VLOG 4 - I'm A Mess. Send Help! 😩

[@whatjanesaysgoes]

Orly, take my word for it as someone who never delegated EVER. Please find someone who can do the "busy work" for you and takes the initiative to take things off your plate. You're learning as you go. Disappointments or "mistakes" are polishing you into the perfect diamond. It's natural to feel like an imposter while you're leveling up. YOU'RE DOING IT, HONEY 💗 My heart goes out to you 💓. You're doing great! This is just a season and it will pass.

[@carinatcommunitymovement4193]

Orly. You are not alone. You’re not. Sooo many of us feel this way. These are not permanent feelings. I’m seeing this video as you are dealing with the fires. Praying for you, Orly. 🙏

[@maiadean7053]

This is why most people dont go your route, it is very hard. Riding that wave is hard and induces fear. Your feelings are normal for your situation. You are setting a good example for your kids of striving to attain what you believe in. Sharing your feelings instead of bottling them up. Maybe narrow your focus to make it manageable. You are accomplished and kind and beautiful. Dont let this season hurt you and keep your eyes on your family as ultimately they are the best part of your life.

[@darrylmears9445]

Take 20 seconds to breathe. Really deep breaths and focus on just breathing. 20 seconds. You had a wild week but you are still standing and learning and thriving. There will always be bumps and trials. How you handle them, learn from them, and emerge from them is a huge measure of success. Sounds like you have recognized some areas in your work that needs a system change. Great! You dealt with the issue the old way and are now looking for a new system. That’s a win. Take that and embrace that. One more thing: there’s nothing wrong with being a you tuber or diy-er. That’s how we met you and couldn’t wait for the next video. That’s how you got here. 20 seconds, take some breaths. You are okay!

[@lbean87]

Be easy on yourself and Give yourself grace.

[@gailmoody8178]

Orly, you are strong for being vulnerable and sharing your life with everyone, sending you a big hug! Your story is wonderful, you have worked hard to get to where you are. As wives and mothers, it can be incredibly hard to juggle the demands of everyday, yet we do get through things when we set systems for our work, our family, ourselves. The most important is self-care, and by sharing with us it is a release of it all the overwhelming emotions. You are doing a great job, we are not perfect, and you are doing your best. I have loved your videos, really love your new product line, wishing you all the success you deserve to have ❤😂

[@shaunalee2522]

1. Your California segment was GREAT! My eye was drawn straight to the buttons so you didn’t even need to talk about them, I would have been searching for them the moment I saw them on camera. 2. HIRE HELP! Your business is exploding and while it seems like a financial strain now, having the additional time to step back and start looking at the bigger picture on a daily basis will only make your business more successful. You will simultaneously be providing employment and teaching somebody else the business. MENTOR! 3. Your kids appear to be very well taken care of and doted upon. They are also seeing a strong woman kicking ass and taking names and what a phenomenal role model you are. 4. Give yourself the grace that you would give another woman. 5. As a single mother who raised two daughters, I feel you girl ❤❤

[@louiscisse]

overwhelmed is hands down the worst feeling you can have!! especially when you’re managing yourself!!

[@daniellecannon1390]

Oh sweet girl!!! I feel your pain ❤❤ know you’re not alone!!!! As a mother of grown men (ugh still can’t believe) I still look back on times where I think I failed them as a mother, an then remembered, hey they survived and now are grown men and are both amazing!!! Feeling overwhelmed is so freaking hard especially in the moment. Just remember sweet girl, at the end of the day your children know you love them and are there for them.❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@alinaweil4675]

Oh my mama heart feels for you. Your kids are loving you no matter what! Seeing how you squeeze your schedule so very tightly in order to achieve goals for everyone - there is a time for everything! You were there, you did take care of them, you worked, you presented your brand on live TV. Your kids are part of your life - and there isn’t a cookie cutter outline that fits everyone. Life ebbs and flows - let them be part of it! Be real with them. Ask them if you doubt your mothering. I am sure they are proud of you❤

[@debbieternan6530]

Bravo for you Orly! Raw and honest makes your vids so worth watching, on top of all the great stuff. I felt so connected to what you were saying, especially around the 14 to 15 minute mark. Keep at it, your vlogs are wonderful.

