"Why Are Gay Men NOT Flirting With Me??!" Reacting To Woke Gr*ndr

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[@marcusdib]

Should I make a video about real trans men on Gr*ndr?

[@coltonwittler5433]

Yesss

[@jelly4frog498]

Yeah, only homosexual biological men should be on there.

[@nickname2935]

Sure. While I see, where you are coming from with "don't expect princess/girl treatment", I had the experience, that a considerable amount of gay men are disgusted by the superficial abusive hookup style on grindr aswell. Not ALL gay men want this. And we/they actually DO lack alternative options.

[@TheLimeinacoconut]

I think that could be a very interesting video!

[@Digitalhunny]

Honest question, does being on T actually help with sex drive? How soon does that start like days, weeks, months or seconds? Thank you so much. And oh, I'm _not_ asking for a friend... this is all for me baby! 😂

[@izzym1090]

Imagine shaming gay men for wanting to be with other gay men. This is so twisted

[@VeeAlee]

It been going on in the lesbian community for the longest. I seen several videos of them losing clubs ,being harassed by trans and allies because they wanted to date biological women

[@TayWoode]

@@VeeAleeyes recently they got angry about a speed dating night for lesbians in a bar for women only

[@geraldbrooks8507]

@@VeeAleeI became aware of the harassment lesbians were going through 5 years ago. I was shocked that there are people in the LGBT community shaming others for their sexual orientation.

[@mortalsfoe6333]

And yet here we are…I feel like I have to defend my sexuality and for once it’s not against heteros haha

[@Urmapleleaf]

Was shamed for that by the same activists who scammed me with fake pursuits and hopes for "equality". You are not alone. No more.

[@clairebloggs3131]

"My partner and me are on Grindr" is possibly the most depressing thing I've heard today...

[@nielszindel1151]

They love talking about themselves. Maybe the self absorption is the turn off. Delia Morris

[@kittygumdrop7442]

There's no 🍆 between them so they're looking for one 🤷‍♀️

[@mzmendy]

That didn't even register to me. Now I'm slightly depressed about it smh

[@brockn7878]

His guy sayjng he is not gay is Just as ridiculous

[@dalecooper9942]

AH AH AH AH AH AH

[@OniNoFAQ]

I'm homosexual, not homogendered. That is why I am interested in people of the same sex, not the same gender.

[@RommelAngus2]

Lol samesies 😅😅

[@pcxPOT]

sex = gender

[@Fatty_de_boomba]

" don't be penis sexual phobic "

[@JH-kw8zy]

Beautifully and accurately put.

[@pcxPOT]

they are the same tho

[@DiWolfe]

As a gay man, I honestly am leaning more and more towards the idea of the LGB's divorcing the rest of the letters.

[@moosedawg71]

I agree. The rest of those alphabet bullies have DESTROYED all the progress the LGB community has accomplished toward equal rights, etc. I've never had any issues with the LGB community, but the hyper-aggressive, TQ+ mafia...yeah, I have NO time or patience for that nonsense! They literally ruin everything they force themselves upon (pun intended).

[@Scar-jg4bn]

I completely agree. I'm sick of "trans" people harassing L's and G's. I feel safer and more at ease around straight people than any of the TQIA+ crowd.

[@jeremypowell7211]

Same here. I don't claim anything past the LGB part. The rest are their own brand of crazy.

[@jonathanlandau-litewski7405]

As a gay man I have NOTHING to do with any of the alphabet mafia.

[@jackwhitehead5233]

There is something called the LGB Alliance which formed specifically because of this stuff. Might want to look them up if you're interested?

[@coltonwittler5433]

Why tf are they on grinder💀

[@NI-gy2ml]

Cause they don't want to date other trans people. I wonder why...🤔

[@xavierrose8208]

I block them

[@Beauluvz]

@@NI-gy2mlwait what’s wrong with trans ppl dating trans ppl.?

[@scotthix2297]

Just looking for another stupid pot to stir…

[@Paul-Weston]

Because there isn't a grindr for transgendered people. No point going on a straight app, cos straight guys don't like c@ck.

[@marymaza2187]

Imagine someone calling you "violent" and "insidious" just because you refuse to have sex with them. Not incel rethoric at all /s.

[@kerri-annvigar476]

I lost it when she said violent.

[@Vickzq]

That should show you where the real incels are coming from...

[@freerights6695]

That isn't even incel rhetoric ...

[@Vickzq]

@@freerights6695 The whole _incel_ stuff is mainly a made up fantasy to reject whatever a man disagreeing brings up in an argument... usually such people do not even realize they just called some married dude with adult children _incel,_ as if he was _celibate,_ not even bringing up the hilarious _involuntarily_ part in it. The people who use that kind of speech are the real involuntarily lonely people forcing themselves on others. It is all projection.

[@buzzymm]

trancels gonna trancel

[@MintyUniverse0]

Thank you!!! As a lesbian, I hate getting being told I'm transphobic for not wanting to date trans women, even post op. F*ck off. I've seen post op trans women and it doesn't look like the real thing. I can't help my sexual orientation, and it's not transphobic. And if a straight man said the same thing as me, I'd stick up for him because I get it.

[@0.Silver.0]

I feel the same way. I'm female and I want a female partner, not a male.

[@aishani86]

As straight woman i dont want a transman eather. Even if they have done surgery i still perfer natural one

[@CrustyUgg]

This is predatory. It's forcing yourself into the spaces that aren't meant for you.

[@gilliandey2490]

Luvvy us women suffer this from men saying they're women all time .in toilets sports lesbian dating apps womens refuges .these effers often attack physically too

[@Fatty_de_boomba]

​@loveyourself3246 " don't be a penis sexual phobic ". That's all. But are you serious?! 🤣 wow. I was wondering what they'd call it

[@robertmarshall2502]

"My partner and me are both on grindr" Just sleep with your "partner". You can't really complain about not finding sexual partners when you already have one.

