a masterclass in gaslighting - i wanna marry harry

[@uhh9919]

i hate the implication that if the girls turn him down after hearing his true identity then they’re superficial and only care about money/status like no... maybe they just dont want to date someone whose been emotionally manipulating them the whole time 🤷🏾‍♀️ the entire foundation of your relationship is built on a lie

[@saffrontaylor3070]

They're all bitchy, fake nasty hating eachother superficial money grabbers. That's the whole point of the show and it shows hem for who they are.. it's not sexist against girls, if anything it shows what they are all about.

[@sherikrupp]

Saffron Taylor Considering how highly edited these shows are, not really. Pretty silly to assume you know who someone is based on what a reality show tells you.

[@saffrontaylor3070]

@Sherikrupp Na - reality shows heavily narcastic , no talent, fake people with nothing new to say and will soon be forgotten

[@ussinussinongawd516]

@@saffrontaylor3070 "narcastic" lmao I'm dying yeah these girls are stupid but they didn't deserve to get emotionally manipulated they aren't murderers

[@uhh9919]

@@saffrontaylor3070not a fan of the way u described these women for multiple reasons ... but obviously theres a level of drama to these shows thats elevated but that isnt my point. the shows entire premise feels like its based on the fact that this hypothetical girl who gets to the final round is only making the “right” choice by agreeing to continue dating him (like by how they’re “rewarded” with money as a surprise if she does this for example) even tho she would still be 100% in the right if she wasnt comfortable dating him anymore

[@armitagehux8190]

Isn't someone pretending to be a therapist a kind of illegal practice of medicine ??? Anyway that's messed up

[@statam96]

Nope. Therapist isn't a protected term, so anyone can call themselves a therapist :/

[@demiclown]

@@statam96 what the fuck??? seriously???

[@kaykeunil]

@@demiclown yeah, I learned this the hard way when my mother took me to a “therapist” who did nothing to help me. I think that if you pretend to be a psychologist or a psychiatrist that’s illegal, but unfortunately anyone can call themselves a therapist. I think what gets ppl confused is that people refer to going to psychologists as “going to therapy” so they assume all therapists must be medically trained or something

[@tigs6639]

Hi guys, I don't know if you are from the UK or not, but you definitely can't call yourself a therapist if you aren't qualified here. After training + qualifications you have to apply to the HCPC (Health Care Practioners Council, or something like that), only then are you licensed to call yourself a a therapist. Example: I worked with someone who did music sessions for people in care. He was a musician, doing 'music therapy' but he was NOT qualified as a therapist, so it would be misleading/illegal to call his services Music Therapy (but he could call it 'theraputic music sessions' as long as he made it clear he was not a qualified therapist). I want to train as an Art Therapist so I've researched this a lot. At least in the UK, you are NOT allowed to call yourself a therapist unless you are qualified and a member of HCPC. Hope that's helpful 🕊💕

[@tigs6639]

1 second ago @Gabrielle Fu, hello, I just left a comment, I don't know if you read it? I just thought I'd add, specifically to what you mentioned - therapists, psychologists and psychiatrists all do DIFFERENT specific jobs, so unless you were specifically reviewed for needing a psychiatric evaluation, for example, most people wouldn't go straight to this level. It really depends on the specific situation, but for most people going through normal human difficulties, a therapist is the right starting point. If you need further evaluations from a health point of view, then you would be referred to an expert in that area. There's a difference between trying to diagnose an underlying mental health disorder, compared to someone who has experienced trauma, and wants therapy to help manage their lives better. Like I said in my first comment, at least in the UK, it's definitely illegal to call yourself a therapist if you aren't trained, qualified and a member of HCPC. It could be that you did not connect with your therapist, in which case try another one if possible. Sometimes it takes more than one attempt, as it's not easy to open up your most difficult emotions to someone you don't connect with. But don't give up, and don't let a bad experience put you off therapy completely. I hope the information I've given is helpful in some way, hope you have a good day wherever you are in the world 😌

[@user-lg8if1wj9z]

as an American, the only time I even think about the royal family is if something really really big happens (I.e. Meghan Markle, princess di.) you could have given me literally any ginger man as Harry and I would have believed you.

[@jjh8367]

😂😂😂 As an American, I can CONFIRM.

[@MK_ULTRA420]

The USA was literally founded on telling the British royal family to f*ck off.

[@wendyallen9089]

@@MK_ULTRA420 I mean what? could you explain your ideology behind that phrase please

[@MK_ULTRA420]

@@wendyallen9089 There was a _Declaration of Independence_ over this.

[@thatonedog819]

@@wendyallen9089... What? We had a war over it

[@hayleys556]

This would have been a really good FICTIONAL show. Using actual women like this horrific.

[@PapaphobiaPictures]

Agreed. This concept as a parody would be amazing. As an actual reality show this is nightmare fuel

[@silverkyre]

Theres a tv show that is basically this premise of a competition to marry royalty and theyre supposed to be turning into a movie so maybe it will be fun

[@rqettfxc]

I read a book very similar to this. It was great

[@Jennieistyping]

@@rqettfxc what was the book called?

[@cardwitch91]

It's like an episode of Black Mirror.

[@SimPilotMika]

2014: there’s no way his royal highness Prince Harry would marry an American TV star, no way! 2018: Prince Harry marries an American TV star hahahahahaha

[@franciscanaris911]

say5 1 a11 is 27 2 a

[@franciscanaris911]

I'll I

[@gigggiii]

Love to see it😂😂

[@euodiaclitterhouse4726]

"Star" LOL. I love Meghan more than anyone but Deal or No Deal + Suits didn't exactly make her a star

[@welcomehome1961]

*movie

[@rosiapirkina592]

As an American, if you showed me a picture of someone and said that was Joe Biden's son, I would fall for it

[@pingpongofoz2267]

Exactly what I thought when she brought up that point lol.

