Signs You're In A Toxic Relationship

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[@ChrisLT]

Toxic relationships can get comfortable. And ending them is a real tough step that shocks your life for the short term.

[@MedCircle]

SO true!

[@alliegarneau]

Yup…

[@nikitaagarwal2961]

So true

[@Anita-is6si]

@@ChrisLT No ,one gets more comfortable and happy ending such relationships.At least one has peace of mind

[@natalielaw874]

Ahhh the comfort of the toxic relationship. Main reason we hang on. We got "history"

[@CookieButter13]

Somatic symptoms were one of my clues that the last person I dated was not for me. I was drained, and it would take days to recover, only to have to recover again. I had weird dreams, needed naps that didn’t always help, became prone to infections and frankly was constipated. I had already handled work so as to be less stressful. So yeah, now I’m doing a lot better this month, now that I’ve stopped seeing the person!

[@timmistarr9800]

Just in time. I'm here because I'm drained 😪 of this crap and no growth 😒 in this 3 year relationship.Thank you

[@tamimbaker92]

Same here, 31 m discovering like 3 close friends and 2 ex-girlfriends. My brain activates with dozens of memories as I hear every sentence in this video. Some people are toxic people magnets really! Now, after realising how much I was hurting myself to tolerate people (especially close friends, not ex girlfriends), I'm now doing the advice "knock them outside the boat or jump out." Now starting to restore myself and I literally feeling that the old me as being revived and restoring my abilities that gradually lost about 9 years ago and been wondering where that big amount of power to study 8 hours a day at year 1 college and get straight A and A+ s! Cutting off now: (2 friends have known them for 8 years 1 friend for 5 years) Already cut off 2 years ago: 1 ex for 1 year Already cut off 6 months ago: 1 ex for 1.5 years I just liked to share my story/experience and send virtual hugs and advice so you might appreciate yourself, get healed, look forward and have good luck. ❤️ 🫂 🤗

[@my3pups]

I love Dr Ramani. She's helping me recover from my stepfathers narcissistic abuse.

[@MedCircle]

Thank you for sharing this, we appreciate hearing from you!

[@traceydavila8402]

Wow “did I dread going home…” that’s spot on…😢

[@Thaspicy1]

Or them coming home!

[@love196627]

I have kind of a reverse kind of problem. I was raised by a sadistic psychopath. Entering conversations with friends about my life can immediately drain them. I know that therapists that deal with people like me are very rare because we're difficult. In an effort not to overwhelm them I just rarely contribute to the conversations.

[@InspirationalSmiles]

Yeah 💕 I feel you

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you for this extremely helpful video. If you are afraid of going to work or going home, your body is telling you it is high time to deal with it because it is toxic to you. We must face our fears and take steps to change our situation. Action helps us to get our mind working on finding solutions and it gives us the feeling that we are gaining control over our lives.

[@jim82abn11]

I am 57 and I am checking off too many boxes… going to try DBT. First foray into recovery. I just can’t accept the “aging narcissist”“ narrative. There’s no way I’m going down without trying. I still love my wife. She doesn’t deserve this shit. I am so grateful for this content . I am going to make the apologies genuine this time. I have to come clean about some things, I’m not sure how that’s goin to go. Therapist on Friday…first time. I am terrified and I deserve it

[@dontassumemyfender9866]

A good partner recharges your battery, a toxic partner drains your battery.

[@j8kz96]

I went as far as to quit the job (which wasn't not toxic in itself) to realise that the reason that work weighed on me so much and that extra tension I was feeling during wfh was because I couldn't relax at home for fear of committing another misdeed

[@stephanieburgess8217]

And surprise! After you think you’ve got all the issues worked out to where you don’t trigger him but then bam! He comes up with a new excuse for why he has to always fight with you. The new issue can take you by surprise because you never ever saw this being a trigger for him. I started to dead going home.

[@godsgirl3390]

You both are awesome . I appreciate how you break issues down to be understood.

[@silentfriend369]

Early on, my relationship definitely drained me. Neither of us were at our best... Now I feel I may lean too heavy on my relationship for energy. Spending time with my partner is comforting and uplifting. :) I never want it to end. Something those with cptsd don't get to experience much. I feel spoiled. Lol but a healthy, safe relationship seriously gives me the energy I need to go do those important things in life.

[@livingmybestlife5634]

🌞🗣️REMEMBER: "WHATEVER YOU'RE GOING THROUGH, YOU GOT THIS 110%!!! KEEP GOING!!!🌞✨🌟 💜💙💜🙂

[@biancarosealinaseraphim]

I'm drained, toxicly drained from- my boyfriend of 7 months & still connecting. He's toxic an controlling and dismisses my feelings whenever I tell or ask him, anything.......whenever we talk is arguing. Whenever I bring up rings he depletes it and spins it back at me. His ego makes it hard for me tk address REAL issues I feel I can't just quit , it because. I care about him. To.

