VIOLENT That Guy ATTACKS Player

[@nikolaiandersson6024]

Richard is proof that beating your kids doesn't make them decent people. Also the DM is a horrible human being, I couldn't imagine sitting at a table, having someone screaming at another at another player every single session. I would complain to the DM, because that doesn't sound fun. And if I was a DM and told someone to stop doing something, and then found out they went to the person's house they were bothering, I would boot them right then and there. OP shouldn't have warned him, just called the police at that point, get a restraining order.

[@Sussy_Bottom_Boys]

OP had no friends in that group. Even Tessa. Only a fairweather friend sits by while their supposed friend gets abused like that.

[@nikolaiandersson6024]

@@Sussy_Bottom_Boys I wanted to harp more on Tessa for putting together the meet-up and then just ditch, or at least not contributing in a way that made OP mention they were there. I mean, again, screaming, at that point it should be agreed that Richard should just fucking stop.

[@TheOvervoid]

I get the feeling that Richard is lying about his boyfriend having autism. Just seems like an excuse to downplay the bf's reaction to their ""arguments" and it sadly fits with Richard's pattern of deflection.

[@mastersouth531]

I think his boyfriend's reaction wasn't at all part of his autism even if he did have it...

[@shieldmaiden3760]

This 💯

[@TheFuriousScribbles]

I can see that, yeah. Though if his boyfriend were autistic, it doesn't make really anything about the situation OK. What with his "Oh, you're autistic? I *suppose* I can tone down the racism and screaming at you since you have a reason for being sensitive about it." How magnanimous. I mean, what kind of conversations did Richard have with his boyfriend then? I hope he got dumped.

[@wyvern723]

A lot of abusers will claim their victims have autism or bipolar disorder in an attempt to gaslight them... To try and make them think they are crazy and question what their instincts are telling them.

[@RiveroftheWither]

Proves that in some cases at least, abuse just makes more abusers. I really hope his boyfriend dumped him, especially with the "friends with benefits" bs with Tia. I am in full support of healthy poly relationships but considering Richards behavior, I'm inclined to believe that Richard was either just flat out cheating or manipulated and abused his boyfriend into agreeing with an "open relationship". With all that threat of violence, gaslighting, verbal abuse with a sprinkle of ableism, possessiveness and victimhood mentality, I'm honestly worried about the poor guy that dated him. I doubt that their relationship isn't just as horrific as this post.

[@Densoro]

Jesus, the fact that Richard had these same fights with his boyfriend, and hadn't taken the hint that _he's the one turning them into fights._ Reminds me of my own ex bf. "I'm not an asshole, everybody else is just too sensitive" is about as unfortunate as, "I'm not crazy, everybody else is!"

[@witchhillgames6194]

That part really stood out to me as well.

[@Tenvir]

Also the "you react the same as my boyfriend does during our fights" meaning he in actuality abuses his boyfriend as well. No...from what i heard thus guy sounds like a person with symptoms of narcissism. Even going so far as asking "are you autistic", that is psychical abuse (not to mention the ongoing physical abuse).

[@SirCanuckelhead]

I find it funny when someone tries to claim they are not an asshole, sadly it is not up to you if you are or not.

[@AdiG1]

I listened to this story yesterday by Den of The Drake and he said the same thing you did. Richard needs to be arrested for abuse

[@tell-me-a-story-]

“Am I really do out of touch? No, the CHILDREN are to blame!”

[@wyvern723]

Year ago, my husband and I had an abusive roommate who would call anyone who disagreed with her "chauvinistic.". She was so awful she once made my hubby cry, and accused him of "looming" over her while he was telling her to give him some space. Abusive people will say a lot of awful and untrue things in their attempts to beat down their victims

[@DnDDoge]

Some people are just awful

[@Zucca101]

The wicked need no justification.

[@tsifirakiehl4250]

Where the fuck was the DM for all of this? If one of my players treated another player the way Richard treated OP, they’d be kicked out of both the game and my friend group. In fact, I’d call the police on them, because he literally assaulted OP during their confrontation. Being an abuse survivor is absolutely no fucking excuse. People like Richard deserve to rot in prison for the rest of their natural lives.

[@theinquisitorisamage1653]

DM was making excuses for his buddys shit behaviour.

[@MarquisLeary34]

Same. Our table wouldn't tolerate a fraction of Richard's crap, and assaulting another player? That gets you dogpiled and the cops called.

[@Ironbattlemace]

Lynching the child (sinner)

[@songbird6414]

Okay… so this guy is a classic abuser and should PROBABLY at the very least be sent to a correctional facility. This guy is legitimately dangerous.

