Redditor Who Is Keeping Their Siblings 'True Paternity' a Secret r/AITA

[@msredux]

So the boyfriend got home, wait for op to serve him food and he didn't even try to help her? Nobody show me how to peel and egg but I've been doing it since I was a kid. And I think op is tired because the boyfriend doesn't help around the house and just waits around until she is done.

[@darkshadow5581]

That's a incorrect understanding of the text. Everyone but OP had eaten, and OP was effectively eating some boiled eggs as a snack. He never was gonna eat the eggs. OP never mentions any other situation, so I gotta assume that's all it is, though if someone wants to check her comments I'd love to be proven wrong. Otherwise, OP went on an angry rant because their partner doesn't eat hard boiled eggs.

[@darkshadow5581]

TLDR: Op explains their moving, she cooks/cleans, and is upset because he she says he uses it as an excuse but never points out a occasion. Assuming stress from moving made it worse, but doesn't excuse it IMO. After checking OP's comments, their very un-specific, with the three most specific being " It's not I know more than him it's his attitude to not try, for me. Like I can't do that, my jobs have always been figuring things out and troubleshooting and I do it on my own, so it's hard for me to accept not knowing and not doing. " ". Also he has seen me do this before now that I think about it. Also he has used the excuse of not knowing how to do things so then I have to do it anyway, and it's been a huge turn off and we've discussed it before." And "The egg that broke the camel's back for sure. I do cook the most and clean the most, think more about our needs. Pretty tired but I guess got more work to do, gotta fix my mistake and relationship on top of it all. Also we bought a house together and have been in the process of moving. Stress on stress."

[@msredux]

@@darkshadow5581 op served him food and the dog and then went to eat the eggs, and he didn't even offer help, op said she haven't even had a moment to sit, I would happily offer help to my partner after she did chores and fed me.

[@msredux]

@@darkshadow5581 I hate the excuse of not knowing hot to clean or doing it badly to force the other to do it

[@slytherinlibrarian3501]

Why couldn't boyfriend have the wherewithal to ask what he could do to help? Surely seeing his partner feed him, batch cook for the dogs, and continue to batch cook more is indicative that she hasn't yet cared for herself. Being able to see what's happening in front of his face isn't asking him to mind read. Why twiddle his thumbs and wait for OP to take the dogs out with him? Take them out himself. Barring that, why not do the next thing on the evening list to try and take some of the work off an obviously stressed partner? When she did ask for help finally, why make a hash of the eggs on purpose? Why not be up front and say that he doesn't know how to peel them and she needs to show him, or AGAIN, say instead that he'll move on and do the next thing on the list? It's weaponised incompetence; if he fucks this up when she asks, she won't ask him again and he can continue with doing only his usual.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 4: NTA I'm sorry but giving them a text at 8 am of stuff they have to do that day, even in that living situation is REALLY rude...all while no one else does ANYTHING. No fucking way. Theybare just as responsible for cleaning up just as much as OP and his girlfiend. Making them do so much while everyone else does nothing because he stays there 5 days a month is ridiculous.

[@kaitohkid7229]

They are abusing him. Sorry, dishes once a week? Guest he isn't any more.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

@@kaitohkid7229 Does the brother ever do anything?

[@breab2105]

I agree nta it’s ridiculous

[@songohan3321]

Admit it. The Maury cameraman's ability to run fast while holding the camera and filming is quite amazing.

[@icefallssnowstorms3224]

Yup it’s a straight up talent

[@doggolovescheese1310]

Truth

[@Bonaduece]

Story 4: I kind of want to know if the girlfriend was treated as the housemaid before the boyfriend came along, or only after. Because if it's a new thing, it's possible her family just hates the dude and is hoping he'll get fed up and leave.

[@andreawalker8343]

I wondered that too

[@SyskeBehard]

OP from story 5 is being horribly exploited, unlawfully imprisoned, and having her belongings stolen. Her vicious, awful parents are demanding adult labor while also trying to enforce their wills on her as their ‘child’-something no decent parent would do to that extent anyway-and have also clearly conditioned her to accept such treatment. I really, really hope OP gets out of there and never sees them again, except perhaps to see them face legal ramifications of some sort.

[@staylor3483]

Story 5: OP says she works 50 hours a week, takes care of the home & children. This makes me wonder: 1. What does her mother do? 2. Does she get paid the 10 hours of overtime? When does she have time to focus on her own mental health & what she wants out of life? It appears that she is only on earth to slave away for "family". OP Please don't go back. Find another job & apartment. Then thrive as the person you were went to be.

[@songohan3321]

For story one, OP needs to get a lawyer. Don't ever make assumptions about this subject matter.

[@ilbercgross4736]

And OP should NOT tell the siblings. Let them find out at the reading. If told ahead of time, the siblings will take/steal everything not bolted down. Maybe even damage the house beyond repair. You cannot get blood from a stone and you cannot.get money from broke people. Retain a lawyer and have everything set up to have them removed the same day/time the will is read. If OP is feeling nice, pay for a few weeks at a cheap motel for them.

[@robertx8020]

@@ilbercgross4736 I agree with both of you Also the redditter with the ESH reaction SUCKS! It's one of these holier-than-thou idiots. "Well they treat you like shit, but you gotta turn the other cheek" or "be the bigger/better person" FY If ppl keep treating you like dirt, there is no reason to stay nice!

[@megshells]

@@robertx8020 totally agree. big difference between turning the other cheek and being a doormat. never be a doormat. no one respects the doormat.

