The 5 People You Need To Be Happy | Stacey Flowers | TEDxUNO

[@JacquieKudolo]

I think it's also just as important to make sure you are at least one of these type of people for someone else... Pay it forward.

[@AvitalShtap]

I feel like I'm all of these things, for different people:)

[@botanicalyuuchan]

That's a great point. I need to be that for my friends.

[@yourmomsasshole7301]

Jacquie Kudolo i just a 5 monute comerical i was tgumbs upong

[@chynaj8260]

I love this comment a 💯times

[@jazr7997]

Girl...Amen

[@fernandamel8265]

SHE IS SO BEAUTIFUL, so charismatic and inspiring!!!! *.*

[@OcarinatOfSquids]

She has a KZbin channel about budgeting, happiness, and saving

[@TravelinRosy2025]

She is gorgeous

[@salomonsalfate8329]

@@OcarinatOfSquids como se llama el canal?

[@juanitajuanita9788]

Omg! She’s graciously beautiful 😍

[@aajjajajajajaja]

@@salomonsalfate8329 Stacey Flowers

[@goodtimes4463]

The prettiest girl in the world

[@moonchild650]

There are many pretty girls in the world, but she is definitely one gorgeous girl.

[@Piyushrahi]

what you even mean? i had to increase my phone brightness to see her

[@ASMRjupiterhasaring]

Hinemoa GREAT JOB BRO

[@wilma1866]

I am DEAD. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sanyamishra2825]

Is meeeee!!😎😎😜😜

[@peacewayfateswayer530]

I love the pace and energy she speaks with

[@StaceyFlowers]

Thank you sooooooo much!

[@peacewayfateswayer530]

You are welcome, thanks for this awesome framework.

[@chasewillian9010]

SAMMME!!!! It’s SOOoOO easy to follow.

[@Lala_645]

Me too!!! ❤

[@strawberrydreamgirl1248]

i was thinking the same thing the whole time!

[@msmrs251]

I was in tears watching this. Realizing that my depression was triggered by the passing away of my cheerleader was so overwhelming for me. I miss him beyond words.

[@chickensalad5591]

@Josephine Bournes ikr💜

[@kimsbodydesign]

Realization is a start to making a move....

[@chelseasmile2086]

Sorry to hear that you lost someone important to you and you've been experiencing prolonged sadness as a result. Just remember the things he said to support you and imagine him saying them to you when you miss him. His spirit is still cheering for you

[@karenjohannessen8987]

{{{hugs}}} to you, @ms mrs! You are still loved

[@glorialouiise]

Give gratitude for the times you shared.

[@dylanlepage7524]

Damn... I've been binge watching ted talks between homeworks the whole evening. I skipped this video for like 3 times in a row and it still ended up automatically playing after another one. For real, it's the best one i've listened to tonight.

[@boosadan28]

I HAD EXAMS THIS WEEK AND BEEN BINGE WATCHING TED TALKS AS WELL!

[@aroseinwinter05]

agreed 🖤

[@zaragrainie2739]

Ivan Laplante me too!!!!!😂

[@pavinhautavanija518]

Right

[@aileengarcia9265]

It hooked me lol

[@sarahg3530]

The 5 people: Cheerleader - believes in you and supports you even when you don't believe in yourself Mentor - Your primary guide and teacher Coach - helps you step outside your comfort zone and reach your potential Friend - Is there for you Peer - Understands your career/position and helps you navigate socially

[@tianabailey8666]

Not only is she eloquent, well spoken, and fiercely intelligent but good Lord this women exudes beauty!

[@arinapriyanka887]

There are people who are lucky enough to find those 5 persons in their life but there are some that even luckier to find all 5 of them in one

[@franzy871]

Wow your words are so true. I thought about how I don’t have those 5 people, but I have one and I’m super happy. So I started to doubt her theory about those 5 persons and look for someone who does, too, before I realised that she’s right nonetheless. My husband is all of these people :)

[@evfaNN96]

and others who can't find anyone

[@rosegallus4048]

That's very true!

