The BIGGEST Problem With Men Today (That makes them weak) [Ep 33]

[@pizzasperoni]

Every married man should watch this podcast. I love sharing lots of things from this podcast with my wife. Thank you both.

[@thekingandme]

6:33 I claim to be a Passport Bro (most of my travel time was military). Most of my peers that married foreign women are still happily married. I was married them but you could see with your eyes the difference the way the men are treated. A few minutes after this timestamp Nicole mentions love. In my opinion, men don't value love as much as they value respect and the respect is seen more overseas. I think Michelle and I talked about this a little bit live last week.

[@DutchinBrazil]

So true, both ideally, but if you travel you see the differences clearly

[@betterthanperfectpodcast]

@@thekingandme It’s true men value respect more, but in my opinion, respect without love doesn’t lead to a very fulfilling romantic relationship. Yes, it will be way more peaceful and smooth sailing, but I do believe that men still want someone who loves them for who they are, not just because they are a man. That is also what creates the desire in a relationship, someone wanting you for all the admirable things that you are. If you only earned them from being a man, I would think men would feel a sort of emptiness from that but I could be wrong! Will definitely have to check out y’all’s episode! - Nicole

[@arashghanbari5907]

Thank you both, really appreciate the podcast. You have no idea how much it has helped me and my friends. Keep going!

[@thekingandme]

37:05 what John says here…I agree with and it’s what I’m trying to tell men too. I start with “we are built for this” meaning the reason why stuff doesn’t hurt me as easy….I’m not trying to be macho. I literally can bounce back faster and more resilient with how I handle emotions. Observationally, it’s that way across cultures. Doesn’t mean I’m walking around like Homelander saying “I’m more superior than you” to Michelle. I’m saying…lay it on me or I got this….because I’m built for it.

[@veis]

The modern man is going through a crisis of confidence in the West that won't be resolved by simple phraseologies such as "man up", "take charge" or even "be a leader". The crisis of confidence starts very early when men are just boys. Since the feminist movement in the 70s, k-12 education began to focus primarily on the development of girls. More women became educators and the increase in female teachers transformed the perception of a k-12 teaching career as one solely for women. It isn't by chance that women have higher rates of college graduation and career success in recent years. Boys, like girls, get a confidence boost when they're exposed to fields where there is a healthy presence of men--a reason why men do very well in vocational schools. Richard Reeves discusses the struggle of boys and men in his popular book Of Boys and Men and he provides the stats to support his claims. The problems he highlights aren't only unique to the US. Men face the same struggles in a majority of Western countries because these societies believe the "men are doing ok and have always been anyway", which results in fewer investments to support men. It is no surprise that men just aren't making marriage proposals (wealthy men included) as they used. Men believe they aren't listened to or empathized with. Women and society at large may disagree, but that is the reality. For better or worse, the red pill and passport bro movements are for the most part empathy-seeking reactions. They are symptoms of a much larger societal problem that men themselves are either not aware of or avoid discussing for fear of being perceived as weak. I do encourage men to endeavor to better themselves, but just like women, they can use support and honestly, some empathy.

[@yusufraage8554]

Men dont fix a relationship, the more you try the more she will be repulsed by you. The best thing you can do is move on and she will run after you if she ever liked you or you will be happy because you're not with a woman that doesnt like you. Win/Win. This guy is pandering to women and that is a smart move because women are easily fooled.

[@betterthanperfectpodcast]

This is not accurate. If you are desperate to fix the relationship and act in such a way, trying to get her to like you and be attracted to you, what you say is true. If you are genuinely trying to show her love and improve as a man, you can "fix" a relationship. But it does takes two in the end. You are not entirely wrong, but your cynicism will cause your results to be negative.

[@yusufraage8554]

@@betterthanperfectpodcast Well you just said the man needs to fix the relationship. You didn’t say the man and the woman need to fix the relationship. Any idiot knows that you can never fix a person unless they want to and if they don’t want it fixed it’s better to walk away. Also the age off all the things on the man’s shoulders is at an end. Women make more money than ever before and most men nowadays know that women have no problem with wasting their time and that is why the smart ones go 50/50 because nobody likes to be the fool that pays for a woman that has no interest in you.

[@thekingandme]

Like button hit. I’m traveling to announce a championship game and will play while on the road. (King)

[@andreaberg1735]

No way you guys have a teenage daughter! You look so young😀

[@DutchinBrazil]

At some point you're tired....