[@Heavyisthecrown]

First thing I thought 😮

[@greenaum]

Just 2 gay men, chewin' on some carpet...

[@Violetbunnyfish]

I know, right.

[@fatmonkey4716]

People obsessed with their desires ignore logic.

[@marcwilliams9824]

My thought was "Why are you still on Grindr? Says a lot about your relationship."

[@HussarPlays]

I joined a vegan buy/sell site. Why isn’t anyone interested in my meat products?

[@MyBeautifulHealth]

Exactly!

[@ArachnerdGC]

Underrated comment. You hit the nail on the head.

[@nickh.4917]

Amen

[@paulwyckoff635]

I feel like Grindr would be a buy/sell meat site and they are offering vegan food

[@helgashouseofpain]

😂

[@nerapavane7132]

This is like chosing vanilla icecream and being called a strawberry-phobe for wanting vanilla. It's insane.

[@viscountrainbows2857]

"I like waffles." "Wow that is so pancakephobic." -basically the logic here

[@roadpizza3470]

Perfect!

[@African.empress]

I actually hate anything with strawberry besides the fruit itself. I'm a Strawberry-phobe ✊🏾

[@nerapavane7132]

@@African.empress Good for you! ✊🏻

[@jislaaikrockadopolis7215]

Not being attractive to another person is not a form of violence.

[@tinygypsy3707]

Calling someone transphobic for not wanting to have intercourse is insane. Imagine being entitled to other people’s BODIES and time. Wtffff these people are scary

[@DanielleStarry]

Incel energy

[@aussiejubes]

But then if you want them you're an embarrassing chaser. They do not have the slightest clue what they're actually mad about, they just wanna be mad & victims. Gross.

[@goddammitalana]

"Intercourse" is male+female sex.

[@kennethadler7380]

Its more controler energy because if you do like them they call you a chaser but if you dont want them you are teansphobic. I think its mostly about the power the control other people. ​@@DanielleStarry

[@stevenswitzer5154]

Isnt this gaslighting?

[@blankadams3120]

If you're into trans men on Grindr, you're a chaser, if you refuse trans men on Grindr, you're a bigot. So, either way, you fail according to her. Make it make sense.

[@niamtxiv]

I usually block the trans.

[@FaethorFerenzcy]

I am a bisexual... does that make me a transphobe chaser bigot? Meh the hell... i guess i stick to pans. Yes pan intended. 😂 sorry i feel silly today.

[@JoseMolina-ij3xx]

Chaser means something completely different in different gay communities. I've seen Bear and Chubby Chasers, too, but they're usually not for trans people.

[@Risingboiting]

@@niamtxivMe too man. Before they even speak to me. Block block block block, I love it 🤣

[@machector892]

Or we can choose the third option by just being who we are without caring what she thinks.

[@mrsweetpotato4354]

As a straight person its refreshing to hear members of the lgbq to speak out against so called transphobia

[@andrewdaleigh7653]

Many of us see this ideology as a direct attack on kids who might be gay. The boys getting targeted and who will be caught up in this are just like I was as a kid, but I'm just a gay dude, I'm not even a superflamer anymore, I grew out of it.

[@BeyondDone]

There are a LOT of gay men, especially older gay men (40+) who want absolutely nothing to do with the QIA+ whatever that was thrust upon us even though it has absolutely ZERO to do with us. I've felt that way my entire life and it's the crazies in the group that make sane gay dudes like me, who only wanted acceptance and equality, not special privileges, want nothing do with the group at all now. It's been long past due for a very long while now but we need to divorce the two.

[@andrewdaleigh7653]

@@BeyondDone I'm 36 and I'm right there with you man, I've never been accused of being phobic of myself before... by straight people pretending to be gay mostly.

[@selinnazsur2328]

I'm so over them trying to rationalize people's disinterest in them as bigotry... 🤦‍♀ A gay man literally CAN'T feel attraction to female genitals... That's the whole point of being _homosexual._ If genitals are something he cares about in a relationship, and he will most likely care, you have no say in it other than "I understand, have a nice day". That applies to anyone with any sexual orientation. Narcissists are so exhausting.

[@megatasticandfabulicious]

As a gay man I don't care what other people do. As long as you're not hurting anyone else in the process then do whatever you want. But it doesn't make me transphobic just because I would never go with a trans person.

[@hinachan70]

I'm seeing it more as, if you like sausage and are attracted to sausage, then why try to force you to like tacos? (Apologies for the food analogy there)

[@megatasticandfabulicious]

@@hinachan70 if that's your comparison then I will never like Tacos 🌮🤮🤣

[@winstonwolf6791]

@@megatasticandfabulicious Tacophobe. 😉

[@lumityviktuuristanartist4100]

​@@winstonwolf6791 TACOPHOBE lmao 😂😂😂

[@megatasticandfabulicious]

@@winstonwolf6791 I seriously am a Tacophobe if they the Vag type 🤮 but I'm also a Tacophobe if they're not nice Tacos. I was so excited when Taco bell came to Manchester (UK) but then when I tried it I was so disappointed because compared to Taco bell in the US the one here is horrible. I just have to make tacos myself if I want them as I know they'll be nicer. 😋 I don't think I'm ever gonna look at a Taco the same again after this conversation 😭🤣

[@hummingbirdcity]

I'll never forget how uncomfortable I was, as an 18-year-old gay male, that a former lesbian who was transitioning into a man was relentlessly coming on to me. This was decades before the trans renaissance. Even then, I didn't want to be hurtful, but I also wasn't sexually attracted this person who was, externally, a woman. So, I kept politely declining. These days, that would be considered by many to be transphobic. It was not.

