r/AmiTheA**Hole For Taking My Daughter's Friend To The Doctor?

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[@Marco_Onyxheart]

Welcome in the US, where you can't afford to go to the doctor even though you're possibly dying.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Yeah cause we are the “shining example of democracy and freedoms” we are more and more like a 3rd world country every year. Even infant mortality is on the rise

[@MetchiiMin]

Looked up the update for the teenage boy! He appearantly has an eating disorder, op is in contact with his parents and they approved him getting treatment and are very thankful! op is also paying for his treatment

[@ZooTycoon2witchdoc1]

he read the update tho?

[@jqdsilva]

The vegan story: the fact op says she got sil to go on a grain diet ti control diabetes... yeaaa, I call bs on that. I'm diabetic and grains/carbs is a biiiiiig no-no.

[@kristinecollier8113]

Got that right!! LOL

[@momma100304]

Á

[@deadpool5159]

My thing is if type 1 yes it's bad but type 2 can do it it's also now called keto which is high fat low carb as a type 1 that's the only reason I know js

[@MoriKitsune]

Carbs are necessary, especially if you're a diabetic on insulin. The key thing is moderation and strictly following serving sizes and carb allowances set by a medical professional. source: I'm type 1, and regularly see my endocrinologist and dietician

[@NoelleNaturally]

@@MoriKitsune Keto allows some carbs daily.

[@crichtonbruce4329]

For a comment on the first story I'm going to try a paraphrase: "Better to be thought an Ahole for getting them to a doctor than having them die on your watch and remove all doubt".

[@DianaMartinez-kw1hr]

Lll L Lll P

[@TheNormExperience]

Have to agree. There’s an opinion in this subreddit I think needs to be added, which is JUSTIFIED. When it’s literally life and death, if you’re the ahole or not becomes secondary because there are just more important things going on.

[@imranholden1305]

You prolly dont give a shit but if you guys are bored like me atm you can stream all of the latest movies and series on InstaFlixxer. Have been watching with my girlfriend these days =)

[@lucafelipe2347]

@Imran Holden Yea, I have been watching on instaflixxer for since november myself :)

[@crichtonbruce4329]

@@imranholden1305 Why would you possibly think your comment has anything to do with the subject of the story or the other comments? Help me understand.

[@millybrandwood2466]

ATA vegan op milk part isn’t true cows almost always need extra milking on top of the calf drinking, hens always lay eggs no matter what, if she is not feeding her dog meat as they are obligate carnivores.

[@charlieglitter123]

at around 30 minutes when he talks on the woman with depression I honestly wanted to shake him. Markee I don't know if you have had depression but it sure sounds like you haven't. When my depression is really bad I don't get out of bed, for days. I won't eat, play games or watch TV I just won't do anything at all. I just want to curl up and use all of my energy to fight the thoughts telling me I'm not good enough or I'm not worth anything. If my husband had this attitude with me I honestly don't know if I'd be here. You sounded really ignorant dude.

[@AlcremieSwirls]

Hearing him say that about depression was so disheartening to hear. It was people like him, and my parents, saying these things to me all the time that contributed to my stay at a mental hospital. Everything was my fault and I just couldn't deal with it anymore.

[@goldengoodra2941]

Understanding depression for those who have never been through it is a challenge not many people are aware about. I had never known anyone going through depression or motivation-draining disorders until only recently into my adult life, and you tend to say stupid and insensitive things because you aren't fully informed about it. So my guess is it isn't his area of expertise; it's really something you have to experience either yourself or with someone you're in a relationship with to truly appreciate and understand.

[@cherryrose5514]

Agreed.very ignorant

[@podunk_woman]

Sometimes circumstances need to be sure to push someone with depression to get help or make changes. Was OP supposed to just get completely overwhelmed because the gf is depressed and not dealing with it? Hopefully it was enough to motivate her to seek help. Even if they stay apart.

[@XxdeathbyleoxX]

it rlly hurt hearing that. i have had severe depression the whole life. there have been days where i literally cant move sometimes. as gross as it is, i have peed/crapped on my bed bc i couldnt bring myself to move. its disguting and horrible. but everyone still treats us like we are lazy and disgusting for things we cant control. i know its hard to understand if u dont have it but its rlly ignorant regardless. its not being lazy. its hell. ive been in and out of hospitals my whole life, have dealt with everyone thinking im lazy, have been given up on by everyone in my life including medical/psychiatric proffesionals, and have lost everything to depression. so many people fail to realize that depression isnt just being a bit sad. it isnt just being a bit exhausted. depression consumes you and your whole life. often making the simplest tasks such as throwing something away or brushing your teeth impossible. they cant see it in front of their faces as they could cancer. so they dont believe it.