[@marymacdonell4573]

You’re exhausted… you are doing a great job. Please be kind to yourself😘🇨🇦

[@TammyDeLaRosaUtube]

Guurrl!! There is nothing wrong with being a "KZbinr DIYer" You are rocking KZbin big time! And besides, did you know that statistically KZbin is the most watched streaming service and accounts for more TV screening time than any other service? Own it girl!! You are doing sooo good. ❤❤

[@lisajohnston-cosner7527]

You're doing a great job! You are also teaching your kids how hard work and perseverance can make your dreams come true. Hang in there. We can all see how much you love your kids. ❤ Are you safe from the horrible fires? As soon as I saw your video this morning, I thought, "Oh no, Orly lives in the LA area!" Please stay safe and do whatever you can in case you have to evacuate.

[@laurabucher6280]

Orly, I’m praying for you to have peace. Ask people you trust for help. Remember children are resilient.

[@brendasage4083]

Stop. Breathe. Repeat. Focus. One thing at a time. One step at a time one moment at a time. One breath at a time. 😊

[@CynthiaBryantify]

Orly, if your budget allows, you need an assistant/nanny that can help you with the business and/or the kids. Whatever you need! I’m so happy for you and your success! You will get this!

[@feelosophy1921]

I think it’s good for our children to see that adulting is difficult but that’s okay. Being a teenager gets overwhelming and they’ll know it’s difficult and it’s okay.

[@red6501]

Thanks for sharing this side of business. I’m a fashion diy entrepreneur too and I work from home. I do everything. My husband is in the military and it all does get quite overwhelming with everything on my shoulders. I had the same exact emotions/ mom guilt over the holidays with two kids. Plus a deployment. It’s so hard and the only way is through it being consistent and showing up for yourself. Carve whatever time out for much needed breaks. We got this 💪🏼❤

[@nataliequinton5976]

Every mom - working for pay, stay at home, with a partner, single - every good mom has these doubts and thinks they aren’t doing a good job. I’ve been following you for years and the glimpses of you as ‘mom’ that I’ve seen tells me you are succeeding at being a good mom. It’s normal to have doubts. Not easy, but normal.

[@Tammylamb777]

You are amazing. As moms who do it all, it is natural to feel guilty or resentful. Your kids know that you love them and you are there for them. You are doing great. ❤

[@amybrandt922]

I idolize you! Take a breath, give yourself some grace. Your kids are well cared for and resilient. You are a great role model for them. No working mom can do it all perfectly. You will get caught up, you will get processes in place. It will be okay. You are a creative successful caring human.

[@OrlysChannel]

this is beautiful. thank you.

[@dawnaubrey1503]

About the tv spot… the parting thought was about Rocknot. I’m marketing, the last statement is about the call to action and you did that. Anyone who watched would have been on their phone and found your company. About juggling business/motherhood/wife/friends etc, I’ve found it helpful to make a quick scribbled list and take thh by e “how to eat an elephant” approach and take action accordingly. Sometimes it’s about the clock, sometimes it’s about the day, sometimes it’s about none of that. Anyway, the military has a motto of adapt and overcome, and administer the oxygen to oneself in order to take care of all the screamers around oneself (like the airplane safety drill) I get it when it’s that moment , women tend to care for everyone else. When I had kids at home, I homeschooled, and ran a small business. I can certainly relate. You did well to admit and allow the feelings. My sage advice dad would say, “in 5 years what’s going to matter” that helps with the priorities. You’re dong well. You’re a rock star.

[@karenorlando8330]

Orly.. you are an AMAZING mom, AMAZING wife, AMAZING youtuber, and an AMAZING Entrepreneur!!! You were with your kids when they needed you (you may not feel like you were present the way you wanted to be, but they don't know that!...you were there!) You have built Rocknot into a beautiful, stunning company!! YOU know what your expectations are, but no one else does! All we see are beautiful products designed by a beautiful woman (inside and out!). This is just the beginning! You have months and years to get it where you want it to be. Your products are timeless so even if you can't achieve what you wanted in one quarter, the next one is right there waiting for you! You are teaching your kids a valuable lesson...most woman will never be able to do that for their kids. Take a deep breath. Know that you can do this and God will see you through it all! Trust Him!!! We all love you!!😍💝

[@quail259]

Dear One! As a fellow small business owner, you will get the systems down. You will! As for your children,,they are so resilient. Be well, and you are in my thoughts.

