What INFPs Need in a Partner

[@FrankJames]

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[@giishaw92]

dude how did you get a picture of my uncle

[@giishaw92]

This has me thinking, so I'm just gonna say it - your final point is a bit odd to me because, well, I actually think a strength of the INFP is understanding many different points of view, even if we don't agree with them. It's our Ne helping us to accept the existence of many realities, combined with Fi giving us a holistic approach to the world and the people in it. Perhaps a less mature INFP will think and act more selfishly?

[@navybluee101]

How did you comment 12 hours ago?!

[@bethelliot7140]

I love how you can predict when adverts are going to come, a typical INFJ (From a fellow INFJ) :)

[@justinesantiago3820]

What about us OZs? Where's our BeenVerified? Lol jks a quick google search & we'd find our own ;D

[@emmak9670]

my way of opening up to people is oversharing and then regretting it for years

[@theMISSINGrum]

Jeeesh I feel this in my bones.

[@yeshalloween]

Oh my dammit, me too! I can’t...stop. I crave deep connection so I over share to hurry that process along. It ALWAYS BACKFIRES

[@CK_1144]

So true.....

[@rm-hr1yx]

this literally happened to me today 😭 but the worst thing about it is i got left on read 💔

[@fimarb292]

Bullseye

[@niloo_in_blue]

"INFPs would often rather just spend time in their imaginations than the real world." I mean...have you seen the real world?!

[@AK-1500]

Lmao

[@maikol1433]

i just space put all the time im a infp and this is true i space out foe hours at a time unless someone snasnps me out of it

[@carlahoward4160]

ha

[@madhatter4129]

My mum's like where the hell are you girl!!

[@Astenette]

Does anyone here have conversations alone? I mean, to answer someone questions and give your opinions, like in real life.

[@panlis6243]

The best and most accurate thing I've heard about INFPs: We don't get angry at people. We get angry at what they are doing and then just imagine ourselves roasting them in our head but never actually say anything because we don't wanna bother them

[@duckmouse-ts5yx]

so accurate

[@alyssapinon9670]

If we actually said what we were thinking it could probably end someone’s whole career. When I looked up dark infp traits I heard that we keep tabs on people so if our anger boils over we just unleash all of our negative observations.

[@melissaribeiro4173]

Passive agression

[@talkingtoawall5123]

And even if they're a bad person we try to convince ourselves there must've been some conditions or situations that led them to do it & try to see the best in every person 😭 its tiring

[@neelamhasin3263]

also because we fear conflicts

[@koalakoala2344]

- Isolate yourself - finally open up to someone - overshare - be ashamed of yourself - repeat

[@krystalsleider9470]

The accuracy lolol

[@yuko-kapa8637]

X D yup

[@raqui9772]

Me in a nutshell. 😅

[@mewos838]

Oh God so accurate 🤧

[@keter2405]

Goddammit.

[@itssun15]

"the INFPs personally is probably if not the most unique, the uniquest if you will, of the 16 personalities" wow I felt important

[@hypocriteshunter2340]

My INFP intruduced me to the test and she made me feel special when she said "wow I was waiting so fucking long to meet an ENFJ, they are awesome!" 😭❤️

[@mairasann]

Me too lmao

[@xSmuckerZxJelly]

Lmaoo same. He boosted our ego with that one but please make sure to not take this as a way to feel superior and be condescending towards others❤️

[@AbigaleKirsten]

@@xSmuckerZxJelly don’t confuse an ego boost with narcissism

[@jaxcgerard]

I cried last night. Im a 28 y/o male and I’ve been feeling so low lately: i feel useless at works although I’ve been working my ass off to make my everyone happy, I’m a yes-sir guy cos I don’t want to disappoint them and at least I am more visible to them becos i feel like people underestimating me. but I pushed the emotion in becos I avoid getting the cliche “that’s too petty, stop overthinking” answer. I cried so hard and was thinking of killing myself. The unique thingy makes me so happy, at least someone finally acknowledged me. I am tired of taking care of other people, their happiness when I am deeply hurt and tired inside.

[@cloudwatcher608]

One thing not explored in depth here is that INFP needs someone who will truly listen, even to the most insignificant stories or ideas. We don’t always choose to share things because we assume others might think they are stupid, so when we do share and don’t receive validation, we tend to shut down.

[@Trintron46]

This has been one of the hardest parts of my relationships. I am a writer and only open up to a few people about it, so it hurts tremendously when I talk about my book and my SO just ignores me. Even if you aren't 100% interested in a topic, just listen and show that you are willing to understand.

[@staceyb5567]

YES!!! Been married nearly 30 years and only in the last 5 have we figured this out. He seems to really want to hear my thoughts, but in order to do that he has to not judge and not interrupt with something not relevant, or I don't try again for quite a while. I just can't.

[@staceyb5567]

@@Trintron46 I am sorry. That stinks.

[@arkman2237]

This is the reason why the enfj is the golden pair for us, it's even dumb how easy I get along with thema and how validated they make me feel so fast, there's a problem though enfj are very controlling that's the only side effect, if you are an infp and feel lost or sad get an enfj to cheer yourself up but be aware it will take effort to satisfy the needs enfj

[@kohikappu]

Same here, it's very shutting down when you tell what you think it's a very good story but people react to it badly and full of justifications. I hope my partner would be the one who understands me truly like myself, not anyone else. I'm different but I don't want to be justified by my uniqueness as a person.

[@panlis6243]

If an INFP shares something with you it's important to them. Even if it's just a meme about dog in a hot dog bun. It's important to them. We tend to value things in a really weird hierarchy

[@linkinlog8543]

I feel rage due to how accurate this is

[@michelles.6466]

Too accurate.

[@Alashatta]

Mmhm 💯 % Yes!! ^^^

[@hopeworld9515]

The mental image of a dog in a hot dog bun is thrwoing me off lmao 😂😂

[@Reoniix]

I legit contemplate sending anything and everything to anybody E: how do i know this is 100% true? the face I made as I hit reply

[@gg-og4ng]

As an INFP, I love being friends with extroverts, cause they can awake a extrovert side of me that I can't awake on my own. So the perspective of having a partner that helps me socialize is actually very pleasant. Is not like I don't want to be social, I just don't know how. I end up overthinking every social interaction to a point were it doesn't make sense anymore.

[@Rozannna]

I totally can relate.

[@anumoljose286]

That makes sense..I agree

[@lingka7106]

Extrovert friends introverted partner 👍🏼

[@DryToastexe555]

Yes

[@susanmartin870]

They're definitely good for practice but at 43, I am now very equipped at being social unless I have anxiety.

[@Rohan-jx5dz]

As an INFP, it’s hard to live with people misunderstanding me and then feeling completely lonely most times. I live in my daydreams 80% of the time.

[@menacingjack]

Me too! They're so much more comforting than the real world.

[@Kornelia429]

same, it’s kinda my comfort thing

[@Rohan-jx5dz]

@Blight Cite I can relate to this cause I do it too.

[@kimberlee9074]

You speak my mind

[@TheRomeoSan]

Yeah, after time you realize that its okay to just live the way you want, even if people don't like or like you. There is no wrong or right way to live. As long as you trust in yourself, you'll never be truly lonely and after awhile you'll start to see were all not that different. We all insecure and anxious about everything. And soon you'll start to love yourself and the people around you. At least this is what I learned.

[@zerviana2412]

We don't need a partner. Cause a partner break our hearts and expectations, so we just imagine having a partner. Let's start from there.

[@akarikeita6155]

Hahahahah. Omg!! You don’t have to attack me like that.

[@mariapaulamacedo4858]

LMAO

[@U.B.O.G]

A main reason why i enjoy long distant/semi distant relationships lol

[@RawrLyss]

Idk why but this gives off the same energy of Rihanna when she was asked what she looks for in a man. “I’m not looking for a man. Let’s start there.”

[@zerviana2412]

@@RawrLyss bruh that's the idea of wht I'm saying, you got me lol

[@gideonrivers6986]

“They feel like the connection at Starbucks with the barista is special” Okay enough is enough mane

[@kadenburkhardt1660]

Right?! I always end up yelling watching his videos because I feel so personally attacked ahahahah

[@linarosieposie]

This is so me helppppp 😭

[@TheSlipperyNUwUdle]

How did he know??? 😱

[@Jonathan-fl1lh]

Uhhh I've legitimately had a relstionship with a barista at a Starbucks who I felt had a connection with me 😂😂

[@blackknight177]

Bruh I’m an INFP and I AM the barista. I feel the reverse, think I have a connection with customers. ;-;

[@SoniaJbrt]

I'm INFP A and my husband is INFP T. We love each other tremendously, and we are best friends. You don't always need someone to change you. More often you need someone who understands and loves and respects you for who you are.

