What is the Opposite of Perfectionism?

[@emc_1994]

"I might need to get my eyes checked" --- Thank you for giving real world, practical-every-day-life examples. This helps a lot because it goes from "intellectual understanding" to "application" --- and this is so valuable to me.

[@sharonbickerdike3012]

These contrasts remind me of the two main characters from the Chariots of Fire movie. Both men are aiming to win an Olympic medal in the same running event. One is driven by perfectionism, and is relentless in his striving, while the other runs enthusiastically, feeling God’s pleasure as he runs. Both work and train hard, both have the pressure of competing, both are worthy of the medal, but Eric Liddle faces the possibility of it all being lost and still is ok.

[@armychapmike]

Chariots of Fire is a wonderful illustration

[@tl5404]

Wow. What a good example. I remember watching that movie and it just blew me away hearing him say how when he runs he feels God's pleasure. Wow.

[@leeleewaters1451]

Oh man, there's a pressure release valve!? I've been trying to just live with the pressure and be loving to others at the same time. So exhausting lol! Thank you Mark for opening our eyes. Thank you for your ministry. May God continue to bless you✝️🕊

[@Jesusandmentalhealth]

You nailed ALL of this Mark. You read my mail. So helpful and so accurate!

[@shellbell8062]

I have just bought your book and I am so looking forward to starting this journey to let go of my intense perfectionism. It's got to the point where I haven't had a day off in months, work 12 hour days and have lost all of my connections because Im always working, and all I ever think about is what I haven't done, what I didn't manage to achieve. I didn't even see it as an issue. I gave myself Chronic Fatigue Syndrome by doing intense HIIT workouts daily while barely eating and working like an animal, and like you say, when I felt tired I would call myself lazy and force myself to "get back on the horse". If I had time off I really have no idea what I would do with it. I now have to rebuild connections and fill my future time off with leisurely pursuits and relationships. The irony is I think we do these things to fend off a feeling of emptiness and loneliness and then the very pursuit of these things leaves us completely empty and lonely. It's a terrible way to be. Thank God that He never leaves us where we are.

[@vincentconnell1283]

I like the word decompression. It lightens the load.

[@ellycruz9040]

Mark you have changed my mindset. I have practice all these, practices and I’ve learned to feel free. I actually just felt into a trap of checking and constantly reminding myself of what confusion and misinterpretation I went through. It was traumatizing but I’m leaving it to God.

[@ladyesther]

Thank you Mark. This was really helpful. I was thinking about the pressure cooker my mom use to have and they would need to release the pressure before attempting to open it up. I see I have been quite a perfectionist. I didn't really know that before. I look forward to resting now.

[@partheniafayne9426]

Truth from beginning to end!!! (As if you know me!😊)

[@lorisullivan327]

Oh my lanta… this nailed the crap outta me… but I’m going to go in this direction, and keep listening…. And keep on keepin on… thanks Dejesuses 🧡

[@brittanyattaway6487]

Mark, thank you so much for your videos and for taking time to make them. God has used your videos and your words to encourage me and I never realized how bad of a perfectionist I was until your videos were on my feed. I've been living under this pressure all my life and now I feel God is using this to set me free from something I never would have realized was bondage! Thank you again brother, may God continue to bless you on your journey.

[@Andrewjapaneserees]

I have also started Journaling again and have discovered it helps a whole lot with mental clarity.

[@ronfox5519]

This was extremely helpful to me. Its the wee hours of the morning and i am under the gun to get a task fone that i ve been working on all day. Hearing marks wisdom was very refreshing and rejuvinating.

[@catatonyanew]

God bless you. You are definitely on a whole 'nother level. 🙏

[@ericmartinez9105]

Thank u so much I struggle with with religios ocd everytime I sin I feel so guilty and shameful thoughts racing and screaming at me alot of pressure trying tp be perfect but I'm learning on this journey .God bless

[@charlabarnett6274]

The opposite of Perfectionism. Acceptance. Thank you for exposing the false Doctrine of Perfectionism. I will be several days on this video. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! God bless you brother! Love you bunches. 😍

[@daughteroflight8624]

Excellent video 👏👏👏 Because of this I now truly realise why I feel so overwhelmed and not content and procastinate. It makes all sense now. Thank you so much for this video. 🌷😊

[@partheniafayne9426]

You have completely read my mail with this one! Glory be to God for His faithfulness in teaching through you!

[@ctravisful]

Biblical Rest....oh my, wow. Thank you for explaining that the way you did. I feel a littler free even right now. Baby steps..... Thank you.

[@Andrewjapaneserees]

Now, just going to say right now that I had an incident, and won't really vent the details, but it did impact my health in a negative way. Really turned me in a Zeebra. You could say. I'm trying to do the healing necessary, and I'm really discovering it's gonna take a lot of time. Could take about 5 years of healing. I do really have a hope of healing and trusting in God during this process/Journey mindset. I

[@azureart5180]

mark, thank you so much for this video. it was so helpful for me❤️

[@TheDreamDetective888]

Especially appreciated the part about leading with relationship.

