Asexuality on The View, Jan 15 2006

[@Jormungandr0]

Dear god, David Jay is a saint. I would not have the patience for those women.

[@pancon9947]

I know he is way too calm about this

[@poliebear1335]

Gosh, yeah. Poor guy.

[@sababajwa93]

id curse at her........... lol. i'm pakistani / muslim / married and VERY asexual , i have sex n feel nothing during sex. just to stay married. these ppl r jerks.

[@butterscotchwm]

Dear god I've watched this a couple times now, and as an asexual my blood still boils at some of the things these ladies say.

[@shahardewaka]

this is exaclly david's power, he brot the topic and explaned it well in the times asexualty was taboo and if talked about it was as a joke (sory for my spelling, english isn't my first languege)

[@sababajwa93]

me too.

[@deus_vult8111]

You’re too cute to be asexual

[@butterscotchwm]

@@deus_vult8111 This is not the compliment you think it is

[@CatDrinkingPoison]

@@deus_vult8111 WHAT THE HECK!

[@Gamecube-ds5qt]

They did a terrible job at interviewing, they didn't even listen. These women are incredibly rude. I respect David a lot for standing his ground and still staying polite.

[@sticks4632]

Its the veiw, what did you expect?

[@CatDrinkingPoison]

@@sticks4632 Is this an American program? Because I’m from England and never heard of this show. I think this is like loose women

[@kayahigham8568]

@@CatDrinkingPoison I know this is late and you might have Googled it by now but yes, The View is an American tv program. I grew up watching it and it mostly feels like women loudly arguing and talking over one another for about an hour I think is the length of an episode

[@RinaRinglets]

I couldm't watch the whole interview, the way these women interview him is disgusting and disrespectful

[@luellalunabjd]

YES! Poor guy.. So disrespectful!

[@cece4226]

Very disrepectful!! Smh..

[@Irishsong22]

This was a few years ago. I feel like they're more polite now, though I haven't seen it in a while. Whoopie Goldberg is on now and she's much nicer.

[@dreamingnight13]

I feel most of them are just ignorant, so they ask genuine questions, but kinda comes across rude, but the lady sitting right of the lad is just being shitty

[@carter7937]

Elisabeth was respectful, the rest weren't. Joy Behar is a liberal yet makes jokes that are verrrry offensive to people.

[@LadyCharity]

Wow they were rude...let that guy be an ace in peace. He hasn't done anything wrong.

[@luellalunabjd]

Ok if you don't understand, but a lot of these questions and remarks are really offensive. And he never ever gets to finish a sentence..

[@cece4226]

Exactly!

[@citycrusher9308]

@No Name Women do not like a non sexually driven man

[@SineadLeavy]

The women here are terrible. This is less of an interview than more of an attack. I'm impressed that David can put up with all this.

[@AndreiGu]

The blonde woman seems at least curious to learn more, the other women are so disrespectful

[@meyou-qu3rz]

Yh, it's kinda sad, also hello ur probs getting a notification about this comment you wrote 5 years ago

[@iSTOLEyoSharpie]

Do these women think that they're being funny by constantly interrupting him or something? I would have gotten so mad. Interviews are supposed to be like "question. answer. question. answer." not "question answ-QUESNTIINON I CDONT UNDERSATBD YOUR ANDWERRRR" seriously.

[@cece4226]

David was great at explaining asexuality with such precision. I felt so bad for him being around a bunch of women who didn't understand. But I can't see how this is shocking to people..it does take time to understand. But if they would have listened to him more instead of barging in..they would have understood it better. David did an excellent job! He's awesome!

[@elanorien8005]

Their inability to comprehend what he's explaining and their downright mockery of David Jay and the information he's trying to pass on is exactly why we need him and AVEN!!

[@thatoneperson789]

As an asexual, this was really hard to watch because I felt like that they were trying to tell him that maybe he was this, or maybe he was that, rather than just accepting he was asexual. News flash, asexuality is a real and valid sexuality. And men can be asexual too!!

[@Konrad_Wallenrod]

If a bisexual came to this show, they'd probably try to convince him that he's just in denial of his homosexuality or afraid of women (depends on their political orientation- a "liberal" would assume the former, conservative the latter)

[@annalisekeanpeterson2335]

Good lord these women were rude. just because he's different than you doesn't give you the right to ask extremely invasive questions and makea joke out of very personal feelings and issues.

