Did Brian Laundrie Have a Hero's Journey? | Analysis of Notebook Left by Gabby Petito's Killer

This video answers the question: Can I analyze the note left by Gabby Petito’s killer Brian Laundrie. which was made public in June 2022?
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[@Kayavod]

I liked how you said: "Gabby Petito's killer, Bryan Laundrie". Sometimes murderers get an undeserved protagonism, and it was a nice way to put first the person who really matters.

[@carrington2949]

"An undeserved protagonism" ... that is such an apt description.

[@bthomson]

Fine phrase!

[@TheBonyLevi]

Yes! 100%

[@techyall]

That's it!

[@stephaniekanoun4409]

Good observation

[@CharGC123]

He never got her help, but instead "mercy" killed her, abandoned her body to the elements, then drove her van home to mommy and daddy while spending her money! Gee, how could anyone doubt his story? Dirty Laundrie indeed!

[@iciajay6891]

A mercy killing would be smothering. Not strangulation. Which takes a lot of force and up to 10 minutes. He is a monster

[@cyndid6605]

@@iciajay6891 Or he pushed her and she hit her head, then he strangled her and made up his ridiculous story.

[@elanahammer1076]

Yes he definitely had some dirty laundry.🤔❤🇺🇸

[@tommycoyote3258]

Don't forget, and then he went on vacation with his family

[@Vrin137]

@@cyndid6605 Yes, sounds more like it. No way anyone in love would strangle their life partner!

[@fulanichild3138]

One of the most shocking things about this note is that Brian actually thought people would believe it.

[@emersonmanning6523]

@@tinagarcia4902 You can tell she was a very sweet innocent girl? How? Gabby was a grown woman. She was an abuser who attacked her boyfriend for telling her to calm down. This wasn't determined once, but twice, after a full blown investigation. They were BOTH toxic individuals but people just ignore her toxic behavior, justify it or blame Brian. She should have been arrested like everyone else who engages in criminal activity.

[@sugarscott4767]

Right it's the legitimately the stupidest thing I've ever heard, and he constantly contradicted himself. She would get angry if he woke her up, yet he couldn't just run to the van while she was asleep to call for help? Its absolutely normal to just kill a wounded person when they're injured in 2022, especially after multiple witnesses saw you verbally and physically abuse her in public 😆. Obviously if he couldn't show restraint in public we know what happened in private. His parents need to answer for their crimes ASAP! Not only assisting in the cover up of a brutal murder, and harboring a fugitive, living with them you know they witnessed the abuse first hand. Seems pretty clear they also brainwashed her into believing their son beating her was her fault and their grown man baby should be protected at all costs!

[@emersonmanning6523]

@@sugarscott4767 There were exactly two witnesses in Utah. One was the 911 caller who was driving by. The other witness was physically present and flagged down a cop, giving a sworn/signed statement because Gabby was punching Brian. They were gone by the time this cop went to look for them but this witness, Brian and Gabby told the same story, the violence started with her not Brian. "The male tried to create distance by telling Gabbie (sic) to go take a walk to calm down, she didn’t want to be separated from the male, and began slapping him,” .. How long are we going to ignore the evidence?

[@sr2291]

@@tinagarcia4902 Her dad calls her his "Baby Girl". Lol

[@sr2291]

@@emersonmanning6523 The first witnessess isn't valid because he took off and the police never contacted him to verify his 911 call.

[@ivoted-5489]

He wanted us to think he was “complicated” when he was just a simple narcissistic abuser who knew he did not deserve her.

[@rorz999]

He was bald, of course he didn't deserve her

[@ivoted-5489]

@@rorz999That’s an incel excuse. Is that what you’re saying?

[@smilsmff]

haha

[@terrimarsh2103]

@TheReaper74 I wouldn't expect anything less from someone who goes by "the reaper". Hey....maybe one day you will meet someone just like HIM.

[@tyreseforren6721]

@@terrimarsh2103 he just a incel. If gabby was a narcissist she wouldn't be taking the blame for everything.

[@stansbruv3169]

“Brian’s last communication was an attempt to explain how he loved the person that he killed more than anything in the world. It offers a glimpse into the distorted thinking of a murderer and how they justify negative behavior with positive feelings. There is a tragic element in Gabbi Petito’s story, namely how she was killed by someone who said he loved her. Brian attempted to hijack this tragedy to cover his shame and to create this fantasy of a glorious relationship where he was actually the hero, but he only further revealed the depths of his self-centeredness, arrogance and sense of entitlement.” Mic dropped

[@howardlam6181]

Obiwan should have just ended Anakin's life out of mercy than leaving him to burn in the Lava.

[@rbarrett111]

Word.

[@Floridaman1780_]

@@howardlam6181 the people of Alderon would have been most appreciative, as would Admiral Ozzel.

[@christylove4834]

NPD’ s like Brian Aren’t capable of real love, it’s ALL & ONLY About POWER and CONTROL!

[@cherylroberts771]

Targeted individuals have been in the news there's documentary's there is evidence of the different types of program's and Ways to hack into peoples minds. What there is not. Is Medical examinations by the people who warn and speak out against the CRIMES that can be commited.. neural rights are Human rights. Medical examinations for targeted individuals. There's ways to detect the Assaults just like there are ways to Trace cell phones or radio stations. There's ways to intercept the signals too.. scary thought for the targeted Victims... but there's ways the authorities can catch the people who commit these crimes.. I hate to admit that Drs Law enforcement and Law firm's are failing the American citizens. EMF sensitivity has been recognized as a real Medical condition. microwave auditory effect is a real Medical condition. When people use this technology intentionally to hurt others it's a CRIME. It's a violaton against our Civil Rights for Law enforcement agencies not to INVESTIGATE.. some people report to the police several times. And nothing gets done to help the victims. Yeah I believe the gov would run Illegal experiments I believe creepy scientist would use this technology to harrass a woman of interest. Or Men.. some people sitting in Thier own yard's are Assaulted and on the News but where is the police? Why are They not looking for the local person that could have the microwave assualt weapons in their garage? Victims have caught criminals on video using microwave energy weapons to shoot at things yard and even assault people. I believe he called when they weren't shooting at his garbage cans but an elderly woman walking past. The police questioned him about why he's recording his neighbor.. SMH There's definitely a problem When law abiding citizens are reporting criminals and law enforcement ignores the criminals and tells the law abiding citizens they shouldn't be recording the criminals activity. Law and order.. just because law abiding citizens are easier to deal with Because they will obey the officers Doesn't Mean the Criminals should be ignored. There needs to be a Medical documentary on target Individuals! Medical proffesionals Neuro specialist EEGs and other Neuro testing to detect what's going on inside the targeted individual mind's.

[@JustinTaylor-bm7tw]

I honestly believe this note was left behind as the final opportunity for a narcissist to stroke their own ego one last time. Or to convince himself he was a good person through the distorted view of reality narrative he probably told himself again and again and again.

[@kevinhornbuckle]

What if he designed the tale to provide a modicum of relief to her family? That is a plausible possibility.

[@LisaPeterson227]

He felt justified in killing her, so he had to make up a narrative that matched that.

[@LisaPeterson227]

@@kevinhornbuckle It's too stupid to do that. He had no right to "mercy kill" her. The rest of the story does not make sense. Like how there was no way to help her.

[@Sarablueunicorn]

​@@LisaPeterson227 This dude has been commenting his reasoning everywhere. He probably killed someone or he's thinking of it.

[@KateBates22zabu]

@@Sarablueunicorn he's seeing which excuses work for a "mercy killing" he's dreaming of?

[@kkheflin3]

So the love of your life falls and hits her head and goes into hypothermia and the solution is to strangle her to death? Makes no sense. Absolutely none. He was still manipulating people with this notebook until the end of his miserable cowardly life. Brian thought he was a character in one of those bizarre novels he read all the time. What a martyr. His parents released this notebook IMO to make the world not so "angry" with Brian. Good luck with that Laundries.

[@lisacurtis8162]

one of the signs of hypothermia is delerium. How could she beg for death?

[@goshafrau3636]

Most likely he hit her on the head, she probably had a concussion or something from that, and that coward didn't want to call help because it would come out he hit her. So instead he decided to get rid of her completely.

[@kkheflin3]

@@lisacurtis8162 Excellent point. It is all BS and never happened IMO and typical of Brian Laundrie. He was a liar and a coward to the end of his life. He flat out murdered her in the heat of a passionate argument and concocted this bizarre tale to look like some sort of "hero." What a scumbag.

[@kkheflin3]

@@goshafrau3636 Exactly, Horrific what the poor girl must have felt when the love of her life was manually strangling her to death and smashing her in the head with a rock. God bless her. Not an easy way to die......

[@silviacaptan1300]

The note book was an exercise to find an explanation for his behaviour so he could be saved by his lawyer. Probably that was the plan with his parents and lawyer. I still do not believe a person like this, with parents like his will kill himself. He only disappeared from public eyes.