[@DemonAngel]

Story 4: I'm gonna go NTA. I had a granny who believed that any of my friends that came over, ever, were her free workers. She would always ask/demand they do something for her

[@brandonchuong917]

Last Story: The parents sound very toxic, manipulating, and narcissistic. People like this is what you want to avoid, you give them an inch, they take an entire mile.

[@destinysphinx27]

Story 1: OP's husband is wrong, this isn't stooping to their level - it's beating them at their own game lol Hold off until the will reading and watch that house of cards fall... with popcorn

[@pippo17173]

Victims of cheaters who turn asshole should be treated the same as cheaters in terms of karma. Treat the affair child(even when op isnt) like shit, you deserve to get screwed with the cheated.

[@cheekyftoro8962]

@@pippo17173 People that get cheated on deserve to be assholes back to the cheater and anyone that condoned the cheating. As long as they dont take it out on innocent children.

[@pippo17173]

@@cheekyftoro8962 really that is how the dad should of done it but nah he brings the kid down and never leaves the hell hole. Nah he stays to be a door mat to the cheater instead.

[@cheekyftoro8962]

@@pippo17173 100% he should have left when she cheated. But this case is weird and i am a little on the cheaters side maybe. The dad is a jerk. He thinks op the 1st child wasn't his. Even with a dna test that he gave as a birthday present as proof he accuses the child or mother of having sex with the teasting guy to fake the results. To me him doing things like that making false accusations of cheating being arrogant and hurtful even when proven wrong. Maybe the mother cheated because she was fed up of being accused of it a treated as guilty so she might as well have been guilty. Or she could just be a cheating bitch.

[@pippo17173]

@@cheekyftoro8962 even then, she did play part in ops crappy treatment, especially when she beg op to convince the rest not to take a DNA test. I am curious of a update just know the nuclear bomb that's heading.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - OP needs to just let it all play out and when dad passes, insist on DNA tests all 'round. Then the others can be upset with good old Mum - who is apparently the cause of the stipulation and their future monetary problems. If she had not cheated...

[@moimeself1088]

If she had not cheated, they wouldn't exist 😉🤭🤷🏾‍♀️

[@RylieRiddle]

Boyfriend staying at girlfriend's place: ESH, yes OP is a guest they didn't invite and he isn't paying anything but with all they are doing, who wouldn't snap when pressed? They saved dishes for when OP was there, it sounds like only OP and his girlfriend clean the whole house, they treat OP and girlfriend like servants while the rest game. If OP doesn't like it, he needs to not return or find a place for him and his girlfriend. Whole thing just sounds like a future Reddit post waiting to happen.

[@andreawalker8343]

Yeah Reddit rides or dies with the “your house your rules” adage. You can still have “rules” that make you an asshole. I couldn’t imagine sitting on my ass watching two college students do all my housework for me. So tacky.

[@breab2105]

Omg yes I agree I was going to say the same thing. Sounds like the parents and gf brother aren’t doing anything while op and gf do all the cleaning which I’m sorry but naw he only stays on the weekends first of all and they parents and brother can do their own clothes dishes chores. I wouldn’t be doing it

[@Gay_Priest]

Egg tips: Be hyper critical of its every little flaw, be passive-aggressive, patronizing and constantly judgmental until it cracks on its own from the stress and pressure.

[@Aaron-kj8dv]

Literally what she's doing to her BF. Kind of shocked by all of the comments on her side. I'm sure if a man did the same and spazzed out on his wife they would think differently.

[@katwiltz1134]

​@@Aaron-kj8dvI totally agree with you however the fault lies with parents not teaching their children basic skills in this particular case it seems like one of my smallest bipolar episodes barely mentionable but the exact wrong way to learn how to fight any Express frustration without being toxic

[@owl7072]

Story 1: I just think it's funny how the actual affair children are acting all high and mighty. Don't tell them OP, just let it play out then sit back and laugh as they realize what's happened/happening. Maybe if they had been nicer you would have considered sharing, karma at it's finest 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@gypsygem9395]

Story 3: a little advice to Op and everyone: the fresher the egg the harder they are to peel, so don't boil eggs for hard boiled until they're at least a week into the 28 days use-by date. Also, put an egg in a glass jar with a little cold water and shake - the shell will break and come off easily.

[@rylashadow18]

Not only does the OP with the crappy siblings need to wait for the will reading but also get his hands on the information that proves he's the only living heir to his father's estate. Make sure that information is handed off to the lawyer before hand and in a way mom and the sibs don't suspect a thing.

[@mooseass2996]

Egg story: ESH. You for getting angry but your bf is a bigger AH for waiting around watching you struggle after you’ve done all the work in the house. You’re partners. Not a mother. Your bf needs to figure that out or gtfo.

[@hello93617]

Something toxic I had to unlearn for the help of my current relationship: we don't have to be doing chores at the same time. Just because I decide to do dishes doesn't mean that I can expect them to stop whatever they are doing and clean the bathroom.

[@katwiltz1134]

Mommy's teacher kids how to peel eggs also mommies and daddies teach your daughter how to boil eggs. You're angry and you're taking it out on him he didn't do anything wrong how can he he doesn't know how to do anything take it up with his goddamn mom and leave the boy alone do your eggs right and then they'll peel right tada

[@devilsgirl5092]

@@katwiltz1134 she also knew what she had done so being tired clearly was an issue in why she messed up a tad bit, doesn’t nobody remember all the kids shows where their mom messed up food by completely forgetting an ingredient because she was tired or stressed she’s not an asshole they just don’t match up in lifestyles she wants someone who will help take care of the home with her not someone who needs their hand held to do anything

[@ladytrucker251]

Yeah she's a bit of an asshole but if you listen to her describe her BF you would think that man couldn't do anything because he always ask for help and requires her to teach him everything. Let's be honest, if you had to deal with someone deliberately acting like they couldn't do anything just so you would wind up doing all the work, I'm sure that would piss us all off and frustrate us all to the heavens. Acting dumb or incompetent is not a good look on a man or a woman.