[@S2MiaS2]

100% abusing his boyfriend on the daily

[@caioaugusto3138]

Roid rage

[@JustFilmAlready]

And get therapy while he’s in there because fuck.

[@Arcticmaster1190]

Holy fuck… the “taking power away from real abuse victims” struck a cord with me. No, that line of justification in this case turns the victim of abuse into another abuser, continuing the cycle of abuse rather than ending it. I’m sorry for the OP who had to have suffered this abuse. Irregardless of whether Richard was really an abuse victim at this point, I think Richard is a producer of the very thing he’s supposedly against. I’d tell Richard to go to hell, but he’s probably already there.

[@Orsonfoe]

It stand a out as a red flag.. Like how is he taking power away from abuse victims. Seems to accusatory than actual explain stuff.

[@neckermangames5872]

Richard sucks, he's doing the exact same thing to others that he 'supposedly' had to endure himself, that makes him no better than his parents and if you ask me he's even worse than them since we 'know' he got abused and even after that he decides to do the same to others. Maybe both his parents were also abused but since we don't know that and the chance both of them were abuse victims too is relatively small, we can't say that for sure. Either way they all suck.

[@unluckyone1655]

Definitely continuing the cycle.

[@ChaosCounseling]

Abuse isn’t a competition.

[@kalajel]

"You're acting like my boyfriend when we argue..." Holy shit! This guy if the final boss of lack of self-awareness...

[@Omnywrench]

Congratulations, Richard. You're no better than your parents.

[@sanjayaanthem]

If you need the validation that your abuse is more abusive than someone else's, then you need severe help. Damn.

[@kyletucker3811]

I had the same attitude about abuse as Richard ... when I was 11. Any adult who has been through abuse either physical or emotional should know better than to try and "compare" like it's a contest.

[@aun_el3247]

Jesus christ listening to this makes me fucking angry. Being an abuse victim doesn't give you permission to be a fucking asshole. They should know better to avoid treating people in the same way that they were.

[@AtelierGod]

Being abused in ones childhood often leads to one becoming a abuser as that's what they get exposed to during their formative years. Its a cycle and one that's really hard to break.

[@lawrencelopez9839]

unfortunately some people come with a lack of self awareness.

[@Cheetahgirl_Studios]

And more importantly, victims of abuse shouldn’t have to be told “Yeah, well, I was abused (insert way), so you can’t complain since I had it worse.” Being abused is not a bloody competition. It’s not a contest about who has the most trauma. It made my blood boil that Richard had the nerve to downplay OP’s abuse. All victims deserve the chance to get help, and no one victim is more “valid” than the other. I’m very sorry Richard was abused because of his gender identity, but OH MY GOD that does NOT give him the right to bully other people and then play the victim card.

[@unluckyone1655]

Yup, abuse victim used past abuse as an excuse to abuse others. A classic viscious cycle. I'm worried about his partner if they are even together still

[@paulhesketh4289]

I have been abused, therefore I can abuse others. The math checks out.

[@emanymton713]

Sadly, that’s how a lot of abuse begins… Abusers are many times the result of abuse themselves especially if they didn’t receive help dealing with their own trauma.

[@trevormcneil9858]

If Richard was in my party he would find himself with a broken jaw.

[@starbird3939]

Story 1 Yeeeeaaah… having someone constant yell at you every game does not sound like fun game. The fact that the dude played “tragedy olympics” when someone told him yo stop… shows manipulation. All the dude is doing is abuse tactics-manipulation, gaslighting, narcissism, threats, guilt tripping, isolation… Richard is dangerous dude and I am not surprised the dude would finally assault OP. Also Tessa is siding with Richard. When you play both sides, you are actually playing for the bad side.

[@oneechanknowsbest615]

Playing both sides is not the same as not playing any sides.

[@laughingjustice]

​@@oneechanknowsbest615 “The hottest places in hell are reserved for those who, in times of great moral crisis, maintain their neutrality.” a quote often attributed to Dante Alighieri

[@lordruxlinhogie5912]

It bothers me that this DM allowed yelling at the table to begin with. Also how could the OP have been lying to the group about the yelling when they were all part of the game and had to have seen it for themselves?

[@pugking4518]

Richard is a example of what can happen to a person who was abused they end up becoming the abuser that's not to say Richard was right but it's pretty common for people who was abused to end up abusing others

[@chelonianmobile]

It's tempting to say that using "I was beaten as a child, therefore I can abuse you" as an excuse ought to be a legal defence for beating him again, harder. Many survivors genuinely can't tell when they're crossing a line, so in practice it's a bad move, but it would be satisfying with this guy.

