Warning Signs She's Emotionally Damaged (Signs She's High Maintenance)

[@YourWingmam]

Warning Signs She's Emotionally Damaged (Signs She's High Maintenance) WAKUP2LUV - GET A GIRLFRIEND! members.wingmam.com/get-women/ Is she a narcissist or simply rude? Is she emotionally damaged or just insecure? We all have insecurities and don't always act kindly, but when her bad behaviours are chronic or out of control...run away! xo AJ

[@YourWingmam]

Learning about women will help in many areas of life :)

[@richardperth2002]

WingmamTV Is it a red flag my girlfriend lock me in her apartment for nine hours because she couldn’t get her way. Number two when I go to restaurants I am not allowed to talk to female waitresses To suggest moving seats because so many flies of annoying us in the place we are sitting outside the cafe.She gets upset when people walk up to me and talk to me and she gets really angry verbally to the person and to me. She says she can’t trust me to go out anywhere because she doesn’t know who I’m speaking to what I’m saying she cannot monitor what I am saying is this a red flag

[@richardperth2002]

WingmamTV what else my girlfriend doesn’t like is that I spent too much time with my mum or my brother she will stop me going camping with my brother and say that I’m stealing time from her and I shouldn’t be going with my brother out camping is this a red flag

[@richardperth2002]

WingmamTV when I am sitting in a cafe having a coffee with my girlfriend she accuses me that I’ve been watching women walking past outside which I do not do that she’s always accusing me of Purvin on women and to stop it is this a red flag

[@richardperth2002]

WingmamTV is it a red flag when my girlfriend gets upset when one of my work colleague sees me in the shopping centre and comes up and talks to me and his partner standard beside him .my girlfriend she gets upset that I’m wasting time on strangers talking to these people I work with I shouldn’t be doing time with them in a shopping centre because you spend enough time with them at work is this a red flag

[@alexhormann8931]

16. If her phone is more important than your conversation.

[@rusedorange]

Ding Ding Ding!!! Checking her phone is an insult to you.

[@SIR_REALIST_88]

THAT SHOULD BE #1

[@retiredsnowbunnyhunterx5106]

Agreed

[@MatthieuCeciestvraiHAGUE]

That's more my thing

[@steveng1624]

Absolutely without a doubt my friend...

[@BenderBendingRodrigue2]

The biggest one that got missed... She's always the victim or acts "victimized".

[@Kashban]

That's the "others are always to blame" point.

[@ilijamladenovik3920]

my fucking wife is same

[@narcfreeatlast6975]

*cough cough narcissist alert*

[@michaels8597]

exactly

[@will_Iam61]

@@michaels8597 Yeah, narcissist is latest label for high maintenance.

[@TheHornet1fan]

I'd rather spend the rest of my life single, then spend time in a wrong relationship period, life's too short

[@drjohnsonhungwell5115]

Same here I got tired of jumping through hoops for them and being stressed out I have a low tolerance for their bullshit

[@virginiamills2298]

Amen 🙏

[@koengo229]

..... I go to Pattaya , Thailand and enjoy " occasional highlights " ..... no strings attached , no prison bars holding back from the wonderful world -- the way God created for his flock to enjoy ....

[@maryanndeweerd2570]

Yup!

[@fitafries7274]

I’m a girl. Same. Don’t have time or energy for BS.

[@paulgore1237]

A woman that has never said 'sorry' or 'apologised' for anything, ever!

[@YourWingmam]

🙏 ❤️

[@baldersn4474]

Yep

[@bartsullivan4866]

That was a big one between me and my ex wife. She would never apologize making it hard to forgive her and quickly move on. Your just supposed to know.

[@MichaelStetak]

@@paulgore1237 You are absolutely spot on!

[@jcdahippie]

You've described every woman I've ever met. I think I'll go adopt a puppy.

[@pvn2474]

Good idea! Metoo.

[@christophermosley4577]

Lmbao!

[@TheToledoTrumpton]

I have to admit - this is pretty much all women these days. I think I have a good wife and I love her to bits, but she does at least half of these things.

[@ShaunHensley]

exactly

[@donquixote...]

Best thing, puppy may s*** on yer floor, nothing not fixable with paper towels & lysol. Not enough lysol to fix what a screwed up woman would do to your life.

[@bradleysmith9431]

Through my experience, women who did not have a good father figure while growing up usually exhibit these qualities. Daddy issues destroy women. Men treat your daughters right!

[@psynriter]

Agreed. 💯 Percent Correct..

[@GlossaME]

No, women need to choose a decent father for their children, especially for their daughters.

[@derricklafure7671]

Exactly

[@Don-pk2uy]

Exactly 3 times and all hated their dads

[@psynriter]

I think it's possible any bloke that is naturally empathetic to help wind back the clock for them . Might take a lifetime but that's what relationships are all about

[@stevewise1656]

Or she only wants to be with you when she knows you're doing well financially.

[@YourWingmam]

Most definitely!

[@freddiestranger9783]

GIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST NOW AND THANKS

[@haroldgreen1336]

Don't I know it.,💯

[@freddiestranger9783]

@@haroldgreen1336 GIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE LORD 🙏 JESUS CHRIST TODAY 🙏

[@haroldgreen1336]

@@freddiestranger9783 He's my Lord and Savior brother. My best friend. Hopefully he's yours too. God bless you ❤️

[@thebestone11-r9y]

There's a book called Casanova Playbook of Magnetism, and it talks from body language and conversaton starters to dark mind tricks and flirting through texts, it's the real deal

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏

[@DavidGarcia-kw4sf]

Being mean to people with less power and status is certainly revealing of character.

[@ezpz4646]

Yessir. I immediately lose all respect for anyone who does it.

[@malcolmnicholls2893]

True refinement is to treat all people equally.

[@DR_socal]

True.

[@yankee2666]

@@malcolmnicholls2893 That isn't true. And that's an unrefined statement.

[@jerseycatmews828]

Jennifer Lopez does this to restaurant workers, chauffeurs

[@Kabaselefh]

Another red flag is the excessive need of validation and admiration.

[@Nitrodr1]

Yeah, that right. Each boss my ex worked for started out as the best thing since sliced bread, then 6 months to a year later, they were all dumb as rocks! And these people held the job she wanted and were the ones who elevated her! Go figure!

[@erth2man]

This one goes with openly soliciting the attention of other guys just to make you jealous. I recall calmly dumping a woman that attempted this tactic, at which point then I became the bad guy. Who needs that buII$hlt?

[@MrParkerman6]

That's literally all Women.

[@Kabaselefh]

MrParkerman6 yes, they are all possessed by the same evil spirits from the deepest pits of hell

[@WesB1972]

I was married to one like that. She craved attention from all men.

[@markpatton6847]

I'm 60, when you get to my age, you won't give a damn about any of this crap anymore. True freedom.

[@stevejauncey3086]

True

[@karlhorn7747]

Same here brother, 16 years of single bliss. I bought a home after my divorce, paid it off in 15 years. Ex made sure I was broke the whole time we were married. NOW EVERYTHING IS PAID FOR.

[@vaquera9368]

Why did it take you that long not to care about this stuff? 60?? My goodness! Any woman behaving like this is a “teenager.”

[@markpatton6847]

True, our society is so lacking in any real wisdom we're at the point of over-grown children trying to raise children.@@vaquera9368

[@markpatton6847]

@@helenhighwater5313 Nah, I doubt it.

[@threeballedtomcat9380]

IF I had seen this in 1995 I would have run for my life. My 2nd wife was 13 of the 15 "Red Flags", and I am dead serious. Very informative,and very true, every word of it hits home....

[@YourWingmam]

I'm happy this is helpful, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@threeballedtomcat9380]

@halacris I put up with the shit for 13 years, left the idiot (expensive but worth every penny) and have been perfectly happy living alone , tending to my personal needs with "friends". We don't live forever and being happy is the most important thing in life , IMHO.

[@threeballedtomcat9380]

@halacris There is an answer.....RUN ! Save yourself ! God loves you but he can't figure that woman you married out either, trust me.

[@alaalfa8839]

Meditation and metacognition help them to be a smart, loving, and humble person because the part of practicing meditation, metacognition, and breath techniques is also practicing self-love, empathy, and gratitude and analyzing less, practicing nonjudgment, and learning brain-heart coherence. Analyzing can be ok. But if you analyze too often what you will eat during day, or when you should exercise, it lowers the energy of your body and you feel unnecessary stress. The less you analyze the more energy you feel and the more happy you feel. As some say self-love isnt the same as self-pleasure. Self-love is a long-term feeling and self-pleasure is a short-term feeling. Self-pleasure is more about materialism. Self-love is more about energy, and peaceful mind, getting the nutrients for the body, or learning useful skills, feeling happy and healthy, not analyzing, because analyzis is never 100 percent accurate. You may analyze you calories, you may analyze your friends behavior, yet you never know 100 percent everything but your heart knows because heart isnt based on logical thinking. Therefore heart and love makes you much more easiely start new adventures.