[@Kathryn_60]

Thank you for sharing your feelings. It’s an overwhelming time. There is so much pressure as parents as business owners. You are so wise to take time and do a plan for next year. Your children do understand. You are giving them an example to follow by meeting them know, hey this is what I am going to do to fix this. Big hugs!

[@shannonaustin4002]

You’re doing great sis. Being an entrepreneur is hard. Being a wife is hard. Being a mom is sooo hard. Someone told me once that being an entrepreneur means doing things that most people won’t do so you can have what most people can’t have. This chapter is rough, everything you are saying is normal, and all of us are rooting for you! 💪

[@kimmonroe5717]

Oh honey, you need a big hug! 😢 Every mom feels this...I remember feeling so incredibly overwhelmed a LOT! My daughter still got raised, and is one of the most well adjusted, successful people I know honestly?! The plug on television was great!! You're putting way too much stress on yourself! You said the name of your company, and showed your amazing work... that's perfect! People will remember a lot better that they liked YOU, and your product in that clip because you're fun and stylish! Do you realize I (like a lot of my friends) NEVER watch television? We see you ON HERE, and think it's amazing you're doing SO WELL!! Your business is going to do well because you are hitting your market here, and always have been! Find some time to get some rest, and hold your babies and breathe, it will help ALL of you I promise! You are doing awesome!! Much love!!

[@seekingtrueanswers]

Rather than provide unsolicited advise or suggestions, I am praying for you and your family. You want success and maybe stress results from that because we never know what's coming down our path.Sending encouragement as well.

[@lisamurray7168]

Breathe, you’re good! Too hard on yourself, and you are a mom and businesswoman and sis. You have reasons to be proud and be joyful Your channel rocks❤

[@endorn3234]

My children have just reached their thirties. When they look back on their childhoods, neither one brings up the “less than” moments. I was a single mother with depression, and the experiences my boys remember and talk about are the funny, outrageous things! They have such respect and love for me, I feel like the “imposter.” They grew up in a house of love and caring. That’s what they remember. The glimpses into your family life show you are a nurturing, thoughtful, supportive and genuine Mother. Orly, that is everything a good Mother can be. I hope your new “systems in place” plan is successful; as another viewer offered: delegate! Perhaps a small one time investment in a business consultant for startups would point you to the things that need immediate attention, and a timeline for others. You were already a success to us, keep following your star!

[@katlambert3649]

We are our own harshest critics, aren’t we? Your Rock Knot adventure has exploded so it’s understandable you’re overwhelmed. In the past I’ve had a hard time asking for help because I like the control. Big mistake. And I’ve learned that I have to be completely clear about what I Don’t want so that I’m certain of what I do want. Knowledge is power. Something good always comes, especially from the crappie stuff. You’ve learned a lot, Orly. And you are a great Mom! You are there for them. That’s more than I can say for my mom. Keep your head up high and go forward…wherever that may be. You got this 💞

[@pinklaura1961]

Kids are so much smarter and more adaptable than we give them credit for, talk to them, let them know your stressed and ask for their help - you’ll be pleasantly surprised

[@marahmoonflower7926]

