You Didn't find Your Style, The Internet Did

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[@fashionelitist]

Leave other thoughts and ideas below that could also be added onto this video! We are a community of people who share new ideas so feel free to express them!

[@seanlarrimore6914]

Hey! If you need some suggestions for fragrances, or want to talk about how they are made, marketed, etc, it'd be fun to talk to you sometime! I know alot of people in the international niche and indie business, and I have had thousands of dollars of fragrances pass through my hands including my own stuff i've made, you may be well versed enough though 😆

[@zeo1087]

Would you consider posting the scripts for your videos as like written essays on Substack or something like that? It’s a lot easier for me to actually absorb information by reading it than watching videos. But your video essays are extremely well done and I really appreciate your voice and contributions in healthy and responsible fashion!!!

[@max.a.trillion3217]

I am a 37-year-old gay male artist who struggles with defining a personal style. I am very aware of current trends, subcultures, and what's happening on the runways and streets/ from tiktok to Avant gard. Ive lived in many places in the states and abroad. Besides struggling to commit to one style I sometimes wonder if I'm just too open to many ideas as I am open to experimenting with various styles, but often find myself plagued by indecision and negative self-talk. This inner voice causes me to second-guess or overthink my choices, making it difficult to feel comfortable with anything I buy or wear. Despite spending hours searching, buying, trying, and returning items. Lots of returns! I never find what I'm searching for. Sometimes, I wish I didn't desire a specific style, as it would free me from this exercise in frustration. Ofcourse there's always minimalsm...but then my brain says but what about this other style, you don't want to commit to minimalism forever do you?

[@WillSavant]

Not being rich is probably the best thing to ever happen to my style. I apply what I like from what I can find in my budget. Even if inspired by brands I can’t afford, I avoid looking like a complete 1 to 1 clone.

[@rakvian]

I'm screenshotting this comment and putting it in my wall

[@shibd6469]

I rather be rich and had bad style, than to be a hobo dressed as a fashionista.

[@WillSavant]

@@shibd6469 weird take

[@DragonHalo3D]

I'm pretty broke atm, and I used to be super fat, so I have a bunch of old clothes that still fit. It's so cool how different they look on my body now, and I can build fits together from them that I would have never even thought to try back then.

[@d0kk542]

@@shibd6469 well yea that's probably most people, but they didnt exactly choose to not be rich

[@sirbabooniusjr.esquire9556]

I genuinely think that the worst aspect of the internet is how it propagates consumerism dude, which ik is ironic but I do kinda miss the old internet where all the ads were random shit like law firms or crystal ball readings and not huge obstructive pop-ups telling me to buy the newest slop from the same 3 conglomerates

[@datboigeurmoc3626]

As if crystal ball readings are also useless slop

[@REDACTED_shenanigans]

​@@datboigeurmoc3626 maybe they dont work, but atleast it was fun

[@Great_PatBingsoo]

It was always like this bro. The internet just furthered it.

[@ewewspicy]

Atleast we aren’t south korea

[@bell1337]

13:08 | Came for the fashion, stayed for the philosophy

[@Danhan12341]

Real

[@aidanmcheung]

“Aging is a once-in-a -lifetime experience that you can only live once” -JQ

[@Haden475]

using exclusively online fits as a way to judge how you should curate your style is like trying to understand film by watching marvel movies or trying to judge the current state of video games looking at the latest call of duty.

[@ala9606]

I definitaly agree with your points but i think it's very imporant to point out that our styles don't necessarily reflect ourselves and who we are but only how we want other people to see us. It's who we want to be and how we want others to react to us, not really who we actually are.

[@Lifeoftheparty8290]

Thank you the best comment on current state of fashion it’s a cop out when people say this is how I express myself no it isn’t most people just want the validation and attention that’s comes with wearing the clothes I promise you most the people’s personalities, mannerism, “confidence” doesn’t not match what they are wearing idk how to explain it but I wrote a thread a while on Twitter about how the clothes don’t match the person you can tell they want to be someone else that they really aren’t or they are just looking for the dopamine hit of attention

[@Arturo27666]

came for the fashion, stayed for the ads

[@em_productions7915]

This is exactly why I love making pants, you get to directly bring your ideas to life in 1 of 1 pieces specially made for you and your body. Not someone else’s take on how fabric should lay on your body.