[@queteimportaa.2535]

Sameee 😂😂😂😂

[@void-xt8pw]

fr, who knows what joe biden's son looks like? lol

[@queteimportaa.2535]

@@void-xt8pw Joe biden must know tho... right? What if he doesn't even know?

[@frog3630]

Right lmao

[@sofiaboo6739]

the fact that harry ended up actually marrying an American tho-

[@gigggiii]

Lmaooooo

[@hafsamahmood6958]

And an American named Meghan

[@SA-qk8zz]

@@hafsamahmood6958 who's also part black 😂😂😂😂 plot twist of the century

[@dp9828]

@@SA-qk8zz one of the girls on the show asked the guy if Harry had ever dated a black girl

[@pussydestroyer69285]

@@SA-qk8zz that’s actually crazy. Lmao

[@jocewithluv]

i'm mexican and i've seen prince harry enough times to probably recognize his face but if you told me this man was prince harry i would've just thought he looked different from tv and pictures lmao

[@amycortez3289]

That's a really good point.

[@fioletowysmok798]

Same

[@omel9424]

I thought this was just him when he was young from the thumbnail…and I’m British.

[@Janellabelle]

This man IS Harry's doppelganger...we MUST capitalize on that monetarily right!?

[@Sabrina-sc1db]

Yeah specially with all the other elements of the show, I would be like "well, maybe I don't remember his face very well and that's him"

[@mfuentes4961]

This show should be put in the horror/thriller genre with the horrifying amount of gaslighting, manipulation, and abuse that these women went through.

[@devonmunn5728]

Honestly it's not even surprising. Seems quite commonplace on reality TV

[@thebluetrain6797]

If people are stupid enough to take part in a reality TV show then it's sort of hard to have sympathy for them.

[@devonmunn5728]

@@thebluetrain6797 I personally disagree. Especially since in this case the contestants themselves didn't even know what they were getting into. Sure in general people should be more cautious but the blame isn't entirely on them since producers can easily pounce on opportunities to find people who are willing to do them

[@ussinussinongawd516]

@@thebluetrain6797 ehhh sure ig

[@s1ckdolly]

It isn't abuse, I mean yeah they manipulated them but that's not abuse.

[@TaraMooknee]

this is so dystopian wtf 😂😂😂

[@frankie6251]

Especially that fake therapist quote yikesssss

[@ladymaiden2308]

Hey girl! And what does the cow think about all of this?

[@RachelAnnPotter]

WHERE'S THE COW

[@picahudsoniaunflocked5426]

this lil' subscription values yr services + the gifts of MOTHER COW xo

[@picahudsoniaunflocked5426]

@@frankie6251 recently found Luxuria (gah trying to spell it right but auto-correct keeps messing me up sorry if it's spelled incorrectly; not disrespecting sweetie Lux) & she's been covering a few Reality series from 90s/early00s that feature plastic surgery/extreme transformations & she's noted a few times the sketchy credentials/ethics of medical personnel on shows, & tho I'm still catching up on all Lux vids, I've already seen a few producers masquerading as Life Coach/Therapist to contestants & wow that feels like it should be breaking a law, right? Honestly hmmmm I'd love a deep analysis on the Reality Show Therapist Trope & all the fuckery with credentials...& if it could be a Tara (+MOTHER COW)-Jordan-Lux collab that'd be pretty freakin' fabulous... *Lux has a sci-med-related degree & has had procedures done + plans on doing more procedures & surgeries so brings a lot to the "Ethical Plastic Surgery/Ethical Reality Show Entertainment" beat.

[@buttercupghost]

Telling a black women she has "attitude" for sticking up for herself. Really classy, ladies. Totally not racist at all.

[@lxsford14]

^ this

[@funnyvalentinesglorioushai2227]

Oh my! What am I getting into? Did they really ?

[@unknowns78]

I don't think it's racist just misogynistic. And to stretch it out: There is a difference between saying that because she is a woman and saying that because she is a *black* woman and if that what you wrote is your point for saying it's racist then i have to say that's a racist thinking. Edit: You guys can be upset with my comments but at least don't repeat stuff someone already mentioned. And you can also do that without insulting because it's not like i said something insulting i (according to other comments) just said something you can't agree with it and that's fine and you don't have to. I just shared my point of view and why i find it racist and problematic. You can too but again don't repeat the points who already were talked about.

[@buttercupghost]

@@unknowns78 I'm saying it's racist because there's a stereotype about black women that they have attitude and sassy. That's a very well known stereotype about specifically black women. I'm not being racist for pointing it out, and I don't think that the girls are being specifically misogynistic. Maybe misogynoir, because it's very interlinked with racism.

[@unknowns78]

@@buttercupghost I know that there is a stereotype about black women being sassy and have an attitude but according to your comment they weren't talking about her color you did. So you were interpreting racism by including her color even tho they didn't mention it. It's probably not that deep but you made it as such because you were the one using stereotypes as your point for argument which is racist thinking.

[@shevah2010]

We already had girlboss vids, and this one abt gaslighting ... Now we need gatekeep vids Jordan! The holy trinity

[@rx500android]

Underrated comment

[@vanilloia7479]

uh, the gatekeep video is already out? I guess you're not a true fan....

[@STRcircaFKR]

@@vanilloia7479 u r so much fun

[@Emma-ou6jq]

@@STRcircaFKR I think it's supposed to be ironic

[@cinnamoroll740]

THIS!!!

[@ZackZick96]

Whole premise seems weirdly misogynistic; pitting women against eachother and degrading them for views. So gross.

[@texaspoontappa2088]

Unfortunately, that's pretty common in reality tv. That's basically the premise of every episode of The Bachelor

[@alyzu4755]

@@texaspoontappa2088 "Reality" TV has ruined society.

[@idontneedaname318]

This is a super common premise ?

[@Cassxowary]

It’s what most reality shows are about though…

[@menoguchi]

Thats reality TV 101 for you. And not really restricted to one gender either (even though it is 100% worse when it comes to women). The more they can exploit people for drama the better. It really is gross and the reason you should never take the portrayal of someone as an accurate depiction of them.

