We TRIED To Give Out Advice... | Sad Boyz Podcast

[@dip4529]

That thing Jarvis said about deleting conversations and muting notifications hits so hard lmao I'm glad I'm not the only one who does this

[@iz3762]

knowing that other people also do this literally makes me feel exponentially less embarrassed about it

[@efficientpirate]

same literally so relieving to hear him say that

[@ri907]

I do this too, I think it's connected to my ADHD. I think it's a manifestation of that feeling of the text conversations not being a "done" task. My brain needs that "tab" to close otherwise, it just hinders my functionality.

[@larsland]

Same omg

[@carterrrrrrr]

@@ri907 yeah it feels like suspension building in a horror movie yk? the adhd combined with anxiety gives me panic attacks over simple text convos 😭😭

[@kymbredwyeryoga]

Honestly, the whole "flip a coin and see how you feel" is the BEST strategy for making a hard decision. Because if you don't like the way things went, then you know that's your answer! I've been doing this for a long time with all sorts of decisions. I hope this person was able to make a good decision for themselves!

[@chloe-rr3xz]

jordan saying w his full chest that he washes his hoodie like twice a year is so funny lmfaoo jordan that is insane w peace and love

[@honeybat8803]

Ok but I can completely relate 😭

[@asheronthehoise4813]

he is literally me

[@420kleiner]

Hoodie barely touches you (forearms at most and maybe neck) and it's nice to have something that you don't wash (now that isn't just in my head it sounds kinda insane)

[@averytrexel]

oh my god i totally get the message sending anxiety thing. even if it’s nothing intense or risky, like just sending a friend i haven’t talked to in a while a meme. i have to hype myself up and then i just delete the message thread lmao

[@-user_redacted-]

Even messaging someone I speak to daily I still type things out three times before I finally send. I specifically set my Facebook messenger status to invisible so my friends wouldn't see the dots showing that I was typing because the thought of that made me even more anxious.

[@AshChiCupcak]

This has been a problem for me since I was first using messengers in like 2004. It only kinda gets better. This comment right here is part of my exposure therapy. I hope to overcome it by commenting so many times that I become numb to messages. It.... Kinda works 😅

[@thecatlurking]

Yesss I felt what Jarvis was talking about so much.

[@ri907]

@@AshChiCupcak Hey I do that too! I've used messenger as well, but to me the other chat formats/functions on various social media are so similar, if not the same thing but in a different app. Anyways, I relate so heavily to that. It's so natural for me to feel awful about texting people back but, I feel like it's so much more normal when you have ADHD or anxiety. Maybe I'm wrong, but in my experience, it's never gone away. It's still there. That's why I relate so heavily. Seeing other people talk about how they struggle with this too, is so relieving. Thank you for sharing your experience & I hope you are able to live your best life! 😄💖 Much love!

[@honeybat8803]

Exactly. It’s such a harmful cycle for me…

[@stellarae8257]

You guys talking about needing new clothes but not feeling able to or guilty about it and still wearing clothes you hate that also never fit and you’ve had them for over a decade might be the most relatable thing I’ve ever heard a KZbinr say. It felt like someone finally understood what growing up poor is like and how it continues to affect you in adulthood, even when you’re financially stable! Thank you for being open and honest and sharing about that. I actually feel so seen because of it haha 💛💛

[@isabelflann4087]

Yeah this is SO relatable, I have SO much guilt over being wasteful and even over what materials its made of 😅

[@basil19262]

"the fact that you're going through this matters" changed something in my brain that's been stuck since I got my first report card

[@TheLostWammy]

Love watching Jarvis verbally mimic Jordan over and over. It's very sweet and also very Neurodivergent

[@sterthedude]

It's cool, don't think you should be diagnosing ppl on the internet tho

[@TheLostWammy]

@sterthedude so I get where you're coming from, but Jarvis openly talks about having an ADHD diagnosis. Which is a form of neurodivergence. I'm not diagnosin' a stranger I don't know on the internet.

[@Retrospectator14]

The sock/tshirt/clothes discussion was so dang relatable. I'm in my late 20s and have been on a tear of going through stuff I've owned since Middle school, convincing myself to use my adult money to upgrade my basics and actually figure out what I like to use and wear, and it's such a big task to take on for some reason

[@ri907]

Hey! I do that too! I think we're in the same boat which often feels like it's sinking. 😅 I wish you the best of luck in being able to upgrade your living situation. 💞 As I also feel that struggle. I still have wayyy too many papers and other items that my brain just wants me to keep. Getting rid of stuff is so so so difficult. 😬😔

[@isabelflann4087]

These mfs spitting about the t shirts

[@randy5301]

This really is my favorite podcast now because it has everything I didn't know I wanted and needed in a podcast. You two have such blatant open respect for one another, and it's obvious that you care about what the other is saying and your conversations all just flow so well in addition to being emotionally open. I feel like there's such a lack of emotional openness among people that it's just so refreshing to be able to listen to something like this, especially because I'm someone who really appreciates conversations like this and I don't feel like I get to have them very often? It's just providing satisfaction to a particular niche I've been lacking in in life I suppose. Your efforts in putting this together are much appreciated :-)

