The Most Toxic Person In The Workplace - by Simon Sinek

[@matthewbacque1622]

People don't quit jobs, they quit bosses.

[@kobe3576]

No. I quit my job, but I would stay there just for my boss. 👍

[@klowen7778]

Yep, or else they quit environments where the workers don't even matter, and the 'leaders' can barely trust _each other._

[@atikameg73]

@@kobe3576 Me, too. My boss is a tough-as-nails man who has never backed down from anything. But he had tears in his eyes for a full half hour when I met with him about probably having to move on. Although he highly values me as a person and as an employee, my role is not valued by the organization at large.

[@kevenpinder7025]

I worked at the same company for 28 years. My bosses were almost always good to excellent. I got an a'hole once and requested a transfer, right about the time that shift group went to pieces. With 90 days left to retirement, I pulled the plug early because they brought in an a'hole who forced my good boss to become insufferable. Sorry to leave my good boss hanging, but I was unwilling to jump through all the hoops that were being demanded and unprepared to start being insubordinate. Hasta la pasta.

[@bmxcommentator]

Absolutely correct. I work for an absolute ass-hat, and he is the sole reason I'm working to be out of the door at the first opportunity.

[@tamarathejudeochristianmedium]

I’ve noticed many trustworthy leaders get taken advantaged of nowadays and most end up leaving groups and working for themselves.

[@muziklvr7776]

Working for yourself is the only way to get ahead and make the best use of your efforts.

[@abbaszaidi8371]

Guess what I’ve just done? I’ve resigned and I’m feeling better already

[@tamarathejudeochristianmedium]

@@abbaszaidi8371 🥳

[@muziklvr7776]

@@abbaszaidi8371 Congrats on a fresh new start.

[@patrickhanson712]

Exactly.

[@firsttenor76]

This is exactly why I haven't worked for a company or corporation for over 12 years, and have worked for myself as a private contractor since. Having climbed the corporate ladder for about 10 years, got so tired of the drama and having to deal with "that one guy" every place I've worked. I am a people person, but above and beyond that, I'm a person that appreciates honor, trustworthiness, respect, and positivity.

[@Antonocon]

I've done the exact same thing. I even moved continents as I think it's throughout the society I was in. I now am in an extremely independent role doing a job I really really like. Much lower pay, the quality of my life has risen, at a minimum, a thousandfold. Toxicity is rewarded in most places in the west.

[@deantener5168]

Dude, you just said "a mouthful". Every job I had... there was "that one guy" who managed to ruin everything, How that person was promoted remains a mystery.

[@imthemanPlay]

@@deantener5168 middle management isn't there because they are smart its because they love to control their underlings. its a top down thing the executives get "pitbulls" as managers so the individual contributors never question them

[@Mantelar]

As a reformed asshole, I think one thing we don’t talk about out enough is people still have a lot of growing to do, all the way into their 40’s. For some reason, as soon as I started getting put in charge of people I realized fast how awful the guys like me were…young, full of energy, angry at all the things they couldn’t change. Those guys can go far but need close supervision so that they can grow without terrorizing their subordinates…and if it turns out selfishness or dishonesty are just their basic character traits, you’ll figure it out pretty quick and find a way to get rid of them. What is trust? It really comes down to character and you can only learn that by actually watching them do things over time. Another way of looking at this video is it isn’t just about whether the thing gets done, but how, that matters. And that’s the “over time” part. I don’t know if that makes sense. But it boils down to VPs taking a real interest in their managers. And that rarely happens because they view them as a threat…because they’re all assholes…key is finding the unreformable ones and getting rid of them. They are the real threat because of the damage they’re guaranteed to do to the company over time. The other guys can be coached out of it. This is why 85% of management and VP jobs are sourced outside the HR resume process. If one of your VPs knows a guy and trusts them…and you can confirm it…well, holy shit, you just struck gold.

[@DiegueCR]

@@deantener5168 happened to me every time. One time "That one guy" even seriously messed up and still got to keep his job and be promoted.

[@nickesposito3497]

This is incredibly profound and relevant. Nothing drives off good workers faster than bad managers

[@nickesposito3497]

@Ten too people that trust the untrustworthy only do so because they have been deceived. Honest people can unfortnately be distrusted because some can't handle the truth they speak, so they aren't popular or liked and in turn not trusted. Also, honest people tend to be ethical so they would choose to be more loyal to their principles or an institution than to an other. Goes against our nature to trust somebody who's loyalties lie elsewhere.

[@nickesposito3497]

@Ten too idk about all that, maybe it's true but definitely interesting.

[@matthewstewart5113]

Toxic leaders want the best for themselves at the cost of others. They are always thinking there is something next to achieve. Great leadership wants the best for all, for that person lives in the moment.

[@Rendell001]

Scarily enough, the place I worked previously actually got some great natural leaders through the door... and within a short time got them to leave again. It's like they head-hunted these people to come in and get results but then got scared when they weren't sycophants who were prepared to compromise themselves simply to flatter the insecure CEO. How on earth that place is still running I have no idea...

[@matthewstewart5113]

@@Rendell001 change is constant.

[@Rendell001]

@@matthewstewart5113 You could say that... It caused the death of my line manager. In the office.

[@matthewstewart5113]

@@Rendell001 I would suggest getting into contact with a counselor to talk about this situation of yours. It seems to be on your mind . Good day sir.

[@vaseemsayyed2043]

@@matthewstewart5113 I am going through a very similar experience at this time. I am being harassed just because I pointed that their performance evaluation approach is incorrect. Moreover, the leader that we are dealing with takes the entire credit and blames the opportunity areas towards the team.

[@theAntwon24]

At the end when he says you better keep that person on your team is usually the type that flees the toxicity

[@mahmad838]

Please help me understand

[@98luk45]

​@@mahmad838 Because people usually gang up on the high performer. Most people are trash and tend to get jealous over things that are irrelevant. They will work together to sabotage the high performer so that they can put themselves on top.

[@Excelsiorr]

Unfortunately that's true. those people are usually the first ones to leave

[@mikidou99]

​@@mahmad838 Hi M Ahmad, My interpretation of the comment was that good people who you can trust will usually not be able to handle being in a toxic environment with a toxic boss and will have left way before the company as a whole realizes there is a problem. If they didn't take care of their people it might be too late. New good people will spot everything right away and not stay.

[@henryfitzgerald4965]

@@mikidou99 Yes! This is the correct meaning of Zach Engel’s comment. Thank you.

[@rhinoragni8349]

In looking for people to hire, you look for three qualities: integrity, intelligence, and energy. But if they don't have the first, the other two will kill you. - Warren Buffett

[@RoseUnseen]

anybody will believe anything on the internet - buffet

[@firstlookpro7282]

@@RoseUnseen He actually did say that....

[@zachhawkins5005]

Kurt Angle

[@a_diamond]

Too bad so many people are so bad at telling who is who..