[@hahaveggie]

HES NOT EVEN GINGER I died lol

[@beatricet7396]

What a plot twist!

[@aramikiny9130]

You mean dyed

[@littlewitch5414]

Read your comment when she said it. Lol.

[@Eniphesoj90]

Am I the only one who finds it funny that one of these girls is actually called Meghan? And that she is the most disliked contestant?

[@ladyYeniel]

It would've been hilarious if he'd picked her and they got married

[@leonardo.diCATio]

Honestly, it's such an insane coincidence to me. Meghan Markle is overly hated by the British media for what honestly is just racism (just like what happens to Chelsea in the show), and the Meghan in the show is doing what's happening to the other Meghan to Chelsea.

[@Eniphesoj90]

@@leonardo.diCATio Yes agreed. Meghan Markle was basically bullied by an entire country, it's insane...

[@homicidalbanana]

I was going to make this comment too

[@victoriashevlin8587]

@@Eniphesoj90 not by the entire country. By all the abhorrent Tabloids. And the rest of royal family.

[@wormisjunkd]

[derogatorily]: *“he’s a natural blonde!”*

[@justine8387]

No.... it was derogatory towards blondes, it was dismissing his claim that he was constantly mistaken for Prince Harry who is a natural ginger!

[@softeens]

@@justine8387 you're right! but i think it was just a joke

[@petloverspy]

The only blonde joke that’s ever been fucking hilarious

[@kajamiletic3223]

So as a psychologist I'd say that one of the producers impersonating a therapist is a massive ethics violation in most civilized countries and they can probably get sued by the local Psychologists' Chamber or whatever it's called in your country. Impersonating a therapist is considered detrimental to the profession as a whole, especially in such a blatantly harmful way.

[@Cassxowary]

That’s why they said therapist not psychologist or psychiatrist or something specific…

[@linahrae]

Lol this is America

[@gemstar7286]

Yeah that's psychologically messed up ,and it abuses trust .

[@veronikaxlifestyleinc.9544]

@@Cassxowary I think that may depend on where you live. In my area it’s extremely common for registered psychologists to call themselves therapists.

[@yyg4632]

Very true. It seems like the most evil thing ever. You trust a therapist with your darkest secrets.

[@krystine.lolo6]

Can confirm, I'm American and don't even know which one is Harry and what the other one's name is. I would have no idea

[@zahragule]

harry is the ginger one who married meghan and william is the balding one who's with kate :)

[@char6081]

They don’t look that alike… and plus William I’d the ugly one and Harry is the ginger that’s how I remember it

[@zahragule]

@@char6081 I remember it as Harry being the ginger one and William being the sensible one

[@Jane-oz7pp]

@@zahragule "sensible"

[@lookitskatiex]

They look similar enough that if I didn’t know anything I’d think Harry and Fake Harry were brothers. I wouldn’t fall for it, though. I know what the man looks like because I thought he was kinda hot when I was a teenager. 😂

[@alexisgrey3633]

A worse reality show like this is There's something about Miriam, about a bunch of guys trying to date this model and in the last episode its revealed she is trans, she was literally a punch line (plus yeah, she was misgendered loads at the end).

[@jasmine-ruff-puff9951]

Ugh, I remember seeing ads for that as a kid. Awful.

[@Carissa99Xo]

I swear you just unlocked something in my head by reminding me of that.

[@jjh8367]

That's pretty messed up.

[@OpqHMg]

WtFffff

[@OpqHMg]

That is much worse

[@kiramartinij]

I do also want to say that Harry was maybe the only royal this might have worked with. In America, we heard a LOT in this time about how "wild" and "unmanageable" Harry is/was. So that he would do this might have been a real stretch.....well, I can see people believing it, combined with everything else you have talked about here.

[@Cassxowary]

Wild and unmanageable = has his own mind and his own goals and dreams, and doesn’t want to be a royal puppet and face and all that boring stuff

[@Cassxowary]

Him and maybe his brother are the only two I could see myself being mates with because they’re raised well and their identity isn’t based on their title

[@bluecanvas4029]

@@Cassxowary he's actually such nice lad, my cousin had dinner with him and apparently he's pritty laid back

[@Jellybeansatdusk]

@@Cassxowary Americans loved Princess Di and she’s like the only one we ever cared about lol, so that tracks

[@heatherbaker4538]

You failed to mention how the girls all pretended they were princesses when he was around, like trying to be propper, and when he wasn't they were screaming like banshees at each other telling them "YOU'RE NOT A PRINCESS I AM!"

[@merrymermaid]

watched it on tv with my mum when it came out and honestly thought it was a fever dream, it was SO wild. honestly just assumed all of the ‘contestants’ were actors because we couldn’t believe that they would believe it was actually Harry

[@char6081]

I was like 7 watching it with my aunt and all I remember was being disappointed that he smoked cigarettes 😂

[@lanazak773]

These things are scripted.

[@dylankennedy4539]

Not scripted, producers will tell reality TV contestants 'You, fight with this person', and the contestants improvise.

