Women, Is It Time To Make The First Move?

[@alanyuan8565]

We're at a point where LOOKING at a woman is now considered harassment and we have videos of women saying how uncomfortable men make them when they ask them.

[@stevenmcallister9952]

No. No we’re not. Looking doesn’t constitute harassment and never has. Those men were doing a lot more than just looking at them.

[@R_wir3]

​@@stevenmcallister9952like the dude who saved a feminist's life, but ended up suing him for harassment.

[@stevenmcallister9952]

@@R_wir3 one outlier doesn’t prove that all women are like this. There are cases of men doing that same thing, but it’s wrong to say you shouldn’t help men. You should know better than to generalize. Generalizations are always wrong.

[@fredhughes4115]

@@stevenmcallister9952 That WAS a joke right?

[@DDD11239]

​@@stevenmcallister9952 Are you a woman with a man's name, or just a man trying to "not be like other men"?

[@tmntgirl4life]

My mom gave me the advice when I was looking for someone she said “if you see a nice guy just simply smile and if he is interested he would let you know” that Sunday I spotted this fella with his family I never saw in our church a few pews behind me. In my mind was like he is so cute so I simply smiled and he smiled back. The rest of the service I kept wanted to turn back but forced myself to look forward but I felt something telling me to turn around and I did and gave him another smile. His family left right away so I couldn’t talk to him but we saw each other again the next Sunday and his family stayed to socialize. I decided to just approach him and say hi as I turn around to look for him. He was right behind me and introduced himself. We now have been married 3 years and have a baby. And my husband has said “the reason I married you is because of your gorgeous smile.” It does make all the difference ladies.

[@iguess2739]

"in our church" So that's why

[@initiatorhater0688]

i assume he was the one that asked you out though

[@tmntgirl4life]

@@initiatorhater0688yes he did. My first move was legit the smile which he approached me introduced ourselves and chatted and he asked me out but we chose the venue together which was a church fundraiser vs a coffee shop. The fundraiser was the day after Valentine’s Day that we had our first date and during the fundraiser at the last dance of the night during the song “I can’t Help falling in Love with You” from Elvis he whispered if he would be my boyfriend and i agreed

[@ch3cksund3ad]

Yeah, that worked for you It rarely works for anyone else I had a woman do this, and she ghosted me after she planned a day to get together

[@qmulus1]

Most women will never do this with most men. Most men are considered unattractive by most women.

[@meve531]

Men are not hard to please. As a wife of 12 years here's my advice: 1. Be kind and respectful 2. Be loyal 3. Feed him 4. Sleep with him 5. Keep your home clean

[@crazysilly2914]

This is a copy-paste: My roommate got the cops called on him by his girlfriend of one year. The allegations were so serious that even after assurance from his lawyer that he has a solid case, he violated the terms of his parole and fled the country to return home in secret. He was about to graduate from his 3 year program as well. I was cleaning out the things he left behind and he had dozens of pipe cleaner flowers and a jar filled with 100 compliments among other leftovers from their relationship. Even after all that lovey dovey crap she destroyed his life. I have never had a girlfriend before and getting one sounds even riskier then before.

[@Yoni0505Blogspot]

sadly women who can do these 5 simple things are extremely uncommon these days.

[@suryasingh9738]

@meve531 What about doing fun things with him?

[@meve531]

@suryasingh9738 oh sure! I'm not saying this is a complete list, just the basics. Probably depends on his love language too

[@steven121290]

@@suryasingh9738 it's a bonus but not a necessity. If you can do the 5 things listed above, you are pretty much guaranteed to be married at some point, even if you're not that attractive. by the way, #5 includes not being an emotional wreck and stressing your man out with unreasonable mind games.

[@bookworm_thg]

i think especially the whole "ick" thing definitely made a LOT of guys lose confidence when it comes to making the first move

[@kabuto2339]

omg .thank you so much . as a guy who experienced that feeling its really good that a girl is calling that out. now i still get ptsd from that.

[@mysteriouscameraman]

This is so true. The only reason some men make the first move is because the woman has to put out 100000 hints and make sure the man knows there are no icks before they can make the move. Icks have ruined modern dating.

[@Ghillie_Beast_yt]

@@mysteriouscameraman those hints will always go over our heads

[@Michael_Pepin]

​@@Ghillie_Beast_yt Or if they don't go over your head, you convince yourself that you're thinking crazy and she was just being nice

[@Ghillie_Beast_yt]

@@Michael_Pepin that’s usually my thought process

[@tk6613]

From a guy: this would make an ocean's worth of difference. Thank you, Brett.

[@blueiepureesteluca]

That's how it worked with my boyfriend. I liked him from the moment I saw him. So I went on and said hi so he knew I'm open to talk in case he wanted to. Worked like a dream for us

[@aylahfife7308]

@tk6613 would it really? I've asked out guys before and it's never been received well...

[@tk6613]

@aylahfife7308, I hear you. There is no certainty in this type of situation. People can react in innumerable ways, and it is unfortunate that the approach has not worked for you thus far. I do believe that it is the right approach from a broader perspective. I think that this will fix the problem - at scale. Excluding one particularly outgoing and unabashed friend of mine, the rest of my mates do not want to make women feel uncomfortable or threatened. Even if we would like to express interest, we miss that opening opportunity for this reason. If I may have an additional moment to elucidate, using myself as an example: I am a bald gentleman with a slightly built frame. I also have a beard, though well-maintained. I'm early 30s. I am a military veteran, and I generally move about in a purposeful manner. I have been told my general appearance can be intimidating (by men and women). For me, it's become second nature - through training. The kicker: I'm a total nerd. I love reading, learning in general, playing card games, board games, and video games on occasion. I even watch anime sometimes. I like computers, and financial concepts. And I love theoretical and/or philosophical discussions. Overall, I'm quite mellow. I am a severe introvert, and I have studied body language (for several years) in order to communicate with people more effectively. I observe how my general appearance or movement makes those around me uncomfortable. It's not constant, of course. But it does happen. If you knew nothing about me as mentioned, and I approached you - how might you feel?

[@aylahfife7308]

@tk6613 honestly I think I'd be really excited just to talk to someone, for reference, I'm quite a young woman and my dad is also ex-military and can be intimidating. I've asked out multiple guys before and the thing that's really off putting is the consistent response I'm getting which is, "ew, you're crazy, you should off yourself" I want to put myself out there but there's too many things I worry about. Will he try to take advantage of me? Does he actually like me or is just going along with it for fun? Is he gonna call me terrible things? Am I going to be the one wearing the pants in the relationship, cause that's not what I want at all, I really just want to be honestly pursued by a guy who's genuinely interested in me, which has never happened before

[@tk6613]

@aylahfife7308 @aylahfife7308, those that would ask you to 'off yourself' are clearly in need of further development. That type of behavior is unacceptable. Men do not behave this way. Children, perhaps. There is a graceful way to turn somebody down, however you may feel. Personality, appearance, ethics, interests, and (unfortunately) politics are all factors. That person(s) could have said: "No, but thank you." Let us hope these person(s) grow up. They sound young. There are males who have a using nature, and who are "along for the fun." Undeniably so. I would say the same exists for women, though that parasitic nature would present itself differently. What is your risk tolerance? I suppose we could choose to never reach out to anybody - but that doesn't accomplish our hopeful goal either. Good guys - generally speaking - understand that there is a physical power dynamic. We would much prefer women to see that as strength, safety, and protection for them. We do not want women seeing that as a weapon for abuse. My friends and I abhor the notion. I have taken risks in starting both conversations and relationships. Certainly, it was an uncomfortable experience. But I have had some excellent relationships as a result. Some were several years long. Though they did not last, I gained a tremendous amount of life experience from them. I would not trade those experiences. I rarely think on them negatively, either. I would not stop trying, were I you. It may work out wonderfully. If not, at least you'll learn something from the experience. And if you find a creep, then there's always pepper spray 🌶🌶🌶👍

[@bbyhulk21]

It's funny that Brett says it's a small percentage of women ruining it for the majority of women but the internet is inundated with women saying it has to be the "right" man to approach them.

[@mood2246]

LIES. Tick tok is not the whole internet and NOT a reliable source. Literally has the D@mbest people on the planet on that app. its super toxic cesspool

[@CHUUUUUUYYA]

i feel like the reason these women stay quite (who want to be approached first) is cuz they are afraid to be labeled a an "outcast", "misogynistic", "anti feminist" or some other stupid title like they started calling women "tradwife". Thus they have a free stage to do or say whatever they want can and can promote any thing

[@Yuukicrossx01]

I've been saying this for a long time. PUT YOUR PHONE DOWN! My husband and me when we go out to eat or to do anything, our phones are in our pockets/(my purse). The reason being is our focus is on each other. Also, we met at Denny's Diner, he came up to me and asked me if I wanted to join him him for dinner. We sat and laughed and joked and talked for an hour and a half. We have been married for 8 years now. It's amazing that if you just put your phone down and look at the person in front of you, things begin to change!

[@luisekahnt7387]

Putting your phones away in social situations is so important and yet so seldomly done. It shows to the people around you that you are there for them 100% and that you value their presence. To me there are only 2 exceptions when it's okay to have your phone out and even use it. The first is using it together to show pictures, look up something relevant to the conversation, or write down a note or future date. The 2nd exception is any kind of quasi emergency situation going on, which could be a sister/friend/wife being pregnant near their due date and you don't want to miss the go call, or a family member across the country is having a medical crisis and you're waiting for an update, etc.

[@adisan4679]

Well that was a different time now things are quite different

[@indiasupportstrumpwwg1wga927]

why didn’t you ask him to sit with you for dinner at Dennys?