[@lanceolson5988]

"I hope you never have to deal with a Richard in your games." How about fucking ANYWHERE in life?

[@travismontgomery1897]

I read this as "Violin that guy attacks player," and now I can't get the image of someone being attacked with a Violin out of my head.

[@Casandraelf]

no self-respecting violinist would break their Strad over someone's head

[@gingergrant1057]

But a violent bard would break Strahd.

[@masondukeofkale]

Same

[@Yojimbo16]

It's easy to beat up someone when you're fit as a fiddle.

[@PancakemonsterFO4]

I guess he played them like a fiddle

[@BrokenHedgehog]

Protip: "Both Sides Friends" are not friends. They are cowards who will NEVER have your back if someone in your friend group turns out to be a creep. Drop them just as fast as people like Richard.

[@unluckyone1655]

Amen to that. Sadly it took me too long to finally get a big enough backbone to stand up to that and drop that kind of friend as well. Also more often than not the "both sides friend types" almost always side with the abuser

[@tell-me-a-story-]

Some people don’t understand the situation, and this person is CLEARLY very manipulative, as OP even blamed herself several times. I don’t blame the other people in the situation at all. They where likely being manipulated.

[@guillermocalle2184]

I think we needed the entire cat crew for this story. And the part about justifying the abusive behavior because they were abused more is just an infuriating line of reasoning. I'm surprised the Dm allowed any of this to freaking happen.

[@notoriouswhitemoth]

Ask an abuser, they'll tell you it's everyone else who's abusing them. They need to tie their own head in a knot rationalizing their behavior to live with themself.

[@REfan2002]

Oh goodie, a that guy story, wonder what he did? Oh no.... And thanks Lucky for the cuteness, we're going to need it.

[@Stardweller1]

As an autistic person myself, Richard manipulatively asking OP if they were was very offensive to me.

[@frostfyrezero1830]

Being an abuse victim is no excuse to abuse others or gaslight another abuse victim into silence.

[@JakeSteelHank]

Richard really lived up to the name

[@mesiagamer5217]

Why do I get this sick feeling that the DM is another one of Richard's victims and has just gotten so verbally beaten down that they won't help stop him and just enable them.

[@Lord_of_the_sixth_house]

This one got me maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaad! And I have a strong feeling this dude knew EXACTLY what he was doing the whole time. When she finally snaps and yells at him in the classroom, and he runs off till she's alone, that's 100% calculated, I would bet money on it.

[@Michaeljack81sk]

A lot of people are (justly) blaming the DM but what about the other players? If anyone screamed at another player at any table I was at I'd immediately tell them to calm down a bit and if they kept doing it i'd call them out on it every single time

[@Mostly_Crazy]

This is probably one of the most horrific stories I have ever heard. . . . . Very thankful for the positive epilogue though

[@Galaxykuma]

Hearing this story sickens me. How the hell can anyone at the table be okay with this?! Did they see nothing wrong with this? How? How can anyone just sit there and see this shit going on and think "yeah this is okay."

[@imarro9274]

Had to tap out around the 19 minute mark. (Not your fault, Doge: you _did_ warn us, after all.) Could see far more of myself in OP at that age than I care to remember. "No D&D is better than bad D&D." Or, in a more general way: "Sometimes, retreating in order - and living to fight another day - *is* the victory."

[@TalkativeHands]

Nope, don't think I can finish this video. Not even Lucky can calm my rage for Richard.

[@flexiblenerd]

Bit of irony here...in the Dark Elf Trilogy, Drizzt actually uses "never steal my kill" to justify attacking one of his party when he was upset over watching his party slaughter some innocents.

[@Iceblade269]

That Guy; Proceeds to scream at player , call her bitch, and even threaten her DM “Ooh look, a pretty flower!”

[@amitamaru]

If this screaming match was had in school, how did none of the faculty or other students hear and try to intervene?

[@TheLevantin]

If the victim is black no one cares

[@kyletucker3811]

I think (though it wasn't specified I believe) that it was probably college. There's lots of empty rooms on a college campus so it's entirely possible nobody was nearby to hear.

[@lamiahunter]

Ah yes the “you even slightly disagreed with my actions. You must be transphobic” a certified bruh moment

[@axelnavillus238]

I hate when say something about how you feel And the other person says that I'm worse off

[@Isaygoodday5]

Honestly with how sensitive OP does seem to be, i can't really blame the other players(Richard not included) for not being the biggest fan of her

[@AshSonnenDrache]

Seriously, I lost sympathy for OP after the five millionth panic attack and sheer cowardice

[@41dn]

Not sure all the Luckys in the world can cover this story tbh

[@formulatheprod2659]

The moment Richard walked in the room with her alone somebody should of beat the brakes off it.