[@luiszuluaga6575]

At least you’re not dead. 😸

[@rogerlimoseth4790]

We're all emotionally damaged. The trick is finding the right amount of crazy you can work with.

[@MJBrabantNZL]

Not necessarily. Those who fix the problem (themselves) and heal said damage don't exhibit these behaviors. Furthermore, you shouldn't (and likely won't) accept anyone that hasn't bothered, once you have done so.

[@jeriredman6762]

Roger, I love this! May I quote you?

[@gladiusdomina4399]

​@@jeriredman6762 lol, even if there's a really reasonable opinion on why this isn't a good idea? I mean I had been in therapy for 5 years x'D And I know he's right. Cs my therapist is trying really hard to help me to stop being this "I wanna to fix myself while being in a relationship cs it would be super cute (and faster) growing together!"

[@ameliamarshall2890]

Good answer! I might need to wait a while to find to find someone who is able to handle my crazy.

[@iamtheoffenderofall]

My crazy involves more mechanical driven devices like cars and bikes. Not trying to create drama, destroy people via the court system or use children as relationship pawns. 2 different levels of crazy. And most would say one side of that isnt crazy at all.

[@SpaceCattttt]

Oh, I never date people. I'm only watching this as research to find out how the rest of humanity works.

[@dehsa38]

Yeah...pretty much given up on making personal relationships of any kind.

[@clinthodo]

yup! just researching hoomans.

[@richbreimann9823]

😂 😂 😂

[@jesserivera9704]

Greetalutations fellow human species members. I also am certified a fully DNA proven human species. Will can we share a dosage of Chillaxitives as those socializing are want to do fully? I feel comfortable :):):) Highfoves tout the mode

[@stinkydogfarts6617]

Looks like im not the only one.

[@PR0XIDIAN]

You just described my divorce from a narcissist. Bravo. Take note guys, she's right on the money.

[@christinabryant1899]

Except guys can be narcissists, too. Someone has emotionally abused that woman. This should be called, "How To Not Get Your Bitch Ass Slapped Around," or "Modifying Yourself To His Psychopathy," and possibly, "It's Your Fault If He Rapes You."

[@asktheetruscans9857]

@@christinabryant1899 Did you just dismiss that man's suffering, make excuses for the abusive woman, and then reframe the whole thing to be about women's suffering? DARVO much?

[@asktheetruscans9857]

FREEDOM!!!

[@larrybarnett5799]

@@christinabryant1899 women abuse men as well. not all...remember those last two words....(not all) you can take the woman out of the thread you posted and replace it with men, and it would be true all the same...

[@larrybarnett5799]

@@asktheetruscans9857 she sure as shit did..... I'm thinking did she just create an excuse for shitty behavior?

[@whitechicacooks5780]

I have been emotionally damaged (10yr abusive marriage, been free for 4yrs now), so I listened. So thankful this describes more of a narcissistic/abusive woman, than someone healing from past wounds! Thank you for your words of wisdom!

[@YourWingmam]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@sincman]

#3 has always been a HUGE red flag for me. "All my friends are guys, cause I just get along with them better" = RUN!

[@JD-dv9kc]

Yeah, dumb me.... Hitting on her and she complains and when i asked why not block them, ..... Cause that's rude. No bitch, cause you like the attention

[@kylejohnson6868]

@@JD-dv9kc same thing happened to me bro, she is friends with all her exes and after we broke up a week later saw she went on a date with an ex that she wouldn't cut out after contacting her all the time.. I even said he was toxic, but she said it's an inconvenience to change her number..

[@hassan._razaa]

couldn't agree more. Mine used to consider herself as an Alpha tomboy. She always said I'm a guy but I don't have a penis lmao. And always wanted to be around guys instead of girls

[@suelamborja9010]

I don't know man, I have a few girl friends that I meet every now and then. Most of my friends are man, also friends of my husband. Just less drama with men, they mean what they say, can take a joke, don't unload every little problem on you and don't act like a bitch if you haven't texted in a week. It's not about sex or attention, it's just about getting together, having fun and everyone gets on with their life. I also don't have to analyse if every conversation they ever had with someone in their life had a double meaning.

[@johnbeam4017]

Amen brother

[@armanddimeo6575]

I dated a woman for a whole year and never met one single one of her friends. This is because she did not really have any. Also, there is a lot more going on here than being a "nice person." She can be damaged or even evil and still appear to be a "nice person."

[@mariotibbrine1]

3000+ facebook friends dont count as friends either.

[@fargeeks]

What about those real friends she doesn't introduce to you?

[@moderndaydrifter4672]

I have been through that as well, I had no idea what a narcissistic person was. Lived with her for 10 years and found out at the end when she moved out and started living with her cousins husband that she was telling everyone that I was abusive and controlling and on and on it went. Not one person in her family or our friends ever said anything to me about this until after she left. Now she's married to this other guy and doing the same to him and I just sit back and laugh now. It truly is the most bizarre thing I have ever seen.

[@SpinDoctor91]

Most people "fake" who they really are until you have been involved with them for a few months then it all comes out. Most people act how they think you want them to.

[@kostasplafountzis6602]

that's because she has no friends,she has funs[admirers]=items

[@sanyatesGRIA]

Number 2, you just described a whole generation on social media

[@matthwoodman2315]

I noticed that too!🤙

[@User_forbidden]

Misanthropist > misogynist

[@beverlykelly6270]

I've seen it time and time again. Men consistently choose emotionally unstable women to get involved with. A crowning signal is having been in and out of therapy, starting at around 12 years of age. Another sure fire signal is suffering from depression. They are likely, at some point, going to try to commit suicide, and they more than likely, will take you with them. These are women who pursue, manipulate situations by lying on other women. They tend to be so insecure that they are catty, and take cheap shots at other women they deem to be their competitions, , and will, by and large, do whatever it takes to get your attention, up to and including thirst photos. By that I mean sexually revealing pics. They are a dangerous, pathetic group of women. Be careful.

[@beverlykelly6270]

@Douglas Farshtey there's nothing wrong with social media... it's the sickos that use it that are scary. It makes it easy for deranged people to constantly others.

[@nebulauxprhyme2983]

Yep!

[@ryandeffley7652]

I was chatting with a girl recently that said she was acting differently with me because of things that happened in her past. This always triggers me. 🤣 So I told her straight out that I wasn't going to be held accountable for what other men did and that I wasn't settling for less than what other men got. Now obviously no one is completely free of baggage. We've all made bad choices. But you can choose to treat each person individually. Too many modern women try to project past issues onto you. 👎

[@YourWingmam]

Healing from past hurt and trauma is the best way to have a healthy and happy relationship 🙏

[@ryandeffley7652]

@@YourWingmam - Yep I agree about 100%. The problem though is people tend to horde trauma and project it versus dealing with it and letting it go.

[@howardg5934]

Bravo! My ex-wife's frequent dig: "You know how men are."

[@DannyEugeneThomas]

@@ryandeffley7652 Been there and I own the T-shirt.

[@DannyEugeneThomas]

@@YourWingmam Can't heal when you treat that trauma like a security blanket and do nothing about it. The woman who I spoke about is that one right now.

[@jimmyglea]

To be fair, (as a dad of teenage girls), women should watch for the exact same signs in men.

[@Beatles.lassie]

Thankyou, I love your comment. ❤️

[@MK_ULTRA420]

Especially since most men can't get away with such behavior unless they have enough money, power, charisma or good looks. Most men still know they can get punched in the face if their behavior is bad enough.

[@jimmyglea]

@@MK_ULTRA420 men/boys most certainly do exhibit the same behaviors all the time. I can see a lot of them in varying degrees with kids my daughters have brought home. Subtle little clues I recognize as a 46 year old man that sail straight over the girls head.

[@MK_ULTRA420]

@@jimmyglea I'm sorry about your daughters' dating preferences 😂

[@jimmyglea]

@@MK_ULTRA420 you and me both, brother

[@HeIsRisenVivaCristoRey]

The sad part is I fell in love with this woman and she showed most of these signs. It was a rough 2 years.

[@firstandlastswagman269]

Yep

[@Broteese]

Never let it go on for two years again.

[@RodrigoLimaBatista]

Been there, done that. Be thankful that you're learning. I am. Choose wisely who you hang around with from now on. Women and men. Life tip: Stoicism

[@michaelmoody6808]

Glad you made it out young skywalker...

