Self Sabotage .vs. Sobriety - Alcohol & Your Best Self - (Episode #98)

[@chucktownjoey]

Daily drinker, now 4 days sober. Glad I found your channel

[@GettingSoberAgain]

The Feeling is mutual my friend! Keep me updated daily on your journey

[@Matt-li6zm]

I've been drinking heavily for 12 years and been binge drinking for the last 7 months. I ended up doing some time behind bars and was forced to get sober and I was the happiest I'd been in a very long time, so I know being sober is a better life and one that I really want. I've lost a lot and wasted so many years of my life its sickening. Anyway this was my first day without a drink in a long time. I know this feeling very well but it helps listen to ppl experiencing it or who has gone through it. Appreciate the channel and the positive vibe

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I appreciate you being here!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Keep updating us on your journey Matt!

[@jacqui4green]

Good luck with your journey Matt! We are rooting for you. Please share your successes and failures. We are all in this together. The goal is so worthwhile.

[@johnl6161]

Hang in there, Matt. Things will get better. Like Jae says, envision where you want to be in the future. Write down One daily goal. (My advice that one be " Don't Drink.) One weekly goal, One Monthly goal, One yearly goal...and so on. Seriously, write that shit down and read it out loud as soon as you wake up every day. No excuses. If those things on the paper are truly what you want in life, they will happen. I promise you. 👊

[@kristimcintosh7725]

I never look up videos on sobriety or anything so it was so weird when you popped up. After almost 15 years of heavy drinking, I'm 4 days sober. I'm nervous but excited. Trying really hard to stay positive. I don't know if I would be this encouraged if I hadn't seen your videos thou so thank you.

[@stagepsychoIzzy]

3 weeks officially for me. It has not been easy. temptation is constantly present. Thanks to Jae for staying with us on our journey to self betterment. I’m truly aiming to score my 1 month goal. And then take it further 🤞🏼

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Ohhh wow you're soooooo close!!! Let's get it!!! Just focus on one day and 1 craving at a time :)

[@bigrus0078]

Well done! I have an asterisk, but not going let that ruin the hard work I have put in, almost makes it 4 weeks 👊

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@bigrus0078 atta boy

[@CD-zy5te]

Dear comment lurkers, You are not alone and this is a great community here at getting sober. We care about you , please dont stop trying! I found jae's channel on night 30 and today i have now reached 1 year of sobriety. Come say hi at our livestream sometime!!!!

[@rockyroad909]

Digging the Sober Samurai!!!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

lol new KZbin Channel?!

[@fruitascension5089]

😆... The Sober Samurai ✊🏼👍🏼

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@fruitascension5089 lol

[@justinstrange5945]

5 years, and all about that radical self-honesty on the self-sabotage front. It's... VERY real. I think a lot of people leave out the fact that getting honest with everyone, includes yourself. Great stuff, man!

[@bigrus0078]

Good point, im guilty of it, but, am focused to be the best version I can be for self and the ones I love. Solid post 👊

[@justinstrange5945]

@@bigrus0078 Thanks! Hell yeah. I'm guilty too. And I know it's a thing. So it's sure not easy, it's just easy to say. I think focusing on being the best you that you can be, No matter what my 'best' is or what your 'best' is, we are literally doing the best we can. And that's badass. Who could ask for more than that? 👊

[@bigrus0078]

@@justinstrange5945 good point champ, just day by day and do all we can that's all we can ask 🤝👈

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Thank you brother!

[@justinstrange5945]

@@GettingSoberAgain Thank YOU! 🤘

[@bobmoore6248]

Am 65. My kids are 38. 35. 34. They watched and learned from me way too well. I am working on my sobriety. Work in progress. Not to judge but my children all have issues with alcohol and drugs. Am trying to be helpful. We all know we all have to make choices good or bad. Am praying they will choose the correct path ….. me too.

[@johnl6161]

First, congrats on the Cavs gig! 👏 Second, 15 days...again! Third, I'm not affiliated but "Mint" is a great free budgeting tool app for those that need it. 'Cause finances can be hard. Anyways, projecting expectations on others is a terrible side-effect of drinking. I'm not proud of it but I've done this for years to my wife and I''m sure many others. Ugh. It's unbelievable how "sober me" can see the damage that I've caused so clearly but "drunk me" just doesn't give a shit. Thanks for another great episode. You're really helping me stay grounded. 🙏

[@bigrus0078]

Great news on 15 days again, im on the path to claim a month. Stay strong and in contact 👈🤝

[@johnl6161]

@@bigrus0078 Hell yeah, get that month and keep going! I've got a float / camping trip with a bunch of friends coming up in a few weeks. I've been mentally building myself up for that. These things are typically a floating 3 day party so I'm a bit concerned what my mindset will be when I'm in it but I'm staying positive about the path I'm on. Thanks! 🙏👊

[@kaffraraffin3574]

I've really busted my ass in so many jobs but, at some point, I self-sabotage and all that effort counts for nothing. Drink is not your friend. We often have some fun experiences with it when we are young but there comes a time when it just doesn't help for anything.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

You got that right!