[@kuy3796]

I started the video upset and ended up thinking a lot and enjoying it. One thing I do think is very important that wasn't mentioned is that sometimes that stream of culture can bring you good things that resonate with you and who you are, but it is VERY true that you can lose track of who you are if you don't explore, if you don't make mistakes, if you lose your own taste and personal likes which are unique to yourself, and you don't see clothing on your body, the fit and cut of clothes, the styles you like, the practicality of the pieces for where you live, and how choosing clothing that adapts to your lifestyle is also very important. You can benefit from this stream of culture, but it is important to go outside, to think about who you are and what you like, and what's important to you practically and aesthetically. How important it is to just g o o u t s i d e. Like god damn, this shit left me thinking. Great video! I think my brain hurts, I hadn't used it in a while

[@user-jj4on7cu1k]

Damn, feels like a Sisyphus video, kinda hits deep ngl, especially that music part at 8:27

[@plunderman9001]

I think one of the biggest ways to find your sense of self is listening to people and being reserved around people. When you are the quiet kid you watch people and can learn from people much better. You can see better when you aren’t distracted with your response to the world around you.

[@TheLuke712]

Popculture has become pretty heterogenous. There were always a few different genres of fashion but nowadays algorithms formed all of these bubbles who got more seperated from each other than ever before. I mean i like the fact that everyone can take their favorite piece of the cake, but i also think it made us more lonely in general, because now the internet is our third place and it‘s always about to be seen by other peers in our specific bubble. If you go outside you will rarely encounter someone from your bubble unless you life in a city with millions of people. That’s the reason i think it makes us lonely because we rather wanna spend our time in the internet with strangers who belong to our bubble than forming real connections with real people who maybe don’t belong to our bubble. And maybe this explains the phenomena of „normie fashion“, we just want real life community again

[@averagemale9401]

We need community more than ever 100%

[@rakvian]

I glad I found my style on accident, I bought a black runner, then by coincidence a black hoodie and black pants, one time I put them all together and loved how it looked, from then on I knew I'd only wear this color, it was all just personal discovery. I only began following fashion stuff on the last few months and honestly I was only influenced into buying balloon pants and nothing else, I can't relate to most mainstream fashion advice. The best advice to find only can be found after searching "how to buy clothes that last", "clothing materials guide" etc etc.

[@padeirocosmico1937]

I really really want to build a solid style, but I live in Brazil man😭. The climate is so hot and quality fashion pieces are expensive asf. I really appreciate your videos, another level of content and no "core" tik tok bs

[@notjohnwayne2960]

great video, i love your style of "content" midway informative, philosophical and then vee-log. i alway go back to the coping video to center myself and actually try to do new things, get outside, touch grass and spend less time on my phone or in front of a screen. it’s hard but your video helps me being less passive in my life and actually take care of things.

[@vieta14]

your videos are cool and relaxing. i don't remember why i started watching you but you have just that vibe that i will watch literally anything from you

[@vieta14]

also you always give good advices and your content is great

[@millennium_actor]

I don’t necessarily agree with everything you say in all your videos but your approach to these sorts of topics is refreshing and grounded, it feels like what you say comes from truly authentic experiences and an informed worldview you have spent a lot of time considering. Subbed!

[@s1de33]

12:44 I was called gay for wearing carhartt double knees 💀💀💀

[@dorian51.]

Stream brought me here

[@dorian51.]

ps: don't forget to add the buyee link

[@jc-kh6km]

this comment was 21 hours ago, the video was posted 5 hours ago?

[@Letsfuckingoooooooo]

@@jc-kh6kmprob unlisted

[@parsifalkitty5109]

I recently found your channel, binged a good amount of videos of yours by now. I love your style and hair. Mine is also a little longer than shoulder length not as curly tho. I appreciate the advice you give to help build confidence in one's style. Been trying to think of a better closet than I have now but it's the idea's I always had problems with. I especially like the rings you have.

