Someone Broke Into Jarvis's House | Sad Boyz Podcast

[@timetraveler878]

It is very violating to have someone walk into your apartment. Management opened my door once and I thought it was my boyfriend. I called out and then heard the door shut and lock... I didn't know who it was but it turned out they thought my apartment was vacated and came for an inspection. Even if there was no ill intent it is still really scary to think of unwanted people in your house. Glad you moved and are ok, Jarvis!

[@mayhemilyy]

Sending my thoughts and well wishes to Mother Adika. Being a caregiver is a full-time, emotionally taxing role. The amount of fantastic content that's come out with Jordan handling this is crazy... mad respect to such a dedicated creator

[@vlogily8043]

And while dealing with his own personal struggle too

[@elijahishere]

Surprised Jarvis didn't pull out my favorite Danny Gonzalez quote: "Don't be coming to my house." But also, I'm really glad that that situation turned out well. I'm not a seasoned Sad Boyz listener, but I've been really enjoying the new uploads.

[@TheMaskedHero]

Or the nightmare demon thing.

[@ComradeMarlow]

Jordan: my mother is also ill, to the point where I've had to give her 100% care (she is bed-bound) for years, now, and I am her caregiver. It's so emotionally exhausting, and I have some idea what you're going through. Stay strong, dude.

[@sarahbischoff2375]

Jarvis I remember a video a while ago where you asked where people get cool rings and bracelets. You found some awesome ones and your style is ✨✨✨

[@brazilisforreal]

25:00 The way Jordan's face shifts as he begins to understand the tone of the conversation is just awesome.

[@kisikisikisi]

As a straight girl it's just so wild to me that guys will just give their addresses to strangers and leave the door unlocked. My friend does this, usually as the visitor, and it just makes me worried about his safety. Like I'm sure it's hot but it's just scary to me. The thing that happened to Jarvis is in no way even the worst case scenario. Good thing it happened before the move though. It would feel super violating, especially when you can't be sure if it was a genuine mistake or some internet weirdo stalker.

[@_Kuma_]

As a human in general, I don’t understand it either.

[@kisikisikisi]

@@Kyarrix I mean that's you. I don't think it's hot either but clearly there are people who do. And I get it, it's not a very weird kink at all. But actually doing it in real life feels scary.

[@stickinug]

@Mickey Holmes You make a great point, which is really sad. It's disturbing that giving a stranger your address/ going to a stranger's house & hoping they don't murder you is sometimes safer than telling the world that you love or get intimate with people of the same gender or sex.

[@nuclearseahorse]

Gay hookup culture is lowkey dangerous. Lots of issues arise from the complications of being gay (speaking from multiple friends' experiences) as well as possible underlying issues that cause them to be desperate enough to forego safe meetings :/

[@justinwatson1510]

@@Kyarrix make some gay friends, it isn't that hard to find people on Grindr who are into that kind of stuff.

[@ryans6363]

I always enjoy hearing these guys speak about masculinity. Sometimes as a man, speaking to the men around me about toxic masculinity and misogyny can feel like talking to people from another dimension. It's both relieving and encouraging whenever I get a reminder I'm not the only man living in reality

[@ewtyub8466]

Thank you for sharing, Jordan. As a viewer, I don’t feel exploited for sympathy, instead I’m reminded the person I enjoy watching is human, and I want to do more to support you and your family. The Sad Boyz community sends love and healing to Momma Adika. Thank goodness for free healthcare but if you ever need to crowdfund, you’ve got a whole community here behind you. And if it makes her happy and only if she is up for it, it would be lovely to see you and her in a video sometime so she can see the love from the community herself.

[@UnnamedAndUnindicted]

Jarvis! I also have chronic hives! I've never heard anyone else say they have it too! Mine is stress related and only started in my late 30s. Last year i was diagnosed with cancer and went thru the treatments and haven't had any episodes since. Best guess we have right now is my immune system was so stressed out by the cancer it started overreacting and causing hives. I wish you health and hope you feel better soon 🧡

[@crevetcuh688]

Same here! I have been living with it for over 5 years now and i need to take daily antihistamines to be able to even function without itching and hurting. I thought i'm the only one with these unexplainable flare ups - thanks so much for sharing, it is nice knowing that somebody else understands the struggle.

