Asexuality on Tucker Carlson, March 27 2006

David Jay of the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (www.asexuality.org) appears on The Situation with Tucker Carlson.

[@ikesteroma]

Carlson sounds like a drug dealer in the last minute or so: "Try it, just once. You just might like it."

[@anapplepinetarticathe23rd90]

I don't want what he's selling

[@sageknight6189]

+AnapplePinetarticathe23rd +Ike Evans LMFAO :[)

[@aragornsonofarathorn2170]

C'mon, it's some good shit

[@MegaOtaku777]

I don't understand people's aversion to asexuality. Why do they discriminate against us for something we aren't doing?

[@MegaOtaku777]

rttoronto Thank you so much for your support. Much love.

[@MegaOtaku777]

Haderian1 All we can really do is help them understand, and hope that one day they will stop attacking what they don't understand. :)

[@sageknight6189]

+MegaOtaku777 :[) so sweet

[@marukochan13]

That's probably because they can't possibly imagine not being attracted to anyone sexually. It's honestly understandable.

[@SabaFrida]

Bareth blabbing lOL meanwhile true asexuals are in comment section who actually deal with this it’s not a sin it’s biological issue ok

[@questionablehistorian9335]

I'm actually laughing out loud right now, "Maybe you should just try it once and see if you like it". I was a virgin until I was 23, I knew I was asexual, but everyone in my life at the time were in relationships and kept telling me how much I was "missing out". So I tried it, a few times actually, all doing it did for me was confirm what I already knew. I don't know how David Jay didn't laugh in Tuckers face.

[@Mr._Lonely]

You can't miss out on something if you don't want it.

[@justsomegirlwithoutamustache]

Lol Tucker asking him if he wants to try sex after the guest stated he's 20% into men almost makes it seem like Tucker is inviting him to sex

[@Holics94]

Seriously on all of these interviews david jay is probably the most patient person. If I was being interviewed at the end I would probably just yell shut up

[@PaulDanielGolban]

The interviewer does what a interviewer should not: forcing his opinions on the interviewee!

[@MyceliumNebula]

hey, its a thousand times better than the View interview with david. that one.... oof it was bad

[@popculturewitch2607]

So Piers Morgan

[@Zyphon]

I must say, David Jay did an amazing job in this interview. Props to him 👏

[@frankcastle1862]

In a million years I never expected to see you here

[@CatDrinkingPoison]

@DuoRiver pog

[@BeatsonsGirl84]

"the average man has a porno movie on a continuous loop going in his brain at all times". That's nice to know about men!

[@celticfire9881]

Maybe Tucker experience’s that continuously, he doesn’t speak for every man.

[@imprwikiimprwiki6898]

It’s false

[@DrizzyB]

No thats just tucker

[@specialpatrolgroup92]

It's important to raise awareness not because asexuals need the attention but so that asexuals who haven't realised it yet know that it's a possibility, they're not on their own and that it's not something they can control or need to be concerned about.

[@Crystalitar]

I rlly don't get the comparison he makes "oh if you don't think about sex you can cure cancer".. like.. what?

[@user-ue9kl1jt4x]

its a joke mate

[@thisotakugirl1017]

yeah I love when people are like "you must be some much more productive thwn anyone else!" and my ace self is like "dude, how much time do yall spend experiencing sexual attraction?" like it cant be that time consuming right?

[@classicleslie6914]

It would be kind of cool though 😎

[@AshTimlin01]

I realise that it's been a month, I just want to say this. The reason we have awareness groups and sites is to allow sexuals to research asexuality and attempt to get a grip on what it's about, it's not always about us yelling about our sexuality; it's sometimes about educating others so they will not abuse us or ridicule us when we do "come out" as asexuals. We need people to know that asexuality is not a condition, it's not a symptom of something and that it's not a problem.

[@aja8950120]

It can be difficult sometimes to try and figure out your sexuality, especially if it "doesn't exist" to most people. Setting up this website, and essentially bringing a whole community into the light, was probably very difficult on many levals. I really admire and respect him for showing the world that we do exist and allowing us and others to find a safe place to learn about asexuality. And I thank you for understanding that one doesn't have to do something to know they won't like it.

