r/NotHowGirlsWork - How to ”Pick a Wife” 💍

[@NathanielKempson]

"saying no to sex ruins the mood" Uh yeah, I sure hope it does! Its supposed to!!

[@AnimeLuver0604]

Same energy as "if you keep saying you're a lesbian, men won't want to date you"

[@tamiausten873]

​@@AnimeLuver0604 😂😂😂😂 what dumb person says that?

[@nathryl03]

@@AnimeLuver0604 Or "Stop saying you aroace or you'll never find someone" which I've heard so many times, by the same person, it's not even funny anymore

[@Lvmindere]

@@nathryl03 I've never heard anyone say that to me, but I have had people, (a person, my mom), tell them that I may change my mind. I'm not going to suddenly change my mind, I have no reason to. The most a person could be is someone that I would want to intentionally interact with, thus being platonically attractive, (currently no-one qualifies, except maybe some online friends).

[@nathryl03]

@@Lvmindere Yeah, thankfully he's never told me I'd change my mind. He accepts I'm aroace, sort of, he just doesn't accepts that I don't want to date anyone. I've tried to explain what aroace means multiple times, but he just refuses to get it. Btw, I'm sorry your mom is being so dismissive.

[@yasmijnlucy6804]

if my partner deleted my safe files of a game i like, we're over and i never want to see them again. my neurodivergent ass already nearly cried at the idea to be honest

[@AmbiCahira]

Same here! I was devastated for her. I have a stardew save file that is kind of equivalent and the idea freaked me out. Poor soul. :(

[@CCLyssCC]

Yes. Really terrible what he did. I also play the sims and I can't even imagine. I have safe files that are years old.

[@oobtty]

i read that as "neodivergent" and I was like "whuh" also you missed a 'u' after the first 'e' in neurodivergent

[@yasmijnlucy6804]

@ebty4969 English is not my first language so sorry if i spelled it wrong

[@bendingdemon6483]

Delete my save file, I delete you.

[@yasminmorbeck6104]

as a sims player, if ANYONE deletes my seven year save file, i’m never talking to them again not to mention the way he belittles her hobby so much, it’s so infuriating

[@gabrielledickinson4530]

Especially since she spent 7 years on the same file. I start new saves all the time so I can't imagine how many generations deep she was.

[@Tea_laBlue]

@@gabrielledickinson4530 seriously. She must’ve been so attached to that family.

[@urdri]

You probably can restore it if you've noticed it soon enough. There are all kinds of programs to check through your disk. Even if the main save was written over there probably would be some backups that were more lucky. I once recovered coursework that was deleted for several months at that moment because my uni lost the copy that was sent to them.

[@Vera-lv9xc]

it's even worse: she commented on the original post how he destroyed the back up as well, so there is no way getting the save file back. Luckily, she left him

[@jennix8666]

Wanna bet he himself plays video-games and you know he'd be PISSED if she deleted his saves

[@stardustworlds1493]

That guy is such a baby. " Oh how horrible my girlfriend has a hobby. It's almost as if she is a person with a life of her own instead of existing to entertain me."

[@GretchZ]

Really. He probably only got negative attention as a child. He ‘s an adult he should have “grown out of it” (ie gone to therapy)

[@kallista5194]

What gets me is how he calmly explained how reasonable it was, like a psycho.

[@meh2510]

I bet he never volunteered to help her out with chores to free up some "them" time. Instead he whines that her unwinding activity to get away from the stress of constant productivity would be better spent on pampering his wants.

[@Zweiecke]

Maybe it was just a bot writing the post. It seems very obvious to me that reddit will say: YTA. Most popular posts I've seen on AITA recently were created by bots (people with only one post, created on the same day, not saying it's a throwaway)

[@Just1Nora]

Honestly, my hs & college "sweetheart" started to do this. He demanded that if I wasn't in school, I had to be with him. I was working on a fine art degree in university. Classes were 3 hrs long, and we had to spend twice as much time outside class as in just to pass, not even do well! I have fibromyalgia and needed to rest outside all that studio time and this, plus his demands for s*x when I wasn't feeling up to it was too much. Fun fact! Depression meds, and stress, can tank libido individually. Combine the two? That's a nope from me, dawg.

[@leaderlamby]

It always unnerves me when people say "girls and men"...

[@Ammiteur9]

Yeah, while the infantilization of women is bad, I also find it particularly concerning how boys are expected to grow up super quickly.

[@minestar2247]

Yeah, feels weird

[@minestar2247]

@@Ammiteur9 well, life is hard, and work is salvation right? But at least it's better than a century ago where they were sent to the coal mines, and the girls got married at 13

[@tinaday189]

Never understood how men squares the differences inerit with infantelization of women, then go "if she's old enough for puberty she's old enough for..." 🙄 Also, yes boys are forced to grow up fast to a degree regarding responsibilites and such, but the "boys will be boys" mentality that's still popular negates quite a bit of that imo

[@Ammiteur9]

@@tinaday189 Yeah, I was thinking specifically about how there seems to be so much emphasis on "becomming a man" in media, and that this makes me a bit uncomfortable for a bunch of reasons. Or in real life, when a boy is grieving or just sad about something and then they're told to "be a man and toughen up" or something. But there, of course, is the aspect of letting boys and men get away with more immature or recless stuff because they're "men" and there are definetly a lot of girls and women who had to grow up super quickly as well. All of it is just a huge oxymoron.

[@libbit75]

The whole reason I wasn’t interested in sports in HS was because of the lack of appropriate uniforms. Why can’t women wear tank tops in school, or short skirts, but they’re encouraged to jump around in a crop top and bootie shorts? It makes ZERO sense.

[@lampylightbulb]

Because the lingering effects of a men-centric world unfortunately plague us to this day, but are now unrestrained by the societal prudeness that once dominated the fashion industry.

[@hmnhntr]

The number of men that openly say some variant of "but why would I engage with anything to do with women if they aren't making it sexy for me?" just absolutely blows my mind. I'm in your camp. The scanty outfits just make me uncomfortable. When I watch football (very occasionally), I have to leave the room or distract myself when they break for cheer sequences bc it's so freaking creepy. Especially how...enthusiastic other people watching will get. Like, how is this so normalized??

[@waffles3629]

Yep. At my high school athletes wore their uniforms to school the day of games (and by athletes I mean the ones the school actually cared about, so football, soccer, lacrosse, baseball, basketball, and cheerleaders because they were at those games, sorry swimmers and everyone else). The cheerleaders couldn't even wear their warmup jackets and pants because they violated dress code and had to get team T-shirts instead. For a sport like swimming it makes sense you aren't spending all day in a swimsuit, but ugh.

[@kiraeaton5414]

fr why I didn't join tennis

[@animangle]

ngl my boyfriend's track uniform has some pretty short shorts. but i completely agree with the comment on sports uniforms for girls, and in general highschoolers who want to participate in sports shouldn't have to wear things they're uncomfortable with. i like wearing short shorts sometimes, but it shouldn't be a requirement for any gender.

[@angiadcock8196]

Someone telling me to “calm down” or that I’m “overreacting” is the quickest way to get me to go nuclear. So condescending.

[@enravotaboyadjiev7466]

"I told her she was overreacting, and I know I'm right because I don't care about her game and my feelings are the only ones that matter on this topic"

[@ofnir123]

It's funny that these guys are usually claiming that women are so much more emotional than the logical, calm man, and 5 seconds later they punch a hole in the drywall because they're angry

[@informalnarwhals]

i swear people who say that have never been told no or seen consequences for their actions in order for them to now see any reaction as 'overreacting'. so now my answer to them is 'no, im allowed to have a reaction and you will listen to it'.

[@RaphaPortoRP]

Yeah! Those words are a bit narcissistic for someone to say...

[@meh2510]

If I were overreacting, you wouldn't be conscious enough to point it out.

[@nellybongs4276]

The guy who deleted Sims progress is the child, not his gf who "plays with digital dolls". Easily, HITA.

[@NotAnEvilMastermind]

Also, not a goaled game, eh? Then why is there an achievement for playing a family for 100 generations? (As someone with about 2500 hours on the game, i have never even managed to stick with a save for more than 4 generations, which was a few months at most. Can't imagine how losing a multi-year save would feel!)

[@zathtanks]

Like wa it’ll he hears about adult men playing wow

[@MoodlyDoodly]

Yes, bloody insane to just delete a file like that. I can't even imagine what it would feel like to have the commitment to play the same game for seven years.

[@bozhidarabuyuklieva]

I wish I could have the self-control to not punch my boyfriend if I was in that scenario.

[@profwaldone]

If i did that you would find me in a shallow grave before the end of the week, what the fuck

[@Amethystar]

Cumin... is a red flag? My dude, do you know how many recipes there are that call for cumin?! A billion recipes call for cumin! Half the bean recipes I find call for cumin! Do you know what makes up most of taco seasoning? That's right, CUMIN! Now, if she has sorrel, pennyroyal, mace, sumac, and so forth... Stick with her! She probably has made some meals you've never even heard of. (For the record, I only have mace. It's basically nutmeg, but has a little deeper flavor.) And cardamom! Ah... cardamom :)

[@taylorjade6918]

Cardamom 😍🤤 Seriously, the more advanced the spice cabinet, the better food you'll get! That's a way more likely scenario 😂

[@waffles3629]

Yeah, like spices? Spices of all things is a red flag? More like a green flag for yummy food.