[@marissarose__]

me too!!! mine have been gone for a few years (they went away at 17) but i always thought i was alone!!! i’m so sorry you have to deal with that stupidity but i’m glad i’m not alone ❤❤❤

[@aafrophonee]

As a member of the LiGaBaT community, when you said "Grindr" I couldn't help but immediately scream laughing. But I'm sorry that happened to you, especially the fact that he didn't leave immediately when you confronted him. The whole "come into my unlocked apartment" part of the culture is definitely something I'm not the biggest fan of. I'm glad you're safe

[@wisedred]

what's a ligabat

[@aafrophonee]

@ a way of writing LGBT without KZbin flagging my post

[@wisedred]

@@aafrophonee ow i see, i didn't know yt would flag this term

[@Epinardscaramel]

That grindr excuse could very well be made up, like a burglar caught in someone's yard saying “oh I'm just playing PokémonGO”. 😬

[@cerysxox]

that’s what i think too

[@alanarama]

Plus hiw dangerous woukd it be to say you're a grinder hookup to a random man? I feel like that wouldn't be your first safety thing to say, gives me such creepy stalker vibes with him netioning the videos. I hope they didn't actually know where they were but I very much doubt it and I think if jar is was a woman every one would be under the assumption that it was some one with nefarious intentions. That or some has his afmdress and sent a random person to his.

[@Cheydiary]

I developed chronic hives about six months ago with no end in sight. I really hope it won’t go on for years though it doesn’t seem super likely. It’s truly miserable but it’s weirdly comforting to hear someone else verbally confirm that they deal with the same thing. I hope you’re feeling on the up and up soon!

[@kailynfreeman3904]

As a woman I quite literally am always prepared. If I walk to the gas station I put my key in between my knuckle, I carry a aluminum water bottle, and I have a taser, pocket knife, and pepper spray.

[@froggy5748]

Where I live I’m legally not allowed to carry anything other than pepper spray and literally every woman I know has some on their keychain, myself included. It’s so depressing that we have to carry that kind of protection constantly.

[@lizzyrank5405]

I actually heard that you shouldn't put your keys between your knuckles because they can get damaged. If you can you can do those knuckle Keychain puncher. But I'm glad that I'm not the only one that gears up when leaving the house.

[@notalysha]

In Canada we’re not legally allowed to have ANY self defense objects. Not even bear spray, unless you’re going to an area that’s likely to have bears. No keychain weapons, pepper spray, nothin. So I do the thing with the keys.

[@banquetoftheleviathan1404]

I had one of those knuckle things and some girl tried pointing out what it was and couldn’t take the hint that i wasn’t trying to market it then she called me an asshole. Like ok?

[@brutalbunny]

i was like "damn, can't relate" (not out of any malice i promise

[@treegills]

god I so viscerally related to the physical difficulty Jordan had with being vulnerable in that moment. I felt that during the times I've struggled to open up to my friends - let alone thousands of faceless listeners. I am so grateful to this podcast and for your willingness to be this open to us from both of you and I really really appreciate the message that vulnerability is important even if it's hard. I also really appreciate how un-edited this podcast is - honestly the moments of silence while Jarvis tries to catch up to his train of thought are SO relatable and make me feel seen & not weird for doing the same thing lol. Adhd gang

[@montyplaysattorney]

Jarvis, I have RA and really appreciated your opening up about your autoimmune issues. You talking about swelling and sleep was like listening to me talking. Thank you for openly talking about “invisible” illnesses.

[@selenahill9464]

I don’t usually listen/ watch podcasts, but this podcast is very special to me, I only found it a few months ago but it’s so refreshing hearing two people be so emotionally vulnerable and transparent with eachother and it’s so nice to watch. I really appreciate the show because it’s something I struggle with and it’s making me see that it’s ok to be emotional and vulnerable so thank you Jarvis and Jordan x I hope you both are ok.

[@hayley58]

that story was insane i can only imagine the pure shock both jarvis and the other person were feeling at that moment 😭

[@Gumbyloomy]

You guys have rlly gotten me through a lot of tough times, I’m so happy to have you back! I’m currently going through one of the hardest transitions of my life with sudden career and mental health changes at 28 and having this podcast has been a life saver for me ❤️

[@Gumbyloomy]

Also that break-in story is the most insane shit ever I’m glad you’re ok Jarvis OMG

[@RosinaRosinaRosina]

I hope everything goes well for you!! Good luck with Everything!

