the internet is obsessed with nara smith...

[@bonniegomez5333]

The most unrealistic part is that her toddlers are both choosing the same thing for meals

[@Ash-Felts]

And also waiting hours for a grilled cheese lol

[@bonniegomez5333]

@@Ash-Felts that's obvious though

[@RylieLightBulb]

My sister and I are both teenagers and we STILL can't agree lol

[@ripwednesdayadams]

Or that they’re waiting for that stuff to finish cooking. 😂

[@bonniegomez5333]

@@ripwednesdayadams lmao

[@hannahfanning9585]

I grew up mormon, we were all pressued constantly to use social media as a missionary tool. I had youth leaders tell me that was the only valid reason to have social media in the first place. Mormon influencers cannot divorce their religion from their influencing.

[@USSAnimeNCC-]

I bet these people dont like the taliban while ironically oppressing women like them

[@milessolomon4864]

I grew up in an independent Christian church and it was the same way. Leaders, especially youth leaders, would make us feel bad if we weren't constantly pushing Christianity. They would make us think our friends would go to hell if we didn't convert them.

[@ErutaniaRose]

@@milessolomon4864 YIKES.

[@medea__witchhh]

​@@milessolomon4864 😨😨

[@CassilovesMocha]

It's so crazy to me when Christians are so persistent in preaching their beliefs to others. As if, the Bible doesn't give warning about people doing that... 🤷‍♀️🤡

[@lostshadows768]

How far in advance does she ask her kids what they want to eat? I don't spend time around small children, but I'm pretty sure no toddler on Earth is patient enough for you to start making the bread around lunchtime. I'm guessing she's not actually asking her kids, and just making what she wants and framing it that way in the voiceover.

[@USSAnimeNCC-]

You're right i had a yonger sister and cousin who where toddler when i was 20 and man they have no patience she made those thung in advance because theyll be crying next to her or maybe the dad took them out or they're at school or watching cartoon not aware of any cooking

[@bambino05]

When I ask my young children what they want for lunch/dinner I have around 30-45 minutes to have food ready before meltdowns begin, and I feel like this is the reality for most people with younger children. Bread literally takes hours to make, she definitely isn't asking what they want and then cooking, she's just making content. Very untrad wife-like if you ask me 😂

[@valorie444]

her kids aren’t waiting that long for food. She probably feeds them beforehand bro it’s a hook for the video

[@onceuponamelody]

Yeah, and it's not "aspirational" it's just stupid. xD And I'm sure she says it that way to get rage comments.

[@gdaymates431]

Would love to insert the "it's been 84 years" meme into this comment, lol.

[@dakotahs.4185]

I live under a rock, apparently. I don't know who Nara Smith is.

[@zenleeparadise]

I never heard of her before either, but she seems to be living my dream life tbh I cook all day but I don't get to do it in my own mansion at a leisurely pace while wearing a ball gown. I mean that sure beats the kitchen I work in 😂

[@wintersnow998]

Me too

[@lostshadows768]

Me neither, but I left Twitter late last year and I've, so far, managed to avoid TikTok

[@myramedchan4775]

Same xD

[@SarastistheSerpent]

Me neither

[@camillaaston2495]

Utah Exmo here! Mormon wives with this lifestyle are some of the most burnt out people. My mother is a stay-at-home mom who does make everything from scratch, gluten free, yeast free and basically just crunchy mom hahaha. She homeschools my brothers as well, has a volunteer job (calling) in our church and is consistently incredibly exhausted. She has a degree that she can use if need be, but I can imagine the feeling or being trapped in such an exhausting lifestyle.

[@midnightsan9917]

I'm curious, why yeast free?

[@mandlerparr1]

​@@midnightsan9917unleavened bread, didn't know mormons did that.

[@Cindy99765]

​@@mandlerparr1Mormons can eat yeast. It just sounds like their mom is a bit restrictive with her cooking habits.

[@ErutaniaRose]

Damn. I just wanna scream "TAKE A NAP" and give more support systems. That's too much work for anyone.

[@TomboyGirl-n8r]

I think the trad wife style can be only acheivable for the rich people and the upper middle class only its like a fantasy and not practical although i think its crazy to depend on another person completly not only as a woman but as a human being in general

[@juliaboskamp9666]

It more like rich person playing dress-up as traditional I have super old family members that lived during those times and one of the thing they will say when i say finding work is hard, is that i should never ever be dependent on a man because that will ruin your life

[@TomboyGirl-n8r]

@@juliaboskamp9666 yes its like a game of cosplay to them ! And your family is absolutely right

[@deligeorgieva8535]

i think it's very important for the kids to have a closer touch with their parents, atleast one of them. being a trad wife is mainly because of that, one of the parents to spend more time and not make the kids feel left out. i'd say having both parents work til late night and be completely exhausted to talk to their children is a much, much worse way to organize the house

[@TomboyGirl-n8r]

@@deligeorgieva8535 both partners should be responsible for their kids together its not only the mom's rule

[@deligeorgieva8535]

@@TomboyGirl-n8r of course it's both partners. that's why we have stay at home dads as well. whoever makes more money is usually the one to go and work, the other person stays at home and cares for the kids

[@jello9739]

I saw the nara smith cereal video and just assumed it was satire 😭like more of a mocking tradwives than genuinely making cereal from scratch

[@angelasepe8978]

Of course the kids "absolutely devoured" that grilled cheese. They were already hungry and had to wait over 2 1/2 hours before being fed! I really hope I'm wrong and she asks them well in advance what they want. The problem with that is, most adults aren't going to know what to say to "What do you want for lunch" at 9AM, nevermind a couple of toddlers.