[@MikesMyThrillerGuy]

Those women are ignorant.

[@michaelmorris1865]

So many people are ignorant about asexuality

[@EarthAngel504]

you right,, my god they were pissing me off. all over him, he couldn't even speak and they ask him question and then try to answer it for him

[@cece4226]

very ignorant and rude! Show some respect for your guests and don't make fun of people that are different from you!

[@nerdchic3897]

There's a difference between being genuinely curious and being rude and ignorant... These ladies are an example of the latter.

[@AetherDreamSeeker]

These women just make me very angry. If they shut their mouths long enough to listen and think about it they would be able to maybe come up with some intelligent questions. Unprofessional, rude, and very ignorant comes to mind. Mad props to David J. for putting up with them and not losing it.

[@spookyoliv8319]

If I was him, I would have absolutely lost my shit if I was spoken to like that. Thank god for the asexual king, David jay

[@94misspickles]

Let the man talk!

[@Spooky799kil]

If these people think sex is the mentality of your existence then they are pathetic.

[@clover220]

Here's an example: a priest desires sex more than an asexual who has little to no sexual attraction, a priest is just choosing to not have sex for religious reasons. We asexuals don't desire sex and we're not choosing to remain celibate. Like someone else said here, it's like an instinct. We can have sex but it doesn't change the fact we don't desire it, we just don't care. I just needed to explain the difference because I'm tired of people calling us "religious freaks who hate sex," not true. We are not trying to tell people that sex is bad, everyone has a different sexuality. We are just not wired the same way as sexual people.

[@jclyntoledo]

it's actually allosexual ppl since asexual doesn't necessarily mean ppl who don't have sex, they just don't experience sexual attraction which is entirely different than sexual arousal.

[@amyhart9256]

I would like to think that in the 9 years since this was shown that there is a lot more acceptance for asexuals. I didn't even know what it was back in 2006 myself. I only found out in 2008 because I made a friend that is asexual and she explained it to me. Either way, there was no need for the women to be so damn rude with their questions. It definitely showed a lack of understanding and compassion!

[@MrSD42]

+Amy Hart it's come a long way but it still has a long way to go.

[@avalonandon]

Wow, these women are being ridiculous. I really liked the guy, but the interview was awful.

[@CrazyDiamond1266]

Oh. My. Goodness. I don't even know where to start...the skepticism, the constant interruptions, or the personal questions ("do you like having sex with yourself?"). He is trying to tell them who he is, who WE are, and he gets nothing but disrespect. Arrrgh.

[@emovampie345]

"If you're not having sex, what's there to talk about??" //headesk

[@lisette6463]

Jesus, they hit every aphobic thing anyone has ever said in under ten minutes.

[@Sleepy__Shadows]

They were....extremely disrespectful. Though I honestly don't know why I expected better from a hyped up talk show like The View. I suppose I had hope that four adult women could handle this with a tiny bit of decorum.

[@wordhappyHazel]

Not cool with the hosts continually talking over their guest and each other and dismissing David's asexuality. The man is telling them how it is and they are telling him they know better. Ugh.

[@geoffreyfence9569]

Elisabeth was pretty respectful, but the rest were so rude

[@bubblegirl99xoxo]

Is it bad I want to smack them for saying such stupid things.

[@DrZed-js1rk]

Hevendemo not at all.

[@sarahwithrow7250]

Just when I thought I couldn't hate this show more, I see this. I know that they don't understand it, but do they have to be rude? Let the man explain. It must be awful to try and explain something that is important to you, and have people make fun of you.

[@kukalakana]

They would do better to have a single interviewer rather than a mob of four, methinks.

[@cece4226]

Exactly! They could at least had some compassion. .I mean some people really wanna know what's up with them and find out why they feel different and that they are totally normal. I wish these women had just let him talk more instead of interrupting him when he was trying to explain what asexuality was.