[@konradtkekoanui1914]

I once had a conversation with a coworker about how I would clock out at work, only to have to clock back in at home and it was like having a 24 hour job. The "Dredd" for me was when the phone would ring. She would call me at work, and I absolutely sucked at setting boundaries, and would take up 3-5 hours on any given day of work time spent listening to a bunch of negativity. Then I would get home, and hear the exact same complaints that were mentioned during the "phone call" again. Then it would be the same thing the next day. Next week. Next month. My phone would ring, or have a notification chime through for a text or missed call all the time. It got so bad, even if it wasn't her, I would hate just the sound of the notifications. My phone was literally on vibrate for years...

[@dabbler1166]

Good video! Relevant, and specific. :) For me, i can't emphasize enough, the whole idea being like 2 young kids on a "see-saw" or a "teeter-totter". (Do they still have those anymore?) One kid sits at one end, and one kid at the other and if they weigh about the same and there's good balance, they can enjoy it. With that in mind: Dr. Ramani asks: How do we FEEL when . . . and my response is: Like putting it all on a see-saw....or weighing it all on 2 scales, a good relationship and even a decent friendship needs: 1. More smiles, than frowns 2. More looking-forward-to being with each other, than dreading it 3. More enthusiasm and warmth and kisses, than coldness and indifference 4. More common interests, than tolerating the other's "odd quirks" or "weird hobbies". 5. More open & unafraid communication and understanding what makes each other "tick", than silent resentment. Have these 5, and you'll feel Tons happier!! Who makes you feel that way?

[@jacquelineglitter4328]

Dr Ramni helped me deal with a very disfuctional family over the last couple of years. Recently, I went out with a long time friend who I haven't seen in awhile and it was devastating. She was rude, condescending and negative. I realized I dealt with that bad relationship for years. I was so depressed after I got home so I blocked her on everything I could think of. I told her before how mean she was and she apologized but it was that same mean person like before. I'm getting healthier after years of mental abuse and I won't let anyone in my life treat me that way ever again. We used to have a saying in the 90s. See ya, dont wanna be ya and I mean it now.❤🎉❤❤🎉❤.

[@shine9080]

Thank you all for this channel!

[@wildsoulodysseys]

I enjoyed the question and answer format in this one

[@MedCircle]

Thank you for sharing this, we'll keep this in mind for future content!

[@selpinera6691]

Thank you MedCircle!

[@suhelavaneerten419]

I am moving away from interacting with my family so much. Since my dad past away a few years ago, we get together every week. This became comfortable, since I dont work at the moment and struggle with structure. Also I am close with my niece and nephew, I love them to pieces and am happy I can show them more healthy interaction. But its also quite toxic and draining. I am used to pay no attention to myself, to attune to others, accommodate, and just ignore or try to cope with the effect it has on me. Also I have a strong tendency to deform the experiences. It helps me to get weekly coaching, focused on my well being, to see what is supportive and what is draining. And to be questioned about it. Like I would say a party was “nice” and then looking closer, the only thing i liked was the kids and the cake, and there would be also a lot of little interactions that are frustrating and draining to me. And Im talking about my family now, but we tend to repeat this tendencies in our adult relationships. And i surely do, so I have the same processes happening in my social network as well. And a healthy intimate relationship is even more so something that i long for, but also feels very challenging and even unsafe to find/ build/ feel that I am worthly of it. It can be so familiair that you dont recognize it, you hardly know anything else… And its very painfull to acknowlegde, it can seem too painfull and even too dangerous to do so. The inner child feels it will die without the other, because when you were very young, you most likely would have. It helps me a lot to acknowledge that. What also helps me is to focus on what I want for myself, and what supports me creating that. Its the only way i can move trough this. I think you need to be able to “go somewhere else”. Like I can only let go of this day together, if there is something else I can focus on that I would rather do. And to create the support I need, to learn to give myself what my upbringing lacked and becoming that adult for myself that I missed so much. So learning to be real, safe, loving, attuned, supportive, protective, regulated, etc. This is like my mission ❤🙏🏻✨🌟✨

[@noracharles9366]

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[@brattt78]

yes, thank you so much! and yes, i do got this!

[@SupremeAtheist]

Last night I just had a proof that those mystical experiences religion so values are indeed response to severe trauma! I remembered many episodes in my life where my teenage brain tried to make sense of the physical or moral abuse by having a astral body… that sensation of not having control over your body, knowing you’re facing dangerous conditions, I was mentally aware of the environment but my body didn’t respond making me feel unsafe because I couldn’t help myself from the risks I’m surrounded by people who sees me as dangerous to their beliefs! I’m still afraid of religion and mystical thoughts that surround us!

[@DMagnifyScentlady]

Dr Ramani is so popular!

[@dinab7852]

She's my favorite psychologist on KZbin!

[@jacquelineglitter4328]

She has helped me immensely.

[@Thaspicy1]

Same here! She taught me what I was going through was real & what it actually was .

[@Clarissa-lm5rj]

Great video!

[@lljl5310]

Dr. Ramabi is awesome! Thank you Med Circle!

[@MedCircle]

We love this hear this, she really is the best. Thank you for tuning in with us!

[@monsoonBloom]

You can have every ounce of dread and idea of what's going on but if your circle of folks condone your partners behaviors, "view" them in a good light, think they know all the greatness you "have", guilt trip you, you gotta rid everyone around too. You feel insane.