[@Yuukicrossx01]

@@indiasupportstrumpwwg1wga927 because I believe men should take the lead. I'm not a feminist at all! I grew up in a conservative house hold and my father always told the lead.

[@BS_Profile]

He got EXTREMELY lucky. Most women would've said "no thanks" and then after he left, proceeded to tell all of their friends (and possibly all of TikTok) about the "weird creepy guy at Denny's" and how she doesn't feel safe now.

[@jonathanwingmusic]

Sad thing is, I don't think smiling or small talk is really considered a green light anymore. Men can be labelled creeps for "misreading signals" - assuming there is an invitation to flirt where there was none - and therefore don't really bother.

[@bookworm_thg]

yeahhh exactly

[@HigumaHoney]

that's why you should seek opportunities to hang out more! like grab a few people to go on a group luncheon and try to sit next to her or somewhere you can have a direct conversation with her. gradually shrink the size of this group until it's just you two grabbing coffee before the gym or a smoothie after a workout. then you ask her out on an official date! it's true that most men don't understand building up to the moment of truth.

[@boopyournose5698]

Because it actually isn't a green light, a lot of times that is friendliness or being polite.

[@Astrofrank]

Correct

[@Uwanasora]

Yeah, my best advice is to ignore the whole signal thing and just go up to someone you like respectfully and make your intentions clear in a respectful manner. If the person does anything except treat you with the same level of respect, ignore them. They are a low-grade husk of what a human being actually is.

[@comment3711]

Women, be gracious and kind when you are approached. If you aren’t interested say “Oh, thank you, I’m very flattered but I’m taken” or something like that. Men have feelings too and it doesn’t cost you anything to be nice.

[@wyattterrell]

@@comment3711 they get off on making men suffer the social and emotional damage they can inflict on us (especially publicly)

[@victoriaseawatch5407]

@@comment3711 but I'm not taken...

[@comment3711]

@ If you are really uninterested, say “Oh thank you, I’m very flattered but I'm not looking to date right now” or something like that.

[@benjaminv6489]

Years ago, I approached a girl I met through a friend, just trying to be friendly, and she instantly labeled me as a creep. She made a big deal out of it, even warning her friends to steer clear of me. It's experiences like this that have made me hesitant to approach women anymore. It’d be great if women took the initiative sometimes-it might change the whole dynamic.

[@SanchoPanza-wg5xf]

Many girls have never had a positive relationship with any man, be it a father, grandfather or uncle. Many have listened to their single mothers' strife with a string of "uncles" for years. You were treated unfairly.

[@UserRobot215]

Men need to stay away from women, and women should keep to themselves. All in all, both sides should ignore each other

[@HigumaHoney]

in college, there was a guy who was actively stalking his crush. one day he ran home (he lived next door to me) all freaked out coz the object of his affection had rallied a group of friends to reverse stalk him. they got one of his roommates to open the door and cornered him in the living room. tl'dr, she also liked him, and then they became the most lovey dovey couple i knew in my 4 years at college.

[@SayCheeseAndDie01]

@@UserRobot215stupid take

[@UserRobot215]

@@SayCheeseAndDie01 how come?

[@nichlasnest]

I made the first move, and we are going to be celebrating our 35th anniversary this year. We've raised seven wonderful children, are expecting grandchild number 14 and just moved our youngest out of our home to her new career. Go for it ladies! You may be amazed what a wonderful life you can have!

[@harleyskawronik6382]

35 years, that's beautiful.

[@blake7587]

Dude this is such a stupid comment. “35th Anniversay” as if you have ANY idea what it’s like today. 🙄 This isn’t 1950.

[@Louisee_]

@@blake7587 have some respect

[@avigobbleweiden]

@@blake7587dude what is your issue

[@blake7587]

@@Louisee_ No not when it’s totally irrelevant. Comparing his experience 35 years ago as if we can learn from it today is ridiculous. Today if someone listened to his advice they’d be in jail.

[@hatchhermit77]

If women made the first move, we'd still have 90% of men not being approached.

[@genshinsage]

Exactly! 90% of men are invisible ghosts.

[@Twotone-ld1fb]

True, most women are only looking for the top 1-5% of men. And then there is an issue with men that fall in that bracket that are Chads and Tyrone's that are keeping multiple women on the chain just feeding their false hope of landing him.

[@atyomommashouse9881]

This is the BIG thing that isn't being discussed,tradcons like Brett Cooper won't discuss this because it's part of their grift. VERY attractive men ARE being approached,but this is such a small number of men due to women's Hollywood/TikToc standards that men think it's not happening. And women don't see these things from mens point of view because they don't actually view men as "human" (date-able) unless he's attractive or rich.

[@Dwbulldog04]

There are Facebook groups in different cities called “Are we dating the same man”. I saw a video where a friend group of women went out with the same guy on Hinge without knowing it until later. This was in New York City for context

[@father5946]

@@Dwbulldog04 That's because they all chase after the same guys lol aka chad and Tyrone. aka 80% of women chasing after 20% of men. Probably 90/10 now.

[@TheNCreid]

If you want men to approach more, the culture around the topic needs to change. That's something women have to do. Men cannot do it, we won't be listened to. When you see posts and vids disparaging a man who tried to approach and did nothing wrong, or calling all men trash, etc., women need to call if out and shame the poster into stopping. Go Joey Swole on them. As long as those kind of posts are responded to with likes, "yes queens", and positivity, the only takeaway men at large will have is that women agree with it. Women need to be loudly confrontational to other women and say "You're out of line, you're making things worse, I don't support you."

[@uhnetwork7506]

I agree but they won’t and that’s why it’s just gonna get worse it’s sad really

[@laurenmiddleton1906]

Heck no, I don't agree with girls treating men like trash, those girls are trash. Most women who are conservative don't run men's names through the mud. I knew when I wasn't married that guys have it tough when it comes to asking women (not girls) out. I would never try to make them feel bad.There's a difference between women and girls.

[@Sparklyeyedmisfit]

..Women can make the first move..I have..but all women..are not the same..but listening to horror stories..😢.. isn't going to get you results..I've asked men out..every single one so far..said no..that is the risk that I took...I have to keep trying..❤..😊

[@kryptonianguest1903]

@@Sparklyeyedmisfit I suggest looking for a social gathering place where the men who go there like the type of woman that you are. Trying random guys on the street or the grocery store or places like that, has low odds of success for you.

[@Captain_Mulligan]

Correct, but women are usually group-followers at baseline. They have a strong desire to be accepted by other women, and are very unlikely to check other women if they think the group is against them

[@brighid324]

I technically made the first move on my fiancé. He was speaking with another girl but it became clear that she was not interested. Not sure what happened but i had a moment of boldness and i moved our casual friend convos into more flirty ones and indicated that id like to go on a date. Now we are engaged to be married in April! My mom on the other hand straight up asked my dad "When are you going to ask me out on a date?" and now theyre going on 28 years of marriage.

[@NerdlySquared]

It’s really that simple. Approaches made by men are rebuffed on average 89% of the time (measured by getting a number), while female made approaches are rebuffed only 20% of the time. That is women in all levels of attractiveness. Keep in mind that rejection rate includes men who are not single. So just by pure math, it’s like literally picking any guy you want and getting at least a contact, that’s how it works out in practice for women who do it. The women who can turn a contact into a relationship thereafter (rarer) are laughing.

[@peterharrell7305]

That's basically how my wife got my attention. "Aren't you going to ask for my number?!" I had no idea how to react.

[@Laure__Line]

Your mom is the best ! 😂

[@william_SMMA]

@@peterharrell7305 my man folded 😂

[@rodolfoarielgarciatecpa8459]

I'm glad it worked of for you. However, men are told that we are abusive and predators if we engage in a situation like the one you are just describing "turning a platonic relationship into a romantic one". I've heard women hate this, they will say something like "he was a fake friend" or "he never actually cared about me".

[@jakevaughn7656]

I approached my husband (this is his account lol). I talked to him at the bus stop after class in college and asked him to get on the bus with me (he was getting on a different bus that went on the same route so I said “well, why don’t you get on this one with me?”). And he did and then later he asked me out :) now we’re married with a baby

[@UserRobot215]

@@jakevaughn7656 creepy

[@jameslopez5652]

That is so damn cool. Love seeing success stories. Married 22 years and many decades to go. Keep on, keeping on!

[@depressedraptorsfan4907]

As a dude let me tell you, if a girl ever approached me to ask for my number or even just talk to me in the gym or sum I would go numb that shit never happens 😂😂 i would not give her a harassment charge

[@Ghillie_Beast_yt]

I would probably think it’s a joke or something

[@Chris.Rhodes]

​@@Ghillie_Beast_yt right. As a man, who's wife of 12 years just ghosted me back in February, women are crazy now n days.

[@__thebadger]

​@@Ghillie_Beast_yteither that or she's with the Cia. Can't be any other reason

[@JugglingJuggalos]

Ikr? Not that I'm going to have a lot of girls approaching me, but now I have to worry about it more😅

[@mr.s9783]

Moo ok at if us are so damn oblivious that we won’t even know if a girl is dropping hints. If you want a guy and he’s not getting it, MAKE HIM GET IT.

[@Kevin_Oskar]

A smile and a "hi" isn't always a green light from women. Sometimes they're just being nice. How do one tell the difference?

[@__thebadger]

Correct. I'm a bit of a gym rat, and I've heard all over the spectrum on this. Looking over and smiling can be one woman's way of "being nice" and another woman's way of flirting. Some women will say that if they like a guy, they will go up and ask if they can work in with them for a couple of sets. Others will say that they do it all the time because they want to do their routine and don't care about working in with someone. Just like poker, everyone has a different tell.