[@a_diamond]

@@RoseUnseen lmao

[@a7dv7en7t]

I was so toxic when I got promoted in my first job. I was awesome as an hourly so I thought I would be awesome as a supervisor. I acted so aggressively, micromanaging everyone due to lack of trust, and giving the wrong answer because I couldn't say, "I don't know. " I realized it was because I was very insecure! By the grace of God a switch was flipped and I realized it was okay to ask my employees to teach me about the job too. It's a much better to subordinate your ego and trust others. Give credit to everyone else when you do a good job. Just as the truth will come out when you take credit for everything, the truth will also come out when you're humble and give credit to everyone else too. 😊

[@Excelsiorr]

Thank you very much for sharing your experience. Very insightful

[@basicems24]

One of the greatest lessons I learned to be a good leader is to tell someone "I don't know. Let's go figure it out together so then we'll both know".

[@theatomic430]

Peter principle.

[@imthemanPlay]

be glad that you realized that this is not a good way to treat others. sounds like you learned a lot God Bless!

[@ValkyricValfrious]

A boss tells others how to work, a leader shows them how its done. The real leaders were seen as threats and removed, the only ones left are these soft playdough men that bend and fold just to survive.

[@Manny123-y3j]

I've actually thought about this a lot. It is actually very common for conniving, horrible people to climb the ranks and end up in positions of power, sometimes even if they are low-medium performers. They use false charisma and manipulation to get their way and to make themselves look good. I worked under someone like that for 6 years. On paper, she's amazing, but in reality, she's nearly dead weight, unstable, and flat out hated by almost every person who knows her. Turnover rate was HIGH, and people would talk openly (when she wasn't around) about how awful she was. And yet she continues to get power increases. The system is seriously messed up.

[@fmcg5364]

I worked with two people like that when I worked at a company supporting the US Navy, one was lazy and the other one was incompetent but they got ahead kissing our manager's butt

[@jenniferhiemstra5228]

Look up the Peter Principle. This explains why this happens so damn often. Toxicity certainly is a large part of it, but it also has to do with skill and position mismatch. You climb the work ladder but then plateau somewhere on that ladder because at some point, you natural skill set doesn't match what the position really needs. Really, look this up it's super illuminating.

[@jmfs3497]

@@fmcg5364 Same thing happened to me but in academic IT support. One guy was lazy, but you could always avoid working with him UNTIL an incompetent micromanager got into leadership, and after that it's like everyone had to hold hands to get into any project at all. All efficiency went out the window, and everyone had to work harder to get less done.

[@Skank_and_Gutterboy]

@@fmcg5364 It's maddening. Only a weak boss would do this, he probably came up the same way. Once you get weak bosses in, they groom little minions in their twisted image and they're the ones who get promoted. It becomes a horrible self-fulfilling prophesy. All you can do is leave because all you're going to do is send up good work for the boss to take credit for and you got nothing!

[@ezekielgates1558]

Very true, replying to your comment to save it. I have had the misfortune to know quite a few snakes just as you described, always conniving and despised yet still in positions of power.

[@halfbee7886]

This hits hard so close to home after I just resigned, and I completely agree with it.

[@Cubemusic]

Same here. I work as a registered nurse in Sweden. It’s really easy to get a job since there’s a really big lack of nurses here. Wrong person got hired. She completely ruined the workplace. Me and another nurse resigned. Both managers resigned and the occupational therapist resigned. Good bye workplace.

[@literarycharacters]

I resigned three days ago because of my asshole manager

[@halfbee7886]

@@Cubemusic I hope you find a better place soon.

[@halfbee7886]

@@literarycharacters I hope you find a better place soon as well.

[@Cubemusic]

@@halfbee7886 That’s very kind of you ;) Being a registered medical nurse in Sweden, it’s really really easy to find a new job. So of course I settled with a new employment as I resigned :)

[@deifor]

So true. New bosses usually create toxic environments with their high energy that is usually oriented towards performance instead of trust.

[@Excelsiorr]

I think it's amore about the boss's values and skills as a leader rather than being new. But in some cases new bosses tend to feel unsecure around the old guard which translates in a passive aggressive behavior and toxicity

[@DJDisalwaysright]

And, when you leave because of toxic boss or company environment, you learn who in your group actually has integrity and is trustworthy. The fakes will always reveal themselves, either through their actions or their silence

[@Excelsiorr]

Thanks for your comment, Jordan Peterson touches on this issue here kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5XalZt4m9Z3gpo the size of the organization plays a big role as well

[@dwiz_9336]

That is something I learned the hardway... my last job, my boss was that toxic person. Never trusted him, from the very beginning, I knew that in my gut. He fired so many people. I resigned, but that was upon agreement. Trust your gut guys, sometimes it's super subtle but if you really tune in that voice gets louder

[@simonbone]

1:53 "They will all point to the same person." Sadly no - that's not how workplace bullies are. They focus their evil on a specific group of people, generally some, but not all, of those below them in rank; while they butter up others, generally everyone above them. So they always have a support base, along with people willing to defend them ("He's such a nice guy, not like that at all, can't believe you'd think that about him.") Not many toxic people are toxic to everyone.

[@NorthernRealmJackal]

Thanks! Exactly what I thought too. I mean... both kinds of bullies exist. But by far the most dangerous ones, are the ones that mask it well towards their superiors and towards a majority of employees/colleagues.

[@deantaylor5177]

@@NorthernRealmJackal The kiss up, kick down people exist everywhere. Some are a bit more strategic and still keep some underlings loyal.

[@kiankenney6789]

Those are the missing metrics he's discussing though. It's a performance talk to get a point across, and I think the point is more that We All Know who Regina George is, but we need metrics in business to measure beyond skill-based performance so we can identify it and not leave it up to those under them to speak up.

[@kidinthecloud]

Sooo true 👍🏼

[@Skank_and_Gutterboy]

That is true, they're selectively crazy and they're pretty damn slick at it since they've been doing it their whole life. It's more than just a hobby to them.

[@barryschwarz]

Totally agree. Integrity and honesty are not only not rewarded in my sales-oriented workplace, they have zero currency and are never part of the discussion. And I mean NEVER. When we have group sessions that include team values, I call these out. The team leader usually pauses briefly because it is so out of the blue, but they write it on the board anyway, because who is going to say that integrity and honesty aren't worthy values? And that is as far as it goes. It's kind of amusing to watch people glaze over, and kind of depressing, too.

[@ianlewis1180]

This is so refreshing to hear, I have met many toxic high performers and wouldn't touch them with a 10 foot pole. I have thought about and I agree with everything thing you mentioned in this video for 10 years and thank you for confirming it.

[@Excelsiorr]

Thank you for your comment. Simon is very pertinent and insightful indeed.

[@gabrieljohannson6777]

True and these 'toxic leaders' are endemic in the IT workplace.

[@klowen7778]

No doubt. though in fairness, IT has never been a field that's famous for 'social skills' to begin with.

[@miguelrosales6667]

That’s were a scrum master steps in and ensures she/he creates a healthy environment or any leader who understand the affects on an unhealthy environment. But, this is tough when bureaucracy gets in the way.

[@Lozzie74]

Not restricted to the IT industry

[@matonmongo]

@@Lozzie74 Nobody said it was, although 'defensiveness' is never a good start in any field.