Orly, --congratulate yourself for having the bravery to "feel" your feelings. You are not shoving them deep inside to manifest as "disease". No matter what your concerns and obstacles are, you are making strides and achievement.💫 You are in your heart regarding your passion about your goals. Our heart is our best internal compass. P.s. I have had much assistance and relief to stress and neck aches while using a what is called a "chi" machine, (it works by gently jostling the body with timed adjustable movement which increases a balance of my energy to release the stuck energy, ... and can also help gently release tension) the feeling after the 15 timed duration is a gentle full body tingle,👍 Which can bring on a reset to feel centered. (It's really hard to worry while it's wiggling the body). Also, you might enjoy a vibration plate... they seem to increase my energetic flow immensly while balancing and strengthening accessory muscles to also release any additional stuck energy, while also keeping healthy immense circulation. Sometimes I just sit on it and lean onto a blow up workout ball to send the energy up my spine neck and cranial nerves. It has gotten me through a heavy grief process. It brings me brief joyous moments, also great physical recharge results. I am a former massage therapist and healer just sharing a couple of my secrets for my physical/mental upkeep. 😇 May the blessings keep coming to you with more grace and ease.🕊

[@Tiffany-ee8eo]

Orly, you have to hire help and delegate. You are going to break if you don’t. Celebrate your wins and stop focusing on the negatives because it is difficult enough out there without you tearing yourself apart. You have to get tough and know that you can do this! There is no one else like you you are uniquely special and very talented and capable. WE ARE ALL ROOTING FOR YOU!!!

[@justc45]

Go easy on yourself... The fact that you're feeling guilty means you must care. You've got a very full plate and in time you'll find balance. You're doing better than you think. 💓

[@ajsimms3683]

Girl, stop! You're a great mom! Everyday look in the mirror and tell yourself: "Today is going to be a great day!" Even if it doesn't go according to plan that's what you're going to tell yourself every-single-day ❤ I'm in the same exact boat with my business and I'm a single parent so this is truly coming from a place of understanding. It sounds like you're on the cusp of hiring. Look within your friend circle and see if someone has skills they can lend or consider hiring a mothers helper. We're really good at beating ourselves up as mothers and even though it's hard right now, you're still giving them one of the most incredible experiences. Sending so much love ❤️

[@dawnback5333]

Thank you! Thank you! You are not alone❤❤❤ You are giving your all and sometimes growing pains especially in a business is a lot to go thru, you have identified what needs to be changed. You got this Orly, This has been one of the hardest years in most folks lives, give yourself grace and forgiveness you are human. This too shall pass. Bring on 2025 to Conquer!

[@Jewelznme]

This is why it’s so much harder on women to be our full potential. EVERYTHING falls on us. You are not alone. I think it’s time for a personal assistant. She can jump in with helping with work things. She just needs to know where everything is at so at times like this you can be present with the kids. ❤ Be kind to yourself.

[@OrlysChannel]

yea, that's an interesting idea. I never thought of an assistant because it felt like all work related but I suppose, ,it's all mixed together at this point. Just another set of hands would be good.

[@annaibarra3447]

@@OrlysChannelThat’s perfect, an assistant is just what you need! 🙌🏽

[@MakeitTryitDIYit]

Orly put baby girl to work!!!!! She can help you and that will give y’all some girl time together. As busy moms they love to be with us. ❤❤❤

[@BEBBAD.T.1431]

ORLY SHANI WE LOVE YOU FOR SO LONG WE ARE YOUR FANS I SEND BLESSINGS HOPE YOU CAN GET BETTER SOON WE ARE HERE TO LISTEN I HATED TO SEE YOU CRAY I ALWAYS SEEN YOU AS A OUTGOING AND FREAKING AMAZING PERSON 👏 TAKE LIFE I ONE DAY AT A TIME GIRL SENDING MUCH LOVE CENTER URSELF DON'T CRY PLEASE ..YOU ARE BLESSED 🙌 😇

[@pinklaura1961]

Moming is such hard work, and you do forever ❤

[@tanyaskopitz8921]

Orly, Breathe…. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You’re doing amazing work all around, stop judging yourself ❤❤❤ Breathe…

[@myaleeza]

My mama was like you...she did everything with care and love. She never hid her frustration and sometimes I could tell she was sad. I also knew how much she loved me. The way your kiddies look at you, my God, you can tell they adore you (even when they're sick). My mum has passed now. The love she gave me is in my DNA. You're always inspiration even when you don't think you are. Sending healing, grounding energy❤🙌🏾👌🏾ps ask for help. "it takes a village..."

[@sandrakicklighter2735]

Wish I could just give you a comforting hug. Take a breath, deal with what you can, and that is all you can do.