[@CCaravasi]

“She was not able to appreciate the warning signs” I find this statement profound! When love between two people begins those rose colored glasses come on and any red flags often blend in or just get dismissed entirely. I like that you worded it in this way because if we all operated from our higher mind, appreciation is exactly how we should feel when things don’t present themselves as they seem. Warning signs should be APPRECIATED!! that’ll stick with me forever. Thank you Dr. Grande

[@Lil_MermaidOn_Land]

Also his family encouraged his ways instead of holding him accountable to be better, or get him the mental health help he needs. He would be alive too if they were not blind to their own arrogance, and favoritism. If he wanted to save her, he would’ve taken her car to take her to the ER.

[@kingdommusic5456]

thats why all females should marry Only males older more mature than them( 7 -12 years older min . Plus the male is already established , financial secure etc . No same age poster boy mommy babysitters

[@laurenbatson5918]

@@kingdommusic5456 OR, take time to get to know someone before putting on those rose-colored glasses. That way, the flags will be visible.

[@sludgerat666]

@@kingdommusic5456 yes because mature men don't murder and rape

[@GinaHarmeyer]

He's such a bad liar. I was sickened by his attempts to make himself look like some kind of hero. He even said in the note he didn't know what her injuries were. Interesting that without that knowledge (which is probably all a fabrication anyway) he would choose to kill her rather than go find help. It's pretty clear that he killed her for other reasons based on the body cam footage from Moab. It seemed like he was trying to find a way to get rid of her at that time by trying to leave her stranded somewhere. He didn't want her around. He probably blamed her for the run-in with the police. My heart goes out to Gabby. I agree that she was just too young to understand the situation she was in. She trusted him and probably never thought he'd kill her :(

[@JudgeJulieLit]

Once Brian had had enough of their Western road trip and wanted to separate from her, he should just have said, let's end the engagement and drive home (to his parents', for her to pack up her possessions there and leave), or he should have just boarded a plane and flown home. No need to end her life. Even social media publicized romances can break up; he need not have catastrophized it, to think that killing her was his only option.

[@PoM-MoM]

​@@JudgeJulieLit A person that genuinely (ever) loved you had they started this trip they would finish it cordially and upon returning home when the other is back and refreshed and hopefully near other loved ones would THEN if still desired end the relationship afterwards, where the other is in a familiar & safe place. Not while out on the road in stressed situations and just leaving the other abandoned/alone.

[@bamaqueen2086]

I agree with you. I feel sorry for the parents.

[@kevinhornbuckle]

What if Gabby was threatening to kill herself if Brian were to leave her?

[@NormaJean951]

@@kevinhornbuckle we have no clue what really happened and everyone is assuming gabby was an angel.

[@emilyhollis4231]

He had all that time on the run and that's the best he could come up with?!? Quite unbelievable. Thanks Dr Grande!

[@KateBates22zabu]

And the help of that lawyer the dirty laundries hired.

[@Lauren_bex]

He is trying to say it was a hike gone wrong, but seriously they were not far from the vehicle. Plus there is evidence they pitched a tent!

[@LDiamondz]

That's exactly what I thought. If you're going to lie about why you murdered someone, AT LEAST make it sound like it _could_ be true. I guess he couldn't fake normal.

[@TheDriftwoodlover]

He doesn’t seem too bright.

[@peggypeters6676]

Sounds like a bunch of crap!!

[@ginalevesque6596]

He used “The English Patient “Movie dramatic scene when the hero left his injured girlfriend alone in a cave to go get help to rescue her . She doesn’t want him to leave her because she’s afraid the fire 🔥 will extinct and she will be left alone , cold 🥶 in the dark . Still he leaves her there to get help . During this waiting she’s writing him a journal note that he will later find when coming back too late to save her ….. He definitely had this movie scene in mind since he used many elements of this movie’s scenario of the most romantic movie in the last 20 years ….

[@chrishintz1077]

Interesting. Makes me wonder if he knew of this scenario. Somehow I doubt it though. He didn’t seem like the romantic type or a book/movie fan. More seemed the outdoors type. But your recalling of this scenario is eerie. Thanks for the post. Perhaps we’ll never know.

[@chrishintz1077]

I’m listening to Lennon’s jealous guy right now. It must have really galled Brian to see their relationship exposed after the cops pulled them over. How many people were affected by gabby’s situation .

[@Georgeanne17]

What...

[@ginalevesque6596]

@@chrishintz1077 I think this movie was so famous , you didn’t have to be a movie or book guy to know about it …for sure Gaby had seen it and told him about it because the 🏜 desert with caves “decor “were it was filmed ( Tunisia) was made of “caramel “ color sand very much alike the Utah areas they were visiting ( Grand Teton Park?) with desert / caves surroundings as well . Every woman with a minimum of romantic vibes would remember this English patient movie “aviator hero” and would have shared that story with her boyfriend!

[@chrishintz1077]

@@ginalevesque6596 yes, a searing, memorable movie. Ironic the English patient was actually Hungarian. ;).

[@biblia843]

My husband and I followed this case. As soon as I watched the police footage, I knew he was guilty. He was very obviously manipulating the cops to think she was just an overly-dramatic female stressed about him getting the van dirty. She was the one crying and being emotional and he was coming off as the rational man in the situation. Those cops, who sounded like they were young and naive themselves, bought it.

[@WindTurbineSyndrome]

I am certain the state police sheriff's dept and park police involved regret not arresting her that day she might be alive today.

[@theresac4893]

Yes and I believe he even had Gabby believing this about herself as well!! I've been there, done that. I survived. Poor Gabby didn't 😢

[@emersonmanning6523]

As soon as I saw the footage, I knew we were being fed a bunch of lies by a biased media. Brian tries to de-escalate the situation and he's called an abuser. Gabby tries to de-escalate the situation and she's called a victim. Gabby was the primary aggressor but escaped arrest because the cops felt sorry for her. She just engaged in criminal activity and her whining, with a contorted face, kept her from being held accountable for breaking the law. Brian minimized the situation, to keep her out of handcuffs, and he's vilified for it. Of course, people don't want to acknowledge Gabby's behavior because it contradicts the popular narrative. She's the ultimate whyyte damsel in distress, abusers don't look like HER, they look like everyone else. Bullshyt, in a world where women demand equality, she should have been arrested.

[@theresac4893]

@@emersonmanning6523 what in the world?? There are multiple witnesses that state they saw him hitting her outside the restaurant. Grow up dude. This isn't a gender thing.

[@emersonmanning6523]

@@theresac4893 I'm a woman... No one witnessed Brian hitting Gabby outside of the restaurant because it was a verbal altercation, not physical. And it's absolutely a gender thing. You literally have people using excuses like "gaslighting" for Gabby's violence in Moab. People are so emotionally invested in this case that they literally can't tell fact from the stories they make up in their heads. Your post above is a prime example. Bottom line, they were BOTH toxic individuals and the cops should have performed their due diligence in arresting the person they identified as the aggressor.

[@danajohnson8248]

The fact that he thought this was a good idea and anyone would believe it is insane.

[@RowanWarren78]

Typical narcissist, Brian

[@Handlebrake2]

I mean there are some ppl who believe in amber heard.

[@marcdraco2189]

@@Handlebrake2 my sister in law does. She also thinks that conventional medicine is a scam and that homeopathy is effective.

[@seymourclearly]

My father, who was a poice man, said, most of these peole, if they had any sense, would not have comitted these crimes.

[@Catlily5]

@@seymourclearly poice? man

[@cheatednomore6430]

What a disgusting person. Attempting to claim that Gabby requested & insisted on him murdering her & how he was thoughtful enough to oblige. I can't even imagine how horrible this is for Gabby's family on top of everything already being horrible enough.

[@caseytyler8326]

She may have even said oh God somebody stop this pain it hurts so much. People who are giving birth have been found to say similar things it’s not an invitation to kill somebody to stop their pain it’s just an off the cuff saying . I wish he was still alive to be interrogated and broken by investigators

[@stevep250]

@@caseytyler8326 i was in the icu last year saying oh god make this stop. definitely not an invitation to strangle me. this guy would've been passed around in the showers had he made it to prison

[@caseytyler8326]

@@stevep250 exactly and even if she said please murder me what sane person is like okay 👌🏻 I wish he was still alive so he could suffer 🤦‍♂️

[@emersonmanning6523]

They were BOTH nuts enough for it to be true....lol!

[@lindaknight5]

bS

[@underwaterseas]

One of the most frustrating parts of this case is that Brian always assumed that his lies were believable; that everyone else is just not as smart as he is. Pathetically, he gave himself away every time.

[@MelindaMc]

He was cray cray!

[@simoncullum5019]

Quite a common assumption by criminals who think they are smarter than the cops

[@grandmalovesmebest]

Wow. You just described my sister!

[@Dani-lc9hq]

this is very typical for narcissists... the condition seems to come with certain delusions and they believe in it so much that they often manage to convince others around them as well.