[@saturnbyrning621]

Hello! Timestamps of the episode here, don't look if you don't want to be spoiled! Listened to the episode while I crocheted and it was a lot of fun 😁 0:00 Intro 0:45 Big Sean is gonna catch the baby 5:30 What if Jarvis had a secret wife and kid? 6:40 Anxieties 10:40 Checking in with Chris, the FBI person 11:57 Two Lizzes down (and talk of British politics) 19:15 US President stuff (aka we seem to be more okay with them once they're out of office [except Trump]) 20:40 Jordan gets asked about being here legally in an Uber with a segue into immigration talk 22:45 Jarvis wants to get good at MarioKart and Mario Party Pen Palz 25:15 If anyone FELT like sending in a jingle for pen palz, go for it, but don't feel like you need to 27:38 Friend breakups (advice: you'll find your people [you found one already, even if it didn't work out] and surround yourself with people who want to enthusiastically be around you) 36:42 Living in places with different racial dynamics (East Africa and America) [advice: what you are going through matters, but you are not lesser for what's happening or what other people think. it gets better the more you can distance yourself from baby brains) 47:50 House of Honkers (advice: speak with parents since they're helping with the house. think about the timeline between events [when will I get _____ if I do ______ first?]. ask yourself which one prioritizes happiness and comfort. how sure are you that the surgery will increase your bottom line? are there ways to accentuate your assets? flip a coin and see if you're disappointed by the results, you'll know which one you want more.) Exit Pen Palz 1:00:50 How often do you wash a hoodie? 1:01:45 Jordan's three things that will show he's made it in life (drink water, clean clothes, a full-body massage every day 😂) 1:03:30 Jarvis wants to like ALL his clothes (what a mood) 1:08:15 Jarvis' assless underwear and hulking out of them 1:14:00 Jordan needs to empty his storage box from when he got ejected 1:17:07 Next Sad Boyz will be the first in person together in years! (wooo!!! 🎊) 1:17:40 We love you, and we're sorry (outro)

[@parkerg100]

Thank you!!! 🥰

[@ri907]

Thank you! I love these. They are so helpful for me. Half the time I watch the video but completely forget where stuff is in the video. :)

[@doritosrbest3769]

Love ya

[@Zindai]

With the sock/underwear replacement, oh god, I'm guilty of it too. Actually goes for some shirts too, tho they get demoted to sleepwear long before they completely rip. For me, one of the issues is that there are many clothes I just can't stand wearing. If it's my neurodivergence or the clothes being weird for everyone, I don't know, but it feels like such an energy investment to buy new clothes exactly because of this. Not saying it doesn't feel good once I finally go and get it done lol, but yeah

[@Zindai]

And i 100% get the feeling of treating yourself to a pair of your good socks lol

[@Retrospectator14]

Oh yeah this all the way. I have to try things and make sure they actually "feel" right, but I also find returning clothes so draining, so I have acquired a variety of one offs that I liked in concept but that never feel comfortable physically or mentally when I actually want to wear them (whether something is a little scratchy or just makes me tense up all over for seemingly no reason). It's been really frustrating figuring out which fabrics I actually like just to try not to make the same mistake again, but even that doesn't always correlate.

[@vivianbauer9038]

I also love you Jordan; hearing you say that you grew up in a home where you were encouraged with knowing you have intrinsic value taught me so much about how to parent my child like it gave me the language for what I know as a mother but gave me the words for it; it clicked something in my brain and I needed to hear that because I did not have that in my childhood; I've been in therapy and treatment forever but who knew Jordan expressing that was what I needed!! that language; I was an English major so language is important to me haha

[@gabiinprogress]

Every episode and video I find a reason to love y'all more. The absolute respect and validation in which you answered the question about buying the house vs getting surgery for the sex worker is so refreshing and so indicative of guys who take regular gulps of respecting women juice. I realize the bar is on the floor but y'all are at the ceiling 💗

[@ri907]

The mix of comedy and the genuine honesty of living with ADHD &/or living with bipolar disorder. Is what I truly love about this podcast and what continues to bring me back to your content. I really love hearing both of your perspectives. Thank you for making this podcast! 😄 I get that no one is perfect, I don't come to this podcast expecting perfection but it's so nice to hear honest perspectives about how living is with ADHD &/or Bipolar disorder, it's so refreshing. Thank you Sadboyz! 💖💖

[@marnenotmarnie259]

a house is generally a really good investment from what i've learned. if you're able to secure that now i'd think it would be a lot safer. you never know what could happen career wise, but having a stable place to live that you won't lose is just such a great opportunity

[@novarachnid]

Ahh, this is my favorite podcast by far. You guys are so funny and it sounds natural. A normal conversation.