[@pjom4191]

Live and learn

[@viveviveka2651]

Major red flag: she sees predominantly the negatives, in people, situations, ideas, and possibilities.

[@Jman149]

You wouldn't believe the destruction that van be caused by a negative mindset.

[@Insertia_Nameia]

Like this woman that does all these videos?

[@thecowboy9698]

@@Jman149 - " You have power over your mind - not outside events - realize this and you will find strength. Nothing can harm you as much as your own thoughts unguarded. The universe is change. Our lives are what our thoughts make of it." - Marcus Aurelius.

[@noorazmi2329]

@@Jman149 but i only fear nuclear destruction. And weapons that can harm me.

[@Jman149]

@@noorazmi2329 that makes sense. Hopefully that doesn't happen to you.

[@formattmusic1359]

My ex checked almost every box. this woman used me left and right and then played the victim when I called out her mask and her entitlement, she didnt like that all and hasn't spoken to me since or taken responsibility and has smeared my name into the ground to save face. Im glad you made this video, it validated lots of things.

[@YourWingmam]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you, and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

[@MasterChief-sl9ro]

I had two dating coaches all my life. Two older sisters. They could ferret out Damaged women inside 5 mins...Saved me all the trouble...

[@jonathanmoore7788]

Lucky man!

[@andrew24534]

You had 2 wingmen. Or wingettes.😎

[@hopewellmotsamai4771]

Would you like to share some of the things they ferreted out from the damaged women?

[@tanahiveley2887]

Lol!! Good for you.

[@tommygun5038]

That's awesome. Wish I had that.

[@jamesp8459]

Just experienced number 11. From warm, sweet and loving to cold, bitter and heartless with the flip of a switch.

[@Rationalist101]

I've experienced that my entire life...

[@trevkam]

That flip of a switch thing is haunting. I’ve learned to flip it back on with enough grace and patience but is it worth it? Usually no!

[@jenniferh7020]

To be quite fair, I am currently trying to work up the guts to walk away from a man who has that exact same switch. I've researched it, and it's called flipping or narcissistic rage. People like that cannot see their partners in a nuanced way, but only as either perfect or broken. They can't accept you as just a flawed but still lovable human being. And this goes for either gender, it's not gender specific. It can be excruciatingly hurtful to be on the receiving end of it.

[@jenniferh7020]

@@trevkam How on earth does one flip it back again? Female here wanting to know about a male who flips. The only thing that seems to work for me is walking away. Trying to hug him or being nice to him, confronting all the horridness with calmness - that doesn't seem to work, it's like he's on a roll, on a rollercoaster that just can't stop.

[@Roywebcafe]

Could sometimes be bi polar disorder? Nearly started dating someone as you described and someone said she maybe bi-polar. Either way kept out the way.

[@eduardoquintero8363]

The all male friends is so true. I experienced it myself. She would justify it by claiming that women are too gossipy and mean.

[@Sisterlisk]

Meanwhile, the reason for the no female friends is that she can't handle the criticism women give her. And they have criticism to give her because she's a horrible person.

[@juandef4115]

All women have at least one male friend who is trying to low key get with her. You're right!!

[@YourWingmam]

Absolutely!

[@frost9974]

I think its not good if a woman keeps in contact with here ex.

[@danfg7215]

“She’s a taker but not a giver” did it for me, my ex-gf earned a lot more than me as a public servant and would never reciprocate even symbolically. When I met her brother, I felt the same petty vibe, some people have a scarcity mentality and are not raised to have any kind of generosity. A lifetime of that would be miserable.

[@kibawhitefang7176]

I am going through the same thing. Unfortunately, is yet another time we have to move on because is not about that she’s not interested in you, but she’s also not a good one either. Someone who likes you will mean it and show it - that is if love even exist anywhere

[@Vee_of_the_Weald]

It looks like you dodged a bullet there, @dan fg

[@luzpueblalara4128]

Same thing happens with my cousins, male and female, brother and sister... what a pair of a... holes

[@UbiDoobyBanooby]

Being way too much of a giver way too early is also a red flag. Means they’re trying to suck you in because they know they’ll be crazy. It’s a trap.

[@MustangsTrainsMowers]

That’s the extreme narcissist alarm going off. And if you don’t hear it and ignore the flashing lights. Bam you’re in for trouble!

[@billmurray7473]

You're the Mom a lot of us guys needed growing up. You save us, and help us save ourselves. May God strengthen you.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you so much, wonderful compliment! :)) God bless!

[@BREAKOUT444]

I love you Bill Murray 💟

[@francisbardi1360]

I can't say more ... I agree with u

[@minibuns5397]

AWESOME!!!!

[@Tony-sj3xq]

On the other hand Bill our mothers just happen / happened to be women as well and since you have mentioned G*d he gave us a brain to use on our own without the aid a mother who is a woman although these days you could get some grief for stating it as simplistic as that . My birth mother died when i was a few months old ( so there goes that logic ), and my stepmother ( another woman believe it or not ), was of no help at all with anything that i needed i can tell you that . Also , my dad turned out to be a mushy coward around her who i vowed since childhood never to be like and thankfully i stuck with that promise to myself since i was a kid . However, i have a brain and common sense so i hardly need another women bitching at me anyway . Guys should be able to figure this out on their own and Anna is simply reinforcing what most of us already know which is nice of her i suppose .

[@Taldaran]

As an older guy, the wise bonus at the end is to my mind the overriding principle. Your personality and values are most often set in stone and too many of us find that when the infatuation cools off, resentment of opposing values will become insufferable.

[@travis6694]

Man this is too true. This happened with my liberal ex girlfriend. Once the infatuation wore off after 2 months, it was constant tension on morals and values. Making us resent each other.

[@CtDDtC1919]

Thank you for this one, Anna! Several years ago, I had the unique opportunity to date my "Wow-girl" from high school. She was 2 grades ahead of me, stunningly beautiful and very popular. We happened to be living in the same city at the time, and a mutual friend set us up. At first, I was feeling like it was a dream come true, but I started to notice her high maintenance rather quickly. She was very possessive... which at first felt like being very loved, but was also bothersome. I soon realized the extent of her High Maintenance attributes. First, all she ever wanted to talk about was "The Relationship". She would corner me and ask questions like "What would you say.. are the biggest things that I bring to this relationship?" or "What is it about me that makes me so much better for you than other women?". Didn't matter that I had answered these same questions before, she liked to keep bringing them up and alwasy wanted new answers. Sometimes I would try to change the topic to one of my interests. She would quickly wave it off and return the topic to "The Relationship". Second, she had unrealistic expectations of me, sometimes completely insignificant things were held to unrealistic standards. Example: One night I got off work and called her as I was walking to my truck. (as she expected me to do) She asked if I wanted to come over. I said that I would like that, but needed to stop by my house and change clothes. She said "When can I expect you?" I said "Well, it's 7:15 now... 10 minutes to home, 10 to clean up and change, then 10 to you place... how about 7:45?" She said that sounded great and we hung up. I got home and one of my pets had gotten into the trash, making a big mess. I cleaned it up and then changed clothes. Noticing it was 7:40, I thought I should call and let her know what happened and why I was going to be a few minutes later than I had anticipated. She sounded a little disappointed and said "Well, when do you think you'll be here then?" I said it would be about 7:50 or so. Well, I got there at 7:48 according to my watch. (I caught all green lights!). When she opened the door I greeted her and went to give her a hug. She stiffened, so I asked what was wrong. She replied "Come in, we need to talk." That is never good in my experience, so once again I asked what the problem was. Rather than answering, she told me that we should go sit in the dining room. Once we walked in I, again asked what was going on. My mind was racing. Is she breaking up with me? Does she have cancer?.. what?!? She said "Why don't you have a seat first. I sat and said "Just tell me! You're kinda freaking me out!" There was a LONG pause as she gathered her thoughts, then "Wheeennn you tell me you are going to arrive at my place at a certain time.... and then you don't show up at that time...... it makes me feel like you don't value me.. that you don't take my feelings into consideration... that you don't love me.." I quickly said "THAT is exactly why I called... to let you know I would be a few minutes later than I had said,.. so you didn't wonder where I was. I was only 4 minutes later than I had originally expected!" She countered with "Oh, don't get me wrong. I appreciate that you called, but the fact still remains... you were late." And that was just an off-the-top-of-my-head example. There were SO many others. She had once told me that I needed to "police myself" so that I could think ahead as to how anything I said or did would affect her. It was exhausting! OK, I've rambled on too long. I'll stop there, but just know there were other High Maintenance issues with her that included her gambling, drinking, and her demon spawn whom she did NOT discipline or control at all, to the point that I avoided going into public with them. I ended up breaking up with her, and she tried to get me back/seduce me on several occasions. I remained firm in my decision though.