[@King-ji888]

my mom is all of them in one for me

[@HMSkillBuilders]

coonect to the right people, ur cheerleader 😊mentor, coach, friend, peer, 😊

[@shontelhorneonline]

Jesus, she is stunning and brilliant. My GOD.

[@wilma1866]

AMEN sista, AMEN!!!

[@prcty]

"Happiness must happen before success."

[@sweettea3085]

My mom is all 5 of them

[@AvitalShtap]

IKR MY MOM IS LIKE 3/5

[@ritaf5438]

This was my first thought 😂💕

[@SophiaLovella]

I love moms 😊💕

[@Jana-ee4ip]

i was just gonna say that 💕

[@shinazbakar]

you're very lucky

[@Lic51]

Imagine being so gorgeous that you can pull off a bald look

[@Sunshine-yk2eg]

4:18 happiness. true, bona-fide, authentic happiness 5:38 optimism 6:10 relationships impact happiness 6:36 the five people 8:05 the toxic people 9:11 looking outside, while you're stuck in adversity/ your head/ not ideal circumstances 9:37 1) cheerleader 10:56 2) mentor. ONE mentor 12:49 3) coach 15:15 4) friend 15:33 5) peer

[@lorenajavier4610]

Thank Uuuuu

[@actionlessaction]

Thank you so much

[@adrianatabares4059]

Beautiful!!! I too am part of the young mother crew, had my son when I was 15. My son is 18 now and I am wrapping up my last semester at USC for my Masters in Social Work as I work a full time job at my county’s Bureau of Victim Services. The one person who encouraged me to go to college was my 7 th grade History teacher.

[@Cewdipie]

Adriana Tabares congratulations 💝

[@AJ-vu5wu]

Wow, amazing 🤍🤍🤍🤍 future MSW here💙

[@saltandpeppers8788]

Congratulations! Very happy for you! 💪🏽

[@7soulgreat8]

The difference between friend and peer just blew my mind. That distinguish gave me so much perception. Major key sis! Thank you!

[@Adhdorwhatever22]

You can tell that the words that people told her that were negative still hurt even though she has healed. See that 1 teacher is all she needed to make that change in her life!!

[@MyFabFinance]

This was such an inspiring speech. So many people believe happiness is accidental, but it require the intention and actions. thankful for finding those five people and hoping that more people find their Factor Five. Continue to spread this beautiful message Stacey.

[@StaceyFlowers]

+My Fab Finance Thank you so much! I will and you continue to do the same with all your excellent work!!!!

[@lucianunez4721]

@@StaceyFlowers a 5g u my night

[@claudearmstrong9232]

Sunday, I'm 78. Due to a malfunction, this marks a year being bedridden. I live with a knindly caretaker who is a little older than me, who cannot keep a sanitary, clean house. I can tolerate messy, but not unsanitary. I supply all grocery expense which is shopped by the caretaker and my online orders. There are no other people in my aquaintence, but family and former fellow employees and a few living friends are in the others life, but none on a close level. From observations over the years, most we aged people experience this isolation. We need the same 5 supporters given here, yet connecting and major living and death changes prove daunting obstacles. Thank you for this inspiring moment, Sttacey

[@hueylove6785]

Damn she is gorgeous. She need to be on the big screen or cover of magazines. That is my kind of lady super gorgeous.

[@longlong27845]

This is irrelevant to her talk

[@joeheller7581]

she is just so beautiful inside and out, didn't expect to feel that way

[@Cewdipie]

Wow she’s really strikingly gorgeous

[@evfaNN96]

it's not the other people that can help you catch happiness; it's yourself

[@formidablezee7368]

Boom!

[@ladyblackburn]

The way she says “lightbulb” is sooo cute.

[@carlosuter3341]

I only clicked on it because she is so beautiful. Amazing woman. We need 5 people in your life to connect and catch happiness. Cheerleader, mentor, coach, friend, a peer. Children to teen parents are 80% more likely to go to prison, be poor. Cheerleader believes in myself. Mentor points you into the right direction: willing to share information and point you into the right direction, in one direction. Coach: makes you uncomfortable, puts you into the right place. The one friend who knows your heart's desire. Not in same industry. Peer: in social situations. Peer keeps your head in the game. To lick your wounds.