[@Savvy_Fandoms]

I would do house first! It will give you a comfortable place of your own for surgery recovery. There will be a period of not being able to work, and if you miss rent due to decreased income, then you can be kicked out and your credit score will be affected negatively. If you're behind on mortgage payments, it takes quite a bit longer before the bank tries to kick you out. (But hopefully part of the savings mean your period of inactivity is covered!) And maybe the new environment will give a boost to your income while you save up again for boobs. 🤷‍♀️😊

[@Sarah-md5sl]

the message anxiety is real! when i need to email my profs i will go through 4 drafts of the email, and then schedule it for the next morning when i’m sleeping so i won’t chicken out and i turn off email notifs on my phone so i can mentally prepare to see their response it’s ….. unhealthy lmao

[@ri907]

While I agree it's not healthy(as I do the same thing you're talking about but not w/ professors anymore), it's so much more normal for some people than you may think. I hope someday you're able to just send the draft & feel okay. Much love to you! 💖💞💌

[@ambersmith2612]

As a kid being mixed black/ white and being visibly Black no one ever called me anything BUT black so now seeing all this racial discourse is opening up a whole can of identity worms for me... I suddenly don't feel " Black enough" to identify as such when I've never known anything but Blackness and I'm not in high school so maybe it's just the internet 😭😭

[@Jelzz]

Ugh. I spent so much of my school life being called white. 🙄 My upbringing was just a little different having a parent from Nigeria. Everyone just has different life experiences. "Being black" is so many things. No one can take your identity away from you.

[@sav9207]

it probably is just the internet cause from my experience, that discourse ended in high school and only gets brought up online lmao i also went through the same thing but it def gets better or ig just less important as you go through life

[@ri907]

I relate to you, I have a whole identity crisis too. I'm Asian, but live in America. But was adopted(so my parents don't look like me). I often feel 'too Asian' for some but 'not Asian enough' for others. It sucks. My heart goes out to you. I hope you're able to get through this. Also like others have said it tends to get better. 😄💞💖

[@hamburgerphobia]

The deleting conversations thing is sooo crazy like I've always that + other variations. Getting my adhd diagnosis, learning about RSD and hearing other people share this experience with me is nice 😭

[@ardengod]

i can’t get over jarvis and jordan starting to make cartoon sexy sounds and then it cutting. i can’t help but imagine they kept going for 5 more minutes and had to cut it out. (15:35)

[@Sar_bear]

To anyone who needs to hear this. Tell your friends you love them, give them hugs hello, and goodbye, and when they are going through a hard time. Ask for a hug if you need one. Feel secure in your friendships where you can tell them about your insecurities, wether it is about yourself or you're relationships/friendships. Ask your friends if they are ok and make sure they know you are someone who cares about them and will be there to listen to their problems or to be there to just be a distraction for them. You can do all these things in platonic relationships. Gender/sexuality doesn't matter in these situations. But it is ok to not feel comfortable with all of these things at first because of how you were raised or situations that have happened to you in the past. It is ok if you or your friend does not want/feel comfortable with physical touch, just make sure they know you care about them and want them in your life. That is the most important part. You deserve to have close platonic relationships where you feel comfortable hugging or snuggling, if that is something you both want. Some of these things take time to get to, or to feel comfortable with (if it's something you want, and it is ok to want it), but you can get to that point. People love and care about you and want you in their life even if they don't voice it. 💙

[@ri907]

This is so nice to hear! 🥰 I believe it is so true! Friendships are about being able to rely on another person to be there for you. While I don't think you should be codependent on each other(although I get that sometimes that happens without it being a conscious choice), I do heavily believe that you can help others and yourself by being a friend. It's so valuable, and I'm so happy to have friends that I'm able to do this with. It's such a good value to my well being and I'm eternally grateful for my friends who have become like family to me. 💞 I hope you also have these kinda relationships in your life. I hope that you're able to form these relationships. As someone who also posts like you(in that I say check on your friends, let them know you care about them), I often forget to make sure I do that too. Wishing you the best!! 💞💞

[@Sar_bear]