[@elektrastone7327]

May your union be forever blessed. You literally said how I've been feeling for years. I'm single but I haven't met a guy that just accepts me for me. Please don't try to change me, because I like who I am.

[@Rozannna]

Well said. God bless.

[@jaqui4524]

I agree... i would feel so overwhelmed with someone who is always around people 🥺🥺i prefer to go step by step by myself

[@Das644]

My dream combo is lowkey s1 who is like an exact replica of me.

[@laundrewashington3734]

Same a little bit I want someone who is pretty or very much similar to me that we very much understand, respect, and love each other for while also being unique / interesting in their own way in a good way so things don't get too boring between us you know what I mean?

[@misi4462]

Are there any other INFP’s that are introverted but want to have a social life and be more open? I don’t want to just be silent and at home, I want to explore it and meet many cool people, it’s just that I need a little time to be comfortable with someone :)

[@helgaioannidis9365]

Yes here. My kids hate my habit of picking up conversations with complete unknown people in the bus or while queuing. But people are just so interesting!!!

[@catalinagreeven]

heya i’m like that!!! honestly i’m the biggest introvert and love spending time alone yet i also know how much fun i can have with people because of past experiences! it’s also a great way to escape my enormous imagination and live in the moment for a while. so if there is a party, hit me up... unless i feel like being alone in my room haha!!

[@marianahernandez6198]

@@helgaioannidis9365 Yes! I know hate it but at the same time I love it! And I hate that I love it😂

[@bokutocantrelate4677]

honestly i want to be more opne and meet new people but my social anxiety just says no :') i wish i could just go up to someone and strike up a conversation

[@helgaioannidis9365]

@@bokutocantrelate4677 I trained this. I started with going for a walk and asking strangers about the way (I knew the way, it was only for practicing to speak to a stranger). People reacted very friendly so after a while I started to feel less anxious when I talked to strangers and I would start small conversations with people in the bus or in the queue at the supermarket. You know like if they had a dog I would say "what a nice dog, what race is this?" or say something about the weather and I found out that most people are actually open to a little small talk and get very smiley. And the positive feedback reduced my anxiety a lot.

[@andreajasyl2655]

as an infp you will approach me and think “hm they see quiet and innocent” and then when you get to know us... we are loud and cant stop talking lol

[@jjoo1420]

so accurate

[@b1mbobarbie]

true

[@alyssapinon9670]

I feel like I’m terms of romance guys like my quiet innocent appearance more than my actual personality and it kinda sucks

[@True_tomato_soup]

@@alyssapinon9670 Yeah well same goes the same for girls too. when they realise how weird your mind is to them, they run away.

[@sujal4078]

We can be super annoying on then internet haha.

[@bespectacledheroine7292]

What do we need? Only undying devotion and the mutual feeling of being as necessary to each other as another arm. No pressure or anything.

[@KatErina-ii6ru]

❤️❤️❤️

[@giishaw92]

Right? I feel like it's pretty simple, idk what the problem is

[@bespectacledheroine7292]

@@giishaw92 Eh, I do to an extent. It’s a tall order. I respect how this would be coming on too strong for many. I wish that wasn’t the case but it kinda is what it is.

[@itswickedsweet4409]

What do you think Tina's MBTI is? I my head I am Louise, but fear I may be a Tina

[@bespectacledheroine7292]

@@itswickedsweet4409 If how much I relate to her is any indication she’s also an INFP. But that may be me wanting to have that in common with her, maybe I’m not the best person to ask. Louise is an XSTJ. Very chameleon-like in balancing extroversion and introversion, but otherwise the opposite of her sister.

[@OpheliasTurmoil]

Being an INFP while being autistic and also having social anxiety is a whole warzone... the last time a person interacted with me I began physically shaking and then went home and cried out of embarrassment... this is exactly why I get my daily dose of social interaction through book characters. 😂

[@annat5105]

darling, don’t give up💛 every time you try, it brings something new. sometimes it just about finding people who you are comfortable with good luck, sweetheart 🙏🏻

[@jacquelinewhite1046]

Well that's not so bad socializing with book characters, buuuut, its kindn'a not so good either (sigh)😒😒

[@JHowOfficial]

THIS! I'm an INFP, very possibly autistic, have social anxiety, major depressive disorder, and a whole bunch of other things, and I feel this on a personal level... Sorry if I weirded you out by my interjection 😅😅

[@riri-qk2ir]

I'm an infp with bipolar disorder ADHD, social anxiety, OCD and dyslexie 💀🥲 I don't even go out I'm doing homeschool and too scared of going out and having to be around people. 🥲

[@VintageCR]

as an autistic (to be clear Asperger) INFP-T, i both long and hate interaction with people. the fact that i reject the whole interaction at first makes me want to do it even more. it truly is a warzone in my mind. but.. i can at least tell you that with time (this can be years into the future) you will learn about yourself and what tricks or methods to use to overcome. you will eventually find yourself longing for interaction with other human beings(for real). You don't have to believe me now. i accept the fact that its seems fairly random for another autistic idiot to write about INFP-T nonsense.. you don't have to hear me out at all. just know that with time, you will learn(unintentially) and accept.

[@resilientum]

when you said “fear of judgment” you hit the nail on the head!!! i don’t hate people. in fact i yearn for human connection, i’m just really really afraid of being disliked

[@SwedishTourist]

yeah, same :)

[@justjordan7531]

Ikr it’s kinda exhausting

[@keeryyy334]

@Gk Zoe love ur pfp

[@sevdailysortez]

Arrgghhhh only who wears the shoe knows EXACTLY where it hurts 😩

[@jessicaj351]

love your profile pic

[@zombiedance16]

Being an infp while having social anxiety... yeah, it's not great

[@shae1414]

Tell me about it...

[@samhita-]

yeah man why does it feel like all infps have social anxiety :( no but I really want a healthy social life, and talk about how I feel with people but I'm never able to do it..

[@unknownuser2040]

yeah and i have no friends, only one but shes popular and it doesnt feel like shes a friend bc she never listens

[@linkinlog8543]

Me, INFP with social anxiety and ADHD: Felt

[@zombiedance16]

@@linkinlog8543 ha... I have ADD lol

[@ellenmasey97]

Me, an INFP, rewinding 10 seconds every so often because I missed what he said because I was daydreaming..

[@siddharthasaha5695]

Exactly

[@aviiegyu691]

i thought i was the only one omg

[@icyhot8876]

Thats called maladaptive daydreaming.....

[@EdenIsBeaten]

Maladaptive Daydreamers 😃✋

[@wildaramadhanih.8589]

NO THIS IS ME😭😭😭

[@badmammajamma6735]

When I found out I was an INFP, I was like damn. I always felt like I could never relate to anyone and that no one had the same thoughts and dreams and desires as me, and now I know why, BECAUSE I REALLY AM DIFFERENT FROM THE PEOPLE AROUND ME. It’s exhausting but rewarding, because I truly love the unique person that I am.

[@zoeygrimes07]

I just hope I can find a soulmate kinda person to share my life with, but I just feel like no one can bond with me at a deep emotional level

[@Thediscohkidd78]

Best comment bc I feel this so very deeply. Thank you for putting words to feelings. Love & peace to you and yours. ✌🏼💜

[@ultimatewafflegaming1018]

it feels nice to be unique.. until you realize youre unique and you will never truly relate to anyone

[@hydra0229]

When I was younger I liked to go to sleep one hour before I would actually sleep just to lay in my bed in my dark room and create stories in my head. Well, now I know why.

[@elisabethchen]

o yes, me too. Loved it.

[@annadarewska6200]

I used to do the same thing! As a kid I couldn't wait to just lay down in the dark and tell myself another story or explore the fantasy world I'd created. Honestly, it happens even now from time to time.

[@juliane2102]

Sameee

[@Smoses_senpai]

Me tooooo😄

[@laurenm162]

YES. I still do this, haha. Most people worry about the days to come, I slip into fantasy 💃🏻🕺🏻

[@cuhhheesecuff419]

I swear we INFP's would rule the world, if only we had that one person who'd listen. 😭

[@LissaMarais]

ikr 🥺😭

[@editsome6552]

Or if we had the desire too lol

[@cuhhheesecuff419]

@@editsome6552 yeah that too. Not that we want to rule the world but, ya know what I mean. 😂

[@kylewhite3442]

Sorry but that's OUR job -ENTJ's

[@FlowerKnight2]

I don't need to rule the world, I just want to live in a small Victorian house surrounded by trees where I can play video games, read books, draw, and pet my cat.