[@JovanDacic]

Sumac is so damn good! Reminds me of salted plum. Astringent and fruity, perfect on top of a lightly flavored rice (example: rice cooked with chicken or vegetable broth, grated or crumbled mild cheese on top) But what is up with the cumin hate? Did it remind them of armpits or do they just hate flavor?

[@Known_ErrorMe]

I don't get why he said if she has the spices. she's well travelled by well travelled do you mean 5 feet from the salt at my local Wal-Mart.

[@sarahmustafa2848]

my question to this white man is, “do you think people from other cultures don’t exist?”

[@avidreader8521]

The lady who tore into men who praise her entirely manufactured "elegant and natural" look was hilarious 🤣

[@jaimicottrill2831]

She's fantastic!

[@pancakes8670]

Always found the obsession with "natural beauty" weird, when a lot of the "Natural Beauty" traits men praise are often stuff that's manufactured. Beauty is Beauty imo

[@orelliaorellia142]

It's even weirder considering that men's beauty is kinda manufactured too. You are often seen as more handsome if you trim or shave your facial her correctly and style your hair too. You rarely get to look the most handsome man on the planet when you have not seen a barber in 6 month 😅.

[@loka7783]

I get why it is funny but that's also why she's in the "made up something to be mad about" camp. I mean she paid for all of these alterations. Did she really just want to be able to complain that the effects weren't seamless?

[@GretchZ]

I dig her almost transhumanist attitude. “This is all fake. Completely fake. No one actually looks like this, unless they do all the crazy stuff I do.” And just OWNING it! To quote the lead singer of Dead or Alive: “It’s my body, and if I want to put my nose on my arse I’m gonna do it” (might have a bit of phrasing wrong, but I’m close!)

[@metalsonic1023]

Again. One quote, I believe is true, everytime. "Social media made y'all way too comfortable with disrespecting people and not getting punched in the face for it."

[@33melonpaws77]

:O .... It's true

[@zombieedrea]

Whoever said this is very wise and very correct.

[@metalsonic1023]

@@zombieedrea Mike Tyson

[@hmnhntr]

On the other hand, it prevents @$$holes from randomly punching other people in the face for being "disrespectful" (aka not being deferent to the puncher). The problem with violence as a social consequence is that those most willing to use it are rarely those with the best social views they are enforcing.

[@s.p.d.magentaranger1822]

To quote the great Hollywood Undead: "You don't know what it's like to get your head lumped in."

[@whoatemychocolate]

23:27 Also, PSA: Period tracker apps can and will give your data up to law enforcement, so if you live somewhere abortions are illegal, use literally anything else instead!

[@charlie8779]

Boosting this comment because in this climate, this is such important information

[@TheFlowerchild712]

Mom taught me to use those small in the purse calendars to keep track.

[@GadgetsGearCoffee]

That is so f*cked, I feel for my American neighbors :/ commenting for boost in algorithm so this can be seen!

[@milenamilosevic3739]

That people even have to think about these things is really worrisome

[@floreya67]

It's really sad that people have to even think about this stuff, but yes, if you live in a hostile environment, delete the tracking apps :(

[@intrinsicallylast5246]

I like how Stanzi put the whole bear thing; "Just be the guy that a girl wouldn't choose a bear over."

[@tealkerberus748]

It's a good theory. Unfortunately the statistics about the number of women murdered every year by their boyfriend, fiance, husband, or ex, say that actually abusive men are a lot better at hiding their abusive intentions than women are at detecting those hidden abusive intentions.

[@intrinsicallylast5246]

@tealkerberus748 What? Did you mean this for me or is there a comment I missed? I agree with you but I didn't state a theory, just that men should act better than a terrifying bear. I mean yeah, sociopaths and abusers tend to hide their abusiveness very well and slowly inject it into the relationship until it feels almost normal to the partner being abused. This is true. So yes, men and thus all partners should be better. Be the guy that a girl wouldn't choose a bear over. It's a delightfully simple phrase that sums up really the whole point. Don't be a pos.

[@lampylightbulb]

Yeah I get what you were saying, and honestly it's a good motto to live by so preach man.

[@SingingSealRiana]

Good take indeed!

[@SingingSealRiana]

​@@tealkerberus748this comment has zero connection to what it is commenting on

[@Jaze_ablaze]

“those daughters should be told to leave” mf i did, i legit left when my uncle came over because my mom refused to do anything about how he was acting, no one should be told to leave THEYRE OWN HOME- normalise not letting creepy people around your kids

[@chesneymigl4538]

My favorite, "well what did you do to start it? " when I told my mother.

[@Jaze_ablaze]

@@chesneymigl4538 its seriously so dumb, hope ur ok

[@chesneymigl4538]

@@Jaze_ablaze It was many decades ago now, and therapy helps. But the damage done to my relationship with my mother will probably never heal.

[@Tea_laBlue]

A child shouldn’t have to leave their own safe space to accommodate someone else, especially a creepy adult

[@danielomar9712]

​@@Tea_laBlue but of course , they always VICTIM BLAMED THE CHILD

[@rodentladytwig5012]

I'm still not over the "the little girl didn't curtsy properly" one. That combined with "at her age I could waltz perfectly" makes them sound like a Sofia the First Villain one off villain or something. Like, the kind of person who's going to get proven wrong through the power of friendship.

[@waffles3629]

Yeah, it also gives me "I could walk unaided at 6 months old" vibes. Aka the age most kids are still learning to sit up.

[@jennix8666]

Also if she's American why would she need to know how to do? That's not something we so here in the US because we don't have royalty here like kings and queens

[@KossolaxtheForesworn]

"she is gaming? buts its all about MEEEE!!" deleting my save file would honestly be a relationship ender for me. it shows such a massive amount of disrespect that there is no return.

[@brag0001]

It obviously was for her as well. That's why he even started questioning whether he was the ah at all. That moron thought that deleting the game would be the worst he could do. He doesn't even realize that deleting the game wouldn't have been a big deal whereas deleting the save files was ...

[@VortexTC]

I looked into it and it seems the boyfriend left a lot of details out and was far worse than they seemed, their replies to others calling them out was just digging themselves further, and the girlfriend responded on Reddit and clarified stuff, like them destroying the backup drive when they were upset about the save files, but thankfully, it seems the girlfriend not only left the toxic guy, they did manage to recover their save file

[@anti-usernamesaltaccount3623]

@@VortexTC THE SAVE FILE SURVIVED??????? HECK YEAH

[@GretchZ]

Very immature. Most likely only got negative attention as a child, and has not worked through that. He’s an adult, and should grow out of that lol

[@GODOFAWSOMENESS1]

Instant loss of trust.

[@Ticketman99]

That boy who deleted his gf's SEVEN YEAR Sims save file is why most women call their exes(and in some cases current bfs)narcissists smh

[@ettaetta439]

Don't think those two things have anything to do with each other? I get what you mean but those concepts are not really connected to each other lol

[@Ticketman99]

@@ettaetta439 Think of the reason why he did what he did

[@enravotaboyadjiev7466]

​@@ettaetta439he's upset at her for not wanting to dedicate all of her free time to him. Essentially, he doesn't want her to have a life if it doesn't revolve around him, and he chose to go about it in the most controlling way possible.

[@nicoles.3583]

Bro could've told her that he wants more time with her. But noooo had to be an evil dick about it smh

[@genesisofthebetween]

Thankfully she apparently got her save back

[@Just1Nora]

The 20 yr old whose 35 yr old bf gave her the list after their first time was absolutely disgusting. Her supposedly "ruining the mood" and him telling her not to listen to her body because he might go soft? Yeah, that's relationship gRape, and trust me that even once, regardless of age, can really mess up a person! I had it happen a few yrs ago, mid 30s, and I didn't realize how much it affected me until I was messaging my bff about it because I couldn't kick that uncomfortable feeling, and I started just violently sobbing. When I told my partner shortly after, he wasn't really aware that he had done something wrong besides me bleeding after. He felt really bad, which is a normal reaction to hurting your partner. The fact that a man nearly twice her age was trying to say that she wasn't good and needed to "stop being shy because she's not a v!rg!n anymore" is such a twisted, manipulative, and controlling dynamic! He's watched too much pron if he thinks that after one awkward attempt that she's suddenly going to change into a pron star and is INSANE. I'm suspecting that his "experience" may all be one sided and involves a screen, if you know what I mean. I really hope that she is out of that relationship and safe. It breaks my heart to hear about women being abused by their partners and just thinking that it's normal. That is so sad.

[@thekingwhostitches]

This is so true. Btw it took me a while to figure out the spelling was deliberately wrong LOL.

[@S-ACV]

Can I please have a summary?

[@moodycrab77]

With my ex-husband, I would bleed every time, it became normalised, and I also would take a shower after just to cry. He would get angry with me for not enjoying it 😑 😢. I got good at pretending.

[@motionless_horizon]

@@S-ACVyou can’t read two paragraphs?

[@S-ACV]

@@motionless_horizon yeah, the attention spam is real

[@01Aigul]

There is something very wrong with a 35 year trying to lecture his 20 year old gf on how she needs to just let him do whatever he wants.

[@karowolkenschaufler7659]

he also wanted her to look/sound as if she liked it... I hope that young woman has good friends who tell her to run.