[@john-doe842]

True

[@anneshirley4942]

Haha I smile at anyone in the gym who will make eye contact but I would be more than happy to have a guy come up and talk to me 😂

[@anneshirley4942]

@@__thebadger I was in the gym the other day and I was taking a drink from my water bottle and walking at the same time, accidentally poured water down the front of myself 🤦made direct eye contact with the guy walking towards me and laughed and he didn't even smile... People in the gym are confusing 😂

[@lorieakin5771]

Women when they like a guy will smile while showing their teeth. If she's not into you, it will a pleasant smile and not showing her teeth. First smiles don't count, it will be that second smile that will let you know if she likes you.

[@PinballClinic]

If I start getting harassed by women now, I blame YOU Brett!

[@j.arelylopez3053]

lol!

[@RCDiaz-Balart]

Imagine a generation that is extremely open about choosing their own gender, extremely open about their sexuality and at the same time so fragile about human interaction that every interaction is sexual harassment?

[@gouthamvarma381]

generation of WOMEN call it what it is

[@stevenmcallister9952]

Go touch grass. The internet isn’t real life. Nobody considers every interaction as harassment. That’s just red pill propaganda.

[@mikezerker6925]

@@gouthamvarma381exactly! Men have basically stayed the same, it’s the delulu women that have gone nuts

[@DDD11239]

​@@mikezerker6925Delulu? Strange slang.

[@mikezerker6925]

@@DDD11239 I can’t spell out the word (deelusionaaal) because YT deletes my comment (I already tried) that’s the only reason!

[@laradacostamuniz4714]

I started a conversation with my husband. One year later we got married and we have been happy for almost 14 years now! He is shy and I just gave him the 'nudge'/'green light' and ta-da 😂🤣

[@Esmeralda-2003]

That's cool. I am dating my boyfriend because I came up to him and started talking to him. Well, we were friends first and then we developed feelings for each other. But that is how we came together. By me going to talk to him.

[@jim2386]

Hey word here is “talk”! Women think they’re giving huge signals and us men don’t do non verbal cues well, or if by a miracle we think we saw a signal, we’ll assume worst case and move on. Why? Because with most men if you’re not saying in verbally, you’re not “saying”anything. My wife made me realize this many times. The classic “Tony and Stacey must be having relationship problems.” -wife Me: “Hows that, they didn’t tell me anything…” Wife: “you didn’t notice she didn’t have a ring on and how she didn’t look at him all night?” Me: “No….wow.” I swear it’s one of women’s superpowers from being brought up to socialize non verbally or something. :)

[@YouFoundNick]

Anything can be considered "cat calling" in the eyes of the law. That falls in the category of s- harassment. As a 22 year old man, I'm not making the first move. That's why we're shy. We don't want to be sued.

[@oriontherealironman]

That's really all it takes, we men are not complicated 😂

[@Mogamishu]

Only because he is tall.

[@benzmuda7589]

Even if we get a few dates, most men don't believe that women will actually stick with you through thick and thin. No one is actually" ride or die" or "till death do us part" anymore. No point even starting a relationship when you only have about a 20-30% chance of it actually working out for the long haul.

[@lordwife]

I had 2 long term boyfriends, a situationship, and a few guys I dated before I met my husband of 18 years. Of course most relationships don’t work out. Statistically they can’t. But if I never tried or was truly open to them I would never have married or even me him. I hope you find a woman you can trust and love, we are out there, but sometimes are hard to find.

[@benzmuda7589]

@@lordwife I'm happy to hear that things worked out for you. I realized long ago that I can not offer enough of what women today want and I stopped pursuing. I haven't asked for a phone number in over 15 years, much less asking anyone on a date. But it that time 'no one even showed me body language that I should talk to them. Also I'm already old and used to solitude. Idk if I can stand someone other than my dog to live with me anymore.

[@lordwife]

@@benzmuda7589 Women today kinda suck. But there are a lot of women who aren’t modern. I’m glad you are happy.

[@kenstrumpf909]

Every time a woman asked me out I said yes. I was always delighted and flattered. This lead to several relationships one of which is my marriage.

[@aylahfife7308]

really? I've asked out multiple men before and i've always gotten horrible and mean rejections. Where are the guys like you at? Cause i've never met anyone that would even consider being approached by a woman

[@kenstrumpf909]

@@aylahfife7308 I don’t know. I’m sure if you had asked me out and I was still single I’d have said yes.

[@aylahfife7308]

@Vladi2102 they were definitely not super attractive guys, they were just rude, but it's a common sentiment where I'm from

[@杠精-e3h]

Only ever happened to me once... She was VERY obese, and I basically spent 20 minutes trying to convince her I only saw her as a friend. That was not true, reality was like WTF? Megan, I don't even fucking like you, you're annoying as fuck and spending an hour with you sounds horrible. She later claimed that I called her a fat bitch and a bunch of stuff that never happened.

[@seanl6478]

@@aylahfife7308I’d have to say it depends on the age. I can see a lot of 20 year olds trying to follow some KZbin personality… “sigma” and nonsense like that. Ive seen lots of women on KZbin ask guys for their numbers and they were just total jackasses to them for 0 reason.

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

Millions of women say they can't get dates. Ask them how many times they've asked anyone on dates & the answer is usually zero.

[@colorfuloddity]

Not always, I’ve asked more guys on dates than I’ve been asked out myself

[@MetalGearLiberty]

@@colorfuloddityhe said usually not always

[@Nicholas-ze5vv]

The issue is the guessing game. They won't even show interest in guys they like. If they won't even show interest, do they just expect guys to read their minds, or ask every pretty girl they pass on a date?

[@chupachuuups706]

@@colorfuloddityhe said the answer is usually zero. And it’s true. It’s not about you

[@MagicWandn]

But i thought women were so empowered and so strong and independent.

[@vladimirefest4980]

My roommate got the cops called on him by his girlfriend of one year. The allegations were so serious that even after assurance from his lawyer that he has a solid case, he violated the terms of his parole and fled the country to return home in secret. He was about to graduate from his 3 year program as well. I was cleaning out the things he left behind and he had dozens of pipe cleaner flowers and a jar filled with 100 compliments among other leftovers from their relationship. Even after all that lovey dovey crap she destroyed his life. I have never had a girlfriend before and getting one sounds even riskier then before.

[@SD-mi2vc]

Fuck...

[@belaytriks]

A sugestion watch out for 3 things: How she treats people "below" her, specially at their backs. How she treats people she has nothing to gain. How she treats elders and children. Most people nature is revealed there. Good luck.

[@Bulletproofyourhealth]

There are creepy people in both genders

[@LostHate]

All single woman need to watch this. 100% true all of it.

[@j.arelylopez3053]

Trust me I’m listening! I’m taking mental notes!

[@Thoseeyesozise]

I just love how when a normal man says 'smile more' it is almost a hate crime but when Matthew says it, it becomes a profound statement that fell from the heavens.

[@emmam8320]

It’s not what you say but how you say it

[@fredhughes4115]

@@emmam8320 Or how YOU choose to interpret it.

[@emmam8320]

@@fredhughes4115 if someone says something to you with attitude or condescension how would you interpret it? Kind of like your comment with all caps “YOU” it’s coming off as hostile. If you said something along the lines of “ya there’s that but also people need to learn to interpret without emotions getting involved” I’d agree with you

[@Thoseeyesozise]

@@emmam8320 I love how you IMMEDIATELY ASSSUME that men say smile more in a mean, rude, negative or hurtful way... YOU are the problem, little miss. With your performative outrage.. I say this to so many people, mainly men.. Think more before you reply or comment because you show yourself to be a fool.

[@Thoseeyesozise]

@@emmam8320 Grow up

[@Mmarg13]

I started conversation with a boy standing near the beer pong table at a party in 2016, started dating in 2017, now we’ll be married in October. Turns out we grew up in the same city but never met until college. We were neighbors, but never met until that party. Put yourself out there because you never know when you’ll meet THAT person ❤

[@initiatorhater0688]

but i assume he was the one that asked you out or asked for your phone number

[@KtCleansAlot]

I very recently made the first move with a guy, we've been seeing eachother for almost a month now. I'm so glad I reached out and got to know him. Don't be afraid to speak up and approach somebody!

[@crazysilly2914]

most women are not like you though, sadly...

[@themarauder6108]

Women can't handle rejection. When i was in college, a girl in my class asked for my number. When i turned her down, she along with her friends told others in my class i was gay.

[@comentaristametaforico9287]

Fragile femininity.

[@Lovecove4]

Wtf you think men handle it better? Men literally get violent and angry when women reject them.

[@stevenmcallister9952]

Yeah one bad experience totally proves that all women can’t handle rejection 🙄. Get over yourself.

[@R_wir3]

​@@stevenmcallister9952but it's a pretty common thing, that happened to me and a couple of friends. But In my case she ended up looking bad because I told her she was questioning my love interests, and you know how woke modern society is when you use "gay" as an insult.

[@stevenmcallister9952]

@@R_wir3 Anecdotes aren’t proof of anything and she has every right to question your “love interests”. That doesn’t make her look bad. You were just desperately trying to pressure her into dating you. No woman owes you anything.

[@dheerpatel7828]

Women changed the rules. Now the worst case scenario isn't a simple no, it's a life sentence in prison based on false harassment allegations. When the consequences of even looking at a women these days are so severe why would I try? The benefits don't outweigh the risks. Also had a friend who tried approaching a woman at the park once she recorded it and posted it all over her social media to embrass him. It's just not worth it anymore. Unless I get a clear signal that a woman wants me approach her I'm staying as far away as possible.

[@jus4000kicks]

Wonderful. Thanks for looking for solutions to this issue.