[@rachangel1951]

Tonight was the most challenging so far but made it. Listening to this and about to crash. 😴

[@bigrus0078]

Well done, and congrats on making it through the night. Stay safe 👊👍

[@rachangel1951]

@@gwillis01 ty. I’m hanging in there and it’s not going bad at all. 🙂 💛

[@blueeyes4233]

great video today! i watch you but haven’t really commented - i was going to jokingly say i like you more now than when i first watched you lol. Honestly you have something good here & it is growing your doing a great job. I know in a past video you said something along the lines ‘if i only need to watch your videos to get through the 1st 2 weeks or month to sustain from alcohol than so be it’ But i feel like this channel is keeping me grounded focused & definitely inspiring. I can feel how passionate you are about helping others hence why i think i like your channel more & more. You definitely have something good growing here & look forward to see where it goes. I am currently 112 days alcohol free & life has been challenging me a lot lately to ‘have a drink’ Today was hard! My heart is heavy. (related to a sick family member with covid) I want a drink so bad but I haven’t broke my promise to myself. I felt this way on & off in my journey I remember day 50 day 70 feeling the urge to drink. Sobriety is a choice I know drinking won’t fix the problem, but having others who understand & videos like this are so helpful to those on their sober journey.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Well I'm glad that you reached out it's a really good feeling to know that these messages are resonating with so many people, yourself included! I really want to help people to find their strength and their courage to be the best version of themselves that they can possibly be. I'm trying to be the person for me that I didn't have in my life and it is ultimately up to me to be that person and I am very pleased that I can be of service to others in this way! So thank you for reaching out, and saying so, it's comments like these that continue to motivate me to do better, be better, and continue to put out more content to serve you along your journey! Be well and stay blessed :) 112 days is AMAZING! Just think to yourself when the urge and the temptation to drink comes that those 112 days are yours and you're not willing to give them back. That if you drink tonight it would take 112 days in the future for you to get back to where you are currently standing. You have the power! 👁️

[@bigrus0078]

Well done, amazing effort and so proud for you!

[@jacqui4green]

So glad that you are here! 112 days is such a distant dream for me. I am full of admiration for you.

[@MrChucktait]

I don't have much to say today believe it or not. Hoping I can stay home next weekend and catch a stream. Also kind of nervous with summer approaching. Hot weather and patios, that's my weakness. Will just have to buckle down and stay strong I guess. Peace, love, and tenacity...

[@MrChucktait]

@@gwillis01 well that's the kind of thing I keep telling myself. Thanks for the pep talk ;)

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I appreciate all your time in the livestreams @chuck tait

[@MrChucktait]

@@GettingSoberAgain thanks Jae. I'll stay involved as much as I can for sure.

[@adamsmith5778]

Was tempted to have a drink today. I tuned in to an episode and it helped me stay strong. Let's all continue to live strong! Thanks for the content Jay.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Yooooo well you found a great one to watch! This is one of my all time favorites. If you want to get caught up on the latest episode, I just released it yesterday! Here's the link kzbin.info/www/bejne/rZyvhWx9l5qhoJY

[@trevelynmatthews3786]

Thank you for these videos. They're my favorite on sobriety. 24 days sober and you've been a great help. ❤

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Awwwww really?!!! Mission accomplished!!! Let's keep moving forward! Never forget what you went through just to get to where you are now. Do not give it back. It's Friday. Is yours! Sure

[@bigrus0078]

This is tough to post, I'm really disappointed with myself. I was over 3 weeks and headed for a month, but feel off over the weekend. I feel so ashamed and so let down. I'm sorry to everyone aswell as I feel I have let the team down. I was so proud but stuffed it up. It has really crushed me 😒

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Chin up? You've been there before. What have you learned from this instance? Move forward ✊🏽

[@charliebacon3778]

Screw that, it be hard sometimes. Dont add fuel to the fire

[@MJA5]

yup, you didn't fall off the wagon just now. That's in your past. Forward my friend!

[@barbarahermannster]

Don't be so down on yourself. You are going to learn from this and go after it again.

[@bigrus0078]

@@GettingSoberAgain that I can be own worst enemy. Also need to pick up the phone and reach out for support. But thanks, I will get there, I want my sobriety.

[@veteranfetusdiego5898]

I checked out the livestream on Saturday and thought it was great! I couldn't stick around for super long but it was grand. Great work with the videography! Week 12 over here and feeling great. I've learned how to tone down my erratic decision/anger periods, and its made huge difference. Not taking on the whole world's problems is sanity.

[@woundedhead23]

Amen! Another great episode and loving it!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Haha awww thank you :):) I felt good about it...after the long intro lol

[@jacqui4green]

I agree. Jae's wisdom is so fun to hear.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

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[@jacqui4green]

@@GettingSoberAgain WHAT? Only *25* little faces? ! ? I need MORE, ever MORE! 😎

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@jacqui4green lol my thumb hurts

[@reneefriedman1858]

17 days 🎉 your channel has been amazing support for me. Thank you! I don’t know how you started popping into my feed but you did at the right time. 👊🏼

[@GettingSoberAgain]

I'm happy that these old words are breathing new life into your soul! Here's the main playlist of episodes so you can check out more when you're ready 👍 kzbin.info/aero/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt

[@miyannaable]

Loving your videos!! Whenever I get cravings (been good for 7 years), I watch and/or listen to videos like these - it helps SO much!!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

7 years is so inspiring!!! I'm grateful for your support, and thank you for keeping me on my journey :)

[@kristimcintosh7725]

Way to go!