[@K_i_t_t_y84]

If one of your friends is being an abusive asshole to your other friend and you do NOTHING to stop it? You're not a friend, you're a doormat. Speak up. Even if your voice shakes. Because being silent in the face of abuse doesn't help the victim, it ONLY helps the abuser. I know it's scary. But you need to do it, because *the golden rule is treat others how you want to be treated*. If someone was abusing you, you would WANT someone to say SOMETHING, right? THEN BE THAT PERSON. Even if you're scared. ESPECAILLY because it's scary. Because other people are too scared to do it, and awful people get away with awful shit too much. Be the change you want to see. Be that person who stands up and speaks.

[@neckermangames5872]

This entire story just pisses me off SO MUCH! That someone can be such a POS, lack so much self-awareness (basically physically and mentally abusing someone in likely the same way they were abused by their parents) and get away with it is so aggrivating! Richard is someone that should've been arrested a long time ago if you ask me, especially with all the threats he's throwing around.

[@dragowolfraven3806]

Just because you were abused does not give you the right to be an asshole IRL or in D&D.

[@Pondero36]

Now that's a "911 on speed dial, Cameras in the house and a Restraining Order needed yesterday" type of guy.

[@seekingabsolution1907]

28:29 I've heard about this sort of phenomenon on Tik Tok, where the moment a white person falls into a marginalized group they immediately try to compete with every other marginalized group for how bad they have it. It's made me very self conscious about how I as an autistic white guy interact with certain social groups.

[@TheMadagascarqueen]

the fact that you hate when they do that show you're not like them. Just finding that out makes me sick, and I'm autistic, too.

[@pattmahiney]

27:45 😂😂😂 I about died when you said that lmao. What a wild story, man... Thanks for sharing.

[@Nazo-kage]

Even though I agree that the problem player is an utter piece of trash. The DM is also just as much to blame. Because it’s obvious that to them the game was more important than the people playing it. When both OP and the problem we’re planning on leaving the game the DM couldn’t except that. That’s why no matter what problems were happening even to the point to where the OP finally left the DM was still asking for “one more game“ Because in their mind if anybody leaves that breaks momentum and nobody else will want to play. Abuse is abuse it doesn’t matter in what manner it is delivered it doesn’t matter and what’s the verity with matters is how you deal with it. And the problem player decided to become an abuser

[@SirXer]

Oooo, that little Lucky clip was so wholesome and adorable! It's so terrible what that poor player went through in the last story, it sounds so horrific and I'm glad they are healing from that traumatic experience.

[@DallasBrownridge]

When i saw the thumbnail i immediately thought : YOU WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND MY PAIN!!!

[@informitas0117]

Maybe one day I'll post the story how I devastated my rpg group by being impossible to be around. I had no idea at the time but I was developing schizophrenia and got diagnosed a few years later. I regret putting them through that even if I just didn't know how I was acting. I stopped playing entirely - even after the diagnosis, I never want to make people feel that bad again. I don't think my story would fiton very well either as it's just sad, dark and lonely. Not that this video is any brighter.

[@LynxieDove]

I think you should post it, maybe not to rpg horror stories but somewhere. It can be therapeutic to talk about it online. I hope that you are doing better though and getting the help you need.

[@informitas0117]

@@LynxieDove thank you for the vote of confidence. My psychologist have told me to talk about my illness and its effect more, online or other. Not that there is an other to talk about it with, so online it is. Maybe I should write it own and see how it reads.

[@Densoro]

Your remorse is valuable, but I want to say I’m sorry for how painful it must have been _for you._ Losing your friend group, your support system, and your hobby like that, due to something outside your control… ):

[@informitas0117]

@@Densoro it is awful but I feel I have to protect others from myself, I can't always control how I behave and the absolute last thing I want is to hurt someone because of my illness. I rather live like sad recluse than that. Thank you for your comment.

[@lexcentrique2554]

As someone who was always curious about Schizophrenia, I want to know... how does it feel to live with that thing on your mind?

[@RedRattt]

People like Richard create transphobes by traumatising people then using their trans experience as justification. Transphobes exist for other reasons but this is a good example of a terrible person who was also a victim of terrible things who causes other people to do terrible things. He was abused so he gets to abuse others, not seeing that maybe they're just furthering the cycle. Also the "You can't help it because you're autistic." part sickened me personally as an autistic person.

[@dragowolfraven3806]

Me too. I have mild autism but I am high functioning & hearing that really pissed me off.