[@hypatiakovalevskayasklodow9195]

🍇ist 100%

[@XanagiHunag]

A clever answer to the text would be "You're right, I do need to up my game... See you in 5 years, I gotta go train"

[@historianKelly]

You're right, I'll never get the hang of this. At least I tried. Well, now we know I'm terrible at it, let's not try that again. I think I'll try knitting or making sourdough bread next.

[@01Aigul]

@@XanagiHunag Or maybe "I'm new to this, what's your excuse?"

[@Bugg...0_o]

The guy who deleted his gf's SIMS save was like "Now she will have time for blah blah blah" Yeah, now she will have plenty of time to find a new boyfriend I suspect. What a piece of 💩!

[@LilolaKnitts]

Or she will have more time to play the Sims without this selfish boyfriend.

[@taylorjade6918]

​@@LilolaKnittsEither way, an entire win. The more you read about the story, the worse it gets, too!

[@Tea_laBlue]

I was thinking that she was gonna have a lot of time to play the game, trying to make up for what was lost

[@Verø.6]

She will probably never find a bf again unless ofc, the one plays sims too as she will probably be uninterested in running the same risk again.

[@twichmcvey6065]

The fact that a pro volleyball team was FORCED to wear sex add appropriate uniforms is vile. They tried to wear shorts and shirts but were told they couldn't compete if they didn't wear the sports bra and panties type "uniforms."

[@kiterafrey]

Every single person who didn't understand, "If the daughter has to cover up for a family member, that member is bad." ARE THE BAD FAMILY MEMEBER. Period. No exceptions.

[@sashadoom]

Exactly - expecting your children to dress a certain way around company isn't unreasonable in and of itself, but if the rule only applies to when one specific person comes to visit, uhhhh, maybe that's not someone who should be around young girls (or women in general?).

[@John_Weiss]

They're also making excuses for a child-m0l3ster. So _eeeew!_ 🤮🤮🤮🤮

[@maem7462]

Right they were missing so much of the point. Obviously this conversation isn’t going to be sad abt a kid who is in their underwear when guests come over. It’s likely about someone who is in a shirt and shorts

[@filypa101]

My mom does warn me to use either a specific pajama or to cover myself with a robe, not because the family member (or acquaintance albeit that's a different social circle, I admit) is a danger or something but simply out of respect and decency, so not having a teen or grown woman in a summer pajamas which will probably have some revealing parts I would say is fine. BUT that's it. It's our house, we dress how we want, and all I do when I'm nervous because the delivery guy/gal/individual is coming, is either put my robe over my pjs or my gym pants on and a shirt over my pajamas (if not too hot). I do this out of self awareness of course but also because a stranger doesn't need to be creeped out or weirded out by another stranger during their work. Because it's weird seeing a grown up or teen in pajamas let's be honest. Otherwise, do whatever you wish dear humans, if it's in your house, your rules.

[@TheParklifeChoseMe]

​@@filypa101 if you have to cover up for one/some family members but not others, that family member is the problem, not the clothes.

[@IndigoButterfly]

Ok, but that comment of the mens and womens olympic uniforms, "they tried but the girls wanted to be pretty" That didn't happen. It didn't happen so hard that it unhappened things that did happen.

[@AnimeLuver0604]

As I recall literally the opposite happened. The girls and women asked to wear pants/shorts and they were basically told "no, you're here to be eye candy for the men".

[@RuthBhmand]

Also in some disciplines it’s ridiculous, beach volleyball and long distance track are like bikinis versus loose shirts and shorts. Guess who gets what!😂 also😭

[@pancakes8670]

What? You mean to tell me someone would just lie on the internet? Why would they do a thing like that?

[@annoyedkitten4964]

Just let all athletes choose which style to wear and see what happens. At least as a regular woman™ I can just buy my workout clothes in the men's section if I don't like the woman's selection (which mostly is the case).

[@CR1MSONACE]

​@@RuthBhmand *Do the men get the bilinis*

[@martletkay]

The guy who deleted the Sims save file is soooo creepy. Like, does he think he's his girlfriend's father or something? Using wording like that she should've "grown out of it", and "step in" to make her "cut back", and him getting to decide how she spends her time because her life is under his control, and giving her a punishment for not doing her girlfriend homework or something. Everything about how he talks about her gives me the ick big time. So patronizing. Also, if you know anything about the Sims, then you'd know that deleting a long running game would only make you spend MORE time playing it because you'd have to totally restart every painfully long step of progression over again. Like, what is the absurd thought process that he should delete it, and then she can just make it again??? Like, spend even more time to make it again???? When she wouldn't have had to do that if he didn't delete it???? Hunh?????????

[@Respectable_Username]

Even a parent deleting their child's save file is disgusting enough I wouldn't disagree with anyone who called it abuse. Breaking another person's stuff, regardless of your relationship to them, is simply dehumanising. Punishing somebody by breaking their stuff is almost _never_ a proportional response. You are taking away something that matters to them, forever. You are deleting a part of their life. To the individual, it's like having a pet die, even if the thing itself was never technically alive to begin with. Of course, this is not including situations where said stuff is actively hazardous to the health of the individual or those around them. But even then, it's better to have a discussion first unless somebody is in immediate danger. _Especially_ if the thing they care about is putting their own health in danger, as for example just destroying a source of addiction can lead to withdrawal that's more hazardous than the addiction itself, so you need a plan to slowly back it off. TL;DR: People who do that are disgusting _regardless_ of their relationship to the victim! And yes I'm sure you OP and anyone reads this knows it too. But yeah, even just the suggestion (even if a suggestion of the dickhead's thought processes rather than your own) that it would be somehow more appropriate if it came from a parent just triggers something in me, as somebody whose parents _didn't_ respect my autonomy to like stuff and think certain stuff was important that was different to _their_ definitions of what one should like and consider important. Their continued failure to grasp this concept last time I gave them a chance is why we're still not on speaking terms. It really messes with you when you don't feel you have any ultimate control over your time, space, and stuff.

[@saishuu.u5717]

Another comment said that they got together when she was 12 and he 16... Telling her to keep it a secret until she turned 18.. I hope it's not true

[@n0va_starr]

According to another comment, bossing her around like a senior is kind of what he does because he allegedly groomed her, with them getting together at ages 12 and 16.

[@castiel8239]

​@@n0va_starr12 and 16 IS CRAZY! Poor girl!

[@Maya_hee]

When women complain about men's video games, they call her every insult in the book and treat her like a villain and a burden but as soon as a woman prioritizes video games, suddenly it's a problem 🤣

[@castiel8239]

They say they want women who play videogames, but when women actually play video games in a normal way and not according to their sick fantasies, it's suddenly unacceptable

[@milanakik1539]

I like that post that said something like: "You say women are weaker than men, but who needs full plate whole body armor and who needs a chainmail bikini"

[@minestar2247]

Oh Yeah, but don't forget that there are some characters that just fight in normal clothes. They might not understand the concept of "needing protection" though if they think it makes sense

[@erinfinn2273]

Reminds me of a comic with a warrior woman wearing the stereotypical bikini armor being asked "don't you need more protection?" And she then takes the entire FRONT HALF of her chest off, revealing that it was indeed, fully protective, but painted to look like it isn't.

[@feuerling]

​@@minestar2247 at least normal clothes don't get in the way of fighting as much as a chainmail bikini.

[@feuerling]

​@@erinfinn2273 I want to see that comic

[@Sylvr-evolved]

@@erinfinn2273there was also a comic sort of making fun of explanations of it like “oh it’s actually magic, the space inbetween is invulnerable. Wait, why do I have to wear this an all?” And then just charging into battle naked

[@saros_system]

18:15 If someone tells you withdrawing consent "ruins the mood" or that they "don't use a safeword" or anything like that, run! Run and don't look back! If you can't run, wheel/roll away as fast as possible. This person is dangerous and won't treat you decently. Someone who respects your boundries and you as a person will always accept "no" as an answer. Always. Thank you for the important educational bit on this, I couldn't agree more with it.

[@lucehawpkins5501]

I just want to let everyone know that the sims save girl ANSWERED on the post, giving some disturbing confession on other obviously abusive and controlling stuff her EX did (Edit : this include the fact that since she was upset and trying to recover them (he cleaned the bin), he took the physical backup drive and smashed it with a hammer.), including refusing separation. One month ago she updated that her saves are now restored thanks to a local shop ! Sims stayed, dude obviously didn't !

[@ВладимирПетров-д1м]

Good ending

[@dasilliestgoose]

Oh I'm so happy she got her saves restored and got out of there, poor girl

[@RoseDragon529]

He smashed the backup drive with a hammer?!?! I'm so glad she got out of there, how long would it have been before that was her skull??

[@loka7783]

What blows my mind is how this guy thought in anyway this was going to work out well for him. He explains, in detail, how full of a life she has and somehow arrives at the conclusion of taking away one of her sources of enjoyment will make her more attentive on him? He should be thanking his lucky stars she hasn't taken him to small claims court for the file repair bill.

[@GretchZ]

WOW. THIS BOY IS A TODDLER. Toddlers are crazy, and putting one in an adult body is dangerous. He needs to be in therapy. For a month. Constantly.

[@MikaNamika]

The guy who deleted his GFs Sims files also trashed her backup files. She found his subreddit and confronted him in this subreddit. She called out several lies. In the very end she got her files back when she got help at a local tech shop. And she dumped him.

[@richardarriaga6271]

Gamer crimes like that should put him in an EA loot box grind for 7 years.

[@claida339]

I'm content at this happy ending, thanks for bringing us the epilogue!

