The INFJ Charisma You Didn’t Know You Had

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@kaviwardhman 26 күн бұрын

People cant digest the fact that we want to be alone. They crave the meaningful conversations and fun moments we created as 'extroverts' and they expect us to always be like that whereas we need to recharge ourselves being 'introverts'.

@raymondsmith9512 3 күн бұрын

We allow people to be themselves, INFJ’s take an genuine and authentic approach when meeting and interacting with others, depending on what’s going on with the person we adjust ours emotionally to meet that situation or circumstance. We’re so attuned with human nature, we know how to show up given the space and time , which is a high level of emotional intelligence, intuition and reasoning/logic living in that particular moment all at the same time remaining detached, and this is what confuses people. I always say that INFJ’s have a high level of “Human Intelligence”

@thorts Ай бұрын

Thank you so very much for all your videos and this channel. I'm a 44yo Aussie man that only 1 month ago took a personality test and found out I am 100% ineed an INFJ. For my entire life I've felt alone, weird, different and sometimes crazy. I dont feel this anymore. Thank you! Also a HUGE shout out to everyone out there that is exactly like me and reading my comment! ❤❤❤ Thorts

@DearYoungerSelf111 Ай бұрын

Welcome from the Texas USA!

@roberttrough6439 Ай бұрын

People are confused with us. Sometimes I truly believe people need to learn and experience things on their own or they will never understand. It’s so hard to not tell them. To not warn them. To not help them. If they stumble then I reach out and assist. Even then I only go so far helping. I started this after raising my own children. The age of the child and their skill level determined how much help and influence I would give them. One child I could allow to run any tractor or mower without any worry of injury. While it was totally off limits to another child’s ability at the same age level. I never discussed that with the child only directed them to other areas they could excel in. I find that’s true with adults as well. INFJs will never be understood by others maybe our own. Best if I accept that and spread the spark around. Rather than getting burnt out and drained.

@mohadesehsinichi9650 Ай бұрын

I used to ro the same, I get out of my way to help and make people understand they are harming themselves, but it never gets anywhere this much energy only exhausted myself and made me resentful of humanity. I realized to give space to others to want help, it's the only win win scenario!

@swavy653 14 күн бұрын

Yeah true people can only understand and learn through experience as much as you tell them they will only relate unless they experience the same

@mycapitain843 10 күн бұрын

You need to allow people to huet themselve it will make them evoluate. Only help people if they ask for help or it’s harassment. As a Christian i compare ourselves to God. For example imagine if God did not allow us to have freedom and wanted to help us do everything we would feel drained and control. I know it’s difficult but let them experience whatever is bad and only help them if they ask for help. It will help you feel more valued and your helps too 6:01

@sarahlanctot 27 күн бұрын

It’s so nice to be understood- I’m continually shocked that you actually understand me. Thank you. I’m glad I’m not alone.

@leilanoorani2976 Ай бұрын

Again, you really get it, articulate the situation incredibly well. I’ve experienced all this throughout my life. Even though I’m now quite old, I still do come up against these issues. It’s never really made sense. Setting boundaries, tuning into myself and not other’s emotions/experiences, is such a challenge, particularly difficult with certain people, but you are so right. This is a skill that needs cultivating. Your explanation for how our minds work, and other people’s confusing responses is also helpful. I signed up for your bootcamp (psychology type workshops being something I normally don’t do), and I’m looking forward. I have already learned so much about myself from your work, so thank you.

@samisushi 23 күн бұрын

Learning I am an INFJ has opened my eyes. I feel this great urge to guide and help others around me. And when in high school… nobody was okay. It felt even worse than being lonely, because you’re not blissfully ignorant to peoples problems or your own (like an ordinary teenager) I felt like something was wrong with me. But now I realize I truly have a unique gift💗 From what i learned, if you desire to help someone, first always have your own boundaries, and based on how they react to your energy, you will intuitively know if they will grow from it or they must learn through their own time (or maybe never)

@Chercheure_Indépendante Ай бұрын

7:20 # 1 acknowledge your power, how rare it is 11:45 #2 set boundaries 14:38 #3 Let your energy out deliberately Conclusion 18:44 *before being of service, how do I want to be seen?*

@ruthhenderson9205 Ай бұрын

This is so unbelievably helpful. Thank you Wenzes. I so appreciate you. ❤

@inf-jayne Ай бұрын

you probably make me feel more seen than anybody else so far 💜

@Narayan11131 Күн бұрын

Thank you very much as always 🙏🙏

@HaydenDevanny Ай бұрын

this video literally came in the perfect moment in my life, love you

@foolishpreacher 25 күн бұрын

I appreciate the way you’re presenting a topic that can easily slip into woowoo language in a more grounded framework. You are an excellent communicator.