[@lou5473]

I'm sorry but I have a connection with the barista from Starbucks, other people just don't see/understand it

[@coniqa4404]

Agree

[@nochu437]

absolutely

[@bespectacledheroine7292]

I swear mine flirted with me one time, he wouldn’t just compliment my jacket as part of good customer service, right? RIGHT?

[@natashaedayu5954]

@@bespectacledheroine7292 aweeee so cuteeeeee😭. So, what is your reaction after he flirt?😂

[@bespectacledheroine7292]

@@natashaedayu5954 I likely went tomato red. He also playfully busted my chops about my cracked phone screen so I don’t know, maybe that’s pretty unambiguous flirt strategy? I’m no good at telling either way. 🤔

[@Hala_Alshararii]

Infps are the reason I still have hope in humanity ilysm :’) (enfj :D

[@doublev4409]

Hey! I think the same about you guys!!! INFP here!! Thank you so much, but I think you all are doing so much more than we do...we tend to just stick to ourselves most of the time hehehe (btw I know this comment is 3 yrs old now, you probably don't even remember you commented here! 😂😅)

[@melimelo8334]

We INFPs feel the exact same way about ENFJs. You guys are amazing souls that the world needs more of and we love you. ENFJs also restore my faith in humanity, but you guys are so rare, it's hard to find you. I rarely come across an ENFJ but when I do, I feel it instantly, I usually like everything about them. I have yet to find an ENFJ that I don't instantly click with (both males and females), you guys are so fascinating to me and very easy to love for us INFPs. In my eyes, ENFJs are one of the best people out there and I wish there were more of you in this universe, the world would be so much better...

[@IsThisThePrizeIveWaitedFor]

I am such an INFP that when he said not everyone has the need to feel their connection to their partner is deep and special, I just couldn’t fathom how anyone wouldn’t need that from their significant other. I’d rather be alone than to be with someone I have a meh average connection with.

[@afnankasmani9]

I SWEEAAAR!!! i never knew people would be okay with not having a deep connection with their partner (which is ok obv cuz it's how they roll) but maaan...

[@elmondo-s1e]

Totally agree. Like my brain just doesn’t get how that’s a thing. Sometimes I’m jealous of the people who can live this way. It looks easier :(

[@afnankasmani9]

@@elmondo-s1e IKRRRR

[@LydiaReimer]

Yeah I understand. I am an Entp that is a high sensitive person and that makes me CRAVE a deep connection where my soul sings with joy.

[@Natallz]

Omgggg yes , I feel so distant if I don’t have a deep conversation it’s kind of bad 😂

[@happypanda3689]

*Stranger holds door open for me* Me in my head: Wow. It means so much to me that a complete stranger took time out of their day to do something nice for me. That's so nice of them, time is valuable but they chose to use it by being nice to a complete stranger. 🥺🤧❤️ Me out loud: thanks :)

[@meowtohell7902]

So true!! 😭

[@sakuranovaryan9261]

Haha this true and v cute u guys vvv adorable lol ^^

[@Trinexninja.]

Amen.

[@covst]

This is how I feel when someone says have a good day 🥲🥲 like okay I will thank you lol

[@theplanet.rachel]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 ayooo

[@giishaw92]

Me: yOu CaN't TeLl mE wHaT i NeEd! Frank: ~tells me I'm the uniquest and quotes David Bowie~ Me: ok homie we good

[@fiorellalescano]

David Bowie, what a legend! ❤️

[@muhammadvallerein5484]

You're top commenter in this channel!

[@angel_cat]

You speak for all our people.

[@naaberfindmoi2791]

😂😂😂lmaoo

[@lovenpeace319]

Is it bad that I read uniquest as uni-quest? 😅

[@MikeIdy6000]

As an INFP, I have concluded that no partner is "needed". Thank you.

[@austinaxwell]

Not really, I am an INTJ and my partner is INFP. We do complement each other in amazing ways and I would not trade her for anything.

[@shlf2615]

That made me laugh a wicked laugh. Thank you.

[@creatureofstyle]

I mean I'm an ENFJ and feel the same, but I've also experienced a few good long term relationships so I know what I'm missing when I'm alone and that makes me WANT a partner because it does make my life happier overall to spend it with someone I love

[@vxti_cxn]

That's exactly what i said to my INFP crush, you need to become your own person, and then find someone that you desire, orand that will help you becoming your own person

[@moniquemurphy4851]

This.

[@laurencook7262]

Me, an INFP, whenever Frank describes an INFP: oh my god I do that how'd he know

[@angel_cat]

At one point, I might have convinced myself there’s a camera watching me. LOL.

[@danithefiend6167]

Me too!

[@Beanie--]

"Haha, I do that"

[@pizzadohpaz]

@@Beanie-- nice 😂

[@rayoflight7416]

@@Beanie-- hahahahah yes

[@Soli8]

Frank: “Their emotions are like an iceberg” Me: pauses video and stares at screen Me: whispers “I am an iceberg...”

[@bubblebuddyyyy]

😭 exactly

[@sarellynjones2124]

salad. You are an iceberg salad. And so am ı

[@rain2269]

Estela Del Valle yeh lets destroy the world

[@christinarusev4270]

@@estelavalle4925 HECK YEAH

[@majesticwyrm]

..true tho

[@chasamot]

“INFP’s love to explore. They’re naturally adventurous even just in their mind.” LOL I felt that! 🤣

[@gowrinandana8999]

absolutely! 2 months ago, I literally fell from the roof of my house and fractured a couple of bones while trying to balance on the edge of the roof!

[@gowrinandana8999]

@@SpencerCreskey Haha! It IS kinda funny in a rather unconventional (although, quite painful) way!😭😂

[@isolated.wallflower]

So damn mee..😂😂😂

[@crownjewel9602]

I just spent an hour exploring a new walking path just out of curiosity n b/c I had the time today. This checks out 🌚

[@mystic_girl_mg_]

Exactly hehe ....situation be like that

[@DaughterofAthena13]

I'm an INFJ in a fairly new relationship with an INFP and hearing how important this is to you all is definitely helpful! This person LOVES learning/sharing random, off the wall things they're intrigued by and I love to learn as well so I totally dig it, but also enjoy how excited they are to share. I'm glad to know that, just by being my curious self, listening and responding with my genuine, matched excitement is helping them feel heard and appreciated. You INFPs, when you open up and feel loved and trusted, damn, you love hard. I'm here for it! Keep being your intense, authentic selves! 😙

[@nicoleestigarribia3131]

Thank you! It's nice to hear it from the other side, and I can say it's true, when we feel loved, we love hard, sincerely. Hope you're doing great 😊 -fellow INFP

[@fitnleen]

As a fellow INFJ, I can totally relate in everything that you said! Still dating/getting to know him more though. Now I’m having some clarity about him. Just needs time for him to open up. Any tips? 🥹🙏🏼

[@nicoleestigarribia3131]

@@fitnleen since you are now getting to know each other, the best thing you can do is make him feel comfortable. You can ask questions. Sometimes, he may not be able to answer, whether is a delicate topic or he doesn't know how to express himself. But if he can, you may be surprised by all that's going on under his "carapace". We tend to hide many things if we don't know what to do with it. It requires time and trust, show him that you are willing to listen and understand. Likewise, listen carefully; and be patient, since it's very difficult for us to organize the pile of ideas in our minds to make it understandable and that can be frustrating sometimes. Try to express yourself, don't leave him guessing what you think or feel, tell him about yourself too; don't leave yourself behind. You matter, and your feelings as well. If you're not at your best, you can tell him. We are good listeners, and even if he doesn't have much to tell you, he will accompany you and empathize with you; We care a lot about the emotions of those we love. Hope this can help you, good luck 😊

[@fitnleen]

@@nicoleestigarribia3131 this means a lot!! Thank you so much!! ♥️

[@nicoleestigarribia3131]

@@fitnleen my pleasure 🤗

[@_x_asc6]

The ideal partner : their imaginary friends

[@ThePomponnette]

Soooo true

[@lovesiries]

Damn it hurts

[@Gardenia2482]

omg. so true!

[@jessicaluk74]

Yesss

[@channelblack8267]

Damn I felt this!

[@onewinter9411]

Being an INFP, for some reason I feel free-er when I'm traveling out of the country. It's that feeling that no one knows who I am, have no cultural expectations from me other than politeness and respect, most probably not related to anyone I know. It's the lightness and I always feel less awkward when locals started conversations with me. I prefer being on my own during travels, but I don't feel as awkward then.