[@tertalksevents2day]

Coming from living with an abuser for 10 long years that I met when I was just 18, your analysis was absolutely spot on. My ex acted the same exact way. And, had it not been for nosy friends and intrusive family, I would have suffered the same horrible fate as poor Gabby.

[@DarthFurie]

I can't believe he had the audacity to make up a story about her begging to d!e and to say it was a "mercy k!lling"... what a sicko!!

[@baneverything5580]

Drug abuse. Donald Trump wasn`t thinking when he handed out huge drug money checks to leftist voters and millions are now suffering from severe brain damage.

[@Galaxie08]

@FateAndFurie: He wrote that she "wanted him to make the pain stop", that doesn't necessarily mean wanting to die, it's just how he interpretet it (in his 'version'). It doesn't add up because they weren't in Mt. Everest's Death Zone, they were in a camping area with cell phone reception, other campers nearby and their van just across the shallow creek.

[@DarthFurie]

@@Galaxie08 No kidding, his whole story just exposes him as the nutcase he was. Absolutely a pathetic waste of a human being

[@sluzardo5879]

As if this could possibly be true...So we are supposed to believe she loved him more than herself and asked him to kill her ?? With no thoughts about what her Mother, Father, and Step Parents might think ? They were a nice family and loved their daughter so much.... I don't believe Gabby would do that to them.... It is out of character...

[@katieg.9235]

And let's play devils advocate for a minute. Let's say someone was in such severe pain that they're not capable of thinking rationally and beg for you to end their pain.... doesn't mean you comply!

[@Catlily5]

If you want someone by your side it helps not to murder them.

[@ronaldgundrum2174]

Domestic violence no question with out a doubt.

[@naturalremedy8092]

True, Unless you get to keep their ashes while your in prison...

[@Catlily5]

@@naturalremedy8092 I doubt it.

[@gem5569]

He wanted her by his side only on his terms. He couldn't risk losing her from being under his control so he punished her by murdering her when he felt like she was at risk of being free from his grasp. Disgusting.

[@janpierzchala2004]

she beat it out of him, drove each other crazy, he killed her and then himself which counts for a lot (this suicide)

[@christa7773]

I agree with your interpretation 100%. Brian's imagined fireside scene reminds me of Kristin Scott Thomas's character's death in "The English Patient." (He carries her across the wilderness, builds a fire, tells her he's going for help and she says "I don't want to die alone in the desert" - the similarities go on and on). His story sounds like a made-up scene that Brian thought would cast him in a romantic-hero role and garner pity from the public. Unfortunately for him, it just reads as romanticized bullshit.

[@BrookeWinter82]

Good comparison!

[@chrissyknowsitall5170]

Very good comparison. I remember that movie. That kid was a abuser and monster!! I can't ever watch the clip with Gabby talking with the cops that afternoon, sitting in the back seat of the cop car. It literally breaks my heart. I hope her family finds some peace in life after losing their beautiful daughter. 🕊💔

[@emersonmanning6523]

The whole narrative is romanticized bullshit. Anyone who can't see they were BOTH toxic and violent has their eyes closed.

[@elizabethjocollins4313]

Elizabeth Jo Collins 0 seconds ago I don't think Brain Laundry is dead; the wound to the head skeleton is on the left side of his head. He is righthanded. I think his father and mother helped him leave the country and planted the faults evident to cove up his EVIL. He is alive and well, living in Italy with his mother's family. Someone needs to check this out! The mother and father are both as guilty as EVIL Brain is.

[@BarbinAZ]

Brian was dumb as a rock, he ran home to mommie ( who said she would hide a body for him) and I bet she taught him that story to write down

[@MsMiklosa]

Thank you for great analysis! It confirms what we saw on the police-film: She was a naïve girl in love, he a cold narcissistic toad with no scruples. A story as old as the history of humankind. Poor, poor girl.

[@pattyengler2569]

Thank you, Dr. Grande, for your analysis of the letter. I have had a gut feeling that as Gabby and Brian's trip continued, being with each other in tight quarters in that van and with each other 24/7, that perhaps Gabby was realizing that Brian wasn't the one for her. After the Utah incident, I suspect that friction only continued to escalate to the point that he killed her in a rage. Gabby reminded me alot of Shannon Watts..how both of them portrayed their relationships so positively in social media, when in actuality, the relationships were both troubled. Thank you for all the insightful programs that you make.

[@samanthastephens2382]

I think this is the best explanation I’ve heard yet of what probably happened to this very young and naive couple.

[@cherylroberts771]

Targeted individuals have been in the news there's documentary's there is evidence of the different types of program's and Ways to hack into peoples minds. What there is not. Is Medical examinations by the people who warn and speak out against the CRIMES that can be commited.. neural rights are Human rights. Medical examinations for targeted individuals. There's ways to detect the Assaults just like there are ways to Trace cell phones or radio stations. There's ways to intercept the signals too.. scary thought for the targeted Victims... but there's ways the authorities can catch the people who commit these crimes.. I hate to admit that Drs Law enforcement and Law firm's are failing the American citizens. EMF sensitivity has been recognized as a real Medical condition. microwave auditory effect is a real Medical condition. When people use this technology intentionally to hurt others it's a CRIME. It's a violaton against our Civil Rights for Law enforcement agencies not to INVESTIGATE.. some people report to the police several times. And nothing gets done to help the victims. Yeah I believe the gov would run Illegal experiments I believe creepy scientist would use this technology to harrass a woman of interest. Or Men.. some people sitting in Thier own yard's are Assaulted and on the News but where is the police? Why are They not looking for the local person that could have the microwave assualt weapons in their garage? Victims have caught criminals on video using microwave energy weapons to shoot at things yard and even assault people. I believe he called when they weren't shooting at his garbage cans but an elderly woman walking past. The police questioned him about why he's recording his neighbor.. SMH There's definitely a problem When law abiding citizens are reporting criminals and law enforcement ignores the criminals and tells the law abiding citizens they shouldn't be recording the criminals activity. Law and order.. just because law abiding citizens are easier to deal with Because they will obey the officers Doesn't Mean the Criminals should be ignored. There needs to be a Medical documentary on target Individuals! Medical proffesionals Neuro specialist EEGs and other Neuro testing to detect what's going on inside the targeted individual mind's.

[@BobbiSkankanos]

Yes and I would add that a lot of people including myself were struck by the how much duress she was under in the video with the cops and how he was all smiles cuz it was all about him and that his narcissism shine through and his manipulation. I think she tried to break up with him when he killed her. What's amazing is that she was with him for 2 years and apparently didn't have a clue. And I would put that down to him hiding it well enough that she didn't until he got her out and I. I can't I come to the conclusion when they were still looking for her body that after that video with the cops that he waited till they got on that trip part way through the trip by the way and then decided to more or less spring the trap of and started being nasty to her started manipulating her to the point where she was she wasn't just upset she was distraught in that video it was hard to watch I felt so bad for her. It was also hard to watch that smiling jackass like it was all about him. I mean if he truly loved her her being upset that way should have upset him just as much he should have been crying in front of those cops. I know that's how I get get when I'm fighting with somebody I love an upset we upset each other. But he wasn't. So he got her out there and started in honor decided he was going to he was going to make her his little minion his little what do you call him he's going to break her in on the on the trip and I think may I think possibly his father he got that from his father and that he wanted Gabby to be like his dear old mom. I think that whole the whole laundry family or I think there was two male psychos and one female enabler.

[@pattyengler2569]

@@BobbiSkankanos I couldn't agree more. Very well said!

[@kellywerner5976]

Can we just have a mandatory relationship class for all High School students to enlighten them on the characteristics of Narcissism? Dr Grande may you write the syllabus?

[@sharonreeves9093]

Why yes. I thought everyone knew strangulation was an act of mercy. He could not even be truthful before his own suicide. Brian Laundrie was a total sociopath. He did not want to face what he had done or face the consequences of his actions.

[@JudgeJulieLit]

Five to seven minutes of strangulation torture is no "mercy" euthanasia.

[@bellasmom2597]

I suspect his parent killed him that ws why they never showed where he was.

[@shaycarson6459]

This is as Chris Wattsion brain as it gets. For someone that read murder books. He went with a 3 year old brain story. I imagine he thought it would be made into a murder book like he liked one day… no Brian even my 9 year old boys would laugh at this joke.

[@iciajay6891]

He was such a narssist. That is one of the reasons he killed hinself. It is the last way he could have control. And he killed for control as well. I am guessing she was going to leave him or he about narssist do, knew she would.

[@jillcampbell3510]

On top of that he wanted people to feel sorry for him because he thought he was the victim in this entire situation. What a terrible person.

[@amieputnam4711]

Dr Grande, I have to say this is one of your best. I am so touched by your gentleness, compassion, and understanding of the elements of this case. Even shedding light on why Gabby may have not recognized the danger she was in. She was so very young. It can take years of experience with a narcissist to be able to see the patterns and realize something is wrong. And perhaps she did realize it and was trying to leave. Those of us who have been there know that is the most dangerous time of all.

