Storytime--I was a side piece. He's actually married! 🤷🏾‍♀️😳

[@GabyDee7]

😂 When he said “I’m not happy” the face that you made, that’s an emoji 😳. Several lessons that can be learned. Ladies we must “always” maintain our self respect. Don’t let someone “guilt” you and try to “gaslight” you into a relationship that will be to your detriment.

[@Es_Elle]

Dude was gaslighting big time! I can only imagine what his wife is/was dealing with at home! For any singles out there, flip the script and start talking to your imaginary friend. Bet he'd steer clear after that! 😀 Thanks for sharing, Val!

[@dorothymatthews6690]

OMG! OMG Val! As soon as he would tell me he was married I would have gotten up from that dinner/lunch table and walked out! No conversation. Then I would have blocked him and changed gyms. Good thing you were not intimate with him. Thank you for being so authentic because you are helping a lot of single women from dating men who may be married.

[@rcollier551]

I love your facial expressions during storytime 😲😳😨lol. Unfortunately, some married men can behave totally unsavory and without any remorse whatsoever! You handled this much nicer than I would have.

[@simonec406]

YES! Most of them have several things going on all at once. You not only have to ask them if they're married but also "is there anyone under the assumption that you are part of a couple with them?" Be blessed that you're happily married cause these streets are wild😏

[@laurenlocd3180]

I asked a guy this and he said “and if there is someone under the impression … then what “? i BLOCKED HIM !!!!!

[@JustBree716]

I was once told "well you didn't ask"!. And it's true. Ladies beware. U have to pry pry pry.

[@TexasGal.]

He lied by omission. His being married and you finding out about it before it went further is a blessing. He’s acting as if it were unusual that he were married. He was W-A-C-K. But to add to asking the marriage question, I have learned the hard way you also have to ask if they have a girlfriend or are seeing other women. Don’t assume you are exclusive if you don’t ask or it’s not defined because you will be one of many. Thank you for sharing your story., Women need to hear this.

[@LivinDivine]

It was ABSOLUTELY a lie by omission. I still feel so sorry for his wife. Based on his behavior, he does this all of the time. Trust that after that experience, that was one of the first questions I asked.

[@harriettedawson7072]

@@LivinDivine Good for you Val! I ask questions cause I need to know all that and more, before stepping a foot out with a guy🤣

[@TLOsDesigns]

Yes... more story times please!! they are so entertaining.

[@ecerv1]

Sounds like he was a classic narcissists. I feel sorry for his wife.

[@trulyjeannette]

This Guy is manipulative and a complete player. I feel so bad for his wife being married to someone like him. I learned a while ago that you need to ask only for your protection because Val, you did NOTHIN wrong and this guy was really trying to manipulate you. He is completely bad news, good riddance to him.

[@creating1_c1999]

Thanks for sharing Val. You are a great storyteller! LOL.

[@MsLeoLady813]

He sounds abusive and narcissistic. Making you the wrong one. BoyBye

[@letsbeencouraged3074]

What in the still is married going on here fella, the nerve of him thinking You were going to go for that, smh. Val, so glad You kept it moving, away from him.

[@letsbeencouraged3074]

Annnd, he's the 1 that 'needs' counseling, still smh

[@pinkbutterfly6579]

You are too, cute. Loved this!!!

[@nwatson2773]

Many married men don’t wear rings and many have never been monogamous, so cheating is normal to them. I met a woman who was the side piece for over 5 years and the wife knew. OH Chile!!

[@TheThrivingLady]

What a predator! So unsettling how someone could think there's nothing wrong with being married and pursuing other women because they're "unhappy". What's worse is that he expected you to go along with it. And the gaslighting made it worse. I hope his wife has seen him for who he is. A cautionary tale. BTW, your hair is lovely!

[@kekejefferson9219]

It's more affordable to do a background check.

[@maxinenicholson8037]

I love when you do your stare look "Like really look". That is typical of some married men that cheat. Very predatory😑

[@nellyrubio234]

Hi Val you look sooo beautiful, I love you❤ God bless🙏🏼❤🙏🏼

[@RS-cz4rq]

Wow 😳 the nerve of him!

[@bathos22]

It's the woman who calls THAT a husband for me.

[@Mm.kay.]

He asked if you were a little WHAT???? For not wanting to date a married man???? The gaslighting here is at a high. Smh

[@rochellecoleman3898]

Your hair is gorgeous

[@BridgetsAnimalHouse]

“What, bruh” is right! Well, damn!

[@ExaltedTam]

I love your hair ❤

[@harriettedawson7072]

I’m sorry but I would not go out with any guy unless I know his relationship status by asking directly, and by asking other personal questions to know more about that person. Glad you got out of that quickly.👍🏽👍🏽

[@sake3933]

He must of been on the short bus bc what level headed person would think like that???!🤔

[@hattiecolley54]

OMG, Really. Sounds like a Narssist. Reverse Insanity is Always a good card to play for these type of people. Stay WOkE!

[@lucyphillips2822]

He is a narcisist! He was flipping the situation over to you to make you feel stupid. What?

[@authentically_patrice7217]

Are you serious? Did he ask you that for REAL! OMG!✋BYE FelIX

[@lgibbons58]

At least he finally admitted it. Most guys would be all no baby I’m single lol

[@denisewilliamson4749]

Wow! I can't believe he was trying to play you like that.😂 he probably ran into a lot of women who went along with his program. They just got whatever money or gifts he offered to those kind of women that went for that. You are a classy lady! That fool couldn't understand this.😂

[@JustBree716]

Didn't u have a similar story like this already 🤣

[@LivinDivine]

No, but close. The other guy was single.....I've had some interesting dates when I was single. Live and learn....

[@JustBree716]

@@LivinDivine no I was just thinking this story sounds very familiar. Listen I am the ultimate bachelorette. Lol. Please share more when you can. I enjoy them. Love your husband and family as well

[@LG-kx8xl]

Your hair is so beautiful! Wait, he accused you of having mental health issues because HE is married & didn't tell you? I'd love to know if his wife had the same understanding or the same arrangement! The look you give with the "are you kidding me & I can't believe this" is hilarious. I would have flipped ALL the way out on him, embarrassed him in the gym making it known we never slept together (in case it helps another unsuspecting woman...hell, or man since you never know because he certainly believes in don't ask don't tell). I would've kept going there daring him to even glance my way! In hindsight though, I'm sure it was easier for you to not have to change gyms. Do you still go to that gym or did I miss that part?😂

[@lovablelibra]

In a year and half you never went to his house or met anyone in the family 🤦🏽‍♀️ 🚩 🚩

[@SusieSue242]

good to know, need to ask are you married now. smh