Unhealthy Relationship | 10 Signs You're In One!

[@cathydemuth8241]

30 years married and all of the above apply. Would love to see a video on what to do about long term relationship that apply to all of the above. What to do after 30 years of financial dependency

[@amandatarkington6877]

I started a swap meet business and finally left after 8 years. You will need credit cards to purchase the merchandise though. Not a "glamourous" job, but you wouldn't believe how much $ you can make once you know what you're doing.

[@alextowers906]

I feel like I'm the only one compromising and he never tries to understand my side idk what to do

[@ih1183]

Thank you so much for sharing this... I couldn't verbalize how I was feeling then when I heard you talking about number 3, it was like you were describing what I was feeling. It mad me sad to know that there is really not much you can do, when all you do is give and there is nothing to receive.

[@unBecoming1]

Hello! First and foremost, thank you. I know the amount of time and effort that goes into educating the people. I definitely appreciate your perspective...so, after listening I lie within 2, 5, 8,9, 10. Me and my partner have a lot of time and weight in our relationship; 8 years. We are married and have two children. I am and have been the cause of 98.9% of the pain and toxicity, but after each screw up I have an epiphany but it’s never enough until the next time I screw up. Lying, hiding things, cheating, not completely being myself, the list goes on. We tried and tried especially since we have a family. I’m 30, but I’m terrified of starting over and leaving a woman scarred, however, I know that if I stay I have the potential to cause more pain later down the line. It’s like we are in this unconscious pattern of me messing up, apologies, make up, and then repeat. I have admitted and took accountability for my toxicity and that’s why I want to leave the relationship. She deserves better, I don’t know what to do...

[@sunkiss7368]

As honest as you are in this post, you should seek counseling because your inability to honor your vows and willingness to put your entire family on the line for a moment of fun is connected to something deeper. One things is for sure if you leave your wife (if she don’t leave you first) she will find a better man and he will take care of your family and that’s when’s you will then want to be dedicated and fight to do the right thing but it will be to late. 30yrs old is not young, to be perfectly honest 34-35 in middle age for the average black man so you need to grow up and stop being selfish become a man of your word. Unfortunately you’ve already scarred her hopefully you can take the rest of your life and make it up to her. I hope you get it together your children deserves a two parent home and your wife deserves a Man and not a manboy. You need to surround yourself with real friends and married couples because you’re lost on how to be a husband and you’re showing your kids this is how they should be treated and how they show treated others.Hope this helps. Good luck

[@ashleyoverholt449]

I have been losing am Identity in each, relationship that I have had. And this has happen, in the past, and it still happening.

[@taliyah_xz8657]

I appreciate your content it makes me realize that being in an unhealthy relationship, I just want me and my previous relationship to work and not being toxic. Some signs I'm facing are numbers 1 and 3.

[@camillastougaard]

Jees got all of them.. 😔

[@MM-pk4xw]

Really sucks to not getting back what you put in.

[@amadecasacanal]

Thank you so much for sharing a very helpful, informative videos!

[@ashlen8717]

Everything but the physical, sexual, emotional, and verbal abuse. I don’t know what to do. I am still younger and live at home with my parents. They have been with my boyfriend numerous times, and they have told me I have a tendency to over react and over analyze, so I am struggling to trust my own judgment. I’ve talked a while with my Dad and he said all the reasons I’ve listed sound like good reasons to end this. I personally am struggling because I didn’t have a good role model growing up, and so I don’t really know what to do. I’ve dated many people and none of the relationships have worked. Most lasted no longer than 4 months because I realized they were not healthy.

[@gr8teagazr122]

I KNEW that I would be able to list quite a few of these. My relationship is VERY emotionally abusive. He knows enough to keep it low-key though. In other words- covert. He KNOWS that I would not tolerate physical abuse (I'd defend myself in a minute), but he dishes out quite a bit of emotional abuse by withholding any affection and companionship. He will dish out money, and little else, but I married him for love! Now, since I am aware that he IS a FLAMING narcissist- it has become increasingly easy for me to spot his sneaky and covert marital sabotage as well as his blatant disregard for my feelings. He is also a master of gaslighting, but I spot it every time. (Quite frankly, it insults my intelligence). Here is what I have from this list- #'1, 2, 3, 4, 6, 8, 9, and 10! I am spent! I have been an affectionate, dutiful, thoughtful, and faithful wife, but do not have any true companionship from him at all. I'm tired of living like a married woman in limbo- without any of the psychological and/or sexual benefits of marriage, yet he won't leave! He has prompted me to feel no more important than a chair- something that is just here to be sat on and used by him. Like I said- I'm spent. EDIT- I forgot to mention that he has flatly refused to go with me to a marriage counselor. THAT is the last straw which tells me he really does take me for granted (not caring how I feel). Just imagine calmly telling your partner how you feel only to have them answer with something like, "Nonsense! Why are YOU trying to start an argument?" He thinks that our vows *(which he constantly disregards as far as love, honor, and cherish is concerned)* is enough for us to stay together. Denial is the name of his game, and I can't discuss anything with him without it turning into a fight. Is this insanity or what?