[@thedreamisreal]

Years.

[@AndiSchneider]

This letter was just him trying to hide his cowardice. He was too afraid to face the consequences for his actions and killed himself. He even tried to play the martyr by saying he hoped animals would rips his body apart. If Gabby was begging to for him to end it then why was she afraid of the fire going out? In my opinion, they were arguing, Gabby was starting to get the courage to stand up to him, and possibly consider leaving him. I think Brian tried to kill her by hitting her in the head and when he failed he strangled her. If he loves her so much why would he leave her body out in the elements like that to be eaten on by animals? He knew where the car was, he knew what he was doing all alone, and if that family hadn’t been driving by and spotted he can he may have gotten away with it. In the end he made Gabby’s tragic death all about himself like every other narcissist on the planet. It is a tragedy that Gabby was murdered. I wish the police in Utah would’ve had better training to spot a victim of domestic violence and possibly spared all of this from happening. My prayers continue to go out to Gabby’s family, I can’t imagine going through the loss of a child.

[@robotaholic]

If a person could murder then they sure as hell can lie. He's a liar and I don't believe anything he wrote. Period. He didn't deserve to touch a hair on her head.

[@uofmicha]

I've heard the saying, " if you lie, you can steal, and if you steal you can kill. Well, we know he lied (alot) and stole her van, so....

[@sheilagravely5621]

I think Gabby told him it was over and he snapped. You can tell something was wrong with that pos in the police situation when they were talking to him. He was a creep, liar, and a murderer. His parents are No Better!

[@uofmicha]

@@sheilagravely5621 so that "fall" was a shove? I'm with you on the thought. If I entertain his story, I go back to not getting help.

[@markgordon6753]

The note has a demented quality that reminds me of interviews of murderers I've listened to where they give their rationales for murdering. The narrative that Laundrie produces is stunningly arbitrary and illogical and incoherent and gives the impression that he's way, way out there in narcissism land. Murdering Gabby is rendered as part of a care strategy.

[@Mama_Bear524]

Narcissism land 😂

[@cerorchid]

Yes, he makes himself the "hero" of his story by "saving" her from pain and suffering, despite the fact he is the cause of her pain and suffering. Delusional.

[@a.humphries8678]

He's very noble...smh

[@cerorchid]

@@eddysgaming9868 Right! Because if I fall, hit my head, and get a few scratches then of course I'm going to beg my husband to kill me because the pain is SO bad!! Lol.

[@judecieffe6769]

I reckon it may be smattered with truth, if he wrote it. They could have argued and physically fought and in the course of that, Gabby fell and hit her head. Enough to be badly hurt and for Brian to be in trouble. He then may have killed her, possibly telling himself it was best for her and best for him in the circumstances. In his head that could easily turn in to Gabby falling due to "an accident" and the killing being for mercy. It'll be interesting to see the digital confession on a device they've said exists, which is apparently a different story from this. Maybe it is just a total lie.

[@bostonrocks2075]

My speculation is that, after an altercation, she tried to swim away, get in the van, and go for help. This rejection, abandonment, and threat of police involvement was more than he could handle. He felt his only option was murder so he could perpetuate the myth that she loved him until her dying day and that he was a hero.

[@doo21leroux]

You said exactly what I did when I read it. This was his one opportunity at some small kind of redemption by at least admitting and telling the truth about what happened. Instead he doubled down and once again took a cowardly route trying to make up this ridiculous story painting him as some kind of hero.

[@chumchum4393]

Narcissist at its core. Even in death a narcissist will never take responsibility.

[@JeffinTD]

“Brian’s story is VERY hard to believe, for a number of reasons”. See also: Understatement as a comedic device.

[@wickidgrrl]

The last page that was shared to the media where Brian talked about taking his life where animals hopefully would tear him apart, to make Gabbie’s family happy and then telling whomever found him to pick everything up, because, “Gabbie hated litter.” I feel like it was such a huge coded “F-You” to Gabbie and especially, to her family. I’ve had a couple of exes’ in my life and unfortunately, my mother, who talk in this grandiose style. It’s similar to, “I’m going to hurt/kill myself if you leave.” It’s the, “Sorry to bother you!” When you ask for a boundary(my mom) to be respected or “I am your mother!” Get out. Get out as fast as you can. It’s easy to fantasize about it getting better. If it’s a parent/ family…”but they are your family, your mother…” Save it. FAMILY can be the most toxic people around you. You have every right to protect your mental health. Those men are my exes’ for a reason and I keep limited contact sometimes grey rocking my mom. FYI, I have had twice heartfelt sit downs with my mom to no avail. It’s never going to change and I don’t feel sorry for protecting myself. Please choose yourself and your mental care.♥️

[@lindaknight5]

I agree with you he harbored so much jealousy and he was going to control undermine rip everyone's hearts out. The degree of animosity was mounting and when in Gabbie's voice she spoke softly and carefully when showing Brian doing Yoga...it left me wondering

[@Tomm9y]

Absolutely, protect yourself. The most shocking thing about those with various disorders is that they will destroy themselves and those around them in the process of trying to control, manipulate them. It wasn't until I found a thorough therapist and spent the time reviewing people and events, that I began to see the picture and learn about how to protect myself as best I can. The most shocking thing about some abusers / disordered people is their ability to appear saintly to those around them/you particularly, officials, those in positions of responsibility, who in turn due to biases (idealogical & other) support the abuser in their habits and behaviour and even turn against you. So people you trust to support you and family fairly and proportionally acutally become secret manipulators on behalf of the abuser.

[@leannemo7382]

Actually, whether intentional or not, the last comment was even worse. It reads: "Gabby hated people who litter". It puts the focus of hatred upon random people, instead of the actual offense of littering, which would make more sense if Gabby's a judicious/fair person who didn't quickly judge people so harshly. It likely made some people speculate about a potential negative aspect of her personality, which Brian may or many not have intended with that final comment. Ugh.

[@bzmama3162]

Good for you for recognizing this and protecting your mental health. I have a similar relationship with my mom and you are spot on. You have to walK away. ❤️

[@lindaknight5]

@@Tomm9y you have nailed that one on the head!!

[@erinthesystem9608]

"Justifying negative behavior with positive emotions" was a brilliantly concise description!

[@Jeswald1]

I married a narcissist at Gabby’s age. Luckily, I got out (he has since remarried). This sounds so familiar. Their acts are out of altruism, morality, and responsibility. Always. They are excellent at fooling people. Brian’s preposterous note betrays his confidence in his ability to deceive people-hey, he fooled some cops! What a tragedy. I really want to know the story of what his parents knew.

[@iciajay6891]

And his killing of himself is the ultimate way to control what he had done.

[@ursodermatt8809]

and now? what are you married to now?

[@Jeswald1]

@@iciajay6891 You’re 100% right! If he were thrown in jail, we’d all forget about him. Now he gets to be his own “hero.” (There will be books about him.) You have to hand it to him: Epic Scum Bag.

[@patriciahayes2664]

So do I. If they ran interference for Brian, they're in deep trouble and will likely face a prison sentence for helping their son evade the law.

[@trevorthetherapist4200]

Are women ever at fault for the problems they create by whom they choose to partner with? Are women always a victim and everyone else is a narcissist?

[@bonniegeppert3912]

Dr.Grande thank you for your thoughtful analysis. This is a parent’s worst nightmare. Brian’s narrative in his notebook is not only self serving but shows what a sociopath he was. Even in his last words he could not take accountability for what he did to her. What is even worse is his parent’s behavior hiding behind the constitution of remaining silent and withholding vital information from Gabby’s parent’s, instead of doing the right thing and sharing what they knew. Clearly the apple does not fall too far from the tree.

[@hairgal3655]

I’m not sure any of this is even close to being true. My first thoughts were it was written and planted and he truly isn’t dead ( I’ve never really adhered to that narrative) if that’s not the case Brian was mentally ill. Such a sad event.

[@sadezem991]

It's insane to me how people still gave him the benefit of the doubt, insisting he didn't kill her before the journal was exposed. If he didn't, he just left her in a National park without reporting her missing, and retained an attorney. I don't think that hiring an attorney makes someone suspicious but the timeline of this case made it suspicious. This is just such a sad situation. My ex boyfriend was incredibly abusive and would sexually assault me, strangle me and even intentionally got me pregnant but then tried forcing me into having an abortion. I refused because I had already had one and the idea of having another broke me. He strangled me and tried pushing me off a hotel balcony to kill me. I ended up losing the baby. As horrifying as that was, I am lucky that I got away with my life and that I do not have a baby with that monster. Hearing stories like this makes me feel so sad that so many other women don't make it out alive.

[@lishen9]

Im intriuged by Why did you started having a baby with him in the first place?