[@paulman34340]

This is why the fight will always be a forever fight. Because you always have the scumbags who are in the oppressed class and full on use their position to terrorize others who are fearful of being labeled whatever phobia. And well anyone who's a Star Wars fan knows what leads to the dark side. Fear which they install in people with the labels leads to anger resentment at being labeled something they're not. Which leads to hate hating the group for having someone like that within their group. When a nice reminder is certain people do not represent a group as a whole there will always be scumbags and every other group that will always always take advantage of their position in the group to get their way or avoid the beating day so rightfully deserve. And the worst ones the traders who take advantage of their identity to con things out of people! These are the true Traders not the ones who turned hate towards their own kind those people are traitors but they're lesser compared to the ones who would con and use the past history all that shit just to be pieces of worthless shit. The only way this at least can be worked around is these people get punished they meet Karma but even then they will always do lasting damage before they're finally taken down and suffer Karma

[@pippo17173]

Just because your trans, doesn't mean you can still be a POS. Everyone no matter who it is, can be a POS and people have the right to call you out for it :/

[@iank472]

I think I dislike Tessa even more than that Prick Richard. She actively facilitated the continuing abuse of poor OP.

[@ChEkAlOtIcH3]

I only hope bad things happen to richard, idgaf if he was abused, there is no place for him to pray on innocent people like he did

[@RockyGems]

What gets me is that all of this happened because OP just didn't like Richard yelling at her "in character" so much

[@TheRPGNerd]

damn hes ableist in so many fucking ways tf i feel bad for his boyfriend

[@Densoro]

I lowkey hope it’s ‘ex-boyfriend’ at this point.

[@JelliedGrapes]

21:58 LMAO WHAT WAS THAT DOGE? LOL

[@DnDDoge]

Panic, lol

[@JelliedGrapes]

@@DnDDoge ❤️

[@myautobiographyafanfic1413]

This guy's so misogynist, he's cycled all the way around to misandry.

[@symantares9171]

So either this whole group (besides Tessa) are either so afraid of this jack-wagon that they're scared to stand up to him or they're just enablers who are fine with watching someone be abused since "well he's our friend and he lied to us that he'd stop"

[@paulman34340]

