions. If I only wanted stories, honestly, it would be very hard to listen to.

[@TA-lo4uk]

As soon as I heard the story about the couple who spoke Japanese I instantly thought of when the boyfriend said that he didn't want her to be his family's favorite they've only been together a short time etc. does that mean that he doesn't want them to have a connection and he doesn't plan on keeping her around?? That to me implies that this isn't permanent for him. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@rhiiilol2399]

“What in the cult” is my new favourite phrase

[@rachell783]

Omg not Lauren and Morgan openly discussing Lauren’s dating stories!! Ahhhh and yess I’m ready to subscribe to all the dating stories

[@Camerontheeagle123]

Hello LAUREN AND MORGAN. I usually never comment but this time I do to show my gratitude to you although you two might never read this.Whenever I feel depressed and down I just listen to one of your podcast and it helps me IMMENSELY, you made me feel not alone,with a company♡ usually I work all the time by myself so it does get pretty lonely. You would never think but your podcasts have been helping me accept myself too.They are not just KZbin videos,they are very warm life savers for me. God bless you all,infinitely thankful. ~ active listener:)

[@Lauren-ib3ok]

You have no idea how much kind comments like this mean. It might seem small to you but it is HUGE to me and Morgan. People like you that share positivity are the people that change the world. So thank you for being you. And for anyone else that reads this who also spreads kind words….. THANK YOU thank you thank you 🥹♥️ you all are the reason we keep doing this.

[@georginasera8103]

I LOVE YOUR LONG EPISODES!! IT HELPS ME THOUGHT A BAD DAY OF WORK OR WHILE HOUSE CHORES!❤️❤️❤️It seriously helps with my anxiety. Thank you!

[@oliviaw.luffman7341]

this podcast makes me feel so seen with having ADHD, this is how i talk with my friends like we all interject and it's now just how my brain works. also i love hearing the little updates on lauren's love life haha

[@Lauren-ib3ok]

🥰

[@KristinaP111]

I love both of your energies in this podcast! So chaotic and fun. I was listening while driving and lost it when Lauren just cackled through the end of the Quiet dinner story 💀💀

[@sallypoe]

For the "let the food keep us quiet" couldn't op's boyfriend have told her? That's freaking weird!

[@loub5516]

Hey Morgan pique-nique comes actually from the French, in the XIIIth century "dire nic" meant "don't worry about anything" so a pique-nique was a meal where everyone contributed so no one had to worry about the organization. (idk if I'm very clear I'm french so English is not my first language sorry) I love your podcast btw ! If you read this have a nice day !

[@ashleyvanhalst5729]

I googled it cause that part shocked me it’s not like coming from a racist word it just became associated with what Morgan’s describing and so it has like really bad connotations

[@selma8337]

@@ashleyvanhalst5729 in the US it did become a racist word though

[@7ShadowMaiden7]

So is pique-nique okay to use or not? I’m still probably going to use it. Saying a word typically wouldn’t make one racist unless it was a deliberate slur, from my cultural context.

[@TwoHotTakes]

Yess thank you for sharing! I think it just has a different connection for many Black Americans due to the history in this country. I didnt think that would even get picked out of everything else that got said this episode 🙈 but it was fresh in my mind after watching this kzbin.info/www/bejne/Y3jRpKGnltedrdk

[@madelinefodor415]

the fact that I've never commit to anything for as long as ive commit to watching tht every week... this show got me through an extremely hard breakup last year and ive been watching every week since then. this show gets me through my night shifts at the factory that i work at. its truly a comfort for me. happy almost 100

[@graceleroy5717]

Morgan!! I know exactly what you mean about accidentally interrupting to not forget your thought, I do that too. Honestly having ADHD and listening to your podcasts (discovered them this last month and binge them every day!) has been so nice. I like how the talk flow always goes, it’s always like the flow with my friends and our conversations. The topics you cover and your discussions make me feel like I’m a part of them and I typically take a topic or two covered in your talks to talk about with my friends on my couch! Don’t worry, us neurodivergent listeners love your conversations! ❤

[@njc1304]

Why do I always find Morgan's "Mmhmm" when agreeing so relaxing? 😆

[@heezypeasy8611]

Her voice and cadence in general are so damn soothing to me lol I love it!