[@YourWingmam]

Wow, what a ride. She said the “right words” in terms of *how* to ask for her needs to be met, but she was completely unreasonable in those needs. Good you got out when you did!

[@BroBrudi]

I appreciate your comment

[@adderhoney]

Wow, she was a very troubled girl.

[@StrateleStudios]

Only problem is she is able to mask all of these things until you’re married Then you have to give up half of everything you have to reset.

[@justinlee2956]

If it comes down to that have 2 work around her ass, and set up a plan b c d and e ,,

[@acebrockton1828]

If you're lucky! I would've loved to have kept half...

[@StrateleStudios]

Ace Brockton Ug :-(

[@ABCDEFG-bk9gx]

Never ever get married

[@zmusicman1965]

Learned that one the hard way.

[@davids.8496]

Anna....I needed this video 15 years ago.....my ex hit 10 out of 16! LOOK FOR THE RED FLAGS GUYS....DON’T IGNORE THEM.

[@matthewschwartz6607]

And then run like you have diarrhea and you have to find the nearest toilet.

[@SAMEntalhealth]

Mine showed 18 out of 16, shit....

[@larrymagee8758]

Used to know a girl almost exactly this. She wanted my attention, but not me. And was always surrounded by her exes, hoping to get back with her. But when I turned off the attention, suddenly, she badmouthed me, and basically tried to ruin my life. In fact, I'm still dealing with the hatred and jealousy to this day. She badmouthed me with everyone @ work, and I have to deal with it every day. But I'm going to leave soon, so her and all of her friends can go to hell.

[@dustyden420]

Same, I was at a lonely point in life and turned to this girl unfortunately (she's a bartender so I know those are only in it for money so they'll flirt to get it), it seems like just because I've got cerebral palsy women think it's ok to treat people like me like crap, oh and she also lied and said she's my friend after I thanked her for being my friend

[@gary_beniford]

Should leave her asap. And work somewhere else

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*It’s important to recognize emotional baggage early on to avoid getting caught in a toxic dynamic. The point about inconsistent behavior and extreme mood swings is spot on.*

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@kurtrobinson7367]

This sounds like every woman I've ever met. I've yet to meet a woman who doesn't exhibit these behaviors. This is why I've stopped dating.

[@MeesterGonzalez]

BOOM!! #truthbomb

[@johnarmenta2199]

MGTOW, BROTHER!!

[@origamianalytics6174]

Isn't this what most women say about men? That they're all the same and not worth it? Ever consider that you sound just as ridiculous as they do making that statement? As we know women often don't know how to pick decent men (always go for the jerks while complaining they're jerks). Maybe us men could learn how to stop chasing bitchy women and being desperate fools for such types. Also, if you're only chasing 9's and 10's you're dealing mostly with women who spend ALL of their time getting pretty and may have zero personality or respectability. The 9's and 10's you do want exhibit specific personality traits that are easy to pick up on but they are harder to find. Consider the fact that you can't control what women do. But you can control what YOU do. That works for just about everything in life. I'd suggest either learning how your taste in women sucks, or just disengage from them altogether and not complain about it (choose to actually be free).

[@johnarmenta2199]

@@origamianalytics6174 - Well, he did say: "This is why I've stopped dating". Seems to me he HAS actually chosen to be free>

[@lpsglitterpaws8536]

There are good women out there. Unfortunately some of them are with the wrong men...

[@ghoraxe9000]

Haven't met a woman who doesn't have atleast a couple if these...pretty much comes down to what brand of crazy do you like or can tolerate

[@yankee2666]

The woman isn't built who knows how to apologize.

[@45auto82]

All true! Crazy, born that way, in the chromosomes!

[@drthompson3974]

I can't take any one thing any woman can say,,, they are just so annoying

[@name-n9j9j]

😂 omg nice 🤣

[@name-n9j9j]

True 👍😂 no kidding

[@princesslove5899]

I’m a women with no friends.... and just like the men watching on here, you just named 15 reasons why I don’t have girl- friends. This absolutely does not mean I have “issues”. I just feel more at peace when it’s quiet and I don’t have to hear the gossip all the time. I’ve gotten rid of friends because some of these traits you listed about toxic women. Not ALL women are like this. Like me for example.

[@misfithomemaker3683]

As a married woman over 50... I agree, this one needs to be taken into context and is not necessarily an automatic red flag. Some of us are introverted have only 1-3 friends at a time... If any, and if we happened to have a friend that we had a falling out with because we realized they did not truly respect us, or some other issue, we may not find another close friend for years. Not every lady is the extroverted "girls night out" or " lunch with the ladies" person.

[@Dlynne777]

Thank you

[@Vee_of_the_Weald]

I had not many Female friends growing up as they were all too girly (ie afraid of breaking a nail and all about gossip), but I chose/made my own tribe of women as an adult. None of us girls are into gossip, all are empath and despite being féminin and totally aware of our sexuality, my female friends and I are equally happy being covered in mud singing around a campfire. I have pretty much an equal number of male and female friends, which I find give me the right balance of inputs.

[@mr.2cents.846]

I truly hope for your sake that you don't have "issues".

[@70stunes71]

Princess Love.... yeah it's not that I hate women. I don't blame all women for the things that happen to me. I'm not a barfly or somebody that has to have my guys around all the time... not a flirt Etc blah blah blah. I'm just old school and that don't fit today. Today's ladies like to run around with their Pals and have these nights out BS excetera. Hey if you have to be out running around all the time, especially at night away from family or your loved ones, you're not settled. If you need those things more then your husband and family or boyfriend excetera... Then you're not settled. Because I have never seen one relationship work where each one was out running around. And when somebody gets a little freedom they always take it to the extreme eventually. Remember that word eventually. Does this mean it's everyone of course not. I just don't have time for those games. Two marriages in which both of them were running around with their friends and making excuses to do it, ended up with cheaters. They can go hang as far as I'm concerned. I'm not that young anymore so I got no time for games. Games are for people that like to live their lives in extreme and in drama. It's pitiful but I've seen it a lot. So I do my own thing. Pretty attractive guy for my age, people are always asking damn why are you not with someone. I told them I have the most beautiful in my life already... My kids and young granddaughters. There's nothing higher than that for me. You wouldn't believe how many married ladies talk to me. Especially when people find out you're single lol. That tells me they are not that happy in their relationships. The difference is I never step over the line. And I mean never. I'm friend and that's it just like I was during my married years I'm a friend and that's it. Peace to you. It's a shame our world has ended up with all of these Progressive people that actually cannot see they are being regressive. Wishing you the best :-)

[@trevorbadger91]

I think you might have forgotten what I consider the biggest red flag in the book. She is hyper-aware of people's behaviors and constantly accuses them as being a narcissist, but has absolutely zero insight into her own narcissistic tendencies.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@mathehanyane6246]

I love how u got straight into it, what a breathe of fresh air. No unnecessary waste of time. Thank you 🥰😍😍

[@angelmd43]

Mathe, yes! Just love that too!

[@A358M]

Agree.

[@saynotohookups]

Yeah that was really surprising.

[@johnharrison4394]

Yes. A big plus for that!!

[@apontutul]

It was unreal actually

[@ponedog]

I have never known any women to make a genuine apology, without caveats, or without expecting a reciprocal apology in return.

[@amasion2882]

KeepItSimpleStupid : A lot of pop psychology trends emphasize the importance of all individuals accepting responsibility for “their part” in a conflict. In fact, people refusing to accept (at least partial) blame or responsibility are frequently labeled as immature, narcissistic, in denial about themselves, etc. What I see happening is a lot of dysfunctional people do bad things to others and then rationalize the victim’s “partial responsibility” to excuse themselves. A classic example is the stereotypical “party girl” getting very drunk or high and being subsequently raped by one or more men who “don’t really consider themselves rapists” and blame the woman’s irresponsible conduct (provocative clothing or flirting) for their actions. The “party girl” is responsible for not being more security conscious, putting herself in a vulnerable position and high risk situation. But she doesn’t owe her rapists an apology, nor does her behavior and responsibility for her behavior excuse her rapists for raping her. It’s an extreme example, but the same dynamics are being applied to everyday interactions. People believe they’re at least partially justified in wronging or harming others because the others did (or didn’t) do A, B, or C. Another thing I’ve noticed is that very disturbed people tend to magnify ANYTHING done to them, demanding formal apologies or acknowledgement for “offenses” most would consider minor, while minimizing their own much more serious offenses towards others. It can be very intense, especially if the disturbed person is a popular “favorite” in a family, social, or workplace situation.