[@justinwatson1510]

I hope you enjoy your new career and that you can find a therapist with whom you are comfortable opening up about your problems. Hang in there; even the worst situations aren't permanent.

[@mookamaow]

The grinder dude may have wondered like, "is this a part of the hookup?" lol Glad you're safe, Jarvis!!

[@madeleineg.2453]

I super value how you navigated the Andrew Tate topic. I think it’s important that his toxic and violent misogyny is called out about by progressive folks online, but I get upset when he becomes “popular content” and almost gets re-platformed by the people who are supposed to be criticizing him. Andrew Tate is almost a cartoon character wherein lukewarm feminists think all evil exists, but really it’s the system that created him/made him possible that’s the ultimate evil. I really appreciate how you named patriarchy and systems, and also about how reliance on prejudice and discrimination comes from a place of fear and pain. It was a really thoughtful and well structured discussion, and I appreciated it.

[@catabat49654]

I remember a TikTok that was circulating a while back where this girl was dancing in her apt and a creep climbed up her fucking balcony and entered her apt. She ended up screaming at him enough to get him to exit through the door her came in from, and she went to her next door neighbor to call the cops. I’m so glad the situation Jarvis experienced ended as well as it did (and that he moved right afterwards), but holy fuck as a woman that’s one of my biggest fears 😰

[@moogiemaggie6904]

Jordan, I am so sorry that you are going through this. I'm dealing with similar circumstances and the compartmentalization required to maintain day-to-day life is really disorienting. I've been dealing with a depressive episode too. Like you, I wanted to keep it on the DL because I didn't want to bring things down, or to explain details of my family background and my father's illness (liver disease). It has helped to let people know what's going on though, if only just to relieve myself from the anxiety of feeling like other people notice that I'm not "operating at 100%." I hope it helps you too. I can't imagine how hard it would be to tell all these people who watch you, but don't really know you. I hope that amid the chaos, you are able to get some physical, mental, and emotional rest ❤️

[@Lucifersfursona]

“I just feel _very uncomfortable_ if it seems I am not being clear in a space” I cannot express how hard that hits jordan. Are you me 🥺

[@Lucifersfursona]

That “must be nice” shit hit hard- I grew up dfab but I remember friends sharing stories of being catcalled and sexually harassed in _middle school_ and my thoughts were blinding jealousy, the feeling they were sharing this with me because we all knew they were Pretty Girls and I was an Ugly Girl, honestly like, “must be nice.” We were children. Other children and god fuckin forbid adult men were harassing my peers and the culture I was steeped in taught me I was being tortured with these stories of my friends’ sexual desirability to beat me down and trick me into trying to do better only to be shot down. Which is not remotely what that was. That was children being harmed and harassed. Not being preps didn’t protect us at all from the predatory sexualization of our bodies. Shits wild

[@Lucifersfursona]

*LoFi misogynist beats to deteriorate to* 😂💀

[@Lucifersfursona]

“All I’ve ever really said is to have nice emotes in your discord” well he never *said* he had women in his basement. That’s a thing he *_did._*

[@Lucifersfursona]

While Jarvis’ teeth will never not be his own, The _idea_ of a person eating pizza at a 45 degree angle is adorable and charming to me and I don’t really know why 😂

[@Lucifersfursona]

Jordan reads like an art fellow (highest compliment) but I have... no earthly idea what his things are Which isn’t a problem it’s just a statement

[@reythelastdragonpearl9470]

The way Jarvis just de-functioned in the middle of the video is me every day

[@Yessica13]

I wasn't watching, just listening, so that was weird but also peak relatable.

[@missuschainsaw]

That man was definitely coming to Jarvis' place for a CNC hook up and couldn't tell if he was serious or not when he said to get out!

[@Yessica13]

Yeah that crossed my mind

[@fayeissilly222]

why would you even mention cnc ew

[@TheKaliMalia]

Oh my god, I think you're absolutely right. Also could explain why he asked if Jarvis was a youtuber. Could have been wondering if it was a setup for content.

[@michaelg2607]

@@TheKaliMalia terrifying concept

[@fayeissilly222]

@Boygremlin it’s consensual yes, but it’s f3tishziing r@pe, which is very privileged of people to do. -a victim of csa

[@MadeleineSwannSurreal]

Thats actually terrifying, looking up and seeing that is such a nightmare!

