🔥Answers About the Psychopathic Stare and Other Odd Behaviors.🔥

Body Language Expert and Analyst, Scott Rouse answers all of your questions about The Psychopathic Stare and other odd behaviors Psychopaths are famous for.
As a behavior analyst and body language expert, Scott Rouse holds multiple certificates in advanced interrogation training. He has been trained alongside the FBI, Secret Service, U.S. Military Intelligence, and the Department of Defense.
His extensive training, education, and practice of nonverbal communication have made him an expert and consultant to law enforcement as well as Fortune 100 Companies, attorneys, private investigators, executives, and entertainers. He is also a multi-Grammy nominated producer and TEDx Speaker.
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[@tinaayer801]

I'm autistic and Wonder how many other autistic people watch these videos to understand people better.

[@Nylak-Otter]

I used to before I was diagnosed, actually. My obsession with observing human and animal behavior actually landed me in my career as a behaviorist.

[@ProsewithRose]

Me! I love studying human behavior so much I became a therapist!

[@NotSoNormal1987]

I'm here also trying to understand other people.

[@cherylmockotr]

Great idea! I'm going to recommend this to autistic adults I know. We do this with children, showing them pictures of faces to teach emotions, but these explanations would be much better for adults.

[@Hope-uk6zw]

Me too. I have never understood people or why they do things. My foster family had to explain almost everything to me. I have a great sister who didn't lose patience with me.

[@shanelamps6242]

I love when Scott goes on his rants about Psychopaths

[@jwsuicides8095]

Me too!

[@AmeliaInMonTana]

Psychopaths and Hot Chicken! 🔥 🍗

[@loisdiamond3714]

I’m an Empath so I’m fascinated by psychos. It’s like trying to understand the psychology of a malfunctioning human x

[@tracyaf6084]

Same here! It’s so interesting.

[@lisasmith7066]

Me three! 😊

[@cheekyrabbit]

The Bob Ross of social behavior. The relaxed tone and cadence are amazing.

[@ScottRouse]

I don’t know why so many people say that! I really don’t. My wife says that too. Weird.

[@Barbara-zo6pq]

😂

[@Leezl41]

@@ScottRouse it's definitely the hair. JK. 🤣 😆.

[@Jacques_Chirac]

Not a lot of people now this, but Ed Harris stated in several interviews that in order to prepare for his role in The Truman Show, he binge watched Scott Rouse videos on youtube and found him to be a great source of inspiration.

[@ScottRouse]

Lol

[@Nature_guurrll]

Narcissists are exhausting. Physchopaths are terrifying.

[@vaska1999]

Sadistic, malignant narcissists are almost indistinguishable from psychopaths.

[@jillferrier8715]

They will drain every last ounce of energy and good humor from one’s body.

[@northernshocksouthcoasteng7473]

I’m an empath and I have realised lately that I’ve subconsciously attracted narcissists as a result of living in a family with my mother who was ‘highly strung’. I was terrified of her wrath so I did everything I could just to keep things smooth (obedient to a fault). I had no boundaries. Once you put boundaries in place and you refuse to accept their treatment of you, the narcs drop out of sight. We have to be the ones that say, ‘No!’

[@jacquelinejacobson6789]

I had a narcissist mother. I was a classic narcissist magnet for male narcissists. Codependency is learned coping behavior with a narcissist parent.

[@w1cked001]

You’re not. No one is a special daisy “empath”. You’re either a highly sensitive person or a covert narcissist yourself. If you’re attracting the wrong kind of people, it’s almost certain there’s something majorly wrong with you as well.

[@Luke_MoonWalker]

Your relationship with your parents always dictates how your romantic relationships will play out in your life.

[@jenbradshaw7021]

Would you agree that having self knowledge, KNOWING you are an empath at your core , as you seem certain of….. proclaiming “you must be the one to say no” I’d like to add that it’s your moral responsibility to say “no” to these especially insidious type narcissists …. With outrageous, nonsensical acts Attempting to dominate another persons spirit to serve the narcissistic…..

[@michelej9496]

@@Luke_MoonWalker 🤔

[@MissReneeMichelle]

My father and my ex are narcissists. After having dealt with them my entire life, I can confidently say that they are absolutely NOT fascinating. They are boring and dangerous.

[@dp.2766]

The path of destruction and suffering left by these creatures is deep and wide. Many are scared for life and never recover.

[@KH-rt3ef]

And, above all, pathetic.

[@jamesdeluca6657]

Ya,and simple and predictable

[@jonhutchinson2902]

Very boring and predictable once you really know them.

[@wellyouasked]

If everyone you know is toxic, have you ever considered the possibility that you're the problem, or do you just get angry at that point?

[@RandomJumble]

lol I have ADHD and I tend to stare into people’s eyes to try to show that I am paying attention but I usually end up focusing on the staring and then forget to listen. If I am looking off to the side or at anything other than you then you can bet that I am ACTUALLY listening to you and not trying so hard to “prove” to you that I am listening. Also, as a kid I heard from many people that if you don’t look someone in the eyes then they will think you are lying and now I worry about that in every conversation and I am 43. EDIT: because ADHD

[@TiphanieBirdingNW]

So relatable😂

[@rosethorns1893]

Truth is that people who stare straight in your eyes are only doing it to prove they’re being honest when, in fact, they’re lying. lol…very likely, they’re the ones that came up with that lie that you have to stare. Truth is that it’s highly unnatural to stare into peoples eyes. Usually , only someone lying does this. Hope that helps and puts you at ease for just being yourself. 👍

[@ebrown7782]

Wow, word for word that is the same thing I go through. I have a hard time looking at people in the eyes when they are talking to me. Back then they called it being very very shy. To remember what they are saying, I have to look away from them. It actually almost physically hurts to keep looking at their eyes. I try and do it because I don’t want them thinking I am lying or have something to hide.

[@SourceAwryT]

@ebrown7782 , thank you both for putting this into words. I don't have ADHD, but I am certainly willing to adapt, for the sake of mutual respect and accommodation. I don't want my conversations to be like torture to the other party. So, thank you again for describing how it goes for you, so I can expand my perspective. Cheers!

[@Liliarthan]

AuDHD here and same! I can’t actually concentrate on what I’m saying if I maintain eye contact. I’m totally comfortable with that now and just do whatever makes me feel comfortable and best function in that situation. I also tell people early in longer conversations that I need to fidget or doodle to help me better focus on what they are saying and it’s because I have ADHD, not because I don’t care.

[@Bruce-ph9nq]

Narcissists suffer from wounded egos and seek emotional validation from people to cope with their low self esteem. No psychopath is ever going to care what people think of him.

[@allinix7intp]

That is not true. A lot of psychopath wants to have a certain image, be respected by others, etc...

