So Happy We Don't Fight About This Anymore!

[@FluoGray]

Back in the days when “There’s like this virus going around”... lmao little did we know

[@bodine219]

Yeah...even your comment now lol. 😔

[@charge202]

The Kobe Bryant comment in the beginning got me

[@nadiariggs5110]

It’s only gotten more depressing since 😂😫😅😭

[@JordyJRT]

I’m exactly the same as Ellen, no matter how messed up my order is or anything like that I always feel like a nuisance to ask to change it or get another

[@salimali5019]

Once I got the wrong order in a restaurant and I somehow ended up with a Schnitzel (yess I am German). I was to scared to say something and I am a vegetarian😂 so I ate the side dish and forced my friend to eat the schnitzel, because I was also too scared that the waitress would asks if there was something wrong with my meal and I would have too admit that it is the wrong order and I didn't say anything😂

[@dannyyspencerr]

same!! like i don't feel like it's a bad thing honestly ppl are probably rude to them ALL DAY. like i might say something sometimes but i always try to be as nice as possible and i'll say "sorry" too even though it might not be my fault.... i see where Ryan is coming from but i don't feel bad about trying not to be an inconvenience haha

[@ANA_youre_enough]

Me three!!

[@helenbryant6540]

JordyJRT I’m the same

[@Jeannette03]

Same. Lol

[@carlossantaella16]

Ryan’s clueless face got me I had to pause the video to catch my breath. And I’m with you Ryan I don’t like no one touching my cup. And it’s perfectly fine to ask for new ones. I work in a restaurant and If the customer doesn’t like the food we are always glad to fix it for them.

[@SignDuoChannel]

😂

[@joshserrano554]

I am like Ryan with that I would have actually gone to the guy and addressed him about it. Seriously it has a name on it normally. Leave it alone

[@sjj1072]

I've been in the food service for awhile now, from a line cook to a shift manager, and I just want everyone to know, that nobody at the food service cares, that you ask for a new one, or have the wrong order and want it replaced. Nobody cares about fixing anything for the customers, period. The ONLY thing that annoys us is the attitude you have when requesting a fix/solution. Don't hesitate to ask for help, a replacement, or anything. It's our job. That's how we see it. Customers needing to be tended to is just, a part of the job. Just don't act self-righteous because "you're a customer". We're people too.

[@yasminal9438]

Mmm speak for yourself.. I agree that it’s the customers right to ask for a new thing but saying that no employee cares is completely false

[@fievelmousekewitz3398]

Ryan seems like the type of guy to carry purell with him at all times haha. Also Java is so big now, and still adorable

[@SignDuoChannel]

Tania Emma hahaha I used to! But not anymore

[@JJ-yu6og]

Lol. He works on greasy cars, though. I mean that in the neatest way . lol

[@TheaterGirl62]

Your editing of Java’s “dialogue” always cracks me up! 😆

[@00zarzu00]

yes! i loved java’s captions and her reaction to getting the new collar! :) haha love

[@Caerulean]

"oh my dog" 😆

[@camgraca]

It’s refreshing to see that although you two differ in how you each go about things you respect each other enough to not let it cause arguments. Another great video as usual.

[@SignDuoChannel]

Thanks Cameron!

[@cassidiroberts6473]

“There’s like a virus going around” 😂😂

[@gabriellebrady8614]

I agree with Ellen. It's really hard for me to be an inconvenience because I work around food and it's very discouraging for me because, I know exactly what it's like on the opposite end of that. Especially when it's really busy. That's just my personal thing though. Always best to stay cautious during a outbreak of a sickness :)

[@JEGoblin]

I had goosebumps watching this video. It's now September 2021. I still remember first hearing about Kobe Bryant's death like it happened a week ago, the memory is very fresh and it broke my heart. I'm not even from the LA area (I live in Oregon, near Washington) but still loved Kobe. And then, seeing you two talk about the covid when it was just beginning... wow, goosebumps. And here we are, 20 months later... this makes me so sad. It feels like a distant memory now.

[@SB-lc5qg]

Watching you guys talk about covid before it hit is surreal. I landed in Spain for a semester abroad the day this was posted, flew back on St. Patrick's Day to escape lockdown there, and left my quarantine on April Fool's Day. It's been a weird year haha.

[@emilycsikos8639]

Yalls personalities compliment each others perfectly

[@SignDuoChannel]

at first it was hard, but now we see that we can use it to our advantage!

