Anxiety, Depression, and Gender Dysphoria: Unraveling the Mental Health Connection.

[@alsinclaire]

I find myself to be a depressive type of person who is struggling with how to find meaning in life and keep going when it feels like the whole world hates me for just existing and breathing air. I'm finding it harder and harder to retain resilience and strength when it feels like I'm just being beaten down more and more day after day.

[@time4clocks]

My friend, you are right, there is much hate out there and it does wear one down. It's exhausting, in fact. A title from an old film comes to mind, Run Silent, Run Deep. Some people are naturally confident and strong and just push through life with no seeming worries. For others it is more difficult. It is for me, anyway. I think trying to cultivate inner peace and love for oneself is a good place to start. That provides the strength when encountering the cold world. For me, I have to stop caring what others think of me and focus on what makes me happy. When I wake up, I think things like, "I don't know what this day will bring, but I'm going to be true to myself, love myself, try to be kind to others, etc,." I also trying to think of things I can be grateful for, such as a place to live, clothing, etc..I also think one must try to be resilient like bamboo. In strong wind, other trees snap, but the bamboo just bends, and when the wind it gone, it is upright again and still there. I am learning this also. I have a personality disorder that includes extreme low self-worth and depression. Each day is a struggle. I am starting to go to therapy, but I realized there are many things I can do to help myself now. Everyone's journey and struggle is different, but you deserve the right to be your most authentic self and to be happy and I wish the best for you. Keep going! The more visibility trans people have in the world makes general acceptance easier for all. You make a difference. Here is a cyber hug (((((💗)))))). It may sound corny coming from a complete stranger, but I unite with you in spirit. 💗💗🏳‍⚧😸

[@srhdfhcvbftg8067]

I'm rooting for you my friend. Please keep your head up! You are stronger than you know.❤

[@richardmanguse6022]

Thank you for your many kindnesses. From an anxiety prone transitioner. You give me strength.

[@jimjones7912]

Thank you! I'm 80, 4 months on HRT, and kicking myself for not starting sooner! I am a very long time depression haver, I only discovered Disphoria about 3 years ago. I sought counseling for depression, again, and take meds for that. I got letters for a visit with Edroconoligist and HRT has begun! Your videos have played an important role in this process. I'm so happy that you have devoted so much to help US!❤😊🎉❤

[@srhdfhcvbftg8067]

This is seriously amazing! It's never too late to choose happiness!

[@CG-yh6js]

You come at such a good moment. The timing of your latest vids is on point with where I'm at now.

[@ambercrest8966]

Im glad Edna Mode is branching out in her profession. 🙏 Great video

[@MsChristyCox]

I'm so glad you are doing this again ❤

[@krydala7650]

Not sure where I fall here. I guess mostly anxious type, overthinking from sun up to sun down, digging through every information I can find, but everytime it counts and it's about actually making a move the depression kicks in and hits me with the "doesn't matter anyway, you'll never be where you want to be." and then it all just collapses. it kind of flip flops back and forth.

[@smooth-juice10101]

You just hit the proverbial nail on the head. I really need help with this depressive mindset. Please help dr z. 😢

[@gleebybooer]

Is it ok if I ask how do you/we find ways to keep going when the public hates is so much? With the Olympic drama and all the trans hate it feels like there’s no reason to keep going. I am struggling to find meaning in life if everyone despised what I am and I am not sure how to go forward.

[@SPTunnelMotor]

I know, it's hard at times. What really matters is, that it is still the right way and direction for us, personally and privately. Anything else is peripheral.

[@elsiemaep20]

Avoid the news as much as you can and focus on your transition. We are the punching bag for conservatives right now and you don't need to be taking those hits during this time in your life. Leave that to your older brothers and sisters. There is life on the other side of transition, I promise. You've just got to make it through.

[@FrozEnbyWolf150-b9t]

I can only speak for myself, but I make it a point to study the relevant science and gather the facts and evidence so I can refute them. I know I'm not going to convince conservatives, but I might be able to sway someone who doesn't know much about the topic. At the very least, I can learn the facts for myself, so that I don't internalize any of the anti-trans rhetoric. As more studies come out, as acceptance grows, and as more trans people become visible, I have little doubt we'll be vindicated. Not everyone can do this, as it takes a lot of time, and isn't best for those in a vulnerable emotional state. In that case, I'd suggest connecting with other trans people in your community. They are out there, and likely need the same things you do. In times like this, we have to lean on each other.

[@trancetheearth]

It is hard and often sad, but… there are nuances. It are the haters that stand out the most, but i think most of it is fear and conforming with what is considered normal. This is a pretty low frequency to metely exist, f*ck that sh*t 😅 lets try to make our life something special, reaching higher goals, shedding our old skins :) thats what keeps me going and oh yeah find friends ❤

[@srhdfhcvbftg8067]

The only thing I can really think about from my own experience is #1 Know who you are and be confident in that #2 Cut out anyone in your personal life who isn't supportive. I struggle with both of these, but some combination of both over time can really be helpful and life changing.