[@Bruce-ph9nq]

@@allinix7intp To have a certain image means wearing the mask. The world is made by and for neurotypicals. If you want to live well and have nice stuff you have to present as a neurotypical. For a psychopath, there is no emotional need to be respected, loved, admired, etc. rather those things are a means to an end.

[@Soh583]

@@Bruce-ph9nq narcissist has no ego or sense of self . Psychopaths is goal oriented and very good at cognitive empathy to get under one’s skin and get what s/he wants .

[@jaynesager3049]

Narcissists feeding off a more popular narcissist are also called flying monkeys. It’s a very intense, unstable relationship.

[@zeerohour8129]

Perfect symbolism.

[@ewap789]

Flying monkeys don't necessarily need to be narcissists themselves. But they usually gain from either maintaining status in the eyes of the narcissist, or other people in the pack. Often, it's not necessarily an ego thing, but a fear or survival thing. You can be a unaware flying monkey and then realize the toxicity of the dynamic and stop engaging in the same way.

[@jaynesager3049]

@@ewap789 yes, a codependency type of relationship. It’s very prevalent in middle school and some seem to grow out of it as they mature.

[@hfortenberry]

Flying monkeys aren’t always fellow narcissists. They can be anyone who’s either bought into the narcissists story and is participating in the drama/triangulation or someone who’s simply naive and going along with them by believing them. A lot of people who’ve never been exposed to narcissism are susceptible to this because they naturally give people the benefit of the doubt and would never believe the type of people like narcissists actually exist.

[@PrincessofErised]

The best advice I ever heard about not getting abducted was: NEVER willingly go to a secondary location with anyone you do not know. "Hey, come look at my car, come into my house, or follow me... " Because whatever they want to do with you takes privacy. Even if they have a gun, run. It is harder to hit a moving target than you think. Of course, if you are already trapped, then go with your gut.

[@OoLiiMiiT3D]

Yeah I had that kind of Jeffery Dahmer encounter. Just wanted to buy something to smoke, and the guy in the club said he sells stuff, but only at his home. I took a buddy and we drove over there. He had a gun and stuff, even though its illegal in Germany. He smoked with my friend, and my friend was unconscious for 5 minutes from whatever he smoked. I didnt smoke anything and was just ready to fight at all times, but stayed nice. I bought something and I was gone. The guy said he made like so and so much money by selling. Had a weird vibe to him. Either he was into guys, or he was trying something. Seemed totally like a Jeffrey Dahmer.

[@PrincessofErised]

@@OoLiiMiiT3D gotta always trust your gut

[@bohofoto6929]

@@OoLiiMiiT3Dmy son has a classmate (expelled) that sells illegal drugs and guys have reported waking up with their pants down. Stay away.

[@sarah.j.777]

My "father" is a psychopath & his eyes look just like Jeffrey Dahmer's. He use to hang cats up by their tails next to each other and watch them attack each other. He also beat me & my sister since we were toddlers, I remember him holding my 2 yr old sister up by one arm & her body flailing in mid air as he hit her. then he threw her in the crib and she curled up in a ball in the far corner, crying inconsolably & hyperventilating. I did my best to say things to try to make her calm. He made me sit on my sister's back so he could do "surgery" on the back on her knee. When she screamed and squirmed he punched her in the back of the head & her forehead hit the floor and she passed out. He gave me several of his prozac for a headache, told me to take it with water and not tell my mother. I didn't take them, I handed them to her & told, she called me a liar. Unless you have a recording device attached to you, people don't believe these things and don't help. These are just a few examples of *many* To say I hate my "parents" is an understatement. My sister is debilitated til this day, acts like a little kid, has emotional meltdowns & panic attacks.

[@sobeidalagrange7129]

🫢🫢🫢😡😡😡

[@MoonLightt57]

I'm sorry to hear that, you have great inner strength I hope you heal 🌸

[@lidyseinen]

Oh dear , I’m sorry you had to experience this . Cruel people do exist . I send you Love and healing

[@mercedesharrison5550]

That is heartbreaking. ❤️🌹

[@AnnaMarianne]

This is so awful and wrong. I hope you find healing, love and happiness in life

[@jcd5211]

Many psychopaths are nonviolent. You’ll find many of them as surgeons and CEOs.

[@dalestaley5637]

The people who work with them see them abuse people emotionally and throw instruments across the room. As an anesthetist, I never recommend any surgeon who treats any human badly or throws temper tantrums. I don't want a neurosurgeon in my head that's maladjusted.

[@TheBluesman511]

@@jcd5211 : Really? I know medical industry well. Experienced it on my skin. Med. industry that is not immune to aggresive bullying/harrasment at work place at highest ranks. The doctors that gave hypocrites oaths to protect their patients.

[@suzystone244]

Was married to a covert narcissist. Now divorced. Recovering from all of this. This experience speak for itself. How to sever the hold. No contact. Ever❤

[@russellhammond371]

I've always had good eye contact, but I have to actively remind myself to look away regularly to avoid making some people feel uncomfortable.

[@susanwoodcarver]

The first time I applied what I learned from the behavior panel to a corporate meeting where I KNEW one of my director's lied about a project, I almost fell off my chair when she did ALL of the deceptive behaviors ... IN A ROW ... that you guys tell us about. OMG! All I could do was stare at her. Her behavior confirmed what I knew. IN SPADES! Talk about confirmation! Thanks Scott!

[@ScottRouse]

And now, you’ve seen it in real life and the world will never be the same again. Sounds bad but it’s actually really good. Thanks for letting me know!

[@susanwoodcarver]

@@carolincas Yes! But in the back of my mind I thought maybe I was wrong and she was being truthful. NOPE! Trust our instincts, like Scott always tells us.

[@susanwoodcarver]

@@ScottRouse Oh boy ... you are absolutely correct. But, that first time was like watching a TV program, that only I could see, happening right in the conference room. You probably hear this from everyone, but it was stunning. Thank you, again! You provide insights that will be with, and affect us for our entire lives. And you do it so well! Apologies for the long reply. HUGS!!

[@JiggaDrew-uz4ki]

That's a awesome thing I might have started laughing if I seen it right after learning it but it's nice u can learn and use what ur learning. Keep getting better and more successful

[@susanwoodcarver]

@@JiggaDrew-uz4ki You would think I would start laughing, but I was too stunned to see it play out right in front of me. My brain just kept saying OMG this is just like what the Panel said! And then I didn’t know what to say to her. They don’t teach that part. You just can’t say “I know you’re lying!” Hey @ScottRouse … Question…what do we say after we catch them in a lie?

[@brookescott9598]

I was taught that little area below ones nose is called,"God's Kiss." He kissed His fingertip, touched you there, with it and said, "Remember, I love you," before sending you on your way.😘

[@nellabrown6190]

The eye dilation makes sense. How many interviews have I watched where people say the killer's eyes turned black, esp serial killers? Many, enough to be striking.