[@slitheen3]

Im an american and i don't know how many people are in the royal family or what they even do besides live in fancy buildings with fancy lawns. I think. The only one I'm remotely familar with is princess Di because i heard so much about her growing up even tho she died before i was born, and only a few months ago did i realize what she looked like. Only found out just now from Google that Harry's her son, and from this video that he's the queens grandson. Its obvious in retrospect but thats how little i think about them. You could show me any plain faced, clean cut, middle-aged white guy, tell me hes Harry, and Id believe you. The idea of queens and princes here in american seems so incredibly archaic and irrelevant to modern life that whenever I see or hear something about royals my eyes automatically start to glaze over. I'm not into celebrity culture in general tho so I'm sure lots of Americans wouldn't be tricked. But also a lot probably don't know that Britain even still has a monarchy. Poor education + focus on only America = a very ignorant population indeed. Plus as Jordan said, the idea of a prince going on a dating reality show isn't even questionable here. It even kinda makes sense since I'd think with every year they become less and less relevant to the new generations

[@Cassxowary]

They were gaslit by a production team person posing as a therapist into believing it

[@herny360]

This show is the definition of “every guy is just some dude”

[@rennebright5886]

"Hello everybody, I hope you're all well" at this point so iconic and powerful to the point that hearing it makes my day

[@starboyrob]

on god lol

[@marslara]

even when it's written I hear her saying it 💀

[@joelle4226]

I kept reading wet. I hope you’re all wet. Took four tries before I got it right

[@natalie5910]

@@joelle4226glad i wasn’t the only one 😂 and i didn’t find anything wrong w it at first

[@marymik7372]

For anyone else curious, Kimberly and Matt didn't stay together (they went on one date orchestrated by the producers after filming and decided to "go their separate ways"). And Matt quit his job as an environmental consultant and instead became a physics teacher

[@AdviceFromAHipoCrite]

Thank you!!

[@miaatkinson1067]

I remember being 12 and seeing ads for this show and thinking “there’s no way a member of the royal family would be on a reality show like this”

[@viktoria_elizabeth]

Not to mention that Ronald Reagan was a Hollywood actor before becoming the president. Our view of Celebrities and Political figures is smudged.

[@taetaerinn_]

ukraine's current president is also actor in fact. so judging from history i wasn't surpised when we made him actual president.

[@solarcupid2583]

I find it funny how you talked about Reagan and not Trump who was a reality TV show star. And judging by the fact you're watching this video, you understand the reality of reality TV.

[@viktoria_elizabeth]

@@solarcupid2583 I'm not understanding your point. Could you clarify what you mean?

[@solarcupid2583]

@@viktoria_elizabeth you said that our view of celebrities and political figures are smudged, using Reagan's former actor career as an example. I said I'm surprised that you didn't mention Trump being a reality TV show star since that's more recent so it's what one would tend to think of immediately. My talk about reality TV shows and using quotes around reality was a jab at how many of said shows are scripted. I figured you were well aware of the fiction of the shows since this video was very critical of a reality show.

[@viktoria_elizabeth]

@@solarcupid2583 I chose Reagan because Trump had no revelance to this time period. He wasn't a political figure to the extent of Reagan when the show aired.

[@rx500android]

This sounds like that YA book series, "The Selection"

[@ipig2379]

LMAO. right. I hate that book with all my being.

[@ArianAlbert]

@Chrysanthemum wait there's gonna be a Movie? Omg the 10 year old in me is screaming!! I still love the books too actually my 5th grade teacher is the one who started me on the series 💕

[@ps1hagridoufofcharacter]

with the not-like-other-girls ginger protagonist named America?

[@rx500android]

@Chrysanthemum there's a MOVIE??

[@rx500android]

@@ps1hagridoufofcharacter yeah

[@HeyRowanEllis]

came for the class analysis, stayed for the dating show banter

[@leahwidmaier4804]

Hi I love your channel 👻

[@snehapradhan5591]

ah my favourite youtubers interacting 😩😩

[@im_not_here_to_fight2744]

Accurate summary of my moods through the video 😂

[@RobotLover696]

“I wouldn’t mistake him for prince Harry” (shows 2 images of the same man) further confirmation that I’m super face blind I guess

[@MAndSquared]

I’m mildly to moderately face blind and I couldn’t really tell the difference between the two photos. I’m also British so it’s not like I haven’t been exposed to what the Royal family looks like my entire life

[@shade3520]

I'm extremely face blind and I just stared at the pictures without being able to tell them apart. I honestly thought they looked like random strangers you'd see on a street |:

[@anomienormie8126]

Same tho. Maybe it’s because I’m Asian and they’re white.

[@manyagaver1946]

I’m not face blind and they look super similar.

[@CL-je6sv]

I have face blindness too (prosopagnosia). Can confirm I thought they were the same person.

[@perfectlypriced4980]

So my friend knew the casting directors for this and he recommended me and I was interviewed for this show. We knew it was a Seacrest production and a dating show but they also said they were interested in “former pageant girls”. During a few interviews they asked a lot about how much I wanted to get married (how desperate) & about former relationships. The last screen test was a lot about luxury brands and how rich I expected my partner to be. I didn’t get cast (obviously) and my friend found out later that it was this show and that myself and other interviewers didn’t get cast because they could tell who would instantly spot that it wasn’t the real Harry or go along with the Dream Date implications. I was so excited to see you do this video. Love your stuff!

[@Totalchaos0228]

That's so crazy!! Would you have stayed on the show once you found out it's premise?

[@MD-mh7bp]

gaslighting, girlbossing, & gatekeeping before it was cool

[@Kate-uj9rx]

I feel like he could manSpain, manipulate, and male wife 🇬🇧🍛🦰💂‍♀️👰💕

[@goobertron9099]

@@Kate-uj9rx HELP 😭😭

[@randompotato7391]

😭✋

[@theoistrying9904]

@@Kate-uj9rx Im screenshotting this comment ☠️

[@egg9206]

“you know, they’re not doppelgängers” *shows two identical men*

[@Jellybeansatdusk]

Like people make jokes about Ed Sheeran and rom Weasley just cause they’re ginger and you can clearly tell they’re different, those two I’m genuinely convinced she switched the photos 😂

[@QUEERVEEART]

RIGHT THO? im pretty convinced

[@Luna-md4qe]

"HES NOT EVEN GINGER!!!"

[@sparkybish]

Le gasp!

[@Theogteacherr]

the whole drinking on reality tv reminded me here in Spain there was a sexual assault on big brother after a contestant was drunk and the whole thing was recorded and no producers intervened. The woman’s name is Carlota Prado if you want to read about it. It was horrendous.