[@Justanothaguy]

Trans Renaissance...can I steal this term from you please?

[@Justanothaguy]

@@neko7606 See the moment you mentioned the Japanese School girl outfit I was like...bruh.

[@taxidancing87]

​@@neko7606😦 what too much yaoi does to a mf. Seriously though, those types of girls need a reality check. Going outside, actually meeting gay guys as friends and not just shopping buddies.

[@juliac3597]

Reminds me of when I was 13 (white female) was minding my business on my property and a black guy walked passed and started talking to me. He asked my age and I told him. I then asked his and he said 19. He asked me out, I said no, and he called me racist.

[@natalia_00123]

If they insist after the first "no," that's just straight sexual harassment at that point.

[@user-zu3dn9rv9h]

As a 58 year old gay man….. I’m so sick of all of this garbage. I consider myself to be a tolerant person, and respectful to others to be whom they are… but these folks have taken the cake on being too far and way out there! I use Grindr and I get ignored about 94% of the time. Is this ageism? Am I being discriminated against? NO… IT’S PEOPLE LIKE WHAT PEOPLE LIKE AND DON’T WANT WHAT THEY DON’T WANT. Grow up and get over yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@Mel-yv8mw]

" as soon as you realise hé doesnt have a pénis you dont want him" Wow. I broke my brain.

[@J21822]

So we went from being shamed for liking 🍆 to being accepted by society to now being shamed for liking 🍆 by people in our own “community”.

[@jmontesi]

It's so true and it's so disconcerting.

[@w2class]

What community? It doesn't belong to us anymore.

[@exia7777]

​@anthonyyoung2044 the HDMI community?

[@jeremypowell7211]

Trans agent a part of my community. I don't claim them.

[@c.b.h1151]

the trans "lesbians" (aka men who claim to be lesbian) are just like this as well with lesbians who don't want 🍆

[@pony_bonnyman]

They hate "chasers," but whine that nobody else wants them, either.

[@daveyrogers7336]

It's really dumb too because a lot of the chasers are really hot lol.

[@user-tr8fs7lm8r]

They'd never join a club that would want them as a member.

[@CreativeCreatorCreates]

I was about to say…it seems as if they are cutting off the last remnants of potential partners for life.

[@nicolasandresmartinez-cond126]

Because their objective for joining the app in the first place isn't to find matches, but to have something to complain about.

[@anourtine6204]

A chaser is someone who objectifies and fetishizes trans bodies. They see us as a taboo, and are generally ashamed of their attraction to us. They have zero regard for who we are as individuals, and only care about receiving specific sexual gratification. As soon as that’s fulfilled, they move on to the next person. Trans amorous people, have a sexual and/or romantic desire for trans people. They aren’t ashamed of their attraction, and engage with us on a healthy, emotional level as well as physical. They respect our bodies, and how we want to be intimate. Not everyone attracted to trans people are chasers. Chaser is a negative term. Trans amorous is positive.

[@noamleora]

Being ignored feels violent? As a survivor of an abusive marriage, I have a problem with this! On a different point, I love your honesty and healthy look on topic! ❤

[@viscountrainbows2857]

If anything for these people, No News Is Good News. But of course they gotta hold the belief that Silence Is Violence so, yeah their narcissism and cognitive dissonance are their two brain cells fighting over 3rd place

[@Shampaggin]

I love how entitled they think they are to other people's bodies, time, and attention.

[@Ilivedbih]

Reminds me of incels, but they at least are quiet angry

[@user-lz1hj2mc7u]

YOU NAILED IT,

[@KM-nj3cm]

They don't even treat their own bodies with respect. Why would you expect them to treat others' bodies with respect?

[@lucyhardman2267]

They go into spaces that they know won't welcome them, specifically to complain that they don't feel welcome. 🙄

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

I'm seriously beginning these weirdos have a "victim" kink.

[@ca678.4]

Don’t forget they then tried to forcibly change and rule over said spaces with no regards to the people that the space was originally for.

[@luchoportuano2829]

I'm gay. I'm on Grindr. I LOVE the fact that you have infinite Blocks on this app. Because the second I see a profile with this kind of... characters... I block them immediately. They're just occupying space from the legitimate users that I could like. So they're out. I don't even let them reach me. The first 15 minutes that I log in on the app is for blocking. Then it is for hitting.

[@Phil-tn5ny]

Lesbian Tinder is full of they/thems?! UGH.... My worst fear come true. Bad time to realize I want to start dating because i'm getting old.

[@Wallflowerz3356]

I think some of these women have trauma with straight men and, because they are still attracted to men, view gay men as safer. So they don’t want to pass as a man because they don’t have dysphoria, but still desire a heterosexual relationship 🤷🏼‍♀️ could be wrong. This always comes down to mental health.

[@nickname2935]

As a transman, who has dated straight and gay men, I think a lot of straight women view gay men as safe since they are not hitting on them. They only ever experience gay men as besties and vastly underestimate their potential sexual aggression.

[@jamiemckelvie342]

I have bi friends and I’ve been told by them that gay dudes are way more ‘sexually aggressive’ might we say, on pursuing someone sexually I guess just women demand restraint whereas men don’t really If anything I think they’re making a *massive* underestimation of how sexually aggressive gay men are

[@ShindlersFiist]

Lol Remember when Trisha Paytas came out as a gay man?😂

[@HobDobson]

As one woman put it: "Well, imagine if someone walked up to YOU and grabbed your crotch?" Me? "Saturday night."

[@p.s.shnabel3409]

Here's me being cynical: I believe some of the "trauma" stems from rejection. Though there's this trope of men hitting anything, especially when they're super randy, I've seen ugly women getting denied. Or *if* they get laid, they get basically banged on the backseat and then kicked out at the next gas station. Ugly girls are the ones getting the fake phone number, getting ghosted and being treated as forgettable, easy to replace commodities. I can see how that would gnaw away at your soul and heart.