[@tayab7914]

Professor: "I hope you all studied" Me: 1:33

[@alexdiana24]

Omg the face thoooo😂😂😂

[@kenaditrammell1468]

Me thooo

[@jessamo2395]

Story of my life tho

[@cbsumm88]

Relatable 😂

[@CharmednReady03]

Congratulations on graduating college Ellen!! Looking forward to you guys future videos, love this channel!

[@SignDuoChannel]

thank you

[@tink5337]

As someone who used to work at a coffee shop, we dont mind so long as you are kind and not trying to take both the new and old (as in, not trying to get extra drinks for free)

[@marisac.5303]

It's awesome how the dog understands his signing. You guys make a lovely couple! Thanks for sharing your life with us and help those of us learning sign.

[@VulcanOnWheels]

1:31 What should we read into Ryan's look? "She'll be mad if I don't remember!"? 11:21 I remember that from the dog we had. When she was taken out of the water and had a chance to shake, she took it! 11:44 Congratulations!

[@SilverFlame819]

Heads up about the collar you bought. The adjuster slides and clips on them are SUPER easy for dogs to snap in half. My dog busted two of them. It's a total safety hazard if your dog pulls suddenly and they break and you're on a busy road. I highly recommend Bison Designs or Lupine Pet. Their clips (quick clips like your collar, not the buckles) are heavy duty as hell, and guaranteed. (I also get collars handmade on Etsy from Fairy Tail Collars, and they use the same heavy duty quick-clips). :)

[@amarylisyang5535]

You two are amazing! I love your videos. I literally watched one video and then started binge watching your others ones lol. Your relationship is so strong and well-communicated. So many people aren't even willing to ask/listen to their significant other's day. This is encouraging not only through showing us that speaking isn't the only communication in a relationship but also through demonstrating steps to a healthy relationship. I love your videos and I love you both!

[@willblove8206]

This just shows how intelligent dogs are. Understand his hand signals. AWESOME!!

[@paolagrando5079]

It's good that Ryan, already 5 month ago, was aware of the virus and wanted to protect himself and you.

[@robyn294]

Watching your videos is so refreshing to me because both of you aren't afraid to voice your honest opinions about many different topics. Sure some may differ from the norm but y'all don't care and I respect that authenticity and genuine vibe from you two. Thanks for sharing! ^-^

[@SignDuoChannel]

we so appreciate that! Thank you for respecting our opinions :)

[@bjrngrimsby1052]

I get both sides, actually. Having worked in service myself, I make sure I treat those serving me with understanding, I have been in their shoes. However, I don't fear asking for new coffees, because it's really about asking nicely and explain the situation, even when it's busy. A smile and "please" goes a really long way.

[@SignDuoChannel]

absolutely, all about being respectful when asking!

[@lauram519]

I completely understand where Ryan is coming from with the coffees. Anyone can be a carrier of this virus - you can carry it, have no symptoms but pass it on and that other person could get seriously ill. It's worrying! I think you both handled it really well. Thanks for vlogging during this time. I am really enjoying your videos and I am learning a lot from your signs. I sign too but it is British Sign Language. I'm learning a lot of new signs and different ways to sign from watching both of you. We don't really use one handed finger spelling in the UK so it is interesting watching you finger spell with one hand when I would always use two! Stay safe! Lots of love from Bonny Scotland! ♥️♥️

[@SpecialgiftsLA]

Hi Bonny, Iv always been drawn to signing so I started watching Ellen and Ryan and it makes it so nice to have them represent especially such a sweet couple and human beings. I am also from UK..still havent realized my dream to visit Scotland yet. How are you learning Sign? I find the finger spelling hard to follow. Hope the stormy weather hasn't been too rough ..Lia

[@silje8711]

Love this channel

[@SignDuoChannel]

[@thesecondkate]

I honestly love your videos! I’m new I found your channel maybe a few weeks ago. I’m half way through my Masters abroad and often times I feel lonely and overwhelmed by the sheer work and responsibilities I have to do as a young adult. I find your videos relaxing and Ellen mentioning that she graduated college brought so much joy to me and I hope I can be as happy as her when I finish ❤️

[@miafireheart7]

Hey Ellen I’m the same way, I don’t like to complain when I am out at restaurants or when I’m at Starbucks. I feel as though I’m bothering the employees 😬 but Ryan does make a good point how we pay for what we ordered. And wow Java is getting so big!!! So cute!!! I think both of you guys are doing an excellent job on your guys channel! 💛

[@camilastone3729]

I love you so so much guys!♡ And I've learned so much thanks to you! Even though English is not my first language you've helped me in so many ways to learn sign language which is one of my goals for this year! Thank you soo much ♡♡♡

[@SignDuoChannel]

[@quinnmorgendorffer8435]

Yep Ellen is sweet and Ryan is protective of her. So sweet. Subbed!