[@jay-t1030]

As a single 27 yr old man I definitely gave up on approaching women, too many unnecessary rude rejections. Forever single I guess.

[@adelstander4900]

Noooo, dont give up. The right one will come your way if you are open to it.

[@richardjreidii]

There are far worse things. No fault divorce means that you can do absolutely nothing wrong and still lose half of everything you’ve ever worked for. The numbers are a little fuzzy, but it’s between 10% and 30% of fathers are raising children that aren’t theirs and are unaware of it. You will not be believed if you are the victim of domestic violence. On that same note, you will not be believed if you’re the victim of a sexual assault by a woman, * especially * if it is your wife. ----- Alternatively, you can just enjoy your life. As a man, it takes so much less to make us happy.

[@whitey6433]

​@@adelstander4900 don't lie to him. That's some cliche shit I've been hanging on to that's not doing anything😂

[@whitey6433]

Right there with ya, brother. I just turned 27 and pulled outta dating nearly 3 or 4 years ago. Forever single ✌🏽

[@reanschwarzer2187]

28 same boat as a conservative women today just don’t have my values

[@szechuon6971]

Matthew Hussey gave me the best advice when I was a single woman. He said that women fall into the trap of putting in waaaaaaay too much effort early on and that's part of the reason why we get frustrated when a man walks away. So he advised that you MATCH effort at the beginning. If he is only texting you short one-word responses, you respond in kind. It really helped me remove the emotions from the early stages of dating and kept me level headed and not broke up if a guy ghosted me. Dude is smart.

[@PeacefulSushi-jo4fo]

Basically you’re saying “read the room” it’s not that deep lol.

[@bundlewade]

Matthew is great. I often resonate with his advice a lot. He’s allowed me to realize that someone can have excuses but that does not invalidate my reality of them putting in no effort. I don’t need to fall for their excuses if I’m being neglected. 😊 But it’s also important to be open and to show interest and reciprocate effort overtly.

[@el_killorcure]

In other words, to keep score? Can't think of any relationship that can survive that. You'll end up like in The War of the Roses (bitter and resentful that you settled, yet blaming him).

[@de14jabs]

Or reciprocate proportionally?

[@JuliMariDreams]

Yes!!! Love that! Express interest and show open but not overwhelming. I showed the door open to interest to my now hubby, but left time for him to follow up and ask on the actual first date.

[@a_rose_from_cali]

Brett…thank you. I’m in my mid 30s and this gave me sooooo much hope!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! Congratulations to Summer and Ethan 🥳🍾God bless you both for sharing this. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@JHayes90]

My lady is the one that reached out to me. And this is BY FAR the best relationship I have been in. We lift each other up, and we work through any issues we have together. As a team. 3.5 years and going strong. Ladies, speak up, you might just find the love of your life. ♥️

[@sickpuppy575]

Anyone want to bet 100$ that shit falls apart on year five? Any takers?

[@mrstealyoblocks4473]

You told us to leave you alone. We listened. There's no going back.

[@Baltimorelax]

Exactly.

[@LeeLeeBellePBJLee]

I have a friend who is an autistic man, he's a hopeless romantic, he basically gave up on finding love because it's too much of a minefield. I mean, if non-autistic men can't figure out which women want to be approached and which will take it as harassment how is someone who has a brain that naturally struggles with social cues supposed to figure it out?

[@crazysilly2914]

EXACTLY ME. I don’t even have regular FRIENDS because of my struggles with social cues. If Im trying to make friends with another guy, even if it starts out good at first, eventually they get cold to me and try to stay away from me. I think they might be getting weirded out by me? I don’t even know...

[@m_jay5]

I am a socially awkward introverted guy with high functioning autism, so if a woman was the one to make the first move on me I'd no doubt be taken aback in a very positive way!

[@Fullmag]

I downloaded Hinge and Bumble a month ago and deleted them already. Absolute dumpster fire. My anecdotal experience was getting a few dozen matches I was kinda excited about. I would open up the conversation with something funny and reference their dog, my dogs or cows. Within a few replies I'd try to drive the conversation to "I can pass along my number or social" and ask them to out. I'm 6'3, I workout, fairly successful in life and not a complete bore to be around... every single one would ghost. Do people actually want to date on dating apps or do they just want the validation that comes from a match and a little banter? I don't want to be one of those jaded types. I think that's super unattractive. So I'm deleting them and hired a matchmaker for now. At least I will be able to vet someone's values and intentions and actually go on a frickin date.

[@70stastic]

I had the same experience years ago with online dating and dating in general. I quit all that almost 10 years ago and don't look back

[@reanschwarzer2187]

It’s just validation or the top 5% bro sorry it’s not being jaded it is the reality

[@crazysilly2914]

a FEW DOZEN?!?!? Dang man you are far more successful than most guys… when I tried, I got only 3 matches in 2 months….

[@dan22482]

@@crazysilly2914 I was gonna say the same thing. Dude doesn't realize how easy he has it being 6' 3".. I'm not short necessarily (5'10") but I'm lucky to get even one match a month on bumble with daily swiping. Total waste of time.

[@stacy-annmorgan6685]

@@Fullmag as a woman for my first time trying to meet someone I used a dating app since I didn’t go much places. I didn’t last 2 weeks. I explicitly told my values and was getting matches but when I looked at profile I knew we would not be compatible. Nope not doing it again. Some people it work for others no. Im thankful though I started a conversation with a guy and it led me to an amazing church but we did not last because he threw up too much red flags for me to ignore. I don’t know how women don’t see the red flags and waste years on foolishness. People too scared to be alone they pick the wrong person. I rather be alone than pick the wrong person out of desperation. Hope you find someone great.

[@MetalMama-Mimi523]

4/9/87 I asked my now husband out for Chinese food, because (1) I'd never had Chinese food before, (2) I didn't want to eat a tv dinner & most importantly (3) he was really hot. 37 years later, we're still eating Chinese food.

[@samantharawson4216]

That's a long time of only having Chinese food. I respect the dedication ;)

[@zayinseven7923]

Haha. Thats beautiful

[@HigumaHoney]

chances are y'all still haven't had authentic chinese food before. most asian food in the usa isn't authentic.

[@MetalMama-Mimi523]

@@samantharawson4216 Well, I don't believe I said we only eat Chinese food or that we eat it everyday, now did I? No, I did not, but there's always gotta be someone to take a big dump on something positive someone says. Why?

[@samantharawson4216]

@MetalMama-Mimi523 girl I was making a joke. Chill. Hence the winky face. "37 years later we're still eating Chinese food" do ya get the joke boomer?

[@yumni.0334]

'Some women have ruined it for others by acting horribly' EXACTLY. It's normal to show interest in someone, like looking or respectful flirting, DOES NOT EQUAL being a creep, even if you're not attracted to the guy. If a man respectfully indicates he's interested in you and you're not, just decline RESPECTFULLY. Too many women make a profession out of making men insecure these days, it's unfair, they're human beings too. Whenever the same thing is shot back at us, all hell breaks loose.

[@saiyanarmy9345]

Women wanted men to learn that no means “NO” and everytime when men pushed they called them creep. Now that men learned women want to go back.

[@MagicWandn]

well yeah its like a child who thinks they want something but realizes they don't after they fall into the creek

[@Lanab2677]

No does mean no, and a man should respect that. However you do have women who will say “no” in hopes of the man to keep pushing, because of mind games, but they should be avoided. Jesus said let your yes be yes and your no be no

[@MichellesdesignsEtc]

We want to be approached though...if you ask and I say no.... it's because I'm simply not interested in a date!! I wouldn't approach a guy I'm not interested in first 😂 even if I ask first there's plenty of guys I'm just not interested in.... for a very good reason too... they do not claim to be a Christian at all... in fact the opposite... if a man really wants to date me he can ask me... if I say no then...sorry I'm not trying to be mean but I'm just not interested... I've had old men with a 30 year age difference ask me out & sorry 😅 I'm just not interested...it's literally nothing personal... like I dunno maybe if they had a time machine! Like when they were 30... I pretty sure I wasn't even in my Mom's tummy & although I'm not a young adult...I look like one 😂😅 soo... they might get the cops called on them.... and I know some young guy who is literally a minor...let's put it this way he's really really nice & friendly to me... and he knows I'm an adult😂😅 I'm like noo noo I'm sure some young girl will be happy with him, but most people in public think that I might still be in high school... but sadly I'm 41 🤣 I'm old little bro!

[@bunille]

@@Lanab2677 The whole point of it nowadays is that men are afraid of the metoo problem, where abusive women will lie and exploit men to ruin their entire lives if he dare opens his mouth or dare even hugs her. Every other generation can do this fine without "needing permission". Guys nowadays have to walk on eggshells if they want to talk to the opposite sex. That's the point. Walking on eggshells ISN'T healthy.

[@dumdumer892]

Honestly, I think that’s the best way. Guys are more straight forward and don’t wanna play games. Women and men both need to learn “no means no” so that people are open with one another and not wasting time. Once you’re in a relationship or when you’re initially asking you should be putting in more effort to show you want someone and care for them. That shouldn’t come from wanting a guy to just ask you out over and over. That’s ridiculous and wasted everyone’s time.

[@sunnaakra3752]

I made the first move with my husband. He was a customer at my job, I complimented his shirt, we started talking and he brought me a coffee the next day. If I had been unwilling to "make the first move" I would not have ended up in the healthiest relationship I've ever been in.

[@rodolfoarielgarciatecpa8459]

I'm glad it worked out for you. However, these days, men have been told to avoid situations like the one you are describing. We are told that she is only being nice because it's her job and that we are taking advantage of power dynamics and therefore are awful people if we engage in a situation like this.