[@darkpurplegoldroses]

Your editing and in depth content was alluring and you do a good job of incorporating some humor as well! Keep up the great work🙏🏼🔥🔥

[@adgtr383]

Did not expect to see Kadeem in a fashion elitist video

[@ColdLikeDecember_]

I found you theough instagram when you would post the hating say five reels and i thought you looked super cool and stuff so i followed you and then i watched some videos but the one that made me really enjoy watching js when you made the hair video because i have spent a lot of time trying to fivure out what to do sith my hair and you really really helped me. I used to have really bad dandruff and ever sibce i started cowashing and using shampoo and conditioner the right way it has gone away. Youre the best JQ

[@karlivanr]

I discovered you thru fragrances lol, KZbin recommended me your Fragrance vid before since I'm in the fragrance game for like more than 10 years now. But I stayed for your way of talking about stuff, and also fashion (even though we totally have a different style but you look cool nonetheless) hahaha because I felt like I could gain some knowledge based on the topics you talk about.

[@oilpaint7173]

hey man, this is a great video. Rather-i think this is actually in important video. especially that first 8 minutes. you’ve spoken on things i’m now realizing i’ve been trying to express but lacked the words. Especially in this mass internet influenced age. I’m probably a year and a half clean off of leaving instagram completely and it had this weird impact on me man. i will never return, never. I realized it somewhat led to a “hole” in certain areas of my identity and things i thought i cared about. Leaving instagram as it was my only real social media platform i was active in has really cleared a mental clutter and also helped me steer away from the fashion and social and even art algorithms. now like i said. i’ve felt this hole within me but i believe it’s a hole that use to be filled with clutter and unnecessary false influence. I think now at age 25 im kind of in this internal reset. I know i’ve got this Base Self, i let go of a lot of stuff and am really just trying to keep true and keep curious without being pulled in too many false directions.

[@oilpaint7173]

i hope other young minds can take your words into consideration.

[@simonaspoviliunas5024]

The thing I love the most is learning new things and getting more and more educated about fashion, even more so than actually buying and wearing the clothing itself

[@hks2512]

Ultimately, your style is not unique. No matter what you think. So just dress the way you want even if you copy or inspire by other. It how you feel truly matter

[@ianhh23]

I'm back to watch the end of the video. I started playing it in the afternoon and it motivated me to go out and shoot some photos so I didn't watch it entirely. I still didn't go out, but I'll do tomorrow

[@onlymaximo]

guy on the far left at 1:35 suffocating in them damn pants😭😭Print showing and everything.

[@1bathroom]

look how he holding his right leg up he tryna move that mf 💀💀

[@aphextwang]

Real (they say in unison)

[@FredrikSkievan]

Real

[@averagemale9401]

Real

[@aphextwang]

Real

[@krasserbub5068]

Genuinely thought provoking stuff. Ive been really enjoying your vids and streams lately and im so exited to follow your journey while i am on mine :)

[@llewelynbeauchene]

Your friends outfit at 0:07 is amazing really loved the boots and shirt she wore

[@loveliigrim]

I think keywords and shi can be useful for research or getting a basis of what you like to find inspo, but the problem is when ,like you said, people fall into a buy buy buy mindset to follow that set box they’ve glued themselves into. I think everyone should just dress however they want instead of focusing on following and making sure they’re under a category.

[@honalo7293]

The Cuoium pickup is insane. I’ve always seen the comments about it being an incredible unwashable amount of dry leather/hide, and it only makes me more intrigued by it.

[@b3naqua]

This is why I deleted most social media apps from my phone - felt way too much pressure to conform to the latest style trends or algorithmic frenzies & stopped thinking about what I’m genuinely into or drawn to

[@mrfamilyfriendly4370]