[@cicisingh3515]

The problem with my husband is that he’s never been in a relationship before me. I was his first gf, and now I’m his wife. So a lot of the time I feel like I have to be like a mother figure. Not only emotionally teaching him but financially I have all the responsibilities as well. Yes he helps me work( we drive truck) & everyone thinks it’s some dream life that we t together 24/7 and this and that. It’s definitely not.. I mean yes it does have its good days.. however most of the time we r doing team loads.. so I drive he sleeps, and when he drives I sleep. So it’s like the little bit of time we do have together, he’s the type who wakes up and he’s on the phone before he’s said 2 words to me. So we don’t really spend a lot of time together.. We r together physically yes, but connecting and talking is not where it should be. When we do decide to take off, he never wants to go anywhere, we end up sitting in the truck, and the same thing.. he’s on his phone, so I get on mine. If a friend calls he will automatically make plans w them/him before even talking to me 🙄 So it’s like I feel like a 3rd wheel.. I’ll tell him go out with a friend for a while I don’t mind, but he says he don’t want to leave me alone. So I feel like he just feels bad for me.. what’s the point of me sitting w him and his friend (and in the past it was always a group of friends) if he’s not talking to me. I want him to spend time with his friends, but I’m not guna sit and be besties with one of his friends 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️ When we first got together, I was almost 265 pounds. Now I’m down to 135 and I’ve never been this thin in my life! At first, he would make me feel awesome for have loosing the weight.. but at the same time he used to constantly be on social media,( snap, tik tok, fb, and insta) liking girls videos and pictures. If it would be liked due to their talent that’s one thing, but it was always girls who are shaking their booty and half naked. Yet on the other hand, telling me he doesn’t like if I wear low cut shirts and stuff. Which I’ve always dressed conservatively,. I don’t like getting attention from guys because of my body. I’m not an attention seeker like that. But he doesn’t like me to dress that way, yet he continues to watch bull s videos, not so much now but it took me a long time to get him to stop. And I still have my doubts about that bc I feel like he’s always sneaking behind my back. It’s just too much idk I’ve repeatedly said the same things and he chooses to ignore me. Sometimes he ignores me for weeks, no physical touch, no conversations. Idk what to do anymore 😩

[@justinarazo8857]

I have been married 7 years, but I was not in love when we got married, I just learned to love him. I have a co-dependent problem b/c I was raised by a single mom. She was too busy working to listen to me. Idk how to show my feelings. My husband also verbally/mentally abuses me. I know he's insecure w/himself, but he still hurts my feelings. It reminds me of my mom. My mom always criticized me. 😕

[@kittycat3800]

I'm sorry you are going through this.

[@RockGodness1]

1-3. My boyfriend and i have been together for 9 years and we fight alot and mainly i believe that alot of our problems im causing and want to do work on myself but get very sad and depressed after we have fought and don't know what to do to fix it.

[@davidpinno2208]

Kristen I am in a one sided relationship we are both disabled having cognitive delay. I have my own house and own car and dont rely on a gaurdian. but my significant other doesnt understand I need my needs met too. my sinificant other is very co dependant

[@stephanieroz2127]

1 ☹️ he always wants to be right, I try to be calm and loving women but he is too much 2 I’m a stay at home mom and he works...I’m sure he hides things, he’s done distrustful things in the past 3 I give all I can and when I ask I always feel guilty for it 4 he doesn’t say that but he does say “I’ve heard that before” or does eye rolls for days 😭 No 5 for me. No 6 for me No 7 for me 8 ive done this, and when it comes to him trying things I like he doesn’t want to or complains the whole way...and then throws it in my face 9 not happy 10 so that’s what that feeling is 😭

[@KristinCoaching]

It's important to know where you're relationship is at so you know which direction to go in. All of the numbers that relate to you are goals for your relationship in terms of making improvements. i wonder if he want to make improvements too, because if he does, you guys have a starting point! Talk to him and see if you can find a common ground to start working on things..without judgement. Remember, you two are a team and are in this together. I wish you two the best!

[@stephanieroz2127]

Kristin Coaching will do ❤️ thanks for the advice

[@shadowarhi558]

Stephanie Roz same I relate to number 1 and 3 and 8 and 9

[@tank0456]

My give my boyfriend pretty much anything but I feel like he does not do that. But his family gets involved with our relationship and I don’t like it, there’s no privacy at all, and then when we get into fights his family steps in. And then days later his family has to bring up old things in my past. They talk about me and then sweeps it under the rug. (Girlfriend does) (boyfriend) stands up for his family and his brother girlfriend, but not his girlfriend.

[@taylorshelton1741]

Hi and thank You for the work You Do here! I Always enjoy your vids. I recall A video I watched on substance abuse where the host was advising to not be in a romantic relationship for about a year during recovery as to focus on yourself and avoid getting into relationships that mimic another addiction (codependent types) (this could be what they advice 12 step goers to do) but what if You’re ex-partner is in recovery and working on himself and so are You (focusing on yourself) but hes requesting to have once a week lunch check in’s to update on his progress and experience till he gets to a point long enough into his recovery where we can fully unite back again? Thank You sm for your potential response!!