[@pearlsrevealed]

Bingo

[@ocampojianne]

This 💯💯💯💯💯

[@Itsalllove3]

Yes it’s wonderful to travel because it feels like no one expects anything of you except like you said respect and kindness and just being yourself. Makes me want to go travel now lol byee

[@pratikmodi4905]

This is so true . I feel so different when I am in a different country and just meeting and talking to people knowing that I probably will never see them again .

[@kimitovyanssen]

Truuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuue

[@aviralsinghal1274]

But when we find that someone. We don't even have guts to talk to them and just freak out. Not just partner. But even a friend. 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@Koshrocreations]

FREAK OUT! Tararara~

[@aviralsinghal1274]

@@Koshrocreations Haha. 😅

[@partypoison5135]

fr dude like the only time ive ever fallen in love my heart got broken and i never did that again lmao its too scary

[@kozuu3243]

Exactly🥺 I could never-

[@angel_cat]

foreign swagger So what, like, do you stop yourself from falling in love? How do you do that? Because I need tips. And either you’ve got mad skill and motivation or it’s just a coincidence that no one can ever set your heart on fire the way the one that broke your heart did. So which is it?

[@zephdo2971]

I want someone who'll accept everything in me but who'll also make me a better version of myself

[@joanna7290]

Frank: "INFPs would often rather just spend time in their imaginations than in the real world" Me: 👁👄👁

[@LennieLosino]

He's talking about me? 👁️👄👁️

[@xhumoe]

Me: and what about it ? 🙄😪

[@pamelaaguilar7304]

And that's why I write fanfics

[@ranxinghu_]

and that's why I'm still single 👁👄👁

[@rabidbunny2705]

Reality is disappointing :/

[@Soli8]

*”INFPs are DEEPLY EMOTIONAL but the irony is they don’t often SHOW IT”* A sentence has never described me so perfectly before. *”And lots of times they also don’t even like taking about it.”* This one too!

[@lotuswolf1518]

True

[@tharshinieramachandaran7462]

Same here...

[@bintiachmad]

Exactly..

[@HL-hr4ox]

SAME. Fiona Apple has a line that hits so most perfectly and insanely accurately: “my fever burns me deeper than I’ve ever shown”.

[@ariipl]

I know, the whole video I felt like he was talking to me directly haha 😂

[@muaoribia4140]

"INFPs are one of the most unique, if not uniquest, personalities." I just sat here for a solid minute or two trying to figure out if that was sarcasm 😂 ~an INFP

[@moominluver4485]

Is it?

[@bubblebuddyyyy]

@@moominluver4485 No 😅

[@bubblebuddyyyy]

It's said that although INFPs are not the most rare type, no 2 INFPs are the same. We're the most individualistic of all types. Well..that's what they say. 😅

[@natnat9684]

@@bubblebuddyyyy I guess it really is, We all wanted to be the Unique one, that's why we wanted to be INFJ (the uniquest personality). *Reacts to one of INFJ's video "wow that is so me" -INFP. 🤦‍♂️ I guess it is Frank's way to make us feel good. 😞

[@funkiebutch9690]

OMFG it's really true!! I also think the same way

[@yahyaakilah8076]

Ever since I've taken my MBTI test, I've been utterly shocked. I never knew there was a whole personality type that hits so close to home, let alone having a large community of people who are just like me. it's honestly very emotional because I thought I was just a weirdo who was the only one who experienced these things for as long as I can remember, but knowing I'm not alone is kinda comforting. My relationships and even friendships have been hindered because I'm so misunderstood by other people (including myself) because they don't do not know how to manage me and my emotions so this is definitely a breath of fresh air knowing that there is some hope lol. watching and researching videos and other information is making me really self-aware and is helping me be more mindful which is so helpful. It's almost like having a mirror or your inner self. I will continue researching infp-t personality types, trying to go deeper and deeper, but this was definitely a good start!

[@bobbid65]

I felt the same way after taking the "assessment", although I'm not INFP. I'm not weird. I'm not the only one with my personality. Yay! It was liberating and very affirming to realize this. Thanks for making this point. 🙂

[@katherandefy]

INFPs all together online and home alone 😂

[@tomaszstarzZz]

Same here. Felt relieved that there are more people like me. Greetings from an ENFJ-A

[@damm1t_b0bby]

welcome to the club

[@shaheermohammed7275]

Its not scientific man, sorry to blow your bubble😂

[@rafsanhoque1923]

I feel personally attacked but it is true. As an INFP I would rather spend time in my thoughts and building deep connections with people or nothing at all. It's really hard to get out of my own bubble and I usually need another person to help me with socializing. From my experience INFJ's and ISFP's have always been the people I turn to.

[@AceTeaaa]

"I feel personally attacked but..." 😂😂😂

[@RoKer13]

Same. I’ve even met other INFP’s with a slightly higher socializing threshold than me lol

[@gtgrandom]

I'm an INFJ dating an ISFP, and I love him for grounding me a little bit, and bc of his intuition, he can still go pretty "deep" while enjoying the sensory world. But my mom is an INFP and my best friend is an ENFP. They're essential for those 3 hour discussions lol.

[@allthingsservethebeam]

Same !!!!! It's so weird being so understood by a complete stranger haha Frank you're the best. My boyfriend is an INFJ so I agree it's easier being yourself with them :).

[@kohikappu]

Same here. I've met the other INFPs and they're just like me, bubbling on their thoughts, talking about something serious and funny at the same time, and also tend to jump from a distinct to a general or everyday conversation in every topic. I also might say INTJ protects us, INFJ believes in our true hearts, and ISFP shares the same interest with us.

[@Ikitsumi4everKurama]

“They feel like the connection at Starbucks with the barista is special” Cries at self because I *am* the barista at Starbucks

[@definitelynotmb4899]

oHh nOooO 😭😹

[@fatmahamdi3467]

😂😂😂🍳

[@stephy369]

#connection

[@lisagd22]

And I'm the one who came in and made that connection with you. And, uh, all the others, too.

[@Sananeyauw]

PLSS OAAHAHA

[@mrose05_]

as an INFP i just want to sit in my room all day reading, watching movies and creating my own imaginary world

[@sakuranovaryan9261]

I know the feeling. And that's completely alright you know. It's ok to do things at your own pace. Keep doing things that make you feel grounded. Sending good wishes ur way.

[@ninarose3801]

Me too my happy place is in my imaginary worlds not in the real world !

[@EM-wo6wf]

That sounds really cool

[@TheHariroks]

who are you and why are you me?

[@nynkewy]

My partner's an ENTJ. It feels like he is guiding me through the day hand in hand, leading the way while I am dreamily following. He keeps me grounded, validates my emotions but also makes sure to not dwell on those emotions for too long. Loving him is easy and life is too with him around. Couldn't be happier ☺

[@darlapolyanna]

is it weird that I fell in love with him in the first 5 minutes just because he understands me so much /infp struggle

[@sevdailysortez]

You’re not alone sis 😩

[@stephy369]

Same

[@user-ez9tz4vt4g]

Hey can u lower ur voice, this comment is too loud

[@Snowhite-tx4sm]

I'm feeling really shy reading this.... don't wanna give anyone satisfaction of me liking them

[@rosevemmolina1322]

Owmyy please

[@avelyinaangelwine5526]

...you guys are getting partners?!!

[@alexmatias6865]

😭

[@veramanifests]

More like they are getting us

[@coniqa4404]

Haha I was 17 when I got a boyfriend, the best 10 years with him 💜 but it was difficult at the beginning

[@elises8825]

@@coniqa4404 10 years from a high school sweetheart relationship? Damn girl, that is awesome

[@coniqa4404]

@@elises8825 heheheh yes, it's amazing 💜✨ thank you!

[@hannahcarter4106]

As an INFP someone telling me to "get over something" is one of my biggest pet peeves. Even if I was about to get over that thing anyways, I'll immediately start the "getting over it" process all over again and be upset again but even more this time and also at you😀😂

[@skitty1992]

Haha, that's such an Fi thing. I'm an ISFP and I can totally relate.

[@ForeverFashionGirl21]

LITERALLY ME

[@sheaasha6292]

That is so true. Even if they're my best friend, I would get really uncomfortable when they say that.

[@itscarly9266]

Oh my gosh same...

[@karengrace6890]

Yes! Intentionally trying to get over something only makes the feelings fester! We just need to let ourselves be and ride the storm. I'm gonna cry if I want to.