[@sadezem991]

@@lishen9 Well it obviously was not planned. he would sexually assault me when I was asleep or threaten me if I didn't have sex with him. Most women in abusive relationships experience this. Sometimes it's easier to say yes and just get it over with than it is to say no and be assaulted.

[@elenagonzalez8463]

that sounds so scary I hope you're safe now. Not to make it about me, while I haven't gotten into an abusive relationship, but I did get sexually assaulted. If you don't mind sharing, could you tell me ways you have coped with your situation? I've gotten therapy which is helping a little but I feel lost since idk anyone who has been assaulted :/

[@grandmalovesmebest]

God bless you sweetheart. May you be surrounded w good ppl forever.

[@grandmalovesmebest]

@@elenagonzalez8463 look for a rape crisis center near you. Or a support group where you can feel safe and exchange information. Blessings.

[@hope46sf]

Thank you for your insights!! You have a calm, helpful, way of explaining people and issues.

[@milenacivonidalim]

Reading the note really disturbed me. His attempt to justify the murder by writing this nonsense was just bizzare. I was really wondering what are your thoughts on his behaviour so thank you very much for this video! ❤

[@teesmith501]

Some are theorizing that his mother actually wrote the letter.

[@carlose6010]

If Gaby wanted to die, she wouldn't had cared if the fire went out in her sleep. A nonsense idiotic note.

[@Hannahleigh_]

@@teesmith501 wonder if they can take hand writing samples

[@Mama_Bear524]

@@teesmith501 usually I’d scoff at that. But with these psychos I honestly could believe it

[@ruslankhozouzmusic]

True

[@Army4life82]

He was a narcissist til the end!!!! A mercy killing my foot!!!! Lies!!!!!!

[@Onegoodmichael1]

Dr. Grande, your amazing ability to deduce what most likely transpired in every scenario you undertake is EXCEPTIONAL! The care you take is second-to-none! ✨

[@janelleyharris5042]

Thank you for following this and doing the video... I wouldn't have known about this new development had your video not popped up!

[@chrissiebabe234]

A well-known forensic psychiatrist once said that the number of people who describe themselves as extremely helpful is significantly high among convicts with life sentences, which initially was a total surprise to her. Difference between self-portrayal and external perception.

[@ronaldgundrum2174]

Domestic violence no question.

[@ALinn-vr3nl]

What a spot-on piece of information that helps clarify information about Brian's murder of Gabby. Thank you.

[@tThisNThat]

If that was a surprise to her, I'm wondering how she ever got well known. That is basic.

[@richardlong8014]

What a tragedy for everyone.

[@davidbrienlantry8760]

Thank You Dr. Grande, for shredding this killer's romanticized "Notebook/ Romeo & Juliet" malarkey and calling Brian Laundrie out for what he was, a coward and a killer, terrified at being held accountable for his actions.

[@MybigN]

......"It offers a glimpse into the distorted thinking of a murderer and how they justify negative behaviours with positive feelings". There is a wonderful way your analysis doesn't just educate people but also give insight into human behaviour. I am a great fan of your content from Nigeria.

[@MinPinSteve]

I wonder if this is the version he told his parents when they obtained a lawyer. This notebook confession is just…cruel.

[@jennyd9144]

that letter just brought all my anger over this case back up. When killers say they love their victims its the absolute biggest slap in the face.

[@Catlily5]

It is not real love if you physically abuse someone or murder someone. That is twisted selfish love.

[@barbara9475]

If someone loves you the way Brian describes how he did, he wouldn't have been able to so call put her out of her misery. My heart hurts for her family and I hope some day they can move on from this horrible nightmare. God Bless them and keep them safe. Thank you for sharing.

[@TheDriftwoodlover]

Yeah, when most of us love someone we’d do almost anything to get them medical help in an emergency. A scant few decide mercy killing is the better option. 🙄

[@juneelle370]

A crucial point~ “She was killed by someone who said he loved her” “She was not able to appreciate the warning signs and may have been affected by her own affection for him. She didn’t understand how some negatives, like violence, cannot be outweighed by any number of positives.”

[@Bunny-rh1yy]

Excellent breakdown, perfectly understandable analysis.

[@wendyperkins8311]

i want to give thanks to the amazing spotting of gabbys van in the grand teton national park. without this find, who knows if her family would ever had closure. a big commercial bus converted into a family home, named red white and bethune, happened to be driving past, searching for a camping space. they saw the alerts on the news and recognised the van that they had passed and called the police. they seem to have fallen off the radar but they seem a sweet group according to their you tube channel.

[@gayle2850]

I think he was counting on no one finding him. I believe he planned it after the restaurant issue

[@Nephthys-ness]

@@gayle2850 -idk- he went home 2x after moab restaurant. 2nd time; Went camping with family (who buy new phone(s)), then went on the lam to fav park, flood levels vary wide-ly in area during this time - some searching is impossible at some times in different areas, parents allowed to search and everything is found in under an hour. What strikes me is that in his note he says my body will be eaten & carried far from this spot by animals. In Fact body was found 250m from bag. But, of all the bodies thrown to be eaten into the swamps of Florida * that Do NOT get fully devoured or displaced *, he got pretty clairvoyant about his. Personally, I didn't think I would feel worse about this horrible, tragic murder of a sweet girl after hearing the note, but I do. I definitely feel much worse. What weak, scared, narc punks Brian & his Parents are.

[@freakydeakydorkable]

They have a channel that is growing pretty strong! The family is a joy to watch💜

[@hoolydooly5799]

@@gayle2850 Yes Gayle, the lunch time blow up at the restaurant then the 'bad thing' happened that night, I believe. I think he was probably jealous of her. He did not be accountable, responsible >> bit like his Mother & father it seems [?]

[@Bees123Knees]

I found your analysis informative, with some bits of hilarity, which I greatly appreciate.

[@ameliasparkles13]

It’s so hard for me to understand the mindset of someone who thinks they’re fooling everyone when they’re very much NOT.

[@LaciRae]

because it has worked for them/people have fallen for it enough times.

[@Andreamom001]

Hard for me to understand why he would even try. Why does he care what people think about him after he is dead?

[@martindebrois1472]

- Because everybody cares what people think about them after they're gone. It's pretty much a constant human trait.

[@casedistorted]

They never realize just how much evidence there is to convince everyone otherwise, he was probably in a reality and media bubble where he had no clue everyone knew he was a narcissistic sociopath nutjob

[@catc8927]

It’s a narcissist thing. They think they’re better and smarter than everyone else and never get caught, when in reality most people just don’t want to call them out on an obvious embarrassing mistake.

[@gertieriemer7548]

This analysis is so well thought out and explained. Thank you for your keen insights and validation of how so many of us feel about this person and this situation. Brian has tried and failed to fool everyone one last time.

[@GengoSenmon]

You were the ONLY commentator to address the 'fear of prison' comment. Bravo. He tried to sandwich that obvious lie in between fake sentimental emotions to trick most listeners. He absolutely did NOT desire to kill himself. He felt no genuine remorse for killing her. Suicide was his ONLY escape from the torturous life in prison his ego could not possibly handle.

[@Jared_Wignall]

I appreciate all of your thoughts on this case when it was developing and even now as the notebook has been released to the public. Thanks for the great work you do Dr. Grande, keep it up!

[@pamelawray1501]

Aa

[@TheOneWhoGnocchs]

I think his original reporting on this story was actually one of the first videos that got me into his channel

[@kevinhornbuckle]

Please explain how manufacturing evidence qualifies as "great work."

[@PollyAlice2000]

Gabby’s youthful high hopes and sincere affection for Brian are what made everyone feel so strongly about her murder. I feel sad that during her time with Brian, she likely was convinced by him that she was the reason for any trouble in their relationship. RIP Gabby. The light of your spirit remains.

[@ninamarybuba7440]

The Moab police video shows Gabby placating the narcissist in her life. She apologized for keeping her van clean because it upset Brian that she was a clean freak. Brian was trouble, and she did her best to take the blame in an attempt to keep the peace. He murdered Gabby in an attempt to control her.

[@Seabird41]

Well said.

[@windsofmarchjourneyperrytr2823]

@@ninamarybuba7440 I'd've left him at the gas station. But what do I know...?

[@pinupgirl9160]

When you mention that possibly she was trying to leave Brian laundry that really stood out to me as something that probably was happening because they had had prior arguments publicly and a run in with police. I think Gabby was just starting to get wise to his tricks and probably did try to break up with him on the trip. Great analysis!

[@trailrunner925]

The thing I don't get is that if she wanted to "leave him" or "break up" with him, she never had to pick him up at the airport in SLC after his 2 week return to Florida. She stayed in a hotel, her father sent her money for meals? I mean, I wonder what conversation took place between Gabby and her parents at that time. Why couldn't she confide in them? and if she did, why didn't they come get her? I'm thinking he went back to Florida those two weeks maybe with no intention of returning, would be interesting to release the call logs and see who was calling who at that time, and with what frequency. Also wonder when his ticket to Florida was purchased, and if it was round trip, one way..... I've never seen these issues addressed in media reports.