[@We_love_rice]

She has said she asked them in advance in a different vid

[@chanterelle483]

It's normal to ask kids a day in advance what they want to have for lunch. (Heck, it would even be normal to just make them whatever you want.) This kind of outrage over her content, I don't get.

[@silentfriend369]

I always knew what I'd like to eat. To be honest, I was a vacuum as a child. I'd eat anything like it was the best meal I'd ever had. Unless it had onion, garlic, or mushy cooked tomatoes or zucchini. Other than that, everything was delicious.

[@natalie022]

“Mom im hungry” *4 hours later* “here’s your cereal

[@3nchanted]

She dosent make her kids wait hours have u even seen her videos

[@Mir_Teiwaz]

My sister's kid would definitely NOT sit around patiently for like 3 hours to get food. She would be complaining the entire time!

[@xerofelix7090]

I'm sorry, but calling those mini cookies "cereal" is harmful all on its own. 🤣 Fr, when she was making the cheese, I expected her to make those kids wait 6 mos for their sandwiches! Lmao🤣

[@donteme-r2g]

damnnnn we're gatekeeping the definition of cereal now

[@miniz1038]

sounds like someone's never had cookie crisp before

[@Gnosasha]

She was making cookie crisps😭😭

[@xerofelix7090]

@user-vn2sy6fp1h Damn right we are! 🤣 Cookies are a dessert! Ceral is (by definition) a grain. *pulls out pitchfork

[@xerofelix7090]

@miniz1038 Dude, those are dessert maskerading as breakfast. Same goes for all those other kid "cereals." Lucky Charms (marshmellows in a box), cocoa puffs (chocolate in a box), frosted flakes (lit sugar in a box), etc...

[@kuckag5710]

What infurirates me most about the cerial video is that she makes only two servings. Making it in bulk would be so much more efficiant

[@camillebouchard9349]

Yes, that is a good sign that she only does this on videos. If she made everything including cereals it's unlikely she would make small batches

[@gabbyculley648]

For anyone curious why Nara had to convert to Mormonism to marry her husband, Mormons believe that you need to get married in a Mormon temple, if at all possible, to get to the highest level of heaven. And in order to get married in a Mormon temple, both parties have to be Mormon (and fairly devout as well). Sometimes Mormons will marry people of other faiths, but it's pretty uncommon, especially in heavily Mormon areas.

[@IvyTinwe]

I know someone whose biogical father wanted to marry a Mormon woman and had to denounce ever having sex. They were already born at that time, and it was accepted that he had a kid while saying "Oh yeah well I never had sex".

[@kimmcsharry4256]

I know of a few mixed-faith marriages between Mormons and another faith/non-believer. It's rare, but I'd say about 80% convert to Mormonism. I'm just pulling that statistic out my butt, but that's been my experience in Utah.

[@Katyloveheart]

Nara and lucky did not marry in a temple 😑

[@twilightwillowglade7214]

My best friend is Mormon and honestly I fear for her. Tradition is usually marry young, have lots of kids. Her parents are pushing her to date and stuff, but she doesn't want to, she just wants to focus on her life right now and I keep assuring her that it should be up to her to live her life, do what she wants to do

[@eevilauntie]

I call bs on any family kitchen being that clean and quiet unless there's an army of nannies and housekeepers working behind the scenes. Or maybe it's a home where kids aren't allowed to touch anything or sit on couches, which I've always thought is abuse

[@BrendaTheBuilder420]

No because I’m a stay at home partner my husband works full time and I take care of the house, not because we’re religious we’re very queer lmao. I DO cook from scratch for us 90% of the time mostly for our health, but I can not imagine flexing on people about having a full pantry in this state of the world but I DEF can’t imagine getting into full glam, recording, and posting videos of myself cooking for my family. I’m busy drinking wine and watching South Park while I cook LOL.

[@BrendaTheBuilder420]

ALSO to tag onto this now that I’m later in the video, I worked really hard multiple jobs at a time since I was 16 on top of being in school and being in an abusive marriage (this is my second), but I was still financially extorted and abused by my ex-wife leaving me penniless and refused to give me alimony so I’ve been on both sides of the situation. I’m grateful and extremely lucky that I’m in a situation now where I’m able to spend hours cooking if I want to because I’m encouraged by my partner to focus on my mental health and our household instead of burning myself out at a dead end job again, it’s a very privileged position to be in and not something that needs to be glamorized but maybe instead there needs to be a discussion around why this is so unattainable now and how we can change that.

[@DaisyDream_pers]

'getting into full glam' is a great way to put it. lol, who get's dressed up to make bread? It feels like that woman was trying really hard not to touch or get too close to the food so as not to mess up her dress/makeup/manicure.

[@BrendaTheBuilder420]

@@DaisyDream_pers I made raviolis from scratch yesterday in sweats, breaking out, hair in a bun and I still have flour under my acrylics 😂 just because I wanted us to have a nice meal, I can’t imagine the immense stress of trying to do that while pregnant and looking good - honestly good for her but I kind of feel bad for her?! 😭

[@bootyjudy9050]

You're so real for this

[@chanterelle483]

@@DaisyDream_pers My guess is, she actually has at least two assistants to make everything in the videos so "perfect."

[@TheDarwinProject1]

She clearly has a cleaner, nanny, & of course, a cook! Everything she's doing is just superfluous "hobby" cooking like hobby baking. Since she was likely wealthy before the marriage, they likely have a pre-nup & the tiktok business in her own name. Even as someone on disability, with all the time in the day & yet n ex one of the resources, (physical/emotional/cognitive) energy, or pain blocking ability to anything even resembling these tiktoks!

[@Shatterstar]

Why did she need to hire somebody to do all that? They're Mormon...her husband can just marry another woman to do all that. XD

[@Erundilme]

why isn't anyone talking about how her videos are obviously fake? not in the way that she doesn't cook what she says she cooks, but in the way they are framed. it is so ridiculous that I thought it was satire at first. it has to be conscious, right? she isn't actually trying to convince anyone that she made fricking mozzarella and butter before lunch, she just exaggerates for virality's sake, right? RIGHT?