[@theresaatkinson5040]

The problem is if you allow your friend to move in is you may have the devil of a time of getting him out. If he doesn’t pan out he is considered a tenant. The best way to lose a friend is to become a roommate

[@beverlynaquin1256]

The parents knew she was vegan and they should have sent her somewhere else

[@OverTheMoon891]

For me, depression feels like I have a thimble full of motivation and once I spend it on a chore or other adult thing like socializing or going out to pay bills, it takes me days to recharge/refill the thimble so that I can spend it on something else I need to do. Until that thimble feels full, the motivation to do things just does not exist and in the absence of motivation, every single menial task feels like a monumental undertaking, like trying to swim to the bottom of the mariana trench, or scaling mount everest. My mom means well, but she shows her ableism in the fact that she berates me and says that I am lazy and dumb for not behaving like a functioning adult, despite me begging her to help me with therapy and getting me the medication I need.

[@hwiley8141]

Look up the spoon theory. Used for people with disabilities, but I guess you can look at depression as sort of a disabilty. Please dont give in to the " lazy" narrative. Took me a long time to realise I am not lazy, that my issue is not a moral one, but a medical one. Just like depression. Perhaps the problem is people use the word depression for saddness and slso use the same word for a medical issue.

[@theresaatkinson5040]

I have a daughter with depression. I had to teach her not to look at the whole picture but small steps at a time

[@insanebutterfly3439]

I have depression and sometimes I find it better to take it one minute at a time. Sometimes a day is to much to look at but one minute is easier.

[@hwiley8141]

@@insanebutterfly3439 you can do anything for 10 seconds.

[@pixiearro]

ANY time I have a patient that had syncope (passing out), I would insist that they go to the ER. I know they have the right to refuse, but before getting that signed refusal (and FYI a minor cannot sign it), I go over the MANY reasons why that patient needs to go to the ER, and NOW. I love how so many people jumped to the cancer or drug problem. Knowing the background of what is going on in his home, I would have leaned towards some sort of emotional or stressor, and alerted the ER in my report, that psych may need to come in and talk to the kid, as well as a social worker (before you jump on me about the social worker, it's not so the kid gets taken away. They can provide many programs that can help the kid and the family, especially if they are sick enough to go to the ER, but refusing for financial reasons). It is standard to ask all of the questions like "Do you feel safe at home? Does anyone pose a threat to you?" If your EMS crew is on scene and tells you that you should probably go get checked out, you really should. We get paid either way, and it's less paperwork if we DON'T take you in. So we aren't just BSing you! The dad should have called EMS, at very least. Even if they didn't transport, they could have ruled out any immediate dangers.

[@GOGOSLIFE]

You're absolutely right. They can't make a choice not to go to the hospital, if they're unconscious. It's sad that people have to go without treatment because of financial means. As a Canadian, I feel bad for our southern neighbors, who have to make that choice, because their politicians can't get their shit together. As great a country as America is, it's failing it's citizens over money. There are healthcare systems all over the world that they can model after. People make the country, not the other way around. Peace

[@jennya9838]

When my depression was at its worst I stopped doing pretty much everything but living. The final trigger was losing a job I honestly loved. Mainly I slept, or just curled into a ball in bed and didn't move. I stopped taking care of my home, cooking, cleaning myself, or even eating. Had it not been for for my extremely understanding and supportive boyfriend, I don't know where I'd be. For context, I'm a survivor of attempted murder and an amputee (RLBK). It was easier for me to heal and process my emotions from both those experiences. Serotonin doesn't seem important, until your body can't produce it. When the chemicals in the body are imbalanced, the results can be gargantuan.

[@denisa_the_jedi]

The vegan story: It is not true that they have to take the foals away from the mother in order to get the milk. My mother had a cow at countryside and she gave milk all the time, even when she didn't have a foal. If mom did not milk her, her udder would swell and she would be uncomfortable. So getting the milk actually does a huge favor to the cow. So no, eating milk and eggs don't actually harm the animals.

[@TheLugiaSong]

It varies from place to place. There are many farms where calves are sepperated from their mothers.

[@denisa_the_jedi]

@@TheLugiaSong I don't deny that, sad as it is, but I was underlining the fact that cows give milk all the time, except for about 1-2 months per year. Even when they give birth, the calf will only nurse for about 10 to 15 weeks, then the mother cow will try to prevent it from nursing. But the cow will continue to give milk, even after weaning, and if she is not milked she will be uncomfortable.

