Women Matters (1): Kwanini wanaume HUCHEPUKA? Wanaume kutojali ni sababu ya wanawake kusaliti!

Kwanini wanaume huchepuka? Hilo ni swali ambalo wanawake wengi hujiuliza na wakati mwingi hukosa majibu. Lakini, mwanaume kutojali ni sababu inayomfanya mwanamke naye asaliti? Kwenye #WomenMatters na Lillian Mwasha, anaungana na wanawake wenzake, Mama Terry, Babysky, Aunty Sadaka na Mama Kaisi kulizungumzia suala hilo

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Jamani mama zangu nnakubaliana n'a nyinyi ni kweli mwanamke anaitaji matunzo pia kumpenda na kumjali ila inategemea ni aina gani ya mwanamke wapo wanaostaihili kufanyiwa hayo yote sio wote kuna wanawake hatari na wabaya sana kitabia halafu wanataka matunzo kitu ambacho hakiwezekani

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Nawapenda sana Women Matters, mama Terry aliongea vizuri sana. Ila naomba kuchangia kwenye suala la umri wa kuoa na kuolewa tu, mwanaume ni heri aoe akiwa kati ya 25 na 30, na mwanamke aolewe akiwa na miaka kati ya 22 na 25. Suala la ukomavu wa akili hutokana na malezi ya familia na mazingira anayolelewa mtoto. Haina maana kwamba mtu akifikisha miaka 35 au 40 au zaidi ndiyo atakomaa kiakili. Kuna mingine ni mizee kabisa imekomaa kimwili lakini kiakili bado mitoto. Pia, jiulizeni kama mwanaume ataoa akiwa na 35 au zaid, ujue atakuja kuzeeka bado anategemewa na watoto, so bora kuoa na kuolewa mapema ili kama ni changamoto za maisha unaziexperince ukiwa bado una nguvu. Na pale watu wanavyochelewa kuoana hivi ndipo na michepuko inakuwa mingi kwa sababu mtu anakuwa mtu mzima hataki kuoa ama kuolewa lakini wakati huohuo anawapenzi zaidi ya mmoja, sasa unategemea atakapooa ataacha kuchepukawakati alikuwa keshazoea kuwa na wapenzi wengi? Pia niwaulize kitu: Kwanini ndoa za zamani zilikuwa zinadumu? Je, walioana wakiwa na umri gani? Changanueni na mfanye utafiti mje na majibu na kuifundisha jamii. Saivi mabinti na vijana wengi wanafuatilia sana vipindi vyenu. So, kama msipofanya utafiti wa kina, mtaishia kuwapoteza vijana wengi sana. Kiufupi ni hivi, zamani ndoa zilidumu kwa sababu hakukuwa na huu uzunguuzungu wa leo. Saivi tumezisahau mila zetu na desturi na tumeiga za kizungu mwishowe tumeishia kupotea. Vijana walitafutiwa wachumba wa kuoana nao, vijana walioana wakiwa na umri mdogo na wanandoa hao walilelewa na wazazi na kufundishwa jinsi ya kuishi kwenye ndoa mpaka walipoonekana kuwa wamekomaa ndipo waliachwa na kujitegemea. Leo hii mambo ni tofauti, ndoa nyingi zinalelewa na utandawazi, mitandao ya kijamii ndiyo inalea ndoa, na wanaolea ndoa na kufundisha mambo ya ndoa mitandaoni wao wenyewe ndoa zilishawashinda. Sasa hapo unategemea watafundisha nini? Zamani kuchepuka ilikuwa hakuna, watu walioa mke au wake na hawakuwa na hamu ya kutoka nje kwa sababu hawakuzoea hivyo kabla ya ndoa. Lakini leo hii kijana mpaka anakuja kuoa au kuolewa keshatembea na wapenzi kibao, anajua ladha kibao, anajua styles kibao. Mtu huyu akishaingia kwenye ndoa akikosa style alikuwa akiipata kwa wapenzi wake wa zamani lazima ataitafuta kwingine akidhani ataipata. Hapa ni wote, wakiume na wa kike. Ahsanteni sana

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Nakuunga mkono asilimia mia

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😊😊team mama terry tujuane 👆💕

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😂😂Mama terry ananiacha hoi anavomkata jicho mama mchungaji akiongea 😊

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😂😂😂😂 jicho linaongea

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Ndivyo alivyo sioni kama kuna roho mbaya🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Katika vipindi vyooote nilivyowahi kuviona KZbin kipindi hiki no 1 hongera xsn madam kipind unakitendea haki 😍😍😍😍