[@patriciatruel]

All that busy-ness is fantastic! This is what you worked for for your business. You are on a great track for the beginning of Rocknot! It’s a brand new territory for you, and you will get it!

[@amandavandoorn6477]

Yup you are doing it all and it is too much. The kids know you love them and seem like well adjusted kids. They will understand that you are busy and probably won’t remember anything other than you were there for them. You are doing good. Just breathe. You got this. If I could be there, I’d lend you a hand or a shoulder.

[@sharonkayse6936]

You are anxious. Everything is overlapping and overlapping. We all have gone through it. I don't know how you're managing all this and now there's a fire.

[@NurtureHandmade]

I just know a quality and honest and good helper will come to you through you sharing your truth. It takes a village to do anything worthwhile. And you are so worthy of the good-we all need help sometimes. Can you delegate some of the basics?

[@thelittlemaldos1389]

I watched you because of your innovation… people will be reeled in with those boots and all will fall in to place ❤

[@tinapayton-ut5up]

From one that wears many hats...from an elder of a church to a professional in a 9-5 that's not really 9-5 to a neighborhood president...I am a person first and foremost, I am a child of God, I am a mother I am a daughter I am a wife and I am a friend .. I have a heart that cares for myself and for others....we are beautiful creations and a masterpiece in God's image. Shine your light and hang in there.. God's with you all the way .. no matter what.

[@ivanajukicgloban6627]

Hang in there Mamma❤❤❤❤❤❤❤THANK YOU FOR SPEAKING FOR ALL OF US, EXPERIENCING THE SAME...❤

[@cherricorcoran9523]

You are your worst critic! Never forget you are amazing person! One thing for you to work on is delegating. Surround yourself with people that you trust and delegate jobs to them. The ortho appointment doesn’t have to happen today. I am a retired nurse and a mom of two athletes, so I know what I’m talking about.

[@IaipyntngenMarbaniang]

sometimes a good snack and some good long nap really helps 💓💞 and some times we need to slow down a little bit 🥺

[@RnR-Rebel]

Running your own biz isn’t easy, add family, the holidaze into it & it becomes more stressful, overwhelming. Delegate. Anything you don’t have to physically do, delegate w/ specific instructions to someone who can. You’ll be able to take a breath, feel more focused, relaxed around your children. Do you have family members you trust to put as alternatives if something happens at school? I know you want to be there, but it’ll help immensely by shifting the stress you can take care of rather than rushing off in the middle of something important for your biz. Don’t worry about your children seeing you in a state, that’s how they learn what “adulting” is, how life, the world works. They see you striving for your dream come true; all healthy things IMO. I see so many parents hiding emotion, stress, overwhelm & their children are demanding (some quite spoiled, entitled w/ no regard for anyone but themselves), unaware of real life situations making for some very maladjusted adults. You can even include them in certain processes like diy-ing those collars which makes them feel proud to be a part of what mumma does! Growing pains hurt, but you’ll see it thru. I empathise as a former B&M retail shop & wholesale biz who had only myself & made approx 85% of my stock, 4 yrs in, an infant I brought everyday. As kiddo became a toddler, I let them do little tasks which helped later in life like the cash register & counting out change, not using what the register said (too many have no clue how to count out change it’s wild!) or dusting, sweeping, any little chore that made them feel they were a part of the biz. You can do it, make a list of what would help things run smoother, then follow thru! Best of luck! Jet 😘💚💫♻️

[@haydeeramirez5920]

Thanks for sharing, means a lot! All you can go is what you’re doing. Take it one step at a time. You’re doing Amazing! 💕🙏🏽💕😊

[@GypsyJRo]

Stahppp! Your attention to detail is UNMATCHED!

[@GypsyJRo]

When I say that, I mean you ARE doing it all. You can't be everywhere all the time. Your children seem well cared for and loved. They get sick and hurt and that's life. You sitting next to your son wouldn't have made his fever go away any sooner. You're doing great even when you are overwhelmed.

[@GypsyJRo]

I'm sure you know all that, I just wanted to remind you.