[@sasacabalquinto]

I am my cheerleader, my mentor, my coach, my best friend and my peer. Whether I have this people in my life or not, I'm still a healthy person and I can always be the best version of myself for me and for others. People come and go, especially when you evolve and grow. So thanks to all the people who were these at some chapters of my life and for those who will be, but I gotta keep going whether I have someone in my life or not. I'm with God, and God is in me. That's the most important thing at all 💯

[@happiness4beginners]

I love that and I couldn't agree more. It's so true people do come and go even when you have the best of intentions toward them. Transformation begins from within!

[@rongwang8757]

Ms. Stacey Flowers is one of the most beautiful humans I have ever seen.

[@ShainaJay]

first of all this was amazing second of all HER SKIN HONEYYYYY

[@ard8029]

I try not to comment on people's looks too much, but Stacy looks like she could be a goddess

[@nickyparks7122]

inner beauty is real yall

[@lorrainemarcketta489]

Ms. Flowers, you are beautiful -- on the inside as well as on the outside. And..you are wise. Thank you for your encouraging talk. I also had a baby when I was in high school. Back in those days, that particular school would not permit young women to complete their studies once they'd had a child. (Of course, the young fathers were allowed to continue!) I was ostracized by most friends. There were no cheerleader, mentor, nor coach. I did have a friend, though -- as well as a peer. Truly Divine gifts for which I am forever grateful. I am SO happy that you had the opportunity to meet up with your cheerleader and mentor. You will surely bring tremendous healing to the world. In my mind and heart, you are the star, not Beyoncé!

[@anusivaNilavu]

Lorraine you are a star and winner for going through all that... and all that you have said here about Ms. Flowers applies to you too... you are beautiful inside and outside

[@lorrainemarcketta489]

@@anusivaNilavu Thank you 🙏🏻

[@avivahanaizdihara9428]

Five key people that you need in your life: »A cheerleader. People that always support you when you're feeling down. »Mentor. Their primary role is to mentor you in the right direction, and willingness to share information. »A coach. He is meant to make you a little bit uncomfortable and maximize your potential and reaching your goal. »A friend. You need this person to know your true-est heart desire. »A peer that helps you in the social situation and always keep your heads up!

[@jemimataylar9606]

“Most of us can’t catch happiness because we’re not connected to the right people to inspire us to go after it and get it”

[@WaskiSquirrel]

This was great. I'm a teacher, so she grabbed my attention immediately with the story of her guidance counselor. We really can succeed despite the obstacles.

[@lizxu322]

HAPPINESS COMES BEFORE SUCCESS - THANK YOU!!! REAFFIRMING WHAT I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN A LONG TIME AGO

[@dev21051984]

She has shown the path to all of us who listened to the talk, but we all have to discover our 5 ourselves.....

[@siphelelendlovu]

Wow!!! This TEDx talk is life-altering. Thank you for helping me to change my narrative. You are beautiful inside and outside. You are so articulate, eloquent and extremely smart. The world is yet to experience what you have to offer. You must be nothing short of celestial. I’m inspired all the way from Durban in South Africa. 🇿🇦

[@themoondrinksmerlot4260]

I have followed Stacey for over a year here on KZbin but am finally getting to see her walk her purpose. Stacey has documented a very RAW, but inspiring, journey to get out of a pretty hefty debt, most of which is her post-grad education. She follows Dave Ramsey’s program and has proven SO many people wrong in her success. She was making $800/month, working part-time and working through childhood trauma...and now she’s making GREAT money and doing precisely what she was meant to do. She is also one of the most transparent people that I’ve seen on KZbin. I hope she continues to walk this beautiful path of hers, and I will be celebrating with a glass of champagne once she pays off that very last debt.

[@hazelkiss2389]

She is absolutely GORGEOUS! ❤️❤️❤️ Inspiriting TedTalk for sure Queen 👑

[@alvinnn88]

Wow. This woman is stunning.