[@jenniferwexler8481]

Great channel! 5 days sober and your videos keep me motivated 🙌🏻

[@Unhingedbutcute]

Thank you for another great video. They are saving my ass. I’ve been watching your videos every day for over a month now,and they help keep me motivated and focused.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Thank you for more wonderful Elise J positive vibes! We always look forward to reading your comments 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@mjharter04]

I love this episode! Thanks for taking the time to improve our world.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

It was a favorite of mine too! We have about 100 episodes since then. Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes! kzbin.info/aero/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt

[@johannesirois291]

You look so much better. Sorry for your Past You. Good job

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Lol all good! Maybe I can put this face to good use someday 😄

[@Kevin-p4l]

Good content Thanks Jay!

[@6lu5ky86]

I wanna see myself trying again today. I got so drunk yesterday that I stubbed my toe and now it's turned black. My substance abuse lately has been triggered by mortality realizations hitting harder than usual. I need to find a way to enjoy life without the substances, it's having a horrible effect on my body and mind.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Have you looked into therapy?

[@T.K.111]

I want a trip to Paris...

[@charliebacon3778]

26:30 everything is not okay, but at least I'm drunk....

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Sounds familiar 🥴

[@charliebacon3778]

Yeah that's why I liked it, made me okay with not being okay

[@richardamezquita328]

Hey man!

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Hey Richie! Miss you bro :)

[@Kevin-p4l]

It will be 3 weeks for me today🎉

[@kingshano2425]

Hi, I am a week in today after many years of heavy drinking. Can anyone tell me when sleep becomes normal again? The first 4 nights I had a total of 11 hours of broken sleep and the first night none. The last 2 nights have been better but still only sleeping 2 hours at a time maximum but at least I have managed to get back to sleep again and getting around 4 hours. Is this normal and when does it get better? Thanks

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Your body is healing. It was under assault for a long time. Not that it has a chance to heal and recover, you're certainly going to find yourself with a different sleep schedule as you find a new balance. Funny you should mention it, the last 2 nights went to bed at 11 and woke up at 230am...today is my 6 months of being sober. I normally sleep well, but I also just had my 2nd vax 2 days ago

[@kingshano2425]

@@gwillis01 thanks for your reply, I started drinking at age 15 or so and I am now 49 so it has been a while. The amounts have changed but for the last 20 years or so I have had min 6 to 8 drinks a day to at my worst 10lt of spirits a week. So I guess you can say I am or was a heavy drinker. I have no other side effects that I can tell though so that's good

[@reneefriedman1858]

Funny, I’m the exact opposite, I am so tired and sleep and sleep. To the point my family is asking what is “wrong” with me 😂

[@alicebu8698]

😎😎😎😎👍👍👍👍👍🤙🤙🤙awesome channel bro

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Thank youuuu!!!! 🤓🤓🤓

[@HoustonShutterCenter]

What your business website ? I’m a small business owner as well

[@mc2043]

what is the best first step? Is it possible without some sort of meetings?

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Here you go :) kzbin.info/www/bejne/aYK4qXyNbb1omKM

[@irishtomahawk1982]

I really struggle with self worth. Quitting drinking is something I need to do, but it seems impossible for me

[@GettingSoberAgain]

Y?

[@irishtomahawk1982]

@GettingSoberAgain that's a simple question with a complex answer. But it's been good to think about. I have a therapist that helps, but I have plenty of progress to make still.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@irishtomahawk1982 do you tell your therapist that you think quitting drinking is impossible?

[@irishtomahawk1982]

@GettingSoberAgain I've told her that it's more difficult to quit since being unemployed. Not that I think it's impossible. Her response is a good one, she says to show myself grace. Sometimes that's a difficult thing for me.

[@jorgepulidovaladez9418]

Episode starts at 8:15

[@GettingSoberAgain]

😂😂😂 I was wondering the same thing 🤣🤣🤣

[@karencarney7595]

I subscribed to your channel, I lidten to some of ur videos thru my sobriety journey...but u look like you fell off the wagon, compared to older videos. Hope I'm wrong & Hope ur doing well (the 👀 tell all)

[@k.3924]

Looks fine to me, just a new hair style.

[@GettingSoberAgain]

??? I'm still sober lol. 6 months on this current journey as of Friday!

[@karencarney7595]

@@katkortekaas8875 my real name isn't Karen. It was to be ironic. 500th time I've had to explain...

[@karencarney7595]

@@GettingSoberAgain hey congrats and 2 months for me. See ur growing channel everyday! I'm still in brain fog mode& can't cope w everyday life.. l from borrowing all that time w alcohol like u said

[@GettingSoberAgain]

@@karencarney7595 2 months 🖤💜💛💚break on through til you see your goals realized!