You Aren't Successful Because You Care Too Much (How To Stop)

What will my friends think? What will my parents think? What will they think if I fail? The truth is that nobody will ever have access to your state of mind. They don't understand. Do it anyway.
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0:00 Your Future, Their Opinions
1:18 The 4 Pillars Of Self-Confidence
2:05 Pillar 1: Perspective
3:49 Pillar 2: Perception
5:52 Pillar 3: Practice
10:44 Pillar 4: Authenticity
11:56 The Unconventional Path To Self-Confidence
16:34 A Potential Progression For Self-Improvers
17:50 Start With Writing
20:47 Branch Into Speaking
22:28 Create A Product Or Service
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"For every thought towards your future, there are 100 more against it". That hit home.

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Biostorm

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That is so so true

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😮ikr

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Its def a Hit⚡️

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Wow and here I am Telling Everybody

[@markrusso9235]

“The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence.” ― Charles Bukowski

[@Mysticdesigner222]

“You can’t get to level 2 with the same character that got you to level 1.” A thought I could never put into words until now.

[@WardrobeWinners]

That’s true, as they say new levels new devils

[@abdulqadar9580]

This line likely refers to a skill-based context, suggesting that advancing to a higher level or achieving greater proficiency often requires a significant change or improvement in one's character or abilities. In other words, the strategies or qualities that helped you succeed at one level may not be sufficient for the next, necessitating adaptation and growth to progress further.

[@chris9527]

My manager told me at 17 you can clean everything in the store but somebody will still find something to complain about. I understood the concept.

[@djurobrodarac3730]

lack of direction is even worse than lack of confidence. peace, bro.

[@nelisasiko]

I'm struggling with that right now. I'm doing a Bachelor course at Uni but I still feel lost😢.

[@Daniel-in-the-den.]

Real.

[@thentheresjeff]

@@nelisasiko- may I suggest a book that I have found very helpful and have given as a gift numerous times? It’s called “Discover What You’re Best At” by Linda Gale. It assesses your aptitudes, knowledge, skills, desires, etc., to produce a profile of what you can do for a career that you can learn easily, do well at, and enjoy. It’s the most accurate book of this type that I have ever seen. Best wishes to you!

[@djurobrodarac3730]

@@nelisasiko bro, I was born in a third world country, did a useless bachelor degree there. almost 10 years ago I packed my life into a suitcase and a backpack. Lived in Köln, Frankfurt, Limerick, Dublin, Milano, Berlin, Canary islands. now packing slowly to move to Zürich or Oslo and make money. self-taught programmer. I speak 6 languages. but so much wasted time, so much grief and misery, feeling lost and being lost. heartbroken since 2 years... but I am still standing bro. they don't know me... and they don't know you. learn and do things for yourself, improve, small steps. you will be alright. no matter how many times you slip or fall - always get back up. life is a just a big test, to see how much you can handle, carry and chew. you can't get through a diploma? ok, then you better be hella good at something else with your hands or mind. or work at McDonald's. but that ain't really you, is it? you are still young, I assume, take your time bro. you will have time for everything in life. peace

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​@@spiralintobliss6785he's not this world he's a individual. And he's doing good going to school as a man he has to live a man's life become Jeff bezos or Michael Jordan unless you wanna be a nobody then give up I'm pretty sure he understands success and how to get there. For me I've overcome diversity and all kinds of stuff like pain and betrayal every man is different we just gotta use what life give us as tools to become great. Forget all that you're the world stuff that doesn't. help what is he gonna make it rain?? please explain.

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I put my future into my hands....my parents were teenagers when they gave birth to us me and siblings..long story short I have wasted 20+ years yearning, crying, wasting my life to have my parents be my parents..with open eyes I see that my mother and father are rather busy trying to parent themselves ( their lives goals) I simply cannot care anymore because my future belongs to me and is up to me..I have to parent myself thank GOD I am in no serious relationship nor have any child to abuse and waste...I belong to me

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Parents usually did with us not correct, leaved for us a lot of trauma

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Hey me 2 we must have the same date. September 14th?

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Wow your a star 💫 keep shining 🎉love❤

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Cheering you on to the big 365!

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Overcoming anxiety is all about staying grounded and present, rather than fixating on future events, that most likely won’t happen (as most anxious thoughts are negative). Great content 👏

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I feel like Dan is like my therapist. Thank you

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Just stumpled on this guy this week... and I'm all over his content. He's surely my game changer. I literally feel surely so. Thanks Dan.

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He's been 🔥 on Twitter for a while now Glad he's finally on KZbin

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Same!

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Me too. It’s a a little creepy. He’s telling me exactly what I need to hear but have been able to find.

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Same.