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⚘⚘ Waooo yaani Mama Tery leo umeongea kitu⚘⚘ usione maisha yanaendelea ata busu mtu hajawahi kupigwa 🥀🥀 baada ya kupgwa busu ni kupigwa na butwaa tu😘😘 I lov nyoote wapenzi wangu apo endeleeni kutoa taaluma

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Namewapenda sana leo#MAPENZI MAKAVU jmn me hata iweje napenda sana mume wangu au mpenzi wangu ale chakula changu na enjoy na akizungumziia ndo napenda zaidi kingn hata wageni wakija wakal chakuk changu napenda Msemo wa jamaa wanakuka kwa heshim najiona sijapoteza nguvu zangu bure jikoni

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Mama kaisi..Mama Terry.. Aunt sadaka mungu awabariki sana mama zangu!

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Jamani kina mama tuliyo na watoto wakiume tuwape darasa ili ndoa zao baadae zipone wasije pitia tunapitia.

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Nawakubali sana wa mama nawaangalia kutoka mbali sanaa

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kweli jamani,wanaume hawajui kupenda,ni tendo tu

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Weraweraweraaa mama Terry asanteeee......kwel kabsaa wamenyemaz hawa watu.........mwanamk nikama pakaa......nikiliaa nabembelezwa kwa upendooooo tiriiiiiiihhh......

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Nawakubali sana

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Asanteni mama zetu mnatufunza megi

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Shida ni watu wamekata ku accept, watu tumebadilika, reasons za kuingia marriage zimebadilika sio kama kitambo. Watu tu wache kuforce vitu, relationships are not absolute, watu hubadilika.

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How l wish we 254 could have search a forum . I thank God am a mix Coastal and TZ so my bring up so different from my friends others. I just love this forum .

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Harriet mwalagho ur name brings back alot of memories to me .it reminds of someone.by the way u sound familiar

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I love Women matters..kipindi kizuri lakini kama its all about women muwe mnaongelea pia kuhusu mambo yanayowakabili wasichana ambao bado hawajaolewa..

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Uuuwi my favorite show love ming ming kwenu

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Mama zangu things changed,people get into a relationship for a reason.Their is always a motivation and few have get loved and respected

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Nawapenda sana

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Kabis Tunaitaj Kubembelezw ilawengiao hawajui Nawapendasan❤👍👌💃💃

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The host of this show , you need to learn to be patient when you ask a question you listen , stop interfering when others are talking you could easily make them forget to what they wanted to say , be professional please , I love the show I watched every week all the way from England, please be patient 🙏🏿 #bigshow #iloveyouall

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noted that also

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nawapendaaaa yaan nikiona kimeanza women matters uwiiiiii nasisimuka mnajua sana wote mpo juuuuu

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Karibuni tena women mattwers

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Tatizo hao wanaume hawana hata muda wa kuskiliza woman matters, sijuwi tutafanya je kweli

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Umeona ee

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Shidaaaa

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tanasha love tunaskiliza

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mbarikiwe wanaume wamezidi wanajisahau sana jaman

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serious yaan hawathamn kumnunulia nguo za ndan mke

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Furaha ya mwanamume ni mwanamke awe katika depression baaas wataishi sana pending mwanamke anakataa dhulma ndipo ndoa uvunjike ivo jiandae mtoto wakike kua na kifua chakuimili depression ao viumbe ndivyo walivyo aina mjadala stress yako furaha yake furaha yako stress yake.

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I like this show... kweli pia kunahaja ya wanaume kufundwa.... Watching from Italy

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Asante dada zangu maneno munayosema ni ya kweli kabisaa

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Hii show ningeipenda Sana tatzo hawatulii ktk lugha moja TU .....

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Dah mama Mchungaji umenikosha hatari

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Asanten sana mungu azidi kuwaweka

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Well said Wamama!!!!!!😂😂😂😂😂 Mama Kais kanichekesha Sana🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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Mama terry unasema kweli 👌

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Point 1. Self discipline and control

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“Remember to keep comments respectful and follow our #CommunityGuidelines” I love this #WomenMatters🙌🙌🙌🙌

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Good job

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Mara nyingi sana wanaume ndo chanzo cha migogoro ya ndoa unamkutia mume ana simu kaeka passcode ya fingerprints akikaa na wewe simu anaficha akitizama au anaeka aeroplane mode😖😖😖