[@ND-or5so]

My covert narcissistic husband whom I'm separated from (thank GOD!) And I'm alive. I do think they have psychopathic traits and can easily graduate to be serial killers. Those are my findings. When my husband upset me and I didn't know shit about narcissism and full-blown narcissists that are abusers and the different types of full-blown narcissists. I finally broke down telling him to stop doing what he was doing with the head games and all and as I felt like dying and was so sick physically because my nerves were shot and my chest hurt and I had a sore throat from raising my voice - and I was dying. I will never forget that stare as long as I live. He was in a trance people. A frigging trance. That freaked me out. When I went to my bedroom I couldn't stop thinking about that stare. That trance. That was witnessing a monster in him.

[@teresamccollum8954]

I can remember lying in bed one night when I was about 12 and I heard my father talking to my mom about killing us and burying us in the back yard because he didn't want kids any more. He wanted to be like his drug dealing friend that had a good job and made a lot of money selling weed. That didn't want kids. There is a lot more to this story and my dad. Everyone was so blind to who my dad really was.He was a monster.

[@ScottRouse]

😮!!!

[@lindahaggard6416]

Narcissism is not fascinating if you live with one ~ Narc Hell.

[@angelinag4116]

True. For those who haven't gotten to know them more closely, they are fascinating. They don't know that the devil is charming too.

[@LivingLove-lw6kf]

Just had a guy do that to me at walmart today. Could tell after the first time we locked eyes something wasnt right. Then he was following behind everywhere I went. Finally he disappeared, but he had no expression or a smile, just an empty blank stare til he passed. This is the second guy at walmart that gave me the creeps by constantly following and staring. Always stay aware of your surroundings!

[@ScottRouse]

😮

[@wolfe6220]

loss prevention person in plain clothes

[@Little_Sidhe]

​@@wolfe6220The Venn diagram can overlap.

[@AD-eg9cw]

There was a serial rapist in my hometown who exclusively stalked targets in a specific grocery store before following them home and attacking them in their *own* parking lots. He was only caught because of CCTV camera footage. Grocery stores are the PERFECT environment to stalk and select prey while pretending to be looking at the avocados next to them. His name is Oswald Scott Wilder Jr. You should google him. Stay safe ♥️

[@AD-eg9cw]

​@@wolfe6220 No.

[@btappe1286]

I could listen to Scotts swave voice about psychos all day 😂

[@ScottRouse]

😮

[@lovewins8238]

😂😂😂😂 Me too!

[@blade_warrior_blue]

A lot of people may see me, I'm full of stress, anxiety and trauma, don't like to make eye contact. These narcissists always mistake that for weakness and think they're gonna dominate me. Little do they know I can switch at the drop of a hat. I'm not interested in playing anyone's games, the second I detect any condesencion or belittling tone it's go time. If you can't dominate me physically, don't ever think you can do it mentally because I will humiliate you. Don't ever mistake my trauma for being timid and fearful. I don't care how much people try to shame me for being aggressive, I don't care what anyone thinks about me, I mostly leave people alone but I like to bully the bullies. I love when they underestimate me. I'll make you understand some body language. The first liver shot will tell you exactly who I am.

[@beckythornton6470]

The whole world is not waiting to hurt you. Walking around with a quiet chip on your shoulder doesn't sound fun to me. Laying in wait for the person you identify as a threat to slip up, could be more work than you actually have to do to be safe. I am sorry that whatever happened to you was so intense that you ended up this way. I believe there is some healing out there for you, but it's more important that you try to believe it.

[@martaescobar7625]

@@beckythornton6470 People who have been victims, and are now survivors, aren't looking to hurt other people, just protect themselves.The narcissist/sociopath still see's the co-dependent and will go after you looking for emotional feed......like a vampire. So where is the happy medium? Your not getting a shot at me either...my boundaries are now walls, and I am safe.

[@ukraine7249]

Oh be quiet dad. I’d dominate you like I dominate everything.

[@hfortenberry]

BeckyThornton is right. There are a lot of us good people around but we just tend to keep to ourselves unless our time or investment is warranted (like now). I’m not sure how old you are but eventually you may want more peace in your life and decide to heal. But in the meantime, there’s nothing wrong with coping any way you need to. Much love and hugs to you.

[@kristengottula9337]

@@hfortenberry really nice response 👏

[@merryl55]

I don't find narcissists fascinating, I find them DISGUSTING.

[@wulf67]

Do you find people with disabilities “disgusting” too? Do you find people with heart disease, diabetes or cancer disgusting? Narcissists are human beings who have a personality disorder. What kind of a person is disgusted by sick people and brags about it?

[@territmoderitmo9190]

@@wulf67 How are narcissists and people with cancer in same bag? Wtf

[@wulf67]

@@territmoderitmo9190 They both have a disorder that they didn’t choose. It’s not rocket science, genius.

[@territmoderitmo9190]

@@wulf67 When you hurt, use and/or abuse people, symphaty goes out of window. Thanks for aknowledging my ingenuity

[@wulf67]

@@territmoderitmo9190 People who are not psychopaths or sociopaths have compassion for people who have disorders that they did not choose and cannot control. Did you think they could just take a vitamin every day and somehow not have narcissistic personality disorder anymore? You think they just need to read a few self-help books and have a little more discipline? The only reason you don’t have it (generously giving you the benefit of the doubt that you don’t) is the luck of the draw. It has nothing to do with anything you can possibly control. There, but by the grace of God, go you ingenue.

[@nancycrandall4545]

I breathed a sigh of relief when you shared reaction about running into someone who runs to the store without getting all dressed up, because I’m that person. 😂

[@HrsB2494]

Same! I was on edge like, oh lord, what is he going to say about me! Whew, but yes I agree, I’m much more likable to be around lol

[@Twinkle_Toes88]

Yep, I’m NOT GETTING READY to go to the grocery store right now! 😊👍

[@MustardLadySaveMe]

I first learned about narcissists when I was frantically googling "how to deal with difficult coworker" because I was just STRUGGLING to work with this one individual. I learned the things to 'manipulate' or 'pacify' narcissists and it completely transformed my work environment. I would not describe it as being Able to ~control~ the narcissist, it was just tricks and tips to get them to not view me as a threat or a target so I could live my life peacefully.

[@ariannamartin7230]

I was incarcerated, in federal prison, and had never been in trouble before. I was absolutely terrified. I have green eyes, and my pupils were HUGE. it was scary, because i couldn't see the iris of my eye. I went to the prison doc, bc my mom kept calling and complaining that i looked "like a psychopath" with giant pupils. The prison doc examined me, along with the psychologist...they told me my pupils were dilated because i was in a state of fear. Lol, it worked for me, bc i did look absolutely crazy and creepy. It lasted for a few years of my sentence, and the last bit, they were still BIG but werent dialated to the point where you could only see a small ring of green. It completely went away the day i came home.