I feel like with the discussion about style, how to find it etc., there’s a point people just miss and that’s there are no rules or guides to your style. Sure, there are aesthetics and all, but your personal style can only be found by you and you won’t achieve it by following rules. Wear 10 designers or one, wear monochrome or every single color, wesr what YOU like (consume ethically tho). People need to stop trying to fit a core or aesthetic, it can help as inspiration or even help, but stop being something that doesn’t exist really. I mean yeah you can’t really say that you won’t like or wear something that is pushed onto you by an algorithm, marketing or social values and you probably won’t ever know if you 100% achieved your style, but style is also changig together with you. My parents gave me a lot of things out of love and because they said they didn’t associate with it too much anymore. And to add one more point: Whatever you choose to wear, wesr it with pride. Don’t let people take your enjoyment away from things you enjoy, no matter what. Take criticism, think about it and maybe even consider changing something because you agree with it, but wear whatever you need. Yoh like trend hopping? Cool, trend hop (and consume ethically) You like archival shit and anything after 2000 doesn’t go with you? Nice, I love it. (Just don’t be elitist about it) You love Y2K? Enjoy the nostalgia. You love the new Margiela Show and NEED that dress? Go buy it and rock that shit. (Just be honest with what you actually want, as long as you actually like it and it isn’t just an impulse) Be true to yourself and you will have found your style.

[@drvortmi]

🗣I keep a self made style to cope with my unstable self identity. We're not the same

[@Abhishekxsahu]

You are WRONG ! The internet actually didn't teach me fashion sense. 2000s and television did. I am from a second world country, everything that first world countries did every trend we caught upto u guys after literally years (especially in 1980-2010). Didn't have cable in the house so i watched 2000's shows even in 2013 lol. And I developed my own fashion sense and style from that. Which is very much what u would consider an old man from 90's would wear lol. Plead pants and shirts (old school fashion) Enjoyed the video though 🩷

[@FLAN3UR]

feel like ive seen you on the first floor at the nyc DSM standing in the corner asking if im finding everything ok

[@fashionelitist]

yes that was me

[@Alve_2u]

6:33 love this segment of the video

[@BlondedPlant]

I found using the internet as an advantage for me and my style journey, and since i'm not rich I can sometimes find better and cheaper alternatives to certain articles of clothing I happen to like.

[@matejsikora9616]

Tbh i came for all the talk about individuality and exporing of different aspects of life. The hair and the fashion is just a bonus.

[@calippo4202]

I know I have made the same comment in a stream before but I think it really adds to the topic here. My issue with the idea of personal style these days is that I feel like one will find what they like and care about, who they really are, but the way this knowlede translates into fashion still feels kinda off. In Philosophy we speak of the idea of growing as a person by engaging with every fasset the world provides and this way forming an identity, an I. As I understood the video, this identity allows oneself to find a "personal style". It is required. But I think there is also a kind of dialog with the world that takes place when choosing what things fit ones Idea of who they are. In another video JQ said that the learn how to dress via inspiration and I think in this lies the neccessaty that we cannot just find our style through knowing who we are. Sure we can go out and see what clothing we like and how it is associated with what we stand for as a person, but that selection is limited, also structured like the online algorithm is. And mainly, what we choose at the end of that selection to be our "personal style" is still dependend on what line of thought lead us to made that exact choice. An simplistic example. Lets say I know I like to be serious and put together, so I wear black and blazers because to me, they represent what I see as these features. They certainly fit me. But I could also tell myself that being able to put together a colorful outfit as an expression of the same features since they show, that I am able to controll many different emotional fassets of myself and integrate them into a coherent whole because I am "serious and put together". The second case follows a more elaborate and maybe even unothodox line of argument, but it is certainly possible. What it comes down to then, is taking products or design elements that match with ones own self expression. But with enough mental gymnastics and interpretation, so many different ways of expression can be called like something that is "just like me". This is the dialog I meant earlier. How do I convince myself that a piece of clothing is me? And if I am able to confince myself of something easily, anything, is it really my personal style then?

[@calippo4202]

Or maybe, it is just the engagement in that dialog in the first place, that matters. It is certainly more efford than many people put.

[@andersongrillo5902]

I wanna look like Zorro, that's pretty much it.

[@Ryan_agile]

I wanna look like a jojo character

[@SKINNYWRIST5]

I wanna look like a Dorohedoro character

[@josephneedham2740]

Hey man was really curious what the general fashion is like in NY, live in Manchester England and would love to hear what’s people are wearing out there 👍🏼 loving the content too ofc

[@Orionleo]

I've been in the world and I've lived a life and I"ve developed the beginnings of what I consider a good style but i dont know how long that can last

[@ellyvvaller]

As one of the 40 something year olds that you refer to 😏 i’ve found my style evolve best when i respond to my environment. I have kids too, so no longer possess the luxury of time to ponder the finer details of my fit but it’s still considered. I buy well and style it simply. I’m in my 40s, I’m still the same person as at 20, 30. I’m not dead to my life pre kids. I just have to be smarter about my choices.