[@initiatorhater0688]

did you ask him out first?

[@TrueYankeeFan]

Reverse the genders and most men know it's not worth the risk anymore - if she says no, he likely gets written up or even fired.

[@sunnaakra3752]

I ended up asking for his number a little later, but I think he asked me out first technically.

[@EvilExcalibur]

I'm the perpetual outsider, the kind of guy that doesn't fit cleanly into any crowd whatsoever. I have a terrible relationship and courting history and I struggle to meet new people, let alone make friends. Once upon a time a long time friend of my brother wanted him to introduce us to each other. After weeks of striking out in that regard she finally caved and approached me herself. Startled the life right out of me while I was at work, said "hi, my name is X. I'm a friend of your brother" and once the introductions were over she ran off before a conversation could even form, leaving me stunned from the tonal whiplash of that exchange. Our third wedding anniversary is next month and I can confidently say that I've never loved anyone as much as that precious bundle of nerves that I now call my wife. That's all it takes, ladies. A quick introduction to let him know that he's cleared to proceed. And fellas, watch out for these signs. If you're unsure just ask her directly. I know that it sucks and it's hard but she will let you know one way or another and it sure as hell is better than making your move without knowing whether you're wasting your time or not.

[@SchallGirl]

I was at the bar with my dad, mom and sister, and my sister saw me eyeballing this tall handsome guy across the bar all night and dared me to talk to him. We stepped outside for some fresh air and I literally ran smack into his chest, the first thing that came out of my mouth was, “I’ve been looking for you.” We talked until last call, exchanged numbers and now I am marrying this man in October, two years later almost to the day!!!! He pursued me in the sweetest way and I’ve never felt more like a woman than when I’ve been with him ❤

[@heartvannilatornado]

Congrats, that is such a sweet story ❤

[@itsmejerkface]

Wonderful! Ain't love grand?

[@Goucherent]

It just so happens

[@Rachel-xg7hs]

“I’ve been looking for you!” 🥹

[@Mogamishu]

“Tall handsome guy”. Good to know too only became interested in him because of his height and looks. Says a lot about you.

[@nealorr5086]

"So, why isn't this working?" Meanwhile, Gillette is running ads where a guy sees an attractive woman walking down the street and goes to talk to her and a "hero" stops him.

[@DDD11239]

You would hate Old Spice commercials.

[@liveandlearn4445]

@@nealorr5086 what?

[@shirg170]

I made the first move, never in my dreams would have thought that I'll do that! I always waited for the guys to approach me, but when I met my (now boyfriend) I couldn't let this go, we are together for 2.5 years. soon to be married and planning the rest of our life together! be brave! if I did it, you DEFINITELY can too!

[@initiatorhater0688]

did you ask him out first? or did you approach him?

[@shirg170]

@@initiatorhater0688 We were friends first, I was scared to ruin our friendship but decided to go for it anyway and told him I liked him more than a friend

[@abnurtharn2927]

A lot of men stopped dating simply because, the juice isn't worth the squeeze.

[@fredstone4395]

Girl next door reference 😅

[@maryamadedeji24]

Huh

[@1986SuperVegeta]

Correct.

[@DDD11239]

​@@fredstone4395 The horror film, right?

[@sonicleaves]

I wish more people understood that it's ok to be alone. Relationships are overrated.

[@JessicaLSuddreth]

Me making the 1st move. I'm 18 at work at a pizza shop. I say "Hey, I know you. Wanna hang out?" 30+ years later still together.

[@__thebadger]

Must've been some damn good pizza

[@DDD11239]

​@@__thebadger Or, very bad but people love to hate-eat.

[@DDD11239]

Late '80s were a time of romance.

[@Mogamishu]

You left out the fact that you only made the first move because he is tall and hot.

[@JessicaLSuddreth]

@__thebadger It was. Plus the best steak & cheese in the area.

[@raymondslafka1671]

As a girl who has always had balls when crushing on someone, I think it is absolutely horrible how other women have ruined flirting in public for others. This Wednesday I gave my crush my number. The feelings were not reciprocated, which is fine. I don't take rejection personal, but I had a mental breakdown wondering "Why am I not good enough?" I've never had my first kiss, never held a guys hand, never had a boyfriend. And the 2 or 3 guys who have liked me only wanted me for the meat on my body. I am thankful I have a brain and didn't send pictures and block them but I just don't know what's wrong with me. I'm a young high schooler and I have time to date, but sometimes I wonder if anyone will ever love me as much as I love others. And this isn't me being insecure. I'm pretty, funny, and (sometimes) nice but it seems like no one wants me.

[@peterharrell7305]

Ok raymond

[@Steve-Seinfeld]

You need to do what all us average guys have to do nowadays, focus on improving yourself in all aspects of your life and make yourself higher value for a man to want you.

[@Backwoodsboy1999]

Don't feel like you're alone. I've only had one girlfriend. It was a fantastic relationship, till she saw a college educated man,then dumped me without thought. I think she was just young and free and crap,but yeah, you have time,I'm almost 24 and like yeah, I better start keeping more of an eye out.

[@crazysilly2914]

girl, you are ONLY in high school! You still have so much time, don’t worry about dating right now. I am a 24 year old guy and I have never even so much as held hands with a girl.

[@Charlie-m6r5v]

I'm sorry. Not everyone will like everyone else and you need to find the right person.

[@kels.92]

Summer’s video portion of this segment had me smiling ear to ear. So wholesome, so adorable! Loved it!!

[@wednesdaay_]

I was smiling until i was crying 😂 It's so sweet ♡

[@scotthearts9634]

As a guy, im bit embarrassed to say this i was giggling and blushing like a fool, I can at times 😅🥰

[@wednesdaay_]

@@scotthearts9634 (｡•́‿•̀｡)ノ🍴

[@mysteriouscameraman]

For me, as a male teen currently in high school, this is such a good topic to discuss and is incredibly relevant. For me, I asked out my girlfriend and she was so happy I did because she didn't want to do it herself. When I ask my friends who are girls why they don't ask out their crushes, they say that is their job. However, because of this, they very rarely actually get with their crush because they don't do a good job leaving hints. This is so apparent in schools nowadays because boys are too scared that they will be called weird or creepy or made fun of for doing it and girls don't think they are allowed to do it and neither can flirt because of covid. Okay, that was just my ideas on the topic. Sorry for ranting.

[@nealorr5086]

If it makes you feel any better, it's always been like that. Teenagers don't know what they're doing. The change is that it's still happening to people in college and in their 20s.

[@mysteriouscameraman]

@@nealorr5086 So true, but its definitely gotten worse because of covid. Things have gotten worse because they are too afraid to get their head out of their phone and actually talk to a human being.

[@HigumaHoney]

also, girl magazines like seventeen and cosmo and glamour really give bad dating advice. lol

[@HigumaHoney]

girl magazines are by women for women, so naturally articles will say what girls want to hear not what we ought to hear. hahahahahaha

[@crazysilly2914]

@@HigumaHoney and those magazines are so sxxxually explicit they should be for 18+ only anyway...

[@SuperDG333]

This is so wholesome and proves that in most cases just being open and friendly can open the door to more communication and connections being made

[@dylanmartens9]

Having friends in common is also very helpful. My wife made the first move (an Instagram follow request) on the recommendation from a mutual friend. We've known each other for 4.5 years now and have been married for 3. So thankful she took that first step. I was 28 and she was 25 when we got married.

[@PerryVillanueva]

An older woman once told me that women chase men until they get caught. This means women have to screen out men when looking for a future husband. She essentially has to do ‘all the dirty work’. She has to find out if he is well balanced between work and home, is healthy, has a good job with a realistic upward mobility or promotions, a sense of humor, have male friends, not condescending or arrogant, taller than her, potential to be a good husband and father, good looking, etc. He has to be in continuous close proximity to her. That is a common place where he hangs out like the cafeteria, social gathering place, office cubicle, etc. It’s not easy for her and it is very tedious. When she finds a prospective candidate then she strategically moves to within his personal space without him knowing. When the man turns around, she will bump into him or spill wine or tea on him ‘accidently’. This will be the ice breaker and they start talking. One thing leads to another and next thing you know it, they are married. Of course, this takes time. So, you women have to initiate the chase. Men do not chase women anymore. The old days are gone and are not coming back.

[@Eusong]

Despite being super attractive and having lots of women subtly hit on him, my husband never even dated anyone 'till me because he was shy. I told up outright, "I have a crush on you." And he admitted he had a crush back. And then I told him, "I want you to be my boyfriend." So we started dating. Eventually I told him, "I want to marry you." So he worked up the courage to propose. Now that we've been married for 5 years he has confidence, including to recognize and reject the other women flirting with him, but if I hadn't done that I never would've gotten the best man on the planet.

[@crazysilly2914]

damm I wish more women were like you. How old were you and he when you asked him? I am like your husband (though probably not quite as attractive), but I am 24 and it’s starting to get bleak for me...

[@Eusong]

@@crazysilly2914 I was 18 and he was 21, but when we first met we actually hated each other. It's a long story. :P You have plenty of time though, men typically become more attractive as they age unlike women. Think Before You Sleep has some videos that give great advice on how to make yourself more appealing both visually and socially.

[@Eusong]

@@crazysilly2914 For some reason my reply got deleted. I was 18, he was 21. We actually hated each other when we first met lol You've got plenty of time though, men typically become more attractive as they age. Just make sure you've got good hygiene, dress decently, and put yourself in situations around other people.

[@crazysilly2914]

@@Eusong Yeah I don’t want to wait much longer, otherwise I'm just gonna give up entirely. I just get so jealous when guys 10 years younger than me are in their first relationship, but I have never been in a relationship. I’m too old to have my ‘awkward first relationship’, because most people have already finished that stage of their dating career by the end of high school, if not middle school...