[@jessicaharrison4719]

I was watching an interview with Shandi (the woman in America's Next Top Model cycle 2 who "cheated on" her boyfriend) and according to her, that night the producers encouraged them to invite the boys over, gave them alcohol for the first time during filming, and all of a sudden, the hot tub that had been broken since they arrived at the house was working. In other words, the producers basically set the girls up, hoping they could get someone "doing something naughty" (in my opinion, being sexually assaulted while drunk) on camera. Reality TV always seems to be awful to their talent.

[@peaches8864]

She actually mentions this in the video x

[@wendynerd1199]

There was a Law and Order SVU episode based on that case.

[@nessyness5447]

I remember it, absolutely horrible that they let that happen . And the worst part is that the show was not cancelled.

[@Theogteacherr]

I remember when studying psych a professor said we have to be careful with experiments and ethics but make it into a tv show and ethics go flying out of the window.

[@michelle-zy5mo]

As an American, when I originally saw the guy playing prince Harry when this show first came out, all I thought was “i don't know that man, he don't look like prince harry” 💀😭💀 like his mouth, teeth, and nose does not match to me😭😭. Also, I feel so bad for these women, like imagine the years of therapy or unknown trauma. Edit: shout out to Chelsea 💖 happy she told them to STFU. Mean girls never win

[@yvaincallipso84]

Me beginning to read the article that covered this: Oh here we go again misusing gaslighting again. *article: they hired fake a psychologist to tell them they where crazy for not believing it* Me: Oh no wow that was ACTUAL gaslighting.

[@thebeebz9511]

17:30 I knew a doctor who served as a psych advisor on a popular reality show in the late 2000s during the writer's strike (context: the show had people who were struggling with actual mental illness and it was supposed to be inspirational when they recover). I'll never forget what he told me: "The doctors and therapists sincerely want the patients to get better -- the producers don't."

[@yr7983]

Given that Harry also dressed up as a Nazi for a party would say him joining a reality tv show wouldn't be the most shocking thing he's done

[@stepahead5944]

Exactly

[@juliagiles1547]

I’m sorry what

[@yr7983]

@Mary Bean It was a ‘colonials and natives’ party 😭😭

[@soundskindagay2709]

@@yr7983 holy shit 😭

[@jeaniebee.]

@Susel She is biracial. I don't understand why people keep ignoring her white side.

[@thankunext5602]

stopp why does she look so good in a tiara !!

[@leaderoftaehyungnation9766]

exactly what i was thinking!!!!!

[@jade.9066]

ok but your name and pfp...✨chef's kiss✨the taste jumped out

[@KayGee_yt]

.. is this not assault? When you kiss or have relations with someone, is part of the consent not consenting to doing it with a specific person? And when that person isn't who they say they were.. doesn't that invalidate the consent?

[@smileybiggs]

You are absolutely correct and it's horrifying

[@SwaggyToms]

uh oh

[@kristen5998]

You’re absolutely correct law and order svu did an episode about that

[@Reesicup]

🤦🏼‍♀️ NO. Even though the exact specificities vary between some states, and there exists a range of severity/degrees, the crime of "assault" requires an element of violence/physical harm being done to the victim, or, in some states, the imminent threat there of. Regretting your actions because you believed a liar is not an assalt. Upsetting, sure. But not a crime.

[@beanboy5963]

@@Reesicup By assault, the op means sexual assault. And having an encounter, even just kissing, with someone when lying about who you are is assault, because the victim did not consent to having that encounter with you. If you had sex with someone in a mask who said they were your partner (think Revenge of the Nerds), they would be assaulting you because you consented to sex with your partner, not that person. Sexual assault is still a crime. In most if not all US states, and many other countries, the situations described would be criminal, and considered sexual assault.

[@Lili-ie9kk]

I thought that old "who wants to marry a millionaire" had a double twist. Towards the end they told the girls he just "worked construction" and wasn't a millionaire, but then it turned out he was a really successful contractor, and actually was a millionaire. But they only revealed that at the very very end.

[@JudelovesRiver12]

“But you can’t build a huge lie based on the fact that you’re Queen Elizabeth’s grandson??” Well, actually.... when I was in first grade, my cousin and I asked this boy on the playground if he liked us and at first he was like “nah” but the after we told him that our great grandma was queen Elizabeth and asked again if he liked us, his answer did indeed change. I like to think that I was the originator of this ridiculous social experiment Hahaha

[@peaches8864]

You definitely were. People should try this gem on tinder.

[@azizabrown]

and that little boys name was Ryan Seacrest

[@Carissa99Xo]

Fun fact: this show actually aired in Finland and I watched it all.

[@Carissa99Xo]

And that scene of Kelly jumping off the boat lives rent free in my head. Not a week goes buy without that randomly popping into my head.

[@Natustaja]

I remember watching this as a kid! I thought it was the real prince Harry until mum and dad said it's just a cruel scam🥴

[@wednesdaysbliss1]

I’m honestly jealous.

[@Carissa99Xo]

@@Natustaja Yeah, that's why it's important to be able to read the subtitles.

[@Carissa99Xo]

@@wednesdaysbliss1 don't be, nothing else really was airing back then.

[@esztercsaki1]

IDK how this applies to the UK, but in the US, impersonating a licensed medical professional is a felony. Also has pretty strong kidnapping vibes

[@sydneylawson484]

Your the first person to mention the racism in this show, and I've seen like three creators cover it. Thank you so so much for not only bringing it up, but also critiquing it. It infuriates and exhausts me what black contestants go through on shows like this. And as much as I want to see diversity and inclusion, I'm at the point where I want to advocate for BIPOC folks to simply avoid these shows all together.