TLDR: This became a very long story about how I had suddenly found myself with 1 true friend (who lived states away) after graduationing and how I now have friends that make me feel more loved and I am now closer to than any of the people from high school that I thought I was very close to. It is never too late to find the people that will be those that will be the closest to you and will make you feel the most loved and cared for, and will be the people to help you figure out who you are. Keep holding out hope, let yourself be vulnerable, and you will find your people like I did. We are always growing as people, and our lives are always changing. Your life now, and the person you are now, will not be the exact same a month from now, a year from now, or 10 years from now. You will met people that will love you and care you, and truely want you in their lives. I found some of my people when I didn't expect it, you will one day too. (TW for mention of parental death+ heart attack, not detailed, I put when the discussion of it starts and ends so it can be skipped if needed.) To anyone who has recently graduated high school, it's ok if you and your high school friends slowly drift apart. When I started college it became very obvious to me who wanted to stay connected with me and who didn't really value my friendship anymore. It is not a fault in you that the people that you were close with are no longer in your in circle or are people you relate to anymore. Out of all the people that I was friends with when I was a kid, whether we met in elementary, middle, or high school, I am only still close to one of them. And that person is someone who I relate to the most and have come to realize has always been the type of person that cared for me as a friend and truely wanted me in their life. This is not to say that anyone that I am now no longer friends with are bad people or were never really my friends, it just means that we have all changed as people and the type of friendship we had no longer applies to our lives now. I had a very hard time my first year and a half in college because I realized I had no friends now (besides 1 person who had already been living states away for years). My roommate and I were friendly to each other but we're both shy and didn't ask each other to hang out, I talked with someone people in class but we really only hung out in class. I was lonely and was not used to not having any friends text me at least every other day or so. I didn't put myself out there for a whole year and then going into my second year I decided to do something. I had started watching d&d podcasts and had been saying to a friend who was slowly drifting away from me, that I wanted to start playing but I knew deep down that while she said that we should try to make it happen one day, that we never would. One day about a week before my second year of classes started I saw a girl on my college's app (that I was talking to that day about buying school book from) post that she was looking to start playing D&D but had no DM or other people to play with. A guy had commented volunteering to DM and a couple other people wanted to play too, so I took my shot and asked if I could join as well. We were going to play once a week in the study room next to my dorm room. Less than an hour before our first session I met to talk to my new DM, he came to my room to talk. My roommate was in our room and she got invited to play too! I now had a group of people that I met with at least once a week to hang out and play D&D, and soon I also got invited to play other short card games too. I was starting to feel less alone. I didn't always sit by myself at meal time (even though I didn't mind it), I had people that invited me to sit with them or came over to my table to sit with me. My roommate and I got closer too. Puting myself out there one time was starting to pay off. Then suddenly it was a few months later, spring semester of 2020, and I wasn't living in the dorms anymore. Thankfully at the beginning of summer my DM reached out to me to play D&D online with some people. It ended up being him, me, my college roommate, a guy from college we had played with, a friend of the DM, and a friend of that friend. We played at least once a week, a lot of the times multiple times a week because we all had nothing else to do. We played online games outside of D&D too. (TW topic in this one paragraph) At the end of 2020 my dad had a heart attack, I was the one that gave him CPR until the paramedics showed up, and he died about two weeks later a couple of days after my birthday and the day after Christmas. While I didn't tell my D&D friends what happened, just having one night a week where I could focus on something other than the bad things happening in my life and didn't have to talk about it. My friends didn't know that they helped me get through a very hard time in my life by just being my friends. (End of TW topic) The D&D games we were playing fizzled out but two of the people I was playing with that I had met through this online game, stayed in contact with me a bit still a little bit, we had some discord calls where we would stay up talking for hours just like we did after D&D sessions too. Then one of them was planning on flying out to visit the other friend how lived in the state next to me, and they invited me and another friend to come visit as well. This ment a lot to me. I have always had a problem with feeling like no one wanted me around or that people would just invite me because they felt they had to (I most likely have RDS which is related to my ADHD) and then going out of their way to have me come over ment a lot. I also got to visit for even longer with them this past summer, and the fact that they truely want to see me and make it known that they care about me means a lot. These friends have mentioned that they want to one day all live together (wether it's realistic or not I don't know) and them genuinely wanted me around means so much to me. They are now the type of friends that I feel more comfortable saying that I love them and it not feeling super weird, and we can give each other hugs and just chill resting on each other and it's not weird. I have learned things about myself because of them and they make me feel appreciated and loved. I am finally starting to feel like I can voice that I am insecure about my relationships with people and wether or not they like me because I have that nagging voice in my head telling me these things. And my friends reassure me that they care about me and want me there. I should be able to see them in person again in January and I am very excited about it. This became an extremely long story that I didn't plan on tell but I just want people to know that I was in a hard place where I thought I had no one and putting myself out there one time changed my whole life and I am so grateful for the people that have been brought into my life because of it. Life can get hard and dark but it changes and new people will be brought into your life, and you are never too old to make those close friendships, and you are never too old to figure out who you are and what you want the rest of your life to look like. Keep holding on, people care about you and want you in their lives.

[@elliejelly8815]

I have been sort of in and out of the mental hospital lately for a lot of pretty severe issues and even just opening up about the fact that I’ve been to the hospital for my mental health has caused people to sort of stop talking to me or avoid me all together. All the things that I struggle with his isolating myself and so it’s difficult when people distance themselves from me like that because it feels like it validates my isolation in a way.