[@pjmccord]

My ex narcissist husband would stare at me with such hatred and when I would ask him what was wrong he would always say that inside he Snoopy doing the happy dance. Wow. Master of gaslighting.

[@craigcrawford6749]

Ex narcissist or ex husband

[@pjmccord]

@@craigcrawford6749 both.

[@therealdeal3672]

@@craigcrawford6749 typically narcissists don't really become ex-narcissists, unfortunately.

[@TriniStarr3527]

OKAYY!! 😃 So I am not the only person to LOVE Scott Rouse's voice! ❤

[@ScottRouse]

I love it too! But even more, I love his handsomeness. And how he’s so much more handsomer than Chase is.

[@TriniStarr3527]

@@ScottRouse Absolutely!! Followed by Greg Hartley! ❤We leave last, ex aequo, Mark Bowden and Hugh Chase.

[@ashleylanina950]

I talked about this with someone who spent 12 years in prison. NY area prisons. He was locked up with lots of murderers and called this “shark eyes”. Apparently if you get psychopaths in groups it’s easier to identify. Excited to watch this.

[@AD-eg9cw]

When someone stares at me, I stare right back with a cold expression and don't look away until they do. I feel like it lets potential predators know that I'm going to be difficult to catch.

[@sarahb2004]

😂😂😂 💀 💀 💀

[@AD-eg9cw]

​@@sarahb2004Well, Sarah, Mr. Rouse likes my strategy, so HA! In your FACE! 😌

[@AD-eg9cw]

@@CCave-wj6xy I learned this tactic from experts. If returning a predatory stare is "edgy" to you, then by all means, continue submissively avoiding eye contact. I'm sure that will serve you well in life lol.

[@sarahb2004]

@@AD-eg9cw I loved it too! I’m sorry if it came across any other way! It made me lol in a good way

[@Fiona2254]

I don’t stare back like that but I let my stare say “I’m aware of you, and have taken notes” It doesn’t serve us well to look submissive as most predators are looking for easy prey. Looking confident and aware IS definitely a way to not be a victim.

[@ClaireA-b9o]

That state can be a temporary PTSD trauma response. The person needs a reduction of negative stimulus, safety, comfort, and lack of stress to re-regulate.

[@monimon-g9c]

I am an Esthetician and a few years back had a male client that had that type of stare. In the initial conversation, he stared wide eyed and unblinking which, made my hair stand on end. He also, stood so close to me that I was unable to move away. In that short interaction, I figured he was a psychopath and was so excited to find one in the wild…I thought, I have watched the Behavior Panel and you can’t fool me.

[@weaverfirst8217]

Handshakes with men can be weird . As a woman who grew up in military bases and a southern father I was taught to have a firm handshake . I run into so many men who do what I call the fingertip handshake like they are afraid to break my little hand or kiss my ring. It just creeps me out. I was attacked at 19 came close to dying and spent most of my adult life in therapy. I noticed a few years after I got married that my husband would lie about the stupidest things. Then I noticed in a crowd he’d take on other people’s personalities it was so weird. I’ve always been the the type of person who can talk to anyone . He didn’t like that. I was very vulnerable for years trying to put my life back together . Honest to God I would take the time to explain things to my husband because I thought maybe he just wasn’t that smart lol not that he didn’t care what I wanted he only cared what he wanted. It took me 30 years to leave . I mean I got my first clue when he lied directly to a priest! I didn’t want any part of that and said no that’s not quite true. I’m not even Catholic ! Byt he is. So weird.

[@saracurtis]

Nothing worse than a limp handshake when you meet someone. Weak handshake, weak character, I've found.

[@kashkelly1508]

The dead fish hand shake is what men often do. It’s beyond awkward. I want a man to open a door or treat me like a woman but I also want them to shake my hand normally. I also had a guy once that literally hurt me shaking g my hand . Maybe they just don’t k is what to do.

[@willowmoon5063]

Agreed. As a woman I've always had a firm hand shake, hugs too. Everytime someone would weakly shake back my thoughts instantly go wtf! Lol. Here's to you thriving and surviving girl. It takes us a while to get out of the pit but when we do it's absolutely amazing to live. Cheers!

[@firewilson573]

I've had a bit of arthritis for years and sometimes men shook my hand very hard because they thought it was funny or at least pretended to think it funny but in reality intentionally showing dominance and power. Not realizing it guaranteed dislike from me

[@thijsjong]

@@kashkelly1508 It could be that they dont know what to do. It couod be that the person does not know he squeezes your had way to hard. It could be that he is nit aware he squeezing that hard. It could be that he squeezes that hard because he wants to dominate you..... If someone always a man this far squeezes really hard I will asume he is an asshole. My uncle squeezed my had real hard one time. But I didnt mind he was laughing doing it. He is a good guy. He was testing me. He is was a cop back then and I got along great with him. A stranger who squeezes har as he can. I asume ut an ashole. If someone guves ne the dead fish handshake. Wtf. Wtf are you. Yuck. Grabbing my fingers. The person is clumbsy or a taker. Not a good impression. Context information. I am a man. The squeezing very hard happened to me most when I was a kid. And it wasnt a little too hard. I had the impression the persons intentionally were squeezing way too hard.

[@deborahdennis9177]

My grandmother smacked me! Wasn't expecting that. Laughed so hard! You were so serious!

[@catherinecheyne3273]

Can’t wait for this!! So fascinating!! And thank you once again Scott for your time and insights.. all these episodes are just brilliant!! 😊❤️👍

[@ScottRouse]

Thank you. 🙂👍

[@OneAmongBillions]

This might sound like an odd remark, but there is something wholly very natural, calm, compelling, and trustworthy about how you speak. Listening to you reminds me somehow of folks prior to the 1970's before life began to speed up. Thanks for helping others with your insights.

[@klimtscat347]

I couldn't possibly say narcs are 'fascinating', I feel DISGUSTED by them.

[@rachelwyatt9529]

My mother was a Narcissist and my father a psychopath. She had all the power and kept him somewhat in line then she passed away and he went off the rails.

[@Taluta394]

So sorry! I had my own set of insanity parents.

[@ChronicallyCassidy]

Narcissist: Hangs with a group. Gets energy out of a group. Needs to be complimented. Can be really chararasmatic in social settings. Says things that only put themselves in good light and others in bad light. Blame everything on everyone else. Nothing was ever their fault. They don’t apologize. See no problem with their actions and the actions of everyone else is the problem. Do not like being confronted Do not respect boundaries and believe they don’t apply to them Guilt you Try to make you turn on someone else Say things about someone else, negative things, but it’s actually them talking about themselves without realizing it. (Projecting) You cannot criticize them. They will turn things around to make it seem like it was your fault. Everything has to be about them. They are fake people putting on a facade. They can try to buy your love. They’ll never listen to your side of the story. They’ll never change.

