How to Be Instantly Irresistible

[@ScienceOfPeople]

Find out more in our full article on this topic: www.scienceofpeople.com/secrets-of-a-successful-ted-talk/

[@AR-rn8ok]

How do you get into this? What was your major in school?

[@slashclash21bharat]

Thanks for the precious insights.

[@shyahisotalo7826]

I can see this working if i were to smile more and practice hand gesture more with people i know, but what about people that already know me they already have a perceived idea about me if i start using hand gestures when i never really have they'll notice immediately and ask what the hell im doing.

[@gabedepaul5407]

That is an INSANE study idea. I would do another undergrad just to spend a day in that lab

[@dannyju]

1) Focus on non-verbal presentation instead of worrying what you should say 2) First impressions (7 seconds) 3) More hand gestures : To show intention and emphasis explanation 4) Vocal charisma/ variety : say it like you mean it, positive energy 5) Genuine Smile

[@Mai-tk3xx]

thank u

[@createdluck628]

thanks

[@shedreams11111]

Thank you

[@chrisbatchelor3717]

and thanks again

[@bramblebrook]

thanks!!!!

[@Dr.Ryanmd]

I'm in medical school and I get graded on my interactions with actors who pretend to be patients. After doing this, my ratings skyrocketed. Totally worth trying out!

[@dianethompson9525]

Future Dr. Ryan my brother in law is an actor patient!! He loves it! He’s done a lot of theatre, so he’s very believable!!

[@sweetbeep]

..ok well please start thinking about root causes instead of using just drugs, devices, surgery. Thanks !

[@sk-tx9dr]

cashmeoutside 😂😂😂

[@summerishere3124]

I've never heard of actor patient what a cool job, not as cool as a doctor but still pretty cool.

[@songsofthecentury3909]

Why do you use the title Dr. when you haven't qualified yet?

[@sourav_e]

I had a paper presentation and it worked completely for me,ended up in first place and also had a great impact on the judges! Thanks Vanessa!😄

[@jessebradford3900]

Just be alive with confidence. Simply, truly being yourself and comfortable with it

[@sammylane21]

I'm half Italian, half Irish, so hand gesturing is in grained in my DNA.

[@chantydiaz3480]

I saw one of her videos and been binge watching everything. I love her energy. I think Ive mastered mostly all of these queues , Ive been mindful of behaviors.. my intuition leads. I genuinely care and I am always my authentic self. Whomever has energy that is not on the right frequency I just keep it moving.

[@liseeyap1274]

Quick summary 3 things: 1. Hand gesture - intentional ones. 2. Your tone 3. You find something particular will make you smile genuinely.

[@cherisevickery8687]

I only came across your videos today, and i have already watched 5 of them. You're amazing and extremely engaging. Thank you for these videos! :D :D

[@sephizinho]

Come to Portugal someday, your advices helped me alot mainly at work

[@sephizinho]

Heidi George yeah?

[@jeffcd3559]

Just because you like someone instantly doesn't mean you should find them credible, believe them or follow them.

[@jeffcd3559]

I don't see the comment

[@AnimeAddiction666]

+jeff cd we shouldn't, but what she's saying here is that subconsciously, we do.

[@jeffcd3559]

Maybe but she is only addressing the effect. I was addressing the desirability of unreflectingly giving over to the effect.

[@andrews476]

jeff cd halo effect

[@charlesg7926]

Although this is true, most people are low IQ followers

[@ruhannamm432]

U r the only person who can spend with a boring person. Proved to be a brave girl.

[@EmbodiedLoveLounge]

This is the first time I see you Vanessa! You are gorgeous, savvy, sassy, and fun. I'm a speaker/leader/advocate who has TED on my horizons... so I loved the feedback. I enjoy talking more when I can be passionate (and funny, especially if the topic is heavy). You rock!

[@mftripz8445]

Don't be fooled, any "non-normie" can easily tell that this ain't actually who she really is

[@oriolez555]

I liked this video, she's making it simple and short and sweet in a scientific way

[@jonskunator]

There is still an other side to this. Should we teach people these hand tricks and other stuff, or should we rather teach them to listen what other people say instead of paying attention to tricks.

[@Ashley-ye6yt]

Love love! I watch about 15-20 hours a week of motivation/inspiring KZbin clips a week. I am a John Maxwell instructor and I will use these tips for my next class!

[@just-Banks]

This is some of the best stuff on youtube. Or on the whole Internet, for that matter!