It was likely the latter! I'm certain Robert is just as abusive to them as he was to the poster. It just ended up being the shitty well since he's not being abusive to me excuse even Tessa doesn't get completely out of this because the friends with benefits part that I start to wonder if she ran into Robert when she left the room only coming back in after he left with the promise that he just wanted to talk to the poster and not having Tessa around with me and they have a fair talk which was complete lie he just didn't want Tessa ganging up on him. She must have felt horrible when she came back to see the poster in the state they were but likely lie to herself that Robert kept his promise which we know from the posters side he did not and physically grabbed her. The DM is a full on coward who knows Robert's personality they know the very moment they call Robert out on his shit their friendship is over yet I have to wonder why protect such a friendship to begin with. Which is why I believe Robert was mentally abusive and that's likely why they were emotionally abusive their attempt to dismiss emotional abuse is because if he dismiss it then he'll have to admit he's a piece of shit so as long as you can tell himself it doesn't exist he can lie that what he did to the poster in that room wasn't abuse despite the very fact laying their hands on her and forcing his face and hers wasn't intimidation tactic and was physical abuse. For anyone thinking Tessa pull the karma Houdini because the poster and then got together in the end I'm sure she's still feeling horrible for all her attempts to downplay what Robert did for the protection of their friends with benefits relationship. I know this because I did exactly what Tessa did to an old friend in Middle school. Sided with the bullies who jointly mess with us to be left alone and even join them so I didn't even worse. Would knock me out of it because only last of the month was I went way too far I started taunting my old friends with a jumping that they had planned and told me and I would have fully have joined in this I now know in my mind as much as I tried to say no I wouldn't. He had done the sensible thing he told the teacher and they all got in trouble I only skirted away because I was still known as a well-behaved kid and they couldn't truthfully understand why I would do something like that. I had lied through my teeth I was warning him as a friend. And I threw myself at his Mercy after they believe me because I had to my god what have I done once it finally dawned on me in that very second. He had forgiven me I don't know we became friends again he trusted me even believed my lie. But I could never forgive myself for what I did and I still hold it now at 35! But believe me after that I never did something like that ever again. But I know Robert's fate. Boyfriend's going to dump his ass. DM in other friend that he was best man to are going to eventually grow tired of him he's going to Triple down now that he lost his favorite punching bag which was the poster and they're going to eventually have to either put him in his place or well except being the new punching bag once he starts scaring off newbies who end up crossing the line. By crossing the line I'm referring to what made him start hating the poster. The best I can see is when he finally crossed the line and actually does something that gets his dumbass arrested. At that point you're going to see them play the oh I didn't know he was going to do that instead of taking a side and cowardly throwing him under the bus and distance himself from him he's going to call them out on how they saw his bad behavior and they said nothing about it before but it was easy to throw other people into the bus the very moment he screwed up however they can no longer excuse being around him or making excuses for him but yeah they're going to forever be held by the fact that they were just as bad as him no matter how much they try to downplay they're involvement. And I say good anyone willing to stand on the side of an abuser and make excuses for them and throw them under the bus when it finally gets too hot and only when it becomes too hot that they can no longer just pretend they couldn't have known his bad behavior or the abuse. It's why the DM was playing hands off and pretending. And likely had a oh thank God when the poster chose to leave the game! Hell the poster needs to know the DM wasn't being nice when they helped kill off her first character. They did it because they knew Robert was angry and that if they gave him what he wanted he would calm down. All they did was indulge in abusive piece of shit! But that's the thing here as much as they pretend to be friends Robert has no friends Robert has no lovers Robert only has people who get something out of him and decided his abuse was tolerable because he at least in the beginning was smart as is kind always start out as and knowing who to abuse!. And when to be abusive to what is their "thralls", let's be real they have no friends. There are victims and there are thralls that they call friends/lovers. I'm sure the DM killed off the poster second character and a gruesome satisfying manner for Roberts calmness which may placate him for a while but I'm sure Robert saw the poster around campus looking better in chipper in that pissed him off but he no longer had any justification likely was worn by the DM that if he harassed the poster not that they're no longer in the game that would have been the final nail and Robert's Behavior would not have been ignored. But then you should have reported his ass long before so that doesn't make the DM any good either! We know someone like Robert will eventually dump or be dumped by his friends quote and will eventually find true friends AK those who are just as equally scumbag as they are the social justice crowd who do the same thing he does use their identity as a shield. Call everyone they don't like phobic when they don't have a single shred of evidence I don't blame the poster for being defensive because this is why these idiots used calling everyone they didn't like or would Railroad by calling them Nazis. Knows how they stopped all of a sudden or they rarely use it! Because they remove the power of the word! It has no meaning or influence anymore. Because they destroyed all that I miss using it. And they misused it because they know they couldn't win any arguments so they derailed until any conversation got off of the point of the conversation and ended up being proving whatever you truly are the bad word or not which wasn't the point! Always remember scum will never change their ways until they get a nasty dose of reality. He was terrible because nobody was trying to stop him. But while we all know what will happen he'll finally gain solitude. He'll scream and Screech about how everyone is against them how no one can understand him blah blah blah and will be bitter until finally he has no more anger to burn off of and essentially have to accept he fucked up his own life! No one did anything to him he did it to himself

[@AdmiralBlackstar]

Richard needs some effing therapy. Or possibly dial down his T dosage. Actually now that I think about it, overdoing his testosterone dosage AND prior trauma might be causing issues. Especially depending on how far back that story was and if he was self-medicating.

[@RedRattt]

Damn Richard's transition included submerging himself in toxic masculinity.

[@thomascripe9905]

I am really having trouble finishing this one. Richard is going to suffer in whatever version of hell he prescribes to.

[@goncalocarneiro3043]

Richard certainly is far from an angel. So far in fact, they deserve no more than a scowl and my spit on their shoes from me.

[@indumatipngtuber2790]

Damn son, That Guy sounds like a straight up bully! I think in situations like that, you should definitely cut ties and never try to mediate or appease them and actually punish them! That Guy in this story belongs in prison.

[@danwilliams1989]

That Richard sounded like a real Dick. Even if he did suffer from trauma himself, that doesn’t mean he shouldn’t treated others as badly or worse than he was treated. This story made me legit mad.

[@laughingjustice]

As a transman, he was probably compensating for being literally dickless. He don't got a dick, so he become a dick?

[@deepseastonecore3017]

Thanks 4 all the hard work.

[@pallydan893]

Richard reminds me of the Citizen Soldier song 'Fever'

[@derpro8125]

I think an appropriate title for this story would be The Oppression Olympics, Jesus Christ

[@soultpp]

Sometimes you just gotta go with the classics, even with kitties! ❤ As for that story... The fact that Richard kept using his own history of physical abuse to gaslight OP about the constant verbal emotional and mental abuse that he was subjecting OP to was just awful. I definitely feel (as others have probably already commented) that Richard should absolutely have had the police called on him with that assault at the school. I also think that OP should not have used 911 as a warn-off but rather just dialed it while he ranted outside their door with no warning at all! This guy sounds horribly dangerous and it's only a matter of time before he hurts someone seriously badly. I hope he got help in the last 7 or more years since this story happened. I would say that I would also not mind if he'd been locked away from people but that would mean that he actually DID harm someone and I don't wish that.