[@taylorjade6918]

Oh, thank god she got her files back!!! I was so absolutely pissed for her!

[@Aaa-vp6ug]

@@richardarriaga6271not sponsored by EA. Government mandated EA-style lootbox grind

[@waffles3629]

Yep. I wish the "he trashed her backups" had been included cause I've come across a few comments calling her stupid for not keeping backups. Like she did, he trashed those too.

[@cur1ouscatf1sh]

I think I blew my dad’s mind when I told him that when I get home late, I try not to have to go up the stairs to my apartment in the dark with my hands full. Like, it had just never occurred to him in 57 years of life that it would ever be something to worry about. I think about that every time I read some smoothbrain comment by a man who doesn’t understand the bear thing

[@lilithleviathan7644]

My young female self would honestly react similarly, but that's because I've only ever lived in nice safe European countries

[@anitawagner9976]

My daughter put it this way: "men don't realize that women have to think like prey" she is so smart.

[@quinn9841]

Clicky in the past: I have female friends Clicky now: I’ve never once seen a woman WHAT IS THE TRUTH CLICK?!????? WHATS THE TRUTH

[@Karmatic_303]

Turns out they were all trans and were men on the inside the whole time!

[@vescabunni]

basically this is the click copy there is many of them they are coming your house to tell you you smell absoluetly astonishing today

[@someonehavinganidentitycrisis]

​@@vescabunnikinda like how he doesn't ever remember r/furryirl

[@prageruwu69]

they all transitioned

[@LonelyDuck69]

@@vescabunni I was about to comment this but thanks for spreading the information not enough people know this 🙏

[@ccre88trixx]

I was a trapped stay at home mom. It was awful. My life has improved significantly being a single mother. I'm doing exactly the same things I was already doing, but without a domineering impossible to please "partner" policing every second of my life

[@Sly-Moose]

Glad you made it out 🎉

[@rebny7801]

Good on you for moving on! I wish you and your children the brightest future.

[@kelseymiller7979]

Your story is my story too! Can confirm, being alone is WAY better than even a minute sitting on eggshells with a toxic partner

[@GrumpyForestHag]

Amazing how half the Internet has forgotten that hiking is a thing, as is living in the forest. Where bears live. And generally don't eat people. Forests are big places and bears typically avoid humans. At the very least, a forest is bigger than a car.

[@diarmuidkuhle8181]

How to pick a wife : 1. Find a woman attractive. 2. Fall in love with her. 3. If feeling is mutual, marry. 4. That's it.

[@GretchZ]

A question I doubt I will ever have the answer to: Why does this process take years for 2 straight people? It’s a stereotype for 2 women to move in together basically instantly, but I married my wife of 6.5 years 3 months after we met, and the process was the above. Is it the BS we see in these videos of treating the other gender like alien beings? Is that what society has done to straight people that “do I like you enough to make a life together?” takes so long? Is it all the centuries where marriage was more of a transaction? The whole “women don’t need a man anymore, so the social systems of the past don’t work” thing? My wife slipped into my DMs, and after a few weeks of messaging I said “Yes.” Then we met twice and I cancelled a move and plans to start a business, because she couldn’t go with me and I couldn’t go without her.

[@JohnSmith-bb7vo]

​@GretchZ So my perspective, as a bisexual (M) in a heterosexual relationship of a year with a woman (also bisexual) I plan to marry: -I only plan to get married once. If I'm committing to someone, I want to make absolutely sure we're compatible on pretty much all fronts. World views, thoughts on kids, life goals, etc. A lot of that stuff doesn't come out until after a few months at least. I do agree that most of my straight friends tend to see other genders as alien beings however; men in particular are socialized to not share emotions nearly as much as women, inevitably leading to resentment and conflict, for example. -I also want to have lived with the person for a while. As someone whose family is somewhat disfuncrional in terms of everyone working equally to maintain a household, this is important to me. -Sometimes you're not at the right chapter of your life. I'm working on a PhD right now and we want to save up a nest egg by living with our parents before buying a cottage in the woods somewhere, so marriage will have to wait a few years for us. For me at least, it's mainly point 3. We keep no secrets, work to support and better each other, and genuinely just enjoy hanging out and gawking over our cats. She's my best friend :)

[@lampylightbulb]

​​​@@JohnSmith-bb7vongl I hear a lot of good marriages are equal parts marriage and 'we're best friends'. I find it kind of great. Especially if you have be best friends with them for a while. I think the reason for this is my parents were best friends before they married, and then after covid they got a lot of introspection that led to them realizing that 1, my mom didn't get enough time to figure herself out in life, to develop as a person. Both of them agreed this was the case, and with the strain of covid that was starting to show, marrying young can indeed have pretty big consequences if you just jump into it right off the bat. 2, they realized that their friendship wasore important then their marriage. So they split up and verbally agreed to divorce, but, they're still really good friends. This happened when I was 17, my older sister was 20, and my younger brother was 16. It was hardest on my brother, but me and my sister took it pretty well after coming to terms. The biggest thing that made this smooth is that, like I said before, they stayed good friends, and remain so to this day. That's how I learned that it's important to end a marriage before you loose a friend. Marriage isn't the be all end all, and it doesn't only have to end on a bad note after a bad fallout of ill-planned-out decisions 20 years ago. Catch the problems before they spread to every aspect of your life. My parents overall had a good marriage, thanks to my dad my mom became a very open-minded, understanding person. But with how young she got married, my father had taken up a massive part of her life, a part most people use to adjust to a world beyond their families/school/college. She needed to catch up on time she missed and, unfortunately couldn't do so with my father. Friendships definitely help marriages, during and after them. Marriage doesn't mean a friendship has ended and something else has begun, it sticks with you, and if you play your cards right it's something you can fall back on if the marriage had some technical difficulties. Sorry for the info dump, I'm just happy for ya, made me reminisce. I hope it goes well for you two, gawking at cats sounds like an amazing pass time to bond over XD

[@lampylightbulb]

​@@JohnSmith-bb7vois

[@lilithleviathan7644]

​@@GretchZIf you feel comfortable with each other, it's cool to move in together as soon as it's convenient. I also think calling each other bf/gf should happen as soon as you decide to continue dating. But marriage is a legally binding contract, you typically spend a lot of money and effort on the ceremony and party, and it's a way of letting your family and friends know that you're pretty sure you'll stay official for the rest of your lives. And that's why you need to take your time to make sure, it takes time to get to know people.

[@EBFE]

"AITA for deleting my girlfriend's saved games?" Nah, you're not an asshole. You'll need to move slightly higher up the GI tract to find out what you actually are.

[@petrfedor1851]

He went all the way up to the other side of tract looking like god imperator of Dune cosplay.

[@GretchZ]

I’d classify him as “a toddler” and not in any shape to be in a relationship.

[@kallista5194]

​@@GretchZi coukd forgive a toddler as they don't have any frame of reference for the consequences. By his age? He knew. He knew better, that's why he smashed the thumb drive backup. This was premeditated with intent to hurt. It worked, he just thought he could manipulate her & that part failed.

[@mineash2945]

... a colon?

[@Amy_the_Lizard]

Intestines?

[@sorcerousfang]

15:06 "I have enough make-up on to season a f****** wok," is my new favorite phrase. 😂

[@John_Weiss]

OMG, I _loved_ that line!

[@Soulessnight4]

'sought someone younger so he can mold and push them to be what he wants' hmm... I feel like theres a word for that...

[@erinfinn2273]

Yeah, I feel it maybe starts with a "g"?

[@CanadianGoose92]

​@@erinfinn2273 and I think it finishes with... *checks notes* 'rooming'?

[@erinfinn2273]

@@CanadianGoose92 *checks notes* Yep. Yeah that's the one.

[@AnimeLuver0604]

Possibly they should *stop* thinking of the children. O_o

[@ofnir123]

@@AnimeLuver0604 But they can't stop thinking of the children, what if that ONE drag queen grooms them! Better they do it themselves!

[@SeaCheesez]

“What are females (trademark)? Idk, I’ve never seen one” - the click

[@whywouldyoudothat1346]

They don’t exist online.

[@niccy_the_niccy]

​@@whywouldyoudothat1346wait... im not real???!

[@mariii__881]

@@niccy_the_niccy you never were 😶‍🌫️

[@niccy_the_niccy]

@@mariii__881 D:

[@Noborraremisvideos]

​@whywouldyoudothat1346 I finally found out the truth... I'm not real...

[@nininoona]

As a SIMS 4 player, what that one guy did was HORRENDOUS. I have a single save file, my LEGACY CHALLENGE, thats over SIX years old. Thousands of hours of play time. If my SO did that (he would never, he actually BOUGHT me the game) I would be SO done!

[@TheLugiaSong]

I feel like I have seen a _lot_ more misogyny in internet comment recently too. Making assumptions about a women, saying "based" when men are rude to women and all of that kind of thing. These people will get nowhere in life, but it is really depressing people really think this way.

[@MusouInken]

I choose to believe that the dead internet is close enough that at least half of those comments are just bots trying to drive engagement.