[@cuevak3160]

casully wearing cuoim by orto parisi is demon time

[@ethanmiller631]

came for the black outfits, stayed for the return of your colored polo on your early vids

[@bolillo5013]

Damn, that was refreshing. I didn’t really think about how exhausting all the “cores” and stuff are until now.

[@REDI____]

it ain't that deep bruh

[@beablue7905]

People should really get over labels - I think your content is great and i love your style. Being secure in masculinity is super attractive and YES men can be interested in hairstlying, perfumes, etc... has nothing to do with sexuality but awareness. You rock

[@alsh4hid]

i came for the fashion, and stayed for the vibes and the mindset

[@chucky7399]

Do more fragrance videos please oh and btw I bet you "Last Birthday Cake" by toskovat would be your signature scent if you've tried it. Its inspiration is about a man who takes his own life on his birthday. You can smell the sadness in that one, it had me tear up the first time I smelled it

[@fashionelitist]

I really want to smell that fragrance so bad when it came out! Now I definitely need to get on it

[@yoelmorales208]

Very good advice

[@midnightpurple]

I came for your fashion and life philosophy, and to your jawline. 🤫

[@e_0033]

i wanna dress more extreme and kinda like u do, i already wear mostly black, but people keep assuming its all a phase (its been at least 4 years now...) but i fear i also think it might be a phase so i cant commit to wearing the clothes i want, so now im stuck in an in between place....

[@bananacreampudding]

you should follow your fashion compass, even if you suspect it might be a phase. my biggest style regret is not allowing myself to fully experience the “phases” i was going through out of fear of being embarrassed by it years later. you’re interested in it now and that’s good enough

[@nicolarobatto7469]

a lot of people don't have much time outside of work, obligations and so on, so they apply mindlessly what they see. It's for sure partially a consequence of material conditions, the instant gratification of buying a zara or shain outfit for like 40$ is too attractive to people without much time or money. It's just easy fashion, or what feels like fashion. I 100% agree tho on the commodification of identity. It's crazy how good companies and marketing have become at selling you your identity. You are what you consume, and you feel a sense of belonging into a greater community of likeminded people, which feels nice considering the increasingly individualistic tendencies of our society and especially after the isolation many suffered during covid. It's a sad reality

[@erikriddell5429]

I don’t understand how struggling to be alone is a bad thing, I really love to share experiences with other people, it is my love language so why not show an act of love rather than nothing, I am also very negative in my thoughts towards myself and would be scared of just being in my thoughts, so yes I escape but I also try and work on my social skills because I was not good at being social before.

[@erikriddell5429]

I still have a lot of self reflection but just like 2 hours of just in my thoughts

[@done]

this is such a beautiful video

[@N55_R_55G]

Thanks for segmenting the sponsor.

[@IAmBlakTy]

Thank You

[@alexandrou13]

a buyee promo in this video is crazy🤣🤣

[@spentcomb7864]

on god

[@reyorrano4460]

I just dress however I feel, sometimes I dress like a gay cowboy and sometimes I dress like a drugged up hobo

[@SUB-IN-SUPER]

I just wear what I like, which is basic tank tee, sweatpants and a pair of dunks. Geobasket dunks.

[@jahbless2114]

great content ❤

[@Ucinek_]

Where did u get your jewelery, man?? That guitar pick necklace rocks.

[@ishatheiguana]

I might be the only one but I found you because i was tryina figure out how to clean a vintage leather jacket i bought.... but yes i did infact stay for the hair

[@michaelmurphy579]

I love your koss headphones I have the exact same ones

[@flamingapple06]

Professor Snape core.