[@AJManol]

Have you heard of the Woman in Australia that simply wanted a Women only space to focus on our particular issues? She got cancelled for a hate crime and is currently doing a long, hard, expensive appeal. This is LUDICROUS.

[@missychan63]

It's just like all black colleges... Which I personally have no problem with but- try opening an all white college and see what happens. It's ridiculous- if we were all blind we would all be the same color. Turn off the lights and we are all either female or male, I'm sorry but there is no in between. Identify as a camel if you want to, I don't care- but don't get mad at me when I don't see you as a camel because you look like a human being. My bad. Don't attack me when I'm a bit confused if you're standing in front of me in a dress and heels, full makeup, and a beard. What the actual hell are you supposed to be? And how is it my fault when I don't immediately recognize it? Why can't we have all women spaces? It used to be called the girl scouts 😉. (Not really but you get my drift.... Why can't people just hang out with who they choose without being labeled racist or sexist or phobic of some sort? Why can't people just be?)

[@ieetrgun2620]

it’s getting very bad in australia. canada and aus are usually the testing grounds for america so good luck

[@ltlwlwl5057]

I did hear about that. I hope she wins....

[@peoplelikeus3684]

The Left are big on 'hate' it seems. Hate Crime (someone upset you). Hate Speech. Are they already thought police? Oops, too late.

[@justacutie5201]

​@@ltlwlwl5057 Speaking of Australia. A lady stated a lesbian speed dating a few years ago and for the past 2-3 trans women have started showing interest. She started receiving complaints from the biological women feeling due to tge trans women that show up being aggressive. Anyways once a biological woman was assault (in the bathroom, I think). She turned it into a biological women event and the trans lesbians got upset stating that the event was transphobic and non inclusive. They even tried taking it to court...completely dismissing the assault. In the end they got to keep the evrnt biological women's only.

[@LisaSummers1988]

its always hatefull how others want to force themselves into someone elses space and suddenly want to decide how the rules work.

[@pablo0916]

Thank you for this , as a cis male gay guy I agree with you. I have noticed this trend in Grindr where it seems all this people are intent on destroying one of the few spaces created for gay men. You finally put my thoughts in words very well presented.

[@annearly3200]

Someone needs to tell these people that sexual interest is not a human right. We are allowed to discriminate on who we date or have sex with. You can't demand someone date or have an interest in you based on your feelings. That is what we call sexual coercion-to impose one's will on another (rape). This is not any different than when the boss made women sleep with them to keep a job.

[@rationalmale6265]

Spot on!

[@meghanparris8203]

Whatever happened to my body, my choice?! I guess they forget that when it's about them.... Now, if you don't like them, you're a transphobe! How about, I'm not transphobic, you're just a horrible person...

[@ivonned32]

Very well fckng said!

[@msanjelia]

What an excellent comment.

[@kate7413]

You ate it!!

[@whiskeywasteland71]

Not on Grindr... I was banned for saying "No Thanks, I'm gay" to a woman who messaged me. A few days later I went back on the app and it said my account was suspended for violating terms of service.

[@svetlanaandrasova6086]

What???

[@johnlong572]

Demands to be treated like the gender they identify as Gets treated exactly like the gender they identify as WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA I'M TRIGGERED HOW DARE YOU

[@EmP-2022]

It has always been accepted that everyone is attracted to different people! I remember guys saying getting pissed at women because they've been "friend zoned" because they couldn't admit that some women just aren't into them! This is just how attraction works!

[@neolibertarian5492]

Why can’t someone just create a hookup app for trans people?

[@brookelee9745]

Because then they’d call that being fetishized. Can’t win….

[@TheSuperPsychoKiller]

Seems like trans people are not attracted to each other and want to hook up with cis people.

[@fatmonkey4716]

Because you all belong in the same block.

[@brutalictesku]

Because trans people don't want to hook up with other trans people, lol!

[@cfowler7936]

They see whatever gender they believe they are to be 100% real, and assume others will be on board.

[@johnjames6020]

I have ALWAYS thought the same thing about Grindr. Never understood why trans women demand to be recognised as women, but then will go onto an app designed for gay male hookups !!! pick a lane

[@CalThePaladin3733]

Because they're not accepting that trans women and women are two different stuff and so have different live experiences

[@scottsporowicz4621]

Any port in a storm I guess

[@oops541]

A lot of straight men and tranny chaser go on Grindr to find Transwomen.

[@kaycep6819]

Because they’re self focused loons. Me me me me me! Everyone should want me! I want all the things! Stupid.

[@jborrego2406]

Or they date a man then break up an tell there jobs or family there gay cause they have a dick. So u want straight man date u then use it to embarrass them lol

[@Reet64]

It's a problem of our time that a lot of people, however they identify, feel entitled to be wherever they want, and completely disregard other people's boundaries. I am quite sick of the homophobia that has come from all this, and I'm straight. I fought along side my lesbian sisters in the women's movement, to get them their own spaces. Now it's all being erased and trounced on by TRAs. Thanks for injecting a dose of reality into these discussions.

[@lk4871]

I’m not even gay but I like listening to you. You have common sense and very in tune with society, what’s normal and what’s not

[@Gingernat089]

I really cannot stand the allegation of “violence” when talking about perceived transphobia… violence is physical. Anyone who has been physically attacked and physically harmed due to being different of any form, truly understands the term “violence”. Hurt feelings aren’t nice, but they are so very different from violence. It’s insulting and delusional to even put them in the same category.

[@aussiejubes]

Violence is not only physical, but this does not qualify as violence.