[@sylvestercat1898]

When the girl goes back to her parents house (let’s be honest, she can’t go on with life without her SS card and birth certificate) she needs to have a police officer with her (or maybe a strong friend in a realistic enough police uniform) cause her parents will most likely lock the door and steal her phone and keys so she can’t leave.

[@LilChuunosuke]

Nah because while none of them were impersonating cops, I had my toughest friends help me move out of my parents house, especially because I had no car and was effectively under house arrest and constant supervision. An abuser losing their victims does not care about maintaining their image. They're visibly crazy and unstable. The second the shock wore off and my abusers started trying to force me to stay, my friends were fucking terrified and were of no help to me. Even my friend's mom, who was a veteran, just kinda sat there as my dad screamed in her face and my brother stole my belongings back out of her trunk that we had just taken out of the house. I may not like cops, but they're more prepared to handle this type of behavior and will legally be allowed to remain on the property even if the parents try to kick them out. They will be able to make a police report or even arrest the parents if they tried to assault OP while they were collecting their belongings. Bringing a cop is just far safer. If they can't get a cop, the best next thing is to try negotiating with the parents to leave the belongings on the front lawn for them to pick up. If anything goes wrong, it's in a wide open space where there can be witnesses and they can flee in basically any direction if anything goes wrong.

[@sirinkaslana3709]

Like for the Hetalia chibi pic

[@soulechelon2643]

Story 4: NTA. What are these redditors smoking? It sounds like alot of them didn't even read much of his post. He isn't living at his girlfriend's house. He's there every other weekend, and sleeps in his room at home during the weekdays. He said that specifically. He's also pointed out that his girlfriend has a brother who seems to be not doing anything at all either. Sure, a couple of chores around the house isn't a big deal, but they're being made to literally become maids. And the grocery shopping - is it their money, or the parents? Either way, if they're having to go to three different stores, that means the parents are saving every grocery shopping trip for the weekend so that the OP and his girlfriend are forced to do it. How in the world them getting annoyed by this makes them the AH? That said, I do hope OP finds a way out of this situation. Him and his girlfriend. Maybe once his room is fully renovated, she can come over instead of vice versa. But he should definitely be saving up to get his own apartment so that they'll have a space to themselves. If they're really serious, they could both pull their money together and get a place.

[@Cel3ere5]

Bonus, they work 42 hours a week. I agree with all of this. Reddit double standards strikes again! Reddit: You shouldn't stand for mistreatment. Kids/ young adults have their own autonomy and should be respected. Stand up for yourself OP - expresses grievance and frustration - Reddit: No, not like that. *Be grateful*

[@hesherette]

BOILED EGG HACKS: if you use a teeny tiny push pin (or sewing needle, or VERY thin meat skewer) to poke a small hole into the bottom of an egg before boiling, it will make it infinitely easier to peel once boiled. also cool eggs in ice water for at least as long as you boiled them right after boiling. ONLY poke a hole into one side though + do it as small/ gently as possible to avoid egg coming out. these cooking tips have literally changed my life.

[@elalogar7340]

My grandmother poured a drop of vinegar into the water, and a shell almost falls off the egg, without the need for the icy water. I don’t know why, but if an egg has a small crack the drop of vinegar also prevents the egg from spilling out (this comes handy for me because I don’t wait for the water to boil before I put eggs in the water).

[@hesherette]

@@elalogar7340 awesome, thank you! I am always down to try a grandma's trusted trick! I'm a big fan of vinegar, it has SO many uses!

[@elalogar7340]

@@hesherette Yeah, grandmothers' tricks are the best. 🙂

[@whitewitch32]

This does not need to be vinegar, citric acid will do too, you turned water acidic, and this dissolves lime from egg shells. Sorry I'm teaching chemistry.

[@juresichj]

If you use an Instant-Pot, you can put up to 2 dozen eggs in with one cup of water, and set it for 5 minutes. Do a quick release, and run cold water until the pot is chilled, and let sit for 5-15 minutes. The eggs peel like a dream.

[@lisakaz35]

I understand that the reactors to story 4 wanted OP to "contribute" given the privilege of staying there, eating (to an extent) and such, but I think some missed that passage where he and his gf are shopping, cleaning and the like while the parents and sibling of the gf are lounging and playing video games. OP isn't just "helping." He and the gf are being treated like "the help" more or less. It's a bit much.

[@technicaldifficulties368]

At that point they should have a sit down with the parents. Maybe they could contribute financially to the household and have a few chores instead of all the chores

[@thewielder3445]

I was looking for this comment. Of course, some housework and chores are to be expected when you live at a house. But here they're being treated like housekeeping.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

@@thewielder3445 I think those commenters are idiots. They weren’t doing “some chores”. They were doing ALL the chores; laundry, grocery runs, cleaning the entire 3 story house from top to bottom, dishes. They would get take out and set the dirty dishes and utensils to the side and wait for OP and partner to do them? Does the brother do anything besides play video games? Plus when you add the fact that it was just weekends, so that 8 days per month. It seems to me that they would do NOTHING during the week and then leave it to OP and gf to take care of it. What garbage.