[@WhyamIalive123]

When you see that youjust have to remember he's either a troll or someone that would never find a loving companion

[@MichelleHarris-zf6wn]

Completely agree, I was shocked to see how many homophobic misogynists crept out the wood work on Billie Eilishs new music video spewing their incel rage at teenage girls on there (they were shocked to be clap backed at by a grown adult femoid) I've been sheltered by the wholesome click community 😆 I know the memes are cursed but honestly didn't think they came off reddit long enough to comment elsewhere 🤷‍♀️

[@MattTheWitchSausage]

Tbh honest, here in France the bear vs man in the forest debate made it to a national and free info channel. There a female psychiatrist explained why and how women would be more reassured to encounter a bear than a man, highlighting the abuse women face. A happy surprise that it made it to the TV at a hour lot of people are watching, leading to a calm and accepting debate between two women.

[@randompotato7391]

Thats super interesting! Where would I be able to watch that?

[@matthewwriter9539]

24:33 "The only spices a woman should have in her kitchen is salt, pepper, garlic.... and other herbs." Um...all the other spices are herbs. I don't know what you are complaining about.

[@01234567891011121338]

Weird way for them to tell us they can't cook

[@sordidknifeparty]

The guy who deleted his girlfriend Sims files is an absolute tool. If she had instead of playing Sims been drawing and had a notebook that went back to 2017 of her work, do you think he would have just set that on fire? he has the audacity to accuse her of being immature and then pulls a move like that

[@crowdemon_archives]

Like, it's one thing I delete my old saves. This one deserves a fucking shiv lol

[@kattriella1331]

Yes, unfortunately, I absolutely think a guy who would delete his girlfriend's Sims save file would have destroyed her sketchbook. His girlfriend's hobbies don't mean anything to him because they don't benefit him. His goal with deleting the file was very likely to make her spend more time with him because he likely only sees her as an object that belongs to him and whose sole purpose is to entertain him, not as a sentient being with her own interests outside of him.

[@thisisdottlez]

​@@kattriella1331 He also probably has sex on his mind for a big part of the day when it comes to her, and he probably sees The Sims as a cock block. I'd be baffled at the guy's immaturity if this wasn't so disgustingly common 💀

[@FederalBurroOfInvestigation]

Can murderers blame peoples' clothes for making them mad, hence murder? No? Weird, according to these peoples' logic...

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

"But your honor, he was wearing a shirt that said "F*ck you, you f*cking f*ck!" probably would not be an acceptable defense during a murder trial.

[@Ramsey276one]

​@@AngryReptileKeeperor an SA trial *especially if the victim is A NUN* (actually happened)

[@kallista5194]

See, if i were in the woods wearing a raw salmon bikini with a bear, i can understand the consequences. (This is also why Lady Gaga didn't wear her steak dress while camping.) My problem, is men saying they have less self control than a wild animal. 🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

[@ly_sho]

​@@Ramsey276one“But your honor, nuns are my fetish, women should definitely know that a lot of men have nun fetishes ☹️”

[@florianfreiberger7212]

"But your honor, he was wearin a RED SHIRT! he was practicly begging to get killed!"

[@AliPieSupreme]

We also keep track of our periods because it's a common medical question we get asked about.

[@hollyjollyxmas]

“I have enough makeup on to season a fucking wok” killed me 😂😂

[@loka7783]

The question that springs to my mind is: How does she know that about the wok and makeup?!? Maybe I'm not up on cooking trends these days, hmmmm....

[@Ramsey276one]

Organic! That's healthy XD

[@kallista5194]

​@@loka7783most makeup for "mature skin" is made with an oil base instead of water, to be less drying. Cast iron is seasoned by baking oils into the metal to make them non-stick.

[@PopsiCho]

as a female, I have never seen a SINGLE woman™️ in my life.

[@someonehavinganidentitycrisis]

Can't see something that isn't real

[@PopsiCho]

@@someonehavinganidentitycrisis thats true

[@RebeccaRyan-ss4ge]

Yh as a female™ I've also never seen any

[@lightblue_12]

Same

[@loka7783]

@@RebeccaRyan-ss4ge So you've never seen a mirror? That's good, mirrors LIE to you. They says stuff like you are fatter than you are, that you look ugly, your hips are too big etc. You are beautiful, never let anyone (especially the mirror) tell you otherwise.

[@Mx.Rainbow_Goth]

27:45 i am watching this with my husband and he said "yeah and like with wine, if you stay in a basement untouched for years, you turn into vinegar" i love this man.

[@fleridanfox6150]

the original man vs. bear argument didn’t even start as a “would you rather” scenario. just makes women pick the lesser of two evils. it came from a statistician who said for a fact that women would rather be lost in the woods with a bear. because the worst case scenario for one is totally unpredictable, and the other is a bear. that is not specifically targeting a woman. it just wants its food and personal space. the men who says women are collectively stupid for choosing the bear are telling on themselves and really not looking into the reasoning.

[@sylverscale]

That kind of assumes the man would be targeting the woman which is why I guess the guys who flipped out about it did so. Paints a pretty sad picture regarding the relationship between men and women which should make anyone think.

[@ida6950]

I still don’t get it tbh. The VAST majority of men aren’t predators and even if that one was one, you could still fight and might win. You absolutely can’t win against a bear. And yeah, bears just want food and personal space, the problem is that YOU are a potential food and also might be in it’s personal space.

[@alisemaleneohme4666]

​@@ida6950some can fight, but again it depends on the man as well. And like they said; the worst case scenario is completely unpredictable. Remember that woman in France who's home was invaded, and she was raped and tortured with a broom for hours, to the point of perforating her lung? I don't know what happened to her, but I know she at least lived long enough to fight for her life at the hospital. I'd rather die by bear than that.(And yes. That is a veeery extreme case, and just original scenario I'd choose bear since I still have faith in men in general. But imagine all the women who've already suffered assault or near enough? Cause that number is sadly waaay too high.)

[@ida6950]

@@alisemaleneohme4666 I agree the outcomes are definitely more unpredictable with a man, but the worst case scenario with a bear seems much more likely than the worst case scenario with a man (even though the latter one would of course be worse). Also just the option of fight or flight is basically non existent with a bear. A man is just a human, a human that is on average stronger than the average woman, but still just a human. I’ve also been assaulted but idk, I guess I truly do believe that most people are good, or at least not raging psychopaths. But I understand their reasons now thank you. I just think it’s really sad that so many women and girls don’t trust men.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

My mom had been happily married to my dad for 46 years, and not only would she choose the bear, but she's actually encountered bears while hiking alone in the woods. They typically run away unless there's food nearby. She's also encountered random men in the woods, and she'll tell you she was more concerned with the men for obvious reasons. But my mother, being a smart woman, was also armed- not because of the bears, mind you. The caliber wasn't large enough to deter a bear. But a man with bad intentions, on the other hand...

[@Taylor-kd9ld]

I'd rather get in a car with a bear purely for the experience of riding in a car with a bear driving

[@HobGungan]

Who is driving? Oh my god Bear is driving how can that be?

You should never get in a car with a bear driving...until you are sure that their driver's license is valid and their insurance is all paid up. Bears can be really irresponsible.

[@ThatGuyMikey1]

Reminds me of that part in Gravity Falls when Stan has a bear drive for him and he tells the officers it’s his “seeing-eye-bear.”

[@Taylor-kd9ld]

​@@ThatGuyMikey1 I loved that scene!

[@AddBox]

The girl in question commented on the post about the sims file. He was controlling and obsessive and took a hammer to her backup thumb drive after she got mad at him over it. He lied about most things in that post as she spent hours with him daily and he followed her everywhere, and he is not working full time, and still got demolished in that post. She has broken up with him and now does not appear in public alone because of how crazy is. And for anyone wondering, she went to a computer repair place and got the save file restored. She's also studying nursing.

[@TwinkleTwinkleTruly]

He PHYSICALLY destroyed her property?! Can’t she charge him for property damage, or something?! Or get a restraining order, cuz YIKES!!!!

[@MadelineTheSworduser]

"Don't be shy, it's not sexy" Too bad then, you're doing it with someone on their first time. You can't be mad at her for being nervous.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

He's also clearly unaware that some men find it incredibly hot when women are shy.

[@MadelineTheSworduser]

@@AngryReptileKeeper Yup. Jeez, that guy sucks.

[@saccharay]

Samantha Lux actually did a video about the 'Man vs Bear' trend recently. The original creator of the hypothetical... didn't even pose it as a hypothetical. All he said was "If a woman was in the forest alone, she'd be more scared to see a man than if she saw a bear". The tiktok went viral, a lot of men got really butthurt about what he said, and lots of people made tiktoks about it as a 'would you rather' situation. While women often would pick the bear, the emergence of a hypothetical allowed men the chance to twist it around and sprinkle in some good old fashioned ✨misogyny✨ into it.

[@trishapellis]

Well in a sense this isn't twisting, it's evidence. One single person - a man, to be precise - made a very general statement about women. Now it's very possible that this particular man had a lot of contact with women and knew what he was talking about concerning the women he knew, but in the grand scheme of things, one can say that this is still a very small sample size. So the "would you rather" thing that happened next, if it had been done in good faith, would have been just... providing evidence to prove or disprove the hypothetical. I say "if it had been done in good faith" because you just *know* a good number of those tiktokers etc staged and/or edited stuff to make it look like one answer was predominant by a large margin, or even the only answer they received at all, even if that may not have been the case. After all, they aren't scientists... they just need those juicy, juicy views, and this was perfect fodder for ragebait. In the end, if the original tiktok was all there was to it, the toxic men would've been able to just ignore it based on the fact that it was one guy saying this thing and it was probably ragebait anyway (I'm not saying that the original tiktok was ragebait, but the toxic men could have made themselves believe that to avoid introspection). But with so many women agreeing that they would, indeed, pick the bear, the toxic dudebros couldn't ignore this or make one bad kitchen joke about it and move on with their lives. Now that there was proof, it had become important. They started feeling the need to twist the debate in their favor because it became big enough that they felt threatened by it. That's what I think happened, anyway.