[@VenusianLissette]

i really love this podcast. thank you gentlemen.💛 i also really love that i get to piggyback off all the paid therapy work jarvis has done. because i didn’t know me deleting messages after sending, (or during what i perceive to be critical times); + feeling an insane level of shame before, during, & after… was anxiety. I just thought i had a fucked personality quirk, brought on by extreme self embarrassment. (thanks again) as a complete stranger, I’m wishing you both the best, and that you have more good days, than bad days. thank you for this relaxing podcast + your soothing advice. take care💫 *also, you’re not over sharing, just go on a panty crusade, buy yourself a massive selection, pls.*

[@Yessica13]

Lol I fully expect Jarvis's next video to have a sock sponsor. Also your wardrobe goals are basically the Marie Kondo philosophy. Only keep things that you actually love.

[@TheDeekins]

last year I splurged on Mack Weldon stuff -- socks, undershirts, PJs, sweats, long-sleeve shirts, shorts, chinos, even a robe. I spent a lot, but now I have such head-to-toe comfort at all times it makes me so very happy

[@honeysweet4804]

i am so excited about in person sad boys! also i need a person in my life who looks at me the way jordan looks at jarvjs i stg. (not a ship comment, i just love how he always seems so focused and interested in what he is saying)

[@jbone877]

I first read "finna pop" as "finna poop". I was disappointed to find out I was wrong

[@MayaParris]

3:40 the fact that Big Sean wore a Burberry shirt to his baby shower is hilarious.

[@thatspiderbyte]

the discussion about friendships was honestly really comforting because i recently found my people & it's been kinda weird getting used to just.. being allowed to be myself. relieving but its been a strange experience,,,

[@AmyAberrant]

They think that having bigger boobs would earn them more money, but they haven’t thought that having a different home setup could make them more money, depending on if it makes their set more aesthetically pleasing, gives them more filming opportunities, etc.

[@beautibrew]

Every time I listen to a new episode of this podcast I'm more convinced that Jarvis has somehow infiltrated my brain and decided to expose my innermost thoughts to the world cause that bit about the message sending anxiety is 100% me on a daily basis

[@StrawberryMoon4444]

I could listen to you both all day ❤ love this podcast so much

[@stellarae8257]

I loved this episode. I struggle with chronic illnesses as well as chronic mental illnesses and I’ve learned that I genuinely have to break the rules that we all think we have to follow so that my life can be better. I’ve been buying new pairs of underwear and socks often when I go to a big store. Having more of those things means I save energy by having to do laundry less often and that if I’m too down to clean my clothes I probably have enough to get through until I’m able to get myself to do things. Same thing with me using a collapsible cane at school on days I need it and using a sun therapy light at the beginning of my day because I have a hard time getting outside but I still need help setting my REM cycle. Do what you need to do, not what you think you have to do!! ❤❤

[@CSpottsGaming]

I hesitated on the sweatshirt and in that time, my size sold out 😭 And then the Big Sean bit had to rub it in

[@veryhazydaisy]

Another thing to consider is that breast enhancement involves medical risks + ongoing costs, implants generally need replacement every 10-15 years, so take that into account, and the FDA reccommend an MRI every 2-3 years to check for issues

[@finnweldin1772]

big sean ready with the catchers mitt

[@southerncomfort5295]

In regards to the surgery/house discussion, I personally think there’s a decent amount of risk vs reward involved. If the asker were to get the job done, expecting her audience to love it and they don’t, it could count as a loss. I’m not sure what platform they use/their specific modeling style, but I’d put up a video on my social asking for the audience’s opinion and maybe set a goal that they can knowingly help you reach. Have a poll and a fund set up, maybe even a discounted/themed shoot set that has payments go specially towards the surgery. And not trying to be paranoid, but there’s also the risk of complications to keep in mind. If it were me, the house sounds like the safer option.

[@ameliavelasco8602]

And don’t forget getting new boobs is a serious surgery which could result in complications and even best case scenario, you’re looking at months of recovery and no work.

[@LydiaTaylorMusic]

I do the deleting a conversation thread anxiety thing all the time. It leads to me missing important info from the conversation sometimes like, if I need to go back and find an address or a picture or something, but I deleted the message thread out of anxiety, and then I'm just internally crying and kicking myself- good times.

[@Cheyscrochetshop]

I’ve moved four times in the last two years and it really helps to get rid of shit you don’t actually need to hold onto. During all that packing I pared down my clothes to where I didn’t have dupes of things and only kept my favorites. I went from having a whole room in my house for a closet to using a small closet to hang anything than can be and a small basket for undergarments etc and one basket for shoes stored under my 40 gal snake tank. I could pack up and move all of my stuff in an hour now. But I also don’t miss all of the extra stuff. My favorite new investment was nice new crew socks that come one in a pack. So if you’re reading this and you wanna toss (or donate) and replace your clothes… do it!! I thank myself every time I put on that new article of clothing that’s of better quality.