[@KristinCoaching]

I think weekly check ins are fine...as long as it's something that both of you can agree on, and as long as it's not a trigger for him to slip back into his addiction. If it's a healthy interaction for the both of you, and you two can uphold the boundaries you've set, then I don't see the harm :)

[@hopegonzales570]

1-10 not so much 5 but it's there a little bit. 😔 why does it feel like it's me and never him?... idk I was just looking stuff to help my marriage I'm so freaking young to be this unhappy.

[@cindeymarie1650]

All of the above

[@audreywagnon5397]

3, 6, a little bit of 7, 8, 9, 10 I left him a week ago and I've never felt freer

[@ashleyoverholt449]

Am in the sign number 8

[@tank0456]

My girlfriend and I fight a lot. We are both in that area number 1

[@lonjemariesfashions5117]

I have a question beautiful ,should I get rid of everything from a previous unhealthy relationship, in other words clothes, shoes ,dishes pots pans and other items? I’m a subscriber

[@pbx7777]

Hello, thanks for the information. I’m thinking about that a lot, I know my relationship is not going good, what could I do? I mean, I feel totally lost, I’m living in another country, I have a toxic mother in law, constantly fighting about that with my partner, my brother in law as well isn’t like me, and to be honest constantly I think: what is wrong with me?

[@portiabougie4828]

Yikes. Almost all 😞....except abuse & co-dependence..

[@stephanieharris4888]

Hi I need help with my relationship please

[@ayo_sports_tv]

8 might be our issues

[@nyainaandrea843]

Hey, I have a really important question that I wan to ask . Is there a way to get in contact with you privatly ?

[@stephanieharris4888]

I feel down

[@aprilcampbell1224]

1,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10

[@stewartbatcharRTRP]

#2. No third party but online chatting. 4x caught my cp.

[@jinalpatel4338]

Almost all

[@anthonybailey5706]

1 fighting alot

[@anthonybailey5706]

2

[@vcalvillo17]

So I think num 3 might apply. I don't feel depleted nor like I just give and give but at the same time I don't feel like my needs are met. I want connection throughout the day with my partner and we just talk once after he gets out of work. I wanted my partner to call me during lunch as well so he started calling but lately he hasn't been calling anymore. My partner is up 12 hrs everyday and says he tries to sleep during lunch and feels tired once he gets home from work and by 8 or 9 pm he's falling asleep but then on the wknds I don't hear from him throughout the day either. What can I suggest to my partner?

[@KristinCoaching]

Hi there! well it sounds like you want more connection in general, which is understandable because he works a lot. I definitely think spending more time together during time off from work is important. Doing fun activities and enjoying your relationship as much as possible. Maybe you can suggest that he at least text you...sometimes phone conversations can feel like a lot, but a quick text doesn't take up much time, but still shows effort and can send some love your way throughout the day while he's working.

[@orisoni6959]

Mine is 9 red flags out of 10

[@susansmith6668]

2,3,6,9,10

[@kimwaunnalockett6735]

9

[@Kd-vl7xi]

How often is it to have normal fights? 2 - I haven’t yet. But I’m about to start a separate bank account to save money for the future and our kids 3* , 5, 9*, 10.

[@niranjanvelankar3364]

1,3,4,6,7,8,9,10

[@susansmith6668]

2,6,9,10

[@shahnamtehzeeb7627]

I got 1-10 problems what to do?

[@KristinCoaching]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I don't normally answer a question with a question, but I would like to know what you think you should be doing?

[@martincamden9949]

How do I attract a non-difficult woman who has no problem about sex and who isn't a sex addict !?

[@goddessshella664]

Hello I can recomend you to dr tuda ,the great relationship restorer /healer ,who will help you. He helped me get my ex back and he can also help you in all relationship problems and get your crush/ ex back too

[@goddessshella664]

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[@goddessshella664]

+(234,,,815,,689,,6436)

[@jofelmacaraeg8224]

Is being fell out of love possible to happen?

[@KristinCoaching]

It can and does happen to certain people absolutely.

[@doryhanson-mengel7262]

#5

[@tank0456]

Me girlfriend he calls me names

[@Annieharmony8]

#3

[@timterry6847]

Is it at all possible to speak privately to you? I would like some help.

[@rickyross352inc.6]

3

[@KristinCoaching]

Thank you for commenting.

[@SweetPanamenita]

1,2,3,4,6,8,9,10 :/

[@anthonybailey5706]

1

[@rickyross352inc.6]

2

[@KristinCoaching]

#2 and #3 are very common with unhealthy relationships.

[@MM-pk4xw]

Prisoner in my own mind

[@pinkyp632]

1 2 3 9 10

[@KristinCoaching]

I'm sorry to hear that...thank you so much for commenting. Check out my other videos on how to improve your relationship and make it healthy again.

[@myrtisbagley7718]

2

[@jinalpatel4338]

3

[@jinalpatel4338]

1

[@Goodheartwoman]

3

[@meditationandrelaxing9]

1

[@myrtisbagley7718]

3

[@adrianamarroquin1129]

1