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😹🤭

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Mama Kaisi leu umedamshi sana🤩

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my favourite show

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Mama kais umenena mama ,kwel wanaume ni wagumu kupet pet inaumiza kwel hapo lzm uchepuke hata kwa hisia

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Baba Babs ppp

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Ahsante WOMEN MATTERS Nimewamiss mama zangu

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Mama Deborah kaongea ukweli mtupu hawajui kupenda

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Safiiiii sana mkinenacho ni kweli kbs

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Best show, learning so much

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my fav show ❤❤

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nawapendaa mno🤣🤣🤣🤣aunty Sadaka nakupendaa uwiiiiiiiiiiiiii

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Hogereni akina mama mungu awape afiya jemaa

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Nimeenjoy Nimejifunza

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Uyo mama terry anaangalia kwa dharau..

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Jamani mama Deborah shikamoo

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Kweli wanaume wengi,hawajui kupenda hata nguo ya ndani kukununuliya nishida,hata hela ya saloon hakupi kwanza hata kukwambiya nakupenda mke wangu! Ni ngum

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Haahaa kutumbukiza liiiliilii katoka kama boda boda mhhh nimeipenda

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yan ukisema umeshiba siku ya kwanza ya pili sitapika tena haki kama ndoa ivunjike ni heri ukale unapokulaga

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Hahahahahaha!

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Punguzen uzungu mnasikilizwa na wengi ambao hawajui hayo maneni y kigeni

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Wewe noma sana 😂😂

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aunti sadaka ngoja Lilian amalize😅😅unazingua

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Niponajifunza mama zangu .

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Nko vzr mnafundika kabisa

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Wanaume wanasema tusitegemee kupendwa na wao, furaha tujipe wenyewe , na pesa tujitegemee

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Nampenda mama kaisi anaongea kama mama angu mkubwa napenda sana hiki kimpindi kinanifundisha sana

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watching from UK,Its super good

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Mlichokosea katika maandalizi ingebd wawepo mwanaume/wanaume mambo yangebalance lkn hapo hakuna tunacho gain Kwa kuwa sasa hv tunawapata kupitia wafasi basi hii topic irudieni kwa kuzingatia gender

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Mko juu

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Mama kaisi nakupenda mama umenena vema sana

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Wa mwezangu awajuwi ku petition kweli da

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Mm ninavo jua wanaume ndo micheche ilopinda

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Jamani mbona kweli mtupu. Wanaume wanaudhi

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Akikataa kula hiyo ndo siku ya mwisho kumpikia

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Ukiona mwanaume anatoka huwa mke wake amejiacha haAjibik namajukum yake kwanyumba 1 mke hanausafi mke hatulii nyumban hanatime namumewe pia mke nimkali kupitiliza mume akifika tuu ataanza kumueleza mambo yamajiran hapo napo matatizo mume anahitaj utulivu

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Mh subiri utakuja kuyaona maana wapo walio nawake 4 bado awara 50 mwanaum sio mtu

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Mama mchungaji umesema kweli

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Mama terry love you 😍😍😍

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Women matters iko juuuu

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Hakuna mapenzi kina mama zangu,labda uumbaji ufanyike kwa upya

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Kabisa

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Mama Terry, well said.👏👏

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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 simpikii tena kabisaa

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😍😍😍😍😍😍nawapenda sana

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Mama kais nakukubali mno

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MUNGU AWABARIKI SANA MAMA ZANGU PAMOJA NA JOPO ZIMA LA SNS. HIKI KIPINDI NI MOTO SANA LKN TATITO WAUME HAWAANGALII. ACHA NIMTUMIE MTARAJIWA WANGU😂😂😂😂

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Halima Hassan 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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tunayakataa mapenzi makavu kwa jina la MUNGU hahahaha

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Lillian mwasha I love u.

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asaneeeee

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Beautiful show ❤️👏

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Make-up on fleek😍

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Mpewe tu peke yenu eeeee

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I 100% agree with you ladies..most african men think everything is about sex..if they give their better have a good sex all will be well.which is wrong emotional connection/ bond is everything.