[@Sophlj54]

Why can't people accept that asexuality exists! The interviewer certainly can't!

[@jomsthejomtheff1644]

He's justifiably curious, and these are common questions most people have, so I say he's doing all right.

[@hexx6120]

Joms The Jom Theff you clearly don’t know tucker carlson

[@arturintete2461]

Joms The Jom Theff do you know who Tucker Carlson is?

[@imprwikiimprwiki6898]

@@arturintete2461 this was before his infamy

[@MsKim14]

I thought Tucker asked good questions.

[@shaantvis]

Having a lack of desire for sex could be a blessing.

[@user-sp2jg9rx8r]

As someone who is Asexual. Thanks, I guess?

[@classicleslie6914]

Yes

[@DrizzyB]

@@user-sp2jg9rx8r at least you cant be accused of being a predator or something. I see a lot of content creators (mainly gaming ones) getting exposed for not being able to keep whats in their pants in their pants (usually around minors)😬

[@jackgeorgia3910]

Yeah Just like we straight find it wierd and definitely don't like to sleep with the same sex even if we haven't tried, asexual feel the same

[@coocooformycocoapuffs3235]

thank you my god people dont know how to look from different points of view lol

[@NoopyP]

"David Jay is a 23 year old ladies man who is also a virgin and planning on remaining one. He's not a priest, he doesn't wanna become a priest. He just says he's not interested in sex and APPARENTLY he is not alone." That just killed me, way too funny. Good to see we've gained visibility since then.

[@ariebirb]

According to many aces who have tried sex, a ton of them regret it even when they thought they wanted it

[@ChristophProbst]

Believe me, being different isn't easy. I've had friends tell me to go to therapy, I've had relationships break up, it'd be a lot easier if I wasn't asexual. I'm okay with who I am though, and I don't have the worries that a lot of sexual people do. Like exxodus said, I can't be seduced or tempted in that way.

[@cloud1221strife]

The asexual I know is perfectly fine. She is among the smarter people I know. She is always happy. She comes from a fine family. I am very close to her, and she is perfectly fine.

[@DeathTempler]

"Everything is worth trying at least once" If that's the idea in regards to this particular topic, I'd love to have seen the retort: "How do you know you're not gay until you've slept with a man?"

[@ramsie630]

David jay is so kind n patient in this interview. God bless him❤

[@sageknight6189]

WOOHOO Go David Jay!!

[@RyanJohnson]

Tucker are you encouraging people to have pre-marital sex?

[@arturintete2461]

Ryan Johnson I sure hope so, sex after marriage is the dumbest thing ever invented. Abstinence hasn’t helped solve any issues... like, at all.

[@Katie-ws7xp]

@@arturintete2461 yes but Tucker is known for telling people to be abstinent.

[@arturintete2461]

Katie I know. He’s not a trustworthy guy.

[@Katie-ws7xp]

@@arturintete2461 I had a bit of a feeling you knew but I mean at least now I said it other people who didn't know will know. And yeah he's an ass

[@86thislove]

When I say attractive, I mean I can still tell what men look like. I see men like art and he's cute. Definately not hot or sexy though

[@FinsternisSan]

I'm asexual, and proud :3 David has a lot of courage to speak about this on a national level. It's hard for me at least, since the world is so sexually orientated and often give ignorant reactions. Pride right here~ :3

[@tribbleq]

I think David is a really good speaker for our community. There may be different variations of asexuality, but he covers them pretty well. I certainly couldn't do any better. I like watching people interviewing him.

[@rosecityremona]

*rolls eyes* I tried sex for 40 years including being married and, nope, does nothing for me....lol

[@medeasoak9964]

I thought this was a GREAT interview: a real spar between Carlson and Jay that does a lot for asexual awareness. If a non LGBTIQ+ person asks me about my asexuality, I'm showing them this.

[@kantoros]

Oh damn. up until 5:25 Tucker was actually kinda nice. Asking questions, a bit ignorant but he seemed to actually be curious. Fortunately he didn't dissapoint and said the dumbest shit you could think of, same as always

[@leahi.1224]

I about how bad aphobia is contemporarily... and then I see this from 14 years ago

[@ehartsay]

"Everybody has sexual urges -- these people are just scared of them." How would you know what 'everyone' feels?