[@bohofoto6929]

And they will even turn on young people who they should be supporting. So toxic and manipulative. Dangerous to people who have low self esteem.

[@Rachel-v5u1m]

@@bohofoto6929 very dangerous

[@feefeeder]

Learning boundaries, thats what is to be learned. Tough work!😮

[@kath5201]

13:43. The handshake with finger on wrist: When I studied Druidism, Wiccan, etc. This was taught as a way to influence someone. Transfer a thought or urge to another, as in a job interview. To encourage them to hire you. The finger on the wrist is actually touching your pulse point. When you felt "icky" you felt their energy. You had the correct reaction. "Stay away!"

[@SatieSatie]

Non-violent, inconspicuous psychopaths are particularly fascinating to me because there's a good chance that you have one in your social circle and they will never be detected. Maybe you could do an episode on this very topic, Scott? I met a psychopath, who told me that he used to believe that he was just like anyone else, until he sat in a derailing train and felt... absolutely nothing. He calmly watched as everyone was screaming in fear of their lives. Shortly after, he got his diagnosis (there's no official clinical diagnosis for psychopathy, so I assume he got one for antisocial personality disorder).

[@AsAd-gd4hw]

I am one. You might think I’m just saying random things on KZbin comment sections, but I’ll give my opinions on this as I’ve delved deep into researching and you can take it for what it is or ignore. As far as I’m concerned it’s an adaptive evolutionary strategy for a r-selected ecology/fast life history. Psychopaths seem to have the most sex, relationships and children so within stable ecologies it’s obvious why this would be selected for. It also exists in chimpanzees at around the same rate as in humans, so to me this indicates it’s primarily as issue of biology. From a neurobiological perspective, up-regulation of RPL10P9 and ZNF132, and down-regulation of CDH5 and OPRD1 seem to regulate up to 92% of psychopathic symptoms, although this needs further research. 6 gene expressions seem to be responsible, ANKK1, DRD2, DRD4, MAOA, COMT, and 5-HTTLPR. It’s largely an issue of biology, and ‘ASPD’ has a VERY low correlation with psychopathy to the point where lumping the 2 together makes very little sense

[@rosemadder5547]

I'll never forget the first time i was strangled by an abusive ex. Almost all i remember is his pupils being huge. I was told later that night predators do that when they're going for a kill. Sickest feeling I ever had...

[@ScottRouse]

😮

[@cherylmockotr]

First time? It happened more than once??? I hope the guy's in prison!

[@lonestarbellepk]

It's terrifying

[@sdot6318]

Way too many many psychopaths, sociopaths, and Narcs in the world very troubling...I believe the numbers are growing.

[@rdallas81]

Takes 1 to know 1.

[@fitnesssoup7553]

​@@rdallas81Thanks for coming forward 😅

[@DVD927]

Thought: Are the numbers actually growing, or is it YOUR AWARENESS that is growing? I’d guess it’s the latter. It’s just like if you buy a red Volkswagen, you’ll start noticing red Volkswagens.

[@ambermuth]

3 mins in and you’re talking to me directly! It took becoming a psychology student for me to realize that my mother is most likely a psychopath and my step-dad (who raised me) is probably a clinical narcissist. The difference between them is basically what you said. And yes, it is all about her. She’ll do anything to get her way and make you pay for it if she doesn’t. Nobody is excluded, not even her own children or someone else’s.

[@Hollylivengood]

There was a guy at our chess club who used to always squeeze people's hands like a vice when he shook hands before a game. He did it to everyone, man or woman, and stare at them like he was he was hard man boxer or something. He wasn't even that good. We're just playing chess for godsake. So guys, the next time someone does the death grip handshake, roll their hand sideways in your hand. Anyone can do it, no matter how strong the other guy is. You have 27 bones in your hand, and none of them work moving two directions at once. It's perfect for the average wannabe power player, or psychopath.

[@Nylak-Otter]

I knew my Amazon parrot was a psychopath. Her eyes absolutely dilate when she sees fear, and it's usually accompanied by evil cackling.

[@beverlypeace149]

My sister's parrot was like that with me, until the day she told me she was trying to figure out who to leave him with because he would outlive her. I said not me, he doesn't like me. He was nice to me from then on!

[@Nylak-Otter]

@@beverlypeace149 Ha, I wish that had been the case with mine! She was my mother's bird, and we were raised together, so we had an awful sibling rivalry. She also chose to imitate my voice the most, because I was her direct competitor for my mother's attention and I seemed to be good at it. I inherited her when my mother passed and we still don't get along due to our shared history, and it's not exactly an ideal situation for either of us, but no rescues have adopters that are interested in a 30+ year old Amazon that bites and curses at everyone in the voice of a pre-adolescent girl.

[@tiffknox6158]

I had my Psychopathic Parrot (Blue Fronted Amazon) Norman for 36 years. Can confirm the wildly dilating eyes and cackling! His nicknames: Devil Chicken, Norman Bates, Stormin’ Norman. He loved me but everyone else had to steer clear.

[@beverlypeace149]

@@Nylak-Otter oh dear. I hope she gets better! Take the initiative and talk to her. They understand much more than we know. Tell her you know she misses Mom, I'm sad, too... I hope you two work it out

[@yme9953]

I’m sure I was getting the psychopathic stare a few weeks ago at the supermarket so I made a point of keeping eye contact for a bit but had to drop it, I looked again and he was staring right at me across the checkouts so I kept it again so I didn’t look like prey. He probably thought I was a psychopath 😂

[@karenk2409]

My horrible sadistic ex stared at me the whole time during 2 days of court. I refused to meet his eyes. He was trying to intimidate and control me. The judge was not amused.

[@jeaniebird999]

I've noticed that narcissists often like and are drawn to other narcissists but also clash with them because they're competing with each other for everyone else's attention. Also, narcissists will notice and take their proper place, on the totem pole, when an alpha narcissist (so to speak) is in control.

[@lonestarbellepk]

Disagree. Seems like Narcissists hone in on sensitive, empathetic, vunerable people

[@jeaniebird999]

@@lonestarbellepk Oh yes, those types of people are a narcissists _preferred_ victim, not friend. If you look, you'll notice that narcissists often like and are drawn to other narcissists. Take a look at (haha, I'm using _his_ playbook 😜) an infamous narcissist that is currently in the news, on a daily basis, and all the sycophants that surround him. The DSM-5 is strong, with that crowd! 😂

[@ironDsteele]

It's my opinion that a true narcissist does not have any empathy. They may have cognitive empathy if they are of the midrange or greater especially- but this is strictly for manipulation purposes. The lesser narcissist won't even have that.