[@dimplestv2510]

Absolutely love this video. I’m currently researching how I can do better at group interviews and connect with people more quickly. This video has made me realized the important stuff of body language, how I say things and my expressions. Super thrilled to try these tips out in my next video.

[@tonyaclaybaugh1474]

I have been following your programs for awhile now, and am constantly learning and taking notes. My daughter also follows you. Is Body Language 101 still available? I'm saving up to get all your books.👍

[@junemckenzie5405]

You rock, Vanessa! I had the privilege of seeing you at the Youngevity convention in Salt Lake. You have really made me think about body language, hands and micro-expressions. Thank you for your imparting some of your incredible knowledge. Thank you to you and your team for all your hard work!!!

[@dimaryl1658]

That gossip about Kardashians killed me 😂👊

[@MrAjusog]

How to be irresistable: 1-Be Vanessa Van Edwards. 2-Smile

[@thataintnomoonsucka]

Absolutely. She radiates good vibes.

[@ajacobs100]

HNTR KLLR even better

[@craneflaw2019]

AJ Usog pretty much ;)

[@ganimmohtisham756]

She is smiling

[@charlesg7926]

Anne You sound jelly haha

[@gtabworld]

Sometimes the focus is so much on the likeability that the goal isn't to deliver knowledge to your audience, but rather to try and see if you come out the other side being the 'most liked'. I find that bad because when one is doing highly technical topics in a presentation or a talk, charisma shouldn't distract from the idea of getting contents into peoples head.

[@lollilafayette]

Sounds like most Italians have always known this. Thanks for posting. This is true.

[@lorenzodelitala1556]

I'm italian but probably I'm bugged

[@lidiatamburrini9044]

Hai ragione

[@Xxtina1111]

I lived in Italy for 4 months and realized the Italians understood me much better saying the same thing in broken Italian but using the hands - really improved my Italian!!

[@Entropy106]

@@lorenzodelitala1556 wym bugged like ur a rat?

[@chaprijohnson2555]

Vanessa Van Edward's is my NEW FAVORITE person!! I have been studying people ALL MY Life!! Learning about people and what causes them to "tick" is my jam. I have her two books CAPTIVATE and just recently received. CUES. LOVE LOVE LOVE the content. Maybe one day I'll be on her team...LOL!!

[@MorgulDemonVegeta]

Well the best thing about this info.. is that is not just... for public speaking.. or for sales... it can ACTUALLY change-your-life! I mean... implement it everywhere and you can get a girlfriend easier, you can get a raise, you can get more "high quality" friends etc :D Thanks for sharing it! I will look for your book here in Greece

[@elhadjdiallo7533]

to be straight forward with you're being transparent which's spectacular .... you're an angel indeed ...... I wish you well baby girl .......

[@lakshmicecelia1078]

Me too Ted talks on lunch! You have a new huge fan. You're brilliant.

[@lyrical3622]

u hv 7 sec (hand gestures) vocal variety is eseential (say it like you hv never said it before) smile less but smile genuinely

[@gjlj7861]

Fantastic job, Vanessa, as always! In fact, I also used your suggestions from a previous video in a devotional that I gave at church and the positive comments received were many!

[@ceciliagranados6989]

I liked the video because Vanessa, you are a perfect example of charisma, thanks

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Cecilia granados, you look stunning 💓💓💓❤

[@Resurge2023]

Simple and to the point. Thanks for sharing !

[@NicholasKramas]

I feel like this woman came out of left field. I watched her video with Ryan Holiday this morning regarding warmth and competence, and I've been devouring her content since then. Just bought her book Captivate on audible. Also she's so beautiful.

[@krich064]

Great advise, I will try it. I usually don't know what to talk about, so I usually ask them about themselves.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Kathy Rich, you're absolutely gorgeous 💓💓💓💓❤and I will be glad to know you

[@laurastdeleon]

I was only watching her hands after she mentioned the hand gestures topic...

[@euniceemmanuel6363]

laurastdeleon me too

[@In_time]

laurastdeleon Same lol😂

[@Bhiladpy-up9uy]

I just turned off the sound. This would train me on how to read people.

[@Itz_THEFUNNYKIDS]

You think you’re not but the hand gestures made a big part of her conversation which means she’s using hand gestures just right. If hand gestures is all you see that means the person is over doing it and you’re probably not focus on what they’re saying.

