People cant digest the fact that we want to be alone. They crave the meaningful conversations and fun moments we created as 'extroverts' and they expect us to always be like that whereas we need to recharge ourselves being 'introverts'.
@thortsАй бұрын
Thank you so very much for all your videos and this channel. I'm a 44yo Aussie man that only 1 month ago took a personality test and found out I am 100% ineed an INFJ. For my entire life I've felt alone, weird, different and sometimes crazy. I dont feel this anymore. Thank you! Also a HUGE shout out to everyone out there that is exactly like me and reading my comment! ❤❤❤ Thorts
@DearYoungerSelf111Ай бұрын
Welcome from the Texas USA!
@raymondsmith95128 күн бұрын
We allow people to be themselves, INFJ’s take an genuine and authentic approach when meeting and interacting with others, depending on what’s going on with the person we adjust ours emotionally to meet that situation or circumstance. We’re so attuned with human nature, we know how to show up given the space and time , which is a high level of emotional intelligence, intuition and reasoning/logic living in that particular moment all at the same time remaining detached, and this is what confuses people. I always say that INFJ’s have a high level of “Human Intelligence”
@roberttrough6439Ай бұрын
People are confused with us. Sometimes I truly believe people need to learn and experience things on their own or they will never understand. It’s so hard to not tell them. To not warn them. To not help them. If they stumble then I reach out and assist. Even then I only go so far helping. I started this after raising my own children. The age of the child and their skill level determined how much help and influence I would give them. One child I could allow to run any tractor or mower without any worry of injury. While it was totally off limits to another child’s ability at the same age level. I never discussed that with the child only directed them to other areas they could excel in. I find that’s true with adults as well. INFJs will never be understood by others maybe our own. Best if I accept that and spread the spark around. Rather than getting burnt out and drained.
@mohadesehsinichi9650Ай бұрын
I used to ro the same, I get out of my way to help and make people understand they are harming themselves, but it never gets anywhere this much energy only exhausted myself and made me resentful of humanity. I realized to give space to others to want help, it's the only win win scenario!
@swavy65320 күн бұрын
Yeah true people can only understand and learn through experience as much as you tell them they will only relate unless they experience the same
@mycapitain84316 күн бұрын
You need to allow people to huet themselve it will make them evoluate. Only help people if they ask for help or it’s harassment. As a Christian i compare ourselves to God. For example imagine if God did not allow us to have freedom and wanted to help us do everything we would feel drained and control. I know it’s difficult but let them experience whatever is bad and only help them if they ask for help. It will help you feel more valued and your helps too 6:01
@samisushi29 күн бұрын
Learning I am an INFJ has opened my eyes. I feel this great urge to guide and help others around me. And when in high school… nobody was okay. It felt even worse than being lonely, because you’re not blissfully ignorant to peoples problems or your own (like an ordinary teenager) I felt like something was wrong with me. But now I realize I truly have a unique gift💗 From what i learned, if you desire to help someone, first always have your own boundaries, and based on how they react to your energy, you will intuitively know if they will grow from it or they must learn through their own time (or maybe never)
@twinkletoes7095Күн бұрын
this is gold. deliberate limiting of our power first. focus/temper our power on/through self first. this scares off less mortals
@sarahlanctotАй бұрын
It’s so nice to be understood- I’m continually shocked that you actually understand me. Thank you. I’m glad I’m not alone.
@Chercheure_IndépendanteАй бұрын
7:20 # 1 acknowledge your power, how rare it is 11:45 #2 set boundaries 14:38 #3 Let your energy out deliberately Conclusion 18:44 *before being of service, how do I want to be seen?*
@leilanoorani2976Ай бұрын
Again, you really get it, articulate the situation incredibly well. I’ve experienced all this throughout my life. Even though I’m now quite old, I still do come up against these issues. It’s never really made sense. Setting boundaries, tuning into myself and not other’s emotions/experiences, is such a challenge, particularly difficult with certain people, but you are so right. This is a skill that needs cultivating. Your explanation for how our minds work, and other people’s confusing responses is also helpful. I signed up for your bootcamp (psychology type workshops being something I normally don’t do), and I’m looking forward. I have already learned so much about myself from your work, so thank you.
@ruthhenderson9205Ай бұрын
This is so unbelievably helpful. Thank you Wenzes. I so appreciate you. ❤
@mollyb7043Күн бұрын
I’m in agreement with everything you speak about .Iam and infj and empath… I have learned that I can not take away from someone their own lessons to learn in this lifetime. It’s not my job to point out what they need to do … all the time . I need to know when I can offer up some insight …. In a way that doesn’t sound superior … or acting like a know it all .