[@iyaayas]

​@@GrumpyOldFart2Didn't OP say he was staying there temporarily for a few months while his room was being renovated? If so, step up the chores to something equivalent of that but back off from the current level. I also want to know how often they clean their house without OP. Do they depend on GF to do so? If so, I'd be pushing harder to do less. Other Thoughts coming from watching too many movies and shows: That said, I wonder if part of their strategy is to overwork OP to break them up or keep them apart so they can't have much time together. Or are they testing OP to see what lengths he's going to go through for his gf.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

@@iyaayas I re-listened to it. No, he was just staying there on the weekends. He said during the week he’d go back to his place and sleep in his wrecked room. And then op reiterated that he had to come three weekends in a row because their (gf) kitchen was being renovated.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

Story 4: I think what is bothering OP is the fact that he and the GF seem to be the only ones doing any chores…parents playing video games and her brother playing games in his room! I would be bothered by that too. What I foresee happening is OP and GF breaking up because parents are using them as free help cleaning their house 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1: I was about to say YTA, but your siblings treated you like sh*t and this would be the sweetest revenge. Once the DNA 🧬 test for the will come back, they’re the affair children they made you out to be. Sweet revenge. Story 2: NTA. Not your kid, not your problem. Story 2: unpopular opinion but NTA. Yes, you should help with the chores but they have dumped all the housework on you and your gf. Your in-law and her brother don’t help you. Story 3: NTA. Your parents treat you like a maid not their daughter. Go no contact for a awhile, get an apartment and live your life.

[@laurdiane]

the story 4 yta’s confused me, he stays there two days a week and does the WHOLE family’s dishes for the whole week with his girlfriend, they buy all the groceries and i’m assuming don’t get reimbursed, clean the whole house even if they pretty much just stay in one room, and everyone else just gets a nice relaxing weekend but op’s the entitled one bc he doesn’t want to pay to be a slave

[@andreawalker8343]

I think he meant he just does the labor of acquiring the groceries, not paying for them. Anyway, I agree. Taking on that much labor is insane and the family sounds tacky as hell. I think it’s fine to have him pull his weight with some housework but to dump that much work on two young adults is exploitative.

[@laurdiane]

@@andreawalker8343 i totally get what you’re saying with the grocery’s but since they didn’t clarify i just assumed but it could also be that they’re just acquiring them which is still a task

[@Ashbrash1998]

​@@andreawalker8343 Possibly, but how would the parents pay for the groceries if they weren't there?

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#3 - no need to blow up, but OP was just overwhelmed and frustrated and tired. what she needs to do is, when BF pulls that 'I don't know how' crap, immediately call his mother and ask her; did you never teach your son how to peel a hard-boiled egg? make canned soup? etc. Then she'll know what the baseline is - apparently very low...

[@Nukie144]

That'll help establish whether he's really incompetent or if it's weaponized incompetence

[@Ameliayg]

i got so annoyed during that story people that just say idk how to are so fucking annoying and from what we heard it sounds like she’s doing all the house work and has a job so i’d blow up too if i was in that situation

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Story 4: There are all sorts of ways to contribute that don't amount to tolerance of being treated like an indentured servant so that other people can sit on their dead ass while the "servants" pull all of the weight.

[@thatwitchychick2717]

Story 5 was sooooo bad. I lived with my parents until I was 20 because they basically threatened me and told me I wasn't allowed to leave. They would do all of the same crap. Take my phone, keys, kick me out whenever I pissed them off only to claim I ran away. When I finally escaped, yes, I had to escape, I left almost everything behind and was completely cut off from the family for over a year as punishment for growing up and leaving like I was supposed to. The freedom I felt when I was finally on my own was ridiculous. I didn't know what to do with myself for the longest time because couldn't wrap my head around not needing someone's permission to do something. It's much better now and I finally cut them off for good about 6 years ago.

[@iyaayas]

I got out via the Military. Sure, went from one bossy mother to another bossy employer who clothed, housed, and fed me at age 18 but that employer also taught me discipline and skills to live by. Taught me to be an adult and introduced me to my spouse. Luckily I left when I did because I use to get letters from Mom saying, "If this doesn't work out for you, you can come back home but there will need to be some changes (job or school...I suspect abiding by household rules I left home to escape from.) You're right. Once I got my freedom (first Duty Station), I didn't know what to do with myself either. Just a cool feeling. I tried to return home to visit a few times but Mom's manipulation tactics came out. We got into fights because she tried enforcing rules on me that she didn't enforce with my minor aged siblings. It was probably comical (or at least sad) how her efforts where attempted and failed. My visits reduced with time and frequency and I almost went No Contact before she finally respected the boundaries and truly recognized my status as a competent adult of my own making away from her influence.

[@maggpiprime954]

Story 3: ESH. Some people have babies to save their marriage, some people buy houses. I also was in the latter. Dumped the spouse and the house. But I definitely feel for OP. So only soft verdict there from me.

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

Story #5: OP needs to continue towards making their own way. Parents are controlling & using OP and that relationship is really unhealthy.