[@Psycopathicus]

This is why people should be evaluated as individuals, on a case-by-case basis, NOT by whatever category they fall into. Sometimes, 'marginalized' people ARE the bullies - sometimes people who have been through horrible things get warped into horrible people themselves, or at the very least, people who badly need help to sort their lives out. No one should pick on anyone else for who or what they are, but no one should use what they are as a weapon to hurt other people, either. Speaking personally, I don't really CARE what categories you may or may not fall into - I care about what sort of a person you are. If you're a nasty person, you're a nasty person - end of story.

[@GattoSamurai]

To be completely honest, I really hope this story is fake, because if it is not, then... it's incredibly sad on so many levels. This Brian's past must've been really hard to make him in this kind of person, but that's no excuse for abusing so much other people. And to be honest, what was the DM even doing? Brian was his friend, ok, but letting a player scream at the top of his lungs to another one for two years? And for some reason, that's the least he has done. Shame on everyone, really.

[@ChaosCounseling]

I’ve never understood people getting angry about kill stealing in tabletops when most of the time exp is shared equally.

[@pLanetstarBerry]

We had a guy in my old group where his previous group had a house rule- whoever dealt the killing blow either got bonus xp or half the monster's xp (I forget which, but the aim was to make the game more competitive). He didn't even realize it was a house rule until after our first fight where he got a kill and had to be told that that wasn't how we did things here. Looked at us like we kicked his dog and sulked for a good 20 minutes. Anyways, he kept forgetting that and would get huffy if anyone else got a kill in. Especially the healer. Didn't appreciate my quip that the other player's actions was "preventative care" when he was pulling out his "he's just the healer he shouldn’t be allowed to fight" bs. I'm just glad I don't have to deal with him anymore. Let's just say this player was playing blackout mode for "That Guy" bingo and leave it at that.

[@ChaosCounseling]

@@pLanetstarBerry If that kind of games makes them happy good for them. Just keep that away from my table. That did not sound fun. Had something kinda similar in a board game called decent journeys in the dark 1sr edition where some monsters gave extra money to whoever killed them

[@reiman1308]

As a DM, I'd be damned if I'm going to let one of my players yell at another player at my table. I'd give them the option to either stop the bullshit or leave. I don't want nor do I need anyone being disrespectful in my game and in my persents.

[@dantekirenryu980]

The fact Richard tried to use the whole transphobia card seriously rubbed me the wrong way. It’s always people like this who use it just to avoid facing consequences. And hearing the fact he has these fights with their boyfriend, yeah, Im siding with OP. Fuck people who do this kind of behavior.

[@marybdrake1472]

This guy used his past abuse as an excuse to be an abuser. That is awful. 🤬

[@unluckyone1655]

Oof this one. Oof. I wonder if Richard is related to my step mom, his behavior is just like hers. Had zero contact with her for 11 years, no regrets

[@jacobgallegos8762]

If u were a victim but abuse ppl now u aren’t a victim you are a abuser

[@richardowens3343]

Welcome to modern USA. Where the biggest victim competition is in full swing 😂

[@chancehanlin2747]

You're missing the point of the whole story 🤦🤦

[@Isaygoodday5]

Honestly I knew the story would be like that as soon as we learned that the main people in the story were a trans person and a black woman

[@rustyshackleford1910]

Awe, gotta love that vintage lucky 🍀 footage

[@superourico5551]

Physical violence is unusually common in lesbian relationships.

[@ReverieNightengale]

I feel so bad for OP in this story, and I hope she's doing better now. I can't imagine staying friends with someone so absolutely vile and clearly abusive. I worry for Richard's boyfriend because cowering in fear with your hands over your head is NOT a sign of autism. As someone who was both physically and verbally abused, I also have a similar visceral reaction to being yelled at like OP, and would have reacted the same way.

[@Sl4wt3r]

I am always thankful I have yet to meet a Richard in my life because just listening to what this prick was doing had me seeing red in a very "punch things until they stop" way. Had to pause so many times to take deep breaths. I can only imagine how I would feel if I met a Richard in person.

[@babypower14]

at end of year ya should do super cut off all the kittys

[@TOPACE31]

Everyone wants to get revenge on Richard, but OP already got it by making friends in her new campaigns and getting together with Tessa. To quote Frank Sinatra "The best revenge is massive success."