[@TheGamer2001]

So, a men created a controversy to spark another tidal wave of misoginy? Figures.

[@Alias_Anybody]

I think if you *genuinely* asked that question and mean it completely literally, just the risk of encountering one average male hiker vs one average brown bear on an average trail, then any woman who picks the bear has probably never left the city nor actually seen any mammal larger than a dog and judges the species bear based on the movie Paddington. The idea that wild animals are a petting zoo is actually a completely unrelated phenomenon.

[@allyh7075]

@@Alias_Anybody Worst case scenario with a bear - it ends me pretty quickly. Worst case scenario with a man - t*rture, SA, k*dnapping, tr*fficking, cruelty and misery for an unknown period of time. I'll take my chances with a damn *polar* bear when that's the alternative. Also, it was based on the statistic that 1 in 3 women will be attacked by a man in her lifetime, whereas actually being attacked by a bear while hiking is exponentially less common. I think people need to consider that while men aren't inherently bad, there is no way that the "vast majority" of men are safe to be around alone when you look at a statistic like that. People who say things like "any woman who picks the bear..." are forgetting that 1 out of 3 of us have already experienced what an "average male" can do.

[@Alias_Anybody]

@@allyh7075 So you literally can't read? The assumption was just one man and one bear. Not somewhere in the forest, but 15m away. How common it is to encounter bears is literally irrelevant for that question. Coconuts kill more people than Great White Sharks, but that's not relevant if the question is who you'd prefer to have in the same pool with you. Polar bear vs hiker is literally a 95% chance of being ripped apart alive vs a 99% chance of saying high and walking past each other. Oh, and even brown bears DO NOT always end you quickly. There are literally recordings of one eating a couple alive.

[@TheTrueMr.Chicken]

31:13 THIS LITERALLY ISN'T TRUE FOR A LOT OF ANIMALS. A lot get abandoned by the father, some like Octopi die after mating, and then you have the praying mantis which literally eats it's husband after mating.

[@voidsatas1524]

I wish some women could do the praying mantis thing, but no mating

[@KewlImp]

Here is the deal with "alphas". Most people don't understand the study. (Using female when describing non-humans.) BUT, allow me to point out, many species don't have male leaders/alphas. Male lions are for scaring away other male lions, not running the pride, he's a bodyguard. Wolf packs are typically small family units, not large packs, and typically ran with the females when they get to that large size. Penguins share parental responsibilities, there is no "alpha". Male seahorses are responsible for taking care of the young seahorses, not the female. This only "alpha male" stuff is garbage.

[@N0va_Fr]

And the entire alpha beta shit is also made up as wolves don't use that system! The person who invented it admitted it themselves

[@marcusreading3783]

IT doesnt help that the 'study' that whole thing came from was flawed from teh ground up and the one who did it ended up pulling the whole thing because of it.

[@KewlImp]

@@marcusreading3783 He was specifically studying a large pack that was confined to a small area in a national park. The behavior does exist within wolves under those conditions. But typically wolves don't like to gather those large of numbers, it only happens due to habitat lose and captivity. The initial study isn't wrong, but the original study should be amended to reflect the sample size and location. However, again, wolves prefer family units of 3-5 rather than large packs of 10+.

[@Sly-Moose]

If anything, they should be using the term "silverback" instead. 😂 Even then, I doubt that's still actually how primate groups work. Idk. I'm not an animal biologist. XD

[@klaratehcoolcat]

​@@KewlImpRight. Point being, the study did not even represent broader WOLF populations. This was why the study was retracted. Much less represent anything whatsoever about human behavior, as people like to use it... So embarrassing

[@matheussanthiago9685]

Incel rage bait: "wife material?" Rage bait in question: Literally AI generated

[@trishapellis]

It's a virtual waifu. He's saying he prefers a woman who doesn't exist.

[@taylorjade6918]

​@@trishapellisCongrats to him, women also prefer that for him 😅

[@millytheotterlover1680]

24:09 The minimum body fat percentage a female should have is literally more than half of that. If a female's body fat percentage goes any lower than 12%, the estrogen levels go screwy. Since estrogen is the hormone that maintains and regulates a ton of stuff in the human female body, the whole body will go screwy along with the estrogen levels. Along with sleep.

[@koivunen2489]

That whole "Women age like milk, men age like wine" bs always makes me think: "Yes, cheese: the delicious delicacy VS vinegar: the horrid shit that ruins anything it touches". I know which one I prefer!

[@minestar2247]

Wait, but vinegar still can taste good sometimes, but you aren't wrong about your comparison

[@koivunen2489]

@@minestar2247 not to me it doesn't. IDK if I'm sensitive to it or what, even a little bit of vinegar is overwhelming and drowns out all other flavours.

[@minestar2247]

@@koivunen2489 Oh, well then, your comparison is even more correct

[@cbgaming7209]

Vinegar does help in cleaning, unlike men who say women age like milk while they claim to age like wine

[@koivunen2489]

@@cbgaming7209 That's a fair point

[@Sorkabeth]

Oh my god...I'm backing up my Sims files right now despite knowing that my husband would NEVER intentionally delete ANY of my files! Because he's not a child who throws temper tantrums.

[@elaexplorer]

Even so, a backup is a great idea. Never know when something may happen to the files.

[@Sorkabeth]

​@elaexplorer exactly! I realized while watching that bit that it had been a while since I backed up my saves!

[@VortexTC]

I looked into it and it seems the boyfriend left a lot of details out and was far worse than they seemed, their replies to others calling them out was just digging themselves further, and the girlfriend responded on Reddit and clarified stuff, like them destroying the backup drive with a hammer when they were upset about the save files, but thankfully, it seems the girlfriend not only left the toxic guy, they did manage to recover their save file

[@Sorkabeth]

@VortexTC I'm sorry...he destroyed the backup drive with a hammer!? Dude, that's a literal crime, property damage...So glad to hear both that she left his ass AND that she recovered her save!

[@crowdemon_archives]

Backup is always a good idea because drives can shit themselves lol

[@hellochildren3780]

The period tracker app one made me cringe so hard cause im 16 and used to use a period tracker about a year or so ago (stopped because of dysphoria) and am not getting "raw dogged often" lol. Also does he not think women/menstruating people might want to know when their period is coming so they DONT BLEED EVERYWHERE WITHOUT MUCH WARNING?? Or that we don't need to sometimes prepare ourselves to go out with period products if we know it's due? Also yes some people use it to tell when theyre least likely to get pregnant without protection but that's not the only purpose of the app 🙃

[@Darkloid21]

You know the older I get the more I see how those who deride things as “childish” are the REAL immature ones, insecure too.

[@nicjoy4407]

Honestly as someone who's struggled with being judgemental of people, you got it spot on. The way people enjoy things shouldn't matter to anyone but themselves.

[@littlelizm329]

Real grownups let people enjoy things

[@taylorjade6918]

It mostly makes me feel sad for them, because you know someone at some point in their life "told" them it was time to put away childish things and become an "adult." And we're just not subscribing to that behavior anymore. I think my best hope for them is that they might be able to reconnect with something that gave them joy as a kid. Then they might understand.

[@QuentinPlant]

Yeah, in a way it's a red flag because it's only ever used by people who haven't grown up themselves.

[@HobGungan]

What utterly kills me about the save file story, is that I grew up hearing horror stories about that with the genders reversed, and being told that's why "girls don't understand video games". EDIT: To be clear, that mentality is idiotic and always has been, both judging people for playing games, AND making it a gendered thing. Just think it's wild to see the reverse of the stereotype.

[@33melonpaws77]

Same, it's wild remembering the 2000s-2010s gatekeeping male gamer attitude and comparing it to what I've just heard. Any excuse to be awful I guess.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

A bunch of us hunted down that post on Reddit. She dumped the Uber-controlling prick, the local tech shop was able to recover her stuff, and she’s looking into a restraining order. This guy is a creep; they started dating when he was 16 and she was TWELVE.

[@HavenlyCrafts]

I'm married and track my period. Not because we are trying/not trying for a baby, but if anything medical comes up (not just pregnancy but ANY medical issue), i can give the most accurate information possible. This has helped me so much in the past, when doctors/nurses try to gaslight me into thinking I'm just "experiencing period symptoms early", when it has turned out to be something much more serious. This is what helped me get diagnosed sooner with things like IBS, thyroid issues, and even kidney stones! I have been tracking my period since i was 18, and i won't stop until they do.

[@DAFearen]

Twitter : "Men age like wine" Me : Cheap wine turns into vinegar.

[@Aaa-vp6ug]

But vinegar tastes good…

[@justabird7882]

@@Aaa-vp6ugnot on its own, unless you enjoy hurting yourself.

[@olgar.6604]

Tbh all wine will turn bad with time if not for very specific conditions. Like you have to change the cork, keep the wine in a cellar...

[@audreytwo]

​@@Aaa-vp6uglmao try drinking some vinegar dude.

[@Aaa-vp6ug]

@@audreytwo I have.

[@chrisat928]

That guy who deleted the Sims save is lucky he's still alive.