[@ironDsteele]

@@IrisKarls The term "covert narcissist" is so broad that it could cover 8 different subschools of narcissist. Additionally, as stated in my comment above, the upper-midrange and the greater schools will have cognitive empathy which is a simple calculation of your feelings based on observations that they use for manipulation purposes and to manage the facade. They have no emotional or contagion empathy whatsoever and any believing in that they do, is emotional thinking. The lower midrange and the lesser narcissists won't even have that.

[@mattjack3983]

Having been diagnosed with Anti-Social Personality Disorder (ASPD) and am a clinical psychopath, i thoroughly enjoyed this video. I especially liked and appreciated the way just iterated that many of those with psychopathy are not violent people with malevolent intentions, who just want to harm people. And that all of those with psychopathy aren't geniuses either. Idk why that trope is so prevalent. The majority of us are of average intelligence..the majority of us are fairly "average" in general, for that matter (except, of course, not in regards to having psychopathy)..and there are definitely some psychopaths who are not very intelligent at all. When i was younger..a teenager, and into my very early 20s..i remember making people uncomfortable with staring. Not because that's what i was trying to do, but because I wasnt aware that i was making them uncomfortable. That got me yelled at and smoked a couple times basic training in the Army. It was actually during my time in the Army when i became alot more aware of myself..very, very self aware..and also learned about my psychopathy. Soldiers, especially grunts, are typically not shy about telling you about yourself. And as i very curious individual to begin with, i was often not shy when it came to asking about myself. I close friend i met during basic training was the one who told me that my stare makes people uncomfortable. And I can remember that it struck a nerve that caused my curiosity to spike bigtime. Immediately i wondered why it made people uncomfortable, and i also wondered if there was anything else i did that made people uncomfortable. And i figured that since my new friend was so forthcoming and forward about the staring, i could ask him. And i did. We had many long talks that were very introspective, and i had many moments of some very deep self reflection. I began seeing a therapist a few months later (on my own..not thru the Army..i did not want my military career negatively impacted for psych reasons). That eventually led to a diagnosis of ASPD/psychopathy.

[@howareyou857]

I have periods of staring but that can be because my mind has gone blank.

[@egyptianhebrew91]

there are thousands of psychopaths in every city, not just a few.

[@MrsMansir]

I like story time with Scott

[@sandeey]

I've had 2 (ex) boyfriends stare at me that way when I've asked them a direct question that they didn't want to answer. It's scary because there was no emotion behind their eyes. I've called it the 1,000 yd stare because it just goes on forever.

[@kimberlygabaldon3260]

Thanks, Scott. 7% - 10% of the population?!? That's a terrifying thought.

[@katfromthekong414]

It surprisingly easy to picture Scott in full 80s metal gear, with the long hair, studded leather jackets and too-tight jeans 🤘😆

[@bryanfinkell9022]

My father was a Sociopathic Narsisist with Borderline. There was nothing cute or funny about him. The damage he did to me and my 3 sisters was unspeakable. I actually made it out. My sisters didn't. One of them committed suicide. When he finally passed away. I felt nothing.

[@consciouslyaware240]

Im so sorry, I was engaged to a sociopath/narcissist they are awful.

[@justmecrafting9238]

Grandmas slap really hurt your feelings. Adults can be really mean sometimes without realizing it.

[@servantofGod4003]

I got a lazy eye, so people don't know if I'm looking at them or not.😂😂😂

[@sleepyblue8]

You just made something click for me! Last year I was on a flight back home, and this woman sitting across from me stared at me for the ENTIRE 4 HOUR flight. She looked like she wanted to devour me. At first I was flattered, since women don’t typically clock me as gay, but then it creeped me out. I felt pulled in. After we landed, I just got my things and left. I couldn’t put my finger on what it was until now.

[@ScottRouse]

There’s a kid that did that to me in the fourth grade. He would watch me like I was a Vietnamese sniper working a tree line.

[@KH-rt3ef]

You should’ve regurgitated your food and re-ate it continuously. Then told her about Jesus.

[@ND-or5so]

@sleepyblue8 I know just how you feel. Sometimes you almost think.they want to jump inside of you. Now I will say something..I can't be uncomfortable with something when I'm trying to relax and mind my own business. I will say something and I'm not gonna not say something and I never say anything threatening. That's the goal, smooth but direct. I don't like to cause attention in a bad way.

[@hannahriley8085]

Omg I always wondered why his eyes seemed to turn black especially because he had dark brown eyes! Explains it all and I can’t believe I’ve never thought of that before! Thanks

[@sillyrabbit734]

Sometimes I worry that I have undiagnosed psychopathic tendencies. I talk to a therapist, she disagrees - but I struggle with empathy for others sometimes.

[@ScottRouse]

Well. You just answered your own question. You’re not a psychopath, because you’re worried about being a psychopath. Psychopaths don’t worry about things like that. As a matter fact, they don’t worry about anything. There you go. Now you sleep tight. You’re just fine.🙂👍

[@qua7771]

I agree. Sociopaths have no concern, or feelings of remorse for their behavior. They don't seek help. Maybe you made a few bad decisions, or you may not feel like you express much emotion. That's different.

[@sillyrabbit734]

@@ScottRouse Thank you!

[@LeslieSoyster]

If you were a psychopath, you wouldn't be concerned because you don't always feel empathy.

[@jillferrier8715]

On psychopathic stare. Whatever you do don’t marry him lol.

[@justjosie8963]

On first answer, that's why you should never show fear to someone you don't trust, if you can help it. You don't want to entice them.

[@nameissturdy1390]

I thought someone kept staring at me in a bar one time and I was getting really creeped out. I finally realized that there was a tv behind me.

[@rmaria517]

😂 too cute!

[@ScottRouse]

😮

[@ms.vsmith7881]

Dahmer was not a psychopath. He had schizoid personality disorder. I worked with the neuropsychologist who assessed him with this dx when he had his court trial in Milwaukee.

[@superdougie10]

Jeff Bezos has that psycho stare.

[@southhour5241]

He just sly farts all the time, read the room dude.

[@Mercurychyld1]

@@southhour5241 : 😂🤣😆👏🏽

[@TriniStarr3527]

Remember Aileen Wournos' stare? 😬

[@jasusoppo498]

Within the first 6 minutes of this video you neatly summed up what I went through. Narcissist psychopath cult family, queen at the top, involvement with the underworld and the occult, my partner is also a narcissistic psychopath that lived with them for 10 years working for them and helping pay the mortgage. My mind has never been the same. I'm a shell of the person I was. Dog whistling, gaslighting, triangulation, coersion, and so much dissociated abuse behind close doors. Just like what happened in my family growing up. I saw red flags and said "oh hey this is familiar, we must be at another carnival. LET'S GOOOO".