[@stacys8729]

Exactly - but if someone wants animals treated humanely, they have to pay attention to the brands they try. Some cheese is made with bacteria harvested from dead cows, so also can look to avoid that. And chickens will lay eggs regardless - they are NOT chicken fetuses. And, again, can buy from a place where they are free range and treated humanely. I understand vegetarianism, but veganism seems extreme and they often make statements that aren't true.

[@julieeverett7442]

agreed that was the emotional black mail thing coming through

[@lillambilamb3345]

I mean also many farms send their cows to slaughter once they are not profitable... and i wonder what happens to the male calfs...

[@jocelyneangrignon2856]

Depression is real. He is an AH. Get educated.

[@badangel9592]

Markee, I think your attitude towards the boy who lost his twin brother is incredibly cold, callous, and uncaring. Everybody grieves in different ways and it lasts for as long as it takes. You said he never met his brother yet they shared a womb. Who are you to tell him how to grieve and for how long; especially when it comes to the special bond that exists between twins. You are growing cold and judgmental, you're allowing all of this to go to your head.

[@TraceyJeanne]

We literally just asked for a video doing updates and you’ve already done it !!! Amazing This is while you’re the best!

[@duccboigoosegod4606]

Markee you are so underrated you make weekly about 8-10 hours of content

[@l.s.squirrel4226]

Lack of energy and body aches are actually the physical symptoms of depression, which makes it more than simply "being sad". In countries where speaking about mental illness is still taboo--such as Eastern Asia--they still go to a doctor to get help for the physical pain and fatigue, while the pain tends to be ignored in "The West".

[@hwiley8141]

They are actually starting to see the link. Cymbalta is used for depression, as well as for nerve pain.

[@docb8316]

with regard to people changing their diet due to information--- yes often yes they do.

[@SvenTviking]

“Can’t afford to go to the doctor”. You kind of forget how other nations are completely uncivilised.

[@rookie-870]

Yeah someone should save those poor Americans

[@AKillerSyler]

I can relate to the girl with depression. Mine is seasonal and I find it hard to be motivated to want to do anything, spite knowing I have to get up and be a mother to my toddler and feeling like I have my dead grandmother haunting me and giving me an earful from the other side. There are a few other things to factor in for me on why I don't clean very often especially right now, but my husband understands my reasons and helps on his days off to get it clean especially the chores that are physically hard for me to do right now.

[@ceridwen04]

The vegan story... she shouldn't have had this conversation with the children without the parents, but I also can't get over the fact that they knew she was vegan, and they should have expected her not to cook any meat, prepared or not, and that the children would have had questions. My SIL is vegetarian and even though she never asks us not to eat meat nor she complains, EVER, I feel unconfortable eating meat in front of her, it feels disrespectful. So I try to avoid it.

[@SlitheringDemon]

Yeah I thought he missed this point as well lmao.

[@millybrandwood2466]

The part that scares me that she has a dog I hope she isn’t pushing her dog to be vegan. As some vegans don’t want to feed their dogs meat though completely glossing the fact dogs are obligate carnivores

[@scourgedarkpaw9949]

What was op supposed to do levying the kid

[@jadedjane6241]

@@millybrandwood2466 dogs are not carnivores. They actually do great on a vegan diet. Cats are carnivors and need meat or fish to survive.

[@millybrandwood2466]

@@jadedjane6241 where did you find this out

[@blackbeautysister3]

for the first one, it sounds like someone in that boys life told him "buck up and shut up, your parents are struggling they dont need you to bring more problems" and he internalized it.

[@TheBntimmins]

Depression story: Depression isn't a one size fits all kind of thing. Despite getting help, from the sounds of it she has major depression, aided or not by current would events. All the signs she was showing are legit side effects of depression. Could she have made more of a effort, sure. But was she capable, maybe, maybe not. Yes, communication is important. So is understanding what the GF is dealing with.

[@lilithsmoonchild9519]

I totally agree. Sometimes all the energy I have is just to survive. I think its difficult for us to try and tell people how we feel with our depression cause it doesn't make sense to us either. We see what we need to do, yet our body and mind can't seem to be bothered to do it. It really sucks and it is SOO hurtful when the people we love tell us to "Snap out of it" or "Stop being so lazy." 😔 if only it was that simple...

[@ComaLies225]

To be honest, I didn't have much of an issue with the vegan story until the user at 14:08 pointed out the grains and diabetes issue. From what I'm reading, diabetics can still enjoy grains as long as it's the healthy, whole grain type. Starchy grains will make their blood sugar spike. I dislike that OP is trying to play doctor to her SIL's health. She's not her personal dietician and this could go wrong if not careful.

[@nightdweller6446]

1st..as described, NTA this kid needs to get medical assistance. Help required.. update : Op is awesome.