[@mjslanguageworld5997]

You are not the only one 😂

[@9inchnailsthrougheachoneof790]

I saw a documentary on the Queen Elizabeth's hand gestures and searched for powerful hand gestures; luckily, stumbled across a video of yours. I've been binge watching for an hour and i absolutely love what you are teaching. Great techniques. Your way of explaining is also very understandable and ofcourse very focused hand gestures too. Good job and thankyou💚

[@veganchris1933]

Yes! The world needs to learn this stuff :)

[@SaturnsSonAndMoon]

No they shouldn't, it will just create these wannabe alphas who fail miserably :D

[@clarissaspeaks7196]

Omg thank you. I had this friend that would always say that people never think of her as intelligent and yet they think of me as quite smart even though we were both equally as smart. Now I know why.

[@Idlecodex]

Seriously, great job! I'll be provably obessed with your videos for the next couple of week, it's a great discovery for me! Thanks for sharing!

[@rodwilwin1]

lots of people say Vanessa talks too fast but the info is awesome. the good thing is if you miss something she says just rewind.

[@confluenceify]

This hand gesture skill is Eureka kinda thing for me . Never thought that the simple hand movements can bring in profound change in the impressions I leave on audience.

[@RS-ep2ry]

Same here!

[@davidplatt11]

People used to tell me to just be more confident but I couldn't do it until I became more confident many years later. It would have been great to have your instruction!

[@mokeeffe500]

Hi Vanessa, just found you today in an interview with Tom Bilyeiu.I love your work.Subscribed to your website and social media :)

[@MartitaBlackCat99]

Same! Obsessed

[@datther]

Vanessa: You are so excited a man loves YOUR work, and hope he finds it in him to give you money! Oh shit...i wont get a little love ❤️ from you eh?

[@asishjoshi5774]

Hand gestures, Vocal & smile at right time/topic

[@visceralfate6803]

why are we so obsessed with people liking us...thats what i would like to find out.

[@interestingcommentbut....7378]

Because we are social creatures

[@AnimeAddiction666]

+visceral fate Because when people like you, they're more likely to do/give you what you want. That's the sad, selfish truth. It's advantageous to be liked.

[@rachellykins49]

Studies show that we are happier and live longer with healthy relationships. They're important for our well being in the big picture.

[@msbulloangkhaaqc-ma6-025]

Because good networking equals good business

[@karagraham9764]

People pleasing syndrome. Check it out

[@chibuzorchime7820]

Thanks a lot! Hand gestures, facial expressions, modulations and genuine smiles. You're a great teacher. Love you

[@MrKen11589]

Very interesting, I'm going to try some of these and practice.

[@t.kayoung5304]

So brief but Educative Mrs Vanessa Van Edwards. ..I am a Southern Cameroonian, Africa following from U.A.E

[@DeadManRising36]

I love watching your videos! keep up the great work Venessa!

[@ruthcummings7745]

I like this.

[@katiekat4457]

I love this videos too but I wish the older lady would stop making all those weird noises while the younger lady is speaking. It's very distracting to me. Does anyone else notice it? Or is it me?

[@katiekat4457]

Btw I'm asking because I really, really want to hear what Vanessa has to say. Does she have videos without the two older people that are usually in the videos distracting and interrupting her?

[@unicumsdiaries5907]

lol you just made my day and i woke up too early and at bad mood :p

[@katiekat4457]

Lassi Vainio lol your video just made me smile because I was just about to finally fall asleep for the night and my two Great Danes started barking at the front door so I had to get up and make sure there was no kind of danger. Which there wasn't. Idk where you are but it's 2:00AM here. So I just went from a bad mood back to a good mood because of you. Thank you. Have a nice day and I hope you won't be tired all day.

[@octavianinurhasanah6586]

I was searching for Alyssa Edwards and your channel came up. I don’t regret it!

[@truthprevails8836]

That Kardashian imitation was awesome..

[@deconstructingpatriarchy]

It's amazing to hear what people have told me I do naturally that builds rapport with them. Thank you for breaking this down so I know how to share these secrets with friends and others...and for helping me understand​ myself so much better too!

[@copperredd]

hahahahahaha xD....she just threw shade on the kardashians

[@cosmocelli]

Hahaha i know right? Although what they said was and is true 😂

[@EnnoJekyll]

haha "The Kardashian Klan"

[@mansondevil33]

The Kim Kardashian Klan.

[@WindWipper]

You mean the KarTrashians..

[@babauranai]

ITS THE KRUSTY KOMEDY KLASSIC!