[@Konrad_Wallenrod]

Even some animals are asexual- they don't chase females during mating season, and they are perfectly healthy in every other respect, including their hormonal levels

[@TheCHAMELEON17]

The interviewers remind me of my family when I try to talk to them about serious stuff

[@anxiousfish6962]

When people say asexuals are not oppressed, I'll point them to this video, cause the shit this guy puts up with is immense

[@littleripper312]

I'm going to make a drink called "asexual on a beach"

[@AllyRose24]

Please do, it sounds fantastic

[@DrSmart20]

it seems like a non alcoholic beverage

[@SassyTheSkyDragon]

DrSmart20 That one really exists and is called "Safe Sex on the Beach"

[@Agostina999]

At least we can all have comfort in knowing that there has been SO MUCH PROGRESS and understanding of asexuality in the 8 years after that

[@DavyDave]

I'm 54 and just figured out I'm asexual. 3 failed marriages and years of trying to be sexual because I was suppose to be, when I'm not is why this needs to be talked about. I've never been happier now that I understand why I feel the way I do. I'm normal and it's okay. Thank you David Jay for helping to put this out there.

[@aceaceboebace2110]

I do not like how rude they are. They were not even letting him speak. They just wanted the spot light on themselves. "...Why do you need to organize?..." "...why do you need to talk about it...? Rude!

[@daniellerichardson7373]

They were rude and ignorant and they barely even listened to what he had to say. They could have done research beforehand. I guess it's beyond their comprehension lol.

[@cece4226]

Exactly!

[@Tuna13]

It's sad how ignorant the general public is about human sexuality :/

[@lunatic1007]

Wow, David Jay handled that interview much better than I ever could. What a nightmare; thank the creator for him and his ace advocacy!!

[@MikesMyThrillerGuy]

I know for a fact i'm asexual because now at 23, looking back on my life the only crushes I ever had was on famous people, I like their characters they play,but not any sexual attraction just like innocent type crushes. I have had sex and it was just plain boring and I never understood it. I don't see a need to do that, I don't desire relationships like that, when I had sex I just did it to be nice to the guys, I was never into them. I wanted it to be done and over with. I take care of myself, I don't need relationships, to me that seems taboo because that's totally outside my character to date,have sex, etc. Its hard living in a sex crazed world when your like me. It annoys me when sexual people think they know me. I cant wrap my head around some people's way of thinking but i'm sure i'm weird as hell to sexual people. Some sexual maniacs might tell me i'm missing out, but what would I be missing out on when I don't desire that? I'm ok with how I am.

[@zeecolson6838]

We have come SUCH a long way. Thank you Jay for dealing with these people so we didn't have to

[@choccmilk]

i'm really hoping that they've changed in the 15 years it's been since this episode aired because the way they treated him was utterly disrespectful and selfish. he was brought there as a mockery and it's overwhelmingly obvious.

[@sarahvandenberg7624]

This is hard to watch but he answers their horrible questions really well and has a strong heart. All the power to him

[@JennaJoker]

These people are pissing me off

[@xGlassChild]

As these girls demonstrate, there's a big difference between asking questions and just being rude.

[@gforskli4307]

I feel deeply for the poor souls who have to openly come out as aces after watching this people disregard someone's experiences like this.

[@jennamarie1780]

The part at 3:10 is so utterly unacceptable. She's essentially condoning "corrective rape", I have no idea how David Jay could put up with those women.

[@romant142]

Jenna Marie she's making an unfunny joke

[@specialpatrolgroup92]

"You're not having sex what's there to talk about?" I can see why she might think that but it's actually quite nice for asexuals to realise they're not freaks.

[@abigailscott3427]

Man looking back on this 16 years later ... I forgot (or didn't realize) how much "early" asexual rhetoric was "We're still human! We still experience romantic feelings!" Respectability politics at its finest, at the expense of the aromantic community. Is that just inevitable when a marginalized group first organizes for recognition?

[@sweeetpepppa]

They're pretty much like high school girls. Loud. Childish. Not polite. The guy is supposed to be treated respectfully as a guest. American culture?

[@ElizabethMidfordHatesCops]

Yes. As an American, yes. Loud, childish, and not polite is American culture.

[@Shoulderpads-mcgee]

So disgusting to hound Jay on whether or not he masturbates. That’s extremely personal. You wouldn’t ask anyone else to talk about that on national television

[@ImGoodThankYou]

my gosh..the way people talk about it surprises me. Being in a really closed society where talking about sex is a taboo had me thinking, and for a really long time, that it's normal to feel this way. the interviewers seemed to be really confused and couldn't stop making jokes what the hell is it that bizarre?!

