The Grief Recipe

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2 ай бұрын

Grief is not a linear process.
Everyone's journey is unique, defying cookie-cutter formulas.
Timetables and methods vary based on the loss and individual.
True healing happens through an interplay of time and expression.
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@glitterandducttape 2 ай бұрын

To anyone grieving currently, peace and light to you.🙏🏻✨🦋🕊️

@dawnjohnson8739 2 ай бұрын

Amen

@pickledherring8759 2 ай бұрын

To you, too!💟

@kitcat9214 2 ай бұрын

Thank you. To you as well. ❤

@bradparker9664 2 ай бұрын

Thank you. Sometimes I wonder if it will ever end even when you don't have it buried.

@coltthestarsheriff3544 2 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@patriciasalem3606 2 ай бұрын

I think our definitions of complicated grief, adjustment disorder, etc. need to change. We don't give people the support, the time off, or other things they need to grieve properly. Then we tell them there's something wrong with them when they haven't stopped grieving by some arbitrary time limit. It's one thing the Victorians got right -- that long mourning period. Now society shoves toxic positivity in your face and tells you to think of something happy instead. Don't even get me started on the disenfranchised grief associated with pet loss or childhood trauma...

@KM-wv2og 22 күн бұрын

Your comment is EXCELLENT ❤

@keddy5627 2 ай бұрын

It is a lot of crying…and then more crying! Thank you, Scott 🙏🏽🫶🙏🏽

@kitcat9214 2 ай бұрын

Yes. ❤

@laural9450 2 ай бұрын

I remember the grieving I had when my hub passed, right in front of me, not being ill, here in our house. I can still remember that it hurt so bad, I truly believed my heart was going to break. I remember asking my doctor, if grief could be truly that painful to give me physical pain in my heart. Well today, exactly today, first time I have caught this particular video of yours Dr. Eilers, would have been our 38th wedding anniversary. I am still grieving. Next month, will be the 10th anniversary of his passing. I keep praying time will help, but each year, I still build up grief during this week, and next month. But thank you for the hopeful message that at some time, it will get better. Cause right now, it again, does not feel that it will.

@patriciasalem3606 2 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry for your loss. Did you know that there is indeed a physical phenomenon called Takotsubo syndrome, which is a type of cardiomyopathy people can develop immediately after extreme stress or loss? You may have had that. It's called "broken heart syndrome" as well. I hope you are able to find peace over time.

@denisel780 2 ай бұрын

💗 I am so sorry

@bingowings113 2 ай бұрын

I believe your loss is a temporary one. You will see each other again...

@isabellesmith1951 2 ай бұрын

Wish my consultant psychiatrist could see this in London 😢

@iotaayushshrivastava114 2 ай бұрын

Dr Scott here be challenging all the paradigms of a mentally sick society and healing us in the process 💫

@glitterandducttape 2 ай бұрын

Months and months in grief group and years of therapy and this one thing has never been mentioned. I feel so much better for having heard this. Thank you again Dr. Scott!

@janetslicer3637 2 ай бұрын

The same here. I won't even mention my grief here because I already have on Dr Eiler's other postings.

@ST-ff1zd 2 ай бұрын

I believe it also includes choosing to get better, & working toward that, even if slowly. Most ppl are doing about as well as they can.

@coltthestarsheriff3544 2 ай бұрын

I lost my mom 10 months ago, and my grandmother 6 months ago. Mom's death was nothing I have ever faced before, first weeks, months, entire summer (she died at the end of June) were soo dark, I was living dead. emotionally, psychosomatically... Around September it got better, i got used to it, and even my second loss of my grandmother didn't change that. So it really gets better, although the harder part starts, and you have to reconfigure your entire life without them. That's a true challenge.

@SassySquatchHiker55 2 ай бұрын

It takes a very long time to get through it but you never get over it.

@psyhamlin 2 ай бұрын

True words!

@GingerBiPolarBear 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for this. After my mom passed I suppressed my grief for five years then suddenly started waking up in the mornings feeling like it happened yesterday. I've worked through a lot of feelings around it, but there's still some grief left. 25 years later. I still have mixed feelings about her. And I still miss her. But now I can have a good cry from time to time and know that's okay.