2000 Year Old Secret To Desexualize Your Brain

[@RealMenRealStyle]

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[@empathyworks8890]

A:THE BIBLE

[@lmXela]

Have you read anything from Thomas Aquinas on the matter? Just curious

[@lmXela]

Also I drew a lot of connections to Catholic orders, especially Benedictines with their rule of Saint Benedict. (Basically about how to live a virtuous life)

[@gortys3929]

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[@gortys3929]

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[@deanstoronsky4371]

My Christian grandmother would say, ”The Devil rides on a Idle Horse". My favorite statement, ”If you keep your ass moving the head will follow”

[@joshsullivan8527]

This could be a reason why the Bible states that we must work.

[@Sketch_Sesh]

@@joshsullivan8527 the worst people I know don’t work and are supported by their parents

[@kevind4323]

"Idle mind is the devils playhouse"

[@gesalbte]

@@kevind4323 Yes. "Heresy grows from idleness."

[@jbone9900]

​@@Sketch_Sesh most jobs are awful.

[@jackjackson7365]

It's more concerning when you consider how many young men are struggling with this. I think just bringing it up as a problem that can be discussed will help a lot of people.

[@AlecFortescue]

You cant have an honest conversation about this because it inherently involves modern dating dynamics and many legitimate grievances that the redpillers and self improooooov gurus built their grift on. Discussion about the state of men is inherently all sorts of "-ystic" or "-ist" and conversation gets shut down because people are so scared of those labels, too.

[@hunter1x]

@AlecFortescue if you have the right friends and circle, you should be comfortable talking about sensitive topics

[@byza101]

Pretty sad right, when you can literally walk around a city, sober and tell 100 girls you think they are beautiful and 99 will ignore you and one will say thanks, stop for a chat, give you her number and be up for a meetup 🙄

[@ramutoki]

This is also a symptom of lack of role models for young men. Young men now at days just dnt have any form of mentorship coming from older men. We need to start changing the culture around mentorship for the better.

[@obelarcapital]

@@byza101 Multilevel problem here. First of all most girls have heard it so much it's lost all meaning unless the setting is right. Mainly it's because if you're looking for a serious relationship that's generally not the way to go. You should try to be friends first and build a romantic relationship on top of that. Don't just talk to a random girl and try to become romantic partners. See if you have common interests, get to know her as a person, then maybe see if there's something there. I recommend going out and doing things you like to do and you'll meet people. Aka touch grass and don't be creepy lol

[@BlakeC27]

It is not the pleasure you are seeking, rather the pain you are running away from.

[@8MillProductions2]

Couldn't have said it better myself

[@anthonyjones9868]

Yup, been played all my life

[@joekidd298]

This is a serious question I've been thinking about. Maybe you have some thoughts. Does what you said apply to rollercoasters as well? A person goes on rollercoasters because it is pleasurable and exciting. If someone were to say "you only go on rollercoasters because you are running away from something" it would sound ridiculous. Are there situations where a person can seek pleasure because it feels good without running away from something?

[@Bingboimealprep]

1000%

[@BlakeC27]

@@joekidd298 Agreed. It would sound a little odd for someone to tell you that you are only riding the rollercoaster because you are trying to runaway from something. I guess it comes down to circumstances and the intent behind the action. But there is definitely a bit of a grey area; it is not totally black or white. You can ride the rollercoaster purely for the pleasure and excitement of it or potentially as a distraction to take your mind off a painful break-up for a couple of hours.

[@menschkeit1]

Step 1 delete instagram Step 2 delete dating apps Step 3 don’t watch porn Step 4 go 1-3 months like this and voila, desexualized

[@rexaustin2885]

Doesn't work

[@rainmaker3948]

@@rexaustin2885 why

[@rexaustin2885]

@@rainmaker3948 did it work for you?

[@anangelsdiaries]

@@rainmaker3948 it's like telling an alcoholic, stop drinking. It might work in some cases, but if it would have worked they likely wouldn't be an alcoholic anymore. For me, the only thing that works, is keeping myself busy. The busier I am, the less tempted I am to do that. Staying away from home helps as well. When the streak builds you will not want to do it even in times when you have time. But the more idle you become, the more likely the relapse.

[@nick_romeo]

all of this is correct, but the first step is to pray the rosary every day.