[@Vickzq]

Did you wake up just now? This _feelings over facts_ and _all the same_ is going for years. A look is harassment... a question violence...

[@nicholasanderson7316]

It’s because most of these people haven’t experienced violence. They’ve experienced being turned down and their feelings getting hurt which they equate to violence cause most have lived very privileged lives. Sure, there are definitely some who have, but a lot haven’t that’s why they wear the terms gay man, lesbian, transsexual, bisexual like they are cosplaying. Most don’t understand what it’s like having to hide who your sexually and romantically attracted to and feel shame for that… most don’t understand what gender dysphoria is and usually equate their body dysmorphia to being gender dysphoria. Cause they hate themselves as they are so much that they are willing to physically and chemically alter their bodies cause they think the will be liked more. That’s not gender dysphoria… that’s body dysmorphia and what they are doing is literally the worst thing they could do to themselves. They usually have severe mental trauma and instead of seeking help for that take on an LGBT persona. Which is extremely offensive cause they are essentially doing LGBT Face and think they aren’t hurting anyone. LGBT are just the scapegoat for their unresolved trauma.

[@antonjoubert6980]

They are delusional in most other parts of their life so not really surprising

[@TyrianHaze]

Only someone that has never gotten into a fist fight would say some bullshit like that. "That's violence." Yeah, even if it is(which it isn't), so what?

[@gilgameshofuruk4060]

This is like how hen parties invaded gay clubs. I and my friends would go for a drink and a dance. Nor even to hook up with anyone. Just to be ourselves. Then hen parties started appearing. "Because we feel safe with gay men". Ok, I can understand that. But then they started taking over, shrieking, screaming, generally being nuisances. Some would make passes at gay men then be offended that we weren't interested. I think there's a certain type of person who does this sort of stuff because they think it's a challenge. That some how they'll have proven something and made themselves feel good. But how is bullying, cajoling or nagging someome into sleeping with you going to do that?

[@wickedgenx1972]

Absolutely! I would go to gay clubs with my gay friends because I am that person that can just hangout and have fun without it becoming a sexual weird thing. I would see groups of straight females come in and cause nothing but problems! I got into quite a few confrontations because I'll be damned if I was going to let them cause problems in a place they weren't invited into. A place my friends were enjoying themselves!

[@TayWoode]

Reminds me of gay men that think they can change straight men as if it’s a challenge. James Charles springs to mind, I think that’s why he goes for young boys coz he can manipulate them easier

[@ditta7865]

Yeah these women have ruined it for us who our friends with gay men. I don't even go now with my gay friends to the gay bars because I get the look from the gay men who think I'm here to ruin it or hit on them and it's like no. I'm trying to hang out with my gay friend who wants to go to a gay bar but have me with him because he wants to party with me as a woman in his space and feel like he can leave me alone where I'm safe because trust me I had so much fun at the gay bars with the men.

[@TayWoode]

@@ditta7865 don’t be put off, if anything it’s drunken women in groups that act like that trying to show off to each other and to be honest they’re usually not even that attractive 😂

[@fatmonkey4716]

It's almost like actions have consequences. Too bad you selfish fools wouldn't listen.

[@TheFabrymc]

I always report women on Grindr. They always disappear afterwards.

[@nah7140]

I love how they act entitled to be matched or hit like it’s a robot on the other end and not a free market

[@MathildaFlow]

I can’t imagine being in a relationship but still insisting on putting myself in situations where other people can reject me romantically or sexually. Does she want mental health issues? I know the answer is yes but it should be no.

[@kell2229]

They do this all for attention and to claim being a victim

[@Vickzq]

You mean, does she want even more...

[@tarynriver]

My thoughts exactly you have a bf be happy it almost feels like her bf is the one not satisfied 😂😂

[@lordhoweproductions3733]

She obviously already has mental health issues

[@bandasefanfarrasnossahistoria]

These people are insane. A few trans men messaged me on Grindr and I was honest and direct in telling them that I wasn’t into trans people. I’m a man attracted to men. You can guess what happened. I was called transphobic by some of them and told that they reported me to the app. Unbelievable

[@Faith_Chi]

Everyone has the right to date whoever adult they want. Enforcement is abuse.

[@fatmonkey4716]

Failure to recognize the consequences of actions will not save you from them.

[@scray00]

This is the problem the regular gay guy gets his account banned for a hate crime or transphobia and the trans person gets a serotonin boost for screwing with someone else’s life. Same shit going on on the lesbian app. Ariella was talking about it. Actual lesbians getting banned because they don’t want to date trans people.

[@chrisjackson8151]

That is why I ignore and block them as soon as they contact me. Save yourself the trouble.

[@bandasefanfarrasnossahistoria]

@@chrisjackson8151I started blocking them straight away. Too much drama for my liking

[@GBNationalist]

From the statistics, most people in this movement are what I like to refer to as “trans-trenders”. It dilutes the issue and hurts those who actually suffer with it. It’s a shame.

[@guskinmaypho174]

In my time chaser was a gay guy who didn't fit the gay bear (hairy/burly/chubby) stereotypes but was attracted by that and wanted in on the entire gay bear community. How the times have changed...

[@Amy-wy1gd]

I feel sorry for people desperately trying to normalise hooking up with anyone who will have you, even if you're apparently 'in a relationship'. It's not open and accepting, it's not modern, it's deeply unhealthy and will only lead to misery imo.

[@azimuth5620]

The homophobia in these women is deep 😑

[@MsBadBody]

You mean men

[@azimuth5620]

@@MsBadBody I was referring to the lesbian couple, not the trans-identifying man

[@nicholasanderson7316]

@@MsBadBody no women. Your identity can eff right off when you act that way toward gay men and lesbians.