[@MidnightLibraryx]

Java is so precious I love her eyes so much! Congrats Ellen! I cant wait for more videos 😊

[@SignDuoChannel]

LivingwithBC thanks so much 🤟

[@mrsflickinger1]

I think people are just different and that’s what makes couples strong. My husband will always go and take care of business or get something straightened out. Even if it bothers me too, it makes me uncomfortable to do anything and I’m glad he has the personality to do it. Good job you guys in growing and respecting each other’s differences!

[@SignDuoChannel]

that's a great way to look at it. i guess opposites attract :)

[@mightydreamer8952]

That is so cool that your vision of having a youtube channel to educate us is a reality. You rock

[@sarahr3595]

I’m the same as Ellen haha I avoid confrontation and being a “bother”. And I make my husband send things back

[@alaskastarr]

Awww, such a beautiful doggo!!! Absolutely adorable! Isn’t it nice to see how your relationship has evolved in this positive way? I know communication is the best thing any of us can do. Definitely helps in relationships.

[@LovesDarkBlue]

Y’all always seem to get along so well o have actually always wondered what you DO fight about? 🤔 You both just come off really chill and kind

[@mudelicious83]

I LOVE how you taught Java to do the “look” command into your eyes so well! Wow! I’m super impressed!!

[@JJ-yu6og]

It is amazing to me how much patience you have with one another. Goes both ways. Thank you for posting your daily lives. 💕💕💕💕💕

[@agos7733]

I love to watch your videos, first because I love you guys, you are so charismatic and cute, and second because I love to learn more about ASL. Keep doing what you love, I want both of you to be happy. Greetings from Argentina! ❤️

[@SignDuoChannel]

[@2sadlilmexies]

I think generally women and femmes have been socialized to not be an inconvenience. That’s something I definitely do too

[@JordyJRT]

Paloma Carroll Lmao I’m a straight white man and I do it as well, I think it’s a lot about how you were brought up as a child

[@SignDuoChannel]

i don't think its about sex. i think it's more about upbringing

[@2sadlilmexies]

Sign Duo You’re right, it’s not about sex, I’m talking about gender norms (sex and gender are different). You’re also right about it being about upbringing, women and femmes are socialized to take up as little space as possible. Have you ever noticed how men typically sit with their legs wide open whereas women most often sit with their feet tucked under their chair? Obviously it’s not across the board, and I’m not saying that men can’t experience the same thing, but gender norms are definitely part of our society.

[@bl0odtea]

Paloma Carroll sjw

[@2sadlilmexies]

Lyssy thanks 😁

[@joy-louisegape5775]

I love the video, watching you guys as always!! Ryan, I want to say that I appreciate that you politely asked them to replace your coffees. As someone who works in fast food, that always means a lot to me when customers approach me calmly and kindly to fix something. I always want to help, just not when they are rude lol. Ellen, you never have to feel like an inconvenience! You are so sweet, and I am sure that's how you would interact with those workers. Btw, I can't believe how big Java is getting!! so cute

[@salimali5019]

Please tell me I am not the only one that watches the videos or parts of them in slowmo so I can actually see the signs and my brain has time to remember them.😂😂

[@SignDuoChannel]

whatever works best for you!

[@Animizerr]

Honestly u probably are💀😂😂

[@orangedragonn4173]

I was just looking at how fast they sign I was like did they even sign all the letters to that word cause I couldn't even tell.

[@mariaasmrr]

Rip Kobe, his daughter Gianna, Sarah, her daughter Payton, Keri, her daughter Alyssa, her husband John, Christina, and Ara.

[@SignDuoChannel]

Maria hope all people who knew the 9 are doing ok and have strength to keep living!