[@thedude8526]

No one was ever on their deathbed, wishing they worked more. That's the problem I have with accounting and planning every minute of the day. That in itself is a coping mechanism, and many men get addicted to working on something all the time. A healthy balance of work and play is needed for most. Sometimes, it's okay to sit and stare at a wall for a while. Helps me clear my mind.

[@gesalbte]

You don't have to plan every hour for work-related activities. Add the likes of walking, gym, reading books, and chatting with a close friend to the schedule.

[@miketindol1679]

What is it that people on their deathbed say?… I wish had invested more time with the people I love.

[@thedude8526]

@miketindol1679 Exactly. Almost all of them say that. That they either wanted to make more friends or spend more time with others.

[@rasulsamad5860]

Cool you're an accountant

[@jeronimomoraesfilho3409]

I agree completely and it's exactly what I thought when he said that we should account for every minute of our day. Letting your mind go idle is how you come up with ideas and solutions sometimes.

[@DeltaCharlie27]

There's a reason why you have 3.5M subscribers, brother. Your approach is always so balanced and helpful without talking down to your online friends.

[@anangelsdiaries]

He's not your friend.

[@Riley._.Pierce1]

​@@anangelsdiaries Cool.

[@xQz00]

This was wholesome! I like that you touched on the philosophical aspect of the subject, as well as your personal experience being infused.

[@RealMenRealStyle]

Thank you!

[@09lonedrone]

Makes me feel better about myself knowing that someone like you struggles with this. Thanks for overcoming the embarrassment to share.

[@briengreen6859]

Don’t be afraid of the word addiction. Here’s a modern definition. “ an addiction is any pattern of behavior repeated over time despite negative consequences” Tommy Rosen

[@folksurvival]

"Rosen"

[@MiaogisTeas]

That not only de-emphasizes just how bad addiction actually is for people with addiction issues, it stigmatizes regular human coping behaviors and pass times. No thank you, keep that watered-down sewerage to the universities and leftist ideologues.

[@alexxxO_O]

@@MiaogisTeas How would you define it? Genuinely asking. Thank you!

[@briengreen6859]

@@MiaogisTeas I’ve watched a lot of people wreck their lives with various addictions (both chemical and process). This isn’t minimization. Usually we only use the term addiction after it wrecks someone’s life. What if we could realize that and makes changes before that.

[@Apebek]

@@alexxxO_O It leaves out the part that says people have difficulties quitting their addiction. To say it's just a repeated pattern of behaviour with negative consequences can make it look like you don't care about negative consequences. Also it is not just any pattern. People can have a pattern of violent behaviour which constantly brings them negative consequences, but it doesn't mean they are addicted to violence, but can be a symptom of other problems

[@szilvesztertolnai5961]

Really interesting and in my opinion it should be talked about more in this world

[@RealMenRealStyle]

This!

[@lmXela]

It's a social taboo but that makes people afraid to find help

[@szilvesztertolnai5961]

@@lmXela i agree. And that's why we should talk about it more. Nobody knows about it or just don't talk about it. It destroyed a friend of mine's life so i know what can happen.

[@AlecFortescue]

They gaslight you that it is a taboo over getting help. It is not. They don't want people to explore and ask questions why this is a problem because it inherently leads to modern mainstream ideas pushed upon the society.

[@JoseRuiz-ng3qs]

Marcus Aurelius (Meditations) reshaped my life and discipline. I'm a Marine. Now I'm a philosophical Marine.

[@GMacII]

How did you go about reading the book, because he writes it as a journal? Did you read it by subject or straight through?

[@Sad-Lemon]

Phil 4:13: "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." I have the following observation. When I have quality time with God (prayer, Bible study, occupying my mind with spiritual things) I have exactly the same amount of temptation as when I don't. But... I can overcome it effortlessly. When I am on a spiritual slippery slope the urge to do those things is just painful. This is how our nature works. We can set up boundries, engage other poeple to help us, put effort in making our livea more organized but if we don't start with Jesus Christ right here, right now we've gone nowhere. God bless! ❤

[@romanslav827]

Yeah, exactly! That's why you have to stick with a prayer routine, just a like a workout routine, even when you don't feel like it. It's like being a soldier or an athlete.

[@chachichochacorta8577]

Psychology and Style all in one channel? Very well played, Antonio. Very well played.

[@There.Is.Only.Now.]

I thought about sex so much i told my dad its annoying and i want it to stop, i wish i wouldn’t want sex at all. he laughed and told me be happy. It got better in my 30s

[@Bdigital9482]

Wait till your 40’s

[@EsteBahia]

I see you're a fan of infinite water (Ralph Smart).