[@chelsea_umberger]

I totally can relate to that last bit with replacing necessities. I won’t do it for myself but I feel like I’m consistent with doing it for my family. I need to prioritize myself 😅😅

[@ri907]

THIS IS SO RELATABLE! I do that too! Prioritizing me is so much harder than prioritizing anyone else. I wish it were different but I'm so glad I'm not alone in that. Wishing you the best in this!! Because prioritizing you is so important(although it is so not easy)!! 💞

[@viviantompkins7925]

Sad Boyz my beloved

[@thisurldoesnotexist]

"new collab" and it's a baby

[@cecdoglover]

I'd say go through getting the house first so you can be moved in and settled before having to deal with recovery from surgery. There's nothing worse than moving while dealing with recovering from medical stuff. Get all moved in and set up so you have a nice place to recover

[@strumbolioli328]

The way Jordon says pop….i love it!😂😊

[@C0lumbidae]

the stuff about deleting conversations on your side is... yeah. unfortunately i cant do this bcuz i use discord, so half the time i send message and then flinch away from my phone

[@hell0nicci]

To clarify even tho neither of you will read this probably nor care but jhene did this really cool “out of this world” celestial kind of maternity shoot and I’m guessing the baby shower was space themed to go with that??? Idk she’s such a visionary person, always pops off it’s nice to hear others speak kindly of them usually ppl just shit on both of them for being corny

[@riribeasley4741]

It’s also pretty common to have big decor items like that at a themed baby shower

[@lissurko5267]

Jarvis saying he gets anxious watching Netflix alone really spoke to me because I've been realizing I feel that way now. I used to imagine watching shows as being an escape from reality, but now it seems more like I'm afraid to watch shows. Idk if it is because I get too emotionally attached to them, if they might be bad, or because I want to keep interacting with new media constantly.

[@ri907]

Hey I feel you on this. I relate so heavily to that. I feel like I need an emotional support buddy to watch things with me. Or just enjoy media with me. FOMO is so very real for me & I hate it half the time. Wishing you nothing but the best in your pursuit of watching media alone. Although, I would recommend trying to get to a point where that's a feasible option for you. I know it's wayyy easier said than done. 💞💞

[@indigodovesss]

@@ri907 aw this thread is so sweet I thought this was a weird experience for me, this is why I watch YT instead of shows bc it makes me feel like I am w someone rather than escaping completely. It’s a mix of both

[@ri907]

@@indigodovesss I'm glad you're able to enjoy watching KZbin. I do that too. :) The community aspect of replies, to the original video or the commentors under said video, help me as well to feel less alone in my watching. Thanks for sharing your experience. I appreciate your honesty. :)

[@isabelflann4087]

Yeah I am with Jarvis and you on this one. Been watching the same show on repeat for two years now every night to fall asleep.

[@smeick]

I've seen the sub count go up and up every day I've clicked on a sad boyz video and I'm so happy y'all are thriving

[@myiachanmagicalgirl]

Maybe this is because I'm new to the podcast, but I wasn't expecting my sad boys to be the podcasters that finally overlapped with my deep and Abiding Love of the BBC

[@cutenpierced]

IVE MISSED YOU GUYS

[@nl8661]

House or Honkers, if you see this, get the house. Your equity will increase your net worth & there's no guarantee that you'll get more money after the surgery. Plus, there's recovery time you'll not be able to work. Get the house, save up again, then buy it.

[@bubbaeatsworldmp2]

feel much better after hearing that thing abt deleting or hiding notifications. i have to go through my messages and delete any conversations i’ve had with people who either arent prevalent in my life don’t talk to me very often or who make me feel weird abt myself or else just knowing and registering that the messages are still there makes me overwhelmed and i start hating myself. same thing with hiding notifications if someone starts to make me feel inferior wether on purpose or not i hide their notifs or i’ll change(sometimes delete )their name in my phone (or change their contact photo to an initial) to something simple to take back my power it doesn’t do much to them but somehow it keeps me sane i don’t know how any of this makes much sense and maybe i’m just insane but yeah

[@novarachnid]

What if he thinks it’s going to pop out Predator style, and he’s shielding himself

[@malikfleming8954]

I'm so happy you didn't notice that the othering was gross. I always felt it growing up as the only black kid in a German school. They always were upset when I didn't want them to touch my hair or asked why and didn't understand why it would annoy me. Even cute girls I always felt like it was weird, but I always was made hyper aware of my racial issues far too young. Also mixed so hey I got that you're not even black treatment too.

[@not_ur_mamas_mothman]

my absolute favorite thing as a person who has indigenous heritage is hearing conservative white people refer to America as "gods country". like... no sis, it isn't.😅

[@carterrrrrrr]

if it was gods country i’d think it’d be a hell of a lot less of a shithole 😭😭😭

[@HarpyHD96]

Looking forward to the spinoff podcast: House of Honkers

[@Cheyscrochetshop]

Why y’all got me singing so many random songs I didn’t even remember I remembered lol

[@cloudbrooks]

at 57:44 i fuckin. spit coffee thru my nose why is it so funny just the way he didnt notice for a few seconds 😭

[@lalababayaga]

Jarvis is making me feel better about my clothes hoarding problem. 😂 But also just throw out the socks and underwear with holes!