[@Eusong]

@@crazysilly2914 As someone who did date quite a few people before getting to my husband...it's not what it's hyped up to be. There's no joy looking back on even good memories, if anything it only leaves negatives. I know it feels like you're missing out right now but trust me you aren't.

[@blueandgreen24]

My wife asked me out first. So glad she did. We’ve been together 7 years and married for one

[@malimal4972]

Same here , my fiance made first move , 13 years and counting now

[@sjustus7]

My late wife made the first move and asked me out first. I certainly appreciated it, I knew she wanted me and wasn't just settling.

[@softeyesworld]

What was the first move? How did she ask u out? I’m not shy but I don’t really know what to say and don’t want to put someone off by being too bold

[@SeanMendicino-n3d]

💀💀💀💀💀

[@tiegz9770]

Was it not a turn off at all when she asked? I only ask because I’m scared to approach guys

[@yourfavemirrorball]

i started talking to this guy i’d known for years, this summer and we didn’t end up together, due to some personal reasons, but he says he only had the courage to make a move after i gave him a random compliment when we first saw each other this summer it’s crazy to think that none of this would’ve happened if i hadn’t complimented him that day

[@codyporter8599]

Compliments definitely go a long way with guys, because they are so rare for us. I still remember a girl telling me I have nice skin like 5 years ago. 😅

[@mysteriouscameraman]

That is so true. Sometimes it is the smallest compliments that are the best hints.

[@jim2386]

I still remember the 2 true compliments I’ve gotten in the last 5 years. One from the wife. It meant the world.

[@DDD11239]

​@@codyporter8599 Outside a relationship, I remember every compliment from girls (boys don't count), from the past 21 years.

[@SanchoPanza-wg5xf]

An old lady lately recently told me that I am handsome with nice hair. I haven't heard such a compliment in a decade or more, and I lost my wife last year.

[@micahnieman673]

Women set the rules, men play the game. If the rules suck, or the prize isn't worth it, then men simply won't play the game.

[@liveandlearn4445]

The only kind of games I play are video games.

[@floshi6519]

@@liveandlearn4445 Hahahahahh yes.

[@FaithFallRepentGraceRepeat]

Back in the day; women used to drop handkerchiefs in front of men to encourage them to make the first move (which is really making the first move). It shoes that women know who they want. Smart men pursue women that show significant interest.

[@justinowens2465]

I was about to say the exact same thing. Also back in the day it was quite common for girls to give guys alittle smile and wave from the across the room. I not sure why the dynamics have devolved into women saying they would never make the first move.

[@harleyskawronik6382]

Bridgerton has truly destroyed modern flirtation (thank god). We would send out heart emojis, but they would write poetry. We all need tradition in our lives.

[@talusrs]

Several women complained that they can't even smile at guys because guys take that as a hint that they are interested. So instead they adopted RBF and can never make eye contact with a guy in public while smiling. So now if a woman smiles at us, it means we *should* approach? The rules keep changing and it's hard to keep up.

[@FUNKOfilms]

That's the thing. There are no set rules. Every single situation and interaction is 100% different from every other.

[@j.arelylopez3053]

That’s very true for some women. I am that women that has acted in that way and thought in that kind of way you’re talking about. Id say the resolution has to come from the women on this one. What I mean is that we can choose to smile and when a guy approaches us and we want to reject them, we can do so in a respectful and kind matter and bring down the walls we’ve put up ourselves. The fault is not the men in this case. We should not fear being approached and be respectful when are. I’m so sorry for this, speaking for myself and the women that are realizing this.

[@andrewevans7992]

I’m getting so tired of women I have a RBF myself.. I can’t even smile back if they do to me first, I have no more feelings left for them

[@rolandswift4311]

You forget to consider another important factor; The majority of women who say they want to be approached aren't actually looking for relationship, at least not healthy relationships. Enough women have openly admitted to getting men to take them on dates just so they can get a meal or do fun things without having to foot the bill that it's becoming a major concern for guys deciding if they should roll the dice. Add onto that all the women who'll show you their backside on OF for $20 but will demand hundreds of dollars in dates and gifts before allowing a guy to get even less out of her IRL. Even if you avoid being labeled a creep; you still have a massive risk of just being her walking ATM and then being labeled an a$$hole when you decide she isn't worth the price tag she put on herself.

[@crazysilly2914]

Either that, or they have a bunch of hookups to get that body count up into the triple digits… …and end up with syphilus, gonnorhea, clamydia, herpes, hepatitis, etc...

[@valeria821]

I texted my husband first. We have been together for a decade and he is the most amazing man. Go get em ladies!!

[@wizeguy2388]

Are you amazing back to him though?

[@LeahBreHappy]

@@valeria821 texting him first is a lot different then asking a man out on a date.

[@DDD11239]

​@@LeahBreHappy No, it's not. Use your words.

[@SanchoPanza-wg5xf]

@@LeahBreHappySure, but it's a green light.

[@liannemarie2504]

Heck yes! My husband came into the office I was working in to get braces and I was the assistant that helped the doctor during his appointment. I was supposed to call and check up on him but I added him on Facebook instead and We messaged back and forth for a while until I ended up texting him. He ended up asking me out and we have been married for 12 years it was the best decision I have ever made! I really just thought he was the hottest guy I've ever seen and he was so funny and sweet. He is still the hottest man I have ever seen but now he's also the best husband and amazing father.❤

[@applemirer3937]

Even if the male makes the first move, there's a good chance he'll take a step back and wait for her to make a move of her own volition. Some pursuit on her part is necessary.

[@Totsy30]

Agreed, and I think this is part of being respectful of boundaries. One person makes the first move, and if the other reciprocates interest, then it continues. If there is no reciprocation, then it should end there. Reciprocated interest is sexy. Mind games aren't.

[@techtexan2816]

The problem is the survey showing that 77% of women wished that they were approached more basically means that the only wish that men they were attracted to approached them more. Theres an episode of its always sunny where Dennis explains the difference between sexual harassment and flirting is how attractive they find you. Now, I don't think it is to that extreme yet, but I do believe that can be the case with what women consider creepy. If a girl catches a good looking guy that she finds attractive checking her out she is more likely to take that as a compliment. Whereas if the man was older and uglier then it would be considered gross and creepy. The action didnt change,only how it was received. So, most men are average in terms of attractiveness and to them it doesnt seem worth it to approach a girl for these risks alone.

[@dominicrosetti2335]

As a man, being approached would be very nice and I'd remember it forever Plus, it takes the question out of whether the girl is interested or not If they are, they make it easy for you

[@aylahfife7308]

@dominicrosetti2335 I have a question. I'm worried that if I ask a guy out, (I have before but ive been rejected everytime) I'm worried that a guy might just say "yeah, sure" even though he's not really interested or cares, but because he just wants to have a relationship and not because he even likes me

[@dominicrosetti2335]

@@aylahfife7308 that's a difficult situation but that's where vetting comes into play You have to vet the person you potentially would like to date Never ever jump into a relationship too soon (take it from personal advice) I rushed into a relationship and it turned out she was a toxic narcissist

[@DDD11239]

​@@aylahfife7308 Kid, just keep trying. Your select experiences don't constitute the suspected sharing of a mind, amongst the billions of men on Earth. Grow up.

[@aylahfife7308]

@DDD11239 you're awfully mean. Imagine if you've had ZERO good experiences with anyone of the opposite gender but are still trying to find a significant other. You don't have even a fraction of the strength that I do. And I have lots of evidence that men DONT like being approached, and that women SHOULDNT approach men in most scenarios.

[@LeahBreHappy]

@@dominicrosetti2335 you like the easy route?

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

Why do millions of women say they are in favour of gender equality, yet very few want gender equality in dating?

[@SpringRobin15]

Women are famous for not knowing what we want. Women aren’t men, and we don’t actually want to be treated like men or have to act like men on the dating scene.

[@Aireck174]

The vast majority of millennial and younger women are l1beral. Malcolm X said l1berals will support things in principle but reject it in practice.

[@ViolentDuck_]

Fr

[@floshi6519]

Because the want equality just when it's beneficial. This is the problem. They want men approaching them beacuse it's easier. In social science it's a behaviour called selective equality... A real mess.

[@burnerjack01]

They love equality. Just look at how they're freaking out about the coming all gender Draft. Suddenly, Trad is the way to go. "It's natural!"...

[@liamthomas4644]

If a woman were to approach me saying she's interested in me, I'd immediately think there's a camera or something and I am the butt of the joke, lol. Had it happen to me before, in High School, where a girl was dared by her friends to ask me out. Killed me inside when they all burst out laughing because I thought they'd ever be interested in a person like me, lol

[@liamthomas4644]

I did get the last laugh, though. One is fat now and the other one is a single Mom, lmao.

[@vanderful2397]

@@liamthomas4644 Well all that ends well...

[@unknown-vo3di]

​@liamthomas4644 hahaha. You should message them and rub it in. Make a video of you and all your guy friends laughing at her being a single mother 😂😂😂

[@liamthomas4644]

@unknown-vo3di Maybe I should consider doing that. She tried reaching out to me a couple years back, but she was trying to sell me shit I had no interest in buying. That's how I found out she was a single mom, lmao.

[@TrueYankeeFan]

All the way back in high school, I had a girl ask me out on a date. I turned her down because in my mind there was no possible way she was seriously into me - it had to be some sort of setup to make me the butt of a joke or something. She even signed my yearbook with "I'll miss our date 😢" There's a lot of factors of why my self-esteem was so low, but it bothers me that for the rest of my life I'll never know how things would have went if I just said yes.