[@KamakazeTaco]

That marginalized group shield is a pretty effective tool though. Used to be if you wanna be a bully you had to be stronger than everyone and beat people up who didn't like what you did. Now you just need a colorful flag and people will fight for you.

[@willropa4226]

Didn't think I'd bump into this story again, heard it first on Den of the Drake, my reaction to that video a year ago. Somehow, I feel uncomfortable from this story and I wasn't there to experience it, I'm just the guy being told it by a cartoonish dragon KZbinr (Now a cartoonish dog KZbinr). Richard, dude, take note, the better person is the person who doesn't sink to the level of those who wronged them. OP played the high road and rolled with the punches as long as they could. You, you're a capital A @$$hole, if you still smugly think you're in the right after all this, there's no helping you. P.S. DM, that ending, da fak.

[@quietninjariot]

Holy shit that really hits me, Richard really reminds me of my ex.

[@Densoro]

Big same. Hope you’re doing alright.

[@quietninjariot]

@@DensoroI'm hanging in there, dealing with leftover trauma inflicted by him.

[@mikec1222]

All horrible of course, but I think what worries me the most is the between the lines implications about his boyfriend.

[@myautobiographyafanfic1413]

So assault is a crime...

[@TheScorpion0081]

Huh, I see why the guy is named "Richard..."

[@Toadimuss]

This story is entirely a failure on the part of the DM, there comes a time to kick problem players regardless of ones friendship with them. Someone like this will engage in this kind of behavior again, unfortunately people like this are often tolerated. I began playing RPGs in 1982, and have tolerated abusive players in the past as both a player and DM for the simple reason in the past new players were hard to find and groups even harder. But now with the rise of RPG popularity It's much easier to find players and groups, glad to hear OP found a new group and wasn't chased form the hobby. I know this is unrequested advice for events long past and we all handle situations differently. That being said, here's what I feel OP could have done to shut Richard down. First say something at the table, call Richard out in front of everyone. It's much easier to get the group to rally around you when it's actually happening and more often than not other plays have an issue with it too. Second, when he assaulted her on campus, there should have been a report filed with the collage admin. Third, when he came to her door, there should have been no threat to call the police, just call them, let him explain why he's standing there banging on the door when they arrive. In the end OP did do the best thing she could have and left, it's just unfortunate she took 3 years of the crap first and was soured on RPG's for so long.

[@RdWarrior-x8y]

None of these people are emotionally mature enough to play a ttrpg

[@Isaygoodday5]

Yeah, not trying to victim blame at all, but with how she was reacting just over the disagreement over text, OP is definitely way too sensitive

[@monikasernek1177]

I don't know why Richard is afraid of not having a job - he could just sell the ungodly almond of gas that he has. Bad joke aside - People who say: "Real abuse is when you're being hit" have no idea how much damage verbal/mental abuse cause.

[@pyranthas]

Doge, I love your kitties. They are the best. What was the game in the background?

[@DnDDoge]

Itorah

[@pyranthas]

@@DnDDoge you always have such awesome looking games playing in the background.

[@Orsonfoe]

Richard is a perfect example why some people can be the most horrible and it's the justification for it. He was abuse so he cannt be an abuser and no one was abused like him so there are even real victims. It every one rls fault and he justify in what ever he does to feel good about himself.

[@WhiteDragonCM]

good greif O.o Racism can be an interesting character flaw to over come in a dnd game... but that's no excuse to yell and berate someone like that. if they say they arnt ok with how you're presenting your part, then stop it. honestly, i cant help but think that Richard was manipulative as well as unstable, and no one should be like that no matter what theyve been through. being hurt, dosnt mean you get a free pass to hurt others.

[@gabrielmajere8852]

I've been looking for a video to explain to one of my players exactly why I hate her always playing grey elves. This video is it.

[@DisneyChar]

I wont take sides = i dont think anyone did anything wrong I get really into roleplay Me too, anytime my character is yelled at he has to take a long rest to recover emotionally Also tessa is a trash pile, ouch I hope that was a typo and you meant Gina was your only friend not tessa

[@DayBreakShifter]

Jesus Christ... I need to get this out of my system asap. I'm only 19 minutes in and I'm already fucking LIVID. I've had to pause the video several times just to keep myself relatively calm. Richard is the fucking splitting image of an abusive asshole my mother dated years ago. All the way down to telling OP the same bullshit about "You're too sensitive!" Richard can honestly go to hell. Being abused does not give you an excuse to be abusive to others.