[@emeraldqueen1994]

If Lilly didn’t want to miss out, she should have given the kid up for adoption... and she needs therapy!!!! EDIT : for the story where OP & his BIL missed their daughters’ births OP is NOT the but hole EDIT 2 : I have an allergy and it took 5 DAYS to show up as a rash and hives

[@dawnfire5600]

Depression: End of video -- You are a gem and she must be amazing to deserve your love. Sounds like you are actually the main help she needs. I am so happy for you.

[@melvinyoung3474]

If someone passes out in your house, you can demand that they go ER because of legal reasons.

[@beastshawnee]

Going on the healing carnivore diet has saved my life twice. First from the heart issues. I couldn’t walk a half block or climb 6 steps without panting for 20 minutes! One year later- I went on an 8 mile hike over rocks at a fast pace. And I was not even panting when I was finished. The health changes have been phenomenal. Things I never expected… My migraines all went away. My lifelong sleep apnea went away. My insomnia went away. My gas bloating indigestionAnd indigestion all went away. My joint pain left my daily back ache left. I actually thought that backache was permanent damage to my spine and had been told this. but no it all went away and I was in such good shape after losing 95 pounds that I felt 15 years younger for a year. Then I got Covid pneumonia and I almost died from it because I have had lung damage from employment issues for decades. However I did not die because this diet had gotten me in better shape internally and externally as well. I have heard other people talking about other amazing things that healed on their bodies. I’ve had fibromyalgia my whole life and it did not seem to change for a long time but after one full year had passed on the diet I did start to notice that it was a bit better. After two years quite a bit better and now I am three years in - 3full years and still have some issues definitely but rarely do I have any major cramping or outburst of my nervous system where everything hurts all over all the time. I used to have those flareups where I would be in such pain for 2 to 4 weeks that I would want to cry every day and the only way to stop that would be to take a major painkiller but those gave me migraines so you know I didn’t want to get a migraine but I will take a migraineOver three weeks of unsubsiding pain. Fibromyalgia sucks and you know it sucks worse than anyone who doesn’t have it can’t even imagine.

[@hoboheart3728]

1:08:20 Am I the only one who doesn't know if I can agree to the YTA here?? If I had a twin even if I never knew them personally I don't believe I could bring myself to go to any events on the day of death. I wouldn't stop anyone else but a lot of twins say that the other is a piece of them (or something along those lines).

[@katie6731]

I had the same thought. This wasn't a sibling who passed years before OP was born; her twin was the person she should have grown up sharing milestones and experiences with. I don't see why people think it's morbid to take a day each year to think about how different OP's life would have been if she were growing up with her twin. Studies show that newborns can identify their mother by her heartbeat. It seems logical to theorize that OP could have made the same connection with her twin before birth.

[@lorifiedler13]

Personally, i don't get why people memorialize someone's death. But why can't op honor his twin in the morning and enjoy their siblings wedding? Sounds like his mom/parents never got proper grief counseling.

[@sirdrakey]

Who the hell puts medication behind the toilet?

[@daddaughterresellers6098]

First story dad has the right to make him go because he’s underage.

[@staylor3483]

Story 1: child + chronic nose bleed + vomiting + LOSS OF CONSCIOUSNESS = ER!! DUH. Any kid in my care that exhibits these symptoms all at once is going to the Emergemcy Room, no questions, no choice, and I call the parents as he's being seen!!

[@tracie2741]

Too much for a 7 year old. Shouldn't have gone into so much detail

[@lillambilamb3345]

If its too much for a seven year old why do we do it? And try to justify it?

[@mikimishisa]

The same way you don't go into detail about a lot of things with 7 year olds. ​@@lillambilamb3345

[@staycejo1]

When I was born my dad swerved to miss a fallen tree limb in the road and he ended up hitting the tree. So my parents were in different hospitals. They didn't want to tell my mother at first because she was a little busy. When she was finally told she just knew that he was dead. He wasn't, but when he got to the hospital his face was covered in stitches. They didn't want my mother to see him because it could cause complications.

[@shewhokills]

NTA for the OP in the twin story. As a twin, I totally understand. My twin died in utero. To everyone who says that OP never met his twin, that's BS! They knew each other from the moment they were conceived until the second the twin died. When you're a twin, you have an unexplained link. The surviving twin feel as if a part of them is missing for years. In time, you learn to deal, but you always feel it. Just because you don't feel it, doesn't mean it isn't real.