[@snowwhitewinter]

My partner is an INFJ. I am an INFP. Feeling like an outsider, freak and invisible all my life it feels so good to be finally understood, seen and heard in my relationship with him. With extroverted people I tend to shut down. However, it's difficult for me to not just focus on my relationship, but also on friendships. Because being social takes so much energy.

[@Mariamomo_]

I like connecting on a deep level and I can't be with someone who brushes things off that are important to me or invalidates my feelings. I also don't want lukewarm love, because I love so deeply, I want my partner to mirror that.

[@cosmicdissonance9888]

Well articulated, same feeling as INFP guy. A candle that doesn't burn passionately isn't worth lighting, hell; it's more akin to a damp cigarette. A lonely universe, sometimes, where we can only appreciate the ideal and romantic, but this is my mind, my paradigm, and I will stay true to feeling and intuition.

[@daviddansereau1793]

Yes!!!

[@torsknight]

‘Lukewarm love’ You put it in words!!!!

[@Rozannna]

I feel you. It’s either you get all of me or nothing at all.

[@thirdforth92]

As an INFP guy. Yes. I do agree.

[@hestikleynhans4926]

The thing about INFPs are we’re not normal. And we don’t want to be. We try to stray as far as the norm as possible. We are also very private, that’s why we don’t talk about what’s going on in our minds.

[@FalconWindblader]

Yep, telling us to be normal & just go with the norm are some of the most off-putting things that can happen to us... me speaking from experience as both of my parents are VERY normal people & they kinda try to drill that into my head at every chance they got until recently...

[@MaddieNiec]

Yeah, I definitely used to have that not-like-other-girls mentality for a while, except it was more like not-like-other-people, I'm working on it now, but because of my personality type and bullying when I was younger it's hard to break the habit sometimes. But yeah, I don't want to be normal.

[@finnjeffrey572]

Yeah man

[@covetouscorvus]

Yeah, it’s the exact reason why enneagram type 4 is most commonly attributed to INFPs. It’s kind of annoying, but at same time, I literally would hate to be considered “normal”, just because I have this dire need for authenticity and self expression. I think type 9 INFPs are way more chill when it comes to the need for individuality, since they kind of just morph into whatever role and feel like they relate to most things.

[@MelanieFromCanada]

That and most people don't understand and that it is frustrating to be misunderstood.

[@youngcrone456]

Is it my imagination, or do all of us INFPs look a little bit alike? Like we share some kind of ancient bloodline? Or am I just sounding really INFP?

[@Polymath9000]

Yeah we look young and childish.

[@blueyedenigma5010]

@@Polymath9000 Really?!?! Is that a thing?? Because damn...I looked like I was 10 in High School, which sucked so bad, but paying off now pretty well.

[@Polymath9000]

@@blueyedenigma5010 well the truth is it depends but due to lesser exposure to sunlight due us being introverts our skin does not get damaged easily.I myself have looked the same for about six years.

[@blueyedenigma5010]

@@Polymath9000 Skin is part of it, but facial bone structure can make a person look younger also. I have round eyes and just more childish features in general. I have seen that the chinese can tell different aspects to personalities, from facial features. I guess it would make sense that if we all have the same personality type we could look very similiar.

[@Polymath9000]

@@blueyedenigma5010 hehe I have also roundish eyes and a general softness to my face.But that is due to constantly thinking and smiling like a child .

[@tangomcphearson74]

I am an INFP - and most of the time I am a very easy going type of person - unless someone attacks my deeply held convictions, beliefs, and faith - and then, I have no problem standing up for myself and what I have come to deeply believe in. I also have a tendency to somehow actually "feel" what other people are feeling and be able to talk to them and hopefully help them. My feelings ARE very intense. If someone yells at me without good reason - I completely withdraw emotionally and will never trust that person completely again - I will seal the most sensitive part of myself off from that person, and the relationship (IF there is still one left) will most likely never be the same. I also have a deep need to know the truth about many things and will research for hours and hours until I reach a place where I feel i've looked at all sides of things and then make a decision - and then, I will stick to that and not budge. I do not tend to believe something based on what popular opinion is, or what is touted in the news, or what Joe, down the street says, etc etc. It has to be something that I discover through many different avenues and turn over every stone to find. I think for many deeply sensitive people - they self -isolate because they are afraid of the world and are well aware of the cruelty of others, and this makes them very sad. I feel INFPs are most likely very altruistic and feel happiest when they are around other people who are idealistic like themselves and loving and compassionate. For myself, as an INFP - Trust and truth are deeply important. INFPs DO need a buffer to protect themselves from all of the bad things in the world so that they can feel safe.

[@fr33doom]

Notes - What we need in a Partner: 1. Someone who respects our feelings. Need a partner who understand that you are sometimes emotionally confused and don't want to talk about it. "Get over it" is the wrong thing to say to you, and indicates to a lack of understanding and respect. 2. Need someone to keep us grounded and pull as back into reality. So we need someone that is deeply grounded in reality, our opposite. 3. A partner that helps us to be social, even forces us going out of our comfort zone. INFPs want to stay by themselves most of the time (this may come from the fact that we are afraid of being judged) We need a partner that can act as a social buffer. 4. Sometimes we shut down, get quiet and stick to ourselves, mostly to recharge our batteries. We need someone that respects we need our alone time, to be able to get "out there" again. Need a partner that does not take it personally when we want, or rather need, to be alone from time to time. 5. INFPs love to explore (in our mind). Need a partner that helps us to explore. When we don't go on adventures, we will get bored, especially if we don't have someone to go with us. Without someone who will explore with us, we will feel bored and trapped. 6. Need someone with whom we can foster a deep connection. Not everyone is able to have this kind of intense and special relationship. 7. Need someone who challenges us to grow. Mostly in getting out of our head more and rely less on our own feelings: We have a strong compass about good/bad and what we like and don't like, and can lead us to act kind of selfish and forget about everyone else. We have a superpower: We know who we are, and have a vision that we are very sure of it. But to other people, it can seem that we only care about ourselves. We need to open ourselves up (i.e. grow), to realize other people's judgments are as valid as our own. tl;dr (@Psychology Tea commented): INFPs are naturally laid-back, passionate, and usually not motivated by money. The most important thing in a partner is mostly having somebody who is very responsible, plans easily and tolerant. This is why ENFJ, ESFJ, ENTJ, or even INTJ usually make great partners, assuming both are mature individuals. If you have made it to here, hi, I am Gregor :D Have a great life, and know that I feel your struggle and send some love your way. Existence in the human incarnation is pain, but we only get the one run, so better do the best with it, e.g. start/try to be the best friend of yourselve, or at least try not to be a dick to yourselve all the time, you'll get there ;D ... we will get there :D

[@blondiek35]

👍❤

[@chq2252]

Thank you ❤️

[@ibylin]

Thanks for the summary! 🥰

[@caroraven6609]

thanks :)

[@zoemzkk]

@@blondiek35 I agree with everything except I personally am motivated by money, it’s more so cuz I just have expensive taste and I just like pretty and nice things but I also hate capitalism and the idea of money or that we should work or need money so it’s rlly contradicting😭😭

[@mariannachiuchiolo]

FJ: - Says infps are (probably) the most unique - Carefully explains what goes on in our minds - Keeps quoting David Bowie for the whole video I want to hug you so badly right now 😁

[@loisrabies8713]

Bowie = yes always

[@Gandellion]

Sounds like FJ can handle us wink wink

[@NinaDiniz7]

@@Gandellion I was thinking the same!! And Frank is such a cutie, right? Wink wink hahaha

[@qwert_yuiop7506]

"keeps quoting david bowie" - 'space oddity' no less, 2 words that pretty much sum up an infp. brilliantly done - touche, FJ!

[@Casedilla73]

What are the quotes?

[@raquelsoto6023]

Me, an INFP: I need to recharge and be alone for a little while. The rest of the world: Oh, okay. We are not friends anymore. BYE!

[@iamsombody439]

... And that sucks soo much :(((

[@raquelsoto6023]

@@iamsombody439 It does. They feel I'm to conceited... or I do not know what they think.

[@iamsombody439]

@@raquelsoto6023 My friends start thinking that I am trying to distance myself from them... or that I think I am too good for them.

[@blueyedenigma5010]

Omg!!! SO true!!

[@azariamaria5145]

this doesnt just hit, it hurts. because its half *imagination* but honestly half very true.

[@lisamain4649]

My husband is totally the grounded one in our marriage. 😆 He likes repetition and keeping life predictable, so we're a great team. He tends to go along with my crazy ideas, because he enjoys it, yet he drags me along to be more social! I'm not sure what his personality type is, but he's definitely my person after 18 years.