[@ponedog]

@@amasion2882 well done turning a men's issue into a woman's issue. Textbook.

[@donquixote...]

She wants you to own every aspect of any mistakes you make, while reluctantly, bitterly and through much argument even faintly acknowledge the failings of her character and what she has done, or failed to do...

[@amasion2882]

KeepItSimpleStupid : It’s a human issue, not a gender specific one. A lot of people honestly believe you owe them an apology or accountability for being in front of your fist when you hit them. This should not be confused with people wanting to rationally discuss an incident and explain themselves (motivations and perceptions behind their actions).

[@donquixote...]

@@amasion2882 That's if in fact, a rape actually occurred. Oh wait I almost forgot, they're now given the power to withdraw their consent after the fact...

[@A.R.T.istic77738]

As a female struggling to normalize, I thank you. I grew up unbalanced and often worry that I'm unhealthy in my relationship(s), and this has really helped direct my attention to a few areas I need to work on. Thank you again

[@iamtheoffenderofall]

Here is what you need to do.... 1...drop that radical leftist feminist narrative. It has been destroying women now for 60 years. Not to say feminism is bad. Its not. I agree on womens rights, NOT PRIVILEGES. You can do what you want when you want. But to think you are stronger and better than men as a whole....women are not. If this is your mindset....plan on getting cats. 2...If you have a man in your life, dont smother him....but dont ignore him. You need to put in as much as you get back. Make those meals. Clean your house and self. That means appearing as he wants to see you. You start using your body as a weapon....plan on getting cats. 3...If he has hobbies....let him do it. If you have hobbies....you do it. You are a couple. And as per definition, couple means 2. You are 1, he is another. 4...Communicate needs, wants and desires. No ultimatums. If you start throwing down ultimatums...plan on getting cats. 5...Compromise. If it is gonna be your way or the highway.....plan on getting cats. If this is too tough too remember....men are fairly basic simple creatures. 3 things is all you ever need to remember. Sex, sandwich, silence. Thats what ALL men want. Its not hard to find a man and keep a man if you really want to. You need to drop the crap you have been fed for the last 60 years and you will have it.

[@Meenaia]

So glad you are on the road to healing! I wish you best of luck Amy

[@docholiday7758]

@@iamtheoffenderofall I should've bought my ex- a cat instead of a ring. ;)

[@LoveFaithLive]

@@iamtheoffenderofall Go.Fly.A.Kite! Lots of women already know about "Sex, sandwich, silence". Trouble in paradise though when those women decide enough is enough/their man's not worth it/try to change him. And guess what, I've seen some of those men [I've known through being a barmaid], fall into very happy relationships with women who have boundaries. Apparently guys feel more loved this way rather than being with a women who just wants to be with a man??????

[@iamtheoffenderofall]

@@LoveFaithLive women may know...But don't follow that. And a Barmaid.....lol...like I trust two drunk people sustaining a relationship, lol. My mother IS a drunk. Married a guy from a bar...is alone to this day.

[@sammyers3554]

#3 also if her female friends are single, don’t have kids and are half her age- she’s living vicariously through them- she has romanticized the single life she missed out on when she had kids too early and convinced herself she deserves to get the 304 life out of her system and despite her need to lock down mate to provide stability for her and her kid(s) she’ll resent you for being trapped feel suffocated by the obligation of marriage and family.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@ChessIsJustAGame]

Been married to one 23 years. Wish I had know this 25 years ago. 😑

[@truebe01]

I bet she does too.

[@habiyakarelj]

Now you know.

[@KevWitt3455]

I'm sorry but I found this comment way too funny

[@malikthegreat5853]

@@KevWitt3455 me too😂😂

[@harbonip]

Amen

[@krulzs]

I dated a woman for 2yrs, she was one of those drama people, it was exhausting, i ended the relationship. It was like removing a 300 pounds weight from my chest.

[@mikeswede031]

Drama people is also called Histrionic Personality Disorder and from the psychiatric bibel DSM is a Cluster B disorder.

[@truebe01]

Next time pick a skinnier one.

[@garretgodfrey168]

@@mikeswede031 I can't take this bullshit stop calling everything a "disorder" holy hell. Society going to hell in a hand basket trying to destroy accountability. Gossiping is a normal bad habit.

[@teemanx3578]

@@garretgodfrey168 agree. I dated a girl for about 2 years. I've never heard of the words Drama Queen and bipolar. Until I met her. She would use those words against me. Made me second guess myself. Then I got some help and was told im fine it was the relationship I was in.

[@saynotohookups]

@@mikeswede031 She doesn't have a disorder she likes drama!

[@chasewhite774]

This is 100% my ex wife, especially the insults and never taking ownership of being wrong or late.

[@stonecold8778]

No woman can admit to being wrong, its just not in their DNA.

[@canoelicker]

Ditto.

[@JettBlast]

Yes, you are correct!

[@germandaddy907]

yes the same here ..and i am sure she did not pay u any alimony when the marriage ended

[@Joe-eb8vc]

You just didn't understand her. You just didn't get it.

[@antoinehill2156]

I wish I would have watched this before I met my ex. This describes her to a T. She was really nice at first, but then our relationship turned into the worst experience I've ever had in my life. I left her back in March 2021. Thank you for all of your videos! They are so helpful!

[@YourWingmam]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you, and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

[@philliptoone]

It's scary for me to see how many of these red flags apply to my ex-wife. :(

[@trevorgallant1459]

You and me both bud.

[@MrHydevsDrJekyll]

Talks about her past, always the victim, poor communication, emotionally reacts when she doesn’t get what she wants, complains all the time

[@dianevanderlinden3480]

Hmm my only complaint was that he would answer a week after I texted or called him. I was cool with him not having much money. But I think being bitter about that was part of his game. I look at all these women who manage to ‘get’ things from men. Not just material things, but a commit7that almost looks like enslavement lol. I wouldn’t know where to begin with that! But some men don’t respect you unless you are a demanding witch. We have done serious harm to each other.

[@dianevanderlinden3480]

@Top Noodle I said "some". Where did you read "most? I'm sure you know some perfectly nice guys who are for some reason in relationships with women who ask too much. Isn't that what this video is about, more or less? Jeesh.

[@boogiedaddie]

Sounds like my first three wives!

[@billyliar1614]

Have you been dating my wife ?

[@stevekern7235]

Hey, that sounds like the #2 ex wife!😆

[@johnmerton3630]

I was with a woman and it didn't matter what I said she'd always express the opposite view even if I deliberately said something stupid to confuse her

[@Newgascity]

John Merton so she would say something smart?

[@tungsten1979]

So true....for real dude.

[@altimate1]

Rexty nelpenguin smart not to handle affairs of the house.

[@slappy8941]

Would you expect her to agree with something stupid?

[@shabrinaiskandar3452]

Maybe she likes playing devil’s advocate

[@theodoreconstantini2548]

I learned all of these points, through experience, eventually over many years. But I wish had access to this excellent advice as a very young man, when I really needed it. It would have saved me a lot of time.

[@YourWingmam]

🙏

[@sarahasdfg8248]

I'm reading a lot of male perspectives on here and it seems there is a lot of negative attitudes towards today's western female. You need to understand something. It is not just a female thing. It is a 2020 world thing. The world we live in has stopped suiting what nourishes the human spirit a long time ago. I wont go into specifics of what caused that because its just too long but we are all severely emotionally damaged at different levels. Damaged people breed damaged people and only a few seek help and heal. We are all, male or female, just drudging through life trying to survive while being painfully insecure and self destructive. We forgot how to be. No more manners, no more values, no more morals, greed, selfishness...dating is going to get ten times harder because people are just too messed up now. I am a single 35 year old woman because I can't connect with anyone decent and get judged for it. I dont want to settle for a miserable existence and better off alone but that doesn't meant I dont want to meet a gem one day.

[@Juan_SZ]

HI Sarah, I agree with you, these apply to both genders. I was in a relationship like this. While I don't hate or judge her nor generalize female gender, I do not understand why even our generation (myself almost 40) also lack the values we grew up with. So sad. And like you, I prefer to be alone, although I don't like it, than settle for less and loose myself.

[@nikkicotts2235]

Well said

[@michaelsix9684]

I agree with your views, and I'm 64, this world is very toxic on many levels esp. emotionally--so sad,

[@VoiceOfThe]

Sarah Asdfg Totally agree. Apparently I heard on the radio the stats here in the U.K. for ‘unplanned’ pregnancies is 45%, that’s massive! Couple that with how many marriages today end in divorce & you’ve got a lot of children being raised in single parent households, which isn’t conducive to a good upbringing for said child. There’s so many messed up women (and men) out there these days. It’s a massive problem now.