[@___LC___]

On feeding the nephew garlicky pizza: the child may be on a low-FODMAP diet and the child may have diarrhea for days due to her “test”. It may be an inability to digest those chemical compounds, but some people will phrase it as an allergy when talking about children, so people understand that it is serious. This is something that is discovered in children when they have severe gut issues and end up seeing a GI doc.

[@suehirsch6545]

Re childfree friends: Having a kid is like having a huge tattoo on your face. The responsibility is all YOURS and will never go away. Failing to plan (for a support system) is planning to fail. This new(ish) mom planned to fail and needs to turn it around. A real support system is made up of people who ARE WILLING to be there for you in the capacity needed. She somehow managed to miss the memo that her friends weren't willing to be regular nannies.

[@C.L.Hinton]

13:11 What? Lots of people went vegan or WFPB after watching Forks Over Knives. People make sudden diet changes all of the time for a number of reasons.

[@carolb3122]

It will remain to be seen if Bill will actually move out after the three months is up if he vegetated this long at his parents house. Good luck OP.

[@Ecclectic_citcelccE]

The vegan representation was a manipulative way to go. She could have left the dog and baby cows out of it, not all farms are like that.

[@lillambilamb3345]

Ohh, why is pointing out the dog manipulative if its true though, unless you believe that eating dogs is ok?

[@suehirsch6545]

Awesome idea: Getting back to the point of contention later, vs a hard and fast rule of not going to bed/leaving house angry.

[@princesssunshine874]

eesh, reminds me of the people I knew that had Leukemia. terrifying. Btw, if he died in your care and you didn't get him medical attention you could be held responsible.

[@MadScientist-R.N.]

A 7 year old has the capacity to decide to not eat animals. Not the ahole

[@elysiamathias6476]

My grandmother went to a health seminar in 1953. The entire family became vegetarian practically overnight. Peoplecan drastically change their diet in a short period of time. I'm 44 and have never had meat.

[@shannonfbc1]

He needs to go to a doctor something is very wrong.

[@SethUnwell]

For the vegan woman: You literally guilt tripped a 7 year old into your diet. YTA Edit: Lmao this is absolutely a fantasy power trip of a toxic vegan Is that banana girl? LMAO

[@lillambilamb3345]

She never told her to go vegan. She only told her why she was vegan. Also tell me, what was wrong with her logic?

[@podunk_woman]

Vegan aunt... Did she also explain the food web and the fact that many animals are predators, carnivorous, and actually pretty vicious killers? No, because she was only pushing her point of view. We are the human animal and have eaten meat since the beginning.. That's manipulative and pushy. She's lucky things turned out well.

[@germainesmith2940]

OP YOU ARE AN ANGEL RIGHT HERE ON EARTH NOT MANY PEOPLE WOULD DO WHAT YOU DID FOR THIS YOUNG MAN GOD BLESS YOU GLAD THAT HE GOT HELP AND IS ON THE ROAD TO RECOVERY

[@Notta_Brat]

Sorry to say this but twins HAVE MET THEY KNEW EACHOTHER IN THE WOMB!!!

[@lorifiedler13]

Re op with son that has MD. I hope he let them know just how much those fancy wheelchairs that "walk" up stairs cost. I don't believe there is any financial assistance for that. Sounds more like stepdaughter wants to sneak out of the house easier.

[@gabeangel8104]

I really feel for the kid whose grandparents stopped interacting with her or accepting her as a grandchild after finding out that the parents wouldn’t be having any biological kids. My father’s parents disowned him because of ‘something that happened *around the time I was born*’. They went as far as to claim they never even had a son and banned the rest of the family from talking to us too so I grew up with only family on my mother’s side. We have always suspected that part of the (possible) reason was because I was a girl when they wanted my father to have a boy to carry on the family name. Well jokes on them because many years later I came out as transgender, so I am now my fathers son instead of daughter. I also have a partner and 2 sons of my own, as well as 2 grandchildren, who all have the family name, not that I think a name matters at all, but it just shows what my fathers parents chose to miss out on! I don’t understand what goes on in peoples minds because there is absolutely nothing that my kids or grandkids could do that would make me want to stop talking to them and nothing makes me happier than the days I get to spend time with my grandkids. It makes no sense to me that people will turn their back on their kids or grandkids over the kinds of things some people do

[@hannahchristine5240]

Vegan story: Going to be controversial I guess, but NTA. If what OP is saying is genuine, the kid is able to make her own decisions on what goes into her body when told about other people’s views. If she disagrees, fine, and OP offered to get her something if she really wanted it. The child declined. When I found out where pork came from as a kid, I refused to touch it. I would scream, cry, throw up, the whole nine yards. I never outgrew not eating pork (but with more tact and just a “no thanks,” or ordered something else without telling other people what they could and couldn’t have around me). The child stayed with someone who did not eat those items. Sister knew this and still allowed her to have meals with her knowing the product wouldn’t be there and the question could come up.