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Thanks a lot Dan, really learned from this one. Favourite ideas: | "Personal growth is a gateway drug into business growth" | "If you aren't getting results, that isn't a sign to quit. It's a sign to improve" | "You cannot reach level 2 with the character that got you to level 1 - growth requires change and that's why most people settle early" | "Becoming multidimensionally jacked is the path to the good life" | "The cure to anxiety is curiosity" | "writing, speaking, marketing, sales are absolute principles which you will have to learn, no matter which business model you go into"

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What I love about your content is it's clear, actionable, and without fluff. One of the most freeing things is to know you have agency and choice to do whatever you want to do. I'd much rather have me holding myself back knowing I can choose to step aside when the time is right rather than something I perceive is outside of my control. Whether improving yourself or staying the same, it's all hard. Just choose your hard!

[@squamish4244]

I would say that anxiety in general is by far the biggest thing that stifles people's potential. Social anxiety, existential anxiety, anxiety in all its forms. A mind that never shuts up and defaults to the negative constantly. But more importantly, anxiety is what prevents people from being _happy,_ which is what we all want, and why we want success. And it doesn't have to be loud, clinical anxiety, but that low-level feeling that something is 'off' with life. You can be wildly successful and still have that feeling, and most people do. The Buddha called it "pervasive unsatisfactoriness".

[@squamish4244]

@@the_myron The gut-brain connection certainly is fascinating. I had an allergen blood test done and found some useful information, like my stomach had problems with dairy - I already knew that - super obvious - peanuts, cashews, and I was gluten intolerant, so now I only buy rye bread. I also eat much less sugar and fat. I wish I could say anxiety is my friend, but it's been a demon for the past 30 years of OCD, then a huge breakdown 17 years ago, then a narcotics addiction (thanks, doc) that destroyed my life 16 years ago. Anxiety has ripped a huge hole in my life for no reason at all. There was nothing I needed to change. Nothing at all. My life was going well, I was successful despite all my struggles. Anxiety by its very nature is wildly irrational. Our brains still think we are in the Stone Age, so they see threats everywhere. Anxiety causes you to worry about meaningless things, or things you can't change, like death. It loops crazily in your head endlessly, tormenting you, crushing the life out of you.

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Mr. Dan Koe is the modern version of Zig Ziglar!! Zig ziglar always said that our problem is the lack of direction and motivation. Dan is giving us the specifics of what to do!!! Thank you, Mr. Koe God is using you to help the world around you!! Thank you and God Bless you and your family. Miss Monique 🙂🙏💗

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[@mustbecome]

Here's the #1 piece of the best advice I've ever heard to help "caring what people think about you: "Don't waste HOURS concerned about the SECONDS of scrutiny a person you BARELY care about MIGHT give your life choices." Start and don't look back. Your potential is your obligation. What you can become, you Must Become.

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What you can become, you Must Become. fire.

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@@thegreatdivinie thank you sir. Much appreciated.

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Eloquently communicated as always. I really resonate with the message that you're drilling home here -- there is an abundance of opportunity and with consistency of effort, we can all reach an audience that resonates with us. Here's to all of the creators!

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Beautifully stated as well! 👊🏼📷🌬

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You said it ALL right here! Have mercy! PLEASE LISTEN to this advice! I got it and I wish I had gotten it sooner! DON'T WASTE TIME! Thank you Dan! You are doing the dang gone thang! 🙌🏾

[@ConstantPursuitDaily]

I needed this today! So much to think about! The fear of what others think I believe is the single biggest thing holding others back!

[@velvetbees]

Ten seconds after most critics have dumped on you, they have already forgotten it. They are automatically back to thinking about themselves. Unless they have importance in your life, send their criticism into the sea and let it float away. And I try to deny them a second chance.

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Bruh I am STRUGGLING today with this. The further I go, the more the demons pile up. Thanks ofr this.

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This! Thank you. I was just journaling about this before it popped up. Synchronicity gold. I wish everyone could hear this.

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To think that the basic skills like writing, speaking, sales, and marketing are easily neglected makes me 😢😢. Thanks Dan for always ringing that reminder bell. ❤

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That really hit home. I had to cut ties with my family to start pursuing my dreams.

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Man, it's tough. I've been working on my business for 4 years, but progress is so slow so I thought I really have to dedicate myself to it if I want to see results. So I'm dedicating myself to it, but it's a lonely path. I don't go out drinking or socialising, I don't meet girls, I don't spend much time on apps. I work my full time job, I exercise, I cook my food, and I work on my business. All in the hopes that one day it will pay off. The cost is great, but it's less than the cost of the regret of knowing I didn't give it my all is greater. But it is difficult sometimes. Christmas and NYE particularly have been difficult.

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The holidays were brutal

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11:00 confidence through authenticity id a mental game.

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How so much thoughts running into your mind of what others think is the hardest thing to overcome. Because we are social beings seeking for everyone's approval and wanting to be accepted and be liked at the end of the day.

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I recently was thinking I thought didn't cared but further inspection I realised I care too much about others think and this is caused me a lot of anxiety and stupid actions I have done

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I have decided that i am trying everything i can afford if it can lead me to a better life and success, because eventually one of them will work and i dont care what anyone think now.

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