[@jonathanmoore7788]

Another element is the modern tendency to confuse commitment with some sort of bondage. Young men are so terrified of it that they won't even use the word "dating" anymore - rather, they'll say they're "hanging out" with a woman... Guys - stop hanging out with women and start DATING them. Be clear right off the bat - none of this half-arsed "hanging out" stuff. Women appreciate a level of self-confidence, and that includes a willingness to take risks - in this case, the risk of rejection. Grow some balls and ask her out on a date. A proper date. "Would you care to join me for dinner on Friday night?" goes a lot farther than, "So, you wanna, uh, hang out some time?" Step to her like a MAN. It's harder to do, but the payoff is much greater. Hanging out is what you do with your friends...so if you want to stay out of the dreaded friend zone, date her. Save the hanging out for your guy buddies.

[@joaquimrodriguez8961]

Once dated a woman, who always wanted to cause a argument, ( about anything) between, her an my self so that she can have a reason to cry, so that I would have to apologize. ( Which, I never would). So happy single

[@whitecrane3714]

My sister inlaw would argue with her boy friend the guy would leave and she would say , I love to argue for the sake of arguing.

[@dabdella1460]

@@whitecrane3714 sounds like she needs a punching bag so she stays off her own back . He deserves better

[@rod4530]

If only I'd watched this 30 years ago.

[@Moonnine34]

Omg 🥺

[@JettBlast]

Exactly!

[@kindredspiritzz66]

you and me both. A life wasted and ruined because of a woman

[@shaz2761]

Me too

[@shaz2761]

@@kindredspiritzz66 there are good and bad women. Some shitty guys out there too. I just used to go for the shit ones lol.... gurls not guys

[@H.ScottPaulson]

I have been single for many years, because of the passing of my fiancée. Recently I decided to get back intothe dating scene, and you have saved me from being naive in the dating game. On the episode Warning sign on being emotionally damaged. This past date she hit four of the first five signs. I could see that it was coming. I then went home thinking about what she had said, and I saw this episode and knew right then I had better start looking elsewhere. THANK YOU SOME MUCH,

[@YourWingmam]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@dkhatri2006]

ADD one more : SHE HITS YOU! I had that one and canceled the wedding 2 days before. But I was stupid to stay in that relationship.

[@Mannin_Watch_Time]

Good man, move on and don’t look back!

[@rgs6236]

Hitting is definitely a red flag 😞

[@cynthiacrawford1573]

Oh no she didn't.Prosecute her.If a man goes to jail for abuse,a woman should too!

[@pichmolm]

You've canceled the wedding, so you are not stupid.

[@jessestone785]

most women are taught that its OK to hit men for no reason at all. that's just the demented world we live in.

[@sobersaber494]

First date in and my date dropped: 1)soulmate 2)discussed kids 3)thirsty remarks that made me uncomfortable 4) living together 5) her traumas. I thought i was drained because we were out the whole day, but it was just her.

[@rhuiden4086]

Sounds like a succubus

[@anival9576]

I can't imagine a full day as a first date... sounds like it would be exhausting with anyone.😅 First date should be coffee for a couple hours, then go home and process emotions.

[@canadude6401]

@@anival9576 Good advice. First date should be light. Big discussions, live trajectories should only be discussed 3 months later. I call it the "3 Pivot Plan" On the third date, it is the pivotal moment where you can decide if you want to progress to more (intimacy, how you kiss, chemistry). Then 3 months is the next pivotal point where you both have a chance to discuss life goals, kids, occupation, dreams, etc.

[@yepiratesworkshop7997]

@@rhuiden4086 Been there. Done that. Lucky to have escaped and moved on.

[@illapuproductions]

@@anival9576 couple of hours ?? Shit 1 hour or hour and half max

[@chriscampbell2679]

I’m damaged goods and I am polar opposite to all of these. I realized I’ve been over compensating for my lack of self worth. I’m glad I’ve realized that and I’m working on it.

[@marcies1297]

You are NOT damaged goods. Be careful how you talk to yourself

[@ny_4710]

Yes! Don’t talk to yourself in a way you wouldn’t talk to someone you love

[@canadude6401]

As others said, be careful of your self-talk. No matter what poor surroundings you find yourself in, you have the capability of change for the better, and it's critical to get there if you want a quality life with a quality wife! Good luck

[@Potterhorses]

I feel the same way sometimes. And I am the opposite as well. Take breaks, practice complimenting yourself. Say you COULD do something instead of Should. That’s what’s been helping me. Good luck on your journey!

[@bigbluefrog]

Same here..... and I'm also kind, supportive, and compassionate. This might have been titled " signs of potentialy abusive partner" .

[@FM-iw9cp]

Really, you are the ONLY sincere woman I've ever met here on KZbin! No one told me before that my physical defect was a huge problem, but they always lied to me, telling that it's my fault, that I have to change my way etc. Now I know that relationship world is not for me at all, no woman can be interested on me. Despite of my studies (I graduated 3 times in Italy), no woman wanna know me better, only steal me money. Thx for your videos, now I know that I have not to waste my time with women, I can only be seen as a wallet. Many many thanks!!!

[@YourWingmam]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you, and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

[@Mockle1]

Add that to the list: Constantly needs to discuss private relationship stuff with tons of friends (male and Female), so everybody and their mum knows about your problems and your insecurities.

[@johnburke6332]

Right! Thankyou!

[@panama2468]

^^^this

[@diyoverhauler5432]

This needs a big highlight

[@therealjag]

Just got out of a relationship like this. I feel emotionally destroyed but I'm also glad it's over. Just have to heal now n move on

[@bobford4997]

One day at a time!!

[@akkadianpride2579]

Move on bro , so many women out there more then fish in the sea. ✌

[@lukeoo7]

Same here 8 weeks FREE, I feel I on the repair, no more Drama no more Abusive no more Tears. I still confused & of course upset. I lucky I got out early, couldn't imagine years with a monster no way! I would be in jail.

[@TarkMcCoy]

Another sign that it's time to bail: Eye rolling (means she has ZERO respect)

[@donestpheurst3148]

I love when she does eye rolling bro.

[@shaughnessyneal9426]

An eye roll is not unique to humans. It's an evolutionary instinct that says, "If I were afraid of you (if I respected you as a potential foe), then I would need to keep my eyes on you. I'm diverting my ability to sense any putative attacks against me by looking away. Thusly, I'm insulting you by demonstrating that you're beneath my notice." When one rolls one's eyes one's potential foes are beneath one's notice. It's just evopsych. Because an eye-roll, in any species that does so, is a sign of aggression, it's a prompt to the being at which the eyeroll is directed to either attack, or accept the insult unchallenged. The correct response for people with high testosterone (males have 20 times as much as women do) is to respond to an eyeroll from a person of lower threat-worthiness status (a woman or a weak man or child) with greater-than-commensurate responsive aggression, so as to ensure game theoretic compliance to the normative status hierarchy. In other words, the only rational response by males of senior status (and the only rational response by females to lowlier females and children) is deterrent aggression. Just evopsych.

[@dallascowboy1943]

🏃‍♂️

[@mystyjakanyango4079]

@@shaughnessyneal9426 your book knowledge, ehe?!!!

[@penyarol83]

@@shaughnessyneal9426 I feel bad for you, man.

[@shawn1995.]

Thank you❤ This one brought me emotional closure as I was raised by a woman/"family"with 90% of the traits you described. It's nice to see most people outside my family are at most garden variety narcissists.

[@YourWingmam]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@JesseLandau]

Sign #16 she emotionally damaged. She's attracted to me.

[@slappy8941]

She emotionally damaged? Are you don't the English good?

[@andreavolponi1893]

When a girl is so confused that she genuinely start to like you lol

[@bootscooty]

Aren't you just the be-all-end-all. I hope you end up alone as you want to be babe

[@michaeljefferson3041]

The most important "red flag" is that in her past relationships, she has called the cops on three of her ex- boyfriends.......😏

[@costalamb3065]

Only three? Or pretty much any other man in her life for that matter. And for any petty ass reason.

[@stevec3526]

Not a red flag, a black flag...

[@jerryholbrook13]

Really? Gimmie a break

[@cozettem8226]

That means either she's a drama queen or she attracted abusive men who deserved to have the cops called on them.

[@stevec3526]

@@cozettem8226 Probably a mix of both...

[@stevensalemi6395]

Selfish - it all boils down to Selfishness.

[@alonzomosley7]

Steven Salemi Yes the number one sign It's always about her

[@sharkwhisperer7326]

@@alonzomosley7 ... and what she wants/can GET from you, all with no mention of breaking up with her boyfriend.