[@NewGothOnTheBlock]

Pro tip for cracking boiled eggs: Make sure they’ve had a great Fall! Walks in the park, baking pies, get them Pumpkin Spice everything and cozy scarfs and mittens are also a must!. It will work SO WELL that even all the queen’s horses and men could NEVER put them back again. Ps. I know the rhyme itself never specified that Humpty Dumpty was an Egg. The rhyme got into my head after the question “how do you break eggs?”.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 3: as petty as this is... YTA. If you get so frustrated at how someone is doing something wrong that you snap at them for it when they are only helping you when you asked, don’t ask them to help you do it. It’s a set up for an argument to make the other party feel like shit. It’s ridiculous

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

Story 3: YTA I'm a 28 year old middle-class man in the USA and I have never eaten, peeled, or knowingly been within 25 feet of any hard boiled, soft boiled, pickled, or deviled egg. I have a bachelor's degree in the IT field, recovered from years of heroin use, and I've traveled to the majority of states east of the Mississippi River, yet I've never peeled an egg. If I was in OP's boyfriend's shoes I would've done the same thing as he did until OP asked for help with her mistake eggs. I would offer to help if she showed me but by the sounds of it she probably would've snapped at me for not knowing how to peel an egg. I hope this guy finds a better catch then her because it seems that OP belittles him every chance she can.

[@calliewalsh7058]

So the egg one: this has nothing to do with voting but sounds like the eggs are farm fresh and not an issue with cooking. Eggs less than a week (sometimes 2 weeks depending on the breed of chicken) old are just about impossible to peel due to the membrane separation. Most times eggs are 1-2 weeks old by the time they reach store shelves so it doesn't make a difference. I have a complicated rotation system in my fridge for our eggs lol

[@gypsygem9395]

I keep mine in a cool place rather than the fridge

[@jadedflames2809]

Story 4: OP and his gf were exploited and to literally slave away, not even the brother is helping out while the in laws are just chilling or away. It's their house but ultimately, the parents are just using them as housemaids Though it sounds like OP and GF mainly OP kind of mooch off of them. Honestly, if you don't have the money to contribute, don't get involved.

[@rhosealeejadaburdette3035]

Mark sounds like he gives good hugs, I can appreciate that vibe

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 3 is petty af. She did the eggs wrong, and admitted to it but she gets mad at her boyfriend for doing it wrong when he tries to help her peel the eggs when she asked? Major YTA. 100%. How dare she snap at him for not knowing how to do something when he was trying to help. She sounds like a nightmare to live with

[@alexafuqua8727]

I believe it was frustration that she fed everyone, cleaned everything, haven't sat down. Trying to keep their living space as a livable space for them and he's sitting down doing everything else but contributing. If he fed the dog instead of her she would be able to have her plate of food sooner, if he cleaned up she would be able to sit down with him after they were done. And I guarantee the moment she sits everything piles up even more making more work when she stands up again. The mental and physical load of running a household on top of working a paying job is exhausting. It was never about the boiled egg. It's about how he never helps and when he does he can't do it to the point it's more work for her. He didn't offer to help. She had to ask. Having to ask, then tell them how to do it step by step, while also having the expectation of not having to do all of that just for help. If it wasn't the eggs, it honestly could of been anything else. Like tripping over his feet, clothes / shoes in the middle of the floor, or even if the dogs were crying to go outside but you're elbows deep in the dishes and the person who is supposed to be your partner is sitting in their spot acting oblivious not moving a muscle to help. It's an expectation and life balance issue. Life if one person has to do it all by themselves, then why be in the relationship? I know this is a long reply to a story about peeling a boiled egg. But it wasn't about the boiled egg.

[@yourmom2189]

@@alexafuqua8727​​⁠​⁠I agree. I feel like most people would snap in that situation. He may not have known how to crack an egg. That’s not the problem. It just seemed like he didn’t want to help. Not once did he offer his help. That does sound like weaponized incompetence. She shouldn’t have to beg her partner for help.

[@tamarak.8800]

First story op is absolutely right, if the siblings wouldn't demand a DNA test to cut op out, they would get their share. The only way they don't get anything is when they try to cut op, so it's absolutely deserved that op takes all.

[@who_the_fuck_is_riley5813]

Story 1: NTA. Let it play out according to the will and have the siblings be decimated by it.

[@JUMALATION1]

The story 3 overreaction about the eggs: My mom asked me to peel a bunch of potatoes, so I got on with it. I apparently did it the "wrong way" (peeling it away from my thumb instead of towards it) and apparently both our nerves were as raw as meat in a butcher's window so it resulted in a dumb argument. The issue ran deeper though: my mom decided the whole household would abide by a strict no alcohol rule way after my younger brother became a legal adult (before that, in our teens, it was fine for both us siblings to party and drink, somewhat weird). This particular potato peeling night she had found an empty cider bottle in my room, so it all boiled down to me "being under the influence in her home". I admit I had that cider 3 hours prior but I was just trying to help peel potatoes. My fault for not following household rules I guess but I was still a bit frustrated. (For anyone wondering: I was temporarily staying at my parents' after moving back home from abroad, age 24 at the time.)

[@Jeremy-The-Bullfrog]

Not only is this a dumb fight for her to start. I'm pretty sure your mother is very wrong. Any time you are dealing with sharp utensils you should be going away from your body. This way you lower the risk of cutting yourself.

[@direwolf8703]

@@Jeremy-The-Bullfrog yes never cut toward yourself is a common sense rule with blades

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#4 - does OP's parents give the couple a list of errands and chores to do when she visits him for the weekend? this might change a few answers and give insight that his parents are very indulgent or don't see GF as free slave labor. if he is staying more than the normal and these chores from her parents are all new, OP needs to negotiate. if they have always been this way and GF is expected to do all these things - with or without a guest in tow - and if she doesn't work to pay some rent, then she should be looking for work and getting the heck out of there. lots of dynamics at play here.

[@zbop2000]

Story 1- Treat me like dirt for something I have no control over. I would say hell ya to revenge and profit. They would do it to me after years of abuse, so why not?