[@gammarayneutrino8413]

@@matonmongo Endemic means limited/prevalent in a specific region, location etc

[@MichaelSmith-fm5ln]

It's funny, I went from working 5 years for a boss I respected and trusted to working 6 months with a boss that was... let's just say pretty bad. It was the first time the words "We're letting you go" were a relief to hear.

[@victorpena5217]

I wasn't a seal, but they taught us this in the army as well. We get used to it, being around people you can trust. When we get out, it makes transitioning to civilian life difficult.

[@4lfatir]

Are there any trackable metrics that can determine trust?

[@victorpena5217]

@@4lfatir not that I've seen so far. A computer can calculate punctuality, profitability and so on... But it can't tell if you're the type of person who opens the door for other people, returns lost wallets exactly as they found them, would take someone to the airport for a red-eye flight, or give up their weekend to help a coworker move. It's a gut feeling type of thing. Unfortunately most supervisors don't lead with their guts, they lead by profit margins.

[@fmcg5364]

Sounds like a worthy thing to learn though.

[@crimfan]

This summarizes academia so well... and boy do many schools "love" the High Performance & Low Trust person.

[@nomadvagabond1]

Bingo!

[@arnoldarnold2653]

Ironically in corporate you get the worst leadership possible

[@dwijgurram5490]

Skepticism is a sign of not only intelligence but also self confidence

[@Excelsiorr]

well said, thanks for your comment

[@patrickbarrett5650]

NO ... the bosses are to blame. Easily flattered, easily influenced and quick to believe gossip . Watch the new leader arrive and watch who is suddenly practicing golf swings near him and (my what a coincidence) “we drink at the same pub then.” And he never buys another drink until he’s replaced. Weakness at the top results in rubble at the bottom.

[@dinklehimerschlitz9111]

Suckups get promoter, good workers don't.

[@TheRisky9]

This is what he's talking about when he says there's no metric in measuring who is the asshole. Everyone on the team knows who is the asshole. And team knows because the team isn't important to the asshole, so there's no reason for him to treat them well. The boss is someone he can get something from and so he will suck up to the boos. And the boss won't be the wiser that this person is the problem.

[@Excelsiorr]

"Weakness at the top results in rubble at the bottom" what a great quote. pretty much sums it up. Thanks for your comment

[@JamieSmith-fz2mz]

My boss fired me because I broke the code. He knew that I knew that he was the least trustworthy person in our organization. I never outed him publicly, but I once made a subtle off-hand comment to him to the effect that “I see what you’re doing.” And he didn’t want me around anymore. It was a government job, and he was an elected official. (mayor)

[@nobodysbaby5048]

Well done you. Also, best explanation for a toxic work environment I've ever seen

[@JamieSmith-fz2mz]

@@Allyzaff No, a very meaningless suburb of Detroit. I think Pete would be interesting to work for. I don't see much narcissism in that guy.

[@nobodysbaby5048]

@Wsm - Unfortunately they often get a string of subordinates fired before mgmt wises up. That's the sad part.

[@gwarlow]

@Jamie Smith So, what did you learn?

[@JamieSmith-fz2mz]

@@gwarlow I learned that I would rather live in a cardboard box and do the right thing than to be associated with a lying cheating bastard and have a big house. Integrity and character count for more. And if I catch anyone around me cheating henceforth, I will take great pleasure in outing them. It's not my job to protect them.

[@davidwatts5579]

Finally! A person and or organisation that has come up with the truth and what I have experienced & witnessed in over forty years in the workplace! Now, if only we could change the world with this....

[@Excelsiorr]

the main issue is how to measure trustworthiness. not sure if any organization has succeeded in doin this. Jordan Peterson explains in this video also that the bigger an organization gets, the hardest it becomes to keep its environment trustworthy: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5XalZt4m9Z3gpo

[@advancedomega]

Read "The No Asshole Rule" by Bob Sutton. That book really addressed the imbalance of trust vs performance.

[@Excelsiorr]

Thanks for the comment and the recommendation,. will definitely check it out

[@Francisco-ig4bz]

I don't know who this Simon guy is but this is soooo true! Corporations are always rewarding the narcissistic assholes

[@dorianphilotheates3769]

The zoological term, “alpha”, when used to describe the leader of a group of animals in the wild, is routinely grossly misused in informal contexts: for instance, the iconic ultra-competitive “alpha male” that people often equate with aggression and dominant posturing, is what Sinek here scientifically (and very accurately) describes as, “the asshole”. In reality - that is to say, in the natural habitat - for primates, canines, and other species of animals with highly developed social structures, the “alpha” is the universally accepted natural leader not solely (or even chiefly) by virtue of sheer brawn and dominance, but principally for the ability to build trust and co-operation within the group. The real “alpha” is the one who is strong enough to defend himself and others, but more crucially, also the one who has everyone’s back; the one who unites individuals, who looks after the weak as well as the strong, and who seems to have an innate sense of justice and fair play; in short, (s)he is the one who fosters a sense of group cohesion and solidarity. In the wild, selfish ‘douchebags’ who attempt to profit through intimidation and an attitude of dominance don’t last long; irritating as such people are, we can still manage to get by with them around in our insulated, protected, structured civil environment. If such, however, had been our leaders in the savage realm of nature, “red in tooth and claw”, we would have long ago gone extinct - for the best perhaps...

[@Q_QQ_Q]

alpha are actually very toxic anywhere ,

[@chriskalifornia7333]

@@Q_QQ_Q omg read the comment

[@starmaster9105]

Agreed thank you for including both genders too

[@dorianphilotheates3769]

• Star Master • - 🙂

[@chriskalifornia7333]

@@vladplays6206 yep

[@383mazda]

When you don't fully understand what to measure, you'll settle for what you can measure.

[@onthecodeagain]

🤯

[@Excelsiorr]

Yeah, that's pretty much the issue, how can trust be objectively measured ?

[@mkuehn5450]

@@Excelsiorr this hit home, our "performer" (read a-hole) is in a high profit, vital production position. literally color coded. Green = good, red = fail, trained chimp stuff. easily measured, low skill 10 units = 10 $$. he struts on his ivory tower as untouchable. causes disorder from his way of "doing stuff" I'm the trouble shooter, diagnostics and "go to guy" when things get complex. I bring in business from other companies not able to handle certain jobs, and usually get results. but it's a small percentage of gross. my victories are quickly forgotten, and too technical to even explain to management, they just see results. saving grace, i love my work, high satisfaction and variety, while he hates his life, boring tedium, treadmill dead end.

[@mariahconklin4150]

Oddly enough this is true. The best performer at my work was the maintenance guy I worked with. He showed great customer service skills, treated all co workers with respect, and was willing to help me out when I needed it and he didn’t even have to nor was obligated to. This is why a lot of the time we got along so well, why I felt I could trust him, and why he was a good leader. We don’t need those who don’t like their job we need those who put a lot in their job and actually care not only about the customers but about all the co workers and management. The management was not empathetic at all and the main manager dominated everything she even showed up to work on Thanksgiving to spy on all of us when she was off work. Total workaholic.