[@KurtousHart-qb7rz]

Not men idiot​@@MsBadBody

[@David-uc4hc]

Its crazy. As a gay man who's been on the apps over the years, I've gotten random vitriol from nonbinary women b/c I wouldn't respond. I've been told I'm a bigot, and it's always just funny to me. Like I'll just be chilling, checking out the local scene but not in the mood to chat, and then be told I hate trans people because I'm not attracted to a woman who is coding herself as a butch woman. These people are welcome to use the app. I don't begrudge anyone trying to use grindr or whatever. But no one that I don't know is entitled to my time or energy.

[@Pandaliliesforever]

“Septum piercing communist” i almost spit out my drink lmao

[@melancholycollie]

Exactly why I took my septum ring out.

[@runningraven]

They're describing normal human sexual behavior and turning it into a hate crime towards people who aren't normal. It's NOT BAD to not be normal, it's just not normal! Find other people who are also not normal, or attracted to people who aren't, and the problem is solved. Not anyone's fault that the majority IS normal. 😫

[@Kiidomaru]

“We’re not getting hit on on Grindr” it’s okay sis I’m not either 😅

[@monk3yboy69]

Did you pay the Boost fee……

[@xandercrew6088]

I am soooo over everyone thinking all spaces are for them. I literally block every woman I see on grindr and I just pray they go away.

[@nickh.4917]

Oh yeah, me too. I block them faster when they have photos without a shirt that show the scars. I don’t have a problem with anyone being attracted to anyone. But every now and then, I like going to a gay space, bar, app, whatever, and have gay guys there, just to be around my own kind.

[@stuff1784]

Pray 😂

[@jameswarbington]

I am 50 years old, never had a problem with anyone's gender, race etc. But I have tried to be polite at times and gotten yelled at for mis-labelling genders. I never meant harm, I was trying to be respectful to the person. Your videos are awesome, they help me understand, as an older person I feel I try to keep up on the times, but you help educate me on things, and I appreciate that! Thank you!

[@cvent8454]

It all comes down to ppl demanding respect without having to give respect.

[@eleanorrigby5759]

It just gets worse. I’m a biological woman as you can see from my photo… I will never use grinder because… drum roll… *I have a v4giNa and am attracted to StR8 men…* They are taking this too far and it’s actually insulting now. 😂 🤢

[@lisettes.9598]

I would never use grindr because IT'S DISGUSTING and I enjoy not having STDs.

[@gamingunited37]

on dating sites there are more transwomen than actual woman it's pretty creepy and as a straight guy i want to see women not men

[@ttrev007]

i don't think it matters if they have an account, as long as they are up front about what they are and don't go around shaming people for the preferences.

[@gamingunited37]

@@ttrev007 i think it matters a lot of you are looking for a specific thing you don't want to see Men straight men don't fuck with transwoman like biological women who are lesbian don't want to see transwoman

[@thornback5641]

​@@gamingunited37I've not been on dating sites in the past few years but honestly I always found it way more full with men looking to hook up then women. And the women I found then were like fake lesbians at best(like doing it to attract men). My best advice read profiles and actually make conversation if you are interested(a message consisting only of "Hey" will not even get you a second of consideration we get dozens if not hundreds of those in a day). With how toxic dating apps are I and many other women just give up on them- for some like myself who is interested in more then just men its alot easier as I have way more options.

[@andrewunderwood4570]

When these activists say how they are treated is like violence they clearly have never been an actual victim of violence.

[@jimi4053]

Simply put, don't be in a space where you're not supposed to be!

[@lucystoner]

There's just so much to attraction. It's the way you move, the way you smell, your side profile, just the general ~vibes. I feel like a lot of trans people don't see how that can work against them.

[@AyamiLee]

I was vibing with this until you said side profile 😂 I feel called out.

[@chamberlayne9287]

How is it in any way "insidious" or "kind of violent" for people to not be attracted to you? Since when did having a preference become an act of violence? That doesn't remotely make sense. I wonder if "they" were dropped on "their" head as a baby. That would explain all of the crazy spilling from "their" gaping mouth hole.

[@jamesdoyle2769]

"How is it in any way "insidious" or "kind of violent" for people to not be attracted to you?" Exactly. That is just a rapey ploy.

[@ciganyweaverandherperiwink6293]

I just love how the rejected immediately politicise their lack of sexual charisma and dive into the radioactive spaghetti bowl that is Identity Politics instead of just quietly acknowledging that they're not getting hit on because they're not physically attractive. I'm embarrassed to see how many of these sorts of videos are uploaded. Keep your dignity guys, for crying out loud.

[@Pidatha]

She's not getting hit on because it's a GAY app for gay men 😂

[@GuacamoleKun]

And after they intentionally made themselves physically unattractive, too. It's all a big stupid power play.

[@Pidatha]

I like how KZbin decided to banish my comment into the shadow realm when i didn't even say anything controversial

[@ThePeacePlant]

Yep. Trans Chaser is just a word they use for dudes that contact them but don't think they are attractive enough. So they put all the blame on them by calling them 'Trans Chasers'

[@ciganyweaverandherperiwink6293]

@@Pidatha Wahey, welcome to my wonderful reality! Maybe there's an alternate universe where our shared plethora of colourful, candid shadowbanned comments actually post and create honest and valuable greater conversations, which in turn foster tolerance, resilience and GENUINE insight into the human condition...instead of all this overprocessed, dishonest pseudo-academic gobbledegook which humans prefer to pass off as 'honest conversation' (because it sounds safer and smarter to the gatekeepers of academia, big tech and the cultural intelligentsia running the show) bu wonder why things aren't getting 'better'.

[@kafjaf6387]

My brother (a Grinder user if ever there was one) says that using the app sometimes feels like going to the circus. He hooked up a while back with this bloke who looked great on the app but in person was actually a fully intact biological female. When my bro kindly explained that he was not attracted to 'lady bits' the person went bonkers! 🤣🤣 My bro said he was mortified because he lives in a semi and knew that his neighbors could hear everything and would rip the piss out of him later...........he was right, they did.