[@thrillyria]

The fact that a woman has male friends and still chooses to live and love with you, should be a merit. Not a point of insecurity to ban her from being friends with people who may even have been in her life way before you.

[@Threshermaw23]

Oh I love fake Botox lady. It’s so good to see people be real about themselves. She is elegant and I respect the work she and others have put in her. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@sarahr8311]

She is a posed portrait rather than a candid snapshot. There's nothing wrong with either. As long as you're not trying to pass your studio portrait off as "totally natural" and distorting the view of what nature looks like, go for it!

[@ultramidi7165]

“IN NATURE WOMEN HAVE ALPHA MALES MEMEMEMMENJJEBSHBW” Female lions hunt for the pack while males guard the kids A lot of penguins species divide the tasks the same as humans (one family has the man as caretaker, the other the woman, sometimes they have a fluctuating division of tasks) Those are two of many examples (look up sea stars and seahorses maybe) Do your research before ranting

[@karowolkenschaufler7659]

a shitload of mammals are single mums. occasionally teaming up to raise the kids. have these people never seen an animal documentary?

[@rac1equalsbestgame853]

And when a lion fails at his job in the pride, the lionesses kick him out like trash.

[@rac1equalsbestgame853]

@@karowolkenschaufler7659 The vast mayority of mammal females at that. A lot of human women included. It's actually rare for male mammals to be involved in the childcare

[@karowolkenschaufler7659]

@@rac1equalsbestgame853 this can really be infuriating. not only gets "natural" equated with "good" wich is complete bollox. people don't even know what "natural" actually is. makes e want to scream regularly.

[@rac1equalsbestgame853]

@@karowolkenschaufler7659 Same!!! Grrr

[@ItsLux1211]

17:45 This makes me think that he’s probably not ever had much experience with stuff like this and only really ever seen It in Adult media Where things are often exaggerated or are unrealistic

[@Chronicbagel]

By the way, the reddit story of the boyfriend deleting the sims save got an update. The girlfriend found the post as they have a very active account. They broke up and managed to get the save files back!! Also the girlfriend added more context, in that they have an almost five year age gap and he groomed them, they got together when the gf was 12 and he was 16. Also he knew what he was doing the whole time as the gf talked about it a lot, and after seeing how upset they were, took out the hard drive that had the rest saved and smashed it with a hammer in front of the gf. Also his family and friends are racist towards the gf. I believe that’s the main highlights!

[@sharkfae]

jesus christ im glad the gf got out then, what the hell 😭

[@adnankhalid8457]

The second i saw M24 and F20 i for some reason immediately knew that there was something wrong

[@floreya67]

Jesus, not surprised at all about that. Glad she got her stuff back and left!

[@nopenopity-nope6621]

*I am so glad you commented this, you have no idea. I needed to know she got out AND got her saves back SO BADLY, the poor girl!*

[@monoduck]

0_o what????

[@sadmarcelinexx]

14:31 exactly! Men will be like "you're such a natural beauty" when you have foundation, concealer, contour, blush etc. My face is swimming in hundreds of monies of makeup, natural where?!

[@janemiettinen5176]

I overheard that exact convo on a bus! Teen dude said to his gf “Why cant you wear more natural make up?” and the girl was open to it, but asked more descriptions, like what kind etc. The dude said “You know, like the Kardashians for example.” Ive never had to keep my laughter in so hard, I thought I was about to burst, the fncking Kardashians arent well known for their natural look or photos..

[@sadmarcelinexx]

@@janemiettinen5176 not the Kardashians. He's setting her up!

[@Sly-Moose]

Then they complain when their video game character isn't wearing make-up at all

[@sadmarcelinexx]

Especially the girl characters, who are most of the time, MINORS

[@peculiar-pan]

​@@Sly-Moosewhat

[@Idiotdragon8]

6:50 Wait a second. This guy has the free time on his hands to mope around and complain about his partner not spending time with him, but he is simultaneously noting that her to-do list is growing and is likely overwhelming. What is he thinking? In no relationship should one partner stand idly by while their partner is buried with work that they could at least help with. This guy is not what she needs in a stressful time, he’s acting like a spoiled child.

[@_tringle]

I have become infertile from eating scented candles. The

[@IamBored22]

'The'... what? I need to know!

[@osheridan]

​@@IamBored22 He tried a lit one mid-sentence

[@_tringle]

Yes​@@IamBored22

[@CourierCat-isGod]

@@IamBored22 He tried a lit one mid-sentence. The

[@matheussanthiago9685]

​@@osheridan clearly big scented candles got him

[@JustacommenterLol-ic4cu]

“…since 2017-That’s like 7 years!” I feel so old

[@db_524]

Same.

[@jaxscales6158]

That was the year I graduated from high school. I just graduated from college at the beginning of the month (the 11th)

[@Z03_78]

18:18 Not allowing people to say "No" While doing that, isn't normal. That's what we call "Sexual Abuse".

[@tfrtrouble]

Things I've learned from this video: straight men are apparently way more into earrings than I realized. I had no idea earrings were the key factor for attracting men in clubs.

[@lisaty5937]

Ah! Does this mean that I, a wahman without pierced ears, am incapable of cheating?

[@taylorjade6918]

Sparkle sparkle 😍

[@Just_Reading_Comments]

Exactly what I was thinking 😂

[@tonichan89]

​@@lisaty5937You ain't fooling us that easily... we know you'll reach for them clip-ons!! 🤣🤡

[@jokeyeetsy-dy4jn]

I don’t want my ears pierced because I had a friend with most horrifying ear infection I’ve ever seen, and id probably lose whatever earrings I would buy, but this is a lovely benefit!

[@AmberBoBamber9681]

It cracks me up when people say women peak at young ages. I'm 34, and I feel hotter than I ever have. I'm also smarter and more established. People who say shit like that are just bitter they can't have a successful relationship, and rather than looking inward to figure out how to be a better partner worthy of the partner they want.

[@nessyness5447]

30, and for real, at 18-20 i didn't even know how to properly style outfits or hair and my face was too childlike still.

[@nogodsnomasters6963]

Spot on

[@floreya67]

Absolutely! I'm nearing 30 and looking forward to it. I've never looked better or felt more comfortable in my body. I also loove the look of women who embrace the gray, it's so beautiful.

[@AmberBoBamber9681]

@@floreya67 I love that I'm getting white hair. It's so much easier to color since I don't have to bleach it. I color my hair green, and the white picks up the green so nicely, and it doesn't look as bad growing out as my almost black natural hair color.

[@castiel8239]

That's sadly the point. When you feel smarter, more established and confident in yourself you're harder to manipulate and shape to their wishes. It's the underlying issue with men telling women they lose value when they get older. It's just women gaining more ability to be successful on their own and not be dependent on anyone. This is what they hate.

[@RialVestro]

That story with the 20F and 35M is exactly why the age of consent should be based on the age gap instead of a random abitrary age limit. People like this 35 year old man will make the argument that she can give consent because she's technically an adult yet at the same time telling her she can't say no.

[@wartgin]

She was 5 years younger than the rule-of-thumb limit of half his age plus 7. He was definitely searching for someone who wasn't knowledgeable or confident enough to stand up to him.

[@carpe_demon]

I'm in my mid 30s, with a full time paying job, full time volunteer work, and a kid, and I play "digital dolls" 3 several hours per week. Usually while my husband is playing pretend dragon slaying with his old college buddies. She needs to take out the trash then buy herself more Sims stuff to enjoy with her new extra free time.

[@Pallidum]

I'm 50, as is my husband. We both work full time. He's former army, I'm serving as a reservist. Hubby likes to paint his small plastic dolls, while I run my murder cannibal colony on a faraway planet. You're never too old for games.

[@Dragonemperess]

​@@PallidumRimworld?

[@beansandboarsontherun5762]

@@Dragonemperess Lmao, that was my immediate guess too

[@Pallidum]

@@Dragonemperess Yes, rimworld. 😀 I have some seriously old colonies in that game that I would be sad if I lost. Like the Sims it's a story generator of a game, just a different type of stories.

[@Dragonemperess]

@@Pallidum I watched Northernlion's playthrough of it a while back and it was hilarious. I hope you have many more years of fun with your colonies.

[@elaexplorer]

Sometimes while watching the videos, I just suddenly remember that English isn't Click's first language and I'm so impressed.

[@martinjellyman3256]

It does make me laugh when you have people who apparently have English as a first language, and get corrected by The Click. 😂

[@xXSilentMoonXx]

Wait what I didn’t know that’s impressive.😵‍💫

[@lillimay98]

I'm an avid sims player, have been since sims 1, and if my partner deleted my save files there would be blood. None of my saves are anywhere near as old as hers, I don't have the attention span to stick to one save for more than a few months, so I can only image how heartbreaking it would be to lose a save that was years in the making. Always back up your save files! While we may be lucky enough to not have an asshole like this for a partner accidents can happen, files can get corrupted, so it's always better to have a copy of your saves. I have mine and all my CC/mods stored on a separate harddrive and I update it often. Happy simming!

[@christinaify]

Oooooh I wish he'd gone deeper into the AITA Sims guy. Him arguing with the people in the comments as he is overwhelmingly voted the a-hole really shows how horrible he'd been and, to top it all off, *the GF found the post and shared her story* which was so much worse. He apparently took a hammer to the thumb drive she'd backed the files on in front of her as she yelled for him to stop. He'd been following her around campus obsessively, based on clues she seems to be a POC and she calls out his family for being racist, his friends for being racist; the list goes on. Edit: grammar

[@CelestialAnamoly]

I hope she is far far away from that now!