[@patronise]

Well done, David. That was really tough interview and you dealt with it brilliantly. I think these women were genuinely just trying to understand, but in their eagerness to learn more it turns into a bombardment. Between all the interruptions though there is plenty of content and this covers a lot ground in describing the breadth of width of what asexuality is.

[@Duriretlan]

David Jay has so much patience. What a champ.

[@Empress2216]

I would have started crying. My social anxiety could never. Also these people are monsters.

[@d.v.crystal5589]

The disrespect is strong in these ones. Infuriating.

[@jackguthrie2954]

Its actually sad the most compassionate person was right wing republican Elizabeth Hassekbeck

[@carter7937]

It's because she's a secular christian, they're always more compassionate.

[@jackguthrie2954]

Mmmmmmmmmm k hun lol

[@bistestander]

Holy shit. Let the man talk. They keep acting like they don't get it, but it's because they don't let him talk! And they interrupt him to make ignorant jokes! This is so frustrating! I mean yeah they gotta be entertaining but they are trying too hard and are just being rude and it's not comfortable to watch.

[@elmo4390]

Well to say something positive about this, it shows pretty well why we need to talk about asexuality.

[@ooOErzengelOoo]

David Jay is a hero. It's very courageous for a man today to confess in public that he doesn't want to have sex. That means that he surely has no inferiority complex. I'm also asexual and I feel grateful to David for founding this internet platform and opening up this debate.

[@AngelGhostchild]

@Dtwaine You're attracted to their personality. You're attracted by their intellect, by their common interests. You're not attracted to them sexually as in wanting sex.

[@nkelly5851]

The blatant aphobia here is horrible and asexuality is so invisible at that time that they didn't even realize it.

[@jaymesays6437]

This was a little painful to watch. They barely let him talk before asking more questions.

[@mochteamore]

David Jay, you're my hero.

[@frodogollum829]

I think I would have asked my kids to leave the room too, but only because this way of communication is like the worst...

[@cavinesmithsonian2389]

Man his restraint towards these ladies.

[@matthieus2]

Thanks for uploading these. I usually like The View but I found the hosts pretty ignorant towards the guest here as well. I think he's brave to speak about it.

[@guardian6788]

Honestly, if I was in the audience for this, I would have never been able to stand them constantly interrupting him and making fun of him. He was constantly getting cut off just to be laughed at!! That is not okay when talking about something like this!!

[@Agostina999]

Good for David for standing his ground. I have a lot of trouble explaining my sexuality to people, hell I don't think ill ever come out to my family cause they will do just this and ill just go into a little shell. Yeah if i were in his place i would probably punch joy behar. she's one of the people that if i told them i was asexual, they would just make me feel worse and worse about myself. Like I know who i am and I'm totally fine with it, but the way the world views me is still pretty intimidating

[@ang3lf4ce00]

They were behaving so ignorantly. This isn't even an "interview". I understand if you don't know what asexuality is because even now, it's still not common. But to ask questions like that and get right into David's personal life is simply unnecessary. However, I liked that David was willing to be so open. He didn't have to be. But seriously, I can't believe how ignorant, blind, and idiotic this behavior is. It's not really that hard if you use your brain.

[@bostongal912]

Check Joy Behar’s body language especially in the beginning of the show when Elizabeth Is speaking. She has such an attitude and thinks she’s the authority on everything as usual and she’s gotten worse as she ages. So obnoxious and annoying and one of the main reasons I stopped watching the View!

[@FourthDerivative]

I'm very impressed by how patient and friendly David was throughout the interview. I would have lost my shit if they were being that rude and intrusive to me.

[@Verderer]

I wonder what these four silly women think when, or if, they look at this recording of their performance in this clip along side this amazingly polite and patient guy David Jay? Will they see themselves just as rude and ignorant and, let's face it, just plain stupid as most of the viewers watching it undoubtedly do?

[@ToriA.]

Oh my gosh, that read headed lady 😣😤

[@egglasagna5414]

Can these women just shut up and let him talk

[@Izlandzadi14]

Listening to people explain how people can have nonsexual relationships makes me so happy. I have like literally found the story of my life.

