Your Marriage Is Worth the Work

Conflict will inevitably occur in every marriage, but you don’t have to stay stuck. Look for the good God is up to, even in the hard times.
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[@687805]

Thank you pastor John for this. My wife just left me and leased an apartment. I have not been the man God has called me to be. I'm looking to buy patience and a second chance. Your words on marriage are always inspiring. I will share your channel with her, but not point to any particular videos. I have faith and hope, and I know God brought us together for more than having a child together.

[@mjh0013]

Did it work out?

[@24Revelation]

Words of wisdom. Thank you! God bless!

So beautiful and powerful message!

[@angielashley8051]

What an encouraging word!! Don’t camp out at the compost pile! So clever and such an apt illustration.

[@cynthiakarennaidoo9485]

Great teaching. Is there an extended teaching or sermon of this ? Will sporeciate the link. Thank you

[@dannyboyz7061]

I learned something today about when cows poop.

[@carisaf7729]

Why is it I can’t find a single sermon by any of the best preachers dealing with what to do when you are married to a drug addict!? Not a single one will cover it. Marriage and divorce is painted as such a black and white picture when you leave that out, but it becomes a whole different ballgame when this becomes a part of it. Can someone with some knowledge on this please do the subject some justice in a sermon.

[@user-ln6pu7kq9j]

Carisa M Perhaps you can watch videos covering a husband's porn addiction. It may not be the exact same, but addictions of any kind tend to share similar characteristics, causes and solutions.

[@carisaf7729]

Thanks, it may be similar but drug addiction alters their mind so that they become almost as if a completely different person always lying and manipulating and making you think you are losing your mind. Plus, it is financially devastating to the family. Women or men who face this are just being confused when the typical sermon on how to fix your marriage is not the way to go about fixing marriages where drug addiction is involved. It is only causing the spouse to become more of a victim and enabler to the user.

[@jeannettecramer9394]

Actually sex addiction of any kind does chemically change a person’s brain. It’s a powerful “drug” also. Check out Dr. Jim Wilder from Life Model Works. Website as well as KZbin videos. He’s a doctor of brain science and explains how addiction changes brain chemistry. Also, help for you living with someone with an addiction: Life Model Works videos on trauma. Deeper Walk International (Dr. Marcus Warner) videos on trauma/PTSD. Freedom in Christ Ministries (FICM-Dr. Neil Anderson) videos on any spiritual stronghold involved and Christ centered identity. Also, Leslie Vernick videos on the Emotionally Destructive Marriage. All the above have KZbin videos and websites. Also Dr. Daniel Amen, brain doctor. All Christians. Also Beth Moore’s Bible study called “Believing God” will help to anchor your faith while dealing with your challenges. Study will anchor your Biblical view of God’s identity and your identity in Christ as his daughter. I’ve been in a 38 year marriage with Biblical grounds for divorce and living with my husband’s addiction for 37 years. Hebrews 12:2. Fixing my eyes on Jesus and the attributes of God has been a lifesaver. Check out “Journey Groups” at Deeper Walk International for weekly support. These are groups that are one hour a week online (video conferencing) with a small group and a facilitator. All based on Jim Wilder’s brain science. Only $25.00 a month or $6.25 an hour. Groups are non threatening as you only share as much or as little as you desire. The goal of the groups is to develop healthy brains of joy and relationships of joy. I agree that the church needs to do a better job in dealing with challenging marriages with over 50% of marriages dealing with some form of addiction ie. drug, alcohol, sex. I hope you may find some real help from the above resources. I will pray for you today.

[@marthaj67]

Carisa, I don't know if any of the following will help you or not, but I just did a search with DuckDuckGo (I try to use Google as little as possible) and found a few links. The first two are videos of Pastor Jeff Durbin from Apologia Church (apologiachurch.com and also apologiastudios.com). Have you heard of him? The second video is his personal testimony, which you may or may not be interested in right now. Before he was saved, he was a drug addict and an alcoholic himself. He has also been a hospital chaplain and worked with many, many drug and alcohol addicted people. If he cannot help you (or at least point you to someone in your local area who will) well....I don't know who could. kzbin.info/www/bejne/Zmfbd2qDfJuosJo kzbin.info/www/bejne/kJXHqGttrb6EpJI The following are just some articles I found, which may or may not be relevant to your situation. www.christiandrugrehab.com/the-family/married-to-an-addict/ www.foryourmarriage.org/drug-use-can-ruin-a-marriage/ www.crosswalk.com/family/marriage/ask-dr-david-confronting-alcoholism-and-drug-addiction-1408736.html I know you don't know me, but I will be praying for you and your husband. I have never been in your particular situation, but I have had my own trials in marriage. It's never easy, but God does have a purpose for everything we go through. That may sound cliched and trite coming from a stranger, but I promise you that He really _does_ work everything for the good of those who love Him; for those who are called according to His purpose. (Romans 8:28)

[@agrogers1]

Hi. I don't have any good links for you sorry. And it sounds like a horrible situation to be in. I do agree with Piper that there is no option for a Christian to remarry while a spouse is still alive. But that doesn't mean you have to stay in the same house and let another use or abuse you. Perhaps a spouse leaving with the children might be the catalyst to see lasting change in an addicted or lost person. When everything else has failed that may be the next step. I will say a prayer for that situation as well.

[@gerryjames9720]

Sounds good unless one of you likes to sit on the pile throwing cow pies all day long and your best option is to get out of range.

[@DynamicGracer]

Or just don't get married rofl

[@s1n4m1n]

Marriage sucks, don’t do it