[@Rylee_G]

Regular sad Boyz uploads have me feeling so spoiled

[@myopiabat]

omg i see and love your dropout edits! feels amazing to see you in the sad Boyz podcast!

[@Rylee_G]

@@myopiabat 😍🥰

[@yayak99]

I LOVE jarvis’s style and especially his beutiful afro! Also Jordan’s smile is always brings me comfort. You guys really make me feel safe, thank you for being vulnerble and real, and thank you for being yourselfs🫶🏾❤️

[@pmonday]

Seeing Jordan struggle so openly with talking about what he's going through and managing to do it even though it was so difficult, because he thought it was important and he wants this outcast podcast to help people, was so genuinely touching and inspiring.

[@Goawayplease417]

My house was broken into last year. I had forgotten to lock the door after taking the trash out, and basically just went to my room. At around 2:30 I heard my front door open, somebody take their boots off and walk up the stairs. I immediately threw some clothes on and grabbed my knife just in case. I went up the stairs and walked to the kitchen, and saw some random ass dude in my kitchen. I turned the lights on and said “who tf are you!! Get the fuck out of my house”. He walked downstairs, put his boots on, and walked out the door. I the. Woke up my parents, and told them that there was somebody in the house but I got them out. We walked out and they called the police (I have very different stances on policing than I did then, and didn’t really think it was a big deal at the time), I told them that I had grabbed my knife and they told me to not tell the cops. 3 officers (way too many) arrived and asked me for a description. Then another pig came in and told us that they found him checking our neighbors door. They asked if we wanted to press charges and I immediately said no. Turns out he was high af on meth and didn’t really know what was going on, so I don’t really blame him for this. Ps I’m high as fuck myself and can’t type, so sorry for any mistakes

[@futuristic.handgun]

Jordan, thank you so much for sharing what you did. When I was 16 my mom was really ill and for a long time I didn't think she'd make far past my 18th birthday. We were also pretty much raising my little cousin full time then as well, so I was carer to a small child as well as my mom. Thankfully I'm 31 now and my mom is still here, although we think her breast cancer might be back that she beat 2 years ago. So I understand what you're going through and I appreciate your willingness to open up and be a bit vulnerable and remind me that I'm not alone in the shit I deal with. I hope both of our moms are able to get to better health. And I send you all my love and solidarity my friend. 💓

[@bemble]

I literally just started the vid but Jarvis’ chair and shirt (the middle of the leaf) line up perfectly with the rainbow in the background at around 2:27 and I just felt like I needed to point that out

[@sarapowers8827]

My family and I live with and are taking pretty much around the clock care of my grandmother who can basically not walk with minimal to no help from the rest of our family. It is extremely tough and it really hit when Jordan talked about playing a character. Putting on that show when at work and then being candid and open with my friends is such a tough balance.

[@averym7068]

I had chronic hives all throughout high school and I’ve never heard about someone else having them before. They just got worse and worse and I was taking like 5 Zyrtec a day by the end of it just so that it was manageable. I went to an allergist twice and the only advice I got was to take more Zyrtec and stop being stressed out, cause that was their best theory on what was causing them. How do I just stop being stressed out? Like how am I expected to do that, unfortunately I don’t have a tiny stress switch bc on the back of my neck that I can just turn off. Also how can I not be stressed about the fact that’ I’m breaking out in hives every day for no apparent reason. Anyways it was awful and then they suddenly just went away and I have no idea why. I’m really hoping they don’t come back cause it was three year of dealing with them and I really don’t want to do it again

[@CheersMyDudes]

I hope Jordan keeps up the good work. I’ve been loving his content especially lately. Didn’t know he was caring for his mum. I’m sure she’s very proud of him and grateful for his help.

[@miledith555]

Jordan, don't feel bad about sharing something in your life that is a big part of it and affects it greatly just out of fear of seeming like you want sympathy. If it's something you feel you need to share for others to better understand some parts of you, your online presence or character, that is absolutely fine and valid. And taking care of your mom is awsome of you, though it is sad that it is needed. Wish her and you all the health!