[@nochu437]

"they feel like their connection with the barista at Starbucks is special" hits hard. and now i feel embarrassed bcs if my INTP ex-colleague doesn't miss me as much as i miss him.. this is very bad and i might have to yeet myself from existence bcs of the letter i wrote to him when he left

[@kurakaji9052]

Hey, I imagine it feels good to know someone cares that much, even if its not fully reciprocated. It would sure as hell make my day, even if I've only interacted with someone a few times. So, perhaps embarrassing, but also don't be afraid to show you care. As the cliche goes, we never know what someone else might be going through. A nice compliment from a stranger about my hair always makes my day. Keep being wholesome friend

[@Gandellion]

I fell in love with an INTP that worked in a bookshop and I have outright refused to let this go for 8 years. Don't tell me what to do, he will be mine.

[@nochu437]

@@kurakaji9052 ah thank you😭🥺 i will do my best !

[@yolotsinxochitl9645]

I know. Ot hurts so bad when you care so much about a person and they just don´t feel the same, and you just don´t know why and thar breaks you inside.

[@alessandralaurent2797]

omg I’ve written so many intensely sentimental letters to people I felt something for. Good thing I never sent most of them, cause I’ve consistently wanted to yeet myself out of existence when reading them years later.

[@ChopstickMeister]

INFP female here with an ENTJ husband. He does all these things. When we did the MBTI test for him it showed he was like 51/49 in the extroverted/introverted spectrum. He helps me get out and keep up my relationships with friends but also understands that I don't like party situations as much as he does so I usually tell him when I want to leave and he let's everyone know we're leaving so I dont have to. He doesn't necessarily understand my emotions but he knows he doesn't understand it and will listen to me anyways. He also helps me take my fantasy life in my head and apply it to real life. He showed me I dont have to be overwhelmed by my emotions all the time and I showed him that he doesn't have to push all his emotions away.

[@prash5203]

everyone always says that INFP and ENTJ are too different to have a happy relationship, but its obviously not always true. im glad you two complement each other so well! :))

[@Hlafdige1]

Agreed it's a good match. I've had one too. Actually wrote a book to explain why it works. See Re-modeling the Mind on Amazon.

[@junsjulywonpilsyonpilchany5241]

You are both wonderful people. I wish your love and happiness last forever.

[@هبةالرحمن-ع9ق]

love ENTJs, my bff is one she keeps me grounded and always motivates me to take action and explore things out of my comfort zone

[@henlokitty2591]

Can confirm as an INFP and my hubby as an INTJ that your account is so accurate. Although he's more introverted, I'm about 50/50 on the extro/intro spectrum so I make up for his lack of extrovertedness lol. He definitely keeps me grounded when all I want to do is crafts haha.

[@Beanie--]

What INFP needs in a partner Probably like organs.

[@FowlsNest]

Idk, bones are kinda good too

[@ampa4989]

Introsomnilad ! You ain't got nuthin' until you've got connective tissue! ;)

[@brunojimenez5169]

instruments or parts of the body?

[@loisrabies8713]

Why did I think yum in my head after reading this.

[@miriamw.]

😂

[@cora_and_dogs]

As a sexual assault survivor (and INFP) that ad terrifies me. It takes me a while before I tell someone my full legal name. Once they know, then they can also know your address etc. Also, several years ago I had a date (within a few minutes of meeting) look me up and show me my address on his phone. Absolutely terrifying. I refuse to use my legal name on LinkedIn or social media or anywhere because people can use things like that to find you. I realize it's typically marketed as a way to keep us safer but that has not been my experience.

[@heathergrahame9647]

One of the few friends in my life is an INFP, and I have a brother that is an INFP too. In my experience, they have very high moral/ethical principles but, at the same time, they are very concerned about the welfare of others. Because they fear that their words will hurt or offend, they tend to keep their complaints about people/the world to themselves, which then get all bottled up inside. You can't stifle the complaining voice in yourself without also stifling the loving voice in yourself, so unfortunately the bottling up of so-called negative feelings by the INFP causes them to have more difficulty in expressing their loving feelings - which they have A LOT of. What they need is someone who can let the INFP get on their soap box for a bit and listen to their criticisms of people or the world - without being personally offended or hurt by their rant. A good friend is someone who will genuinely listen to the INFP's complaints and see it as a beautiful expression of the INFP's inner strength and ethical principles.

[@NT-gq6tz]

This!!! I've never felt more heard than by your comment

[@coniqa4404]

Omg this is sooo true!!!

[@oa1815]

i feel ✨appreciated ✨

[@heathergrahame9647]

@@oa1815 I definitely appreciate the loving, inner strength of INFPs. Both my parents were very uncaring people and sometimes quite abusive, yet my INFP brother cared for them in their old age until they died. As long as he was able to let off some stream by complaining about them every now and then, he could keep going. And it was good for him, because it allowed him to bring the loving person that he is. I have so much respect and admiration for him. I couldn't stand our parents and had to walk away.

[@avib9525]

Thank you :’)

[@zivadavid2564]

"they feel like the connection with the barista at starbucks is special" me: has fond feelings towards people i don't even know and spent like 10 mins in a gaming lobby together no, i don't feel called out at all. why do you ask?

[@electrapoptart]

I swear, the connection I had with a girl on the subway was spiritual

[@ryo-kai8587]

@@electrapoptart ...and this is why dating is so hard for us. How can you date someone you don't feel that for when we feel it for random people so much? The absence is like a gaping hole. Is the trick to just not care, steel ourselves to rejection and make moves when we feel it (normal ones, like asking to get to know someone over coffee or hiking, etc.) so all our prospects start with that spark? hmm.... I wonder if I'm on to something. Now I just have to circumvent my anxiety and muster *herculean confidence* 😂

[@fx__trash4894]

I remember the nickname of a friend I just meet on an Among Us server, I kill him and said after "can we be friends" and he said "yes lol", he puts a banana hat (my nickname is Bananna, yellow, banana hat) and wait me for take a picture before I close the game

[@electrapoptart]

@@fx__trash4894 I love this omg

[@thebreadofknowledge2350]

look up the song "the key to being lonely" by bug hunter. I feel like it might resonate with some people here lol. - fellow infp

[@annieranai2198]

FJ: INFP really care about what everyone else thinks about them, more so than is typical. Suggestion pops up: Are INFPs dumb? Me: is FJ trolling us?

[@jaybird1761]

I noticed that too like??? 😂😂

[@megangreen4994]

So basically I married the perfect match for me. 😊💕💕 I can cry in the shower after socialising too much (for me) and he somehow gets it. He’ll take our kids and be like “just chill, we’ll be back later.” He is totally my social buffer. After 20 years of marriage I can tell you Frank James has hit the nail on the head!

[@kiyaleelevyrunaya9495]

It sucks to be unique in a world where it's important to mirror.

[@m4production608]

It hurts we are not accepted due to that, but I don't know If I could be like everyone else every day. I just couldn't pretend it seems painful af

[@kiyaleelevyrunaya9495]

@@m4production608 being like everyone else means giving up what makes us us, what makes us unique. And for what? To just "be" like everyone? Another braindead child of society? Not worth giving up my uniqueness for. Pretty sure I'd rather kill myself than live as a husk of myself just so that others would accept me, only to discover it makes me miserable and I end up killing myself for it. So I think I'll hold on to my unique side of humanity.

[@blueyedenigma5010]

That's when your empathic nature kicks in and mirrors all the negative behaviors of your friends and family to them, making them completely pissed off. 😏

[@aizawa6562]

Did someone say INFJ?! Jk but I agree, if only there was a world without mirroring... so exhausting since I unconsciously do it.

[@valbea9958]

@@blueyedenigma5010 pretty much😅

[@aliceson73]

My favorite thing about being an INFP is I don’t “need” a partner. I relish in my me time. All the time.

[@dae2530]

every INFP is like that?

[@sklizzy3125]

@@dae2530 no not every, but due to what comes with being INFP, yeah it’s kind of common i guess to not like being around people.

[@dae2530]

@@sklizzy3125 Yeah. But being around people is not equal being around people you know and love...

[@1hyde12]

Exactly!

[@Suzy292002]

@@dae2530 I don't want a romantic partner cuz my heart has been broken once, i don't wanna feel it again :) but i think i do need a partner to keep me somewhat stable

[@maya-2583]

You forgot INFP need partners who are really interested in understanding themselves better and who have pretty thick skins, because INFPs see exactly who people are and that really scares some people.

[@user-qw1lh2lc3c]

i’m an INFP but through therapy i find i’ve become a lot better at being social, it’s to do with growing my confidence for sure but also just caring less what other people think and trusting my own gut and desires.

