Why Gentle Parenting Doesn't Work! [ + WTF It Actually Is!]

[@generyde9173]

Not too strict. Not too lenient. Don't bubble wrap your kids. A few bumps and disappointments are healthy.

[@confidentlymom]

No fancy labels, just common sense! Love it!

[@megane9248]

I can attest that gentle parenting creates monsters. I was a teacher between 2021 and 2022 and I don’t miss how exhausting it was to try and make them stay in their seats and stop talking. Guess they’ll be clogging up some probation officer’s caseload one day!

[@confidentlymom]

Thanks for sharing your experience! The compilation videos I've seen of teachers - even those of 20+ years - have been horrifying! And I didn't even get into the Sephora craze from earlier this year (or was it last year?) I do think a big shift is coming for the better and hopefully no one ends up in jail along the way 😅

[@bellavida7129]

GP is not at all about being meek, avoiding conflict, using soft voices all the time, distracting from feeling AT ALL (exact opposite actually) You are misleading people with the title of this video. if you don’t follow the actual rules of gp and are doing permissive parenting, that is not the fault of gp. You said a lot without saying anything. This is a video completely confusing people instead of having anything to do with what gentle parenting is.

[@confidentlymom]

Where are the actual rules of GP stated?

[@melrod1318]

It's literally defined as no punishment. They have 0 motivation to behave. Kids are out of control because the don't fear any consequences of their actions. No one can stand these kids.

[@melrod1318]

​@@confidentlymomno punishment

[@bellavida7129]

Gentle/positive parenting is often confused with permissive parenting which is what you are talking about. There are absolutely consequences in gp; some natural and some logical. There are no punishments per se, because children are still developing and growing; rather there are clear boundaries established that when crossed are met with connection and guidance, instead of time-outs, threats, as these are ineffective in the long run and are not developmentally appropriate for a child whose brain is still developing.

[@bellavida7129]

It is more of a framework defined by the following: empathy, connection, guidance, boundaries. If you have a specific question, I will do my best to address that.