[@cameronc6145]

glad to see y’all back in a more schedule now! hope you continue to do this for as long as it makes y’all happy

[@echo_felix331]

i zoned out for a while at the very beginning and just heard jarvis say “i’m a growing boy!”

[@Themery36]

I mean this in the most sincere way possible, so I truly hope this isn't taken as like condescending or anything! But holy shit, Jordan, you are so freaking brave for opening up like that about what you are going through. Watching you struggle through that segment, then finally get out what you wanted to say made my heart ache. I can relate so much to that feeling of knowing exactly how you are feeling on the inside, with one part of you that wants to share it and get it out, but the trauma part of your brain is telling you to "shut up" and "no one cares how you feel". I know that feeling all too well. It has taken years of therapy to get to a point where I am able to be upfront and honest, but being vulnerable is never an easy thing. I saw myself as I watched you struggle at first, and felt so relieved/proud once you were able to talk about it. And just. Even that tiny step, though it might feel small and insignificant, IS actually monumental.

[@eh7322]

Hey Jarvis - about the idiopathic urticaria, I hope your doctor has mentioned Xolair. I used to work with people with the condition (I have a similar one myself) and it was life changing for me. Just thought I'd mention it!

[@roguestowl2280]

That sounds awful to have a stranger just walk into your house.

[@justinwatson1510]

For what it is worth, those kinds of situations are common with Grindr hookups (leaving the door unlocked, not giving bad addresses.) I cannot even begin to imagine how scary it must have been for you, given your career; it was probably an honest mistake, though

[@rachelforbes4424]

Thank you for your vulnerability Jordan, I admire your courage. Much love and respect to you.

[@aarishowton8037]

One time my sister and her roommate had had a party and somebody unlocked a side door- a man came into their house in the middle of the night and they freaked the fuck out, they hid behind the kitchen counter threatening him with a knife, and he just froze and stood there for a long time. Turns out he was just a drunk guy who thought he was at his brother’s house on the next street over. My sister said she was glad she didn’t have a gun or she would’ve shot him. Sometimes people do just end up in the wrong place

[@majikmessiah]

That's very scary, couldn't imagine waking up to a stranger in my house

[@claireellis2699]

I've been thinking about how your mom is doing, Jordan! Thank you for sharing an update and I'm really sorry to hear she hasn't improved. It can really take a toll on you so I'm happy to hear you open up about it and happy you have friends like Jarvis to support you

[@hayley58]

the transparency really means a lot to me jordan, sending you support ❤

[@literaryluci1532]

Wouldn’t say i have chronic hives but have had a few episodes in the past few years due to school stress. It’s comforting to know one of my favorite creators struggles with the same, although it sucks sm and i wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Sending u both good vibes, keep up the great work 😁

[@gabiinprogress]

this episode was a rollercoaster. sending love + strength to you and your mama, jordan!

[@SwimmingInSunlight]

I'm so happy to have this podcast back ❤️

[@lauraembry4519]

I deeply appreciate the honesty from you both in this podcast, even when it is difficult. It is a beautiful reminder that I can open up and be supported. This community is here to support you both always, and when you need it a little bit extra. P.S ask John Green to come on Sad Boyz

[@TheMaskedHero]

Love the show, especially as a break for whatever "characters" you feel you play on your channels. Thanks for being real.

[@lefill3z]

I can't say this enough, but I love you two together - it's a perfect "bounce off" and so fun and comfy to watch. I don't do podcasts because My attention span is fxcking nil for most #ADDISLEGION, but you two are great. TY TY TY and don't stop!

[@cautionhazardous2236]

I like Jarvis’s description of the convenient villain

[@thisurldoesnotexist]

I always get excited when people wear Yikes merch in videos bc there's always a good chance I also have that piece of Yikes merch

[@karayanna8119]

This is so wholesome and amazing. I dont actually listen to many podcasts but Sadboys is just so relaxing and interesting. Great podcast. Love it

[@StellarStina]

You both are so beautiful. Thank you for being open and candid.

[@nuclearseahorse]

So many of people's moms I know have been having massive health issues this past year, including mine, so it's really sad to see that Jordan is also struggling with that. Sending good wishes to both of you but especially Jordan and his mom 💕

[@pokemonfanthings4444]

He does have hall monitor energy!!!

[@FarkleBeans]

I love listening to these sweet, gentle boys.