[@Excelsiorr]

Thanks for your comment and for sharing your experience

[@robm2892]

No they promote the ones they like. The ones in the circle. The high performance ones are overlooked and passed over which leads them to stop performing at their highest level. It was an eye opener to me and since then I have been less career driven and enjoying life a lot more.

[@franz3810]

THIS.

[@dinklehimerschlitz9111]

Your damn right, my experience totally, and I've come to that conclusion myself.

[@robm2892]

@@dinklehimerschlitz9111 There is many of us like that. Hope some good came out of your situation as it did mine. Its funny I sit back and watch the ones who were promoted get more work and added stress. Yea they make more money but sometimes its not always about the money.

[@dinklehimerschlitz9111]

@@robm2892 Yes, finally it boils down to "its just work" my personal time is more important.

[@Excelsiorr]

I totally get what you are saying having been in a similar situation in my previous company. Corporate success and building a "Career" is not really worth it when you think about it

[@lovenottheworld5723]

And when performance itself is being faked, you've got even more trouble.

[@spock7945]

true that

[@avidadolares]

If "performance is being faked" then you have the wrong metrics measuring it... and thats on you or the people using the metrics.

[@Heidi-uk1ky]

@@avidadolares wqQQ

[@rd8376]

Underrated comment IMO

[@zorkan111]

​@@avidadolares That's if you even use any metrics in the first place. I've worked at a company where a middle level boss bullshitted his higher ups that he was actually competent at something, but in reality he didn't know shit, was very unproductive and was terrible at working with people. In fact, he was one of the most disrespected people in the company. But hey, he bullshitted his boss so it all worked out good for him.

[@moedervanbranko409]

My last job I had to give up because of a highly toxic boss. My team mates were leaving left and tight. Finally I took the decision my self, it took me a long time because of my hightend sense of responsibility. On the other hand, I've bhad bosses who were amazing people and I stayed too long even though I outgrown the job and started to become frustrated. Either way, always listen to your inner knowing and take care of yourself.

[@Excelsiorr]

Thanks for sharing experience. cheers

[@ryanchristopher3257]

Some of the best 2 minutes and 18 seconds of content ever.

[@Excelsiorr]

Simon Sinek is just great. Thanks for your comment

[@santiagocarreno5881]

I once knew of a boss so toxic he made his 4 employees to go lunch by themselves because he didn't want them to talk about him during their midday break. Eventually, 3 of them got new jobs

[@The2984]

Damn, that's awful!

[@Arkhs]

I mean. Sounds like despite his incompetence his strategy worked for selfish gain.

[@vik5796]

So why did you stay?

[@santiagocarreno5881]

@@vik5796 lol no, I worked on another dependency, the guy was the boss of my friend who did quit

[@wlockhart]

I don't understand. Surely it's not typical to go to lunch every day with your boss? What do you mean by 'go lunch by themselves'?

[@MP-ef6mc]

I left a very toxic work envirement making $50k ish thinking I was stuck there, but finally I get fed up enough and said “I don’t care what happens I’m done.” And left. Now I make $70k ish 10 times better work envirement and have a much easier job. I know $70k is not big money but for having only a GED I’m very happy with it. Toxicity in the work place will affect every area of your life.

[@ras573]

There's a problem in our company. The best performing employees are given the most difficult tasks, and the hardest days (and shifts) of the week. They're the company's work-horses, and they're aware of it. If you promote someone instead of them, you lose them.

[@DHW256]

I'm typically "fourth batter" whereever, as I am most likely to hit the grand slam that entices more department opportunities. Because of my conspicuous skills, I've never experienced an office promotion, but I do get paid at least double, sometimes three or four times, the industry average. Nowadays I work on a contract basis and haven't been without a job since 1989.

[@Yodasstuff]

We need to rate our bosses just like they rate us. A yearly performance review on your boss... the bosses with a high turnover... the micromanagers. It's always the employee getting the performance reviews. Corporations will keep the asshole bosses why? Maybe they don't want to admit they made a mistake?

[@vos8470]

Glassdoor does that already , but there is no point doing that boss rating : small companies are too small to have a meaningful meaning to that type of ratings . And big companies , well you will never see the CEO . . . unless you are close to the top and a vital employee already , and if you are that it means you understood it is not about liking your boss or not . It is about liking your job or not and improving your skills for it , if you like your job and improve yourself , aim to take the place of your boss ! But if you do not like that job do something else . Period . Because that " corporate working sucks " bullshit is getting old , nobody is forcing you to do a crappy work while you just wish to being rich without efforts to get a mansion and a Lamborghini . Either stop complaining , and work for success , or learn to love life in a different way by following a passion that does not pay much instead of money through something you hate . Of course it is always best to be great with a lucrative passion , but that is wishful thinking for many people .

[@tookkil7643]

@@vos8470 I like your mindset and idea alot better as opposed to being a little bitch 😂 well said 👍

[@vos8470]

@@tookkil7643 Thanks dude , just trying to share the experience i gathered from starting life being useless , ended working for huge companies and get huge salaries , but still got back in the streets and making it to the top again . Do not let yourself become as salty as these people saying the system is rigged , it is not ! They just do not want to reconsider their work ethics with their lazy whining , and refuse to understand how the system truly works : sure you can be the 0.0001% of humanity who become a millionaire with 0 talent whatsoever ( Kardashian for example ) , or you can try to become part of the % of Humanity who study / work / improve their craft by avoiding entitlement and learning to take their responsibilities . . . that second option is a much harder road for sure , but it works if you are willing to make the necessary sacrifices . Obtaining power imply thirst for it , and a mental able to make concessions . Not everyone are capable to do that and it is fine ! If you are not , just take life at it is : when i was in the streets i meet some people that were happier than most people i meet in $ billions companies , because money does not bring happiness automatically and it was a hard lesson for me to learn coming from the bottom where everything seems shiny and sweet at the top . Life can be complicated and hard to swallow regardless of your situation in the ladder .

[@whiteflagrage]

360 degree reporting

[@SasssyRita]

If only we could

[@alasdair1571]

From my life experience this is so true. I would much prefer a superior who acknowledges their lack of knowledge/skill/experience but who will gain this or delegate effectively. Liars/bullies/gaslighters/bullshiters are the worst - toxic!

[@autoclearanceuk7191]

Toxic comment

[@TheRisky9]

I had a boss who basically told me, "It's okay if you don't know." That changed my life. I went from the unknown who just shows up, to the one everyone goes to. Because they know if I don't know, I'll just say so and refer them elsewhere. I now know why that is, When I say, "I don't know" they think "Okay, well neither do I, so it's good." But if I give a wrong answer, that's a break in trust.

[@iqramcheonn1249]

I resigned from my job because of this too.. And suprisingly im that natural leader you mention in the video.. Cause everyone can talk to me bout their problem and when things go south.. I'll always help and give some of myself to solve the problem even its not mine to begin with.. Glad i resigned..

[@Excelsiorr]

Thanks for your comment and for sharing your experience. Jordan Peterson touches on this issue in this video as well: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5XalZt4m9Z3gpo I'm sure resigning was the right thing to do

[@georgem.8218]

Simply the best advice. True in spades.