[@TheSerenity.Station]

I feel you there. Or the family members dismissing the partners possessive and controlling behavior as "he just cares about you and your well-being" .....

[@YVM3311]

Can you do a talk on the victim mentality , people that always blame the world for everything around them… is it always a sign of narcissism , when not true victim, or are thee are other complex reasons around this tendency? Denialism, insecurity, …

[@lorihall4018]

Somone I care about is in a toxic relationship, she can't trust him enough to tell him things about her past, because she is affraid he will use it against her later. The only thing I can do is hope she leaves the relationship and get help.

[@HealYourHearth]

"Toxicity can feel like love… but is it really?"

[@ericastreisslberger2087]

Can you guys do a video on generalized anxiety disorder?

[@AlexHdz6]

It would be awesome (and I'll be very thankful) if you include Spanish subtitles (because the autotranslate function is not always correct)

[@sikhbro5421]

Kyle looks like he's been doing some work. Your smile is handsome and i like your attitude

[@lcuco2473]

Work? What kind?

[@sikhbro5421]

The unspecific generalization generally positive, sort of work.

[@biancarosealinaseraphim]

Or if i try threapy can understand, why i entered these, relationships to begin 😊with.

[@mclovinlife4018]

Why is it so difficult to leave them? I can’t tie the life of yea end things whenever the moment finally comes to a head. I always cling on when it gets to the point where it could end

[@AJayK610-18]

Get enough sleep, I sleep in 45 mins at time!! I scrubbed in surgery and and call ALL THE TIME to make the bills, fishing was my thing when I wasn't call.. I loved my J.O.B. HATED GOING HOME.

[@vixter28]

Dang I always felt anxious when I would think about spending time with him 😢 So tired all the time bc anxiety drains you

[@classicalperformances8777]

this is all very nice, but what do you do when you are drained from all finances, any strength, and recovering from cancer, WHILST in a pathologically toxic house with punishing people who are going out of their way to destroy your any chance or hope or effort for you to get out, let alone recover...

[@ta6531]

I am hoping someone will give me a mental health answer! Why do I feel I need to explain to my adult son all the horrible mean things he has said to me or done to find peace? I am a runinatior and really want to just let it all go... It is soooo distressing. This is my issue I know this.... Also, if I even say one word about a nasty remark he makes to me out of the blue... he stops me in my tracks and says " your not a victim" and to get over it. I am then not allowed to speak again. Grandkids are isolated then. So heartbreaking...

[@MedCircle]

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[@reesedaniel5835]

We basically have 3 options with these narcs: 1. Endure their emotional and psychological abuse and become their doormat and trash can 2. Hold them accountable and draw boundaries while they punish us further by escalating the vile behavior or 3. Get away from them permanently. No matter what you do with these sub human creatures, if you happen to be related or married to them, it's going to be painful. But at least the 3rd option will allow you to have peace.

[@soulburntarotllc8155]

Madam, would you please do a series on parental alienation, Dr. Childress speaks on it, and I believe my narcissistic exhusband has been doing it. It would be incredibly helpful as it is a neglected topic and needs more light shone on it. It also creates more narcissistic people.

[@atticusblau3788]

Thanks for your great information. my boss is manipulating and very toxic, so I will leave. is it smart to warn him to to spread gossip or wrong information relating to my leaving or should I better be quite and wait ?

[@megancorwin290]

Always

[@rambam77]

I don't dread going home after work, because I work at home #winning ...but I am emotionally mentally sapped after work 😵‍💫

[@kimwells7245]

Why are we moving away from work-life balance? Isn't work-life balance a good thing?

[@yukio_saito]

0:00 "We all experience being emotionally drained" They drain your energy so that's why toxic people are called "energy vampires."

[@PinkLemonade1116]

Can this also happen with friendships? But instead of avoiding going home, avoiding situations where u have to interact with or be in the presence of that person?

[@MedCircle]

Hello! It absolutely can happen with friendships. Sometimes friends can drain you too!

[@LightintheDark2056]

👍❤️

[@leray8034]

Ur soo.o 🔥

[@vksomji]

After Coming out of Psychosis 80% after 10 long yrs, all I am left with is 20% of Substance Induced Mental Disorders. So as on Present Date because of the 20% Substance Induced Mental Disorders and because of the REMORSE that I have in mind for my Behaviour during PTSD, I Dread of Professional Relationships, that will leave me Drained out Again. I also Dread looking in Mirror, because I feel very Low and Disheartened the Way there are changes in my overall Personality which is not so Pleasant...I mean the way I used to be 10 yrs Ago or before I was Diagnosed with Psychosis (Diagnosed in 2012). I also carry a Dreadful Feeling that My Substance Induced Mental Disorders will be Embarrassing for Others, which will end up in Toxic Relationship Again.

[@tortureddave2001]

When you can't join Med Circle because you are wasting MY money lying online

[@RIDDLESWORTH]

every time a youtube video plays a bell sound... i hit unsubscribe :P

[@nomoredatingblind]

If you’re wanting to leave, you are strong enough. Choose to save your energy for YOU 🫶🏾