[@AppleKaewchai]

Hang in there. You are inspiration. Sending you lots of hugsssss from Thailand 😊☺️

[@lindarosenthal6835]

Hang in there baby. You can do this. Happy New Year.

[@chihuahuahuas]

BOO HOO. Just buried the loves of my life. You are blessed

[@fargaanahcasker6233]

All things come in time, you will find your feet and make it through. Your are amazing

[@gummibaum08]

I exactly know how you feel. As a working mum you are never enough and you can never do enough.

[@nelliebly6616]

It feels that way,but is not true🙄

[@maxinebaskerville6020]

Oh my goodness ... any of us older moms can FEEL your pain on this video!! We've ALL been there no matter what our work/job situations are. THIS is the hardest part of being a Momma. You can not do it all, ALL the time. It's just what it is and as a Grandma now and hopefully a GG sometime soon. 😊 I can tell you here and now. The hurt that you're feeling and is traumatizing you now and for the rest of your life until your kids are adults and you ask them about this time period. ( what a run on sentence) They are either going to say that they don't really remember it or that it was not something that even bothered them. Well, your Blake is Always going to remember her broken foot or leg 😅 but I Promise you they are NOT as traumatized as YOU are by any of this.... please believe this. We are Always more hard on ourselves. As Good Mommas ALWAYS are. You are Amazing. You kick Ass and take names and don't you ever forget it. 😉❤You!!!

[@miamoberg827]

Less is more. Enjoy your kids and your design. Success is not everything. Take care. It'll all be alright. Holidays are tough on most moms. We're supposed to create all the magic. But Christmas is a miracle in itself. It's a gift for all of us, even moms. That's the key.

[@miamoberg827]

It's like instructions on airplanes: first put the oxygen mask on yourself and then on your kid. Take care of yourself and your kids will be alright. They grow from every experience.

[@elothegreat3011]

I know in the moment you feel like a bad mom when you have other responsibilities because family does come first. however Your kids will understand that you have other responsibilities also and will respect you for what you're doing❤❤❤

[@andafield]

Yes u are not alone! It’s how we were raised and what everybody expects from mothers, which is sad. You are not a single mother, ask your husband to help more. Even if you were working out of the house, this would still be expected. Sit down with hubby, it’s not ok. Get more help with your business if you can afford it. You are strong but you can’t make everyone happy

[@norawotton5440]

It’s hard to see how you’re struggling. It seems so unfair that the sick children problems all fell to you - I kept thinking, “Where’s your husband in all this?” You WILL come up with systems to deal with these problems, and your children WILL learn from seeing you overcome adversity, which they wouldn’t if you hid it from them. I hope things are getting better for you!

[@jazzyj6095]

Orly first and foremost, You Are Amazing. What you are doing is hard but, it's supposed to be. Committing to your dream always comes with sacrifice. Refocus and ask yourself what is the problem at this moment and what can you do to resolve it. Take the emotion out of it when you're problem solving. I know this sounds a little insensitive maybe but that's not my intention. I believe in you. Outside, learned, unfair expectations have you believing you have to do too many things by yourself. Always remember, You are in charge and you make your own rules. There's no time for self doubt, guilt, imposter syndrome or panic, if any of those things apply to you. Take 10 minutes everyday before you start working to remind yourself, you are making your dreams come true. One day all of this chaos will calm down but you are on the road less traveled right now. You are not alone, you are just courageously scratching your way up. YOU CAN DO THIS.❤❤❤ We are all praying for you and cheering you on😊😊

[@thriftythreader5998]

Life is all about decisions. To choose wisely, needs to come from a place of contentment. Rather than feeling the constant remorse, take a few moments during a quiet time, and “ask” the Universe what exactly you need to do to balance your life right NOW, in order to feel at peace. It sounds overly simplistic, but trust me, you are connected to everything the universe has to offer and we rarely really ASK for guidance. Please also remember that what you give your attention to, will give you more of the same. I always enjoyed seeing you take pleasure in your diy creations, but now I shudder when I see you literally broadcasting your meltdowns to thousands of people, who then commiserate with you, focusing more negative energy your way. It’s the law of nature. You attract MORE of what you think, feel, say, etc. and the universe obliges. When I tune into you, I see a vibrant young woman who loves her family and wants to fully embrace her creative endeavors. You will develop systems for your business that free you up from the corrections and production to be an entrepreneur. How you “feel” will always steer you in the given direction. If you feel like you’re swimming upstream, explore other options, until you find one that feels good. Make your decisions accordingly and all will be well. ❤