[@paigehansen8944]

1:49:51 this is not a good update Girly why on earth would he have put your two important medications behind the toilet?? And if he lost them, how did he know they were there?? In one day, he “lost” two items crucial to your health, and one item that’s incredibly sentimental… and when you finally snap at him he responds defensively, then magically knows where all these items are before coming home & searching?? I hope he never pulls crap like this again after getting so close to being caught, cause there’s no way this was unintentional.

[@lauriehallberg5807]

Depression can be hard. Is she on meds? Has she had a medical exam? I've an under active thyroid which contributes.

[@shybiscket]

Vegan story: I saw one video when I was young that made me repulsed by meat. I still ate it all through adult life because i didnt have the means to not. The second my partner talked about cutting meat from our diet I jumped on it. Been vegetarian for a while now. I don't try to convert people tho

[@princesssunshine874]

I feel like "twin" really needs a way to grieve the brother he could have had. It makes it hard because you didn't know this twin, but maybe create a day with your mom where you go to all of the places she had happy memories when she was pregnant with you both. If one of those had anything you could buy as a momento like maybe a back yard garden statue, a piece of jewelry, ect. maybe buy it to remember your brother. I also feel therapy may be a good idea. There is more than the loss of the brother you are feeling. I think a lot of it is what could have been.

[@marstall5181]

Markee , you said they need to communicate. What you don't understand is sometimes it's too much to just talk , you obviously have never been depressed. just thinking about talking is exhausting !

[@beastshawnee]

My friend who had leukemia also had all those symptoms...

[@cynthiaappleton9480]

Hello, hope you had an amazing day!The only reached 104 in Tucson today! Woo hoo, nice day today. I hope your day was as nice as mine! Thanks for all your great stories. You are one of my favorites.

[@darkpotatoking5078]

Man it’s hotter here in pheonix

[@cynthiaappleton9480]

Daemion X , this heat is about to do me in. We were going to drive to Phoenix last night and stay there and then go over to Houstons for dinner. But it was just too hot so we decided to stay and boring old Tucson

[@ravynneheart]

It's 51° here in Wisconsin. Real feel of 48°.

[@kayburnett9492]

Hope that is Farenheit

[@maryharvey6909]

16 year old sick boy under your care, it’s your responsibility to do what you did. So the mother and father are freaking weird and you are the only hope. Keep a really good eye on him in case it’s more.

[@afchicinfla]

Why wasn’t buying another house an option? If it’s not an option hell no the son gets the room end of story. And for three women to throw that little boy away all because of a medical issue he had no control on OMFG

[@princesssunshine874]

uh, why on earth would she feel safe enough to communicate with a guy that says "I understand you are depressed, but you are just being lazy because no one likes to do chores." This is this guys view on depression; just not wanting to do chores. There is no way she could have talked to this guy. Also, the person that says "why didn't she clean to stave of depression." This girl is at rock bottom... You can't see anything out of the fog when you are that far gone. She needs to break up with this guy.. Not because "he was mean." However, it sounds like she is clinically depressed. She needs to date someone who had a greater understanding of what depression is.

[@ladytenor9876]

I found a prescription that really works. I have energy to do chores after making a schedule. I became homeless, was fired from jobs before getting therapy and medication. 😀

[@ZooTycoon2witchdoc1]

what is it?

[@nixxyhasthoughts]

The story with the adopted girl...I am seething!!! I’m an adoptive mum and he is my real child. And what If the did have a bio kid and it was a girl?! Keep trying until they achieve their patriarchal heir.

[@andreabergstrom983]

Not only is it important to get the kid to a doctor, if he is your care., you are liable if something really bad happened and you had ignored the situation.

[@arleneroberts8886]

It’s up to her, she needs to start taking care of her self

[@arleneroberts8886]

It takes time

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

Sounds like Bill is trying to blame everyone but himself. If he would like to come visit for a week or two that’s one thing. But he held on to his dream . He needs to communicate with you.

[@nachyocheeze9348]

For the first story you were absolutely not the a-hole.I would "pass out" (I put pass out in quotations because it wasn't like blackout passing out if that makes any sense) and be super nauseous. It escalated to me not being able to get out of bed because everything hurt because my head hurts so bad. Also I wasn't eating and constantly throwing up. Later after my Mom took me to the ER because she thought I had food poisoning I ended up having brain cancer. Edit: I also did not want to go to the emergency room or see my doctor but my mom had too veto that decision after I spent days without eating and vomiting in the morning.