[@VideoGameArchitect]

I like that you have an Alvar Aalto book on your set ^^

[@Strawberry_shortcake732]

I love you dr z, your videos helped me out so much when I first realized I was trans about a year and a half ago ❤️

[@barryfaulder742]

Brilliant thank you so much

[@troycantrell1549]

If its not social its financial or its some other scenario that keeps me on the treadmill,wish i had 3 wishes.

[@strykerpass600]

Anxiety for sure. For me HRT decreases anxiety and allows focus.

[@Federica-v3t]

when I was 11 the teacher shouted at me that I was an airhead like Sandra Milo and absent-minded and she hated me. I have a very high IQ. in fact when someone, a psychologist for example, question me it seems like I have just come down from the clouds. I start to look up, or somewhere...I speak slowly...... I give the impression of having a great inner peace and I don't seem as confident and determined for example as Dr. Z....I'm shy...but sometimes I dress too hot...I suffer a PTSD but yoga, sport and obbedience help me. In TV I Just can watch cartoon and funny movies.

[@HansLemurson]

I felt very called out by that description of the "anxious type". 😅

[@korrafey1044]

Definitely anxious type

[@Rising_Pho3nix_23]

As far as getting out your head for the anxious types, what about treadmill while watching videos and then sit down to meditation music (while/before?) writing out your thoughts?

[@ohryan9872]

Honestly I don't know if I know what anxiety feels like right now unfortunately I am going through a divorce and sometimes everything just feels kind of numb. My feelings I still have all my feelings but it's like someone turned down the volume on all of it like I can still hear the music But it's not that loud

[@SPTunnelMotor]

Give yourself time, friends and resources to heal. ❤️‍🩹

[@caomunistadoggo4129]

Sometimes I feel like the anxiety type, but the majority of time I tend to be the depressive one.

[@SPTunnelMotor]

So, I'm not quite certain about my spot here... I think my predisposition is the anxiety type, but my lived experiences are all over the place. I used to be anxious and shy all the way to my teenage years, where I began to suffer from depression and depressive episodes, coupled with anxiety, panic attacks... Since I finally began transitioning (upper 30s now) my dysphoria has gotten much better, I'm not prone to depression or heavy thoughts about unaliving myself anymore, but currently my anxiety and shame together with restlessness is through the roof. There's still some form of depression present, although it's not as severe as it used to be... Am I neurotic, then? 😅 I do have goals and can bring myself to step forward in order to achieve these goals, I am motivated but I can also be depressed at the same time as I will believe that there's still so much mountain to climb and it can seem to be quite overwhelming at times... There's good things that are happening, my body is changing at Lightspeed, even my endocrinologist is impressed about my results so far. This is what keeps me going. I'm really starting to feel the full impact of how I used to cope with dysphoria all these years. I honestly don't know how I did it. Transitioning seems to be the only true thing that I have ever really done for myself. I hope this isn't too abstract to read. 😂 Dr.Z, I'm very grateful for your great content and you returning to KZbin, as I'm not active in social media at all. I'd have loved to be able to work with you, which unfortunately isn't possible for some reasons. You're a gem. ❤😊 XoXo

[@korrafey1044]

I'm not sure. I'm constantly thinking how hopeless the future is, but I'm also always thinking about the past

[@colmonhs]

🙌🙌

[@ceruleanstone]

I guess I'll be the one :) [02:27] should be "analysis paralysis" not "paralysis analysis" [04:13] for a pessimistic outlook, should be "seeing the glass as half empty" not "seeing the glass as half full" [20:00] should be "follow your own heart" not "follow your own beat of the heart" Of course you can break the rules if you want to (I still know what you meant), but this is how these idioms are normally used.

[@SonjaLovesSonja]

❤

[@benfranklinification]

😊

[@bobbylee9727]

Hello Doc, glad to see you again. So, after cancelling three appointments with my Endocrinologist, I finally talked to her (MtF transgender) for ninety minutes several weeks ago and see her again in two weeks whereupon I am getting the Estrodial patch and she is upping my Spiro. Since I have a history of 'weird/graphic dreams' and ruminating/anxiety, I eagerly look forward to taking this step. My question is: do I as my Endocrinologist for the most ("Go Big or Go Home") amount of Estrodial and Spiro, and possibly Progesterone, the least, or somewhere in the middle?

[@Genevieve111]

20:54 We have to take the Web with a grain of salt.

[@varelsemind5741]

A sincere doubt... you spoke of essentially 3 types - the anxious, the depressive, and the neurotic which is a kind of middle ground who has a little of both tendencies. Is there possible, and if it is, how do you call a person who's BOTH, intensely, all of the time? A low-energy person with bouts of energy quickly siphoned out by out-of-proportion catastrophizing, fearful about the future, but also reliving the bitterness of the past and feeling hopeless about every endeavor? I identify strongly with ALL the behaviors described in the video and that worries me a lot.

[@SpiceCh]

Accepting the reality we live in, and expressing yourself how you want to, does not contradict each other. The sooner people realize this, the sooner conversations on this whole subject will cease to be polarized horror shows where opinions and pseudoscience is paraded around like gospel truths.