[@mercygirl317]

gonna be honest with you cuz youre honest with us...kids pick up on more than we think. so yes im sure in some way they know youre overwhelmed but when you have a good relationship with them which by the way I can tell you do just by the way they look at you and smile and I just know that they love you and look up to you and as long as you're honest with them and say hey look I feel really bad that you are hurt or you don't feel good it's just I have so much going on you know what I'm saying like just explain it to them keep them in the loop of things and you are still a loving mom I'm sure that they get it and they don't feel like they don't matter. I can tell that those kids love you and you're just being hard on yourself and you have to give yourself more credit. Just don't ever mistreat them like say anything horrible that you can't take back or you know what I mean and I can tell that you're not like that. There's a difference between being abusive or neglectful or just busy and doing grown-up things responsibly and I think you're doing great at balancing your career and your kids and family just take a deep breath and breathe just try to relax a little bit and know that you're doing a good job.

[@johannahayden7937]

Breathe Orly you got this.

[@marciprice1833]

Just remember you are human and not a robot! Hire a high school student that wants to do fashion PT. or as an intern ... I always tell myself.. If it was the "end of the world" would this be important. Family always came 1st, everyone should understand you are only human and family comes 1st with any illness etc. Kids can also understand we have melt downs too and its ok.

[@urbanhippie75]

Easier said than done, but try not to be so hard on yourself. There is a lot of great advice here in the comments. We are our own worst critics, but I guarantee people watching the show are not going to pick it apart the way you are feeling. Love yourself xo 💙✨

[@everlastingvintage]

you need to hire somebody for those tedious jobs because when you own a business and you want everything perfect and the only way it’s gonna be perfect if you do it yourself, but you’re gonna overwork yourself you’re gonna go into a mental depression. Your anxieties are are gonna be so high and that triggers anger and at the beginning of your Vlog he said you haven’t even started Christmas so to put yourself in the right space hire someone to help you somebody that’s competent good luck with your ventures. 😊❤

[@krickette5569]

HIRE Someone to Help you! You remind me a bit of MaCenna at XOMaCenna Vlogs. She lives in California, is running her own business, just had a baby and is doing KZbin. She has someone who helps her and she's mentioned Multiple times how invaluable that person it. Hire Someone! They can do the small stuff or the busy work and free some of your time up. Hoping all is well for you through these fires.

[@rubylopez5941]

You are not able to do everything! We were told that lie for so many years.Try on feel like an imposter you absolutely are not that you are just exhausted and you want to do it ALL. I am 68 years old and we can do a LOT I mean TONS but we cannot do everything all at once. You need a little more help. I hope you can find someone that you can trust to do as another commenter said "busy work". I was a single Mom and worked 60 hrs a week for someone else and my kids suffered from it. I needed some help! You actually got this and don't look back except for reference. Talk to your kids ask them how they feel. I never asked mine. I should have. YOU GOT THIS ORLY......

[@meadowmaiden4621]

I thought i wasn't going to like the vlogs, but I actually love them. Sounds like you need to get an assistant.

[@caruiz1971]

I hear you but please be proud of all you have and will still accomplish. YOU FUCKIN ROCK ORLY, your style your ideas are like no other. I know you feel as though you didn’t get to talk about Rockknot but good news is, you said the name & just that alone will force people to search the name, find your website & see all the cool amazing items you have because it isn’t just the cool bow buttons, it is everything ❤ remember everything happens as it should. Keep your head up

[@InesAbejon]

just sending you a Hug, you are great and such an inspiration!

[@verenamathys4343]

You are near to a nervous breakdown. Many You Tubers are or were in a similar situation. You have to size down your work and to get more help or take a break. Take it seriously, don't let yourself tear apart.