[@cityblews]

HOLY SMOKE! After 50 yrs of being on this planet I've found something new I can learn. Sign me UP!

[@sagenosnibor9173]

I love that when she's interrupted by the host, she's very sweet and continues to speak any way. The host justs stops and submits lol

[@jackieflynt995]

Yes...I noticed that... It's a great lesson in itself. And, she keeps smiling.

[@paslelxi83]

Your Energy is off the charts

[@mikejones6863]

so content doesnt matter, only style

[@MuttFitness]

Mike Jones when appealing to the masses

[@jmm1817]

More hand gestures, positive talking and smiling. Got it thanks

[@pattyray8784]

Ooow, this is good material. Thanks so much!

[@mohamedsesaynaken2963]

+Vanessa Van Edwards you now my lovel friends I like the way tense

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Patty Ray, you're absolutely gorgeous 💓💓❤

[@nickwilsonxc]

I can’t resist watching Vanessa Van Edwards videos so clearly she’s an expert in this area of study.

[@lorenavincent7546]

Amazing information and tips! Thank you so much. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻❤️❤️❤️

[@lorenavincent7546]

Vanessa Van Edwards Hello! I have been following you and has subscribed to your channel. Indeed,you are making an impact to the world. Sincerely,you're doing a fantastic job with your calling. Wishing you blessings,happiness and much success. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@euniceemmanuel6363]

This is really helpful.. It took me a hard times to literally talk in good terms way with people but for now I have finally know what to do while I'm communicating with someone. Thank u so madam.

[@lizcorbett2587]

I'm going to try this ^^ thanks Vanessa!

[@JoePiervincentiWorld]

don't take any chances

[@slicktrillarreal1829]

Ues

[@martinluther6053]

I love this girl. Everything about her is just likeable.

[@andreamartin2953]

The hosts never uses her hand gestures and the guest uses her constantly, lol

[@BonfiglioSergio]

Vanessa, you're simply great. These observations are so sharp. My compliments.

[@Aniguidon]

Love this!

[@bleon333]

There are times when we want to be irresistible. This video has inspired me to be my best at a job interview next week ;-) Thank you Vanessa!

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Barb Leon, you're absolutely gorgeous 💓❤❤and I will be glad to know you

[@justinbosley692]

I didn't notice her hand gestures until she started talking about it.

[@YD8189]

+Justin Bosley Actually, the most-important part of you did. Depending on who you listen to, the brain can process between 2,000,00,000 and 4,000,000,000 bits of information a second but only 2,000 or so make it into conscious awareness. The remainder are either filtered out or go directly into the subconscious and since hands can convey threat you can be certain that your brain is aware of them even if you did not consciously ATTEND to them.

[@justinbosley692]

Good point

[@christinasfeir17]

I usually never finish these kinds of videos and get bored very fast, but this one I finished, so Vanessa, you're great!

[@heatherfinch8661]

lovely very informative.....not intimidating at all, well thought out....

[@yourmajesty7604]

The thing is, Vanessa is applying what she's teaching. Right after she mentioned hand gestures, I started observing her hand gestures and she uses them a lot to give better explanation.

[@DrLecter369]

ur the best vanessa

[@juliebuzzelli3634]

I love your video's! I have always paid very close attention to body language because so much can be revealed - and when I watch you're video's I always learn something new! And your explanations are very understandable and "user friendly". Thanks Vanessa!

[@Wooist]

She's fantastic. Leave your hands out :) We can all do it.

[@seedoe111188]

I wish I knew this when I had my public speaking class. This is gold.

[@Dbulkss]

in reality these statistics are not congruent to how your upbringings are and character. charisma comes from the energy and vibe you portray that's eternal from the chore emotions you feel while expressing yourself. mimicry is what human thrive on naturally and when you try to do something that's no in aline to your perception then it will not come off as charismatic.

[@vandedda]

it's called manipulation. learn to use it or get used by it.

[@Dbulkss]

+loslobos I use it all the time :)

[@hasach01]

Right that's what I'm saying and because sometimes some people say hang gestures are bad. So it's like what do I do it's like some or everything contradict the things that their talking about that suppose to work,be good,etc

[@Dbulkss]

Kenny Harrison it's all starts from your self actualization standpoint.

[@hasach01]

+Harold “Dominicanbulk” Tavarez I don't want to keep living up to everyone expectations and just because a lot of people may agree with it doesn't make it right

[@theemperor2506]

Vanessa you are Awesome Best thing about you is that in such a short time you give us load of information . Thank You a Lot.