[@user-sp2jg9rx8r]

I know, right.

[@imprwikiimprwiki6898]

Because Tucker Carlson is an arrogant twat

[@LukeJacksonMusic]

this host was kind of rude at points, but otherwise interesting to hear that guys perspective

[@nikkiwindham]

Tucker Carlson is enough to make me feel asexual!

[@etainvelorum5814]

Never thought people feared me because I can't be persuaded sexually. Wow. The amount of power we hold. I do wish to say it has been well over 11 years, so HOPEFULLY Carlson and most others are more respectful of those who just don't feel the need to have coitus.

[@AudsVids]

Well done David for responding well to those questions.

[@pixie9114]

Fuuuuuuun fact! Asexuality is addressed in the Bible. It’s basically is like “yeah if you aren’t sexually attracted to people you’re ok! That’s totally ok.” The apostle Paul was asexual. So was Jesus (or as far as I can assume).

[@jooree7696]

Idk. Jesus' personal life is never stated so nobody can really make a judgement about it

[@alteredlame666]

God, Tucker is insane. He's like a ten year old. He has been making thoughtful points lately though.

[@ehartsay]

Surely you are not claiming to know all about 'human nature'. What makes you an expert on nature of other people? Just because YOU feel an urge as a primal necessity, does not mean that it is the same for all humans.

[@SirSlasher33]

If people don't have trouble believing that gay men don't want to have sex with women and that straight men don't want to have sex with men, why is it so hard to believe that this guy doesn't want to have sex with either men or women?

[@AshTimlin01]

Definitely, David Jay is awesome! I thought the interviewer looked like a puppet by his bow tie and blazer! :P

[@muraalia]

@CustoopMoon Being asexual doesn't make you "neither straight or gay". Asexuals can be straight or gay or bi. They can find people of one gender attractive, and not the other. It's just not sexual attraction, it's more about aesthetics and personalities. (At least that's how I understand it.) He can be a ladies man if he dates a lot of women and/or if a lot of women like him.

[@Kotifilosofi]

I think it's important to establish asexuality as independent sexual orientation. Some romantic orientations other than aromantic might be included, yet, you're ace and not "half-gay, half-bi" etc. If you say you're "ace + something", it will just confuse people since sexual attraction is included (moreover romantic and other types of attractions) to labels such as "gay, straight, bi, pan...". Maybe it's just nitpicking, but I believe things such as this contribute to the ace-erasure everywhere.

[@muraalia]

​@@Kotifilosofi Hello, so, I wrote that 8 years ago :D and can't find the comment I was apparently replying to. Hard to say what I was really arguing for or about. It seems I wasn't even aware of the term romantic attraction at the time. . Anyway, I agree, it's important to acknowledge and establish asexuality as it's own orientation. It's just that if you're talking only about asexuality, for allosexuals sex and love are often so deeply linked that they can easily jump right to "so you're incapable of love", and that isn't helping either. Or, as my last sentence there seems to imply, someone was questioning how an asexual could be a ladies' man. Of course he can, being a ladies' man doesn't even explicitly mean having sex or sexual attration, just liking the company of ladies and ladies liking him back. . Explaining romantic attraction to others can confuse them, yes, maybe because for most people sexual and romantic goes together so they've never needed to think about them separately. So when trying to be informative, it's better to use more specific terms like biromantic asexual instead of bi ace or whatever I was saying back then. :D It was a good nitpick.

[@Kotifilosofi]

@@muraalia thanks for the quick and profound reply! Tbh, I didn't even expect you to answer after all these years, but seeing your comment being so high in the comment section, I decided to give also this perspective, in hopes that some people will see it as well :D You're right, people can interpret asexuality as "loveless", while if combined with straight, gay etc, it can be interpreted as still something to do with sexual attraction. As you said, (romantic) love and sexual attraction are just so inseparate to most people, that it's hard for them to even see how one could exist without the other. In fact, I think we simply lack vocabularly (and public awareness) to ever be able to express asexual and aromantic orientations without probable danger of misunderstandings and confusion. Maybe something like "gayrom ace, straightrom ace" etc. would be more comprehensive than smashing words of two sexual orientations together? However, I think it will be helpful in the future if we rise discussion like this today :)