[@Dahlily]

100%

[@idkthinkofsomething_0611]

She said herself that tiktok is another source of income for her and that she's not a "trad wife icon" when she's making a video she's working. People are honestly attacking this woman for no reason because people can't seem to comprehend that tiktok is not reality and was never meant to be for the most part

[@PGOuma]

​@@idkthinkofsomething_0611it's because the main demographic for TikTok are kids. I can't wait for certain bills to pass so that kids' accounts start getting deleted and people like this won't be talked about as much because people will see that it's just all for the bag

[@xxnekonekox]

Butter and mozzarella are actually very easy to make and you 100% could easily make them in the morning before lunch, mozzarella only takes like 30 min to make its the easiest and quickest cheese to make, and butter is the same, you just put it in the mixer if you have one and it does itself in also less than 30 min. You shouldn't call something out as fake just because you dont know how its made.

[@SethSinclair]

@@idkthinkofsomething_0611it’s funny bc this isn’t new, people did his back in the 50s, now it’s just on TikTok and more than one frame

[@ericgeneric135]

As a toddler, I never had my parents ask what I wanted to eat. I didn't realize that was even a thing any parents do!

[@ttintagel]

Same! We ate what was put in front of us, full stop.

[@FederalBurroOfInvestigation]

Same! It was just whatever they cooked. I thought that was normal.

[@garnet1223]

I probably wouldn't have anything to say if it was her just cooking. But her involvement with mormonizism/her being so young with so many kids.. I know what this is. Her content is the romantization of strict religious traditionalism.- & if the girls really knew what this lifestyle was like, no one would be a part of it. Especially if only rich people can live that way anyway. Its just much more likely an average person who is influenced by this will regret this.

[@KailarahAurual]

Please tell me I'm not the only one that cringed when she made the cereals while wearing those long, loose sleeves! Did that exactly one time, almost set my shirt on fire. Never again!

[@californiabound1319]

While I'm with y'all on a lot of things, it's not the doing everything from scratch part. German's perspective here: We very often make our own bread, cheese, pasta, pesto and making butter from scratch is one of my fondest childhood memories. My parents worked full time and still used to make a lot of stuff from scratch. So to be honest, it's more shocking how many people are shocked by her making stuff from scratch to me :D

[@Tati.Kurzboeck]

I wanted to comment almost the same. My husband is German, he's the same way and it's damn infectious 😂

[@mayasvalentine]

I totally agree with you. I think it’s because as Americans we’re so far removed from the food system that we don’t understand how easy it is to make so many things from scratch. We’re kind of taught you have to buy butter, bread , sour cream, etc. Not you can make all of these with basic ingredients because that would cut into the bottom line of the companies making all the unnecessary stuff and adding chemicals to it. I think a lot of Americans think cooking from scratch is a lot harder and more time consuming than it actually is. It’s also like the cheapest way to feed your family 😩

[@heartsteme8329]

Let's also talk about how crazy it is to have four kids in a household at 23. Most 23 yos can't even afford to live on their own, let alone with four kids. Either she's rich or her husband is much older and rich. It's not realistic for 99 percent of people. And you can NOT tell me they don't have a house keeper who cleans up after she's done baking her cheese sandwich or whatever.

[@rolfs2165]

Well, she's been a model since age 14, her husband has been a model since age 10, and they're Mormon (i.e. get put into high-paying jobs through church connections). Her husband is only 3 years older than her. Also, his mum and three sisters are all models, too. That family really must have won the genetic lottery.

[@oliviaants268]

SHES 23!? WTF I'm 23, I don't think she lives on the same planet as us

[@benjulesrun9057]

step one be filthy stinking rich

[@squidhands6941]

Do we know what her husband does for a living? I feel like they are so young also to be making so so much money

[@DanielaMartinez-wt6ir]

Sometimes I do fantasize of such life (no kids tho), being pampered and cooking looong meals but in the end is something that might be fixed with a couple of days off work. Nothing compares to the feel I had when I received my first check and could manage my own money without my family easily taking it away (we've had hard times in which my parents would take my money without my consent), two years into living on my own, I love the peace this independence allows me to experience

[@USSAnimeNCC-]

Why the solution is to got back to the 1950s or the idea of that women where better when they didn't work and just be housewife instead of demanding better pay and less working hours to have a livable wage or the wage they deserve aftet year of working at that place

[@Adrika_Sen2005]

This comment deserves to get pinned

[@rachael5025]

3 day work weeks!!

[@idkthinkofsomething_0611]

But that’s not what nara says in her videos, she is quite literally a black woman, I doubt she would want to go back to a time where it was taboo for her to marry her husband and have children let alone exist. Also black women weren’t known to be house wives

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Every time there is a hint of progressive change, one immediately sees the most regressive thing become suddenly fashionable. So, basically reactionary stuff.

[@charliesweb7071]

just from a practicality standpoint why isn’t she prepping bread and dough and stuff. are the kids not allowed snacks?

[@tommymayberry3800]

Can you do your own research because this video that this girl made is very weird

[@cricketandgraham8644]

@@tommymayberry3800 what do you mean?

[@tommymayberry3800]

@@cricketandgraham8644 she has multiple videos prepping meals I don't know why people think that she just makes things the day that her kids ask for them that's weird of course you probably ask them days in advance people act like she's starving her kids and that's weird

[@ttintagel]

I've seen so may parodies of this without realizing they were about one specific person. I had a hard tine watching the first vid because cooking in long, flowing sleeves like that is just asking for a disaster.