[@jennthurston364]

Egg story: My mom died when I was 12 and she did everything for us kids. I did not know how to do anything literally ,but I would never ask for help because I believed I should have allready know how to do everything. I would lose it when people tried to teach me anything. It took me well over a decade to learn how to peel an egg. I became an expert people watcher and learned on my own. I still think YTA. If you had trouble peeling them why get pissy with him. He is not a mind reader. For well over a decade I cracked hardboiled eggs like he did until I watched someone doing it and saw how it should be done. Sorry for babbling.

[@Shniedelwoodz]

Peeling an egg relies more on the freshness of the egg than how long it's cooled. The fresher, the harder to peel.

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

These videos are my comfort atm. I got Cvid, day one an I already can't breath. Hopefully I get through. I'll edit once I've listened to all of the video.

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

I'm loving the video so far. 😊

[@Nukie144]

I hope this is the worst of it and you feel better soon ❤

[@technicaldifficulties368]

I just got over COVID. I took a lot of hot showers and baths. It helped a lot with my breathing

[@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338]

@@technicaldifficulties368 I'll try that. Thanks.

[@technicaldifficulties368]

@@icantchange.youtubesaysine7338 You actually want the steam to fill the bathroom so don't use exhaust or open a window. I also took severe cold and flu medicine. It's fine if you're not eating but please try to drink plenty of fluids. The hydration will keep your mucous from getting too thick and help you cough it out.

[@tinafogarty404]

Story 2- when people need others to ‘do things right’, the constant criticism makes others less willing to try

[@KE-hr4sb]

Story 1: What was the last commenter on? Saying everyone is lying, cheating, and being childish? I think OP has been remarkably kind and mature especially given the way they were treated. NTA, let the will play out on its own and bring some popcorn. Story 3: I think this calls for a justified AH. You fucked up and didn't ice or boil them long enough. However, what was HE doing all day? You hadn't eaten or so much as had a chance to sit down, because everything was left for you to do; and you said you've asked him before and he doesn't know how to do anything (which is probably why you get stuck doing everything). Instead of offering to help you, he sat there and pressured you to hurry up so you could help him walk the dogs, which, it turns out, he was able to do just fine on his own once he got mad at you. You shouldn't have snapped at him for not knowing how to peel a boiled egg, BUT, he sounds like he needs to learn how to adult before getting into an adult relationship. If he can't take care of minor tasks, or look up how to do basic life skills like peeling eggs on google, then he needs to go back home to Mommy until she's done raising him, but right now, it sounds like you took the place of Mommy.

[@graceisNERD]

Story 3: I bet this is a guy who "doesn't know" how to wash dishes or do laundry. Who cries "but you're such a better cook" at mealtimes. Who won't contribute until asked, and then makes an additional chore of holding his hand through it. When you focus on the egg, it sounds ridiclous, but clearly it's a pattern. I hope OP eventually broke up with that lump of person.

[@FrogsForBreakfast]

Story 2: both kids can go to college debt free. The parents just need to take on the loans instead of the child. Problem solved. Oh wait, but then ex would have to actually contribute...

[@fcold9402]

Someone with a normal human amount of intelligence should be able to figure out how to peel an egg, no matter how messy.

[@DameNickum]

Use old eggs to make boiled eggs. Not expired, but not fresh. They peel much easier. But ask the BF to do things he can do. Any one can push a vacuum cleaner or run a duster. Good luck, ESH.

[@dm9078]

If dad accused OP and mom of sleeping with the test kit guy he’s clearly insane. But NTA! Keep in mind that there is going to be a huge fight no matter what happens. Why isn’t OP’s husband on her side. These are people who treat his wife like crap but he’s worried about them? WTF? NTA. Screw these entitled arseholes! OP needs to make sure that the ex doesn’t know where the money is or have access to it! The BF is using what is called dad Incompetence. Married partnered men suddenly turn into children when it comes to household duties! That is what OP is angry about! As she said she was tired of asking him for help then having to show him how to do everything.

[@darlieoneeleven]

Eggs: Throw egg in jar. Put lid on shake. Works.

[@theuglykwan]

Story 5 - do not go back to that indentured servitude. things will revert back to how they were if u do and eventually u will end up unable to break out.

[@didyasaysomethin2me]

Story 3: I'm thinking of a scene from a famous holiday classic where a character was asked to boil eggs. But instead of putting them into the pot whole, they ended up making "egg soup." OP's boyfriend reminds me of this famous (infamous?) blockhead. Edit: They bought a house together? I imagine OP's next post having something to do with her boyfriend not even knowing how to assemble a cardboard moving box. 🤦‍♀️

[@shadout]

"... the shells are sticking when I'm peeling them and I'm getting increasingly frustrated" then "how could you not know how to peel an egg it's so simple" suddenly a task which was frustrating for OP became the easiest job in the world when it was for their partner to do?

[@RenaDeles]

Because this was the straw that broke the camel's back. It was never about the eggs, it was about how it sounds like she's being more the mom here then the gf. Boyfriend needs to work on his weaponized incompetence, she needs to work on letting things boil over this much.