[@peacelovetv95]

It is difficult sometimes to ask, especially in a situation like this, where the workers are busy and didn't really do much wrong as it was a customer touching the cups. Usually employees are totally fine, but I understand the anxiety; you never know how they're going to react, or if they're just being nice to your face but are actually annoyed with you. But I'm totally with Ryan, I feel like when it comes to something you paid for, especially something you're consuming, you deserve to get what you paid for. The Panera in the building I work ALWAYS gets orders wrong, and I never hesitate to ask for the right thing when that happens. I've worked in food service and retail for many years, and I would much rather have a customer tell me something's wrong than have a bad experience and not want to come back. Human error happens, and you can't expect it to be fixed if you don't speak up.

[@redrosefell]

I love to watch you both sign. First, because you're probably the cutest couple ever, and secondly because you aren't rushed in what you say. I'm a mediocre sign student, but I'm learning a lot just watching your conversations. As a hearing person who has had little real life experience with deaf culture, I'll admit it's kind of intimidating when I think of interacting with someone who is fluent in ASL. However, I can say this with certainty -I believe the deaf world is much more accepting of newbies than the hearing world can be (at least in my experience so far). I work with people whose first language is not English, and man, what a prejudice there is against them. However, I'm embarrassed at times to communicate in my limited abilities with their respective native languages -because honestly, my coworkers really think it's hilarious when I stumble with grammar or mispronounce something.

[@SpecialgiftsLA]

Nicole. Need more people like you to make those who are not in a surrounding with their native language feel respected seen included. YAY

[@meghancuddeback9126]

Your captions for Java always crack me up! 😂😂

[@SignDuoChannel]

😂

[@ExistentialIzzy]

Home boy didn't say/sign anything to incriminate himself XD. I recognize that look with my husband.

[@TheMadMurf]

I remember when I was a teen working as a server in a restaurant and I brought two drinks over to a table and the guy was really nice about it, but asked if I could replace the drinks because I was holding the glasses too close to the top. It wasn't over the top like you demonstrated in this video, but it was relatively close to the rim. And really, it was just something I had never thought about before, especially at that young age. But I have tried to be cognizant of that ever since, when handling a glass that isn't for me.

[@Xen0s_corner]

I started to learn how to sign and it’s fun and when I be had a bad day I just watch ur vids and it’s amazing like I feel better

[@oChrisRedfield]

You guys inspire me to learn sign language. It’s so cool to be able to communicate that way. I didn’t think about it too much until I tried it. You guys are awesome!

[@accordingtojordy]

Java has grown so much! Lots of love from San Diego!!!

[@benny3434]

Aww Ryan's laugh is the purest thing ever! ❤️I agree with Ellen too though. I feel so guilty!❤️🆘

[@scabiniful]

"there's like a virus going around too" so innocent....so pure....

[@JacobRandolph-gl2vq]

For real now im here in 2024.

[@vimbai4381]

I really love you guys and you’re relationship inspires me!! Your dog is sooo cute and I was wondering if you were ever pressured by your family to be in a deaf relationship or hearing relationship

[@Lily-kf4nn]

I dont know for some reason, i do feel relax and enjoy watching you guys.. thank you, love you 🤟

[@Ovrcnvr]

Your dog is so smart. And best of all cute. :)

[@liltiiiff]

i love it when i hear Ryan's laugh. Java is so cute 😍 love the video!

[@Madison788]

I highly recommend getting a Lupine collar next time Java chews collar again. They replace them for free!

[@juliaa9958]

Yayyy i always get in the zone to watch your videos because I really enjoy watching each and every single one of them. Not only do I learn from them (and im not even hard of hearing or in a relationship haha) i laugh and smile throughout the videos :) Thank you for uploading this video, it was a great way to end my day !

[@SignDuoChannel]

I'm so happy to hear that you like them

[@sheenahosmer9137]

I have the same problem as Ellen with my boyfriend! I’m half Japanese, currently living in Japan and in a LDR. When my boyfriend (who can’t speak Japanese) come to visit, he expects me to translate for him and I get uncomfortable when he asks me to do something I see as an inconvenience, but he doesn’t. We’ve had so many fights about that. Maybe it does stem from our cultural background.

[@camgraca]

Damn that breakfast looked bomb af 🌯🥞

[@SignDuoChannel]

it was bomb af haha

[@jennifercorbett4026]

Love to see yall have trained her that is so important !