[@dah_goofster]

It’s only a problem if you feel like it is or if you’re trying to accomplish a certain goal. Humans are sexual creatures it’s just normal and especially men are initiators, if we don’t think about it all the time then we won’t be motivated to obtain it, which leads to depression.

[@JoeyG-o8r]

@@dah_goofster No, sex should not be your motivation. Being motivated by temporal things, especially something as temporal as sex is what leads to depression and meaninglessness. Sex is for your wife for the purpose of having children, period.

[@allenvayner4987]

Soon, there is going to be the rapture. It's when there will be trumpet sounds, and after the trumpet sounds, God will lift his people from here. Also, God said people should be living by the Bible. Amen, and God bless ❤* John 3:16 - "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him shall not perish but have eternal life". ❤

[@Lemariecooper]

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[@tahirisaid2693]

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[@tahirisaid2693]

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[@pianoplayer2260]

Hey man, that's good for the here and now, but if you died tonight, do you know for certain that you would go to heaven? Are you a sinner? Unfortunately, sin separates us from God, but there's good news; Jesus Christ can save any sinner. Let me know if you want to be saved or have questions.

[@jjbgs7298]

Great post. Quit cold turkey 7 years ago and haven't looked back. The battle is daily though, gotta keep your mind occupied with better things!

[@DaiBataieFrate]

Maybe its to extreme. I would say every 2 weeks its healthy to release yourself but without porn. just do it and its done like a quicke with a stranger... its also fast after such a while, you wont last long. you lose a lot of willpower to force yourself not to do it.

[@austinseidel9647]

“And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise. Keep putting into practice all you learned and received from me-everything you heard from me and saw me doing. Then the God of peace will be with you.” ‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4‬:‭8‬-‭9‬ ‭NLT‬‬

[@josueetcom]

Some more verses and thoughts for my fellow Christian brothers struggling with sexual sin: 1. You're not defined by your sin. "Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come:The old has gone, the new is here!" 2 Corinthians 5:17 "God made him who had no sin to be sin[a] for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God." - 2 Corinthians 5:21 You're a new creation. Your past and your struggles do not define you. God defines who you are and in Christ you have become the righteousness of God. 2. Embrace your identity in Christ. "But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, God’s special possession, that you may declare the praises of him who called you out of darkness into his wonderful light." 1 Peter 2:9 You're royalty and you're priestly. Romans 8:14-16 says you've received the Spirit of sonship. You're a prince of the most High God, so don't listen to the lies of the devil that tell you otherwise. "We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ." 2 Corinthians 10:5 Identify the lies and temptations and remind yourself of the truth and of who you TRULY are in Christ. Consider why David fell in 2 Samuel 11. It wasn't just because he saw a beautiful woman. The catalyst for it lies in verse 1: instead of going off to war "in the spring, at the time when kings go off to war", he remained in Jerusalem. He was a king who, in that culture and day, was not living out his identity as a king by fighting alongside his army. It's the same for us. "For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit" Romans 14:17 "For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love and self-discipline." 2 Timothy 1:7 This is the identity we need to embrace more and more each day. We need to be preoccupied living out our identity as kingdom warrior princes so that "we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ". We need to be too busy with God to "give the devil a foothold" (Ephesians 4:27).

[@childofGod717]

Thanks guys🙏

[@calebkelly8221]

Hard verses 🔥🔥🔥

[@Beech1900pilot]

Good video. So many guys need to hear this. I had a nasty little habit that was with me for years. It was relatively recently that i fell down the same rabbit hole as yourself. What really stuck with me was the idea that i was addicted to dopamine more so than the content I was viewing. I don't know why but for some reason this really resonated with me and made it more empowering (and easier in a strange way) to quit. I even grew a set and came out to my wife about it. She took it better than I thought ahe would. I think the secrecy around it was just helping feed the habit. I could go on at length but I think I'll just end with this... Thank you for making this video.

[@AchmedComedy_]

So glad that you pushed past the hesitation to post this. Love you brother 🫡

[@Judge_Jej]

I think there was a guy 2000 years ago who said something about lusting after a woman being equal to committing adultery in your heart and plucking your eye out if it caused you to sin. If I recall correctly his moral teachings are the foundation on which western civilization was built, but he's pretty obscure Antonio I'm sure thats why he didn't make the cut and not a lack of fortitude on your part because you're afraid it would hurt your brand.