[@Lauren-ib3ok]

I couldn’t agree more

[@annalisekeating10]

23:44 “and my brother was still wasn't proposing” ***Talking about giving your partner an ultimatum to propose “so many people have to do that because their partner isn’t ready” That is just so crazy to me to think that getting married is something you need to be ready for at some point in life. I live in Canada so maybe it’s way different in America but in Canada, every perks you have when getting married (mostly money related) you can just make a contract. There is nothing you can only do by getting married so for me, getting married is nothing more than a love gesture. And you shouldn’t be pushed to do this love gesture, and you shouldn’t feel entitled to receive this love gesture. Also, why can’t women ever propose. It’s crazy to me that a woman would pressure her boyfriend to propose, like do it yourself? To me proposing could be the equivalent of saying “I love you”. You say it if you feel it and you shouldn’t feel pressure to say it, and it might never come. I know more people that have children together without being married than the other way around! No hate to Morgan btw, it just really seems to be a big difference between Americans and Canadians (especially in Quebec)

[@leah3801]

The energy in this episode is completely unhinged. And I love it.

[@merlyn-saygesings9833]

Lauren- "nothing ever bad happens in Canada" *all Canadians bust out laughing*

[@Jorge-jy8nd]

So excited to listen! -happy thanksgiving to y’all! I’m grateful for this podcast and it’s consistency on uploading every week. Love you guys❤️

[@lilyanne6703]

i’ve been having a stressful morning with family and holiday drama, so being able to sit down and watch this was really nice

[@kateduggan2827]

Imagine silent dinner family at a restaurant wtf

[@nuclearana]

in the 1st story, if the gf was annoying her you’d think that upping the chances of her getting pregnant would be the opposite of what you’d want bcs that’s just a way to make SURE the girlfriend stays in her brother’s life and in turn will be around her more??? 🤨

[@heezypeasy8611]

That was exactly what I was thinking!!! Poking holes in condoms only increases the likelihood of her being around for a very long time!

[@borderlesscuriosities9476]

I guess that's where being a teenager comes in, her brain was underdeveloped and not thinking rationally (obviously thats no excuse). Her brain went "annoying gf doesn't want baby, I'm gonna make her have baby" not thinking about consequences. Crazy how the brain can be wired like that

[@heezypeasy8611]

@borderlesscuriosities9476 Yes that is such a good point. She only wanted to inconvenience and hurt the gf. She wasn't even considering long term repercussions.

[@nuclearana]

@@borderlesscuriosities9476 yeah exactly, not any long term thought on the repercussions of that. which is definitely a teenage mentality

[@fricketyfracktraintrack]

Literally my first thought. "Yeah I hate this bitch so much that I'm going to *_check notes_* have my brother get her pregnant so she'll definitely be out of our lives forever" girl WHAT lmao I get that it's probably teenager brain, but I think that's just dumb on top of being a teenager

[@Hermessyhead]

i’ve literally listened to every single podcast of two hot takes and i’ve been a listener since last year~ love from algeria, africa

[@Bunnynxo]

I work as a federal peace officer, and we’re required to get psychiatric evaluations prior (and every 2 years upon hire date) and a physical every year- I have NO idea why nurses don’t follow the same protocol

[@alexianeves]

I feel like we’re friends lol I listen to you guys and giggle at the grocery store and I love it. Thank you for making my day!❤ have a wonderful weekend!! 🎉

[@datrix5354]

Okay wait... The hush hush dinner family.. the boyfriend should have given her a heads up before meeting them 😂 poor thing

[@JusticeNotInTheLeague]

I’m Mexican & let me tell you if my husband spoke Spanish as good as this girl speaks Japanese he’d most definitely be the favorite. Morgan in some id even dare say most minority families they already feel out of place to speak English especially the elders of the family so when a newcomer come into the family and they speak their native language it makes them feel more comfortable & yes sometimes makes their experience in getting to know them much better than someone who’s come into the family and has been around for 10 years that doesn’t speak a lick of their language. Sometimes the newcomer becomes the favorite when they already speak the language. There no other “deeper reason” , if he’s feeling so deep on it. He doesn’t want to hear shit from the other family members because he’s probably not used to being confrontational with them to be like “ if y’all have a problem then y’all should try to make more efforts to learn” This is Generational Trauma at its finest.