[@violetheise4717]

Oh man was this the podcast for me. It feels like a routine at this point, losing friends.

[@marnenotmarnie259]

same. i've been starting to feel like i'm just not capable of keeping friendships or something

[@mamasmiley2124]

i recommend the house first. houses tend to take time to pay off. so the sooner you start the better. in some places house costs via mortgage is chesper than rent. also. i know some ppl who like 5 10 years after a boob job wish they hadn't and instead made a down payment to house. so.there is that

[@onedova2298]

Yay another episode! took so long 😭 but worth it 😁

[@hollymarie241]

*PSA* Mario kart can be a good drinking game (if you enjoy drinking) if you play with friends and drink the same amount of sips/shots for the place you come ☺️

[@goobiusmaximus86]

When I was in college, my friends and I had a spot at the end of our cul-de-sac where we would sit and smoke or just hang out and watch the people and cars go by. One night I sat on the curb and unknowingly sat in a puddle of some kind of mystery chemical, and it was sticky and gross so I washed them the next day. When I took them out of the dryer, both buttcheeks of my pants had completely disintegrated and it basically left me with the lovechild of a pair of assless chaps and a denim g-string. I still have that pair of pants in my closet. I still want to know what ungodly liquid I sat in that night.

[@grantkistel3411]

When big Sean uses the hand emojis I just imagine him about to field a punt in the NFL but the ball is his baby sailing through the air and he’s just scrambling with his hands out like that tracking it down

[@Lilacil]

I would get the house first just because complications can happen & having no savings to correct a complication could for sure get in the way of your income.

[@Lilacil]

Also, I feel like housing prices going up in price dramatically is an absolute guarantee.

[@okayyollie]

i only just glanced at the video like an hour in but the disparity in how jarvis and jordan are framed feels like jordan is a giant peering through a mouse hole to chat with his small friend jarvis.

[@Maria_745]

I seriously can't wait for the point in my life where hearing the price at the drycleaners doesn't make me depressed lol

[@whitneyporter7979]

yo, if you're a brand rep for for days clothing, hit up the boys so jarvis can purge his old clothes without feeling wasteful.

[@aarongagne8918]

You guys gotta try wool socks. Not the cheap ones though. Get a pair of smartwool mid cushion socks for like $15, they stay warm and comfortable even when wet, aren't hot or scratchy in the summer, and feel brand new every single time.

[@sterthedude]

This sounds paid lol

[@thedreamer215]

As a fellow sex worker, there are many things you should consider before going forward with the house or surgery. 1. Where does your main source of income come from? (I believe you mentioned cam and porn revenues) 2. Do you have a steady stream of followers when you cam? I'm not that familiar with the porn industry so I apologize if I say anything wrong. From my perspective, porn stars want to be popular and they want more people to know their name. Your name is your brand in a sense. Your fans will find your videos faster by searching your name on websites. Your name will also help with advertisement. On websites where clients view you amongst other sex workers, your name may stand out because of your work in the porn industry. Clients/customers pay more for the PSE. I am assuming that the more well known and liked you are in the porn star community will benefit your earnings with potential clients/sugar daddies and merchandise. If you aren't selling your own merchandise as a side hustle to get more earnings, then I highly suggest that you start soon. 3. You mentioned that you really like your body as it is now. You also said other sex workers you know have earned more after their surgery. Before changing your body, consider where most of your earnings are coming from. Big boobs or any cosmetic surgeries could change your current earnings. You could lose clients/customers because of the surgery. Some people prefer the natural look. At the end of the day, it is your body and you should do whatever makes you happy. Please do not get any surgery based on potential new earnings. Your confidence and personality is what others love about you. Only do what will make you happy. We can't please everyone. No two hobbyists are the same. A house is a great investment. If you do want to pursue the surgery, I would recommend telling your cam followers first. Maybe they can help with the costs 😉, if that's what you really want. Maybe you will get blessed and have the funds for both the house and surgery, if it is what you want. Good luck darling 🥰

[@3redroses3]

This was the video I needed to remind myself to replace my old socks and underwear

[@serunato]

i have this app for second hand clothes where you can exchange things so whenever i get bored of a piece of clothing or don't wear it anymore, i just resell it or exchange it for something new and fresh.. it's great for someone like me who gets bored of things very easily lol

[@ColeCole7654]

H&M's Let's close the loop campaign collects clothing that're too loved for donating. Puts some of the disposable responsibility back on them... some other companies do the same and I think you get a coupon. Love the pod

[@laney3873]

yooo i was born in gainesville! so cool that jarvis is also from there

[@Leaf321]

Just did a big clothes purge in preparation of moving, it's really the best way to purge belongings. It feels so good but I've been left with a bunch of clothes I don't like but don't know how to replace. Oh well. Jarvis just like you did with the workout pants, throw out all your underwear and buy some of that from amazon. It's decent and also cheap.