[@dustina69]

No need to shove religion down everyone’s throat

[@vincer7824]

@@dustina69 As I recall Buddhism is also a religion...

[@dustina69]

@@vincer7824 when did I say anything about Buddhism

[@vincer7824]

@@dustina69 The dude quoted the Buddha in his presentation, yet no outcry against “religion being shoved down everyones throat.”

[@prometheusrex1]

@@dustina69 Your argument is flawed because, boiled down, it says this: "Don't advocate for your worldview." That's a mistake, because the world is better when everyone is free to advocate for a worldview--religious or not--because MORE expression gets society closer to truth. If a religion is false, its falsity will be exposed under the pressure of experimentation and competing ideas.

[@yurydmorales]

- 0:00🔒 Initial hesitation to discuss the topic due to personal discomfort and realization of personal involvement. - 3:08🧠 Benefits of desexualizing the brain: improved mental clarity, enhanced productivity, better emotional regulation, healthier relationships, increased self-control. - 6:31🔒 Committing to a life of eudaimonia over hedonism as a philosophy for fulfillment and virtue. - 9:34⏰ Importance of discipline and routine in avoiding idle time and potential pitfalls. - 10:30☠ Practicing "Memento Mori" to stay focused on meaningful pursuits rather than fleeting pleasures. - 11:39🧘‍♂ Utilizing meditation and mindfulness to acknowledge and redirect sexual impulses positively. - 13:11⚖ Using negative visualization to deter indulgence and prioritize long-term goals. - 13:52🍫 Embracing simple pleasures as healthier coping mechanisms, such as dark chocolate and tea.

[@petermyers6952]

Antonio, thanks so much for making this video! Thank you for being vulnerable and honest with your community, its encouraging! I'm a Roman Catholic and like many men, struggled with this for years, its only been the past couple years that I've been pretty much free of this vice, and it took a lot of the steps you detailed here, so I can personally attest to how effective your suggestions are, including building virtue and learning to deny yourself so ask to make better decisions! Thanks for sharing!

[@wolfgangbarreto1833]

My friend YOU have done a great thing in this video. This subject is hardly ever addressed when it is actually one of the biggest problems society has today. Many thanks brother.

[@timmykuta]

Antonio, you’re the man. Thank you for addressing an important topic many men are reluctant to talk about. Keep it up.

[@kletts42]

The Bible also teaches about resisting looking lustful at someone you're not married to. This is a good message.

[@MountainJohn]

no one will openly support the bible in this day and age.

[@livingunderarockunderarock9963]

@@MountainJohn I will. I go to church and read the Bible with my family. I’m not ashamed of that.

[@kletts42]

@@MountainJohn There are a few of us who do. :)

[@MGAC1701]

@@MountainJohn I do.

[@МыколаНетребко]

the Bible? The Bible also talks about David, a man after God's own heart, who had multiple wives and concubines. After Saul, David took his wives to be his own. He also took Bathsheba to be his wife and had Uriah killed so that he could have his wife legitimately. And the God of the Bible never punished David for polygamy. He only punished his and Bathsheba's first child because David had Uriah killed. But afterwards all was well for David..

[@rockonhero3611]

This was excellent. Please more videos like this. The references were thoughtful. You really showed how human you are, despite your authority within your audience. Felt great to see this.

[@shmoopiebear]

How do you fight sadness? Keep learning. You can never stop learning. You can never stop acquiring knowledge. You can always be wiser.

[@kristijan8518]

Sadness is completely different emotional state from wisdom. You can be the smartest person alive but if you are missing other key aspects (food, shelter, love, family, sex) you're gonna be sad.

[@shmoopiebear]

@@kristijan8518 The top of Maslow's pyramid is self actualization. You gain wisdom the rest comes easier. Or, at least, an understanding. And understanding leads to coping and resourcing. Cheers.

[@kristijan8518]

@@shmoopiebear exactly, you said TOP of the pyramid. That's the least basic thing humans need, it comes after everything else is fulfilled.

[@shmoopiebear]

@@kristijan8518 That's one way of looking at it. Or, maybe, if you have the top the rest takes care of itself or is not needed anymore.

[@sentiment201]

@@kristijan8518 Gratification comes from work ethic, accomplishments, etc., not from a third-party.