[@pleaseenteranamelol711]

And explained so simply, very easy to understand.

[@fmcg5364]

I really think you are right, although, I worked in the defense industry they didn't seem to follow that trust element. Many times these people were very good at the job they were doing but had zero social skills and that would be the one they would promote. This started in the 1980s, found that people related courses were eliminated. The same thing in project management, no classes on people management at all. I asked someone once why management did that and they said it was because people that were natural born managers were more loyal to their employees and management wanted managers that were loyal to them.

[@racaciaruth4460]

Trustworthy people will always bring value wherever they are. They are genuine and will tell you the truth not what you want to hear. That's what we need in today's world. 🙏 💘 Simon Sinek 💕 Beautiful ‼️

[@sciencewithskilldog]

Honest people are NOT popular in the workplace! Tactful people ARE and they're not honest.

[@racaciaruth4460]

@@sciencewithskilldog honest people will never be popular nor liked. They are often loners but have great few friends who are like them in character. You must be prepared to walk alone at times because truth will divide. Having skills to perform but lacking trust makes it difficult for one to belong. Be trustworthy and develop skills then make great teams in life.

[@sciencewithskilldog]

@@racaciaruth4460 are you stalking me?? 😂

[@racaciaruth4460]

@@sciencewithskilldog l🙄🤔🙃😂

[@racaciaruth4460]

@@User-q6x3b not always so!! Have you ever heard this : success follows you or better still people head hunt you because you're so good at what you do and people talk too. So the right leader will seek you out to be in his team. This leader will even hire for attitude rather than qualifications. I agree with you to some extent since the world system does exactly that ie, who you know... Connections etc but that's corrupt governance. Let's hope that we add value to colleagues , friends, family and community. Inspire on 💘.

[@bobbysilver272]

An absolutely beautiful summation of a lot of modern workplaces. This is how to improve them.

[@iMitsubishiZA]

This was sooooooo enlightening. Well said and so unfortunately true

[@Excelsiorr]

Thanks for your comment and hope you enjoyed our other videos. cheers

[@drjohnson98]

So very true. I am on medical leave due to stress brought on by the kind of toxic individual and dysfunctional system that rewards that type described here.

[@DrPerlyl]

Great job on this. The problem, "I've got your back." has become a popularized statement in business and government. It is an over-used phrase by leaders who are not leaders; therefore, the earned and demonstrated trust as Sinsek claims all-important.

[@Perfidion]

They don't have your back. As soon as things get difficult, or they need to 'facilitate cost savings', they'll throw you under the bus. People need to realize just how expendable they are to these organizations. Even if you're 'adding value', if they don't believe it's the right sort of value, you're surplus to requirements. Don't get comfortable, and don't give your loyalty away to a company that demonstrates zero loyalty to you in return.

[@janknuckey]

I love this guy....he tells it like it is. And he's pretty easy on the eye, too!

[@ericseal4453]

The boss, who has no empathy, who talks in riddles, and who target's his or her employee's for personal reasons, is the worst.

[@themonotropicguitarist]

omg yes. ty

[@ericseal4453]

@@themonotropicguitarist I have worked for at least 3 of them. Not fun!!

[@tonywright8342]

That is a narcissist you describe here.

[@themetalhead1463]

@@tonywright8342maybe, but the word narcissist gets thrown around so much today that it has lost much of its meaning. Many people have some narcissistic traits but that doesn’t mean they are actual narcissists. Narcissism needs a clinical diagnosis and the pop psychology stuff that so ubiquitously floats around today has gone too far.

[@llN3M3515ll]

Couldn't agree more, and IMHO leadership through servitude is key. How can I enable my team members to be successful, and be a force multiplier for my team. Because we either win together or fail together.

[@Excelsiorr]

well a solution could be to play to this type of people's strength and give them individual projects and targets, but never allow them to manage people

[@laverdadbuscador]

I'm a manager and I generally pick really random people based on their personality and POTENTIAL to learning. Every person I've ever hired has stayed with their company for many years, their careers taken off, and they just damn happy to have been given a shot. Meanwhile my managers hire based on resume skills and they wonder why 2 out of 3 people quit. I can teach skills.....I can't teach personality.

[@aa.4639]

Great comment!

[@OudPlayerHBY]

ok but it is hard to teach c++ programming to a 37 years old bus driver even if he has a great personality and is an extremely likeable and smart guy. There is a minimum requirement of skills and experience and knowledge, I don t know what is exactly your field but for certain jobs : IT support, Developers, Quant Analysts etc...you cannot as a manager substitute university, experience etc...

[@gillmsnfillman1691]

That’s why people quiet quit. I for hope to AI take over the workplace and put an end to this garbage m.

[@laverdadbuscador]

@@gillmsnfillman1691 I think u commented on the wrong comment man. This doesn't apply even remotely to what has been said.

[@laverdadbuscador]

@@OudPlayerHBY You fail to understand a couple things. 1) a bus driver isn't inherently stupid. There isn't anything wrong with working to make ends meet. 2) obviously if someone does have a low IQ they're only qualified for certain levels of work. You can't expect someone with an 80 IQ to do math heavy skills like programming. 3) you make it sound like 37 is old and that old people can't learn anymore. 4) university teaches you a lot of useless crap too. For 2yrs I was learning history and english to learn business finance. If I was only learning career skills college could have easily been shorted down into 2yrs. Same goes for engineer majors. 5) people can learn skills outside of college. Certifications, licenses, boot camps, internships, as a side hobby. I'm not saying college is worthless, just saying that there are more than one way to skin a cat. A total self entitled twerp with a degree isn't the only option.

[@CionnFE]

Thank you! I have just shared this to my LinkedIn page, I hope that’s ok. But for my entire professional life, I have seen this over and over, and I hope now to be able to use this to help it to change!

[@okami4683]

As the "asshole" high performer low trust, this is a frustrating point. In my work place, I'd been historically the high performer - measurable metrics showed I got stuff done the fastest, with the fewest errors, and made the company the most money. However, a number of my coworkers, especially when we went work from home, played video games all shift long, or most of their shift just doing the bare minimum. Many of them went out to lunch/dinner together. When it came time to giving a single promotion due to someone leaving the company, it didn't go to me, with quantitatively measurable superior performance. It went to from my point of view, an incompetent (constantly late, leaves early, uses incorrect terminology, plays video games for long periods of their shift, etc) person. It felt like all of the effort I made in making sure my work was done quickly, efficiently, and accurately; all of the hours of self-improvement for those goals, were for nothing when a person who lazes about and is the "popular/fun" guy gets the promotion.

[@dinklehimerschlitz9111]

do you work where I work ?

[@justagirl6316]

Why most people would instantly agree with this (evident in the comments section), is probably because performance is quantifiable whereas trustworthiness isn't. This video provides instant relief, by helping us believe that our mediocre performance is offset by us being say a team player. And yes the manager who never realised or acknowledged this inate quality of ours is surely an asshole. We have been validated and vindicated in 2 short minutes. This is very smart messaging which resonates with a majority of us, which equals more views and likes. Perfect KZbin content.