[@samarneson9475]

when u read the book and know the TED talk example 💃🏼🙈

[@DIYonTheFly4u]

How to be irresistible.. Vanessa, you have fulfilled this 100%

[@SONZOFGUNZ37]

shes irresistible

[@Gordys_Garden]

I love it, elevator pitch & hand gestures with a smile, your co-host help to push the point I'll watch you next one.

[@MovieLover549872]

THE KARDASHIANS GOT DRAAAAGEDDD HAHAHAHAHA

[@jameskennedy4377]

Just stumbled across your channel the other day and I'm really enjoying your videos. They're informative, entertaining, and most are brief and to-the-point.

[@cemyoung9514]

Hey Venessa, my question is; How the participants who watched it on mute gave credit to intelligence without hearing the ideas and thoughts? Can only smile tell about how intelligence the person is? Thank you

[@samfdsd2134]

i am hooked after watching and listening to her videos.

[@yesreneau]

Lol, the Kardashians.

[@bupechikumbi3082]

I love you and your channel

[@greenleaf8226]

waste of time people...sadly tapped in to many peoples insecurities and hopeful secret wishes...made a tonne of money excercising empty pointless nonsense, with a hint of intelligence, and greedy monster mom manouvering.

[@priestblack22]

@@greenleaf8226 How is it pointless when it produces results? 🤔

[@TUSHARGUPTA-mh8kf]

😂

[@nz7780]

Not saying I disagree with what these ladies said or not, but holy ish they just ran over them with their words lmfaooo, no hesitation. Was not expecting that 🤣

[@louisegabriela9293]

Grateful, an Deep Thank You. Vanessa Your beauty shine's brightly.

[@AllThatKazz]

I use hand gestures. Probably a habit picked up when I lived with an Italian family for two years as a teenager. One thing that happens a lot though, is that I smash a lot of wine glasses! I drink wine out of stemless glasses whenever possible.

[@mkgreenluv]

Lol

[@AntMannall]

Vanessa you smile nearly all the time even when your talking - Amazing smile :)

[@lukediafrica9619]

Vanessa got a lot of charisma, she is very interesting

[@cdthompson8472]

I just learned 3 new important traits that I'll be unleashing in the future, while some may think it practice I look at my future with a liberating excitement and eagerly embrace it! 😃🙂

[@leonthesleepy]

what a .... HANDY video *i'll leave the room*

[@leisahaynes2998]

I have a 2nd interview this Monday the 5th. I'm going to get it and use these techniques. I do this every time.

[@oscarwilliamson1264]

Leisa Hayness, you're absolutely gorgeous 💓💓💓💓❤and I will be glad to know you

[@64Magick]

"Smiling with your eyes" is sincere. "Smiling with your entire face appears like a front or that its forced.

[@aubreydeolall7470]

Hi Vanessa you are internally skillful , accurate and have a brilliant personality

[@pravinlal3765]

She is doing lots of hand gestures herself....

[@MrGeo-EmitFodrol]

yeah it seems forced tho

[@omars.3021]

+Mr. Geo actually, this is the norm for Vanessa. Always full of energy, always using "body language" as well as words to express herself.

[@sinnoaar]

meta

[@Niphredyl]

Her hand gestures seem so meticulously curated it's almost parodying sign language translators... Don't get me wrong I like hand gestures and I personally had been accused of using too much, but hers are a bit unnatural...

[@whosaid2]

She's Puerto Rican, she can't stop, it's innate....... No seriously I don't think I'll ever understand people, unless she offers 1 on 1 help. No therapy has helped. She should teach counsellors and therapists etc. W

[@nataliamvr6194]

The best Chanel on youtube. I always learn a lot with you Vanessa. Thank you so much to share with passion your job.

[@Th0ughtf0rce]

Somehow I'm reminded of a Seinfeld episode

[@alive325]

I will say this is pretty on point because I definitely decide whether im gonna watch and listen to someone within those 7 seconds...that gives enough time to read the energy of that person lol

[@niraku321]

people lose their common sense in these over analysing of the obvious.

[@leviawomi7922]

OMG such a high quality teaching I subscribed on first of ur video. It like attending class in expensive college/institution

[@DiegoGonzalez-go2qy]

So why does this video only have 72000 views instead of 20 million ? (evil, muhahaha)

[@mdtaylor67]

Diego Gonzalez sssshhh don’t tell anyone about it!