[@cerberus1595]

I'm litteraly more interested when a woman initiates a sign of interest first than if the first sign of interest comes after I approached her. The reason is simple, showing interest first makes her more special from the 100+ women who I approached before her.

[@aylahfife7308]

but what if the woman wants to feel special? As a woman who has never been approached by a guy and no guys have ever had a crush on me, I've asked out a few guys and have been HORRIFICALY rejected every time. I don't want to ask out guys anymore because 1) I don't want to wear the pants in the relationship as a woman 2) I don't want to be with some guy who said yes because he's opportunistic and 3) I want to actually find someone that cares about me and GENUINELY likes me. I find that asking out guys is not the right thing to do if you want to have a partner who is interested in you.

[@FUNKOfilms]

​@@aylahfife7308You don't have to ask them out. Literally just be inviting. No guy wants to feel like he has to convince you to like him.

[@aylahfife7308]

@FUNKOfilms issue is, I won't get asked out by guys so either I remain alone or ask them out myself, which I don't want to do

[@FUNKOfilms]

@@aylahfife7308 You don't have to ask them out. Just approach and engage. Show interest. If they don't show interest back and ask you out, that can mean one of two things. Either they are absolutely too dense to catch on, or they simply do not have interest in you. If it's the first option, why bother continuing? If it's the second option, that sucks but you can move on.

[@aylahfife7308]

@FUNKOfilms I don't think any guys would ask me out, even if they like me

[@Dseagles14]

I'm 38, every woman I have ever approached has rejected me almost immediately. I have had a few call me creepy and one of them said that she would rather be a lesbian then have anything to do with me so yeah I have checked out of the dating pool. I am pretty sure that a woman would never attempt to approach me

[@firstnamelastname9219]

women are pretty awful these days, they think theyre worth more than they are

[@jarred110]

Either you’re trolling or need to look in the mirror and say “if I was a girl would I date me?”

[@Dseagles14]

@@jarred110 Everything I typed has actually happened to me. I am fat, ugly, have zero self confidence so I completely understand why women wouldn't want to date me. But still I don't think that I deserve to be called creepy just for saying "Hi" or being told they would rather became a lesbian then talk to me which happened when I was in college. So all together I believe I will die alone and I deserve it

[@1986SuperVegeta]

@@jarred110lol of course, it could never be the fault of women, it has to be the man’s fault. lol

[@HigumaHoney]

i think you should get familiar with someone first, see if they're willing to go on a few casual 1:1 or 2:1 activities together. like maybe you and your guy buddy invite her to lunch one day, then the next day you invite her 1:1, and if you're vibing, see if you can grab a wingwoman to go to lunch with the 3 of you and have her gauge whether your crush is interested or not. i had a senpai (upperclassman or someone older than you in school) ask every girl in our high school to our version of the prom, and because he didn't warm up to people first, every single girl in our high school told him no point blank. in his despair, he actually proposed to his best friend (guy) and was rejected as well, for other reasons. i know coz we were next door neighbors and i was his brother's classmate.

[@PhoenixT70]

My girlfriend made the first move. We'd been friends for two years or so, but we'd both been dancing around the idea of getting together (and had no idea that we both felt the same way XD) for a couple months. I'll never forget the feeling when I realized that she liked me. We've been dating for three years, two of those long distance. Ladies, do not hesitate to make the first move.

[@blake7587]

Women said they wanted equality. They shamed men for asking them out. Now it’s THEIR turn to do the leading and being bold and do the asking.

[@rachelrobinson2636]

Men and women were not created equal and I like that

[@blake7587]

@@rachelrobinson2636 You might want to go tell the Feminists that.

[@firstnamelastname9219]

@@rachelrobinson2636 and? Its not worth a SA case. how about be nice to men now

[@brianmeen2158]

Never thought I’d see the day when men were scared of approaching women. That alone says so much about modern men

[@brianmeen2158]

@@firstnamelastname9219 “”it’s not worth a SA case” Guys you are just as hysterical as the radical feminists. A few guys have been Metooed and hit with SA charges but you act like it happens to most men That just look at women.. come on man lol

[@dtanx8978]

Aa a guy, I learnt being single is bliss. I would rather hangout with the boys and stay single forever than dating someone i live and walking on eggshells forever

[@kelcicundiff7293]

My husband is a man of few words so I made it a point to go sit at his table at our college cafeteria and strike up a casual conversation. It was as simple as that! He later told me he had already noticed me earlier but hadn’t had an occasion to talk to me. He asked me out on our first date and the rest is history! Boy am I glad I decided to sit at his table!

[@de14jabs]

Simply, women need to think of it like this: you're air traffic control. You have to give a clear signal that it's clear to approach. If not, we'll keep flying until we are given a clear runway. We make the approach, if given a clear signal it is okay to approach. It's nearly always been like that, PUAs made cold approach a normality when it was considered skeezy for the longest time.

[@crazysilly2914]

“PUA”…? The heck is that?!

[@OcbaPaul]

I approach women often. I'm not creepy, I'm fit, I'm tall, and yet I get no's and "I'm not looking fight now". If women want to be approached, then it's only by certain men.

[@crazysilly2914]

(they are telling you that you need to take showers more often, they can smell your stink from a mile away…)

[@OcbaPaul]

@@crazysilly2914 (I already take a shower once a day.) The problem is I'm a pale-skinned ginger. Society has been telling women for years that they should only date black and dark skinned men while at the same time have been erasing gingers from all media (Little Mermaid, Triss Merigold in the Witcher Netflix series, Firefist in Deadpool 2, the most recent live action Annie movie, Starfire in the DCU, Daphne is the Wilma series. I could keep going. Women have been conditioned to hate white men, in general, but more so the more light skinned a man is.

[@manuelgrewer7456]

My girlfriend approached me during a Blues concert. I had a very stressful work trip coming up the next day and was just trying to relax a bit while listening to music. I was not at all in the proper headspace for flirting. I saw her dancing close by and our eyes met several times. Next thing I know, she is offering me a fresh beer. We are together for almost three years now and our relationship and love is still growing everyday. I am so grateful that she did the first move.

[@neodarka10]

Women have no problem approaching extremely high value and attractive men… they just don’t want to approach average men

[@neodarka10]

The core problem content like this misses time and time again is we live in a want based sexual economy, the mind set all these content creators come from and get lost from is a Need based sexual economy. The entire game of mating and dating has changed.

[@itsmejerkface]

I don't think you're a woman.

[@mamc1986]

Looks do matter. However, all you have to do is dress sharp, workout and have good hygiene. It doesn’t take that much for a man to look good. Personality does count for sure, but it’s way harder for a woman to grow to love if you aren’t even slightly cute to her to begin with.

[@MarkPlace-wb5xg]

This is all well and good, but I tend to agree you're just going to see what happens on dating apps: a handful of tall good looking men will get even more attention and the rest of us will need to find other things to focus on.

[@SoniCraft98]

​@@mamc1986Do you think doing those things overcome being short (like under 5'5")? In my experience, it hasn't really.

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

It's not only male strangers whom most women won't approach. Most women won't make the first move with a colleague, neighbour, friend etc.

[@possummagic3571]

Yeah, man rejection is tough. I approached a guy and asked him out once. Didn't go well. Hats off to the guys who have asked women out hundreds of times, and still go for it after the countless rejections.

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

@@possummagic3571 They die virgins if they don't.

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

@@possummagic3571 If they don't, they never get dates or sex.

[@Nikki.....]

it's pretty awkward with colleagues and friends and neighbors cause you have to keep seeing them. I asked out one of my relatives very early on when I was a teenager before I knew how awkward it would become in family reunions and from that point on both me and that guy absolutely avoided each other and didn't go to places the other one might be. it's sooooo awkward. 🙈

[@Bosshog-WealthHealthBetterment]

Girls need to be a bit more empathetic to boys. Women need to be clearer with men. My first serious relationship (for 4 years as 16-20) was when a co-worker who wasn't on that shift, came in about 30 minutes before the end of my shift, looking dolled up and beautiful, and said that she wanted us to go for drinks after work (this is UK where drinking starts sooner and you're not getting ID'd in the sort of pubs near where I grew up). I can tell you as a 16 year old boy who was pretty clueless and very clumsy, and would be worried about approaching girls today as that boy, that was incredibly awesome. I don't know why women are so mean when it comes to men. We don't start off the polished man women dream of. We take longer to mature. It often takes years to have the maturity, success, responsibilities and capabilities that make women interested and give us the confidence to feel like the man you just expect us to be. We too get poor advice from the wrong places, but boys learn quickly there isn't a whole industry out there that helps them escape being held to account or understanding reality. It forces us to be better, or give up. Girls, as they grow into women, don't experience that reality. Most men, including myself (now 37) get very little validation from women. My daughter gave me some socks for Father's Day, and as soon as they are washed I wear them again. I make sure a big deal of it she sometimes asks when they'll be clean again. I remember the times when my wife has told me I looked good, or when she got me a fancy trip to the barbers or a massage because I seemed tired and beaten up, and as the chef in our house, I certainly love it when I am given a home made dinner. Like all men, it's also very sexy when a women initiates sex. Boys and men have additional complexities to navigate in a world of "icks", social media and hair trigger social policies and perceptions that make us out to be predators and savages. If women truly want to be equal, that needs to start at the start, and you need to get more comfortable with making the first move and being unquestionably clear in your expectations and desires. When all it takes is an accusation to destroy a man, don't be surprised if men aren't keen putting themselves in vulnerable positions by making the first move.

[@crazysilly2914]

girls are attracted to immature but ‘badass’ bad boys, then get heartbroken by these ‘bad boys’, and then they assume all men are like that, and then they become raging feminists...