She looks like Lupita Nyong'o!

[@FishRFrenzNotFood]

I thought it was her so I clicked on this Tedtalk

[@afrizak]

I was just about to write the same thing...an American version.

[@joynjenga7467]

Danai Gurira look alike

[@craz4jaymz]

@njery wambui nah, she is prettier than Lupita who is average looking

[@Hopekayeny]

craz4jaymz I think she's much prettier too

[@teonadouglas898]

I am on vacation and struggling with a break up two days before. I’m so glad I came across this video. She helped me put a few this in perspective and now I feel like I can enjoy Hawaii. 🥰Thank you

[@satsumamoon]

I made myself happy, so that proves to me that no one else is needed for happiness :)

[@tsvetelinamihaylova9036]

I love everything about this woman! She is so brave, strong and intelligent, she's worked so hard and achieved so much, her energy is mind-blowing and to top it all she looks gorgeous!

[@oinkoink4407]

ok hol up she's like one of the most beautiful people i've ever seen like i clicked because i was like woah

[@letitflowJo]

You had me crying, laughing, dreaming and understanding in under 20-min! 😭😮😩 Stacey, you are magical. Thank you for being a vessel!

[@letitflowJo]

@staceyflowers

[@breewheel2614]

Gorgeous and an awesome speaker! You can actually feel the excitement vs the transition back to earth. Stop with 18 mins, give her an hour

[@meghnarao2875]

I saw her and started clapping immediately. She's stunning, passionate, intelligent, and honest about her humanity. Inspiring!

[@islammirghani4785]

You are beauuuuuutiful girl! First thing came to my mind

[@keiwasimpson3516]

yesssss

[@Tbjbu2]

cheerleader - can tell you that you can do it mentor - has willingless to share information, and can point you in the direction that you want to go coach - can maximize your potential and make things happen friend - will always be connected to your truest heart's desire peer - will always keep your head in the game

[@greggeverman5578]

This woman is truly astonishing! She has more insight then I dared dream when I clicked!

[@kblake232]

everything about her is beautiful wow like even her voice

[@raapyna8544]

Perhaps if I had these 5 relationships, I wouldn't feel so alone. 🤔 Time to do something about it.

[@amberfarndon7493]

here if you need me to be one of those.

[@lisaosaghae6477]

She speaks with so much passion, speaks from the heart such a talented and gifted speaker

[@jewelsokike2712]

When you get married it's all negotiable. Negotiations before I do. A relationship is not supposed to be difficult or one sided. Or a big challenge. Planning together.

[@shaylaahava6413]

The thing with this is that people change... You have to prepare for that beforehand

[@heffthehecked]

Who else is crying at ten minutes about the cheerleader story

[@jacklinemwanri4265]

Me here

[@msmutota8649]

I am

[@tranhuytrungofficial1335]

Her energy is limitless!

[@fermentedtruths]

Absolutely loved this video! I had a very dysfunctional childhood, left home at 15, and got myself through two mental breakdowns in my 20's. Rock bottom brought around many changes, and by the time I started my family (weeks before my 30th birthday) I was in a great place. Ten years of family life have been super challenging, for many reasons, but I have stood firm in my belief that because I have surrounded myself with excellent people, I have overcome two, three lifetimes worth of problems. Living in echo chambers will get us no where. Ditto only having "yes" people in our lives, and ditto x100 those hundreds of facebook friends, who very much are NOT your friends. Listen to this lady, she knows what she's talking about!!

[@peaceoflife8458]

This is Amazing. But, one caveat; If you’re someone who has struggled to find those 5 people in your lives life. Take a step today and find one. Also, be a cheerleader for yourself if you can; I know it’s hard at time. But, you’re worth it. The speaker has been truly blessed tto have found these people. It will be my goal to manifest the people I need in my life. Let’s remember to encourage each other everyday. You could be anyone of those people to someone and not even know it. 🦋

[@UniqueSol504]

I dont have any of those 5 peeps. But I surely have "The Holy Spirit" So those peeps are on their way..