[@steffismile14]

I do not think op in the vegan storry is the A.H. she only told the kid the true and the kid decided she didn't want to eat it anymore she didn't force her ! I am not vegan but have been vegetarian since I was 6 years old I made that decicion myself no one forced me ! Everyone in my family eats meat.... It may be annoying for the parents but that is not a reason to be angry at OP..... What was she supposed to do? don't answer the questions? she explained her reasons why SHE doesn't eat meat and that was only the ugly true and we all know that... I'm not trying to turn anyone vegan but whether you eat meat or not is something everone has to decide for themselfs...including children... if she doesn't want to eat it it is fine !

[@barbaraunderwood1762]

Oh not all women have stretch marks. I'm 68 & had 5 babies. Never had to work out after each one cause my weight when straight down & my stomach went flat.. My first one I weighed 110 & was less than a 100 lbs when I went home.So for people to think all women have stretch marks after birth is simply uninformed.

[@Yllania]

Ok but if youre wife gets them from pregnancy and you blame them and find them disgusting yta. You got lucky.

[@melvinyoung3474]

NTA you are never an ah for passing on true information and people, no-matter age, can make informed decision. There is no such thing as age appropriate.

[@HubiKoshi]

So, first story about taking the boy to the doctor. Even being asshole aside wouldn't OP be in serious legal trouble if the under-age boy died or developed permanent health problems under his care?

[@melvinyoung3474]

Some times the best help, is no help.

[@pagee7452]

You can have leukemia I don't know how old he is but if his parents aren't willing to the hospital cuz they can't afford it then you need to take the decision to take him to the hospital and get the parents permission to tell them that you'll pay for it

[@rachelm2657]

They do not need to take the babies away from the mom to get milk...

[@SkylerIsHellaBored]

For the vegan story op YTA

[@kellharris2491]

The kid sounds scared. But this sounds serious. It's time for an intervention.

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

The girlfriend will feel better if she lives in a clean space. Leave her alone. She needs structure. With the job the two of them had the cleaning and cooking around that. She should ask her therapist about ways to cope.

[@colettelheureux-stevens3826]

I lost my eldest brother when I was 16 and my middle brother at 19. I honor them both everyday with my life. My father passed 3 years ago this month. To honor him My niece had her "c" section 1 week early so that her son could be born on my fathers birthday.

[@arleneroberts8886]

He made a choice, to leave on vacation

[@sparky.scott09]

i agree w/ that one commenter. it's funny how there are double standards if a woman is posting she's not sexually attracted to her husband who is doing nothing on his end to try to fix the problem vs a husband posting. both op & his wife need to go to counseling, if not just for a few sessions, b/c it's clear neither can get their feelings across w/o causing problems. then the wife needs a nutritionist or someone & start incorporating her children into exercise. if she's too tired for walking after dinner, take the babies out walking at a park while they nap at a park or get baby swings & watch exercises. if possible, she should reach out to someone or hire a babysitter so she can workout or go walking w/o worrying about the babies. the biggest thing is diet. i lost almost 70lbs by changing my diet. i completely cut out unnatural sugars, ate more salads, had healthy snacks (nuts, dried fruit, seeds, etc.), drank fruit smoothies i made, & drank lots of water (to avoid eating when i was just thirsty), & avoided all other drinks b/c of calories. i meal prepped 1/wk. she should have op look after the kids while she does this & it would free up more time later in the wk. it baffles me how ppl think it's impossible to lose weight. i wasn't given the tools to eat healthy by my parents, learning unhealthy habits, but i managed it & i'm really not that smart. you don't need to look up tons of info. stop overeating, avoid bad foods, eat healthier ones, watch portion size, & focus on calories, doesn't need exact numbers (look up how much you should be having for your weight, height, & activity level, adjust as needed). then if you feel you're missing some vitamins, either add foods rich in them to your diet or take supplements. even tho it's hard w/ will power, it's really not that hard. the biggest thing is planning, having an overall plan & then planning (prepping) weekly. it took me about a wk of looking up ideas & about 1-1/2hrs wkly to prep. it's really crazy to me how ppl act like it's impossible. i get it but plan & follow thru. don't give in. you get a craving, wait 5 mins, distract yourself & see if you still have it. also crazy to me how ppl undervalue sexual attraction or act like it's not important in a relationship. if i found out my husband felt this way, i'd immediately start planning to do something & then do it. you do not hold onto a happy marriage w/o it, unless both partners don't care about sex. it's 1 thing if you're dealing w/ a medical issue & i get having kids is hard but life's hard. you don't want to show your kids it's okay to be unhealthy, ignore your partners wants or needs, & model an unhealthy marriage to them. i wish my parents had shown me healthy eating habits & it didn't matter what good 1s my mom had b/c they were overshadowed by my dad's unhealthy 1s. rant over