[@katelist8367]

@trailrunner925* Valid points also. I do not know what gabby told her parents, but they surely should have pickup on something being off. There were several points to head this off and save Gabby`s life. However, ultimately Abby would have had to realize this herself ... just wish it had happened so differently. I feel Gabby had previously suffered some sort of abuse in her family life to make her susceptible to Brian's abuse. That was how it worked with me. This case really bothers me so much ... I guess because it was all right there in front of the public, more than once and her best friend knew what a schmuck he was as well. So so sad.

[@Zmiana_Pogody]

@@trailrunner925 very good questions! 👍💯

[@trailrunner925]

@@katelist8367 Agree. Intimate Partner Violence should be a class all teenagers are required to take.... it's not the "be all end all", but making them aware of strategies, resources, ways to deal with frustration/anger, how do distance in unsafe situations..... if it clicks with one or two people, it's worth it.

[@trailrunner925]

@@katelist8367 Also just following that train of throught,, if Brian DID return to Florida with the idea of breaking up and leaving her on the road by herself, maybe HIS parents talked him into going back and saying you have to at least help her drive back.... and the ensuing guilt trip realizing their advice cost Gabby her life, and his life now ruined also. Only they know, and revealing what they know won't bring either one back. I''m not a believer in the "knowledge brings closure" when it comes to grief and loss. For some, there is never closure, just learning to limp along with a missing limb.

[@angelahafford3658]

Dr Grande ! Bravo. Wow you broke that down so beautifully for all who grew to love that young lady.. we still pray for Justice for Gabbys . PEACE for the family But never forget and make domestic violence a real living matter, and then the dying can stop . Let the healing begin.

[@thatdjiswild]

A person afraid of losing someone they love wouldn't aide in their death. They would've taken the chance and went to look for help. It's very sad that even in his last moments, he was still deceptive.

[@rebel4466]

Actually it's fitting the whole "If I can't have her, no one will" thing. There even are serial killers who did their thing to have control over others and them not being able to leave anymore. The human mind can be extremely crazy

[@zencronimax7636]

@@rebel4466 a lot of parents that commit infanticide do that as well. mainly when the parents separate. “i cant have the child to myself no one can” or “maybe if my child dies they’d realize everything is their fault”

[@lindaknight5]

He was a liar thief and a coward and I can no longer speak of doing my own laundry

[@chrisgullett4332]

He could be telling the truth. The one thing most people are not taking into account, and it is probably because they do not know, but both were on medication because they were both autistic. i am not saying he is telling the truth, but I think it is a good possibility he is.

[@thatdjiswild]

@@rebel4466 while I appreciate you looking outside of the box, to me it doesn't add up. Also we have to remember they had already had a domestic dispute and was separated by cops. That's not usually a one off thing. If he wanted to take his life he could've done that in Wyoming. He was selfish, and was on the run. Why write a note that could've possibly went undiscovered. It's hard to think about it but even a lot of us are scared of having journal's found after our death and don't want ppl to think bad of us. I agree with him playing g hero and still not taking responsibility.

[@SweetUniverse]

When I was 25, my bff was murdered by someone who said he loved her (her husband). He told her he would give her the world if she married him. Instead, he took the world away. She was also too young and unworldly to see the warning signs, one of which was obsession.

[@jet4415]

I wonder if the statistics were reversed in that women killed men in the same huge numbers. I think the media would go ballistic as they always blow up women to men murders. Men kill women every day in their rage. I think murder/suicide where the man kills the woman/children then themselves is the upmost of selfishness.

[@tinaf600]

😢

[@ronaldgundrum2174]

Domestic violence no questions.

[@cheatednomore6430]

I am so sorry for your loss & for what your BFF endured from this deranged, obsessed & selfish man. My condolences for a beautiful life lost and for how you miss her. 💔 Thank you for sharing what happened.

[@OnePalestine1948]

So sad…

[@lucyxoxo]

AMAZING! Thank you for this! This video really spoke to me, you showed us all the little tricks he tried to play on the audience/us.. and I as well see right thru that! You are an incredible intelligent man.. thank you for your knowledge 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@emilypaige732]

Dr. Grande, your analysis was incredibly enlightening. Would you be willing to comment on the behavior of Brian Laundrie’s parents?

[@sunnycatc6491]

They're guilty AF. If my son asked me to help him after a murder, I would give him a hug, say I love you and quietly call the police. He'd kill them too if he felt he had to...

[@kathynicholson103]

To me, they are worse than him.

[@jeanieolahful]

@@kathynicholson103 chip off the old blocks. This story is so crazy. I’m glad they’re being sued.

[@kevinhornbuckle]

Should Dr. Grande manufacture evidence against them too?

[@emilyflotilla931]

@@kevinhornbuckle What's manufactured?

[@sammigirl66]

I followed this case as it unfolded and it was so incredibly sad. His parents helped their son escape and leave this world like a coward instead of turning himself in. I hope her parents civil case goes through against his parents.

[@kevinhornbuckle]

How do you know that they knew he killed her?

[@athenaf8278]

The note sounded in parts as if it was co authored by his mother Roberta in an effort to exonerate themselves…

[@sammigirl66]

@@kevinhornbuckle so imagine your son comes home in his girlfriends van knowing that they are always together. Her parents call you freaking out because she’s not answering her phone. They took him to buy a new phone, went on a camping trip, after they found Gabbie’s body he was staying out their house, then one night when the cops weren’t there he runs away. You think during all that time they didn’t stop and think that their son did this? That they supplied him with everything he needed before he left? Don’t you think that’s aiding and abetting?

[@dearbh1736]

@@kevinhornbuckle There is also a letter that was released along with the notebook when these items were being returned to the families. The letter was written by Roberta Laundrie to Brian offering him money and pleading to help him. It's not a smoking gun but it sure sounds like she knew something. I'm not part of a lynch mob but the Laundrie family have behaved in a way that suggests they had something to hide. The only reason that the Petito/Shmidt families went ahead with the lawsuit which has not yet been approved for trial, is because they claim to have witness testimony, which counts as evidence, that proves that the Laundries knew that he had killed Gabby during that time frame when they released the statement through Bertillino to her family saying they hoped that Gabby would be found when they actually knew she was dead. It is the entire premise for the case.

[@kevinhornbuckle]

@@dearbh1736 Helpful info. Thank you.

[@SilverLayna]

He couldn’t even tell the truth in a suicide note. He denied her family some small comfort of knowing what happened and why. I didn’t think my opinion of him could get any lower-until now. That “confession” is bs. Period. He was probably abusing her and had been for a while, they got in a fight and he killed her in anger. He’s pathetic and frankly so are his parents.

[@HendersonHinchfinch]

Why was your opinion of him so low before seeing this suicide note? Just curious. It’s not like it was 100% clear cut that he killed her.

[@emersonmanning6523]

She was abusing him, however, I agree. She probably got physical AGAIN and he snapped. She should have been arrested in Utah.

[@ptrishagamin6398]

@@HendersonHinchfinch oh it was SO frikken obvious. Are you kidding. Guy was a huge douche and good riddance.

[@archeewaters]

i believe she did reject him. when the police stopped them for domestic violence, the female officer told gabby to leave the relationship. she might have mentioned this advice, which would have triggered his anger. he could not control his emotions.

[@AliciaL98]

I wondered if she wanted to call it quits on the trip and relationship. He couldn't take it, because no one loves Gabby like Brian did (supposedly).

[@archeewaters]

@@AliciaL98 if she left him, he would lose his prized possession and the one thing he could control. without her, he was nothing.

[@XFonti-ik3ql]

Not only they missed all the reg flags while talking to Gabby and Bryan, but they advise her without any plan to protect her, to leave Bryan , Wow they escalate the abuse to another extreme level : her death ! BRAVO 👏 for the Utah's officers that stopped them, they should all resign of their jobs as protective police officers, because is obvious they are incapable off !!! THEY SHOULD HAVE HAD ARRESTED BRYAN THAT DAY !!! It was clear with ALL the information, that she was in a Domestic Violence relationship and they completely missed it !!!

[@justmichael6628]

@Heh . ( YOUR N.P.D. IS REVEALING ).

[@noellarash367]

What a “Coward”… it was always about him... me, me, me mentality

[@RJelly-fi6hd]

Narcs are pretty good at manipulations and lies, and co-dependents give the benefit-of-the-doubt WAY too many times. Unfortunately, I know this too well. Prayers for Gabby's family.

[@peekaloo12]

He comes off as delusional. Like, his note is half trying to convince the public, and half trying to convince himself that he was heroic to the end.

[@debbiec4530]

I’m so glad you did an update on this case. I read the note that was released. I think he wanted to be a martyr and make us think it was an act of mercy. No I’m sorry- I don’t buy it. He left her body there. I agree with you - he did it during an argument. Thanks for doing this update. 🤠💕

[@donnawoodford6641]

Brian's family did Gabbie's family no favor by keeping her death secret even after Gabbie's parents asked about her. I hope the Petito family receive justice in court.