[@tagonminmyatpianistandproducer]

Antonio, please make more philosophical videos. you talking about philosophical ways to live life is very insightful to us!

[@Jifffen]

I know this video was probably much more difficult to make than you let on. I'm currently on a similar path of getting my mind and body right so this video is eerily timely. Thanks 👍

[@SimonFox-el6br]

Antonio, I have to say I really appreciated this video. As a student of philosophy I appreciated how you have simply adapted beliefs into the way you think without needing to recognize it as philosophy. You mentioned virtues and I immediately picked up on Aristotle. You also mentioned not being a slave to emotions and urges which is for sure Epictetus. Excellent work friend.

[@austinb5656]

Glad you made this, great video. I believe pornography is one of the very very top problems to men today, leading to mental health, or other worse problems, and it’s sadly not addressed enough and there doesn’t seem to be enough help or direction on where to go when having a problem.

[@MarkRobertsBlog]

Incredible video. Courageous and Honest. Real. And super helpful. Thanks for taking on a tough subject!!

[@alendsouza]

You have studied all these great philosophers but haven't studied and had a revelation of God's grace???? God's grace is not just to go to heaven but also to conquer day to day struggles

[@xtrm2009]

what god?

[@alendsouza]

@@xtrm2009The true God that created me and you

[@xtrm2009]

@@alendsouza "you" lmao! speak for yourself, grehaldinho

[@alendsouza]

Kindly Google and do your homework and get your own revelation

[@xtrm2009]

@@alendsouza Yeah the revelation that you believe in fairy tales lmaoooooo

[@EJ_Red]

This is a problem that should be talked about more, those who are dependent on it don't realize how crippling it can be. I'm actually surprised this is the first time you spoke about it, unless I haven't been subbed to you long enough.

[@wardzrunes]

Thank you for opening up, really enjoyed the video. Cheers from 🇷🇸

[@Stevesguitartraveling777]

Desexualized my brain years ago. Every time I was dating or meeting new people, it was the same thing women playing games and wasting my time trying to become my sex life trying to get whatever they want by trading sex and being greedy about it and after all this time I was wasting, I was getting sick of the same thing so I learned to become detached from it and focus on my future guitar, going to the gym and learning to start a company, I remember when I did my own thing I was having women after me all the time, but it didn’t phase me even women would try coming on me while I’m working and I just ignored it because it’s always the same thing. It’s not long-term investment, it amazes me how many men I meet that are so pussy whipped and so dependent on women that they can’t even focus on their goals and what needs to be done and they decide to use all their energy to make fun of people like me for not having a partner or looking for women, and I always say to them. What’s more important to you your goals in your happiness or a chick that’s gonna forget about you in a week. Please do a video where you talk about your grandparents having a Filipino family. You’ve never met before that story was intriguing.

[@robbkiker6861]

Thank you for addressing a very uncomfortable subject. You are here for a purpose.

[@tekt0nix_]

Just started watching your videos. It takes a lot of courage to discuss a topic like this regardless of all the success you've had. Wish you well in your endeavors.

[@RealMenRealStyle]

I appreciate that!

[@drutledge884]

You've got the ears of many young men. I'm glad you're using your platform to better us in more ways than just style.

[@andrewslebodnick6000]

Talking about this with a personal story is incredible. That's why I have so much respect for this man. The willingness to share this to help others dealing with similar things is awesome

[@adifi09]

Really love your videos, maybe look into your sponsor because better help do a lot of shady stuff and a lot of KZbinrs do not use them as sponsors anymore.

[@tacothursdays6546]

This was a great video Antonio. I'd love to hear more philosophy on the channel, regardless of how the context gets woven in. Funnily enough, what prompted me to watch this one was when I finished up meditating in an epsom salt bath and felt more inclined to choke the chicken than actually finish cleaning myself. I'll definitely be giving the thought sorting tactic a try.

[@treasureon2512]

Stunning video sir. Indeed this is the sum up from a lifetime of contemplation and striving. Thank you.

[@gbh_events]

everything goes together. either you focus on self-improvement or you allow yourself to fall. you all know what helps or hurts you. exercise, meditation, good diet, learning new things - this is a great place to start.

[@bradvincet1848]

It's easier to follow this advice when you're older, but when you're in your teens and twenties, forget about it. I often forget how hormones made it impossible to not think about sex all the time. I'm not sure if it was a blessing or a curse.