[@LilChuunosuke]

*Story 4:* I think this is an ESH. I have been in positions where I subsidized my low/non-existent rent to a friend's parents with chores and I think that should be expected as the bare minimum. But they didn't let dishes and trash pile up every single day for me to take care of them. When it was at it's most fair and everyone was getting along well, we would take turns. Sometimes if someone made plans or had to stay late at work on a day they normally did that chore, we would trade off. If I was ever left with more than 24 hours worth of dishes, the person who was supposed to do them the day before me was usually reprimanded. I think OP is being a *little* entitled, but I really would like to know how many chores the gf's parents are actually doing and how much are all postponed for OP to do them. Because if they're the only ones doing dishes, laundry, shopping, and cleaning? Yeah, that's a live-in housekeeper. Which is something that an employee would still get paid for on top of having thei living expenses covered. If this one weekend was an outlier and everyone else in the household still contributes to their fair share of the work in different areas, then it's pretty shitty. Maybe I was just raised horribly, but the only times I ever complained about expectations for doing chores were when communication was lacking or when I needed a little slack over the fact I was teaching myself how to do basic household chores and was obviously more likely to make mistakes.

[@direwolf8703]

While I agree with if you live there you should contribute, I disagree that op should have to pay rent or subsidize rent with chores when he does not live there full time. Maybe it's because I was raised in an asian household but expecting a guest to do any work around your house is shameful disgusting behavior.

[@HobieInTheBox]

Everyone was just lounging around and playing video games while OP and his gf had to do all the work. EVERYONE should contribute, not just the newbies. I really wonder if this is how gf was treated b4 OP came along

[@catandrobbyflores]

As soon as they prevented op from leaving they crossed a huge line. I would have immediately looked for a phone and called 911.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 2: NTA, OP did not start a college fund for another woman’s child. With how nasty the side piece was over OP’s daughter, not allowing her son to have a relationship with his half sister and even trying to get a dad to not have a relationship with her….screw her! Side piece is not entitled to that college fund. If the roles were reversed there is no way in hell side piece and the father would would help daughter get an education.

[@deandrecook3945]

Hey mark fun fact about story 1 if they contest it in court one court order DNA test can prevent them from trying to contesting it again

[@Josku2411]

Perfect timing i was just about to go cruising for what to watch next even tho i should be sleeping but i found some cool fanart i need to browse through first

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

U need to sleep soon m8

[@cpaul9269]

last story - sounds like the parents realized they booted their slave labor, and that's why they begged her back. OP def NTA, and she could have had them arrested - like cuffed and stuffed like the big boys - for any number of their actions there (assault, kidnapping (preventing someone from exiting, especially an escalating physical situation - is absolutely a crime), theft - that must have been scary as h*ll. Hey mom and dad - You know what? If you can't take care of your own house, life, and 7 kids, you maybe shouldn't have had that many, eh? Certainly not your daughter's problem. Big giant kudos to big brother stepping up like a hero - well done man.

[@wickedamoeba8719]

Story 1: NTA. Consider this pay back for their treatment of you. This is a monster of their own making.

[@lazycupcakez]

Tip for people struggling with hard boiled eggs when u take them off of the heat fill a bucket with cold water as soon as the egg is cold to the touch use a spoon to crack the entire egg all around then wedge the spoon under the cracked egg twist and there u go

[@cpaul9269]

S2- Don't give them a dime, and that woman needs a good dressing down. Another story about a bed made - now time to lie in it.

[@condorboss3339]

First story: Assuming OP is in an English speaking country, it is unlikely she would succeed in disinheriting the siblings. To begin with, the courts tend to frown on excluding any dependent for invalid or unfair reasons - and being 'non-biological offspring' is considered invalid. (The reasoning being that the non-biological offspring did not have control over their status and, apparently in this case, had no reason to believe they were not the 'fathers' children.) Also, since the siblings are currently dependent on the father's estate, depriving them of that would be unfair *in the eyes of the court* . (Note, this is the court reasoning, not my idea of what is fair.) Lastly, doing something like that will guarantee the matter winds up in court for a protracted legal battle and the ONLY people who win in such cases are the lawyers, whose costs will eat up most of the estate.

[@WolfyFancyLads]

Keep quiet, take the cash willingly, and then slip the mother some cash as a thank you without any reason why. She did, after all, just net you an entire Will due to her elastic knickers. :P Gotta give her a bit of a kickback thank you.

[@lilz]

Tip for hard boiled eggs with sticky, difficult shells-peel them under a running faucet (if you’re okay with using water like that. I know water bills can be high). It is also a great way to make sure every bit of shell is off!

[@digitalharmony26]

The second comment in the egg story, why would bf offer to help with the eggs when he doesn’t know how to peel the eggs? That’s like being in a restaurant after placing your order, seeing the chef is swamped and offering to jump in and help despite not knowing how to cook. Like what? If he doesn’t eat hard boiled eggs, he wouldn’t know how to cook and peel them...

[@clairebear-96]

Oof the last one - oldest daughter of 7 children? Classic parentification situation, and she works 50 hours a week FOR her parents on top of taking care of THEIR house and kids!? Yeah no NTA at all

[@MsTemptation]

S3: NAH. I am shaking my head over the fact that your bf can't peel an egg. You basically just crack it and try to peel the shell away the best way you can without making a mess. What he should have done is just taken the dog for a walk instead of sitting there wringing his hands while waiting for you. Yes that can be a bit annoying to witness because he didn't realize that his actions were making you feel anxious. Seriously you guys need to communicate more instead of letting things fester.

[@lalvarez5151]

Story 1-NTA. The siblings treated you like crap for years. If dad doesnt want to give money to non biological kids....then too bad

[@jeandobkowski8571]

if 1 sibling tests they all should test!

[@itrasheditgood]

It’s not a about the egg, it sounds there’s an inequality of work load and bf is pretending incompetence when OP is struggling and bf is literally doing nothing but acting antsy for the walk. Yes there is a better way to talk, but really the talk should be about chore distribution.