[@jennawhatmough3830]

I just want to take a second to realize how wealthy they must be. Like making all of that food from scratch is hella expensive

[@sophiastargazer]

Asking a small child what they want to eat and then making them wait HOURS until being able to deliver what was promised seems downright cruel. There's no way that child isn't going to become (rightfully) upset by that. Now obviously there's no way to know if she's actually as bad of a mother as she pretends to be, although I suspect that the whole "I asked my kids what they wanted and then made it" aspect of it all is completely fake, but putting what she does out into the world and making it seem like it's relatable is still extremely entitled and arrogant, not just the cooking on its own, but also doing it while looking like you're on a date night out. It's neither normal nor sensible or practical. Roll up your sleeves, ma'am. Also, where are her kids while she does all of the cooking and getting ready for filming and editing together the content? There's no way she doesn't have help around the house.

[@Dahlily]

I think its pretty obviously performative. She's not making cereal every morning and im sure shes not waiting for actual requests to film her videos. But i agree, i dobt love the image shes selling and i suspect many people take her content way too seriously

[@sophiastargazer]

@@Dahlilyyou're right, I just find it baffling how she presents this fantasy she's selling. It very obviously wouldn't make any damn sense to operate the way she portrays herself doing.

[@matthewcaldwell8100]

@@sophiastargazer Well, the solution is simple. She's an idiot grifting off of her image.

[@kaitlynispanickingatthedis3606]

i understand your comment but if your kid can’t wait 30 min to an. hour for a meal then maybe your parenting skills need some help. Life’s about waiting . It won’t kill you

[@matthewcaldwell8100]

@@kaitlynispanickingatthedis3606 Does that look like a 30 minute process to you?

[@sumatrannos]

that poor lady had to work years and years with a guy for over 20+ something and didn't get even a bank account and basically wasted her many years for nothing and got nothing out from it and she couldn´t get a degree and etc is making me so mad and sad for her like wtf

[@yurap7923]

my question is- even if you want things to be made from scratch- why don’t you just make things in bulk so you dont have to have your kids wait HOURS to eat?

[@clem3nt1n3]

just wanted to say i love love LOVE the subtitles!! im not hard of hearing, but i do have trouble just understanding people sometimes, especially since i have tinnitus, and the subtitles are just so so helpful. love you savannah! keep doing what you're doing, i'll always be a loyal subscriber

[@mirrorgirl3018]

This is what I call lobotomy core.

[@matissimoj1190]

"Mom, I'm hungry, can you make us something to eat?" "Sure honey, give me 5 hours"

[@Matty002]

i think its crazy that people believe this. 'i make my kids breakfast from scratch' by the time they ate it would be lunch time and no toddler is patiently waiting for food

[@katehansen9715]

everytime i click on one of ur vids i physically and subconciously relax. The way you talk and the topics you cover make me feel like the world is gonna be okay!!!! Thank you for the safe space

[@eli-aleth]

I am disabled person, and I am dependent to my partner, but we've talked about of this very openly. We have plans if stuff goes wrong. And I am studying to become a developer, because I cannot do anymore my old job lol. So yeah! Find your little ways to be independent, and don't be shy to talk about it, you are important, your ability to survive if things go wrong is important!!

[@Itri_Vega]

Nara should also show the other side of the coin. The amount that toddlers can puke. Soiled diapers. Catching every stomach bug because they do. Your body being drained and worn out from three pregnancies. The tantrums. Ah no, she won't, because she is not the one dealing with any of it and can afford a nanny.

[@AestheticaWolf]

I don't think everyone is wistfully envying her. I find her infuriating. Seriously, thinks she is perfect but is so disconnected. Their kids names make me feel like they need help. Rumble? She listed new baby names including Bubble. WTF. I also feel like people that have their hands full such as single moms etc, won't all have a positive / dreamy reaction to this.

[@Dahlily]

Yeah, me too. I'm not a mom nor do i aspire to be one, and i def dont envy her lifestyle or at least the lifestyle she portrays (superpregnant and tired but making meals for her husband and kids). I think im mostly annoyed with the performative way she romantisizes being a mom, i just dont vibe with the obvsly made up stories of "this morning" and the full glam makeup, clean girl aesthetic. And the kids names had me rolling on the floor. So out of touch.

[@VideosForYou90]

Agree!

[@NettylSpryngs]

Thank God, a new qiwi video 😭😭

[@alexisskelly4073]

This is the highlight of my week 😅

[@anarchy_iter]

The way i felt my soul leave my body and it zooming back to 2018 when you said the name "Lucky Blue Smith" I had no idea that he is mormon and I had no idea that he is married now I only ever knew him from wattpad book covers

[@kaitlynlehman7414]

As a older sister and god mother: i can confirm no kid would wait this long for food. She is absolutely doing all this homemade cooking for clout

[@juliaboskamp9666]

Yeah i work with kids that are her kids age and they usaly just grabbed the sandwich you are making for them away from you. Because they think you take to long, and we don't make bread, pickels, cheese and peanutbutter like she does we just buy it from the supermarket like all non-rich people do

[@idkthinkofsomething_0611]

So? She’s a model and influencer. “Clout” it’s literally her job to

[@IAmContemporary]

It’s super wild for people to promote this lifestyle, especially when there’s a missionary-like motive behind it. But I also have to wonder how we’ve managed to create a society where people even _can_ be influenced by stuff like this. My parents really focused on teaching me that stuff on TV/in magazines is rarely 100% truthful and that while it can be inspirational, I shouldn’t compare (visible) results if the circumstances aren’t comparable to my own. It’s always been obvious to me that I can’t live a million dollar celebrity lifestyle on a ramen budget, so I didn’t feel bad about not being ripped, having hours each day to journal, make my own green juice or whatever the fad was at the time. The influencers have a responsibility to not be maliciously deceptive, but I think we also have a responsibility to be informed media consumers and not let ourselves be bamboozled so easily.