[@redresearchanalyst]

First, it's not a "coke" problem because he would not be lethargic & sleep all the time if he was "using". Personal note, I had to threaten my then husband with getting 4 of the biggest guys to come help me take him to the Drs. He relented, we went to the Drs asap (family Dr, 3 generations of patients). Dr sent us to the ER & the Dr met us there for emergency surgey. His appendix was about to blow. Because the pain was not where my husband thought it shoild be, he tried to insist it was nothing. Why do some people (I've noticed men do this more, in my family anyway) deny they have a health issue thst needs to be checked out? My own mother waited 2 weeks to tell me & sis she needed medical care. By this point we had to call an ambulance. She died within 10 days. We asked her why she hid this from us. She didn't want to ruin Christmas. Stubborn woman. I miss her.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Children still have a right to choose what they want to eat. As a vegan for years my mom would put meat in my food and lie about it. My moms been on a diet for entire life.

[@CrysRonstelle]

What no one is taking into account is that the brother and sister in law to be asked him how he felt. He didn't like it and they did it anyway.

[@kinglewis6553]

That's because they were asking how he felt about it, not for his permission.

[@sebastiana.l.594]

1:18:53 "my sister got so upset with me and literally blew up in my face"... can we STOP using the expression "literally" to mean figurative things? I mean, there'd be no AITA post if OP had to mop their sister off the floor and walls...

[@cherryrose5514]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@bluejaywoman3421]

SiL and BiL might not be trying to 'bond' with the the baby consciously, so maybe a kinder rebuke. BF losing things: Losing medications is not a little thing.

[@anitavandam2415]

She could still put her up for adoption.

[@princesssunshine874]

to be fair, I was in my late teens when I decided to be vegan, and it was because of a video. The only reason I stopped was because I kept "falling asleep." It turns out, I am hypoglycemic. It turns out, if you have blood sugar issues the vegan diet is carb heavy. It is very hard to get enough protein without eating a bunch of carbs. So I was blacking out due to my blood sugar being all over the place. I did learn some new food prep tricks. While I ate a lot of produce before that point. I looked into a larger variety of veggies and ways to prep. I learned a lot, but no regrets going back to eating meat.

[@suehirsch6545]

Re OP's depressive GF: Crockpots are awesome. Toss something in it in the ams and you'll have a nice dinner when you get home, or toss something in at night and have an awesome breaky the next am. Also, maybe you and she can trade some cleaning services w/ a friend, or trade for other services. It's often easier to clean someone else's mess than you're own.

[@barbaraunderwood1762]

The father that has a son with MS. She knew he had a son with MS so she should have been able to understand & handle it.Shouldn't have married her.

[@strawberry5404]

Vegan story: NTA, she literally saved 40k+ lives!!

[@vCoralSandsv]

I'm so happy to read the vegan update. I've been vegan for 3 years and no one else in my family are vegan. Forks over Knives is a great documentary, I also recommend Game changers especially for athletes. I also wanted to note about the misinformation regarding grains, carbs, and diabetes. Please please please look into WFPB research regarding how our bodies process plants & complex carbs differently than simple carbs and fats. Our brains need glucose and is able to get it naturally from plants. One of my friends has type 1 diabetes. She says that when she's goes WFPB, your blood sugar spikes less and she doesn't have as many crashes. A proper colorful unprocessed diet is healthy and can cover all needed nutrients & micronutrients. This is something you can speak with your doctor/ nutritionist about. I also recommend chronometer, an app, where you can input your meals and see where you might be lacking certain micronutrients whether or not you are vegan, Omni, or carni

[@karinalucas7818]

As a trans girl the story about the 2 dad's was a nice one so happy things worked out and congrats to them

[@amelianekomimi1936]

"She changed her diet over night!! That's fiction and not possible!!"" Uh...if only they knew...insta influencers... 🙄

[@arleneroberts8886]

Plus he needs the space

[@deeplyblue7299]

⭐⭐⭐Thank you for adding the "Applaud " option i love supporting my KZbin peeps ⭐⭐⭐

[@crazyt1483]

With the first one I would take them to A&E give them time to prepare (snacks, tablet, download films book etc) and make a bag incase he has to stay (pick it up once it is comforted)

[@princesssunshine874]

Stepmom and sister are truly awful. However, I would have made it an opportunity to go over storage options and make more of small spaces .I would tell her "it's a good way to prep for college/small first apartment." Also I'd complete it with a new updated girly room.