[@anonygrazer3234]

The subsequent actions of his parents at least partially explain why their whelp turned out as he did.

[@koolbreezz52]

I believe the parents didn't care for Gabby they didn't care that she past away

[@35daphni]

I agree with you completely. The letter was all about him, his feelings, his loss etc. That is the most BS story I've ever heard. The little SOB couldn't even tell the truth during his "death bed" confession. That shows exactly what a piece of $hit person he really was. Not that we didn't already know that. God rest Gabby's soul.

[@Juicebox-gp3uf]

Lol, "The most BS story I ever heard"! Same, girl, what a turd. She was waay too good for him and he knew she was figuring it out. How's HELL, BL?😁

[@35daphni]

@@Juicebox-gp3uf Pretty sure it's damn hot down there. I bet he'd be happy to have a nice creek to walk across now.

[@ronaldgundrum2174]

Domestic violence no questions.

[@OM-or3im]

My thoughts exactly. What a POC human. All he was concerned with at the end was image.

[@Juicebox-gp3uf]

@@35daphni And don't you love how he starts telling us, the reader, what to do?!!! Referencing his parents, "Don't be hard on them, blah, blah, fucking blah". Shut up, Twerp. 🥴

[@hoolydooly5799]

Yes, the note-book-letter story was a contrivance or fictionous 'script' so he appeared 'valiant' and a construct to cover up for himself [& parents]. Thank you Doctor.

[@janetgraham4375]

Well said, on point 100%

[@alywi]

I was told that narcissist’s motto is “Lie till you die”. Seems fitting.

[@brandi680]

I'm seeing this truth with my narcissist parents.

[@sandramiles8390]

Wouldn't Gabby's "injuries" of been observed and documented in her autopsy? Brian indicates that Gabby sustained injuries severe enough for her to beg him to "end her misery", so that would mean she had serious enough injuries that would be picked up on during the autopsy. I don't remember anything being said about "injuries" other than the manual strangulation/throttling.

[@lindsayschilling8707]

Initially not all of the autopsy findings were released. From. What I've heard from "Duty Ron" & a few other sites, Gaby was ferociously beaten. Her severely damaged skull indicates this. I don't know how many other broken bones she had. Clearly her injuries were NOT the result of slip & fall in a creek. Also, there was clear evidence of Gaby being throttled. Her injuries were extreme. 😔

[@cottontails9003]

@@lindsayschilling8707 Lindsay, as a registered nurse, the injury, too the brain, would explain her irritate abilities, I also wonder if she had a bleed into the brain, with medical care, she would have survived that. What I don't believe is she got this injury, by falling into water.

[@helenaczekanska3513]

@@cottontails9003 it was not posibility to call medical help from this place ,,, OR DRIVE QUICKLY QUICKLY TO HOSPITAL WITH HER PROBLEM ???? where the hell they was ????

[@TheDriftwoodlover]

Oh for goodness sakes, you’re looking at facts! Listen to Brian’s fiction.

[@jumpinjohnnyruss]

No, unfortunately. They might have been, though.

[@jamaaldavis6243]

I was anticipating that you would make an upload on this as soon as the news broke. And I was right on the money. You never fail to disappoint. Thanks Doc!

[@timmyturner999_]

Haha me too I was like hopefully dr grande can explain this i will be waiting for the video and here we are haha

[@tinkerpinkerton5449]

Disappointed?

[@leesquee]

Same, my first thought was What will Dr Todd have to say about this?!

[@bthomson]

We know what he means but you are right that is wrong!🤔🤗

[@tinkerpinkerton5449]

@@bthomson I'm just a massive pedant who thinks they're hilarious after a few sherry's. 🤫🤭

[@lnc-to4ku]

What a brilliant video, Dr. Grande, from beginning to end! Loved how you exposed his narsassitic writings "Brian tells a story of a hero's journey...."

[@Justice4some]

He “dropped a bar” I thought that was good to 🥺😭

[@ZagnutBar]

I'd love an analysis of Laundrie's family, including the parents and sister. When Brian went missing, his sister said on camera "I've lost my sister and now my brother" but this was before his body had been found. Whoops. Nobody in the media grabbed on to this. It seems the family knew a whole lot more than they let on.

[@shareandhealaftertrauma7060]

Yep she was full of lies also

[@tessajones9393]

To be fair, he was missing. So she did lose him. I don't think blaming the family is fair. It's not their fault he did what he did.

[@Llagkk]

@@tessajones9393 family who enables deserve some blame.

[@justmichael6628]

@@tessajones9393 The definition of Missing is not the same as Lose , for they each have their own defined meanings , not being the same . One who uses a word with the incorrect defined meaning is misleading one's own perception and others as well . PS . TO BE FAIR

[@patscats2080]

Me too!!

[@MissPril]

I always look forward to your calm,cool,level headed takes on the crazies that populate our world.

[@1lmp1]

As everybody, I do not believe even a second that what Brian said was true. When Gabby and Brian were stopped by the police for reported assault, Brian's narcissism is clearly visible. He is talking and laughing with the police like buddies while Gabby is crying in the police car. But a little later. woman, park ranger or something, talks to Gabby and tells her that perhaps this is a time for Gabby to reevaluate her relationship with Brian among with other advice. I believe that her advice along with the whole police situation opened Gabby's eyes for the reality of her relationship. Most likely the situation was discussed between Gabby and Brian later on and Brian realized he was going to lose her and typical for controlling narcissist he attacked and killed Gabby.

[@karenryder6317]

Her rejection could have thrown this narcissist into a rage.

[@alicetulino6784]

I agree

[@ronaldgundrum2174]

Domestic violence no question.

[@AubernsRevolution]

Yes, she wanted out. He would not allow that. 😒

[@sannesteers]

Or he 'put her into her place', was very angry and abusive to her 'and it was all her fault he had to do so because it was all her fault the police had landed down on them, on him, so it was all her fault he had to behave abusive, because there was no other way to correct her'. How crazy it may sound, I have heard that happen before.

[@cult-member]

Spot on, doc. Between Gabby and Johnny, the public is getting a crash course on narcissistic abusers. Thanks for helping. ✌️💜

[@Memow-pk1ng]

That was another toxic. , both were abusers

[@jennj9026]

Yeah..but if they REALLY want to understand it...forget the lame celebrities and big news stories....they need to talk to every day NPD survivor like me..who then went through an 13 year marriage and then an 8 year custody battle where they are adept at dragging the protective parent through hell....talk to a ton of people like me and sadly we are in the millions and watch every video on Dr. Ramani's KZbin channel..and then you'll get it. That said, no one but us survivors will ever understand or ever "get" the true emo and psychological torture and the nuance of this form of abuse and how you end up with Complex Trauma (CPTSD) for years afterwards and years of healing.

[@gem5569]

Both came at the right time for me in my healing from narcissist abuse. I wouldn't wish it upon anyone. From the moment that I saw my sister in him (I had been in denial about her for years with no memory of her abusing me as a kid) I tried to fix him, even telling him one day that I was concerned that he might be a narcissist. Still, I loved him like I loved my sister. Victims really can be so naïve sometimes.

[@steveshea6148]

Gabby was inexperienced, in love, and naiive. She wasn't even comfortable driving her own van, as per her own comment after her near arrest. This was a fatal combination with the person she happened to be involved with at the stage of life she was in, ins location far from assistant, and probably not realizing the danger she was in and unable or unwilling to cut brian loose,and leave him there, without telling him, to ensure her own safety , which would be totally justifiable. A truly sad ending to a young life.

[@jacobberman4616]

It was a set up. Brian didn’t do it

[@Frogstomp27]

@@jacobberman4616 where is your evidence for this?

[@dgtwo3724]

@@jacobberman4616 Dr. Grande should do a video analyzing you.

[@jacobberman4616]

@@dgtwo3724 one day..

[@JudgeJulieLit]

And assuming she ever looked at her fiancee Brian's sociopathic anti-art, she steadfastly ignored its red flag signs of a covert sadistic killer disposition, such as his sketch of a popsicle with a knife blade hidden within the sweet treat. Were his worldly shrewd, pragmatic parents who raised him and had his art in their house likewise innocently clueless of hints of his latent, potential violent tendencies?

[@maureeningleston1501]

Self serving even from beyond the grave. That's a further insult to Gabby's friends and family.

[@spartacussmith7070]

If any of this were true, the parents should be investigated for their short trip with Brian before he went to the swamp.

[@cherylelancaster8791]

Gabby was afraid the fire might go out if he left her? Doesn't that indicate her will to live? How could someone possibly believe she asked him to kill her? A natural instinct would be to go for help, in hopes she would recover once care was rendered, but he strangled her?

[@karenryder6317]

Of course. This is just one of many inconsistencies in his "story" that have been noted throughout these comments.