[@AshleyWeill]

She doesn’t just have leftover bread and cheese from the day before?

[@juliaboskamp9666]

It's a rich person playing dress-up i won't be surprised if she throws away the leftovers

[@miaestella6572]

@@juliaboskamp9666you’re so real for that

[@jade.n5556]

She literally says that she makes for the week only, so she doesn’t waste and her family like to try different recipe. It’s crazy how a black woman gets hate for literally being a mother

[@abdcefg123333333]

One of the things about her that irritates me the most is that I don’t see a lot of people talk about is that she’s heavily pregnant in these videos 😭 I’m pregnant right now and I can’t stand on my feet for more than 10 mins without back and leg/foot pain, swelling, etc. I couldn’t imagine doing it for hours a day to cook everything from scratch. Her videos are just so incredibly unrealistic 😭

[@jmarshal]

I’m glad people like you cover these things because I absolutely do not want to be bothered watching this rubbish and other stuff on TikTok, but don’t like being left out of the joke.

[@fishtick]

someone told me i looked like nara smith but with piercings and even though this woman terrifies me, i was and still am quite flattered by the comparison bc they arent entirely wrong 😭

[@ariw9405]

I’ve always told me daughter you must have a plan B. This isn’t because men suck or your marriage will fail but hello what happens if your husband drops dead unexpectedly? You should have a back up plan for a number of reasons but death is a real possibility.

[@alex.r.891]

Does she never have leftovers or store any of the stuff she makes?

[@juliaboskamp9666]

She is rich it's won't surprise me if she throws away the leftovers

[@ahmadalimi9784]

She shows leftover ingredients in her videos

[@altowitch4750]

I grew up in a slightly more progressive Mormon church than most, so most of the mothers in my church were teachers. When I said I wanted to go to college to be a doctor the Bishop looked 12 yr old me in the eye and said I could choose between being a teacher and a nurse. Because if I was a nurse or teacher I could work at the church and be prepared for when I have my own kids. They get you young and promise you will be taken care of, as long as you follow the rules. Don’t worry about your future, God has it planned out for you. Don’t question the men in your life, they will bring you to salvation.

[@catherineshaw3462]

Let me guess: Then when your husband abandons you, it's all your own fault and there's nothing in the way of financial or practical support from the people who persuaded you to put yourself in that dependent situation in the first place? (Basing this on the tiktok of the poor woman whose ex left his high-paying job so he wouldn't have to pay alimony.)

[@BooklikesBFDI]

Was just sobbing but qiwi posted so now I'm happy!!

[@kokosowek]

You good now? Or better at least?

[@sleepygyro]

I don’t think a toddler’s pallet is developed enough to like that kind of grilled cheese

[@vainpiers]

Honestly, I'd be disappointed as an adult if someone made that for me. Although if they made me welsh rabbit that would be a different story.

[@ttintagel]

It depends on what they're used to eating. If that's the only kind of grilled cheese they've ever had, of course they'll like it.

[@claratalbot7613]

Being able to be independent is a must for people even if ur ideal life is being a stay at home parent. U need to at least have some job experience, means of transportation, & some money as even if u don't end up divorced there are situations such as if ur spouse passes away & now ur left all alone. If u've spent ur entire life being looked after & have never needed to do things for yourself, ur going to have a hard time finding a job, a place to live, & be overwhelmed with how to take care of urself which can lead to ending up rushing into a potentially abusive relationship with someone because ur used to being dependent on others to look after u

[@arvayahrozier4402]

This is unsettling to say the least. This feels like what AI would generate if you put in the key words "pregnant" "luxury" "cooking" and "homemade" into it. It's giving uncanny valley and her monotone, lifeless, ASMR voice only makes it worse.😬

[@nikkichavez8418]

I think that’s what annoys me. I just can’t stand her voice. It does sound like a robot is talking to me. I also worry that young girls will think this is real. That they don’t understand only wealthy people can have access to this kind of lifestyle.

[@ahmadalimi9784]

​@@nikkichavez8418it's just her life she's not asserting that any other life is bad she is just showcasing hers

[@nikkichavez8418]

@@ahmadalimi9784 Yes that is true but she is an influencer. It's her job to influence the young and impressional. They might get into a situation that happens time and time again. Where they rely on another person for their financial indepedance. Which is very dangerous because it makes it difficult to leave.

[@ahmadalimi9784]

@nikkichavez8418 she is an influencer certainly but other people still have their own autonomy. She cannot be expected and should not be expected to change her life or try to portray it as negative just for the benefit of others. Furthermore, in her case she does not solely rely on lucky for her finances, aside from the money she gets from her videos she is also, and has been since she was 14, a model.

[@arvayahrozier4402]

@@ahmadalimi9784 I never said anything about luck, her finances, or how she has gained her success. I'm just saying that this is creepy.

[@blingmoney]

I have a feeling she doesn't show cleaning because they seem rich enough to just have maids clean everything, I have made everything she did in the videos before (besides the tiny cookies) and even when I was unemployed with all the time in the world I ended up eating hours later than when I started. those toddlers won't even remember asking for food by the time they eat lol

[@claratalbot7613]

I love making food from scratch, particularly baked goods when I have the time, which is the issue for a lot of people. You have to have the right ingredients on hand & the time needed to make the item you want & that's just for yourself. if ur cooking for others, u have to not only have the ingredients & time but also have to take into consideration allergies, preferences, and medical conditions. Like, what if ur child brings one of their friends or you a friend over & they're diabetic? Are they going to have to wait for hours for something to eat? Also, I'm guessing their kids are homeschooled, but even if they weren't, I have never known most adults, let alone kids who are willing to wait hours for their meals. The only time I've seen where adults are willing to wait is a fancy restaurant which in some cases can have insane wait times for the order but those places also offer free bread & drinks to hold people over while waiting for food. Is this lady offering her kids anything to hold them over or just expecting them to wait hours for their food?