[@jacobishii6121]

I think its interesting that these people call not being interested phobia

[@QuatrinaVR]

So many people desperately trying not to accept their own sexuality 🤦‍♀️

[@clairhonnor6211]

To the point of medicalisation to avoid it . Quite sad really.

[@stuff1784]

It’s CRAZY!!!

[@BiohazardBunney]

This is just like that crazy lesbian jubilee video with Arielle, they're now erasing gays too.

[@megsley]

transing the gay away!

[@clairhonnor6211]

Modern conversion therapy

[@inferiorinferno8859]

Isn't it obvious? I mean, the rejection of the binary system is inherently biphobic because it rejects the system my sexuality is based on.

[@alexandrasmith7682]

"My partner and I" ......... Yep, seriously committed relationship there

[@luvbug6t9]

Its so self-defeating; almost as if they WANT to be a victim of rejection….

[@trishlarocca]

Its like the trans women going on lesbian sites. No, just no. Preferences are allowed.

[@kenzieangel]

Pleaseeeeee don't call it a preference. That implies being gay or lesbian is a choice. Someone who is Bi can have a preference. A lesbian only wants a female ..a gay man only a male. Respectfully ❤

[@CalThePaladin3733]

@@kenzieangel thank you 🙏🏽

[@melissamurray8307]

I agree.

[@AnimalPuff]

​@@kenzieangel tbf by that definition, we gotta mention that it's also not a choice to be bisexual either. But I guess "preferences" isn't about stuff like a person's sex but stuff like appearance and personality, anyway.

[@ultraboombean]

Tbh they can go on there as long as they are honest.

[@SROU64]

They already did this to lesbians on a lesbian dating app. Lesbians who said they would not date a trans woman were kicked off the app.

[@jacobishii6121]

Lets be real.......they dont belong on a tinder unless they are being honest.Ive noticed a lot these people getting mad that people on tinder get upset when they are lied to

[@stubie]

I stopped all grindr. The trans men come on at 11pm and no matter how politely you say no thank you, the insults come thick and fast. I've been called some legendarily awful things. Time and time again. THIS IS WRONG.

[@claudettes9697]

How much do they hate themselves that they have a slur for the ppl sexually attracted to them. Geez Louise. That’s incredible. Grinder sounds like a lot of fun. 😊

[@tassiodrigues]

I used Grindr sometimes and as a shy guy and very "nerdy" person, it amazes me of how fast gay men get into sex talk and get laid in that app. Things are a bit too practical for me, but the horny men gets things done without wasting any time lmao

[@deaderontheinside6871]

Grindr is not a replacement for self esteem or a meassure of value. Anyone that uses it finds that out in the end! 🤣

[@lisag-mh5rc]

"In the end" 😂 🤣

[@PossibleBat]

Kinda makes sense. Women use tinder as validation/ego boost, only fair trans men use grinder lol 😂

[@Theintrovertednow]

​@@PossibleBat some women are weird like why go to grindr when those who use it are looking for other men to hook up with or date

[@Truthfully3]

New to your channel but am so happy to have found it. My 24yr old son is trans and I love hearing you speak on his and the other trans men and women who just want to live a normal life, not be seen as freak shows. Xx

[@ChromaSoul]

Thanks for keeping it real and distinguishing between real and fake transpeople. I feel like this concept is still new but will eventually catch up to the "trenders" like that woman in the video.

[@viviannichols3582]

I am dying at “it feels kind of violent.” 🤣🤣🤣

[@chaneykane3828]

“What turns other people on has nothing to do with transphobia” PREACH! Like tbh I think Marcus passes as a very handsome man but I couldn’t ever get with him because of the biology and I feel like this is the only safe place where I can admit that haha

[@TonyPaulazzo]

He really is goddamned attractive isn't he? I look at him and think hmmmm... but then I get all kind's of confused 'cause he's not a 'guy' as I know guys - love ya anyway dude (Marcus that is :). Keep speaking True!

[@sarahg2653]

Yeah, he's really cute. Confuses me sometimes haha

[@netjernefer3160]

Same! He is a relly good looking guy but when I think to his nether region I'm like nope.

[@barbaragilbert6444]

Thank you so much for clarifying what a chaser is. I’ve heard the term quite a bit and had zero ideas of what it could be.

[@alijane6675]

You tell it like it is, Marcus. It’s why I subbed, and why I stay engaged with your content. Well done, again.

[@watchonjar]

"not gotten hit on at all" loool welcome to the life of most men

[@QueSeraSeraaaa]

They seriously need to stop..

[@seanpovilaika9321]

Marcus you Kick Ass Man!! I'm just a regular dude but I find your content really informative and refreshing! Oh and your sense of Humor Rocks!!😎

[@Fir3bird23]

You pass really well but I'm soooo happy to hear that you were open about being trans during your time on Grindr! My biggest first concern for my former FTM friends is that they were going to get themselves into dangerous situations by not being honest about the extent of their...equipment up front.

[@Hooperjz78]

What is kind of interesting to me is that i dont recall people being upset about grinder when it came about.. (i could be wrong) it was just an app for gay men 🤷‍♀️... why not just make another app specifically for trans and those people who are cool with dating trans people? Maybe I'm just simple minded I dunno. Though if they did i suppose it would take away the "injustice" some of the trans people are seemingly happy to be screaming about. Lol : i just reached the end of the video... yes Marcus... they could make another app! ❤

[@Lushus40]

Seems to be all about invading spaces where they’re not welcome

[@PurpleGold.]