[@kitchenskills5427]

Thank you for your analysis. I have always wondered about Brian and found it odd that there is so little known about him after he left high school. I've only seen interviews from Gabby's family or his sister. Did he have any friends? I don't even know if he attended college or a trade school or ever held a job. I would also request that you analyze his parents, as there was some serious denial and or lying in the Laundrie household when he came back from the trip without her. I also wonder if his inability to take responsibility for his behavior was learned behavior from his parents who seem to take no responsibility for the hurt and pain they have caused Gabby's parents?

[@bweaver760]

I think Brian probably told his parents that Gabby broke up with him and she was staying in a hotel or place out in Wyoming when he arrived back at his parents house. He must have thought that when Gabby’s body was found, he would claim “she must have gone hiking by herself and got fatally hurt while hiking”,

[@kathywithak7529]

“Murdering someone is not a typical response if a person is injured “ Options 1. Run for help 2. Call 911 3. Commit murder

[@bug3474]

Excellent. I would add that his parents are continuing to carry on this Laundrie tradition of deception and vile hatred. They, like their son, have had countless opportunities to Do What is Right. Thank you.

[@mollygiovanna1095]

Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.

[@blackpaw3776]

Parents of narcissists dont teach their kids to do the right thing! They teach them that if something goes wrong, it’s not their fault-they are the victim, and that they are entitled to be protected. My brother is a narcissist and got into a legal issue, and my parents were offering all the money from their savings to get him out of trouble, ofc i told them no. I grew up seeing how he became narcissistic, and my mom never ever disciplined him. She always had a sweet spot for him and let him get away with bad behavior. That’s how they become who they are.

[@wendyperkins8311]

spot on dr grande! she didnt have a clue - her youth played to social media and his diagnosis manipulated it.

[@yogadork_namaste]

He murdered her, not a mercy kill. This note was a last ditch effort to control how the public feels about him.

[@Katerina9256]

And to cushion his fams from the truth. I wonder if they bought it or deep inside maybe they know. Well, we all know! Most of us anyway.

[@moecuspocus]

As always, thank you for being realistic. I appreciate it.

[@goobfilmcast4239]

- Poor Brian, that girl just ruined his life and took away his future by needing to die. He is indeed the victim.- On a less cynical note: I feel so badly for Gabby's parents who will have an even more difficult time in learning to live with their grief .... its all just so sad

[@gaylemc2692]

Well said.

[@Handlebrake2]

idk, I think they're better off with that dweeb.

[@Catlily5]

Yeah right. Get real!

[@goobfilmcast4239]

​@@Catlily5 My comment was meant to be sarcastic and cynical. That dude should be rotting in hell.

[@majortom8990]

Thank you as always for your sober and thoughtful analysis of a complicated topic, Dr. Grande. Such a tragic story, and very sad that she was denied a bright future by someone she trusted.

[@laramauss1948]

love to hear your opinions 😘, Yes, his story was not truthful. Something dark happened.

[@EagleBoxx]

It doesn't make ANY sense. A mercy killing ??? Was she a racing horse who just broke its leg ? What does it mean ? She couldn't walk for a few hours so it was time for her to die ? What insanity is this ? I can't stand this guy truly, his last act was to insult Gabbie's family. Even in death he is hurtful to everyone around him.

[@joychappell3817]

I couldn't agree more Dr. Grande. He is deplorable in every sense of the word. A coward's way out.

[@kevinhornbuckle]

Do you think killing yourself takes no courage?

[@joychappell3817]

@@kevinhornbuckle the cowardly part was killing someone else and not taking accountability or risk being caught or being punished for his actions. Furthermore, he caused both families tremendous pain and suffering for his actions.

[@kevinhornbuckle]

@@joychappell3817 Point taken. But if he had not killed himself, many people would be citing that (just the opposite) as proof of cowardice.

[@__taylor__]

- Weak, lazy attempts to win over a reader - Grandiose story with many plot-holes - The belief that charisma alone will make their words believable, despite their contradicting actions - No regard for the victim, no accountability, and no real apology - His feelings shadowing everyone else’s involved - Attempts to convince he was the noble, rational, and thoughtful one - Delusions over reality: his crumbling relationship; Gabby’s real feelings towards him; and his actions along with how they manifested - Finally, every single admission of guilt is always explained away as an attempt to do the right thing. Anything with ill-intent as motivation seems to always just be a misunderstanding. …This note has all the key ingredients of narcissistic behavior and their last resort when confronted with their actions. Taking all his cheap manipulation tactics into consideration, this note might as well be viewed as the opposite of the truth. He might as well of just said, “I killed her. There was no reason to kill her. She didn’t want to die. She wasn’t injured. I never held or comforted her. She wasn’t getting along with me. I never tried to save her. I think she deserved her final outcome.” Even though the public would’ve never bought this note anyway, I’m glad the JD defamation suit at least warmed people up to seeing through cheap manipulation. It just blows my mind that he still wouldn’t take accountability, knowing he will cease to exist by the time anything he wrote was read.

[@kevinhornbuckle]

What if Brian wanted to provide some modicum of peace to Gabby’s family, and attempted to do so by lying? If he had admitted in the notebook that she was a dangerous nut who attacked him once too many times, would people now be saying he’s a liar?

[@goodoldschool898]

@@kevinhornbuckle Nope.

[@bonnies.d.1121]

@@kevinhornbuckle I don't see what could be comforting in lies, especially such a big, obvious one. If, indeed, she habitually initiated violence -- which I find hard to believe -- he was large enough to neutralize her...right?

[@kmdn1]

Yeah it's so disturbing to see this because it shows what really motivates narcissist. He is more frightened of being seen in a negative light and losing whatever status or value he thought he had, than of losing his own life. He would rather DIE than give up on trying to uphold his hero image. That's fucked up

[@robrob9050]

You expected any accountability from the sick mind? I believe he was fluffing his ego by thinking this tragedy will go into history as Romeo and Juliet story and gathering strength to pull trigger by writing this final nonsense of his life.

[@bartholomewesperanza3442]

I find it odd how one minute he’s trying to keep gabby awake because he thinks she may have a concussion and doesn’t want her to die, to the next minute strangling her to death because he wants to end her pain? Like you just woke her up because it would be unsafe for her to sleep just to kill her yourself?? Doesn’t make any sense.

[@karenryder6317]

This is a very telling contradiction in his story.

[@annabelballew931]

This was exactly my thought. Wouldn't slipping into a coma when she fell asleep be a better death than being strangled. Also, if she was hurting so bad that she needed relief from her pain, how could she fall asleep? And why oh why didn't he put his clothes on her? So many problems with his story.

[@justmichael6628]

Sounds like he knew that he had gone to far and the Heinous act he committed was irreversible ( her slipping in and out of conscience ; having convulsions ) . So he can't bare to see her die a slow death and decides to speed up the process by choking her . He was a real Narcissistic sociopath with psychopathic tendencies . And That Apple Did Not Fall Far From It's Tree .

[@beccac6812]

Yes because often when you are cold and have a head injury, you ask the nearest person to please strangle you and leave you in the desert for weeks without telling your family about it . Makes sense. The worst part of this to me is the way his parents continued to coddle their baby boy when he had murdered someone else’s baby girl. He had cleary never been told no or held accountable his entire life , and that never changed: to the end he couldn’t admit responsibility and they allowed him to escape and not be held accountable .

[@autumxxleaves4186]

Very true.

[@m00nrac00n]

Typical man baby. The twisted logic of those individuals is only fueld by their experience of never being held accountable. They find heroism in murder. Its utterly disturbing.

[@grec.]

"She asked me to end her pain" inmediately after that I knew how the plot he created was going to end. The man was a coward till his last breath. Now i want to know what all those conspiracy theorists saying that Gabby "was m*rdered by a (serial) k*ller on loose" have to say about this.

[@roaroa5291]

"Gabby "was m*rdered by a (serial) k*ller on loose"" He showed signs of it. It was his first kill. He would've escalated to others if he hadn't taken himself out like the garbage he was.

[@odonata9838]

Another absolutely brilliant analysis, Dr. Grande!!! "The (other) Notebook": Domestic Violence + Denial = Death! 😢 Laundrie basically killed Petito to conceal the fact that he killed her. 🤦‍♀️ (Even his moronic and deceptive narrative treated her like a horse, not a human.) I do wish his parents would stop trying to cover up for their psychopath son!!! It doesn't help anyone.

[@ronaldgundrum2174]

Domestic violence no question.

[@theresacarter2093]

Awesome coverage on this case! Everyone on YT needs to hear this video!! Thanks a bunch for the wonderful and insightful content and witty commentary, which I love! Thanks Dr Grande

[@thesongbird2383]

Dr. Grande, this was a very informative and quite interesting analysis. Thanks for covering this evil Momma's Boy's final writings. 👍💜🌵

[@bigd9848]

Well stated!!! I appreciate your information on this case and all of your work👊🏼Always enjoy your videos

[@yvettevernet4759]

Very good analysis.