[@jas340]

When I was an under age teen there was no porn except for magazines that you found in the woods(dudes would leave them behind for some reason).. Just the spank bank. Still did it on a regular basis but I am grateful there was no 24/7 internet. The problem still arises even in your 60's. Never goes away completely but I can go about one month before the pipes need to be cleared out. It's more about the pressure that needs to be released than being h@rny. The pressure actually gets physically uncomfortable.

[@dadda6450]

Thank you, Antonio. You help a lot

[@robertdavila6391]

The problem is with smartphones everywhere it is easier for people to watch that stuff and it is going to get worse because it is already affecting children. It seems like social media and other platforms aren't doing much to filter it out either, the world seems to keep getting more and more sexualized there has to be a way to control that

[@LowkeyHundo]

The Bible teaches to FLEE lust, because it’s so difficult to resist. Having a relationship with Christ will help your mind and heart.

[@rama7267]

'Flee'....wow literally the same in the Quran

[@LowkeyHundo]

@@rama7267 the Bible came first :)

[@rama7267]

@@LowkeyHundo So did the Torah and the Psalms

[@clintfogie2967]

The Torah and the psalms of David are a part of the Old Testament in the Bible which both of which came we’ll be for Muhammad. Nether the Torah or Psalms of David mentioned Muhammad or describe Muhammad especially in any traditional interpretation of the text. So yes they did come first but that doesn’t help your case

[@homeonegreen9]

I would add from Aquinas, that all temptations begin in the good and from CS Lewis' Screwtape Letter #15 that temptation is usually centered on something that it is the wrong time to experience in order to distract you from something else in the present.

[@Judge_Jej]

Antonio is using BCE and CE, he won't be quoting theologians

[@Unclefester596]

Great Video Antonio! I think more men struggle with this than we realize. Had to smile at the end with simplistic pleasures- chocolate almonds, walks and a whole cabinet full of different teas for me as well👍 embracing the little things

[@RealBullbear]

Thanks for the video. I had a crap day, but after listening it changed positively. Running/workout is my coping mechanism for the most part. But sometimes i fall back. I figured perfection is impossible, but the more positive days than negative the better. Its a victory, live to fight another day.

[@smokingcrab2290]

Desexualizing yourself is like turning off your desire for love, food, safety, community, etc. Your sexuality is important. And it shouldn't be neglected. The problem is that men are being brainwashed to desexualize themselves in order to deal with the pain of feminist relationship dynamics that weaponize sex against men as a means of control and power. So rather than desexualizing myself, I'm seeking the sexual outlet I actually want with a woman who wants the same level of it with me. Because that's how it's meant to be shared. It's supposed to be an amazing thing that's mutually beneficial for both parties. I am a sexual being and I'm going to enjoy it as best as I possibly can because that's one of the things I want out of life.

[@elijahide9880]

I really appreciate that you're talking about this. My addiction started in my youth and I have been in recovery for a while now. It's important to talk about it and bring it out of the dark.

[@darksabzero]

Beside the clothing aspect of your channel, I really enjoy the real, situational and relatable content Antonio. Thank you.

[@FantomMC2]

You give fantastic advice. I'm still a virgin and can't find a soul for whatever reason. I'm not broke, save, do what I'm supposed to, upkeep myself, have manners, have hobbies, etc. idk what I'm doing wrong, but I'm starting to think it's not me at all. Everyone has their moments of weakness though, and I'm no different. I'm curious though since others have their own perspectives.

[@kevind4323]

loved the discussion of philosophy and connecting the ideas to real world examples

[@pianoplayer2260]

Hey Kevin, if you died tonight, do you know for certain that you would go to heaven? Are you a sinner? Unfortunately sin separates us from God, but there's good news; Jesus Christ can save any sinner. Let me know if you want to be saved or have questions.

[@Robert-ck7nm]

Well done! You hit it just right; like your fashion tips; practical, and solution oriented, yet personal, sincere, and benevolent, without getting bogged down in TMI.

[@aky19832001]

People need discipline and have work and goals. I dont have time to even scratch my head at times.

[@pianoplayer2260]

Hey man, if you died tonight, do you know for certain that you would go to heaven? Are you a sinner? Unfortunately, sin separates us from God, but there's good news; Jesus Christ can save any sinner. Let me know if you want to be saved or have questions.

[@maccarnold]

You mentioned a lot of great thinkers from the past and the only one that helps me is Jesus Christ.