@100Heejin 22 күн бұрын

This is so helpful!! ❤

@vllukens7265 Ай бұрын

Thank you Wenzes. I am very careful about who I give my attention to. So many people are just really needy and I find it all too exhausting/ draining, and have to withdraw. I am learning to put my needs first and protect my energy.

@Gt11369 Ай бұрын

thank you

@susantaylor147 Ай бұрын

Thanks for this Wenzes, this helped so much...I really appreciate your messages of hope! I was feeling a little lonely recently for the very reason's you mentioned! I've noticed recently that I'm more myself when I'm with a friend I've known from years ago...a colleague that turned into a really good confidant! I noticed my intuition isn't turned up so much when we're together...we're just having a good time... I don't feel the need to tune in! When our friendship first started my intuition was turned up high and this being so, had her trusting her spirituality more and more as her experiences frightened her... I helped her by lending my books and magazines about different subjects and I noticed she started to level up and we went on different spiritual courses together! Our friendship is more equal and although she doesn't always get me...she never judge's me and I feel safe and relaxed in her company! ❤

@carolinemccullough9838 29 күн бұрын

Damn straight! Yes!! Exactly!!

@marisol3827 Ай бұрын

Thank you, Wenzes. It never occurred to me to let someone “calibrate” to my energy. I’ll try it!

@erniefrates1376 Ай бұрын

Thank you 🙏

@KomiKoumura Ай бұрын

good video yet again, thank you love ❤️

@KathyJacksonSanDiegoRealEstate Ай бұрын

I wonder if it has to do with Grace and how it’s admired and disliked at the same time.

@johncohan.mosh.5403 26 күн бұрын

Omg that's me all the time I feel like maybe I'm overwhelming with my protectiveness . Just keeping loved ones safe and not get taken advantage of ,I'm extreamly knowledgeable about most things as I'm sure most here are especially in ghere fields, I'll constantly give my time energy ,skills up to exhaustion. ..and enjoy doing so .. Expecting nothing in return , I'm not a sucker ,I have tons of friends and admirers, I just could care less I do what makes me happy or keeps others ok ,and maybe I'm just to nice,occasionally I feel like there lost . Meanwhile I'll always do for others before my own dutys to myself . I always seem to put myself last ...are these bad qualities ,I fix everyone and every thing except myself. Yeah I went on a speed rant ,so exscuse the spelling or whatever . Have a fantastic weekend all . Single cuz just tired of picking the wrong or right partner and it not working out . I'm tough as nails but just feel too deeply .being an infj can suck sometimes ...luv ya all.

@LetsTalkColdplay 29 күн бұрын

I've been working on the lady who hates me at work. So now shes taken to picking at me because she doesn't know why she doesn't like me. Like 'why are you on that register again' or if i ask to go to the bathroom, she'll snap 'fine.' she just cant like me. Ive done nothing but been real with her and im always a nice person but she's always hiding from me but in an aggressive demeanor.

@gripi8 27 күн бұрын

Its cuz you SEE her.

@deutsch-ohne-akzent Ай бұрын

Vielen Dank für deine Arbeit, Wenzes! Du hilfst mir sehr. 💜

@gloriaadu-f7c Ай бұрын

For the amount of work. a person has to put into connecting with some one, is mind blowing. i rather be the captain and the mate on my ship.we are in a world crises. war fire hail storm flood lost of every thing. mothers loosing all their family, is very stressful, as the saying goes, dam if you do and dam if you don't. i give up.

@cynthiamarston2208 Ай бұрын

I know! Giving up is actually a step in a good direction so long you stay true to you with all the flaws

@ChizueAraya Ай бұрын

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@zanefleming5168 Ай бұрын

"Let your energy out deliberately" - how does this fit in with not "dimming your light"? Do you mean holding back on focusing heavily on others, but not holding back on focusing on yourself around others?

@alicecaminati9264 25 күн бұрын

Anch'io non ho capito