[@GodblessinJesusname]

I love them. Came across you guys true love🙏😍

[@michaelhammer5099]

Thank you for making another video of you both I really enjoy picking up on the different signs that you both use sign language.

[@SignDuoChannel]

of course michael!

[@girlybrainrot]

Ahhhh I love your guys' videos so much!! They keep improving each time so I wanted to say good job on the editing Ellen! I'm excited about the room Reno and future videos, cant wait until you guys get the followers you deserve :))

[@flatinon007]

Totally agree with Ryan. Btw u guys are awesome.

[@CHOCHOFINO555]

I've been a waitress for 10 years now. I served from cafes to really fancy restaurants and hotels. And so when I got out I am always checking what my Waiter/tress do. And my husband doesn't care. But sometimes I don't want to bother them so I tell him to complain about food temputure or stuff like that. Lol idk why I do that. I can speak my self right? Your so right we shouldn't ask our partner to do this. It's unfair. Not unless it's something important like this time for you guys. But yeah try not to ask for that Ryan. I'll try not to ask my husband

[@ThroughtheHatchway]

So I know this video is from a year ago, but I’ve been binge watching y’all’s videos and I wanted to suggest y’all take the enneagram test! It’s helped our relationship a ton and y’all already do so well knowing each other and this would probably take it to the next level. You’re supposed to answer the questions thinking about yourself around 20ish years old and think about what your impulse is, not what you’d actually do, because the enneagram is all about core motivation. It’s fascinating!

[@gracediehl7932]

I work at a restaurant and any time that someone’s order is wrong (my fault or not), I get them a new one and ALWAYS tell them that they are not being an inconvenience and it’s my job to make sure they get what they are paying for :) BTW I love watching you guys! I’m learning so much from your videos and can almost watch without the captions :)

[@trism_]

Java is so cute! She's a smart dog 😍

[@coralreef4184]

1:31 I cackled 1:44 oof got me a second time

[@jininberry8204]

I'm the same as Ellen. Maybe it's an asian thing! We were always just taught to shut up and be grateful.

[@aldal490]

I feel for both of you ! Wanting a new one but not wanting to be a pain. Maybe I’d ask for a new lid ? So the coffee is the same but you get a new lid ? Love y’all ! Thanks for yalls relationships transparency and normalizing difficulties in relationships.

[@SignDuoChannel]

there is no lid on those coffee mugs. of course :D

[@monicas2461]

That happens with me and my boyfriend too. Because he doesn’t speak the language of where we live, he wants to make requests or ask things I normally wouldn’t, because I think more like Ellen. But we still haven’t come to an agreement about that...

[@SignDuoChannel]

it takes time to create the perfect compromise :)

[@monicas2461]

Sign Duo Yes. We will get there :) Thank you for replying. Your videos help me understand a culture I didn’t know before. I really appreciate it.

[@lovetoot123]

I feel you Ellen on not wanting to be an inconvenience. I'm the same way. I just dislike confrontation

[@HouseMDaddict]

It's kind of a thing you're raised to act like if you're a female. Guys are often raised to speak their mind and them speaking their minds is often received better than a female doing to the same thing.

[@ThePratchya]

Omg I feel exactly like u Ellen in all my life experiences. I totally get not wanting to be 'inconvenience'. Among other qualities it is one I would like to overcome but I just can't...

[@dnd1007]

OMG Ellen...I'm just like you with not wanting to complain! And my husband is just like Ryan. So if I'm complaining in a public setting, then something BIG went down. LOL

[@biancavazquez5527]

Java biting the flavoring off her treat reminds me of my two year old eating off all the cheese I put on his vegetables in hopes he will eat them 🤣

[@marylbartsch3777]

I just can't get over just how cute your guys are

[@timbitbox9791]

You guys deserve 100M subscribers you’re awesome!

[@AmbiixROX]

I’m like Ellen! I even used to work in the food industry, and like when customers ask me to fix something I took that very seriously. It was important to me to make sure customers receive their exact order the exact way they’d like it! But even though I’m willing to do that for ANYONE I *hate* asking food workers for the same treatment for myself. That said, with the coffees, if they had lids then I may have just asked for a new lid, but if it was open cups i definitely would have asked for new ones. Other people’s hand on your food/cup is nasty 🤢

[@kcreed7414]

Check out the Buckle Down collars. They’re the best. I just got my girl a Disney one!! They hook like seat belt buckles.