[@xmo552]

And no respect

[@m6426]

Always playing the victim card

[@kengaroo5170]

Narcissistic

[@nedimuzey]

Hi. Some of those attitudes are born with, or develop over time, because of bad relationships. I don’t think all of these are red flags, and you should avoid those woman. When I married, I was very insecure, but my wife help me to get over it. I think partners should be open, discuss each other’s feelings and work on it. And get professional help sometimes. No one is perfect! A perfect person can be imperfect over time!

[@socaloutdoors7355]

#1: "When she's too good to be true" ....yup, it's a trap.

[@purgatorypoptart]

Oh my god this was beautiful. As a woman I respect this video! Stay clear of toxic relationships everyone.

[@TheCountofToulouse]

Well, that explains why I feel like I flushed 25 years of my life down the toilet, I'm with someone that checks 90% of these boxes.

[@veltonmeade1057]

Sorry to hear that dude, that truly sucks.

[@Gonenow2015]

Try to find some good hobbies, bro.

[@erickjohnson7703]

Be happy you moved on

[@luish.alcantaraaguilar6158]

My wife checks all of the items, even the bonus one!!!!!!!!!!!

[@billpetersen298]

It makes for a very lonely time. Because complaining about it, to others, doesn’t fix anything, it makes you look weak. Complaining To her, givers her power. I feel for you brother. Remember there is always hope. My second marriage is a tiny bit better. Haha. Like a moth, to the flame.

[@sole__doubt]

I came here expecting to here mundane nonsense but its actually great advice and the techniques I use to filter out the bad ones. Excellent video.

[@YourWingmam]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@hijinx3608]

I just realized I'm addicted to red flags

[@gerritstell6248]

RUN!

[@kennethkomrowski5575]

Ya dont this cover all of them.?

[@gotcha9983]

Me too. Thats how people get damaged. The circle of life

[@x-mess]

Red flags are probably your normal.

[@josehenriquez3274]

Damn...you might be like damaged in some way...

[@darksoul479]

We are all emotionally damaged in some way or another.

[@Janeair41....]

Most indobailibitly concur. Who's perfect? Certainly not I. Please take care 🌹.

[@jugulator0]

Yet some seek to project their fuckuppedness onto others...That is the difference.

[@Theflyingpotato]

I used to be conceited, but now I’m absolutely perfect

[@alaskanight940]

Yes...True...So set a theshold level of damage that is similar to your own level of damage. There is a vast spectrum of damage to choose from. 🤪

@@Janeair41.... indubitably???

[@Anna-ri8mp]

These are 15 sings that someone is emotionally damaged. No matter which sex.

[@1Skorpia]

Many are ridiculous and are too generalized.

[@rachelaaron8392]

So true

[@MJBrabantNZL]

@@1Skorpia Nah, that's not too general. Its classic narc behavior. See the DSM5 for further insight on NPD.

[@salmaal-naji5453]

i'm suffering all these signs from my boyfriend, so i agree :')

[@ApsaraSinPoles]

Number one she meant "misandrist" though. Misandrists hate men Misogynists hate women

[@quinnbill]

Great video. Re the last tip if men might want a quick dip in the pool, most men should steer clear completely. That inviting pool could become the Labrea Tar Pit.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@Lennakanci999]

External red flags: Tattoo Piercing Black manicure Any kind of silicone modification Not normal hair color(green blue etc) Not normal hair style “That” “attractive” “G” “look”..

[@jackluminous4573]

There are 2 distinctive types youre describing. The hot punk style girl, cute, smart and submissive... And the fat, out of shape, entitled feminazis.

[@Lennakanci999]

Jack Luminous There are only 2 types on earth: 1. Wife material 2. Junk All that typos and descriptions are just excuses.. and they r not smart and they r not submissive (can be temporary when in love).

[@jackluminous4573]

@@Lennakanci999 .. hmm.. idk. seems like you should get out more often. Maybe thats true in your part of the world tho. Iguess it all would depend on what your interpretation of "wife material" and "junk" are. Right?

[@Lennakanci999]

Jack Luminous Wife material - submissive, obedient, humble, loyal, feminine character, home type of girl. Junk - the rest.. (club girls, girls with attitude, modern type ones, feminists, “strong and independent” ones, etc)

[@zachz699]

My girlfriend has purple hair, piercings, tats lol. And she is the sweetest person I know, she works with animals for a living and is extremely emotionally intelligent. She is the best one I have dated by far. Great team player, open minded, smart and persistent in all things she does, and very good at communicating. We have had disagreements and argued once or twice (which is my fault, I am fiery as fuck) but we have not FOUGHT or had a hostile word in the 2 years we have been together. She always has my back and never tries to make me feel anything but capable. I think I will marry her

[@mahaffeylevi5067]

Majority of women are like this. Running through the list of females I've known most if not all have these behaviors in some degree or another even my mother.

[@ssunfish]

Majority, the exceptions are married

[@farshimelt]

Nobody loves you but your mama and she might be jiving too.

[@gregb7337]

mahaffey levi attracting the wrong women.. women of God are the only wife material

[@MeesterGonzalez]

You got my attention, when you talked about her never wanting to admit being wrong, or trying to avoid honest and friendly criticism. I dated someone who would CONSTANTLY offer me unsolicited advice, but when I would occasionally point out something to her, she'd poo-poo on it by saying, "Well, that's your point of view."...or..."That's just how you see it." Ummm, yes. Doesn't make it wrong.

[@eandatoo]

How was the sex? LOL

[@OG1323]

THANK YOU for going straight into the 15 THANK YOU I get so FRUSTRATED by the endless talk to start.

[@YourWingmam]

No problem! I'm glad you appreciate it.

[@hriatahmar23]

My ex shows all the sign. Just broke up recently. I kinda feel relief after watching the video. 😄

[@kiplamachar]

So far how are you

[@bizarro_raven]

Same here brother!

[@wantsome-zs5sq]

Girl at the pet shop would come running up to me every time I walked in. She was always super chatty and nice. She was cute but I shut her down because I don't want a relationship. So I go into the pet shop and there's a new girl and she say's "hey what about him?" The other girl goes "I tried he's gay". LOL I chuckled to myself thinking whatever to make your self feel better. The next time I came into the store she was down right viscous when she realized her insults didn't work. I'm glad I stayed clear of that one.

[@Joseph-C]

I overheard a girl talking trash about me at the gym when I had my headphones on and she thought I couldn't hear. Just a minute before she was smiling all over me and trying to get my attention. I guarantee she didn't want anything to do with me, and she was just mad that she didn't get the attention she thought she deserved from me as a male. So strange. They value our attention so highly yet they honestly don't care about us at all. It's like they just expect us to serve them validation on a silver platter and worship them just for having two X chromosomes and get nothing in return. Puh leaze.

[@LoveFaithLive]

Hey! Men can be worse to us, An ex was supposed to come over with his truck, help me move to a new place - he just didn't turn up, no ph call, no nothing. His new girlfriend may have demanded he not see me again but letting me down like this, with no place to live apart from the street? I ended up being glad we broke up. And if we girls/women don't go out when some of you ask, well you can be downright vicious and cruel. Ho humm.

[@glengamble526]

@@LoveFaithLive you’re surprised that a man’s current gf was uncomfortable with him helping you move? Really? What planet do you live on?

[@Graeme_Lastname]

Just people behaving like people. Everybody wants change for the better. But it's not gunna happen, people are people and they behave that way.

[@m99-b3v]

@@LoveFaithLive he's your ex. He's not your friend or your family. Hire a mover. He owes you nothing.

[@jerrysmith372]

Yep - you just described my X-wife of 6 years. My current wife and I have been together for 35 years now.

[@JP-lw3bt]

Damn, you still remember the pain from the first one......

[@jerrysmith372]

@@JP-lw3bt Indeed I do. If you forget the past you're doomed to repeat it.

[@gustavocve1779]

i just found out about your channel. You're amazing and tell so much truth, things that many men already know from experience but it's so good to see a rational woman that is aware of those same things as well.

[@YourWingmam]

Welcome aboard, and don't forget to click on the notification bell to be notified whenever I release a new video ❤ 🙏

[@benferguson4629]

I think this list would apply to both men and women.

[@rgs6236]

Yep but today we are talking about women....

[@adorablyadorable5665]

@@rgs6236 She just proved a point and too stupid to know it.

[@jimmyglea]

Watch out, pal. Don’t hold a mirror up to some of these insecure morons. I made a similar comment and boy-howdy, there were beat up bachelor Cheeto crumbs and crusty socks flying all over the responses.

[@sterlingsilver5937]

@@rgs6236 Exactly! People need to learn to stay on topic. Men have so much accountability but people can hardly spend a few minutes focusing on a womans shortcomings.