[@eev14]

The bit about alcohol consumption was interesting to me because here in The Netherlands we had a big scandal as well around a reality TV-show and a sexual assault.. Only in this case the woman was blackout drunk in her bed, the producers asked one of the guys to go up to her and he assaulted her while she was blacked out. The bizarre thing is that this was captured on nightvision camera's and they AIRED IT. So a huge amount of people saw this assault happening and people shared clips of it with others over Whatsapp to talk about this scandal, there was instant outrage of course. The producers had to formally apologize, the guy who assaulted her came out with some really shitty excuses as well and the poor woman was just really upset that they aired her sexual assault on TV. This happened in 2019 on the TV show 'the villa', backlash continued after the shitty apologies and another TV producer from a different channel decided to confront the producers about the incident. That led to people calling for the show to be cancelled (which they did) and eventually the TV channel that aired these reality TV shows made a promise that they would stop producing this type of 'guilty pleasure' reality show altogether. Other TV channels are still producing these types of shows though and unfortunately it seems the incident is largely forgotten about at this point, though I wouldn't be surprised if TV producers now restrain from feeding contestants so much alcohol in order for drama like this to happen.

[@alexsm3882]

Soooo... No legal consequences?

[@eev14]

@@alexsm3882 Nope, none. She didn't want to press charges but instead just wanted it to go away.

[@empressjewellery]

Oh my gosh, that's horrific

[@laya1901]

Something similar happened in Spain, but it was another contestant who raped. And if I remember it well, it was a Big Brother kind of reality show, the producers showed the victim the tape and filmed her reaction to air on TV. It was disgusting.

[@sonorasgirl]

I understand why she didn’t want to press charges, but I’m PISSED they didn’t get any legal consequences. Ugh.

[@mudmudmud7007]

maybe its because im scottish and a bit faceblind, but you rly could tell me the lad in this show is one of the royal family and i'd be like aye seems right

[@pheonixrises11]

I didn’t know there was a member of the royal family named Harry!

[@wwondertwin]

So, I think he agreed to the show because he wanted to see how it actually felt to answer "yes" when people ask "are you Prince Harry?".

[@moyse001]

I’m drunk and could literally not give two fucks about the royal family but I really enjoyed this

[@funnyvalentinesglorioushai2227]

I am sober and same

[@bellabyers2929]

same.. literally the little kids are the only hope for that family at this point 💀

[@ussinussinongawd516]

@@bellabyers2929 meh the queen is still holding. it together

[@alexsm3882]

wHy Do YoU dRiNk EvErY nIgHt????

[@peaches8864]

Preach

[@JM-hd3lr]

the therapist being fake is so scary like these women were probably very scared to consider therapy irl after that! this video was so interesting and im glad that you touched on very important topic. YOU SHOULD DO MORE VIDEOS ABOUT REALITY TV SHOWS! (since you seems interested in them)

[@tinypetalo]

when you said that black contestants are always disliked for no reason !!!! basically the circle season 3. kai did absolutely nothing wrong, and sophia, rachel and nick made it their life’s mission to go after her.

[@ShieniLicksOnLemons]

I'm Finnish and you probably could've put anyone, no matter what they looked like, in front of me and told me he was Prince Harry and I would've believed it... You could tell me there was a Prince Angus the Third or something and I'd just shrug and believe it, I know so little about the British royals and I keep forgetting information I have of them like I forgot the queen's husband died ages ago until I watched Jay Exci's review of the animation series Prince and there was a comment about how the show aired 2 months after his death.

[@randompotato7391]

Right? You could put any male ginger in front of me and I'd probably think "this checks out". I'm Canadian though, so I feel like I'm supposed to know 😅

[@qu33flatina]

I recently got back from being on a reality TV show and holy shit the isolation and constant alcohol consumption will reeeally take a toll on you 😬 it's so different once you experience it. I can't watch reality shows the same, I have a ton of empathy for all contestants now 😅

[@cybersucia]

Omg that’s so interesting, what show?

[@Zeverinsen]

Spill the beans!

[@daisyslovebot]

what shows?

[@livb1657]

if you wouldnt mind sharing, what show? i hope u start to feel back to normal soon!

[@sleepingswiftly]

Don't leave us hanging!! Share the deets!

[@littlenothing1068]

“We don’t tolerate any Kingsley hatred in this household,” with the finger wag, lmao why did this make me laugh so hard

[@SandeeDude]

I'm surprised none of the girls asked him about his mum. The show premise is already completely gross but if he was to explicitly talk about his mum who died in a car accident exacerbated by the paparazzi it would just take on a whole new level of immorality

[@gemstar7286]

That's a really good point, now looking back I'm surprised non of them questioned him on that . Definitely would have been in bad taste ,I wonder if something was mentioned but edited out .. we'll never know with sneaky reality shows like these .

[@siiri8902]

As someone who isn't British and isn't "into" the royals or anything like that, when you showed pictures of this lookalike and Harry next to each other I was like "yeah I could not tell you which one is the prince" 😭 Like they don't look identical but I don't know Harry's face that well, so yeah I'm not that shocked that the girls believed it was him

[@ArtsyHumanbean]

I’m realizing I’ve been missing out on that full Lady Gaga quote and I’m mad about it. Thank you for opening my eyes.

[@crazygamer_1082]

Honestly-subbing to you because you acknowledged the racism that goes on in these shows whenever a black person enters the room. I really appreciate that because a lot of people don’t want to own up and say it happens. Also I love the reviews and deep dive of this show! Hella entertaining and informative! ❤️❤️

[@diamcole]

Off topic but...can we just talk about this look? YES 👏🏾 As a matter of fact, let me go put on my tiara because it's just that type of a day haha. Thank you, as always, for the amazing content!

[@-Desire]

I gonna assume you own a diamond tiara lol

[@diamcole]

@@-Desire I do, indeed 😇😏

[@hoppedupouttabedturnedmysw5456]

you’re very pretty bestie !!

[@diamcole]

@@hoppedupouttabedturnedmysw5456 Thank you, that's so kind of you to say!

[@sonyapari1219]

If that’s u in ur pfp ur so pretty

[@huggymchug]

I think you're also missing out on the additional context that until recently, Harry's image in the US was very much as the wild child. Because Harry was seen as a lot looser than the rest of the royal family, I can see it making sense to a bunch of jet lagged girls.