[@donnajames6067]

You are doing a wonderful job! Reach out and find yourself a mentor 😊 get some help with the packaging basics and free yourself up to manage the business. ❤️

[@joanjohnson9083]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@dawnaubrey1503]

PS. Maybe an intern from a local college could help with the warehouse to do the grunt work? Like an unpaid internship and gives valuable experience to an aspiring entrepreneur/fashion major?

[@57athina]

You have imposter syndrome you think you’re just a DIYer and you’re so much more than that. You’re a creator. You created a beautiful product. Mentally fake it till you make it. You worked so hard for this. ❤ 🙏💫 you’re a Rock Star.

[@OrlysChannel]

yea it was a weird thing that popped up in the moment. I didn't expect it.

[@sissia67]

Take care of yourself! 🙏🏼

[@budoneof15]

I’m sure I’m not the only one that , (1) want to just give you a hug and tell you to breathe. (2) want to just come and help you. Get lots of help. We all have guilt with our family. Just learn from this and again, breathe, get help. Let someone else do that product package of the buttons. Give up a little. Love you.

[@budoneof15]

When I give up a little. I don’t mean give it up but let someone else do it.

[@OrlysChannel]

yes, 2025 is the year of delegating for me lol

[@budoneof15]

@ I look forward to seeing you happy Orly again.

[@MyTaylordCloset]

Orly I'm only 5 mins in 1st sending you a hig hug your a great mom!!! 2nd why not see about getting an intern. Like a fashion student from Fidm or a local high school for credit hours to help you. Just a thought.

[@AngelMoniqueA]

🤗🤗🤗 sending hugs

[@johannahayden7937]

Wish I lived in LA I would come and help you get a handle on the inventory I am very good with that.

[@jackiebrown6577]

I feel so sad for you. Yes delegate! ❤

[@joymontague251]

Are the fires effecting you?

[@jenniferzayerz9907]

DO NOT FEEL GUILTY! You are one person. You did not endanger your children in any way and you are juggling so much. I know it's hard to delegate and relinquish that control, but all the standard work that anyone can replicate can go to someone else. You have to save all the important stuff for you to do and free up your time to do that and figure out how to balance your life. You'll get there. Hire some help or create some internships for high school and college students where they can do some of the more menial tasks and still include them in processes to learn about some of the other stuff. And don't feel bad for allowing your children to see you overwhelmed. They need to see that real life can get to any of us and we don't always know how to handle it. We are not all perfect and we don't have to be. You taught them that it's ok to be feel overwhelmed and yet you still managed to get things done. That is valuable. You got this! And we all got you!

[@nspencer77]

Moms, man...just Moms. *sigh* 😮‍💨

[@JessicAShaneE11]

Sending you Love 🫶🏾

[@Peaceflag47]

Ask Jesus for help in dealing with all life’s challenges. It works, I promise.

[@maiadean7053]

Best advice.

[@nelliebly6616]

Talk to a Latin American?Why?

[@TheRustyTrike]

Pretty sure orly is Jewish sooooo

[@karolgarley]

All this aside... Are you and your family save? #californiawildfires

[@dixieofalltrades]

This is why we should not have developed an economy that required both parents to work. Parenting requires so much time and attention, it's impossible to accomplish without a present parent! I hated working even when my kids were older. There is so much that needs to get done in a day as parents and just humans in general. Working even just 40 hours a week (which most people work more) just doesn't allow for it! I hate this world we have created! Yes women needed freedom and choice, but it's turn out it was at our own expense!

[@candacephelan9335]

Sweetheart breathe. You are wonderful. Breathe... if your decisions and choices are not made with malice, you're good. Unfortunately women in business are held to unspoken standards set by men in 1950... listen to the young business women around you we feel you.. you are seen... you are admired..

[@OrlysChannel]

you're so right. Even thoughh we know it's an unrealistic expectation, we still participate in it! why!? haha

[@CarolynGraves-uj8ur]

❤

[@lgor4339]

Please, give yourself a break. Wherever you can delegate. You’re not failing. You’re feeling like so many mothers, parents are feeling.

[@OrlysChannel]

xoxo thank you friend.