[@muraalia]

​@@Kotifilosofi No problem, I spend way too much time on youtube and almost always reply to people :D And with this, it's good to talk about these things every once in a while. Now I'm just wondering why my comment would be placed so high on here, it only has nine likes... KZbin is weird. Yeah, the vocabulary currently is a bit, hmm, clunky. I'm sure the language around this will continue to evolve, and hopefully awareness and understanding of different orientations along with it. It would be nice to get to a point where we can just say a thing without having to embark on a long explanation of what the words mean. Btw, nimestä päätellen suomalainen? Moikka :D

[@Kotifilosofi]

@@muraalia ai moi, juu suomalaisia tässä ollaan :D Oh yeah, the same with me, I don't have a life x'D'x yeah yt can be weird. It's like there on top 10 comments. While I get notification for replies sometimes weeks late or not at all. Don't trust yt xD Yeah. It will happen eventually, but we just aren't there with the aro & ace awareness yet. Anyhow, I think we shouldn't lose hope but keep discussing, even if it can feel exhausting and frustrating at times. Enkä todellakaan halua edes kommentoida aro/ace-sanaston laajuutta ja sujuvuutta suomeksi xD tuntuu että keskustelu on täällä vielä niin lapsenkengissään, että kukaan (muu kuin acet ja arot) ei tiedä edes keskeisintä sanastoa... yritä siinä sitten keskustella kun pitää ensin kehittää ja opettaa ihmisille sanat jotka kuvaavat ilmiöitä joista keskustellaan :D joka tapauksessa, sanaston kehittäminen ja käyttöönotto omalla äidinkielellä olisi suomalaiselle aro/ace-yhteisölle todella tärkeää. Ilman sitä emme ikinä voi tulla näkyväksi suomalaisessa yhteiskunnassa.

[@CelestialWoodway]

I am a 39 year old man and I have always been asexual. Actually I have found it is not very difficult to find women who don't really care about having sex! Most women prefer to hold hands, kiss, cuddle. Most married guys don't have much sex anyway! LOL

[@MajesticJac]

It is possibly to become sexual. I have friends that once considered themselves to be asexual and then changed. I, on the other hand, have considered myself to be asexual for over 7 years now. Oh...I guess it's not a phase.

[@andii-]

yeah. sometimes it’s a phase, and others... that’s how they are.

[@classicleslie6914]

I never changed and don't actually want to either

[@beelzemobabbity]

This is really late, but asexuality is a spectrum, so what sometimes happens is an ace person finds that they do have desire in specific circumstances, someone who is graysexual but doesn’t know about it might just think “well i guess i was wrong”.

[@iwannariot37]

this was painful GOAT CHEESE EXPERIENCES

[@a_cielo7381]

If people don't have a sexual attraction then just let them live

[@LucyKamm]

DAVID JAY ❤❤❤

[@critique211]

thank god, i'm not alone...

[@ehartsay]

"People who never eat cake, at least wonder what cake tastes like, and are open-minded to try it." *blinks* you could say THAT about a straight person who has no curiousity to try being gay as well....

[@raxacoon]

Arghh the interviewer's questions are frustrating... I know he probably just tried to ask the most common questions and poke some fun or whatever, but grr... xD

[@zaladane19]

People often can't understand feelings they never experience- or the lack of such feelings.

[@FoulMouthsNetwork]

congratulations on 100 Subs

[@joshyy6804]

thankyou david jay !!

[@crazy360playa]

Yes, you're spot on. He obviously wasn't insulted and the interviewer didn't intend on it. So stop crying.

[@TheShyViolet16]

Damn he is attractive, how ironic lol

[@SabaFrida]

bird I’m the same way like him and confuse ppl

[@molly19144]

bird you can still date him, he isn’t aromatic.

[@Yuohani]

The last part of this interview, the undertone by Tucker sounds like "why don't try it (with me)?"

[@mikaelacorbin4661]

i have 1 question, why is he called a ladies man?

[@lapuraqueja9823]

***** ladys heve needs an asexual guy ,if such a thing really exist, is not going to be ut to the challenge, he may be handsome, attractive and even good ad picking up girls, but no girl (unless she identifies as an asexual herself) is going to be with someone that dosn´t care for her sexual needs.