[@tairneanaich]

Yeah this wasn’t long after the vegas incident, right?

[@alexinulla7839]

I'm American There's no way I know ANY of the royal families faces. I would've fell for it.

[@alterbun]

can confirm I’m an American and when you were doing the side by side photos I genuinely couldn’t tell who was who in half of them

[@loverrlee]

Poor Chelsea. This is why I don't like reality shows! They are so cliquey, even ones that are supposed to just be about showcasing their talent or skills! In my opinion Chelsea won the competition because she was like, "I made a mistake even being on this show I'm out." I'm proud of her for putting herself first and I hope she has found the love of her life. ❤️

[@danderson8431]

I worked on “The Bachlorette” in Texas (years ago) and it was one of my jobs to place alcohol everywhere, including in the bathrooms.

[@KeketsoN01]

Do tell more

[@herny360]

“This isn’t rupaul’s best friend race”

[@cheybbypeace]

I just scrolled for so long looking for someone else that thought this.

[@ant-space]

Jordan, I'm a 57 year old male who really hates reality shows (but secretly loves them), but had so much fun during your analysis that I had to laugh out loud several times! Still glad I didn't have to watch this show though, because you explained everything so well. BTW, I loved your explanation on class differences!

[@ussinussinongawd516]

how do you love them omg

[@ant-space]

@@ussinussinongawd516Haha. Good point. Only by hardly ever watching them.

[@Remke946]

Gosh, I love the in depth coverage of reality shows! 40 minutes of sassy analysis, I am here for it!

[@ticlolaroche4790]

this is the most passive aggressive comment i’ve ever seen

[@darkwebgirl]

You isolate in the hotel before going on dating shows because you've already cleared STD tests that could get other people hurt and they can't risk you altering your status after your negative test.

[@alexsm3882]

And just in case books and TV give you STDs, y'know...

[@nyx4623]

Wait why did they take away all their stuff?

[@moonlight4665]

@@nyx4623 I assume so they wouldn't see news about the real prince harry

[@cecisharp]

@@moonlight4665 honestly the invention of books hooked up to the internet really was groundbreaking. Very clever of the producers to always be one step ahead.

[@darkwebgirl]

@@alexsm3882 I didn't say anything about that nor did I say that this cast didn't go through extra unnecessary and psychologically draining procedures. You isolate for the SAME REASON for all reality TV dating shows. If you're encouraging people to hook up and someone got something life threatening, lots of people are going to jail.

[@victoriaugwunwa2137]

I didn’t understand why the red team thought Barbie was crazy, either. She didn’t even do anything.

[@FassoliaPlaki]

Yesss PLEASE make more of these! I could never actually sit through a reality show, but brilliant analyses like this make me feel like I was there and like I never missed out on the priceless insights into human nature that they provide lol

[@ar1ose]

jesus christ,, the Isolation period...that would absolutely kill me

[@ernie39]

"i don't even know if Joe Biden has kids" oh man i am,,, so jealous that you're completely removed from the American news cycle

[@eleanoreliz]

So so sooooo removed. Forget the most recent controversy related Biden offspring news stuff, him having and no longer having any number of kids is like, his foundational politician identity story. Oh to be that blessedly removed 🥲

[@JordanS-ww4eu]

He actually does have kids btw I don’t know how many but he does

[@ernie39]

@@JordanS-ww4eu he has 2 living children (2 deceased) -- one of them, Hunter Biden, has been reported on frequently for a variety of reasons (varying in quality/some functioning more as conspiracies to fuel conservative fears). He's currently being investigated for tax fraud.

[@MariaIzabelCSouza]

That is such a great video, never thought something like this reality could happen! By the way, I'm from Brazil, and I can relate with your lines about alcohol and reality tv so much, it is such a sad situation. We have such a big culture of reality tv out here and the occasions where the alcohol comsuption leaded to really bad, even criminal situations are not rare at all! There are cases of s3xual ass4ult and adictives "breaking out" (wish I could word it better, sorry) as recent as this year! We should have these restrictons here too, because honestly it ain't fun at all if everybody is not safe.

[@JoeyisDREADful]

**showing side by side images that I legitimately mistook for 2 images of the real Prince Harry** "Whether he actually looks like Prince Harry is debatable... They aren't doppelgangers." **Confused American noises**

[@sofiarestaino6537]

2 videos in so little? This must be heaven.

[@CornbreadOracle]

We Americans are not inundated with images of Harry (well, not until RECENTLY) and we aren’t raised with a concept of “posh”, particularly not as an accent. It’s very hard for us to not see the royal family as simply celebrities. So I get why these girls might fall for this.

[@tosinakin2508]

The fact that his face is closer to William's than Harry's makes this so much more cringy for me. Poor girls 😔

[@roka745]

Now that you've said this, I can't unsee it lol

[@avgeek707]

Hey Jordan, would you consider adding professionally done captions to your essays? They would help me and many others understand your points, since for example I comprehend pieces more when I read and listen at the same time. Thanks for your consideration! Love from Uruguay xx

[@saffrontaylor3070]

@AvGeek You're finding her dialect difficult to understand as she's from The West Midlands the Birmingham area which is the worst regional accent in Britain . Even if JT was Oxbridge educated she still sounds stoned .

[@444-o2w]

@@saffrontaylor3070 i mean, i can understand her accent fine, personally. but if i'm not paying full attention or reading lips *in general* often i'll find myself not processing the words properly. that's for me personally but i've found that a lot of people relate & use captions for that reason too. no need to make fun of her dialect.

[@ussinussinongawd516]

@@444-o2w they weren't making fun of her dialect it's just a fact.

[@shannonceleste5557]

@ßussin ßussin on gawd! No, you’re stating your opinion, on someone you don’t know’s accent (which is something most people can’t help). Don’t be coming on this young lady’s channel and then try and insult the way in which she speaks 🙄

[@Junya01]

@@saffrontaylor3070 that's kinda xenophobic much? Her accent is understandable, peeps with English as a second language tend to prefer having subtitles with their audio to help with understanding in general

[@chrystaltop6236]

I would love to hear your commentary on 2004 reality show "There's something about Miriam," a dating show where contestants were dating a transgender model called Miriam Rivera without knowing she was trans. I think it tells so much about transfobia and making entertainment out of it.