[@noskalborg723]

Thank for finally covering this. But please don't downplay the importance of sending clear signald, especially when talking to a guy who is working under an employer.

[@79Dnivara]

Women: "I'm not getting any these days" Translation: "The men I want isn't coming after meee"

[@stevenmcallister9952]

Every woman has their own “type”. The six feet,six figures, six pack thing is just red pill propaganda. Focus on self improvement and treat women like human beings and it won’t be long until you are no longer single.

[@DDD11239]

Agreed. She could download a dating application, and find a mate within a few days.

[@rachelrobinson2636]

Yes if it’s just any mate . Not a life long mate , it’s not that easy at all !!

[@1986SuperVegeta]

Someone understands.

[@Razor-gx2dq]

​@@DDD11239quality of which may vary

[@Myla-8]

3:05 I love how you smoothly went from talking about the video to talking about the pure talk 😂

[@esotericaowl2887]

One thing that made me fully realize how many women are overreacting to men not doing anything wrong was when I was at the gas station and a man held the door open for another woman and then me as well and the first woman started YELLING at him, saying she didn't need a man to open the door for her. I felt so bad for him because he was just being kind, and I appreciated the kind gesture of him holding the door open for me. I thanked him awkwardly (after the lady yelled) . Bullying kind men for no reason isn't somehow "furthering women's rights" and I hope more young women realize that ASAP.

[@sickpuppy575]

It's too late we are all starting to walk away.

[@Natalie-Clarified]

I knew a lady who did the first move. She was middle-aged and she had already been through divorce, but she really liked this guy. Long story short they ended up being married 20+ years in a super happy relationship, but she’s the one who started the first move.

[@Rick_Cleland]

*_Meep!! Meep!!_*

[@andrewevans7992]

I still don’t trust women who make first move, they probably looking for a target or have high bodycount..

[@UltraViolettaPlays]

I really needed this. The dating scene, both online and offline, has been a struggle for years. This is giving me the courage to reangle my social anxiety and try to make the bridges that men can cross. Also, Summer and Ethan's story is so adorable, I was aweing and cheering the whole time. So sweet~!

[@mariarusek1851]

Summer and Ethan are so sweet 😭 I'm not crying, you're crying

[@wizeguy2388]

They look good but everything that was described was him doing things for her and nothing the other way around

[@DDD11239]

​@@wizeguy2388 She creeped me out

[@Nikki.....]

@@wizeguy2388 she wasn't trying to boast about how great and sweet she was, she was trying to show how sweet he was to her. way to make anything beautiful and positive into a negative 😐

[@mariarusek1851]

@@Nikki..... exactly, she was proud that she got HIM not about herself

[@crazysilly2914]

…that accent though...

[@ismailmb_13]

3:08 ayyy, that was so smooth, nice

[@TheOGJeff]

They were good at first but they're still predictable. Skip

[@Erduk]

I ran into my now wife and her friend six years ago completely on accident while looking around for my friends on campus. She gave me her number by asking me to send pictures of the event I was planning. The event got rained out, but we haven't.

[@adolfojuangarcia1906]

As a man, I like being approached by others. It makes me feel special.

[@jaughnekow]

makes men feel needed

[@theburger_king]

Makes me feel noticed

[@tracym8952]

I'm usually leery thinking they want to sell me something.

[@MichellesdesignsEtc]

As a woman I like being approached makes me feel special men be MEN again...

[@gerardorivera9111]

@@MichellesdesignsEtc Women are no longer women, what is a woman anyway?

[@lindsayyynoel]

as a woman that approached my now future husband, i can attest to this point. he still leads within our relationship dynamic on the daily, there is no lack of masculinity on his part. and i know that we never would have gotten into a relationship if i didnt take that chance and initiate the first conversation. i cant help but sympathize with all the women that lost their chance because, for whatever reason, they didnt approach the man that caught their eye. keep spreading these great messages!! ✨

[@initiatorhater0688]

but i assume your husband was the one who asked you out?

[@frankzed7684]

As a man I would feel so good about myself if a woman approached me. And grateful, because it’s so hard to tell if a woman likes you or is attracted to you, that the woman making the first approach would be amazing. Then I KNOW that I can pursue.

[@real-ishstraighttruthnocha1687]

I love that country girl accent on Summer. She's so sweet and wholesome. I'm so happy for her success. I just hope they will put God in the forefront of their relationship and work through everything. God bless!

[@crazysilly2914]

….so no anal…?

[@SickDrummer2438]

Not sure why most women seem to assume approaching people would be any less anxiety inducing for the average guy than it'd be for the average woman to do. It's almost like we're all people that have the same social insecurities 🤷‍♂️

[@jai2776]

I think it’s less about anxiety and more about the lack of respect we’d have if we are the one to make the first move as women.

[@SickDrummer2438]

Lack of respect from the man in this scenario being approached? From the women around you and how they'd view you for you doing the approaching? I can only speak for myself, but the few relationships that have kicked off in my life occurred from the girl initiating interest in the situation. On my end, seeing them step up for themselves and shooting for what they want gained huge points from me for them. I think honestly a lot of guys view this similarly. Even if we don't end up being interested, I'd like to think most of us would actually respect the hell out of the effort of you doing something we 100% know is difficult to do.

[@__thebadger]

They mostly vote Democrat, meaning they don't actually live in reality. They still believe that it's the 1960's. Thinking that women have 0 rights and society is legislatively oppressive towards anyone other than white men. They're not worth it.

[@DDD11239]

​@@jai2776 Lack of respect? Believe men when we state that we love women who are clear with their intentions. Don't play games.

[@firstnamelastname9219]

@@jai2776 hahahaha dont act as if women arent WAY more rude than men. cmon dont be delusional. ladies, be better

[@davebriggs2919]

Dont wanna be accused of assault or harrasment. Seen too many cases at my highschool so fuck that

[@ethansevilla1395]

Why should men make the first move when they could potentially catch a case.

[@wizeguy2388]

Just another way for women to get money from men

[@stevenmcallister9952]

@@ethansevilla1395 There is no epidemic of men “catching a case” from making the first move. That’s all in your head. Those men who got called creeps did a lot more than simply approach. Life gets better when you touch grass and stop living in fear.

[@ethansevilla1395]

@@stevenmcallister9952 Ok boomer, For anectodal experinece, my uncle was falsely accused of assault by just helping a female coworker escort her out to her car at night. The sad thing is it was her friends was the one who made the accusation and she went for it, it wasn't until security footage and a witnesses from another building refuted her claims of physical sexual assault

[@ethansevilla1395]

@@stevenmcallister9952 Every the I touch grass, the world goes darker for me

[@stevenmcallister9952]

@@ethansevilla1395 anecdotal evidence is invalid because it can’t be verified. As far as I and everyone else reading this comment is concerned you just made that up because you’re bitter and lashing out at women. Stop listening to red pill and go outside please. Think man, if it was truly as big as you think there would be no way of covering it up and every man would either have it happen to them or know someone who experienced it.

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

Women have the option of waiting for men to approach them. The vast majority of men have no such option.

[@astromigui]

It's a competition. You can create a life where women want to come pursue you

[@DavidZ4-gg3dm]

@@astromigui The large majority of women don't pursue anyone.

[@CheerfullyCynical829]

@@astromigui Absolutely ridiculous. Maybe Lamborghini-driving Christian Troy of nip/tuck can do that. But in reality the vast majority of men will always have to make the first move. Women have NO EARTHLY CLUE how nerve-wracking that is for most men.

[@augmented2nd666]

@@DavidZ4-gg3dm facts, they will literally sit alone at home with their cats and eat until they are unwanted anyways, and still say "Where are all the good men, why wont a good man approach me" Its disturbing just how lazy most women are in life, female privilege is a double edge sword for many women. They get away with working less hard for the same pay, often having coworkers assist them at every task theyre supposed to complete themselves, they dont have to ask guys out, they dont have to pay on dates or for much of anything ever, and they get to blame men for anything and everything else too. There are so few good women out there its ridiculous, they might be a 5 or so to look at, but a 10 in every other department is a true win.

[@Aireck174]

​@@astromigui Its true, women have always wanted a man who is better than they are, one problem with that in current society is that women vote for gov mandated equality and then complain when they can't find a man who is better than they are.

[@jamesmccraw7245]

This video is so simple yet powerful and encouraging to all the men and women out there.

[@margethordottir]

My mom was the one who asked my dad out. She later asked after they were married if he'd have asked by then, and he said he probably wouldn't have. Sometimes the woman has to make the choice to ask if she wants to be married before her biological clock is dead

[@thehoerscorral8565]

Women will go up to the “hottest” guy in the room and when he shoots her down or says he has a girlfriend etc she will act like it’s over there’s no guy for her, meanwhile the other 90% of the guys in there are laughing that she couldn’t handle a single rejection.

[@itsmejerkface]

Nah

[@mandor13]

I was homeless, got into drugs, went into prisons, then i got to know Jesus, He changed my life.. Now i make 22k weekly. have a home, a wife, a lovely daughter... A child of God. HALLELUJAH

[@mariaagulo]

How did you do it? Do explain please 😯 My family have been into series of sufferings lately

[@mandor13]

All thanks to Christina Ann Tucker

[@mandor13]

After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my daughter's surgery (Joey). Glory to God.shalom.

[@JenFlyn]

Absolutely! I've heard stories of people who started with little to no knowledge but made it out victoriously thanks to Christina Ann Tucker.

[@mariaagulo]

How do I get connection to this woman you speak about!!?

[@noskalborg723]

And when a guy is on the clock. Never ever EVER expect him to make the first move!