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Amen amen. Punguzeni tabia mkisha olewa mnageuka wasemaji wa mwisho katika familia tena siyo kwa busara bali kwa vitisho na ubabe. Na kuwanyanyasa waume zenu. Michepuko aitaisha ,kila siku mke anadai nimechoka ,naumwa sina hamu. Mbaya nawe kwenye wanaume ni mwanaume ?. Je sitayari yupo alie shika chati?. Usawa wa kijinsia acheni kuleta nyumbani. Wanawake ndiyo wachepukaji wa kwanza kubalini mkatae. Awe figa ,sura njema usiku ni msiba tena mkubwa kwa wanaume hata kufikia kupigwa vipepsi vya chembe ya moyo . inauma uko na mke kitandani alafu akutaki siku,wiki,mwezi mwaka. Unakuta Mke ana hata chembe ya haiba ya mapenzi . aiba ilionekana siku ya arusi na siku 30 za mwanzo. ( nilimpenda mke wangu sana hata kumpikia , kumfulia, kumuogesha ,kumpaka mufuta . katika mwezi lazima nimlete zawadi angalau mara 3,4 nikifika tunakula pamoja nione amekula namlisha pia, na mengine mengi lakini akusaidia ,leo naishi peke yangu naumia) wanawake wengi wanaleta tabia za wasiyo olewa katika Ndoa ni hari kubwa. Nilimliza mke wangu unaendeleaje? Kanijibu naitaji uhuru wa maisha.(alafu acheni chuki na familia za waume zenu) Rudini kwenye mpango wa Mungu tutashinda. Wanaume wengi ni wakorofi lakini wanawake chanzo cha mabaya. Mchungaji kanisa liko wapi nije kubiri?. (Michepuko wanawapokea wanaume kwa mahaba mazito) kwenye ndoa unafika nyumbani na malboro zako zimeja chakula ,zawadi una sikia dadaa mpokee baba , mwekee mji ya kuoga ,mwekee chakula . mke anacheza na simu je hapo kuna ndoa au maigizo. Mke anarudi nyumbani sas 6 usiku ukiuliza ugomvi.(utasikia niguse kama ukufia jela) je serikali ndiyo inawapa viburi vya kufanya watakavyo kwa waume zao au kwenye ndoa?. Sijui?. Sizani kama mke wa mkubwa yoyote ata wa ocs ua mtendaji anaweza toka tu bila ruhusa na kurudi mda atakao sizani?. Lakini wakwetu anatoka ,ukiuliaza polisi wanatwa unakwenda jela inaumiza na unapewe isiyo na dhamana, wanao wanaingia kwenye mateso na shida kubwa .na pengine kashushwa na mwnaume na kupewa busu mbele yako. Kuna mengi sana natamani ningekua hapo niseme. Mungu atusaidie. ( Ni Mfuasi wa Yesu na Mjumbe wa Amani kwa watu wote) Nawapenda ,Napenda amani na ndiyo sehemu ya maisha yangu. Mungu ibari Tanzania ,Mungu ibariki Afrika yetu wote waliomo. Mungu mbariki Magufuli na Srrekali yake. Naipenda nchi yangu . Amen amen.

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Kwahiyo ndugu ndoa zote na matatizo yote ya ndoa yanasababishwa na wanawake?Hufikirii kuwa ni mentality hii hii ya ubinafsi ndo inasababisha matatizo kwny ndoa. Wanaume acheni kujihesabia haki na kuona mnaeza kufanya mnavyotaka sababu ya uanaume wenu. Shida iko kwenu zaidi, wanawake wengi wanapenda ndoa na si rahisi kuiacha ipotee, ila nao ni binadamu inafika pahala wanachoka. Let's all work together for better families. Kila mtu acheze nafasi yake ipasavyo!

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Nawakubali sana👍💪🏽

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Ma2teli umenena live u

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Amani na Upendo. 😍😍😍😍

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Mimi hzo bra na gifts gifts ninajitahid mpk anaomba Pooh ....

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MFALME WA GIGIGOKO

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Mapenzi makavu🔥🔥

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Wako wap kundi LA mama kais mpoooo

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Lol 😂😂😂 I love it truth speaks ❤

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Tatizo gumu sana

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Ninayakataa mapenzi makavu kwa jina la yesu

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😂😂😂

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Ni mimi ananitesa

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Mimi nasema mwanaume hata mfanyie nini haliziki siyo,kupika wala kwamba mkewske hajui mapenzi raha, hasha

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Lilian Mimi sauti yako tu inanivutia sana

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yani nivyo kipenda hichi kipindi balaa

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Munataka hu badilisha maandiko matakatifu nyinyi sababu yakutaka kujikokotea haki ngambo yenu mujihazari ninyi.

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Hahahahhahahahahahahhaa uwiiiii shem on you men!!! uwiiiii hataa kitambaa cha buku looooooohhhhh shame on youuuuuuu.....