[@leannabee1282]

What makes her a trad wife. I don’t think she claims in any of her content that she is a trad wife. She doesn’t act like a trad wife.. I mean she has a job as a model. Trad wife’s aren’t supposed to have jobs. Trad wife’s are supposed to work in the home in your video you even say her content has nothing to do with actually doing work in the home aside from cooking things from scratch so how is she being lumped into trad wife TikTok

[@NachtKaiser666]

The irony of all this is a lot of real trad wives back in the days were depressed alcoholics. They had nothing to live for but to make sure the house is presentable for your husband and have his meal ready for when he comes home. Personally, not for me. Guess I'm just too ambitious for that. Then again I don't want to get married or have kids, so I'm not the target audience 😅

[@AngryAnurognathus]

The good looks really damn good and I agree with the thick slices of bread thing (bread is love, bread is life) but I can barely cook something that only takes about 25 minutes or so without complaining to myself

[@margonaut]

Not pictured: all the domestic help she has.

[@ttintagel]

Yeah, homemaking is a valid job if it's what both partners really want, but anyone getting into that situation needs to realize that there is zero job security. And anyone who thinks that alimony and child support are a safety net you can rely on should be aware that LOTS of men are very clever at getting away without paying. That lady who had to live in her car was in a very similar situation to my mother.

[@TheLurkerFox]

TBH, my major complaint is that she allegedly, according to herself, makes this stuff when her kids ask for it... All of those tasks take at least an hour to several hours... Like Girliepop, this needs to all be prepared in advance to pull out whenever needed... Like a weekend long food prep for the week... Like if she isn't literally doing this right as her kids ask, then maybe she should word it as "My kids LOVE homemade grilled cheese, so I am preparing this mozzarella and bread, coz I know my kiddos will ask for this during the week!" or something- The other thing - yea, the whole quitting an entire career for a man and living rich and being entirely tone-deaf is also a big stinking issue. And the religious brainwashing

[@valren1073]

I don't think she even really is the one who actually cooks. Im betting she has professional chefs, that are making all that food or their actual meals in the background.

[@availanila]

I regularly make our local flat bread (much easier than what she made) and cheese and pretty much my region's version of everything she's making and have been for much longer than her (I'm a decade older and have been cooking since 13). Proof she isn't even cooking in the videos: - no way would her dress be that pristine - long sleeves?? - such small amounts?? - she's not putting any "elbow grease" into her cooking, seriously my toddler nephews cook like her 😂. - those hands and nails are not a cook's and I do my nails and take care of my hands. - and doing all that _that_ pregnant? Oh hell no even just chronically ill and disabled but I couldn't even at my healthiest times and I'm not lazy.

[@ahmadalimi9784]

​@@availanilashe's dressing for videos and doesn't cook complex meals all the time. She also go out for fast food when she doesn't want to cook, nothing she does is impossible

[@qryptid]

Nara Smith isnt a tradwife, shes a model. I agree tradwives are needlessly romanticizing a very stressful lifestyle, but Nara just isn't one of them.

[@larkenberg]

this probably sounds so mean but she seems so pretentious and just makes me so mad for no reason 😭

[@VideosForYou90]

Same tbh

[@marthafrancois-fo6nm]

Cause your jealous just admit it to yourself. You wish you could do some of the things she does.

[@larkenberg]

@@marthafrancois-fo6nm I really don’t! I don’t want her lifestyle at all, and I just don’t like her…

[@faithkincaid]

@@larkenbergi mean i’ve watched her a lot and she doesn’t.. what exactly don’t u like about her? so i can see from ur pov.

[@larkenberg]

@@faithkincaid I dont even really have a reason she just gives me mean girl vibes 😭😭

[@bobbel3474]

If she has enough money to live like that i dont see a problem. Ofcouse its a bit wierd and tedious to make cerial from scrach, but its good that she has a passion. Everyone gets jelous of rich people. I wish i could live like that, but most people have to work. Its not her fault, the problem is how society overworks and underpays people.

[@SpecSolve]

I think it's just as much glamorizing trad wives for guys seeing a clean house and meals from scratch

[@ElRealPetChicken]

financial independence is very important for women, it will keep you from staying in abusive relationships.

[@jasonellis4330]

I don't think its inherently harmful content on its own, but the way its framed in context is

[@rebekahcalabro7064]

people are acting like the kids are starving for hours while she makes the food. but imo there's no way the food she makes on camera is what her kids actually asked for. like it's a setup right? she probably just makes what she wants to make that day and says her kids asked for it so it doesn't seem like she's wasting time for content. but what do i know

[@little_jennif]

i saw the grilled cheese video on my FYP and thought it was satire lmao

[@CelestialHart]

I'm pretty sure if someone handed me a grilled cheese full of green shit when I was a toddler I would have thrown a tantrum. I know for damn sure I've never liked pesto. But why do I get the feeling they have a nanny/housekeeper because she seems to have a lot of extra time for someone with kids.

[@olderarchive]

Nara has said that she and Lucky aren't devout Mormons and are figuring out their faith and if they even want to follow it and she has also stated she makes food from scratch because of her sever eczema flaring up from food and it's calmer when she makes it herself. AND She has stated that she asked the kids in advance so there's no waiting on the food. The hate on her is crazy.