[@YuriYeleyko]

Great video, thanks! No man is free of monsters, but defeating one - there is always another hiding and waiting behind the corner. We need to be conscious and prepared - the battle never ends.

[@davidbanner425]

Sounds like we all need a saving relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ! You have to have a love outside of your own sinful flesh to overcome the temptation to sin. Not just what you’re describing but the everyday struggle to fall short of God’s Devine nature. Philosophy will not fix the internal struggle only through a true relationship with Jesus will you be able to consistently overcome the flesh. We will never be perfect but all will have to strive to master our ungodly desires.⏳🙏🏽

[@xtrm2009]

who's jesus christ?

[@rasheedlewis1]

Why bring up Eudaimonia if the point ended up being to set up a contract and having accountability partners? That has nothing to do with virtue. And when I think of Ulysses, I think of the James Joyce novel. The main character of the Odyssey is generally referred to as Odysseus in current English.

[@pb4614]

Please don’t empty your mind… That’s a trap. Instead, fill it with the right things. No one wants an unhealthy empty mind. Meditation means thinking/reflecting, do it about the right things (not nothing).

[@nick_romeo]

Fill your mind with the mysteries of the life of Christ, by praying the rosary.

[@JackTheRabbitMusic]

The mind is like a parachute; it works best when it’s packed. 😂

[@pb4614]

@@JackTheRabbitMusic when it’s packed with the right fuel it is extraordinary! (+ there’s no space for the wrong things)

[@acornsucks2111]

We are not as strong as we think we are.

[@jcmartinez7527]

And it’s crucial to understand this. Hating yourself for being human is even more harmful to your goals.

[@varun.shenoy10]

But we can work towards becoming as strong as we think we are

[@SiCutler]

This was powerful with some great references to undoubtedly wise individuals. This could change lives. Thank you

[@Juoa794]

Congrats to being open about such an important issue. Stay strong! 💪

[@dannytetreault]

1:17 How about Jesus? I thought you were Catholic?

[@Judge_Jej]

3.5 million subscribers goes a lot farther than 30 pieces of silver.

[@Kredorish]

When I have sexual tension, I go to bed.

[@pokeyerface]

🤣

[@justinengland9814]

Well done for acknowledging your issues. I feel that many people (old & young) are all struggling with this 'modern world' and are looking for an escape.

[@patricktracy7940]

Antonio, this was GOLD!! Thank you. Also, you showed an extremely informed perspective when you referred to 'The Bhudda ' rather than Bhudda. Well done grasshopper!!

[@mnt809]

12:30 Recognition over repression worked for me. No need to hate yourself for your nature. But you also have no need to pursue something you don't really want. Redirect it into something positive you really want. The wind blows at your ship, but at the helm you redirect it with your sails in the direction you want to go.

[@michaelkocher6178]

Thanks for posting this. More men need to hear this, as I'm not sure most men even know the power that comes from mastering oneself. One thing I would add is to teach your boys about this around 1st or 2nd grade, and talk to them about it frequently.

[@juniorvalencia6158]

The bible also talks about unclean spirits. If we struggle with something we cannot control, we might have a stronghold and need to seek deliverance. Look into this, you'll be suprised.

[@deepakkodwani420]

Good to see you covering this, if the channel is real men real style let's talk about real issues men really face. Good on you 👍🏻👍🏻

[@RealMenRealStyle]

Thank you! I appreciate it!

[@SaulGoozeMan]

Wow, just bravo Antonio, you’ve made a great decision to record this video. While it’s not popular to talk about, or ashaming, in reality it’s the root of a lot of men issues. Jealousy, laziness, aggression. And if you want to become a better version of yourself, you want to not only look and smell great but also feel great.

[@toddkane3966]

Thank you for making this video. It's an embarrassing subject, and delicate to discuss, but your video does a good job laying out practical steps one can take. I think this video really helps.

[@joshhibbs_nola]

I struggle with this too Antonio. Mainly because I am 41 and don’t have a partner. I am learning to have more control though and resist the temptation.

[@KevinMcClave]

Thanks for putting yourself out there (again), Antonio. I appreciate the courage and insight.

[@MrVendigor]

This video goes straight to my favorites. Thank you, Antonio!!

[@TwistedTentacleInn]

I quit porn a month ago using the easy easy method. My shift was realizing that not watching porn didn't mean I was depriving myself. Instead I am now free from the chains that porn puts on you.

[@MountainJohn]

you forgot Jesus.