[@MrYega-zq7rz]

I'm in the same boat. I don't know how to get the 5 people in my life.

[@rare2b]

But he's a million and all you need though a physical being/person is what u want. But he is all u need

[@Nessav_]

Amen

[@elizabethbrianacruz]

Amen sister, I was thinking the same thing as I’m listening

[@tdeniseechols7434]

You can find a good therapist to be some of this for you. I call myself a cheerleader. I remind clients of greatness. But all 5 of these can be within you. They’re in there.

[@KrayzeeLife]

Her voice, her speech style, face, and body. Everything about her is perfect 😍😍

[@MzSoulll]

Authentic happiness- Unleashing God given talents to positively influence this world. I like this definition.

[@TAMOOR136]

What an amazing speaker you are... loved to hear you and always will...

[@kierawilson545]

OH MY GOD STACEY I"M SO HAPPY YOU SHARED THROUGH A TEDx TALK! I've been following you for so long, i've left this comment before even watching the video :)

[@amaezanorganization1729]

You are the average of the five people you choose to associate with the most! ..usually you get video titles of Joy and Happiness, but here is Ms. Flowers taking us on a redefined HAPPY tour. Refreshing..

[@NtandoMbele]

From one uneducated mother to another. We made it. I'm me first.

[@oliviaserenity2243]

So many people have already commented about her beauty. Well... I'm no difference. She is gorgeous 😍

[@juliabaktay9078]

This woman is 30 years old. Let's that sink in.

[@ellemariea2620]

she barely looks 25 T-T

[@yeshalloween]

…so…?

[@Juliaa__T]

This TED talk is so important. I think we have this misconception in society that we need to be self made and independent. in reality we all need someone to believe in us, to point us in right direction, to tell us no, to be supportive. I love this!

[@kelechionyeuku120]

Stacey I've never watched a TED talk this exciting! Thank you for letting me know that I need a Beyoncé moment but better yet a cheerleader, mentor, coach, peer and friend. Currently in search for the right mentor that's in alignment with my purpose. Thank you💜

[@StaceyFlowers]

+Kelechi Onyeuku You are sooooooooo very welcome! Thank you so much for watching!!!!!

[@mamabenta697]

So many times we get mad at a friend, because we expect him/her to be our cheerleader, mentor, coach etc... Thanks for this, now I know what to look for and what to give to others too xx

[@MaraMoreCom]

I'm super happy with myself (cheerleader), sun (mentor), fruit (coach), & 2 chihuahuas (friend & peer). lol.

[@bdw7254]

This broke my heart because recently I lost someone in my life who I saw as a mentor (someone to point you in the right direction) and a cheer leader. I knew them my whole life but we did not talk for most of it because he was a friend of my grandmother. After my grandmother passed away I reached out to him to talk about my spiritual path our two hour long conversation changed my life. He was one of the only people in my life who I could talk to about what I was feeling and give me some perspective that I could use. The path I was on was a bit esoteric so generally people were unwilling to talk to me about my experiences even when they were in the community. When I heard he'd passed away I cried for a few days and felt an huge sense of loss even though we hadn't spoken in years. When people asked who he was to me I couldn't articulate it. No one as in not connected by blood but everything because of the confidence he afforded me.

[@aroseinwinter05]

*i’m changed* after this. thank you, stacey; thank you. ❤️

[@architectMd]

Stacey Flowers! You are truly stunning! Your speech is greatly inspiring!

[@briebeauty3880]

A marvelous speaker with bright concepts and ideas, an inspiring story, plus she's absolutely gorgeous!! Loved this.

[@sylviamho]

She is awesome! She should be on the main stage at Ted!

[@GreenLea24]

So happy I came across this. At this junction in my life it was right on time.

[@clarity9405]

Everything about this talk shined! Her presence, her talent, and her message were pure light. And the concert story reminded me of the power of joy for joy's sake, and the need to make those moments happen in your life.

[@SocialLocust]

Not sure what to do when I was isolated at a young age and now I don't know how to socialize. I don't even talk to as many as five people regularly.