[@Freedomisreal670]

You never cease to amaze me with your knowledge and the open comfortable way you talk, it's like you are a friend and we're just having a really good chat about this stuff. Love you dude.

[@ScottRouse]

Thanks so much. 👍🙂

[@Flaaaaanders]

Wait about Chuck schumer? What about schiff? Those are some weird stares right there

[@Ashley-j2w3t]

Dr. Ramani is an amazing source for narcissism information. She has a KZbin channel and has just written her first book. I highly recommend her videos for identifying and understanding narcissists.

[@ScottRouse]

Yeah. She’s great.

[@dreamdust38]

I am just about half way through this. I do not like to shake hands with anyone anymore. It seems each and everytime I have done that, it has not turned out well for me. It has usually happened when I first met someone. I have thought: what did I just agree to. I can now use the excuse that I do not shake hands since the Covid. Which is true. If someone is sick and you shake hands with them or hold hands, it is a very good way to get sick yourself. Do people shake hands with you when they first meet you to size you up. I have become more reserved in my older age. I was raised to be a victim of these people. Not anymore. Took a few years of therapy. They can put you exactly where you do not want to be by their manipulations. So one must heal traumas from the past and learn to identify these people and not be their victim. I guess this is why I am interested in this video.

[@ScottRouse]

Wow. Fascinating. Thanks for telling me about that. 👍🙂

[@TriniStarr3527]

I found your comment very interesting. I was also raised to be a victim of these people (I am almost 59). I am not a cold person but same as you... I never have liked shaking hands with people nor the famous 3 kisses people give each other in Switzerland (I love Switzerland) where I now live! Worse in Paris!! 4 kisses!! to say hi and 4 to say bye! crazy.... I guess it has a little to do with my childhood. I was born in Peru and lived there until age 10. We don't have that habit of shaking hands and exchanging kisses so ferociously! haha People around me must know I don't shake hands or exchange kisses cause they don't ask! LOL.... But I do hug sometimes people I really like and haven't seen for a while 🙂and the same way around. Me too therapy and lots of reading. I hope my English was OK. Saludos from over here! 🙂

[@dreamdust38]

@@TriniStarr3527 Thank you for your comment. I too sometimes do hugs. That is usually a sign of expressing love with no motive. I don't know about all that kissing stuff. I really would not like that. Glad you got therapy too. A good therapist can be very healing and give good techniques to find your center again if unbalanced by something or someone. I find my balance sometimes by watching these kinds of videos and reading lots of books. Some books I had to hide.

[@dreamdust38]

@@Godbody_Gladiators I do not like to just shake hands when I meet someone. I find it a strange custom. I see it as two people making an agreement of some kind. What is it to you? I still do not want to shake your hand if I do not know you. I have not had a good experience with that. Thank you for your comment.

[@TriniStarr3527]

@@dreamdust38 I don't want to sound like a narcissist that's mirroring you😀 But... same here... I had to read a couple books secretly to deeply understand before leaving my ex-husband 21 years ago. It was the psychiatrist I went to see at that time who, after meeting my husband 3 times, gave me the references to the books. There was little information on the subject at the time and I had no internet. Then, little by little I started, half horrified, realizing I was born in a family full of Cluster Bs. Scary life. But once you know, it's way better.

[@mikecude4167]

When I did interview/interrogation training for Law Enforcement, we learned that you cannot take any body language ques without first establishing that specific individuals baseline for communication. Simply, you ask a series of questions that you know they will answer honestly, their name, color of the sky, what city they live in, etc. then you ask a series of questions you know to be true that they will likely answer dishonesty, and you not the difference. it’s not perfect, but if done well, you can get to the truth. Also, you can artificially move them through the stages of grief (someone who has committed a serious crime and is struggling with their conscience) to acceptance and admission. This is all but impossible to use on a psychopath or sociopath. You need to use someone’s conscience against them. Very interesting stuff. Obviously not a perfect explanation, going off of memory from years ago.

[@christineplaton3048]

In a narcissistic family there is a scapegoat. Be careful, because you can turn children against the good parent. The covert narcissist teaches the family that everything is the other parents fault. It's a complex situation and there can be similar behaviors. The scapegoat might be walking on eggshells. One example is the narcissist punishes. So staying silent versus arguing for any family rights might happen. Silence is necessary to keep peace, but not all are in agreement with the situation. One narcissistic parent destroys the entire family.

[@tundrawomansays694]

*Take us kids and LEAVE.* Yes, there are DV Shelters so that’s where you go for OUR sake. If you as an adult can’t deal with them, what chance do children have? None.

[@LLcoolDay]

✋️Scapegoat (adult) Child here. This is a very real dynamic that doesn't get enough attention. I wish more people talked about this.

[@ChronicallyCassidy]

Yep. Yep. Yep yep yep

[@commodityjane]

I thought psychopaths have no feelings about what they do. I'm surprised their pupils dilate when they see fear or anything else.

[@vaska1999]

They enjoy the evil they do.

[@BluieBeth]

Another great video! I LOVE this, Scott!! The stories about you playing guitar made my day! That was my music for sure, when I was growing up! The good days! lol 🙂 Not trying to be weird, but for real, you are such an interesting guy! These videos are the best! It's like getting to just sit down and visit with you, while learning so many things. Thank you for these!

[@cindybrennan2330]

Narcissists are not that fascinating when you have one as a parent growing up and they turn you into a neurotic, self-loathing, anxiety-ridden adult. Having said that, I would love to learn the tricks for dealing with them effectively. Or does that not work with narcissists you have known your whole life?

[@xanderpromeo]

Grey rock technique. Eventually they give up and look elsewhere for someone else to suck energy from. Pull back your energy and give them nothing.

[@Aevans786]

Dr. Les Carter has great teachings on understanding and dealing with them

[@cindybrennan2330]

@@Aevans786thanks so much, I will definitely look him up 🙂

[@cindybrennan2330]

@@xanderpromeoThank you. The only problem is, I struggle to keep my temper under control when they just disregard all my struggles and problems and go straight back to concentrating on whatever trivial little thing they’re concerned about at the time 😔

[@kopherle]

Your description of second tier narcissists reminds me of Remoras--those little fish that follow sharks around.

[@christinecarrington3746]

This was very helpful, I feel like my eyes don't dilate bc of my PTSD and being stuck in freeze mode to protect myself.

[@breakingzilian5371]

If you genuinely fear being a psychopath, ur almost for sure not one.

[@yvettebonilla1607]

@@christinecarrington3746 mine are like that too - same reason.

[@Peace-tk3gr]

Psychopaths don't experience fear like normal people do.

[@Mika77Top]

They can feel pain and vengance. Nothing more

[@NathonHay]

I perfected the psychopathic stare in middle school in the late 80s merely to protect myself from bullies! Gen X self defense!