[@michaelmorris1865]

la pura queja Asexuals are willing to compromise so that the sexual needs of their partner are met, we are fully capable of having sex we just don't feel the attraction

[@thay-oh8049]

Because he's cute, look at him.

[@fluffypuppy4831]

I’m an asexual girl and I’d gladly date this guy

[@Aethelhadas]

@@fluffypuppy4831 SAME

[@lightupmyroom]

I like the pause after Tucker asks his douchey question.

[@ehartsay]

Also time to check the dictionary. There are TWO definitions for asexual. One is centered on biological reproduction, one on desire/drive/orientation.

[@hayhay9217]

Honestly, sometimes he was kinda disrespectful but overall, better than the ladies from the view interview

[@addiemorgiewicz4973]

Yes- definitely! I agree.

[@isabelw6265]

Props to David Jay for being so tolerant of this absolute Minecraft villager of a human

[@EGV88]

Invalidating someone's sexual orientation in the name of "making an interview interesting"?

[@mirroredhour]

His last words are so true!

[@thay-oh8049]

I can't pinpoint as to whether Tucker Carlson was just trying to play the devil's advocate and trying to get David Jay to talk or if he is just an honest, sloby, piece of shit who has no respect for other people's sexual orientations. I mean what he said can be interpreted as both acephobic and homophobic all simultaneously especially when he lectured Jay that he would have to have sex in order to have children. Like, whatever happened to the phrase 'there's more than one way to skin a cat?' Or how I would phrase it 'there's more than one way to participate in animal cruelty.' (that's the cynical side of my humor.) And then you have the statement that you have to have sex in order to know that you don't like it. First of all that is what I like to refer to as societal rape. Where people who you are socially interacting with are telling you that you need to have sex because it's normal or that it's good for you. No one should have sex based off of pure pressure. And societal rape is so tricky because it's a form of rape that you are guaranteed to get away with. Because that is a form of invisible rape.

[@SailorGreenTea]

1:58, at least you were hearing a conversation.

[@pulator8067]

While I don't agree with Tucker on his views, he is being a good interviewer. Seeing David Jay on the view was absolutely disgusting because of how they treated him and constantly interrupted and twisted his words

[@mezlabor]

I get that. I don't usually feel the need to ever tell anyone about it. I just like Aven because there's a place with other people like me. I don't think there's any discrimination against us and I don't feel that we need awareness or documentaries just a place for us to find answer and talk with each other.

[@eljagg01]

Love all those scientific studies you're sharing...

[@jeannineterran2621]

Why do people assume you can't be happy without sex?

[@SarethZhukov314]

I think asexuality is the best way to go for this generation. I think sex is just not an important thing in life. And some sexual acts are just disgusting and idk what people see in them.. But anyway, asexual people can be just as happy and successful IF NOT more. I'm emotionally attracted to women, but not physically. And i find that to be not only the most pure and innocent way to express love, but the best.

[@thegiantpaperpanda]

Harpsiccord said exactly what was on my mind.

[@billbirkett7166]

I've got to say, of all the groups you could be part of that could potentially make someone uncomfortable or make them distrust you in some way, asexuals seem like they would be at the very bottom of that list. In fact, it seems like you could trust asexuals more than non-asexual people to be honest and straightforward, significantly more. So much of human behavior is motivated by sexuality, it would be a relief not to have to deal with it frankly.

[@aja8950120]

Because he doesn't need to have sex to know he won't like it. It really is that simple.

[@86thislove]

He could be biromantic but not gay. Also we are not liars, people just don't understand that there are people out there who don't desire sex. To me love isn't sex or sex is love. I express my love in other ways

[@OnTheREDPILL]

Wow this is actually very intriguing... and this is coming from a straight guy whos been with many women... but seriously, I have a very scientific, logical and open mind and I don't doubt for a second asexuality is fake or wrong or anything like that.

[@12myea]

(i'm a little confused) so you don't doubt the illegitimacy of asexuality or you don't doubt aseuxuality? which one is it?