[@natibet7546]

Morgan so happy that filming and hanging with your friend makes a shitty day better. Make the episodes as long as you want them to be, seriously. We're all in this together with y'all ❤️

[@devilscarnation6053]

I get so excited for Fridays at work knowing I have your 2hr podcast to help get me through my morning ❤️

[@sarabugg95]

1:14:49 i had to rewind to LISTEN bc I got so distracted by Morgan taking a sip from 3 different drinks back to back😂😂

[@silvaleanne]

Yessss! Happy Thanksgiving! Yay! Cooking/baking in the kitchen... now i have something to entertain me while doing so! Im a newish listener and i absolutely love that i found two hot takes!

[@alealana197]

Yesterday KZbin recommended me last year's thanksgiving episode and I thought it was a new episode 😂I was so confused, I was like "wait, haven't I heard this stories before?" glad we have Lauren this year again ❤

[@mackenziec7303]

I have severe ADHD and my favorite thing is talking to other people with it because we can just let our minds go at a million miles an hour and interrupt each other then jokingly scold each other for making us lose our train of thought and just let our brains do their thing 🥰 I also do the finishing sentences for other people, but Ive gotten very good at almost always only doing it when they seem to be struggling to find the word, so maybe that’s how you can kinda sneak your ND tendencies in there 😂 Don’t feel bad for the way your brain functions! It’s not wrong, it’s just different. And you’ve got wonderful people in your life like Lauren who don’t even notice or care when you do things like interrupt each other because that’s your norm ❤ ETA: CAUGHT THAT JUSTIN EASTER EGG 😂

[@laurinrdh]

For the last story: I feel like most of the time people push their traditions so hard and/or have such strict views because they themselves were forced in to compliance at some point and they don’t want to see anyone else get the opportunity to ditch the tradition. I hope that makes sense.

[@katiefielding6220]

Morgan you are being incredibly misleading. The etymology of “Picnic” did not originate from the lynching spectacles of black men in the United States. David Pilgrim, the founder and director of the Jim Crow Museum, wrote an article in 2004 which stated: “The etymology of the word picnic does not suggest racist or racial overtones. Picnic was originally a 17th Century French word, picque-nique. Its meaning was similar to today's meaning: a social gathering where each attendee brings a share of the food.” Just because some lynchings were accompanied by picnics by some inhumane people does not mean that the word is evil or problematic. I love you and the podcast but please do your research before you condemn common words for misinformed reasons, especially with your large platform, many of whom are not from the USA and therefore our use of the word “picnic” is even further removed from your American history. Thank you.

[@caffe1n8ed]

Thank you!

[@rhyannawroblesky8102]

Farm girl to farm girl - I was already picturing the hand movement for milking a goat before Morgan tried to explain the cow milking analogy 😂

[@madisynw7191]

Lauren is so stinking cute! I loved her little single bit at the end talking about their live show! She did a great job!😁

[@klaudialandicho1725]

Not Morgan saying “providences” 😭

[@zabimaruu1613]

As someone who is casually learning Japanese as an adult, it really is hard, but they have a built in translator/practice partner in the husband and family. I would love that.

[@kotaaface]

@31:52 THIS THIS THIS OMG. Ive ALWAYS done this, and always felt so self conscious when people take it as rude and as a kid I would end up practically begging people to understand that I was doing it to show that I truly understood what they were saying. I feel so much better now that you've pointed out its the add, somehow never made that connection. I know the add is why I get real loud when im excited, but I never connected the dots with this one. Thank youuuuu for helping me come to terms with something that has bothered me my ENTIRE life. Wow. Thank you.

[@beanhope8739]

I think it's funny when they were talking about Kurtis, I was like "he just got married!" and Morgan was like "you should text him!" lmao was not expecting that

[@annaroe7851]

Lauren cracking up during the 4th story made me so happy I was literally cracking up with her! Love you guys. 🫶🏼

[@evemulton1777]

As a Canadian they’re called provinces not providences😂🫣 love you girl😂

[@IndigoYouTube]

Ha ha I was laughing so hard. “Providences” 😂

[@Amandapuhlease]

I’ve been an avid watcher for a while now and will never judge yalls set up lol. I’m here for you guys ❤ you are all very entertaining and have such likeable personalities. I brag about this show all the time at work and to my family. When they ask what it’s about I tell them it’s people who read crazy Reddit stories and give their opinions/feedback and it’s very entertaining. I will say I love long episodes and a good theme every once in a while. I lost it when yall put on the lizard costumes lmao. Keep up the great work!