[@Excelsiorr]

Thanks for your comment. I'd argue though that it resonates with people because most have been through similar situations where the work culture in their organization is not fair and does promote toxicity. It has nothing to do with how good a person is at what they do if there's lot of BS and politics that prevent their true worth from shining. At the end of the day, the problem is not with the individuals but with the organization as a whole and how incentives are structured. Thanks again for your comment

[@pj8761]

This video is right on the money, and completely sums up my experience in the Telecommunications industry with ATT and Verizon. The blind assholes leading the blind with no idea of how to manage people, only looking at metrics.

[@Excelsiorr]

yeah, it seems also that the bigger the organization, the harder it gets to keep it clean and trustworthy. Jordan Peterson explains it perfectly here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5XalZt4m9Z3gpo

[@Chickennss]

This is one of the best videos I’ve seen on KZbin.

[@Excelsiorr]

Thank you very much for your comment. Hope you like our other videos. cheers

[@CharlesAndCars]

I call those "toxic" people - team killers. I've worked with a couple of them... in the long run nothing good comes from people you can't trust. May be very smart, but impossible to work with.

[@skyd6692]

It's also a good amount of people you trust, putting bullshit in your head.

[@Excelsiorr]

Totally agree. These people might be more suitable for individual projects that require high performance but not for a team project where managing other people and getting the best out of the whole team is a must to succeed

[@hcmate]

I was forced to resign 3 weeks ago. I worked in a bar and my boss found out that my supervisor and I stayed back for drinks one night after the place was shut. Every single employee of this place would do the same thing and so everyone just thought it was ok. His team management and people skills were so poor and i refused to ever play his game, i even called him on his shit a few times because I couldnt take it. He was lying in the grass, waiting for me to slip up and when I did, he gave me the flick. It was a very community oriented bar where everyone knew everyone and I was very well liked by the patrons. To the point where I have a lot of them as friends on facebook and they were all messaging me asking where ive gone. My actions warranted a warning at most and my ex boss has caused so much disruption by getting rid of us in that place all because my supervisor and I wouldnt play his game. We weren't on his team and he saw us as threats. His level of incompetence ran so deep that if he ever had to cover someones break behind the bar, their tills at the end of the shift would constantly be missing money because he was that dumb. Yet he passively aggressively demanded respect from everyone, yet everyone knew how much of a fucking dickhead he was lol. It made for an extremely toxic workplace.

[@JP-1990]

Ah yes, the ol' Al Capone trick. They couldn't get him on murder, so they tried to destroy him for dodging his taxes.

[@chriskalifornia7333]

What a dick hopefully you get a better opportunity soon

[@fvcostanzo]

Not sure if I totally agree (and I normally agree with Simon a lot)... there are high-performer low-trust individuals that can work on a team - you need to find ways to both engage with and insulate the team from a person like this. I've had successes working with a few individuals like this - the right approach can make them effective and productive, and not disruptive. Will you ever ask them to work directly with a customer? Never. But give them a problem they would love to solve, and the requirements they need to follow, and you can get them to make gold for you.

[@androssteague]

I'm a high performance low trust type of person. Low trust meaning I'm very socially hobbled and awkward so going out to drinks with the buddies trying to build trust is just not in the cards for me. I worked with a man who understood this because he was the same way. He knew how to work with me and knew where to put me and because of it I thrived. We got a new manager who was looking for high performance and high trust and then later fired me because he said I wasn't a good fit. Ain't that some s***.

[@DrPerlyl]

You may be right on this. However, do you, or does the organization, have the resources to monitor the 'insulated-person' from bleeding over toxicity to others - on or off the job? Probably not.

[@gibsongtr]

If you have to insulate the team from the person, is the person on the team? Or have you really been forced to create two teams? The intended team, and a team of one.

[@gibsongtr]

@@androssteague - Trust doesn't require going out for drinks. Shooting the bull doesn't necessarily build trust. However, being transparent and overcommunicating on work related matters is a must. The goal is a high-performing team. Help the team become high performing.

[@androssteague]

@@gibsongtr I did help the team become high performing. I just wasn't transparent or communicative. I I didn't know that these were things that you needed. I figured as long as you got the results that's all that mattered.

[@daniel23554]

Dear Simon, Thank you for your great work. I wish there were more organizations and decision making-leaders that actually valued trust enough to embed it into things like performance reviews and bonuses. Unfortunately, many companies, in practice, and sometimes in blatant disregard for their own stated values, really value and reward performance at just about any cost. As long as someone is not so bad that they don't perform too poorly or don't piss off the boss, then it tends to continue. It's just so much easier to reward the easy things that are easy to measure and supposedly "produce results" and then put 150% on the results, without any regard for how, why or with whom it is done. Leaders also need to have the humility and courage to say, "I don't trust that behaviour you just did there. Let's talk about it." instead of just cutting people down because they don't have the guts to lead that conversation as it is easier to just focus on only the results rather than the people working to produce the results and to have that potentially messy conversation. There also needs to be the accountability and incentives from even further up to make it worth the leader's time and energy. Otherwise, it's just useless feel good, disconnected from reality corporate storytelling.

[@PH1M0]

That question got a laugh and applause worthy of the best stand up comics 👏

[@Excelsiorr]

Yeah, epic moment :d

[@sowporkinthebox9775]

Wow, I never thought of these. But it really describe what have been happen in our company. Thank you for the video..

[@Excelsiorr]

most welcome, hope you enjoy our other videos. cheers

[@OnyxLee]

Because in Wall Street, people don’t care about your personality, investors only need money. But in the navy seals, their top priority is the success of the mission and the survival of the team members. They don’t care about the cost as much as Wall Street. If a mission requires double the team size to make sure the success and survival, so be it. These two types of organizations have fundamental differences.

[@jonathanalpart7812]

That's right, but I think the point is that Wall Street shouldn't behave that way anymore.

[@Charloteblahblah]

@@jonathanalpart7812 I agree. Although we've tried the individualistic way and we know that it can pay dividends but imagine the result wall street could create if they were in it together? I don't really like Wall Street but although they make lots of money they also have drug habits/addictions, they commit suicide, sex addictions etc. to cope with their high pressure lives which is actually probably not even a good way to make money. But if they could share the load, maybe they could be healthier which would lead them to better decisions especially longterm. Being high on coke or having a coworker commit suicide is not a productive work environment... I might have got off topic but it's just what I thought when I saw your comment 😏

[@hxhdfjifzirstc894]

Wake up, bro. Bernie Madoff provided great returns to investors. Don't con yourself into justifying low integrity. Wall Street has cronies to bail them out with OUR money. That, in no way means that low integrity is fine.

[@hambabumba]

I think the biggest difference is. An investor can always change the company, therefore the short terms are more important. America can't just choose a different group than the Navy Seals.

[@Excelsiorr]

Totally agree. thanks for the insightful comment.

[@255TomTom]

Misread the title as "Who is this asshole?" and thought they would diss Sinek.

[@avidadolares]

Sure ya did. No, really....we believe you.