[@ElizabethVonnegut]

12:04 i have psoriasis and this is so relatable because when i get sick or stressed out my skin starts flaring up so bad

[@ElizabethVonnegut]

BRO I ALSO GET CHRONIC HIVES LOL started when i was 24

[@ElizabethVonnegut]

i love when i take a shower and then dry myself off and theres a single piece of cat hair on the towel and then i get hives all over my arms

[@amysaysbye]

god it's so good to have you guys back ❤❤ can't even explain how much this podcast means to me and all the things it's gotten me through. thank you both so much

[@VenusianLissette]

excellent episode gentlemen⭐️ Jordan, I commend your transparency. I myself like to keep things close to the vest/skim the surface. I always feel like I’m trauma dumping saying anything too personal lol. (pls take care of yourself, and treat yourself extra well if you’re feeling depressed. I’m sorry that’s the case.) & also thank god Jarvis moved tf out of there…..what a kind of an asshole just shows up to someone’s house…”do u make videos?” biiiiiitttttchhhhh-rancid.

[@kiwwykeen5305]

Omg the tucker carlson impressions 😂😭💀

[@oliveriscoolerthanu7834]

yoo jarvy is dripped out

[@HntrSvrsn]

As a 25 year old who's getting orthodontic work just for my bite I'm so excited hearing about improvements to come form it!

[@thisismyusername724]

Listening right now and hearing you talk about your chronic condition is pretty comforting. I had a chronic inflammatory eye condition crop up at age 18 and it comes back every month or so since then. And just like you, they have no idea what causes it. Doctors not being able to understand what causes something is a weirdly lonely and scary feeling, so hearing someone else describe a similar experience is really nice.

[@nicematerial]

I have missed this being regular. Thanks gentlemen.

[@DeepDiveLibrarianAl]

Hey I just moved recently and feel for you about the amount of stuff in awkward places! Best of luck, and happy wishes to you and Dipper in your new place 😊

[@syl59281]

I think part of why people see "not being misogynistic" as pandering, is because of not being able to imagine genuinely feeling/thinking that way. Therefore if someone is respectful towards women, that must be because they are suppressing their actual, misogynistic, beliefs. And also, since a lot of people appreciate or praise caring about people and not being misogynistic, that positive response makes them think "oh that's the benefit. of course they're acting politically correct, it's because they want that approval". But I think you can outwardly benefit from acting a certain way, without that benefit being the reason for acting that way. Getting approval from society can happen in response to a lot of different things. Doing the opposite of what is socially desired isn't automatically good or bad. Just some ideas. I'm the least confident about my guesses around the mentality of having overtly misogynistic beliefs

[@koi_feesh__5913]

This is the best podcast I’ve ever listened to I love it so much

[@bunniecakes5506]

As I am in the UK I just woke up and waking up to a new podcast episode is like waking up to a fully made breakfast in bed 💞💕🍯🧁☺️🌟✨

[@certifiedvampgf]

I'd love to see y'all feature Fiq or interview him, especially when talking about emotional masculinity. I just think it'd be so interesting to see a conversation with you three. Love y'all!!

[@ethanainsworth]

What a decent, warm, kind seeming set of lads.

[@gargles5270]

i also tend to get nervous sharing my feelings/mental state bc i’m worried people are going to think i’m begging for attention. just know that most of us don’t feel that way, we care about you and your wellbeing! :)

[@defenderofmen11]

is was my first episode of Sad Boyz (I watch Jarvis and Jordan separately) and it was the most genuine and healthy discussion of trauma and hard times between friends

[@weekendreligion5753]

YES I’m ready to get SAD, Boyz

[@jaqsre]

you have been spoiling us lately!!

[@dinklemeister]

New sad boyz?? Woohoo!! I can’t believe it’s been 2 years since the last upload. Glad to have y’all back!

[@lydiabinnig5329]

lol Jordan looking all around the room and Jarvis like short circuiting got me

[@stephlol222]

Get well soon Mrs Adika

[@demitriusharrington9772]

yay. im so happy you guys are uploading again:)

[@karynstudiosloane-ceramics436]

you two are the sweetest xx

[@The_Wampy]

If you're sad and you know it clap your hands! 👏 👏

[@rachelppython]

👏👏

[@pucksandpaperbacks]

sending so much love to you and your family, Jordan!