[@lovelyjacklie7590]

Woo! I really love to see you post video of blog and with dogs!

[@JJ-yu6og]

I agree with Ryan on this. 4:55. It IS their job to give the customers CLEAN cups of coffee. It is disgusting for them to touch the rims of the cups. Customers are NOT an inconvenience.

[@vbentley9193]

Yea! More video's.

[@Ellis3292]

As women, we are told to be quiet, small, and fit the status quo. This is most likely why you felt like an inconvenience. Men aren't taught that through childhood and adulthood. But it is supplemented and ingrained within the culture of women throughout many, many years. Men take up space and speak their peace freely, and women are told that they can't do that.

[@crystaltiffany3300]

I love y’all! Just subscribed.. keep the videos cominggg! 😍

[@jojokukahiko]

I love you all so much! I wish I could hang out with you all! Ellen your such a kind hearted person! I am like Ryan and I would ask for new ones!! Bahaa your the perfect couple! Ying and yang!!🤗🤗🤗🤗

[@watermelonsloth6947]

I totally agree with Ryan about getting the things the right way, but I'm more like Ellen that I rarely actually ask for stuff to be redone or fixed. I've gotten better about it as I've gotten older though. Ryan is just ahead of the curve Ellen. :) That's another reason you two are a great couple, you balance each other and learn from one another. =)

[@user-ft8fu1ub8x]

Yay I love seeing more vlogs! also Java is so cute and so smart!

[@rhearachelstephen7516]

Can't wait for the room makeover video!!

[@nzcyclone]

So very awesome to see another great video from you both. Seems like ages since last had a wonderful video. All unexpected deaths are tragic regardless of who it is. I hope that Kobe and his daughter Gianna are now at peace wherever they both may be. But in lots of ways what is making me sad is. Yes everyone is sad they have passed away and fair enough but we cannot forget the living who it is in lots of ways much harder on. Kobe has 3 other daughters if my information is correct and a loving wife. All of whom have not just lost a husband / partner / dad but also a daughter / sister My thoughts and prayers are with them as they go through this tough time. Those strawberries on the pancake looked so yummy Ellen!!!! I loved the look of "Oh Oh what can i not remember" on Ryan's face. I can understand that. I would not want someone else touching my cup of coffee either especially with this Novel Coronavirus getting around and so many unknowns about it. I hear you Ellen you prefer to just go with something even though it is not exactly what you were wanting rather than make a fuss. But it is also a confidence thing too believe in yourself and believe you ARE worth it always.. You have a right to expect to get what you have asked for, not potentially contaminated with others germs It is afterall a food place therefore food safety always.. :) Take care and be safe always both of you :)

[@brendaruiz3947]

I'm totally like Ellen. I hate feeling like I make people sad/mad or being an inconvenience or problem to others, causing me to minimize my own thoughts or feelings. I know I need to change that aspect...

[@mncopeland1]

Ryan is like me (will say something about the order) and Ellen is like my husband (complains but doesn't say anything to have it fixed), haha.

[@rxgtv]

java really went "aight this flying piece is food, me eat now"

[@Pokemonguy16RS]

Haha I can tell we as Pisces are very creative!

[@khadija013]

I like how they did healthiest with the food. I do that with my sister. Coz always want a sweet thing and food.

[@brookerthebaker]

I am that way as well with food items, feeling like an inconvenience. But I think of it like, what if someone put something on your dish that you asked them to remove before hand, and you’re allergic? You most likely won’t eat it because you feel bad? Haha that’s how I am with cheese, except I’ll still probably just try and scrape it off myself

[@Animizerr]

U probably will not even see this but I wanted to say that I have always been scared of deaf people or blind people I honestly dk why I just get scared when I see one but after watching your videos I learned that there is more to you guys and u r even better than me honestly u r fucking amazing and I love you man😁💙💙💙💙hope I meet u someday (that sounded bad but my point is u made me stop being scared😅not kidding)

[@soccerlovergirl1]

Java’s lil edits are the best

[@hajimeyoo5810]

It is just different, I mean, I am a person who never asked or complain, I will if it's urgent, but most of the time I didn't because it feels like it would get annoying to others. Because that's how I grow up, where u should be respectful and all, also to be that blunt is uncommon. And he did have a point, that's why I think I should adjust how I think about something and should do what is best for my own sake🙂. But it will takes time tho. Because in mine, it can be considered as rude 😭.