[@kaitosevski3881]

Idk about the sentiment of INFPs being selfish. I’m an INFP, and I have a habit of getting so caught up in trying to help someone with their problems that I end up forgetting myself and eventually being emotionally destroyed by it. But I guess that might be because helping people and being selfless are two of my strongest core values, so I end up hating myself if I don’t try to help everyone who I see struggling with something

[@GabsAlexz]

I think it's not that we're selfish, but we might be perceived as such. I am always trying to help others, I like to help others. But sometimes I forget that the way I think it's not how everyone else thinks (I mean that in a "it just doesn't occur to me that not everyone else perceive the world like I do" way ) and maybe that's why we might be perceived as selfish ?) Or maybe that's just me

[@BB-tg3rm]

Same with me. I have to realize that it seems that way, especially since I don’t usually say my thought processes out loud. So people don’t know how much I care or think about them. Although I have had to learn how to be ‘selfish’ for real since I’m constantly giving to other people instead of myself.

[@dcarze9]

I've always seen it as more of a stubbornness about things/ideas/values that comes off as selfish. Doesn't help that we have trouble logically explaining our thought process.

[@kurakaji9052]

I've noticed in the past that I could come across as kind of selfish or egotistical, so now in convos that get deep, I make sure to say that I know I might be missing context, have never had this experience, etc. before (and during) the talk. Basically a disclaimer that I'm not an authority over their life or know whats best for them. Its just my opinion. W/ my depression Ive dealt with people who give advice thats insultingly off base (meditation and exercise cures depression yall! Who knew?) Who genuinely believe they know the answer when they absolutely don't, and I don't wanna subject others to that feeling. Also helps my anxiety tbh. I dont get caught up worrying about what I said simply bc I already openly acknowledged I could be wrong, and that's fine. Not everything I say has to help. Thanks for the free therapy this comment gave me lmao

[@rinr7052]

Same! I always try to help others so much that I burn myself out lol but I think that’s just me and I’m getting better at just letting things go sometimes

[@ann-sophie8876]

"INFPs let the practical day to day things pile up until they're overwhelmed" Well....you didn't need to insult me to get your point across 😑😂

[@vociferonheraldofthewinter2284]

I also feel attacked.

[@RosesareRed38]

I feel this too 😭

[@Bayoubebe]

Well in our defense, those things suck snd are boring soooo....

[@yuko-kapa8637]

Oof

[@jungifermanunag6351]

Me. 😌

[@alexmatias6865]

"a commercial to those of us who don't have premium" quality content

[@elises8825]

Lol

[@nivi__exe]

I didn't get the commercial 🤣. Oh and I don't have premium--

[@elises8825]

@@nivi__exe Well you lucky duck haha

[@kurakaji9052]

Ironically it wasn't the ads that made me get premium, but that creators are guaranteed $ from red subscribers, instead of just hoping they didnt get demonized. Especially bc im on youtube like 24/7

[@Lenastar23]

@@nivi__exe do you have a general ad blocker?

[@sapphire19885]

I'm an INFP who just got out of a 16 year relationship with an INTJ. It wasn't all bad but he was the most emotionally invalidating person and once even straight up told me "your feelings are stupid". I knew 14 years ago that he wasn't the one for me and broke up with him, but came running back because I was lonely and my self-esteem was nonexistent. I convinced myself I could live a life without deep connection or affection from my own partner. What a pathetic dumbass I am. Now I'm 33 and recently divorced without kids and feel like I have no reason to even go on anymore. My mind is too screwed up and my issues run DEEP.

[@Marwadear512]

I’m INFP and had that with my INFP husband and thought the same way and now am in my 40s, divorced with kids. Life moves on and we trundle on.

[@snowjae9380]

Sorry to hear. I’m in a similar situation. Sending you good vibes, stay strong 💪

[@jhemp]

I am an INTJ, and I want to tell you that you're feelings aren't stupid. They're an incredibly important part of your personality, BUT solving problems efficiently and effectively usually means ignoring how we feel at the moment and focusing instead to resolve the problem that gave rise to the feeling and letting the feeling run its course. It was incredibly unwise for your INTJ SO to call your feelings stupid. My SO (INFPs) feelings are incredibly frustrating and often cause me much strife, but they are also very genuine and are a big part of what makes her who she is. While I do wish she'd learn to check her emotions at the door sometimes, I'd never think her feelings aren't valid. I'm certain that's how she takes some of my attempts to rationalize outcomes and provide alternative perspectives that are less pessimistic, but I only do so to stress that I care and to help her see the positive when she sees none.

[@ML-HS]

At least you got out. I know people who don't want to because they spent so much time with them especially those 15+ years and who grew up with their partner.

[@blackeneddove]

At least you’re in your early 30’s. I’m in this same situation and in my early 40’s , thinking I’m about to do this and I still have no kids. I just haven’t been able to allow myself to create children with someone who I don’t have a deep connection with. Now it’s probably too late to have them. At least you have a chance if you want it. I hope things are going better for you now. I am scared to divorce. I can’t afford it. I will lose everything.

[@Riki_Nishimura]

1. Someone who will respect their feelings 1:37 2. Someone who will keep them grounded 2:28 3. Someone who will help them be social 3:20 4. Someone who will respect when they need space 5:19 5. Someone who will help them explore 6:10 6. Someone who will form a deep relationship 6:58 7. Someone who will challenge them to grow 7:45

[@maxdeborde6772]

ENFP here is ready

[@StewieGriffin-b5p]

Ughhh!!! I am an INFJ, and 3rd point is something that I am incapable of doing for my INFP guy.. 💔

[@heusniet]

Sounds like raising a child.

[@jirehmamontes5869]

When he said “not everybody can handle the task” It hit me hard 😂 I’m an INFJ with an INFP boyfriend, and believe me you need to have a lot of patience and complex understanding. They are not really that open when it comes to their emotions so their partner has to be keen with their intuition, to know whether they are sad, mad, feeling jealous or insecure. they need a lot of alone time, and what I mean is “aaaaaa lotttttttttttt”. You have to understand them that its their way to recharge. They may shut down for several days yet their love for you stays the same. , so if you have the tolerance to handle this type of mood, then you are INFPs’ ideal type.You shall be optimistic and be his/her biggest fan and encourager since they tend to easily worry. But believe me, they are one of the best to become a partner. They are deep, warm, calm,loyal, sincere, very sweet and affectionate.

[@tomoakley760]

INFP guy here, I can attest to this from the other side. Having an emotionally intuitive partner is HUGE for us, especially as guys since we have the additional societal conditioning to overcome of "men don't show vulnerability coz we're meant to be tough". The first time I felt truly "seen" and my inner emotional life accurately recognised by a girlfriend, it was like she'd found the lock to pandora's box. I suddenly became SOOO much more emotionally "open" and sharing just because I felt she'd given me permission to externalise something I'd always believed had to remain internalised.

[@MellowFrog00]

Omg as an infp I need you as a partner pls haha lol 🥸

[@felixsfrindthatdintgivearawegg]

I'm an INFP and now i feel bad TT

[@Hakidonmuya]

US 2, hes infp and im infj 🤣🤣

[@gilgaladinfp8452]

😭😭😭😭😭

[@miriamw.]

I think my spaceship knows which way to go, but I do appreciate the added guidance from you. 😊

[@giishaw92]

lol said every INFP ever - INFP

[@martinastefanovski5126]

This comment and the reference in the video are absolutely amazing ❤️

[@elises8825]

🪐☄️✨🌙

[@peachyreen4550]

And I appreciate your profile pic ❤️

[@Trasea]

We're high maintenance but don't wanna be!! Yes, we need someone 1) grounded. 2) social. 3) understanding of our need for solitude. 4) explore partner. 5) someone who can go deep. 6) someone to challenge us to get out of our head. And... GL with all that, I say!

[@RsaDesign]

exactly!

[@sunflowerpower642]

How long can you go without seeing your partner in the same city

[@saracummings9133]

Something people don't understand about INFPs is that, when we show you something, it's most likely something that we value a lot. Even if it seems dumb to you, we just want a positive reaction to it. I don't show people random things, I show people things that mean the world to me. I feel invalidated when I show someone something and they criticize it because, like I said, *I'm not showing you something random, I'm showing you something that is my world.* So even if you don't understand why it means so much to us, just accept the fact that it does. That's all we want. For people to accept that we feel much deeper connections

[@aerenh_]

Yeah and even if it's random things like a candy.