[@pacjentPS]

Or maybe do not open this particular can of worms? There's enough transfobia and transfobic content still around us today, affecting trans people in everyday lives... and it's absolutely certain that this kind of commentary will pull in all of this into this comment section and will make many people feel unsafe and disphoric. Also, I learned just now that Miriam died of suicide in 2019 - that would make commentary such as this that much harder and comment section even more vile.

[@isaacs8783]

@@pacjentPS ^^^

[@momplspickmeupimscared]

@@pacjentPS I agree but I don't think the og comment wanted to come of as rude. They maybe just wanted to spread awareness by talking about this transphobic incident. You're right but so is OPs main message

[@Hikarixhikarixhikari]

yooo wtf

[@Totalchaos0228]

That's such a terrible premise

[@OpqHMg]

If anyone sitting with me said "I'm bored" though i do think that's very rude. However in this situation the other girls just bullied her too...and saying she had an "attitude problem" just does feel like racism

[@pingpongofoz2267]

But the only people they had to talk to were each other and she wasn’t there to make friends. I bet it would get really boring having only a couple people to talk to and you don’t even really like them or have much in common. They also could have been waiting a long time for the dude to show up or whatever they were doing. But only the people who were there really know how it unfolded. I do agree it definitely seemed like they didn’t like her from the start and they could have been a little racist towards her.

[@julieg785]

Girl I was LITERALLY watching nickisnotgreen's video on the show when the notification popped up. What are you doing in my house???

[@livb1657]

SAME

[@naomi6971]

I came across this dark reality tv gem on KZbin and I clicked as soon as I read the title. Back then I loved the concept bc it sounded fresh and funny to watch, but now I feel so bad for all the contestants. I just found out this year that they only aired the first episodes to later go straight to KZbin. I highly recommend The beauty and the geek, it's funny and wholesome and no one got gaslit (that I know of)

[@KealohaHarrison]

My mother and sisters were so obsessed with this show but I was immediately like “This is kinda fucked up how the show runners are manipulating them into thinking he’s Harry” but they didn’t seem to care or consider that in the first place. Glad it got cancelled after four episodes

[@lauren1178]

I have been waiting so long for a KZbinr to talk about this show. It seems like a fever dream, I randomly thought about this show’s existence and wondered why no one talks about it. Subscribed!

[@moonpeach33]

Unbalanced and tense is exactly how i would describe reality dating shows

[@beatrizcbs8922]

maybe it's because i'm not british, but i literally cannot tell them apart. i actually clicked on the video thinking the show was about the actual prince harry 😭

[@m00nwalker32]

Im British And me too … Guess it just depends how much you know about the royal family

[@shevah2010]

Almost 40 minutes long!! We're well served todayy

[@andie8989]

in the oprah interview, meghan said she thought of the royal family the same as celebrities in LA so i can believe that they wouldn’t know he can’t do reality tv.

[@larkfly9273]

please continue to also do more lighthearted stuff like this, i like both genres!

[@minichou]

When you were mentioning the racism in the show, the way they treated Chelsea made me realize how racist my highschool art project group was. I was the only black girl in the group and we were randomly paired up and had to create a bald eagle from paper mache n stuff. Every time I brought up any idea, it would instantly get voted off and dismissed by the group. They didn't even have any good reasons to write them off either, they just kept saying "it would be too much work" (which doesn't even make sense). It made me so peed off that I eventually lashed out at them which led to the whole class ostracizing me until the end of the semester. They basically did the same shit those other girls did to Chelsea.

[@Kate-uj9rx]

OMG YES!! MORE PPL HAVE TO TALK ABOUT THIS! MY MOUTH DROPPED AT THE NOTIFICATION!! IM SO EXCITED!

[@WereInHell]

This was so dark lmao

[@pingpongofoz2267]

Yes it was high key. At the beginning she was like I wanna do some lighter stuff in between the heavy and I was like okay where is the lighter stuff. It was honestly a little lighter but she could have made it darker because this is so messed up actually.

[@marye857]

I’ve met 3 British people in my life and I had NEVER seen any of them call out the royal family… They absolutely adore them and only have good things to say, so I was quite surprised when you mentioned their shady past.

[@arha13]

Idk I think we mostly don’t care about the royal family. The most common thing I hear about them is complaints about them taking taxes. It’s an open secret that they’ve done messed up stuff so why bother call it out when everyone already knows.

[@Cassxowary]

That “therapist” quote is straight up cult-like/religious! “Questioning is bad. Just trust.” Uhhhhh…..

[@no1inparticular487]

as a british person, i believed that prince harry would go on a reality tv show.. idk for publicity or something?? ahhah idk but i didnt give it a second thought i was like yeah he wants some fans he wants to be a lil celebrjty

[@carolinemcgovern4488]

I was literally not surprised that Prince Harry would do something like this, because the royals have a history of appearing in tv shows like this. (Check out "A royal knockout" if you want to laugh: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Grand_Knockout_Tournament

[@goodnplenty1873]

Wow! I had no idea this was even a show. Your commentary regarding producers and their responsibility reminded me of when I auditioned for The Biggest Loser. Producers insisted that I tell them I hate myself, talk down on myself, etc. Talk about not caring about contestant well being. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@methequin7239]

the title and the thumbnail really pulled some memories 'cause i saw this on tv and holy hell i remember thinking "this sounds wildly unethical..." at the time and now knowing what was actually going on, friggin' yikes!!

[@gm6393]

Tbh it's a good thing they didn't have sex, it would be pretty sketchy if they made women have sex with him under false pretenses of his identity.

[@nonileshika3061]

The part where u announced that he wasn't even ginger made cackle