[@TheMarlon7777777]

Thank you so much Mark!!

[@glendagajsek-shears3890]

There is a view that the pressure helps one grow especially in Character. I'm sure the biblical text about trails relating to this to help refine the character of a person. It sounds really good but depending on the persons "character" how like being "tested". I was dealing with some pressure for just being "busy" and when resting not really resting or just having fun? enjoy and bonding through entertainment. And the pressure comes knowing you should be doing more but you can't or got a spirit of resisting to do something and doing better. I thought I was living in the flow part of my life When I had no worries that I was not doing anything wrong and believed in God and Christ... But I crashed in faith when the pressure came what I am doing for Christ and the family. especially financially trying not to more pressure on. The pressure of felling forced. Then if I'm not forced the can't be naturally motivated. But needed the real Godly love relation-heart to be worked on... But did like taking my time and then felt the pressure of time leaving things to the last minute not doing "time management" well and also get behind time. Thought That I needed structure and to follow more rules but still wasn't motivated! But still didn't help with the real issue of getting things and move on to other "jobs" and be on time. I managed some to an extent but also feel going into the worst end of the scale of not doing. I thought it was "grace" living more freely with no improvements, staying the same or backsliding.

[@glendagajsek-shears3890]

THere were moments I was thinking of fixing things or in the process of it. Or trying not so hard get through life but trying to be flexible with others around me. But then you started to slack off in the faith or go the other diredtion away from God so to speak? Making things worse like an evil one who doesn't care about others to help them too? Just was thinking about your self... Some guilt sins would come because you are not protecting not teaching someone to repent and believe on Christ and wher you also have a problems too. "becoming more like them" a judgment than like christ comes on my mind. And I felt like I've resisted so much to do what is "right" and connect well with CHrist and then people (both believers and unbelievers) and lived too flexible and struggled to respect others too and lived to what I believed I should be doing. Can there be pefectionism when you don't want to do more and aim high or do much because you thought you didn't want to look "Too good" or better than another person? But hen it turn on towards relationship especially towards me not loving God and people or accepting Christ but you do believe that he's there but got mad because of what you are pressure to do or you will not make it well?

[@glendagajsek-shears3890]

I do seem to do some things "alright" but in the big picture got caught up in really the opposite of not aiming to do better but do some things alright. And made things so out of order with everything every one and causing more damages than helping or maintaining properly. And creating a spirit of "disobedience" and disrespect towards others and even with our children from the lack of structure and teaching right behaviour... and "Loving" discipline. (biblical standards and "living well" socially). And DO see it how I cannot live or talk right with others in the love of God without sins effecting us really badly now eally Challenged me to have balanced without the control of Evil over everything...

[@lindsaydaniels998]

Sooo helpful

[@CharlieBass5]

I understand what you are saying, then I ask myself why it is that every time I listen to you I feel like crap. Part of it is that what you speak of I find it hard to get to. If I knew how to rest in Jesus I would, if I knew how not to be a perfectionist I wouldn't be. Yes it's a process and a journey, neither one of those words are comforting.

[@Andrewjapaneserees]

As a person who lives with high performance perfectionist. I can greatly tell they think im lazy. Its irritating and annoying cause the older we get the more high performance driven we become. Even myself ive found perfectionist tendencys i did NOT know were there.

[@CharlieBass5]

What is wrong with doing things right? Yes I know that right is the opposite of wrong and that's a black and white issue, so how do you get away from the right and not go to the wrong?

[@tab207]

I have all your books in audible & have listened to hundreds of hours of KZbin videos & im just now seeing this & it has hit the target like no other. Thank you thank you thank you 🙏 🫶🫵

[@Andrewjapaneserees]

I need to really make a song about perfectionism.

[@asijahjett2904]

Pls pray for me guys I had another big panic attack today , legs and arms and whole body was stiff and tingling ,

[@alexandriarcollins]

I’ll keep you in my prayers🙏🏼🤍

[@DethornedRose]

I will pray

[@margaretgrosskreuz8687]

@Asijah. I am so sorry. . My panic attacks are not so major. But I don't like them!!! I will 🙏 for you

[@a.d.b535]

I know a perfectionist, but thinking his release valve is heavy smoking and drinking.

[@meganp8766]

I appreciate the perspective that your comment provides. It can be tempting to dive into unhealthy habits with too much pressure. Pressure sucks.

[@margaretgrosskreuz8687]

Mark. I took a lot of notes - of course going to revisit and revisit and revisit this!!! Such a wealth of information. Thank you. Thank you. ☝🏼❤️🥰

[@CharlieBass5]

I heard once that if you ask God for patients He'll make you wait. I'm more patient with everyone else than I am with myself.

[@MissPixel22]

I'm tired