[@Sweetlyketchup]

I think that the hate against her is extremely stupid. She’s explained many times why she does this and if you use context clues it’s not hard to understand why she does this. Y’all act like she’s gonna cook like this everyday. It’s content but at the same time she’s feeling her family. YALL argue that she always has on full glam, maybe she just wants to feel nice? She’s explained she makes these things from scratch because she had really bad eczema and her kids eat what she eats. The story’s she uses are probably fake but she’s not trying to force her beliefs onto you and make you think you gotta make cheese and butter from scratch. She barely talks about her religion. Also she was born outside of the United States and I’m sure this is normal where she’s from and probably what she grew up with. She is also a model. YALL gotta use some context clues before you accuse this woman of dumb stuff.

[@aduckofsomesort]

This isn’t a trad wife. Y’all need to stop calling her that. She isn’t par of that propaganda.

[@aduckofsomesort]

8:51 this exactly is why she is not a trad wife. And she has a career. This whole video is showing her career.

[@m.z1256]

she is far away from being a trab wife

[@dannikris3696]

I've seen her say that she preps for the week. The videos of her cooking from scratch are definitely for the views only, I don't think the kids are waiting hours for cereal lol TikTok is not real life, we see what people want us to see. I love her recipes, I think she's a badass mom. Also, Lucky cooks too lol she doesnt glorify being a "trad wife". She has videos of her severe eczema, that is why she cooks from scratch.

[@j.latvala5859]

I’m someone who loves cooking and baking but even I wouldn’t make cereals from scratch 😂

[@Those_2_Aussies]

I’m new to your channel and I automatically subbed because of the Skz plushies in the back

[@iwannameddllouide]

Well my granny did bread by herself and when it was done and was warm it was yummm

[@rolfs2165]

12:32 "The sales associates were trying so hard to help me just make a decision." I mean, that's their job, no? Help you make a decision (or pressure you into making one) so you leave the shop with a sale.

[@deliahanne]

The way these husbands get to control their wife's life is the same reason why out grandparents' generation couldn't get divorced (even if the relationship was abusive or toxic). They would have been without income, home, qualifications... My heart hurts for the woman who was opening up about it. Also... Many families couldn't even live (comfortably or at all) off of one income alone. Having financial security at that age (or ever) is a thing of luck and obviously not doable for everyone.

[@idkthinkofsomething_0611]

One thing that really upsets me is that Nara has said herself that she's not a "trad wife icon" she makes the tiktok videos she makes specifically for tiktok. Like she's aspirational not realistic literally on purpose. Tiktok is another form of income for her.

[@Katyloveheart]

I know ryt, she even said she is not full Mormon but these people want to push their own opinions on her

[@user-wi3yx3gy2o]

Toddler asks for grilled cheese gets queso fresco pesto panini on homemade bread with homemade quest fresco and homemade pesto. Comedy gold right there.

[@charliewatts7577]

if she was pushing her religion more id get it but personally i don't see the problem with her sharing her cooking and days? staying at home as a parent is a valid decision and isn't lesser than any other decision

[@charliewatts7577]

everyone glamorises their life on social media so why is this so much worse?

[@alexthedepressedgremlin8196]

earliest ive been to one of ur vids!

[@nerdysread8182]

They are not trad wives. They are influencers

[@gloomy_glamour]

Anyone else realize that she lowkey sounds like shes about to cry? Lol

[@PokhrajRoy.]

13:26 This whole situation reminds me of ‘Bridesmaids’ and the dynamics between the characters played by Kristen Wiig and Rose Byrne.

[@nishoku1722]

but shes just a model, not even a trade wifte

[@aceteaaa2459]

Honestly I don't see why people are so pressed on Nara smith, yes she does "sell" a lifestyle but isn't every influencer doing that ? Like going on fancy trip, being your own boss, even all of the prioritise your mental health or like glowing up isn't realistically doable for most people. I don't know how she film her video but I assume she just meal prep. She cook mozzarella from scratch but still use store brought parmesan for her recipe because she can't wait years for the cheese to age. Like yall, it's obvious that she doesn't wait hours to eat or feed her kids, especially if she's pregnant. She's all put together for her pictures but probably doesn't dress up everyday, I think since she's a model she just like her feed to be aesthetic, she's not gonna show herself throwing up or changing diapers. Maybe I'm missing something but I don't feel like Nara is any worse than any influencer, I don't get the hate. She's not like pearl or girl defined trying to push anyone into harmful stereotypes ( maybe like subliminally but she doesn't even fit in trad wife, nara has a career, since she's a model, so her skin is out too, I saw a video of her husband cook, that's bare minimum but she doesn't take care of all the chores on her own from what I've seen ). She's just like barbie lmao, baker, model, business woman, ken on the side

[@tarredion]

It’s not just ‘selling the lifestyle’, it’s because she actually isn’t that it’s upsetting. She’s Pretending to sell a lifestyle. Most influencers who are really rich and showing off are actually selling the lifestyle. It’s when they start to say “I only did x to get this, follow my course to do exactly what I did” when it also starts becoming a problem, because they’re now making money off people wanting to be famous, not actually from the part they’re teaching them about. Similar with Nara, she’s trying to say she’s just a traditional, stay at home mom, but obviously her work is internet and modeling etc. and yeah you might say it’s fine for her to not discuss that, but it genuinely twists the whole thing into something attainable and financially stable, when most stay at home moms in traditional households are either on the breadline, or their husbands have all the money and they are being possibly financially abused. I know of ‘stay at home’ people who acknowledge their internet job and making money from it too, so it’s not like it would be completely impossible for her to acknowledge it. But her job isn’t to be honest and just influence, it’s to spread propaganda, no matter how intentional. Because with Nara, there’s the additional layer of the religious aspect. As someone else already pointed out in the comment section, being mormon and an influences is impossible to divorce from one another. It is missionary work in a way. And so her promoting the traditional lifestyle which is so interconnected with the mormon beliefs, even if she never says it out loud, is still just propogation for the subjugation of women (no, genuinely, that’s where it originally comes from. Not all stay at home people will follow it for that reason, but in traditional households it’s very obviously tied to the roles of a woman (or lack of autonomy rather) which Nara actually does influence w). And that is also the problem. No matter how subtle or invisible, Nara is promoting a lifestyle she isn’t actually living, being completely ignorant to how this looks, or worse, completely aware what kind of unattainable message she’s sending - along w the religious/patriarchal one. Is this a problem w just Nara? No, of course not, but she’s in the lime light now in part because she’s so nonchalant and weird about it, and because a lot of bigger KZbinrs have actually started to kinda defend her (mostly progressive men but we don’t need to get into that) because they don’t understand the context behind it w religion and stuff. Sorry about the long comment 😅but I felt it was important to say