[@Excelsiorr]

ah noo, that was not the intention but thanks for pointing it out

[@255TomTom]

@@Excelsiorr Not really an issue, just found it funny 😂👍

[@xq_nemesis]

Steve Jobs once said that the individual highest contributors that don’t ever want to be a manager makes the best manager.

[@hassanh4512]

The best servant, serves best the people? Edit: the best leader is the one who serves best the people and the goal? That is the added goal of the leader: arrive - while having nurtured and not neglected the people or the team or the common good. Every leader should result in having left behind a more suitable leader than themselves. Of course, the difficult thing of a leader is to see everything the team is looking at, and all the other things added onto that - the future, environment, etc.. Blurb: the one who knows best how to serve the people is then the best choice for a leader, as well as having to know of course as a requirement what the goal is. There is then the difference that causes misleading for leaders: a leader both has to know best the goal and be inspired and true to that goal, as otherwise he goes astray and thereby all those who rely on his correct direction, fulfilling his responsibilities as a leader (individuals fulfill their responsibility just as the leader his, all looking to their own, and thus...), the leader is then aware both of his responsibility as a role (directing - and aware of the need for seeking counsel too, while of course having the final say as elected person) and his task of being a good leader to the team of people. So the best leader is the one who serves best the people as well as the goal. The distinction in the leader compared to the others in this, as all are able to do their best for both (people and the aim), is then the role of decision making. The leader is, if it were a team of ideal individuals, the one who for some reason is the one who gets the decision making and is followed by those who accept that leader. After all doesn't leadership inherently have to do with the people as well as the goal both, and rather than personally working, managing the work of others who are focused on the goal of their work, and the leader focused on the people in his charge and the grand overall goal and aim, thus directing well the people in their individual tasks as per their capacity and his knowledge of the path that the entire team is going on.

[@johncarton3023]

Damn right. Most people who want to be leaders (or think they are natural leaders) are people who simply get an ego rush from controlling people and things. And when it comes to long-term organizational health, that's a bad place to start.

[@timmy7201]

At my current workplace I spend 75% of my workdays helping teammates and colleagues, during the first 20 months. Was constantly forced to work overtime myself, to get own tasks finished in time. I wouldn't have any issues with this, given that it wasn't for the unidirectional teamspirit. Colleagues expecting me to help them, nobody helping me in return when I had a problem. I started to lower the amount of time I spend helping others after my initial 20 months at that workplace. It resulted in a massive amount of backlash from the rest of the team, directed towards me. People blaming me for being lazy, getting called 'not a team-player'. Teammates expecting and forcing me to come and help them, regardless of me explaining lacking time to complete my own tasks. It was clear to me that nobody cared if I had to work +80 hours weeks, if they themselves could spend their evenings watching television. The sad part is, most teammates would probably point towards me when you ask who's the "A-H".

[@user-zr6pl6nb6z]

Wow. I totally get it. Kind of the same situation where I work. I've gone above and beyond consistently, yet I get maligned by the lazy clowns on my team who don't want to carry their weight. It's all a high school popularity contest.

[@timmy7201]

@@user-zr6pl6nb6z I would recommend you to get out of there as fast as possible, if you can afford it! I usually recommend having another job lined up, before quitting your current one. I however didn't follow set advice myself when I resigned at my previous job, for obvious health concerns. Getting another job usually takes less than 1 month as a software developer, I however took my time for once and extended my job-hunt for about 4 months. Looks like I've found a decent place, where people actually help each-other... I hope it stays like this, it's actually my first workplace where people work as a team...

[@user-zr6pl6nb6z]

@@timmy7201 I'm thinking of changing locations. It's a big corporation and this particular location seems corrupt as hell.

[@timmy7201]

@@user-zr6pl6nb6z I personally prefer the smaller mid range business to work at. Working at a very small startup with less than 5 to 10 colleagues, the CEO often forgets that you work for a static amount of money. Thus they expect you to work as much overtime as they do themselves. Working at a huge corporation, well... the wage is often better, but nothing productive happens, as everything is stuck in bureaucracy and red tape... I honestly prefer a company around 20 to 40 colleagues, max... Less unpaid overtime, yet things tend to progress forwards without to much paperwork and meetings...

[@BUDA20]

I already think this way, is extremely sad most people don't, the loudest and the obnoxious is always on top, at lest at first, only through perseverance good people rise

[@Excelsiorr]

yes, the problem also is with the size of these organizations and companies. Jordan Peterson explains in this video also that the bigger an organization gets, the hardest it becomes to keep its environment trustworthy: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5XalZt4m9Z3gpo

[@marks8437]

Simon, your perspective is so refreshing. That's really unfortunate because what you're espousing should be common place. More people need to watch channel.

[@felipemeirelles1816]

Sorry, Simon is not here. Try in his channel (link in the description)

[@osm_labrahmi]

very interesting content!!

[@Excelsiorr]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@mertz7305]

This is speaking into my soul. I knew I wasn't the only one that saw this in my workplace.

[@jakegravad4342]

This is extremely important !!!! This is why l loved the military !

[@Excelsiorr]

thanks for the comment. the problem with the military on the other hand is that people cannot say no. Jordan Peterson touches on this here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5XalZt4m9Z3gpo

[@sombrerochad]

This helps me personally, sometimes I do focus on the results but not even taking the time on my own people or even checking on how they are doing, I need to stop treating my personnel like numbers and remind myself that they are human beings and they are my hands that get the results, I greatly appreciate this much needed wake up call

[@__S__435]

Not every team is like this. Sometimes the most respected, well-loved person is a covert narcissist. You outshine this person even once, and you can forget about it, they'll do everything they can to sabotage you and feel good about it the whole time, even to the point of leaving a paper trail, in a bizarre act of self-sabotage. If this happens to you, my advice comes from Sun Tzu: _Don't interrupt them while they're leaving that paper trail, and pray that they keep making it longer._

[@inber]

This is really good! Well spent 2 minutes. I think I do know a lot about people in the workplace but it still gave me an aha-moment.

[@pamil1923]

I don’t know. Practically every boss I’ve ever had was inept at his job and was also an asshole!

[@rogue8533]

And rich

[@scottypersia5715]

It isn't about the owner it is about staff. I think this is an important distinction.

[@mikemustang5488]

It's normal to encounter some inept jerks in life, but if practically all of them seem to be inept jerks, maybe its not them.

[@cisium1184]

"The one constant in all your dysfunctional relationships is you."