[@soap699]

​@@12myeasince he said don't doubt that means he believes asexuality exists

[@biobelewilliam-west1310]

Tucker is bias on just about everything

[@susanw5719]

There are some things you should not try even once ...for example, Morris Dancing.

[@LynxChan]

That's true, it would be interesting to do a study on that. Maybe in both cases the traits continue because even if they don't have the drives to heterosexually reproduce,traditional social preasure made them do it anyway. It could also be due to non-genetic factors, like conditions in the mothers womb.

[@girl81spain]

this is my case as well, greetings from Spain

[@mezlabor]

Yea sometimes. Ive gotten used to being alone but Im in a relationship right now.

[@sydneyrichards66]

its not a phobia just because he hasn't tried sex, before we all have sex for the 1st time our bodies tell us what we want, whether its male or female, I've tried it as I thought that's how it should be, but Ive not enjoyed it, & wish it was over before it started, the last 4 & a half years Ive stopped,& for the first time in my life Im happy, & Im proud to say Im Asexual, trying sex or not, its definitely not a phobia. or you can say a person who hasn't been with the same sex has a phobia. CRAP

[@InsidetheEclipse21]

Goat Cheese? Seriously, does it register, what comes out his own mouth?

[@BellHooksUrge]

@AlexBeckable, I see your point, actually. But people who in a dominant position, in any normative sense, where their position is seen as 'default', must be aware of their privilege - they are extremely privileged because no one questions their sexuality. You're right that they take it for granted; they are privileged because they can afford to. But that doesn't mean that they should turn a blind eye to their own privilege. And the questions are characteristic of ignorant people.

[@AshTimlin01]

Thats a reasonable point you made! Each to their own in this case! :P

[@nyscholartist]

I am a gay man who is considering celibacy (from this point in my life forward). When I visited David Jay's website for asexuals I saw that they are described as people who don't experience sexual attraction. But in this interview he admits to being aroused 20% by men and 80% by women. Does this mean that, for (many or most) asexuals, sexual attraction is defined not just as what one is aroused by but as the desire to have sexual intercourse with whomever one is aroused by? Thanks.

[@demonhunter437]

I love David's response, though; is it really worth that?

[@SarethZhukov314]

@TheYaom You obviously cared enough to respond.

[@86thislove]

@charlesobama Nice. Never heard that one before

[@leeemo]

Only Tucker Carlson would compare sex to...goat cheese.

[@skidawg22]

This is coming from a guy who received "by definition, a lap dance" on national television.

[@tintinismybelgian]

He was asked that during his appearance on The View.

[@waldoman7]

"To deny it is to attempt to raise yourself above (human) "animal" and ... good luck with that." being a gnostic, I do in fact consider myself above animal nature. In fact I'd go so far as to say that the existence of asexuality is a big point in my philosophy's favor. Atheist: 0. Agnostics, Theists, and others: 1.

[@genovesachx]

Yeah, I think Tucker is pretty hilarious sometimes. Read his interviews in Salon, pretty funny.

[@zeusmc.8662]

Live and let live. Not gonna go to their pride.

[@arturintete2461]

Zeus Mc. Don’t then? I don’t understand why all you people get so scared and act like THE GAYS™️ are trying to force everyone to do their thing. Honestly, I have a feeling that a very large percentage of straight people aren’t straight and in denial.

[@cpi23]

Why is this so shocking?

[@gachastarlightsgalaxy]

This was exact 2 years before my birth This was meant to be

[@recapitulation]

He sounds like a cool guy who knows who he is.

[@lifehelpexpress9504]

Who was Tucker's stylist back then?

[@kevinxavier777]

@xydan your right dude. nice words

[@86thislove]

@glutamin111 I think he's talking about who he's romantically attracted to not sexually attracted to. He could be Biromantic Asexual

[@asubjectiveopinion]

Weird how all the points they make about asexuality (not a real sexual orientation, the people who claim to be asexual are just attention seekers or have emotional problems) are exactly the same things said about gay men in the 1950s.

[@soap699]

Asexuality has now been proven

[@ehartsay]

I think people who DO 'try out' things do so because they have, not only a wee bit of intelelctual curiosity, but also SOME amount of interest/urge. People are not forcing themselves to 'try gay' because they think they SHOULD, even if they have no desire to do so at all.