[@live4ward]

Baby steps! You can do it. Just learn to ask people about themselves and really listen. You will end up being the best listener people have ever met and they'll love you :-)

[@SocialLocust]

@@live4ward Listening is not the problem. .. 🙁

[@CourBarone]

me either

[@愉悦广泛]

Hi there my friend, there is nothing new under the sun. The lifes of people who grown up under similar environment CAN be very different. It is all depending on how ones think and do. Let's talk more to the people you do talk to., as a beginning step before you go to the next level - the stranger.... Best Wishes (from Your Senior in Loner high school) 😀

[@SocialLocust]

@@愉悦广泛 To build connections, you have to spend so much time and I have chronic illness and very limited social skills. And how do people attract those who aren't predatory when you can't hide your many vulnerabilities?

[@miriambartley6622]

I am 60 and I have learned these things slowly. I wish I had heard you 40 years ago. I have a good life and I do the things you talk about. I love giving people a better day. You are life and goodness and beauty.

[@crystalpistey-lyhne3406]

She is Beautifully Charismatic, Lingistically Eloquent😘🤗😍🤓

[@gatsharon6011]

What is interesting is that you can apply all these people to different aspects of your life, career, social, physical etc. Some will probably over lapse, thank god cause you can only maintain so many relationships

[@josermtz]

I need to go meet more people

[@lairdalmy9134]

Ms. Flowers is stunning and her words are beautiful. Thank you! Cheerleader, Mentor, Coach, Friend & peer.

[@jusformommy]

Thank you sister girl..this need to be seen million times over and over. I took notes✅✅🙏🏽

[@obionkansylvester9049]

I am so impressed by her mix of intelligence, eloquence and beauty. Great Talk Stacey!!

[@keshellepereira8627]

Ms.Flowers, you're so dope. This is one of my favorite TedTalks!

[@StaceyFlowers]

THANK YOU SOOOOO MUCH!!!

[@Tima-oz5te]

damn didn't even take in she has such a beautiful name on top of being a beautiful person

[@msmutota8649]

This is my favourite too.

[@shannonnefra9738]

🙌🏾 I was not seventeen but twenty-one & scared. Scared that I may of been a statistic instead I had people who believed in me. They motivated & pushed me now my eldest daughter is thirteen. So thank you for reiterating.

[@larissanoon]

Absolutely gorgeous!! Brava Ms. Flowers. What a gift to find you, thank you❤

[@excuseme1543]

wtf she's not only gorgeous but she's super well-spoken and an engaging speaker like WOW

[@ValerieEdwards37]

I’ve been following you for your minimalist/budgeting videos and this is the first time I’ve seen your Ted talk! Love you even more now!

[@ginalipkin4849]

It takes one person cheerleading you to give you that strength and passion and courage to believe that you can do it, you go Stacey, inspirational

[@florakolozsvari828]

One of the best best ted talks I've seen so far. Thank you for these truly inspiring words from such a bright, strong and intelligent woman!

[@shusi8940]

She's so pretty 😭❤️ And I love the way she talks! I hope someday I can do presentations like she talks 🥺

[@shyleahjones6247]

Flowers and Beyonce a perfect match! Lol this was really good. I love that you spoke with confidence and articulated everything you wanted to say.

[@StaceyFlowers]

+Shyleah Jones Thank you so much! I'm happy you could hear my confidence!

[@hadeel9495]

it’s an awesome speech but we really don’t NEED people to be happy ,happiness comes from within.

[@calisahardy4845]

*Wow!!* This was awesome! I _just_ discovered her channel on KZbin a few days ago, and this is worth every second.

[@angelikik.2549]

What's the channels name ?

[@FunkySwagg22]

somebody somewhere Stacey Flowers

[@angelikik.2549]

@@FunkySwagg22 thanks

[@daveclark8726]

Yes, creating value for others creates happiness. Contributing to others who are helping others creates happiness.

[@varietytv6466]

This is amazing. I am a fan of this woman.

[@arlinegeorge6967]

Beautiful exciting, amazing loving inspiring talk. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.