[@rickmemmer5625]

I came here to grab this for a blog series I'm writing -- I didn't plan on commenting. But as I read some of the comments, I'm reminded of how everyone seems to know these things and value leadership -- and yet we have a culture that sure acts like it doesn't. I watched Band of Brothers again awhile back -- and it amuses me how so much commentary revolves around leadership: And all the while -- we live in a nation that worships unscrupulous leaders that are nothing like what we praise. I really believe in those virtues -- and I have something to say about that on multiple fronts. I was fired from a great job last September -- after nearly 2 years of babysitting my manager's ego. A younger version of me never would have tolerated him as long as I did. I tried to reach him a few times (and we got into it a bit) -- but nothing ever really registered with this guy. As I wrote in "Do No Harm": "If Rollo had been the worst of the culprits who came before him - I could live with that. He was worse than all of them - combined!" This guy has an excuse for everything --- I'd never seen anything like it (and I've been around). For the first time ever -- I had backing (as customers were complaining about the same problems I was trying to address). I thought that would matter -- I was wrong. For folly of this level to persist, almost invariably, it’s connected to the relationships of those involved. Nobody gets away with this without a guardian angel. And in the end, despite the overwhelming evidence that was plain as day -- he denied it all. I'd just had it -- so job or no job, I was droppin' the hammer on this guy. Why does any of this matter? Because even in my little world, it's a ton of waste over one f@#$& person. And that's NOTHING compared to the ocean of waste we produce by pampering the piece-of-shit politicians & pundits that play you. Democrat or Republican -- they're just different brands of bullshit. As I said: Nobody gets away with this without a guardian angel. And therein lies the difference between most of America and me: Even at great cost, I'm willing to say, "This is unacceptable!" You're not: onevoicebecametwo.life/2021/05/18/two-sides-of-the-same-counterfeit-coin-part-1/ Original version of my firing: onevoicebecametwo.life/letter-of-the-law/ More chronological/case-based version: onevoicebecametwo.life/elara-email-of-itemized-issues/ . . .

[@Excelsiorr]

Thanks for your comment and for sharing your story 🙂

[@zaknefain100]

Catching the boss in a lie.. when they had no real reason to lie other than some perceived conflict avoidance? Yeah, I'm done with that person. Honesty is huge. If you can't be forward with someone, then you will never be a good leader. If you are passive aggressive, conflict avoidant.. you should find another position, because your approach.. the way you perceive that situation, is all wrong in the first place.

[@howardjamespatterson4119]

Excellent video....I always had a few simple rules in the work place ( locomotive engineer freight ) 1 I don't owe a liar the truth 2 do my job to the best of my ability 3 a. watch my back , I'll watch yours 3 b. tell me whats going on and I'll tell you 3 c. fuck me and........I'll let you figure that out !!! They all tie in to TRUST .

[@Excelsiorr]

Thanks for sharing your experience

[@Britpop938]

Agree totally. Very good point made. This atmosphere will drive good people away. Experienced it happen firsthand. No job is worth it when jerks are rewarded and the good are not (or let go.)

[@TheFatController.]

"trustworthyness" just sounds like a way for an asshole to discriminate against people they have personal issues with. It's entirely subjective.

[@heathergrahame9647]

This is great. Thank you for addressing this critical issue.

[@Excelsiorr]

Thanks for your comment, hope you enjoy the rest of our videos. cheers

[@y2ksw1]

This reminds me about a study which explains how the most unable people become company leaders and why it is then so easy to take these companies over, with almost no effort. Applies to governments as well.

[@Excelsiorr]

Great comment, thanks

[@parraeels1100]

So very true, always follow your gut feeling if you feel someone is untrustworthy, it’s the universe telling you!

[@TheSnerggly]

This really struck me - every job I've had, the person who screams the loudest (literally) has gotten promoted whether they can do the job or not.

[@irestrepo2788]

The most toxic people are people who often use the word toxic to describe people.

[@grasscutter1919]

Thank you. I always felt like the “Micheal Scott’s” of the world were being promoted for all the wrong reasons. Reward great performance from the sales person but don’t make them into a leader of people. That’s a different skill all together.

[@tonykim5069]

Real talk though Michael Scott was an amazing manager

[@danielbutler3150]

@@tonykim5069 lmao yeh sure

[@DNT2903]

@@danielbutler3150 he is right. Michael scranton branch was always out performing the others, so from the director's perspective, Michael was a great manager. Till the last dunder mifflin branch that was standing despite closures was scranton. There are many moments he proved to be a great boss, otherwise, he was trying tok hard in the others. But again, from a profit perspective, he was efficient

[@Excelsiorr]

That's exactly it. Play to these people's strength and give them individual projects and targets, but never allow them to manage people

[@undercrackers56]

Well done! This video should be on a continuous loop in all British Boardrooms and especially Network Rail.

[@RayfilWong]

I do the airport test. Who can I stand being stranded on the airport.

[@endebtedone]

having been in the military I can 100% agree with what the Navy Seals said. It isn't about the smartest person in the room but rather the person I can trust who can help and push me to succeed that I am more willing to follow.

[@Excelsiorr]

thanks for the comment. the problem with the military on the other hand is that people cannot say no. Jordan Peterson touches on this critical issue here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5XalZt4m9Z3gpo

[@lpemkz]

This reminds me of a time when I worked for a friend and he thought that making the best sales person he had a sales manager was a good idea. Did I learn that lesson then. He is one of the best salespersons I have ever known, but he was really bad as a leader. It led to the company’s sales go down and one of the salesperson at the company quit over differences with him.

[@Excelsiorr]

What could be a solution as you pointed out is to play to these people's strength and give them individual projects and targets, but never allow them to manage people. thanks for the comment

[@denis888red]

Outstanding Simon Sinek. If you want to know what's wrong in the world. (Now...and perhaps always). But especially now. It's here. In this outstanding little little clip. Right...here.

[@Steyreon]

Give high performing people money, but no leadership.

[@Excelsiorr]

Exactly it. Play to these people's strength and give them individual projects and targets, but never allow them to manage people

[@ExecutiveAutomotiveSociety]

I find this very cool. I was talking today about leaderless teams. I've been on a good amount of them and it's a very interesting dynamic. We all knew who the fastest guy was and he did his best to pull everyone up and then you knew the guy that was the thinker, the internet guy, all this stuff and each person did what they did well. We didn't try to compete other than to improve and each person had their thing and if nobody could do it we all filled the void. It was very cool.

[@fmcg5364]

That sounds like a good workplace, you were lucky

[@fatimaeddahmani7335]

Very instructive video, thanks for the upload👌

[@Excelsiorr]

My pleasure!

[@EB-gt1pq]

One of the best books I’ve ever read is called: Am I the only sane one working here? I wish I read it two decades ago when I started working.… It would’ve saved me so much confusion and heartache in the workplace

[@berylallando]

💯 High trust people -> You better keep them on your team

[@Excelsiorr]

pretty much the summary, thank you

[@theblobinc]

this is how I generally view and judge my relationship with employers. at the end of the day if they have very little loyalty or trustworthiness, I move on. no sane individual wants to work for an employer whom will stab you in the back at their first opportunity. I suppose one could argue this correlation works both ways. in both personal and business relationships loyalty matters.

[@migdalhaor]

wonderful video

[@Excelsiorr]

Thank you :)

[@yurikaclearcreek7195]

How very succinct! Well said truth.

[@jeffreyfitzgerald8541]

The funny thing is that if corporate America actually remembered this in their hiring and promoting process in fostering their corporate culture, we wouldn’t have the anti-business mindset so prevalent today. Then again, perhaps it’s just the nature of the beast

[@DUSKOsound]

Simon Sinek is a gold mine