[@christinaify]

@@CelestialAnamoly She confirmed they're broken up in the response and told him to f*ck off lol

[@John_Weiss]

@@christinaify Good! She DTMFA, as she should have.

[@C4n.0f.w0rms]

The funniest part is that bears in the queer community are very buff gay men, i just think its very funny. Go ahead and drive with your bear! Choose your bear "wife"! Haha

[@sylverscale]

Well, if you think of it that way... 😂 Bear all the way! (Okay, I'm a dude and pan but, you know, that type of bear should be the safest option overall for women.)

[@fallenking578]

They aren't always buff. It's just any big hairy gay man. The opposite is an Otter, which is a lean gay man. A more dom lesbian is called a doe I believe and an ace lesbian is a Bambi lesbian

[@John_Weiss]

Internet Uncle-Gay🏳‍🌈 here! Quick Correction: "Bears" aren't buff, but _big_ and/or hairy. Heavyset and/or Hirsuit. Buff gay men are, "gymbunnies," or "gym queens." But, they're not Bears.

[@harqiel]

Well you can be buff and a bear, in which case you would be muscle bear

[@John_Weiss]

@@harqiel I was trying to simplify the terminology. 😉 I don't know where the heterosexuals got the idea that Bear == buff, when it has, for over 40 years, meant hairy and heavy. I wanted to dispell that misconception. Hence why I didn't bring up muscle bears or otters or twinks.

[@robinkholmes7127]

"If your daughter needs to be told to cover up she shouldn't be around anyone" Um... So kids should figure things out on their own? The whole school system is pointless?

[@joestar_kid5208]

Clicky: "What are women? I've never seen one - have you? Didn't think so" Me, a woman: "I've never seen one of those"

[@theagentofchaos1600]

well yeah, they don't show up in mirrors

[@94DeathAngel]

As a wamen, I have no clue what a woman is, never met one either. 😂

[@Samantha-qj9wq]

I absolutely think we would EXCEL as a country if we had a Bear President. And I'm mean the big, cuddly, fluffy, gay daddy type of Bear, not the animal.

[@susannairisastarte5192]

❤🏳️‍🌈🐻

[@John_Weiss]

Woof. Internet Uncle-Gay🏳‍🌈 approves this comment!

[@The_Top_Hat_2]

fuck yeah

[@Aaa-vp6ug]

Why not both? Extra fluffy bear!

[@hmnhntr]

I think the animal might still be a step up from our current options tbh

[@lost_times]

I've played The Sims for years, some games I played along other people, some of them I don't have contact anymore. I downloaded *several* custom itens and reorganized entire cities... If someone *chooses* to delete all my files, I'd be in jail.

[@RSStarfire]

25:00 Misogyny? Cool. Telling me I’m worthless if I’m not a housewife with 5 children? Sure, that’s fine. …telling me I cAN’T PUT THE SECRET INGREDIENT IN MY MAC AND CHEESE? This is where I draw the LINE. They’ll have to pry my secret spice out of my cold, dead hands.

[@AroAce_Psychopath]

I'm already ready

[@eyesofthecervino3366]

Ooh, what's yours? I like rosemary in mine :)

[@election-time-news]

8:58 2 hours a day times 365 days a year times 7 years... FIVE THOUSAND, ONE HUNDRED TEN HOURS. HE JUST DELETED FIVE THOUSAND HOURS OF HER LIFE. He really needs to sit down and think about what he did.

[@lazyvincy13666]

Luckily, he was apparently too stupid to delete it permanently, so she got the save back with some help. Hopefully this knowledge (along with the fact that she left him) will help you sleep better.

[@florerial]

@@lazyvincy13666THANK GOD. As an avid sims player, I can’t tell you how my jaw dropped.

[@nathanielcraig3588]

​@lazyvincy13666 That makes me so happy to hear! That poor woman needs to get as far away from that unhinged monster as possible.

[@emilyavalon9781]

As a woman in a wlw relationship, I can agree that the "Ideal Woman* According to other women" is pretty accurate. My girlfriend and I frequently swoon together over ladies that match those descriptions (minus the no female friends part)

[@calih2011]

The Uncle thing is even worse the younger the girl is... It's horrible off the bat, you have no right to dictate how someone presents themself in their own home, which is meant to be a safe place

[@mossymosscreature]

Unfortunately was in a relationship with a guy like the one giving his gf "advice" about sex, except he never told me how to improve. He was very proud that he took my "v-card" and that being ignorant about how relationships work made it easy to push me into whatever he wanted. He positioned himself as my mentor in every aspect of life then got pissed that he felt like a dad teaching his kid how to navigate the world. He purposefully chose an abused, sheltered, minor to mold and he was never happy. Even when these people get exactly what they want, it's never enough.

[@ZombieKitten944]

I get bored and delete my own save files and start over, but so many simmers get attached to their save files. Some even make lost loved ones in the Sims so they can have a part of them forever.

[@tanyastacy-haws993]

I still thought of myself as a child at 18, I can’t believe the number of grown men who want to date someone so much younger than them 😬

[@grimcreeper729]

People are easier to control/influence/mold when they are younger.

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

I felt like a kid larping as an adult until my late 20's, and I'm not the only person I've heard that from. My parents say the same thing.

[@buffer_brain1917]

I dated a dude in his 30’s when I was 16 (horrible experience). They didn’t mature past 16-18, so women their age don’t want them. The only people who would ever find them cool is a 16-18 year old, until that 16-18 year old starts growing up and the creep stays exactly the same.

[@brassbuckles]

I know of a grown man who's in his 50s or 60s now and still pursues women who are barely legal. His daughters are about the same age. He likes to claim it's because older women just don't have the energy to keep up with him. And he also breaks up with them and then says all women are crazy/all his exes are crazy. There's a common denominator there and it is not the women.

[@audreydoyle5268]

It's just a cover up for nonce behaviour

[@ChaosCataclysm]

22:56 women tracking their monthlies is also very beneficial for making sure their flo is regular. The lack of or irregularity can indicate issues like hormone inbalance, deficencies, endrometriosis, ovarian cancer or any other number of health issues women have to deal with.

[@aRealAndHumanManThing]

Sounds logical, but for gods sake, do it with a spreadsheet or sth like that. If you use an open source program, yor privacy will be way better, and if you can track your finances with it, tracking your period should work, too...

[@AngryReptileKeeper]

This. I'm 40 and I had my tubes tied years ago. But I keep track of my monthlies still because a sudden and wild change in the pattern could indicate a problem, or even just perimenopause.

[@loiracitr]

​@@aRealAndHumanManThing a spreadsheet? Because it works for our finances? Are you OK, man?

[@sherylw4599]

I dated a guy once (me abt 40, him 52 or so) - and he told me the problem with his previous marriage is that his wife went online and talked to other housewives and got all these wild ideas about how she shouldn't serve his every need and stuff. So he didn't want me to go online - and if I did, I wasn't allowed to tell anyone we were dating. mmmmmmm No thanks, dude.

[@ki.44524]

33:20 ... mantis females and some spiders EAT their male mate after theyve mated... many big cats also leave their male mates and raise cubs all by themselves.. which is actually very common in nature

[@drtaverner]

18:39 THIS is why some guys purposefully target 20yo women. They want the control, they want someone who doesn't have enough experience to know that they are pieces of shit. Women often choose an older man for their first time because they are expecting an experienced mentor instead of a scrawny dude who goes at it "hammer and tongs" and is gone in 60 Seconds. Although there are older people who _can_ do this and will go out of their way to make it a wonderful experience, sadly they are in the minority. (True for both sexes in both roles.) Of course our films and TV shows almost entirly show the idealized older person who gently "initiates" the younger person and we develop unrealistic expectations.

[@OdinAUT]

I got to add something here, because one post spoke to me directly. When I started playing WoW I had a guild member who would occasionally help out the lower level players. One day he came into the dungeon with no equipment. When I asked him he told me that his friends had decided he was spending too much time online. So they got his brother to log into his account and throw away all his items. First time I heard about someone doing that and the main reason why no one ever got my password from that day onward.

[@missm0ka]

The sims one is crazy to me. I lost a save file that was a couple months old bc my hard drive wiped. So I know how much that hurt, I can only imagine what losing a 7+ year save file would feel like especially to someone you trusted. I would legitimately reconsider a relationship if someone did that to me. Idc how close we are, if you're willing to do that to a game I care about, what else are you willing to do that to? I would probably never trust that person again

[@hollyjollyxmas]

It’s gotta be rage bait. Please be rage bait

[@rebeccamiller3248]

​@@hollyjollyxmasI agree because that sounded like something a girl would do not a male.

[@fimbles4211]

I've got a file of a 5+ gen family and if someone deleted that I legitimately wouldn't speak to them again.

[@ary3901]

I wouldn't reconsider, I would just break up on the spot. That guy belongs in "Am I the ex" more than AITA.

[@Pirates.27]

If anyone did that to me he would not be a 'loved one' anymore. Since he deleted it he not only broke boundaries, destroyed her property and showed he can't communicate but also he determined by some of his faulty logic she does not know how to spend her time and he should decide for her and he effectively made all that time spent on the game lost. - so that shows he didn't value her time at all.