[@dorsle4670]

honestly I dress very comfortable and kind of boring and I find other creators who dress differently than myself to be aspirational (this includes mr fashion elitist over here). not a very groundbreaking take, but I enjoy how people can experiment with self expression and I think because I haven’t truly found my identity yet, I feel constricted when I try to really find my personal style. this is a boring comment womp womp

[@akays2339]

im straight JQuing it to this video ❤

[@blankmorning]

I personally came for the fashion and then stayed for the fashion

[@kylechandler4681]

You are very inspiring

[@teddynihon]

People like you for your hair and fashion I stay for the random philosophy

[@christopherd.8197]

the video is about consumerism so i thought the buyee sponsorship was a bit lmfao

[@UnimportantAcc]

"Opium Core" will never not make me laugh every time I hear it

[@longdraggy1654]

Hey man I've been watching Ur videos and i think u making a video about dandruff would help a lot of people i myself i think i have dandruff i love wearing black clothes or jackets but everytime i look at my back i see white stuff and for me its embarrassing i have long hair too and that's my only problem i hope u make a video about it and if you do thank you

[@lesaventuresduncouillu8287]

What do u call your your long sleeve shirt

[@Big_B3N_-notorious.E-_St]

I watch your videos because I went through a phase where I thought I should be a fashion designer. I watched fashion shows on KZbin and read up on the history of haute couture. After that I had my photography phase and then my music phase. Now I'm thinking about becoming a part-time techno DJ while studying computer science. But in the end, my fashion phase helped me come up with the idea of making my own jackets or sweatshirts etc. with my sewing machine. Your videos also inspired me to do this project and that's why I'll keep watching you until I get bored of your content or you. lol

[@HudsonsDiary]

and I found my style on the internet

[@burntpin]

deleted tik tok a year ago, didn’t even know sambas where a trend

[@Big_B3N_-notorious.E-_St]

Haven't they always been a trend somehow?

[@XYZ_Vu]

I really dig your psychological look behind the wearing of clothes

[@davidoffsal]

This title is wild

[@mytightpants]

gym video is a must

[@giorgosab9986]

damn early access

[@therangercast5206]

I've always had an interest in being the cool older brother from the 2000s since I was the younger brother to one so I dress as such now that I have the confidence, just a shame people use it as a trend

[@bfgtim]

I'm here for the gym video

[@kayvte5487]

my style found me ngl 90% of my clothes have been handed down too me and i just put them together the way i like

[@Sunburn_no.2]

I’ve seen a lot of people, including myself, cover the core problem. Whether that’s through publication or yt videos. I think that this addressing of the elephant in the room will push a less consumeristic attitude when it comes to fashion, so ig there is a light at the end of the tunnel

[@stich766]

Hi recently I have been fiercely searching for pants unfortunately without success, I came across pants called "harem and alladin" while it sounds ridiculous and are made in fast fashion which I despise. I came across WASHER WOOL GABARDINE ZIPPER POCKET PANTS by yohji yamamoto, unfortunately the currency in the country I live in did not make it easy for me to buy them. Do you know of any cheaper alternatives? I am mainly concerned with the idea, of looking like balloons and were material. I say in advance that I don't mean the cut of tracksuits, more suit trousers.

[@Damncookies]

Can you make a video on your opinion on the rappers fashion like Playboi carti, asap rockey , lil yachty , Tyler the creator ,Kanye etc

[@styrsix9739]

The minecraft music is making this truly epic

[@ryeofoatmeal]

you reminds me of this one anime character from trinity blood, abel nightroad 💀😭

[@christian-bl5vv]

mfs really throw on a tie and call it “personal style” 😭 (just kidding but there’s so many examples )

[@Big_B3N_-notorious.E-_St]

✨old money aesthetics✨

[@whatfleshmeanstoskeleton]

Charity shops dictate what I wear for the month

[@Embassy_of_Jupiter]

I don't get trends. My tastes haven't changed for as long as I can remember. I'm not a 'fashion guy'. I have very specific tastes and stronly dislike anything else. There isn't a single brand or line I 100% like. I truly like maybe 1 piece out of 1000. It is annoying so I just wear whatever. But, I think fashion is improving, getting more to my tastes. Maybe I'll have something to wear 20 years from now. 😂

[@titanic542]

I found my style cuz of you big bro

[@inkarlcerating]

Buyee sponsored vid? omg!!! ❤❤❤

[@fashionelitist]

Love buyee so much it was a pleasure getting to work with them