@inf-jayneАй бұрын
you probably make me feel more seen than anybody else so far 💜
@Narayan111316 күн бұрын
Thank you very much as always 🙏🙏
@vllukens7265Ай бұрын
Thank you Wenzes. I am very careful about who I give my attention to. So many people are just really needy and I find it all too exhausting/ draining, and have to withdraw. I am learning to put my needs first and protect my energy.
@foolishpreacherАй бұрын
I appreciate the way you’re presenting a topic that can easily slip into woowoo language in a more grounded framework. You are an excellent communicator.
@Gt11369Ай бұрын
thank you
@HaydenDevannyАй бұрын
this video literally came in the perfect moment in my life, love you
@100Heejin27 күн бұрын
This is so helpful!! ❤
@marisol3827Ай бұрын
Thank you, Wenzes. It never occurred to me to let someone “calibrate” to my energy. I’ll try it!
@sammeerocket37763 күн бұрын
your videos make me feel like infj's are everywhere or i guess the videos make me feel acknowledged because i dont know anyone thats even aware of personalities haha they all think they are their persona...
@susantaylor147Ай бұрын
Thanks for this Wenzes, this helped so much...I really appreciate your messages of hope! I was feeling a little lonely recently for the very reason's you mentioned! I've noticed recently that I'm more myself when I'm with a friend I've known from years ago...a colleague that turned into a really good confidant! I noticed my intuition isn't turned up so much when we're together...we're just having a good time... I don't feel the need to tune in! When our friendship first started my intuition was turned up high and this being so, had her trusting her spirituality more and more as her experiences frightened her... I helped her by lending my books and magazines about different subjects and I noticed she started to level up and we went on different spiritual courses together! Our friendship is more equal and although she doesn't always get me...she never judge's me and I feel safe and relaxed in her company! ❤
@carolinemccullough9838Ай бұрын
Damn straight! Yes!! Exactly!!
@erniefrates1376Ай бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@johncohan.mosh.5403Ай бұрын
Omg that's me all the time I feel like maybe I'm overwhelming with my protectiveness . Just keeping loved ones safe and not get taken advantage of ,I'm extreamly knowledgeable about most things as I'm sure most here are especially in ghere fields, I'll constantly give my time energy ,skills up to exhaustion. ..and enjoy doing so .. Expecting nothing in return , I'm not a sucker ,I have tons of friends and admirers, I just could care less I do what makes me happy or keeps others ok ,and maybe I'm just to nice,occasionally I feel like there lost . Meanwhile I'll always do for others before my own dutys to myself . I always seem to put myself last ...are these bad qualities ,I fix everyone and every thing except myself. Yeah I went on a speed rant ,so exscuse the spelling or whatever . Have a fantastic weekend all . Single cuz just tired of picking the wrong or right partner and it not working out . I'm tough as nails but just feel too deeply .being an infj can suck sometimes ...luv ya all.
@KomiKoumuraАй бұрын
good video yet again, thank you love ❤️
@deutsch-ohne-akzentАй бұрын
Vielen Dank für deine Arbeit, Wenzes! Du hilfst mir sehr. 💜
@LetsTalkColdplayАй бұрын
I've been working on the lady who hates me at work. So now shes taken to picking at me because she doesn't know why she doesn't like me. Like 'why are you on that register again' or if i ask to go to the bathroom, she'll snap 'fine.' she just cant like me. Ive done nothing but been real with her and im always a nice person but she's always hiding from me but in an aggressive demeanor.
@gripi8Ай бұрын
Its cuz you SEE her.
@KathyJacksonSanDiegoRealEstateАй бұрын
I wonder if it has to do with Grace and how it’s admired and disliked at the same time.
@gloriaadu-f7cАй бұрын
For the amount of work. a person has to put into connecting with some one, is mind blowing. i rather be the captain and the mate on my ship.we are in a world crises. war fire hail storm flood lost of every thing. mothers loosing all their family, is very stressful, as the saying goes, dam if you do and dam if you don't. i give up.
@cynthiamarston2208Ай бұрын
I know! Giving up is actually a step in a good direction so long you stay true to you with all the flaws
@zanefleming5168Ай бұрын
"Let your energy out deliberately" - how does this fit in with not "dimming your light"? Do you mean holding back on focusing heavily on others, but not holding back on focusing on yourself around others?
@alicecaminati9264Ай бұрын
Anch'io non ho capito
@stevenjohns-savage7024Ай бұрын
I switch people on to now😊
@ChizueArayaАй бұрын
if you're seeing this comment, it might be a sign to read 'Magnetic Aura' from Talesio ❤️
@alemneshkidanie7372Ай бұрын
❤❤❤
@VirvepaulinaАй бұрын
❤
@西塔梅子Ай бұрын
its hard to put into words, but the book Magnetic Aura from Talesio completely changed my life and it's not new age bs
@MayvenFunkАй бұрын
Im an extroverted, sensuous women.
@MayvenFunkАй бұрын
People who hack accounts, computers and stalk women are sick introverts.