[@j.c8727]

Had to double dip comment 🤭. I am bilingual and speak Spanish and English. As a black woman most people do not expect it to come out of my mouth. But I love ear hustling in two languages. I love correcting people when they wanna talk crap or assume my Brazilian husband is the Spanish speaking one. I told a woman once it’s not a lost language just watch your mouth you never know who may be listening. My sister and I are also learning Norwegian for when we expatriate to Norway. I will never stop challenging myself and learning to communicate with other beautiful people/cultures.

[@isacarral2736]

I’m brazilian and i hate when i’m telling people we don’t speak spanish here and then someone finds out that i do speak spanish (for non-related reasons of course) and i need to justify myself lol People need to stop “assuming” things and educate themselves

[@bosslady88]

❤

[@mikkat8613]

I’m a guy, love these videos, been listening to Reddit vids for years and KZbin put me on to you

[@michelleh8280]

Really enjoyed this one! Laughed so hard at the shushing 😂 Just FYI - the term picnic is not racist, you can still use it! The term comes from French ‘pique-nique’, which just means ‘potluck’ basically :)

[@AshleyAmbrose94]

how would it be considered racist? it's literally an outdoor meal

[@michelleh8280]

@@AshleyAmbrose94 Just misinformation being spread on social media!

[@mickymcbryan4814]

@@AshleyAmbrose94 a Florida politician accidentally spread misinformation about the word originating in lynching when it’s actually a very old French word.

[@justchuiED]

Thank you! I've heard a few people claim that it's racist because of that one guy, and every time I roll my eyes.

[@jenenenena]

Yeah I was thinking about how us in other countries it definitely didn’t mean what Morgan said it does

[@traxylopez9735]

My heart is so happy that you guys uploaded today. I’m currently working so having a new episode by you makes it so much better. ❤

[@kendramckay2225]

On the topic of regular mental health screenings, they kinda do them at my gynecologist office whenever I go in! It’s a really basic set of questions but they cover the most important ones to see where you’re at. I answered yes to a few of the more scary ones and they gave me some papers and pamphlets with information on getting help and that’s how I ended up at the therapist that I’m seeing now! If they didn’t take the time to ask me those questions I don’t think I would have sought out therapy on my own because it was such a daunting task in the headspace I was in. I will always be grateful to them for doing that for me. I hope it becomes a more regular thing!

[@kendramckay2225]

Just like Morgan said, someone opened the door for me and it was what I needed to start getting help💛

[@carinarichardson6634]

How counterproductive for the sister to poke holes in the condom if she thinks the girlfriend is annoying that's a surefire way to have her in your life for minimum the next 18 years.....

[@meh5036]

I love when Lauren comes on, you're so great to listen to!

[@pikalad]

With the Japanese story, I agree with Lauren that it must be a pressure thing. And, just like Morgan said, he shouldn't invite her if he is worried about the relationship.

[@Kimberly-wl8gv]

I think her Japanese is better than his. Sounds like he may have been raised in the USA and often these children don’t speak as well as their parents. He even said she sounds as close to a native speaker as possible. I think He is embarrassed because his parents and grandparents would give him a hard time 😂

[@beeaunghka]

Omg I’m so excited I’ve been scrolling on KZbin for like 10 minutes trying to find something to watch while getting ready and then I was blessed w this notification 🥰

[@winn4319]

“Picnic” isn’t racist. It comes from the french pique-nique which essentially means to peck at small food. Certain people took it and made it a racist tradition as they did with many other things, but the word doesn’t mean anything racist.

[@Kyoko0815]

Came here go say this :)

[@augustlunaonline]

FYI: I love the tangents! I love the little side stories! I think it enriches the podcast

[@maclement727]

Morgan I swear there's so many times you get me in my feelings about certain things and I swear I just wish we could meet in person! I feel like I'm in need of a friend group like yalls is! That's for sure. I feel like the majority of people I meet that are my age just don't understand deeper meanings/connections to certain things. Especially living in a generation that didn't completely grow up on the internet but had access to it in the teen years! Yall are definitely an amazing group! I enjoy all your episodes! So don't put so much pressure on yourself! I thought this blind reaction was amazing too! It's refreshing to have things changed up

[@taylorevans2547]

I WOULD LOVE a 3 hour podcast!!