[@iamsocoolz]

My best tip to peel a boiled egg: Salt in the water. Couple shakes from a salt shaker into the water does something to the membrane between the shell and the egg itself, makes it soooo much easier to peel even without needing to cool the egg more than necessary to touch it for peeling, especially when there are more cracks in the shell during peeling. Ever since I started sprinkling a few shakes of a regular lil salt shaker I have had almost no issues peeling eggs ever again.

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#2 NTA, Not your kid, not your problem.

[@Shaggymoore4]

Story 3. Op doesn’t deserve to be in a relationship at all. Smh admitted it was her fault yet still blames her bf. Ignorance is bliss.

[@frankhooper7871]

I do wonder in story 1 why OP's father insisted an a paternity test with OP but didn't insist for the siblings. Ironic seeing as OP appears to be the only child biologically related! In story 2, I don't feel OP should return the money her ex contributed to _their_ daughter's college fund. Not OP's fault ex and wife have fallen on hard times - not _their_ daughter's fault.

[@taylesia1]

Off topic on egg story, but growing up I thought they were called horrible eggs instead of hard-boiled eggs because of my mom's accent. To this day I still call them that because they're gross.

[@kizzykiz]

Egg cracking technique: I poke a tiny hole in the egg before boiling them, cooling them in ice water once the boiling is complete, and then I take an egg and crack the hole side first at the bottom of the ice water bowl. That way, the water gets into the gaps of the egg and shell, making it easier to peel off.

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#1 NTA and go Stoop stoop stoop

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

Story 1: OP is not the A-hole. I'm #6 of 6 half siblings. All of us are related through my Dad. They were all nice to me until Daddy died. Then the only two full siblings got greedy as heck and cost the estate most of the money. I don't speak to one of them and the other one doesn't speak to me because I chose not to give her a kidney. Not the A-hole.screw greedy siblings. There are only 4 of us left and I only speak to the brother closest to me in age because he got just as screwed as I did and he doesn't want anything from me.

[@nicolepsy]

FYI - If you put a tablespoon of cream of tarter or baking soda in the water with the eggs, they're easier to peel.

[@FlamesofJagger]

🎶🎵 Am I the buuuuuttthhhoooolllleeee 🎶🎵 Perfect timing Mark. I was just about to go to my lunch break at work . Much love 💘 ❤ 💗 💕 💛 💙 💘 Stay chill and waffle 🧇 on Waffle 🧇 Gaaannnnggggg!!!

[@MrMewsKitty]

Siblings of story 1 give me the vibe of telling OP "You owe us for holding the truth" when the paternity bomb gets dropped.

[@squatasaurus9879]

Tip if your eggs are hard to peel: 1. Roll them on the table while putting pressure with your palm to crack all around 2. Have a bowl (large mixing bowl is easiest so no water spills) of water and peel egg in the water 3. Rinse off egg and enjoy. I used to work in a Cafe and had to peel around 20-25 at a time to make egg salad sandwiches in bulk 🙃 (If still hard to peel in water, leave them in the water bowl for a second while you work on another egg)

[@Ventura574]

I crack my boiled eggs by putting them in a slim glass jar, pop the top on, then shake it. The shell usually slips off really quick, afterwards.

[@muhname6052]

Egg story: i like how the NTA commenter complained that the boyfriend didnt offer to help. Do the thing he did know how to do. So he was supposed to ask op to explain the thing he didnt know how to do. Genius.

[@vengeance4927]

Fill a little tupperware container with water, fill it with eggs (one layer on the bottom), close it, and shake it around a good bit to loosen up the shells. Either they'll be really hard or soft and squishy. For soft and squishy: GENTLY squeeze all around until everything is cracked, then peel. For hard: Just uh... try your best lol

[@lilz]

Loveeee having new videos to listen to while I work! Thank you!

[@tartsonawire]

Easiest way I've found to peel a boiled egg is to hold in under water. Shell comes right off.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

2) Let's be realistic they're not going to give that money to their son for college they're going to use it for whatever they need and want it for.

[@oakenshadow6763]

Story 4: The house does not need to be cleaned top to bottom every weekend. They are treating them like house servants. The sibling needs to help. Everyone sucks.

[@miriam9419]

I know the best way to peel an egg. You crack it, then get a tea spoon. Put it between the egg and shell. Slide the teaspoon between the shell and egg and the shell will come off in two pieces.

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

Story #3: What!???! 32 and can't peel a hard boiled egg. How!??? I'm sorry but I'm sitting here wondering, A. Did he never get an Easter egg? B. Is his family so wealthy that he had servants doing all such basic tasks for him? C. Was he so coddled by his parent(s) that they did literally everything for him? or D. Is he being willfully incompetent so OP will stop asking for help and will do everything on her own?. WOW! So glad my kids started learning basic skills early in life.

[@slothdance2020]

Story 3, weaponized incompetence.

[@noxiouschocolate9644]

Story 1: Please let there be an update.

[@FjswLoser]

Story 1: I wouldn't say a damn thing lol

[@ineedhoez]

Story 2: wtf? They are literally not cleaning and leaving all of the chores for OP and the girlfriend. NYA

[@dumbrat5285]

Yay! This video was just in time for me to watch while dying my hair! I hope you all have a wonderful day!

[@robertparker2420]

Eggshells sticking has more to do with how fresh the eggs are than how they are boiled/cooled. Best way to prevent sticking shells is to steam the eggs. Try it and you will never go back.