[@gladiusdomina4399]

And that's why we already have tons of videos that talks about women and these topics :D let's talk about men in this one!

[@kabohakevin4103]

There isnt a woman breathing who doesnt display at least three of theses traits.

[@christian1172-z9e]

Fortunately, that's not true

[@chocolateking1143]

Not true at all. You are attracting the wrong people.

[@princessceciliadaughteroft1529]

Honestly I don't have any these at all

[@rissroo4325]

Be the kind of person you want to attract. People congregate with what’s familiar. If you’re a negative Nathan, you’ll attract negative Nelly’s.

[@promethean44]

My girlfriend doesn't have any of these traits it's pretty great

[@USMCCGAGNG]

Well adjusted/healthy women are RARE.

[@scott19841911]

Dean Frank that’s not going to happen

[@brandonf6174]

@maggie o'brien I do

[@maxineyolanda85]

TRUTH: Virtuous Women are extremely rare, though we do exist. :) TRUTH: The Jezebel that is being described in this video conducts herself in the same manner with other females as well. Evil is, as evil does. TRUTH: Virtuous Women and Men of Valor recognize and avoid that timewasting, triflin', evil b*tch. NO TISSUES. NUFF SAID.

[@simonaglaserova6084]

so are men... just sayin'

Where are they?

[@AveemAshfaq]

Thanks. You just described my current wife. I was contemplating my next steps. Thanks for making it clear

[@YourWingmam]

🙏 I hope she reaches the point of truly doing what is best.

[@Chaosforyou728]

This describes a large majority of todays western women.

[@Gonenow2015]

100% correct.

[@Lordborgoth666]

Western, eastern doesn't matter the make or model.

[@earldouglas1657]

Ya

[@DoReMi123acb]

Yes! Finally! Some said Western women.

[@Lordborgoth666]

@@DoReMi123acb A bitch is a bitch no matter the make or model female nature is there western or otherwise.

[@matthewhunter6421]

Looks like I've got a pretty awesome wife then, but I guess I already knew that.

[@josephine6761]

That's why you are here?

[@paulsaul2487]

Yes she is awesome!!

[@ashandwit]

Good for you, man! I know they exist (just not for me!) LOL.

[@matthewsharkey5685]

What you watching this video for then?

[@ashandwit]

@@matthewsharkey5685 DUDE. Checking your knowledge is never a wasted task.

[@robpelick7460]

Here's another: She sets fire to your car

[@Peterbilt359]

My wife was mad at me once. I left for 4 hours came back trash can was smoldering, went inside all pictures on walls were gone, everything sitting on counter was gone, an end table was gone. Went back out found table leg smoldering in can. She left for few days. Doing great now, gotta love redheads.

[@Tinyfurball]

🤣😂

[@circlestar8697]

Yup had that done to me. Totally get that one.

[@NightSky777]

Hahaha :))

[@pvn2474]

@@Peterbilt359 My ex-wife destroyed two doors in the house (because I had to lock myself into the room, to avoid her rage) and my grand piano. Then I divorced her.

[@drmontano9414]

OMG you described a girl I met w BPD and she ghosted me after 3weeks. She complained of guys dumping her. Wow all of these!!! 😢 I’m shocked.

[@YourWingmam]

I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

[@TheWorld_2099]

Your whole list can literally be boiled down to one overarching characteristic: Narcissism.

[@Rationalist101]

🎯

[@TheWorld_2099]

@Beep Boop - oh, yeah that’s it, just this year... Welcome to a new word son, the concept will open your eyes. Clearly you don’t live in a big west coast city. We see this sh*t all the time, and it ain’t nothing new.

[@Rationalist101]

@@TheWorld_2099 I'm saying! Selfishness is everywhere.

[@TheWorld_2099]

@@Rationalist101 - agreed. Selfishness is only one of a few characteristics needed for a person to be a narcissist. But selfishness (and gaslighting, as the previous commenter showed) is ‘narcissistic’

[@Rationalist101]

@@TheWorld_2099 Absolutely correct.

[@thisgoldhouse]

"Mysandrist" is the word you're looking for. Not wanting sexual equality, but wanting sexual revenge. RUN!!

[@marvelman8996]

Lol

[@LMDinNC]

These are unisex red flags and they are also true for platonic friendships. Why isn’t there a required course in high school about this? It would save so many people so much pain.

[@travis6694]

I do agree mostly, currently there is a narcissistic way about social media that influences women to be very high in there ego’s.

[@paulbrandel7728]

With one exception, a man is expected to give more materially. No woman would much to the if he's Just a taker. So women are more likely to feel entitled as takers than men.

[@gotcha9983]

Amen. Wasted life

[@bishop9598]

You're right, but remember, we (in the U.S.) just escaped from an administration that wanted to eliminate public schools. That was their objective (esp with Secr of Education DeVos). No desire whatsoever to make education better, au contraire, try and eliminate it. It, for sure, should not be free and paid for by taxpayer (is their position much like with health care). But consider this: In the 7 months after COVID-19 hit in March 2020, America’s 614 billionaires increased their net wealth by nearly $1 trillion dollars. (1) That’s enough money to wipe out hunger in America. (2) Lift 50 million people out of poverty. (3) Vaccinate everyone for COVID-19 for years to come . (4) make education of our youth really beneficial. But instead, that money flooded into the pockets of billionaires in the extreme wealth-hoarding of the ultra rich.

[@jessestone785]

NOT "unisex" flags, very specific to females.

[@wowerman]

Thank you for this video.I am a man and I can relate really to my ex partner and point nr4. She has not been supportive,she has been affectionate at the beginning and later on she showed less of it. I am talking about messages and phone calls exchange,simple "thank you" for helping her in many areas as masculine man should do.I rarely heard anything as word of gratitude.Also "other things" for me was mostly giving and her taking. I want to warn those who read my comments to be vigilant to this behaviours. They clearly show that other half doea not care about you neither appreciate effort and passion we put in to relationship. Also if you see partner constantly taking selfies,spending a lot of time texting,seeking validation,Instagram addiction ,just run away.This is a red flag of being narcissist.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️

[@circlestar8697]

If she's rude to servers....I'm out. Dont like spit in my food. Must say this very good information. Thanks

[@YourWingmam]

Thanks for watching! :)

[@SpinDoctor91]

Went out with a woman who was rude to the servers, I saw it as a red flag right away. She will eventually treat you this way too im sure.

[@jesseseonza2929]

Why don't people u derstand that? They are handling your food. Dummies goes for drive throughs too

[@SpinDoctor91]

@@jesseseonza2929 I never give attitude to people handling my food or paying me for something LOL

[@jesseseonza2929]

@Donald Piniach you are very correct. So should we roll aound in each others feces & Sylvia? Probably cure us & make us a healthier species. True sir, we are animals that refuse to think so. lol, If germaphobes only knew what they hosted in their bodies would drive them mad. Truth in sciemce is always stranger than fiction.

[@christopherberger7263]

I was married to the girl you’re describing for 21 years. I finally left, and accused me in court of terrible things. I’ve now found my soulmate and she is my best friend. This last year with her, made 20 years of narcissistic abuse worth the wait. She’s the woman I thought did not exist.

[@bigrussdog1347]

Does she have a clone....

[@afielsch]

It seems too good to be true because it is not true at all. I encourage you to open your eyes and analyse your situation realisticly. And for your own sake dont MARRY her under no circumstances. You are in danger.

[@christopherberger7263]

Browen Russell probably not. 😂 She’s one of a kind.

[@christopherberger7263]

afielsch you have to realize that after dealing with a severe narcissist for so long, as much as I love my girlfriend, I’ve learned to know when to walk away, and I will if it starts down that path. Never again will I submit myself to that king of emotional manipulation. She also came from an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist which helps us to support each other. We have a mutual respect for each other’s needs as individuals, which allows us to be our own person. That concept is relatively new to both of us.

[@BryceMWalter]

Does she have a sister that lives near New Zealand lol?

[@nalaa9618]

I'm emotionally damaged and some of these apply to me like moving too fast, can't receive feedback, trashtalks exes and I know my faults BUT I've been through a lot and I'm working on me.

[@andrewmiller4885]

good luck my dear . Its a great sign that you are acknowledging these traits and trying to change them,...cheers

[@SquillyMon]

That is all anyone can ask dear... Good on ya

[@markh.6687]

If your ex was truly trash, there's nothing wrong with speaking the truth.

[@zeneats9984]

Hey it's awesome that you're self-aware! That'll make it so much easier to move forward. Have strength! ❤

[@Soltice-ty2nf]

Thats the first healing process. Knowledge you are hurt.