[@verdrin7107]

I had a similar thing happen like 8 years ago or something, in my first apartment. It was a pretty sketchy building, so I had a few weird encounters but this was the worst because it was in my place. I guess I forgot to lock the door, because a guy just walked in while I was sleeping and poked me. I told him to get out and he said, clearly drunk, "it's okay, I'm a friend." I told him he was in the wrong place, and he left. Then I jumped up, locked the door, and did not get back to sleep. I'm glad yours happened when you were still awake, getting woken up by a drunk stranger was not a fun time.

[@dimi.33]

Omg i had chronic urticaria too!! Sometimes they would get so bad that I couldn't breathe, had to go to the hospital a few times. I went on a bunch of antihistamines for a few years and luckily I haven't gotten hives again since 2020!

[@kisikisikisi]

So glad to have you boyz back

[@stinkygoose666]

your vulnerability is so powerful. thank you sad boyz

[@listerjne]

i am grateful for u both

[@StoutCorvus]

Honestly, identifying my privilege as a cis white male helped me with my personal problems. While I know I have and had a myriad of large problems in my life, depression, anxiety, poverty, self-inflicted relationship problems, parental problems, etc, I still recognize and realize there are people in the world who have similar and/or worse problems. While I work through my own baggage, it would be both immoral and objectively wrong to think that I'm more disenfranchised than others based on my privilege. Because I was still able to go to college, for cheap mind you, I have a career that pays well now, I have a permanent residence that is well maintained, clean, and safe, and I'm in the black financially. My problems are tough for me, but I'm still better off based on the fact I was born white, in a middle class white town in a majority white state.

[@Lucifersfursona]

Hell yeah bro, acknowledging the state of your struggles and privileges is super healthy and helpful! Not quite in the same caste situation as you but practicing empathy and societal awareness helped me be a better person in my own recoveries too :)

[@guysmybonesaregettingsquishy]

love your statement! I think is always really helpful thinking of it in a way that obviously, everyone can have and has problems but it is a privilege if that problem is not made harder by structural discrimination or on the other hand which ressources are available due to privilege. I also struggle with depression and other mental health struggles and its hard but the realization of how relatively easy it was for me to find an affordable therapist who could generally understand my experience in this world is such a privilege. For example my friends of colour struggle so much with this since most therapists are white and thus would probably even worsen their mental state with unconcious racism or at least cannot really understand their environmental conditions which are obviously always tied to your mental wellbeing. Im a bit rambly, but these little things just break my heart and the least we can do is acknowledge our privilege.

[@viviantompkins7925]

Hope you feel better soon Jordan! 💙

[@emilytoth3357]

Jarvis, I haven't listened to this whole episode, so maybe you miraculously found a cure by the end of the episode. But once I heard about your hives I just needed to say- I have chronic idiopathic urticaria, and I used to have episodes of extremely itchy -full body- hive break outs for 2 weeks at a time every few months. And the only thing that got them under control was a monthly injection called xolair (not an ad obviously 😂). I got the injection for like- 5 months or so in 2019 and then i had to stop getting it once everything shut down, but the results so far have lasted. Usually springtime will trigger a -horrible- hive episode for me, but I haven't had one the last two years.

[@FrankensteinsMom]

“Ben Shapiro has hall monitor energy” OMG TRUUUUUUE 😂

[@mary78880]

Jordan just looks so good with a mustache

[@whiteroseblossom970]

16:21 you do when you're my older brother... You heard it here folks my brother would go to my parents and tell them to punish me more for things that were little (not wanting to go to school, late work, forgetting to do a chore right away) and if they didn't he did. These punishments were things like taking my toys away or my technology, digging his nails into my skin until I would bleed, and just generally antagonizing me. He stopped this when he was like 17 and now we get along super super well but man was childhood from 3-13 hellish.

[@deathsheadhawkmoths]

37:28 - 40:00 jordan this is so perfectly phrased

[@himbosuplex]

oh lord that's so gross, esp scary given the guy was probably high as fuck and may have been looking for some kinky roleplay. like thinking jarvis saying "get out" was an act at first so gross, glad you were able to get the guy out of your house without it escalating and glad you were able to move.

[@destanyluv1]

I love the healing conversation you two have. It’s necessary within everyone right now. I wish healing and love to both of you & those in your lives. 🫶🏾