[@tarredion]

And it’s fine if you disagree!! Not trying to lecture you or anything, just put forward a different viewpoint that might answer some or any of your qs Have seen a lot of ex Mormons talk about this issue, and previously too, before Nara It’s hard to miss the subtlety and it’s not always true but in America especially it’s already on the rise to do this (never seen a local Swedish influencer pretend this much, nor even being a stay at home mum, I don’t think. There’s a reason people are trying to make it a more attainable (rather, attractive!) lifestyle in the us specifically)

[@aceteaaa2459]

@@tarredion I completely understand the issue of pushing people towards an unattainable lifestyle but I just really don't see how Nara is worst than other influencer ? Mormon religion isn't practiced where I live ( or at least it's not popular ) so I most likely don't understand the extent but I don't think religion is bad ? Or talking about it either ? And most of her videos don't even bring the subject. I think it's also a question of pov but buying pre made food is also a privilege in itself. A lot of people outside of the western world, don't have access to like industrial food. Doing homemade food isn't anything out of the ordinary for a lot of people and I'd say a big majority of the world. Everyone has their own struggle. I think it's important for anyone to have autonomy of their life and housewife/tradwife that are put in a dangerous situation by their beliefs is something that needs to be talked about. But that works for any situations, for exemple you can look at math lessons online but a lot of people in the world still don't have access to education or even internet. Or for exemple there this thing of gen z "silent quitting" but a lot of people can't afford to be jobless even if it's taking a toll on their mental health. That's a reality, that we need to acknowledge and change. Maybe I'm just mixing things up but I don't see why Nara out of all the people is targeted. You can apply this logic to basically anything online. A workout video, seeing a therapist, speaking multiple languages, wearing nice clothes, having hobbies... that's a lot of things that doesn't apply to a lot of people. I do get that people can get envious of her life and try to reach a similar lifestyle but that can be applied to a lot of things. For example if you want to do a certain job, you have expectations for it, so you try to reach that goal and study but there's always a chance that you won't reach it or that it's not the right thing for you at the end. Even outside of social media people can be influenced to do things that could lead them to a bad situation. It's important to speak up for those stay at home wifes who are in a dangerous place but I don't think dumping it on Nara smith is any use. Especially since she doesn't fit stay at home wife and she show it openly on her socials. I think having people like the redpill content or conservative influencer that say things like "women shouldn't vote" "women need to shut up and be submissive to their husband" is dangerous but from what I've seen Nara doesn't fit in that place, she's an independent woman. Again maybe I'm missing something but while I'm not a fan and I don't follow her or anything but I think it's kind of nice to have a mixed woman thriving. I'm jumping from a subject to another sorry but I'm going to compare her to Rihanna or Tyla since she's a succesful light skin girl ( different scale, different story obviously, they're not similar ). At 22 she's a model, live abroad, got a family, nice income, manage her social media and all. Like don't see how she's promoting a trad life, she just cook for a family but she doesn't dress modestly ( just a clean girl vibe ) her tummy is out, her cleavage is out. Her husband had a divorce previously ( or child outside of marriage idk ), he does help around the house to raise the kids from what we see, she got an unconventional job, she's young, she's an immigrate. I don't think linking her to trad content is fair because they would litteraly hate her and what she actually represent

[@JosieKay15]

I died of hunger waiting for the grilled cheese to get made

[@Rogue-bt4wp]

I've never heard if either of these ppl. I'm pretty sure that they have a maid and a nanny and its most likely why shes able to cook all her meals by scratch.

[@l0rf]

I am just imagining how horribly annoying those sleeves have to be while you're working on food. You'd be dragging them over the trays the whole time.

[@mochixxnie]

very unrelated but the way i didnt notice the skzoo plushies till the end😭😭

[@dalesampson2662]

These kids are gonna have so much food trauma. I got enough shit for not clearing my plate as a kid, and my parents didn't spend 3 hours preparing each meal.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

12:14 Nothing like the diamond noose of consumerism

[@niki_0107]

am I the only one who prefers the working lifestyle with less downtime? I need to feel productive, like I'm accomplishing things, and I get bored easily when I have too much freetime despite having more hobbies than I can count when I see these videos, I'm not jealous at all, I think "thank god I have better things to do than cook all day" 💀

[@niki_0107]

I'm currently at university trying to get my dream degree, doing my best despite being chronically ill (both mentally and physically), and I never plan to get married. I dream of a successful career in a field I'm passionate about, and I want to be independent, never marrying and probably living alone (I could imagine a platonic life partner, but that's it).

[@PanRiddle1]

I am so sorry for the experience the woman had that worked her a** off for 26 years for a man who literally held her in that position!.. she never got the chance to build a livable future for herself and her kids, she never got any recognition nor compensation and now she's stuck struggling to live on her own.. Life Stories like these are terrible and what makes me so angry about it is that there are people out there (no matter the gender btw) that are deliberately feeding off good-natured people who have a strong sense of solidarity and compassion.