[@Isa_blue98]

What an annoying host 🙄🙄🙄 this man is a saint.

[@mylife-23]

The women don't realize there's a difference between attraction n action.

[@limetreess]

I'm so glad (almost) everyone on here is far more intelligent, mature and open-minded than these ladies. I'm just beginning to realize that this is an important part of who I am and it is not something wrong with me, just like being gay is not wrong. I guess this may be my second coming out. I think "demisexual" defines me better. This has always come up and been troublesome in my relationships and I feel ashamed to admit that I really don't care about sex. Thanks for the support everyone!!

[@swankivy]

Wow, it's funny how they throw questions at him that aren't really questions, almost as if they know "THIS'll sure stump him, I rest my case now." And then they don't let him answer. And suggesting that asexuals are just repressed, or that the physical ability to get pleasure from masturbation means a person is not asexual, is really pretty ignorant. David Jay does a fantastic job clearing up the misconceptions about us. I'm trying to help spread awareness with my new video series too.

[@angelikasvernile1447]

This guy, respect respect respect. He is patient, smart and kind and frick, those women are just afwull to him!

[@unsubscribe_kye]

I'm just watching this in 2018 and nothing has changed. This hurts my soul. I cringed so hard I'm a diamond now...

[@guardian6788]

Sorry to say, but it's 3 years later, and it's not much better

[@unsubscribe_kye]

Gooooooood I knowwwwww. Duuuuuuuuuuuuude.

[@theself5738]

I don’t get why these women are so insensitive. They come across as just hostile. Especially the red headed one is just so disrespectful.

[@violetr8530]

wtf!! Thank god society has moved on a lot since 2006! Choice my ass!!!

[@JrIcify]

All I can say is that I have extreme respect for David and how he performed in this interview. He was under a rapid fire of ignorance and stupidity, but he managed to conduct himself well and get a lot of words in there, which most people getting "interviewed" on this show don't manage to do.

[@medeasoak9964]

OK a lot of the comments are angry at the interviewers and I get it BUT when I 'came out' to my mum THIS was the video I showed her because, right or not, the women in The View ask the questions that the unthinking majority ask. So when you have a skilled spokesperson like David Jay answering their questions rapid fire, you get a highly informative segment that I would argue does MORE for asexual awareness.

[@isabelw6265]

As an asexual this was almost nine minutes straight of pure pain

[@howinnocentistheday]

the way they kept cutting him off before he actually explained anything and then acting like he wasn't explaining properly 😭

[@jimbobhk2009]

i'm asexual and i don't care who knows it! : D yay for me!

[@Irishsong22]

Oh gosh, Joy. You were awful to him! Let the man speak! And listen when he does! If someone says that they feel one way, that's how they feel. You don't have to change their mind about themselves.

[@redpyrocat]

I had to take a break when they started asking him if he has sex with himself. Holy shit that's rude! I think what makes this whole interview more insulting is that they played it all up for laughs. This poor guy had to sit there (clearly uncomfortable) and take it while doing his best to answer their questions. Just unbelievable...

[@Snotnarok]

I love when it shocks people when you're not straight, when I told my parents I was asexual I got taken to the doctor for blood tests, seriously.

[@Puzzoozoo]

I'm also asexual - type B-and you are right people just don't understand if you stand out from the crowd. I am so glad I don't have bother with having physical relationships with anyone, it makes life a whole lot simpler.

[@KappyLaLaShow]

"Then what is there to talk about?" ....so much hate

[@XenonUnderground]

I think what a lot of people dont realize is that human sexuality can't just be lumped into the linear mindset of "gay" or "straight", black or white, its actually a wide wide spectrum that has the ability to go in all directions and if you're comfortable enough with yourself and your own sexuality, you have the ability to see exactly to what extents sexuality can go.

[@INGOWIZRD]

I'm so glad that he went on here telling people about asexuality. I love being asexual, I feel it's the best sexuality, for me. :)

[@AarynGoodwin]

The blonde seemed fairly open-minded and respectful; the rest were basically self-absorbed harpies.

[@F22C1]

I'm happy I'm asexual. I can focus on just myself. I like having friends, but I like coming home to an empty house rather then having to keep conforming to someone else.

[@pancon9947]

god they are so rude and disrespectful