[@xtrm2009]

jesus zamora

[@johnpettiford6547]

He mentioned people he read about, but I agree, Jesus would be a good one.

[@Sigmareich]

Christ is Lord

[@bighennybihh8532]

Amen

[@estebanmunoz7486]

@@Sigmareichamen

[@bizcaya]

"Happiness is the byproduct of satisfaction". Wise words!

[@drummermomcjs]

I appreciate your transparency and honesty by being open like this. My husband saw a video about how the people who produce porn also are involved in sex trafficking, forced pornography, and even forms of kiddie porn. Therefore watching porn videos puts money into the pockets of those who do these acts and thus by supporting them, and funding their wicked acts it is as if he would be doing those acts himself to watch pornography. When the temptation to porn came, he pictured the women and children who are hurt by this industry and could no longer watch the videos for their desired effect. He quickly stopped watching them all together and is much happier and thankful to be free of that trap.

[@Prairiegirl3]

Hope this is ok that it’s relatable for women too lol 😊

[@MarkelBeverley]

Yeah but not as much as men. Our "situation" literally hangs out and can be stimulated at any time and we are hardwired to impregnate multiple mates. Not that that is an optimal solution, but it is a bio reality.

[@Prairiegirl3]

@@MarkelBeverley insert violins playing 🤓

[@MarkelBeverley]

​@@Prairiegirl3 It's actually a sad thing for women if we acted on these natural proclivities. Another bio reality is our attraction to fertility which is why men typically prefer younger women. If we acted on this proclivity, every lady over 37 would be alone with children 🤷🏽‍♂

[@Prairiegirl3]

@@MarkelBeverley cry me a river

[@MarkelBeverley]

@@Prairiegirl3 about what?

[@ivansenpaid9486]

Steps you may do(not all them at once or needed at the same time) 1. Routine 2. Know why you want to stop 3. Think about you want to do 4. Do not let abstinence happens, do the 3 above 5. Avoid triggers 6. Meditate, empty your mind 7. Know what you are feeling and recognize it, don't deny it and put it to the side 8. Find something you like to do instead like Hobbie, work, study. 9. Understand what make you stressed 10. Learn how to deal with stress

[@jayeshtavadia3672]

A Real Man With Real Style. Respect!

[@AlK888]

you say 'give it up for your goals' but what if the ultimate goal seem to be 'be with many girls' and satisfy yourself in this way? not every mind would understand that any goal can be better. Psychologists say there are 3 things moving every human forward: need for safety/survival, need for sex, need for power. So those are ultimate goals for pretty much every mind, and when you say give up on sexuality for other goals, do you mean double down on safety which for most ppl already not a problem, so that's left is will for power?

[@marjetdejong6219]

Antonio said “I felt at an early age I committed to a life of excellence. I believe I am here for a bigger purpose. And being slave to a sexualized brain that can’t control itself, that is not me.” I think this really defines being human: the ability to cultivate a mindset beyond the basic urges and needs…

[@EUSA1776]

As someone who struggled with this as well, here is some more wisdom from someone far better than all of us: “Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat: Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it.” Matthew 7:13-14

[@markgoblowsky8794]

Powerful video, Antonio! Thank you!!

[@evimorales3]

I've known I've had a problem for awhile now. This video spoke to me and it's time to make a change. Thank u.

[@H..M..]

Great video, Antonio. Thank you.

[@MikeOzmun]

I appreciate your courage. It gives other men the courage to both acknowledge and then deal with this issue. And kudos to your wife, who obviously is committed to understanding and helping you in your efforts to be faithful to her, instead of shaming and belittling you.

[@Eric-cq5gl]

Excellent topic. Well done!

[@maglarson7]

Thank you for making this. I am going through the same thing right now and feel too embarrassed to talk about it with anyone.

[@JuiceBox22]

Where do guys buy jeans that are 28L? I’m 5’8 and wear 30W 28L but no stores have this option, not even online stores

[@Prairiegirl3]

I forgot about that… it actually says in the bible not to be idle … thank you for this video

[@kevinn2216]

Good idea for a video and kudos for making it. Napoleon Hill wrote at entire chapter on the Mystery of Sex Transmutation. That's worth rereading from time to time. There are some good ideas on how to channel this energy into something more productive.

[@julio___wgnr6347]

the amount of times this guy changes places in this video is insane

[@kevinfoster2246]

Good stuff! great topic! Job well done!