[@tinnagigja3723]

My oldest underwear is probably 20 years old, and I've worn them less than 20 times. My oldest item of clothing that I regularly wear is a jacket from the 70's that I've had for 25 years.

[@glutenfreesnark]

"One boob now, one boob later." I fucking died at that part 😂😂😂

[@WhiteWolf496]

Yay depression help is here again... idk how to phrase it rn

[@zephyrthorne266]

I finally got around to starting the podcast. I haven't made it to this episode yet but I'm on like number 12 or something 😀. I commented here cuz it's more likely that you guys will see it. I just wanted to thank you both for doing this. I'm trans and I live in a horrible small town full of old, ⚪, conservative people so I don't really have good guys around to be friends with. I love listening to your podcast cuz I feel seen and you guys are hilarious. I've been popping on my headphones to listen to you guys on stitcher for the last few days whenever I get stressed out... Which happens a lot but it's way more manageable once I became a Sad Boy. Anyways, thanks again. You guys are awesome 👍

[@TheChelseaHanna]

I need to know who’s not responding to Jarvis on dating apps. I just wanna talk.

[@valentinecore]

wtf im going thru a friend breakup right now too. i think it might be the mercury retrograde tbh lolll

[@Mumble785]

omfg the clothing thing, i'm trying so hard to be less allergic to throwing out and buying new clothes lately and yall said the thing about literally putting on a sock with a hole in the toe and just Hating It All Day AND FREAKING LITERALLYYYYY LIKE GOD I HAVE A COUPLE SOCKS LIKE THAT *AND* I HAVE ANTI-FOOT-TEXTURE AUTISM LIKE??? HUILSHGDUISLGHSDU I literally can't even stand noticing the SEAMS on my socks wHY DO I LET MYSELF OWN NOTICEABLE SOCKS LMFAOOO

[@jrmckim]

Not sure if I'm just fan-girling but if jarvis ever asked me out for coffee, I'd probably just melt away and never respond out of shock..

[@muffinbutton2873]

My English professor listens to this podcast, I think. I saw it on her recommended when she went to look something up on KZbin.

[@caidalee1994]

I k ow it’s been a while, but my advice for house or honkers is to prioritize the house, because the house is definite. Yes, lots of anecdotal evidence points to an increase in money, but it’s not set in stone. It could even decrease if people are alienated by cosmetic surgery due to preference. The house you’ll have no matter what.

[@lutravurr]

the boob job one makes me so anxious, like the long term complications with implants are hugely ignored by the medical community and general public, its not worth your health. theres fat transplants you can get instead, but PLEASE dont do silicone implants. my mother is struggling with severe auto immune issues and most food is making her sick 3 years after getting implants and is in support groups with women who are having similar health complications after getting implants if anyone wants to do their own research its called breast implant illness (BII)

[@shinnyart]

My favorite podcast ever

[@tinnagigja3723]

No matter how equally gray and blobby everyone is, there's always someone who will claim to be grayer and blobbier than you.

[@thatplane3865]

Wanted to add the message thing is real, I actually will schedule messages with google messages and leave the app

[@Ramberta]

"that pause was downright pregnant"

[@sarahbischoff2375]

I literally started darning my socks because I couldn’t stand to throw them away. It’s more expensive and takes so much more time than just buying new ones. Why. Why do I do this

[@Ramberta]

i almost got to that point but then realized i can literally get some more when they start to get old enough to have holes. I deserve that much in life lol.

[@e11a222]

i have the worst message anxiety ever and it gets worse when my mental health is bad :( struggling sm rn

[@ivesphillips]

Suuuuper off-topic, but does anyone know the name of the intro song? It's bugging me not knowing and wanting to listen to the whole thing so badly! 😵‍💫

[@_Moe]

To the house-or-honkers asker, Depending on where you live, you can do both. I'm looking for my first house, too, and my sister (who also bought a house) tells me that first time buyers rarely have to put down a deposit. I believe this is in the case in the U.S. and I'm guessing you live there because you mentioned a credit score. Mortgage payments are cheaper than rent payments (because there isn't a landlord trying to profit of your basic necessities...of course there are interest rates, too, because banks are just a greedy but at least the property IS YOURS) and you can always refinance after a couple years. I suggest you do some research on real estate in the U.S., with a particular focus on the benefits of being a first time buyer. If you make the right moves, ask the right questions, I think you could buy a house and a new set of boobs!

[@mikeyahl7363]

As a White dude with ADHD & a tendency to feel/observe things in ways others find odd, I absolutely just *CANNOT FATHOM* the idea of asking a Black person "Can I feel your hair." That just *bewilders* me how weird that is.

[@savage_optimist]

Obsessed with the thumbnail

[@yikes8322]

@6:30 I have an out of touch friend that over the last winter they suddenly acquired a 5 year old son but I’ve only been out of touch for like under two years and i know they had no children soooo ????