[@darrylkassle361]

How did you do that exactly

[@jimflys2]

So I'm playing a gig at a country bar 20 years ago. A guy is staring at me from the bar across the room. He Starts playing pool. He walks over to the band, standing directly in front of me. Starts waving a pool cue over my head, taunting me. Imagine, I'm not putting on any air of threat or look at me vibe. I'm filling in with this band, just being a good listener and musician. I'm like WTF! AND this Ludwig cymbal stand is going to become a potentially lethal weapon in my hands real fast if he assaults me. Never before. Never since. He had no girl with him. Just singled me out as someone he wanted to bully. I asked the band members to keep an eye out. Told the bar tender too. I think he finally just left. Nut job.

[@natashafaye6684]

I dated a military cop who used to check the trash when he got home from work to confront me about items he found

[@kristine6277]

W.o.w ... sorry you had to go through that

[@natashafaye6684]

@@kristine6277 never underestimate the power of observation

[@stevepeterson5943]

Oh man, when you said a psycho's pupils dilate when they see fear, good God that's horrifying! That is one of the scarieat things I've ever heard. . . . Made my hair stand up : /

[@ConnieGMK]

I could listen to you all day

[@ND-or5so]

They will say the children are ok when they didn't even check on the children.

[@justbecause9049]

If someone is trying to scope out what’s in my grocery basket at the grocery store, that sends up red flags to me. I start wondering why a lady with a little kid is so interesting to them.

[@biffm.2806]

I like to see what other people find in the store. Especially in Costco..it’s hard for me to really look around with my kids in tow. 😬

[@bohofoto6929]

I think that happens a lot. It’s sort of like seeing what kind of person someone is by looking at the car they drive (if they chose it.)

[@justbecause9049]

I’m just hyper vigilant at the grocery store. I’ve almost been kidnapped 3 times in my life, twice at two different grocery stores. Stay aware, stay alive.

[@bohofoto6929]

@@justbecause9049 Creepers in parking lots are just one reason I’m a fan of online ordering and store pickup.

[@moiraslater8526]

A firm hand shake to an indigenous Australian is a sign of aggression, so not always advised as a determining factor, very culturally specific.

[@buckaroobonzai2909]

Unlocked a new way to intimidate people. Thnx

[@marlenechicoine4005]

Do you believe (as I do) that animals and sometimes children, can sense "evil" or psychopathy in a person?

[@queenofthebutterflies5212]

100%

[@autex2609]

I tend to agree. I love animals and I usually really get along with dogs and cats. People always mention how "great I am" with animals etc. But my friend's dog is utterly terrified of me and immediately runs away before I can even try to connect. First time in my life this has happened. It actually hurts me feelings a bit because I genuinely respect how an animal reacts to ppl.. So now I hope I'm simply wrong about the whole "animals can sense bad ppl" thing ha

[@marlenechicoine4005]

@autex2609 It could just be that you remind them of someone they don't trust...a mean mailman or something. Really! It could be your hat, the way you walk, etc. They remember those things from a bad situation.

[@bonniekesic8040]

My dad was a Narcussist and when I was 48 I married a Narcussist and didn't see it! I think he would be classified as a Vulnerable Narcussist.

[@scottherod7732]

All good information in general. And while I personally agree on the whole strong handshake thing (as I was raised), you have to be careful about expressing implicit bias these days. There are some folks out there who are neurodivergent (e.g., autism spectrum, etc.). So, they interact differently from those of us who are neurotypical, and they avoid eye contact and strong handshakes. But it doesn't mean they're insincere or anti-social. Recognizing these differences has become a part of our DEI training in the work environment.

[@mattie1200]

I love your voice, Scott, and you're so funny. 😂. Love the info. I think I used to date a narcissist. Thank God that's over. Thank you.

[@Bigbangboots1]

Bro, you’ve got a voice that would be amazing on anxiety talk down podcasts

[@ScottRouse]

Thanks man. 👍

[@PocketPoe]

Or in a horror novel... that nice deep rumble... total immersion for unreliable narrator voice...

[@laurajane4806]

I was born into a family of narcs and psychopaths. I've seen a lot of Behavior Panel episodes and remember the one where it was shared that the guy who ran the study on Ted Bundy called him the essence of a psychopath. They are quite charming. People who meet psychopaths would have no idea they are psychopaths as they are excellent actors. Narcs & psychos practice acting as young children and perfect their skill of manipulation and presentation of their false persona as they age. If you don't know what to look for they can really take you for a ride. They do study people for cues to mimic.

[@ScottRouse]

You’re very observant! 🙂👍

[@bohofoto6929]

Wow they sure do

[@angelinag4116]

Very true. I too was born into a family of narcs.

[@BeckyPickar-kb6nu]

I can tell you you never want to hang around with a narcissist they can kill you I lived through it

[@maryrowery80]

+1

[@atlasheyzal9178]

TW: There’s nothing like it. My ex wife(I am also a woman) was a legitimate female psychopath. Not only was her stare terrifying and inhuman in rage, just her looking at me day to day was threatening. And that “flat affect” was chilling. And yes all psychopaths are narcissists. The psychological war fare ….how she’d make me watch yt videos of narcissists who had strangled their wives to death while having strangled me 4 times. Laying next to someone like that. And she was in 💯 control the entire time. Never did she disassociate in rage or was ever not in control of the violence. She did it because she wanted to. When I told her she was a narcissist but that we could get her help because if she never did get help, she’d never change, she looked me in my eyes, and told me “I don’t care” while choking me and pushing my face into the mattress. A woman!!!! I do think her being a woman probably did save my life but I was still scared for my life and thought she was going to murder me.

[@realleon2328]

I had a friend like this, people don't talk about female psychopaths very often so it's easier for that to go unnoticed :(

[@thatMMaven]

💔I’m glad you got away from her. Sorry you went through that but always kind of a relief to hear ‘ex’ bc it’s vio lence is horrific.

[@americanmeteoritefan9670]

When I met a very famous high power environmental attorney he shook my hand but he intentionally just crushed my hand! At the time I didnt fathom that it was intentional. Hubby caught the moment on film and I cannot see the photo without remembering how it took me months to recover from the injury. Later the lawyer stole most of the $41 million settlement I was entitled to. Most of the plaintiffs in our case were never paid a cent, but he gave us a few thousand just to keep us from raising a stink. So now I know it was intentional and absolutely a threat BECAUSE it was his MO to rob all of his clients and knew I was a vocal and outspoken plaintiff who might cause trouble.

[@ScottRouse]

😠

[@susannec659]

Donald tTrump used to pull people towards him when he shook their hand. I wonder if he still does that.

[@nellybean69]

@@susannec659 What’s your point?