@@Lushus40 And then complaining that they’re not welcome. Um yeah trans activist invader, that’s how invasions works, the community you’re invading isn’t going to be happy about it. They’re the ones who should be screaming from the roof tops, but they’re not, they just ignore you and now you’re complaining about that. Next you lot are going to complain about regular people breathing. Maybe that’s something you need to look in the mirror about.

[@resurrectionevil6581]

I had the same thought (then got to the end if the video lol). It would make so much sense if they just did a "PRIDE" app, and have anyone and everyone on it. But like the above comment said, they just love to invade and take over spaces, like bullies.

[@grenade8572]

I have a question, I have a question, ma'am!! Do these trans people want to date other trans? Or they just want cis gay men? 🤔

[@megsley]

yeah where is the trans version of jdate? 😂

[@Natasha_bazooca_mommy]

I'm a gay man that happens to not be attracted to transmen at all, but sometimes is hard to be polite cause even when you are trying to say no in the best way possible they do insist a lot and I'm not even starting with the polyamorous bs when I say that I have a boyfriend... It's getting harder and harder, sometimes I wish my mutant genes awakened so I could explode them or myself, it doesnt matter at this point LMAO

[@netjernefer3160]

😂 a "no more trans men" kind of thing

[@Natasha_bazooca_mommy]

@@netjernefer3160 more like: - No more delusional people! (Please I'm begging) LoL

[@anourtine6204]

As a trans woman who was on Grindr, I would receive A TON of messages…. like, 50 in an hour. Chasers and trans amorous men use it to find T girls. I don’t see a problem with that. Being on a gay sex app never gave me dysphoria… surprisingly, I did find true love on it, 4 years ago. Hence why I’m not on it anymore. 😂

[@iplaywithrocksforfun]

Yassss booboo!!! Thank you for being logical and practical. Bringing attention to the majority of people no matter their preference that not all of the 🌈 community plays victim… These individuals are mindless, narcissistic, people quick to label others clearly suffering from mental health issues. You’re a gem!

[@ravenID429]

7:43 It’s like going into a men’s locker room and complaining that it’s too masculine to be “comfortable” for you

[@kropka8259]

The alphabet community is such a mess right now... Hard to force myself to listen to anything coming out of it. Would love to ignore it totally, however, some people are inserting themselves into women spaces, so we kinda need to know what we are dealing with. Tiring tbh.

[@helenromanelli2544]

VERY tiring..as all narc/ entitled people are...

[@michaelbruno1330]

When they come to me with that bullshit I shut it down real quick and tell them to walk away from me before things go south.....that usually does the trick

[@vulcanitu2578]

Loons everywhere

[@RedRoseSeptember22]

It was a mess to begin with.

[@ca678.4]

@@RedRoseSeptember22yup. People being pushovers and not wanting to hurt these people’s feelings is why they are at this point rn. People have them and inch and they took a mile.

[@jbyrne3851]

THANK YOU! They are transvestite! Why does nobody else see that.

[@dianaroach3093]

You put it out there. You will get the crazies that comes with it. Stumbled across this channel by accident. Thanks for the heads up and stay away from the app.

[@stanrix]

This issue has made me realise something about myself. Im not just physically attracted to men. Because even if I was attracted to a former female who had converted to a super masculine man, I would still know that they didn’t experience childhood and puberty as a male. They have experienced being a female and for some reason I find that unattractive and uncomfortable. I can’t really explain it… kinda like how I would never have a female doctor examine my parts. Too weird…

[@thornback5641]

Im with you until refusing medical care. If you need to see a doctor while being comfortable is important(for like primary care) dont discount someone who may be more qualified just due to gender. If you roll into the ER and the doc on call is a woman dont delay your treatment- trust me people in the medical field have seen it all and they just want to get you out and healthy.

[@stanrix]

@@thornback5641 nah man. Women are allowed to refuse a male Gynecologist. I will do the same.

[@Sophia-qr2xk]

@@thornback5641you have a pretty poor understanding of boundaries

[@peoplelikeus3684]

If you're saying you're not into trans men that's fine bro. Dont apologise for it. PC is poison.

[@Bodoque-yt3px]

@@thornback5641couldn’t he just ask for a male doctor or nurse or something

[@violetkalico]

0:15 Same thing with the lesbian dating app ‘Her’ but now biological women are getting banned because they don’t date trans women. It’s a mess.

[@Faith_Chi]

That should not be a thing. Forcing people to date what they're not into.

[@LittleLulubee]

It’s horrible!! I don’t feel comfortable with those creepy looking guys there! 😭😭

[@Muniaczek90]

​@@LittleLulubeei went to the lesbian dating app as Bi lady looking for other ladies. The amount of buffy bearded trans women that clearly didnt even transition hitting me up disgusted me 😂 whats worse is them sending eggplants to me and complaining no woman want them. Because its a dating up for strictly women that look for women geez... ofc my profile been reported for beeing transphobic 😂

[@eddiehjalmarsson5966]

Im gay and i was using an app called Grizzly for gay bears a couple of years ago and i actually once stumbled upon a woman on that app. But i think she was just misstaking the app for being a general dating app. I Kinda felt bad for her, she seemed so lost and innocent 😅

[@ladyfootZ]

I went on found my one brother and got off the app..... I just wanted to see if he was alright where he's at? And he came out for a visit at Christmastime.

[@Flyig_Walrus]

I just don't understand these ppl. We all know what Grinder is used for!!

[@sashabell4700]

Anything called Grindr doesn’t sound like looking for a soul mate.

[@JennySimon206]

The controllers love mind control. They have been trying to perfect it for a long time. I strongly believe they have actors Influencing us and or boost certain people in the algorithms to drive mass formation psychosis.

[@dlane7539]

Humans have reproduced for millions of years because we are attracted to certain traits of our mates.