[@galaxym3015]

In your case: They criticize In more miserable cases: They DO NOTHING 😶 THEY SAY NOTHING 😬 Simply: It's like you never said/sent a damn thing , and when they do that, they get an instant ( GET THE FUCK OUT OF MY LIFE ) = permanent banned .

[@hridaansari4883]

Damn, this hit right in the feels 👀 Definitely true, I have observed that I rarely ever show people what I love and what I value the most. Maybe because they won't understand and for the reason that I just want to keep safe and my own secret 😉

[@returnoftheromans6726]

So true! This also applies to things that make us laugh.

[@returnoftheromans6726]

@@galaxym3015 Very true.

[@ottsmoonchill8737]

I just found out, that I am an INFP and reading these comments makes me pretty happy. I just felt so alone, because I always felt like most do not understand me and now knowing that there are people sharing these weaknesses and strenghts makes me really happy... I am alone at school, I have a lot of problems getting to people especially as a new stundent... But knowing I'm not alone like this, really lifts some weights of my shoulders..

[@mariaefstratiou7427]

Can you give me an update? How are things in school now?

[@ottsmoonchill8737]

@@mariaefstratiou7427 Hey sure thing. Things got a lot better. I found some good friends with whom I can spend time in school and I do not feel alone that much anymore :) Almost everything turned to the better and that makes me really happy. I also became more confident. Of course sometimes I still feel a bit lonely, but these "lonely times" go away rather quickly. It feels really good to see positive changes in your life :)

[@haneenasad]

I can understand you...

[@mariaefstratiou7427]

@@ottsmoonchill8737 I'm really happy for you!!

[@ottsmoonchill8737]

@@mariaefstratiou7427 Thanks Life got even better now :)

[@maddogg6298]

I like how he says "the uniquest personality" but roasts them in every skit

[@forestcat7150]

I'm an INFP and you described me to a T. And David Bowie is my favorite musical artist of all time, Space Oddity was a perfect bit to work into this. INFPs are always floating in a most peculiar way

[@grungjy]

me as infp , I believe that we have high requirements for a life partner as we imagine everything and raise our expectations to be perfect in a bad way that affect our relationship

[@KatErina-ii6ru]

Yeah that’s annoying isn’t it. I’m also infp

[@kurakaji9052]

The good thing about repeated rejection is ive lowered my expectations lmao But tbf several things in this vid can be learned. Im working on myself first, but just knowing ways to phrase what I want and need will make it easier in the future. I assume. I could also be idealizing, who the fuck knows at this point lmao

[@kayleemagoffin9573]

I mean, yes, our expectations are very unfair because the people we meet become a fantasy version in our head. At the same time, at least for me, I am rejected a lot even when I am just in the flirting stage of trying to get a date. I have never had a boyfriend, rarely have gone on dates, and when I did manage to finally date someone more than once, my anxiety and fear took over and basically ruined it--but given he wasn't interested anyways, I guess inevitably I would have been rejected again at some point. Right now, I just want a guy who will give me a chance. I am working on not being so fantasy oriented because it really does kill reality expectations. I just wish I could find someone who would think, "Let's just have some fun going on dates and getting to know each other." Rather than the "I am not even gonna give her a shot at one date, let alone another conversation." Everyone needs to learn to look past first impressions, especially since so many of us are bad at first impressions...

[@Gehlee5thGenITgirl]

true... scared that maybe the person might ruin my life who's already a mess

[@elairalys]

wait so i actually HAVE a chance to find love???? interesting....

[@KatErina-ii6ru]

❤️🤣

[@MeghaDevaraju]

Eyy you're an army. Do you think you'll be happy with anyone who's not RM? (I'm assuming you bias namjoon coz of your name)

[@elairalys]

@@MeghaDevaraju HAHAHA i'm definitely not getting married to anyone unless it's joon 😌

[@MeghaDevaraju]

@@elairalys yup... We should either lower our standard or just stay single forever

[@kathrinnikitin]

It’s still hard to believe though...😂

[@sethumrathnayake4920]

I'll say this infps are the legit contradiction walk on earth. We know who we are and we don't know who we are. We can feel happy and sad at the same time. How is that possible? Idk. The mood shifts are too fast ig. So what we need in a partner is a person who can keep up with that. And that is almost no one 😁. Because even we can't keep up with that😂😂😂. And also again we can keep up and we can't keep up at the same time. Again contradiction. For every fucking thing

[@brunah.c.c5062]

OMG that's... so accurate that it hurts and pleases at the same time 😂😭

[@dinkin_flicka14]

That's why I feel INFJs and INFPs are very similar cuz both are a walking paradox.

[@Rozannna]

That hurts but is true.

[@grandsteack]

"Because even we can't keep up with that" -> Typical INFP.

[@scorpiondynasty]

I couldn’t have said this any better myself.....Or could I? 🤔😂

[@yyyyyc]

Thanks!

[@hannahholmes1578]

INFP with an INFP boyfriend here... we work actually really well together, especially since we understand what is going on with each other. the term "introvert-time" is like a running gag between us when we need some time for ourselves. And the exploring thing is just amplified, in our heads but also in nature, we just explore and build our worlds together. Also, we have the whole "I know" thing quite often, when we don't know how to put it into words, the other one... well just knows :) We don't really make each other more social, but who needs that when you have TWO heads full of imaginary worlds to escape to? :D

[@someguywithproblemslikeyou1010]

Lucky you

[@shyprincess17]

ooh same!

[@rutesh1902]

I'm a boy and I'm a infp and it's sucks

[@viktoriahobek9873]

Hey! Never met a boy who is an infp too... Where are you from

[@rutesh1902]

@@viktoriahobek9873 I'm from India

[@PlanetPsych]

"Just remember, when you're ignoring them, you may be teaching them how to live without you"

[@angel_cat]

Wow. It’s both an excuse and true... so that makes for a sort of really good excuse.

[@grease5977]

Wha-💔

[@aynnsnow]

totally hit the nail, am afraid. INFP here😇

[@jiru1015]

Thats true!

[@eleonore-8969]

Oh yes. Being ignored is one of the things I hate most as an INFP. I will eighter close doors...or never forget it...or silently punish the behaviour in my passive aggressive ways😋

[@angel_cat]

“Not everyone is up for the task” - yeap, and that summarizes why I’m still single. - An INFP, and very busy nurse with little to no social life.

[@user-nm6dr4uy3d]

Exploring my personality type, INFP, has really helped me understand that much of the pain I feel is because I think the world is an evil place, and that the world is not, in fact, cruel just because not everyone shares my idealistic values and my extremely high standard of politeness.

[@nicoledyer6707]

As an Infp, I was alone my whole life, I was spending my life staying at home, dreaming and doing nothing. Waiting for my time to come so my dreams turn into reality. But lately i just want to take some action and actually do something. My dreams and wishes are too high for this world and i don’t think i will ever settle for anything less but when i grow older i don’t want to look back and see that i have never really did anything in life. I want to travel, write, read and have as many as memories possible. For that i don’t want to wait a man to come up and be my savior but i really think i would appreciate it a lot if someone could help me get out of my shell. I have very low self esteem and i am working on that too but it is one of the things that keep me away from living my life. I always push myself away from things, like people idk. I have always been a follower and i don’t want to be anymore. I want to take my own chances and well i don’t know where this text is going but i would like it if someone could show me how to be brave and be on the action with or without doubting myself. (Btw my english isn’t so good so sorry if my words were unclear)

[@tylerpond1229]

You need to find an ENFJ like myself. They will help you do it naturally. It's the best match type for an INFP.

[@daemilee1497]

This is so accurate 😭

[@salomekavteladze7631]

goosh I felt like I was reading about myself...that kinda hurts :(

[@someone-hf4zo]

You've just described my whole life geeez

[@sakurafire32]

YES, actually that's the story of my life but as an INFP I know that we have the power to make ourselves better because we can understand things so deeply and also if we struggle with some things we can fight them, create new goals and achieve it! I know it's a little bit more hard for us but we can do it c: I have experienced that. I hope you're working in yourself and I'm sure that you're gonna make big and great things, good luck :))

[@tandokunogirl]

The worst is when someone tells you that you’re not feeling how you feel. Invalidating your emotions! A very informative video, Thank you FJ!

[@elises8825]

Those people are a**holes

[@ajoy3337]

Elise S Not really, I think they’re just trying to help, and being very logic focused thinkers, that’s how they process emotions. My mom deals with emotions that way, but she recognizes that that’s not what I need (I’m an infp). Usually she just hands off the emotional baggage to someone else. Sure it hurts, but I don’t think it’s intentional.

[@jeannebraun367]

That's gaslighting and the default manipulation tactic by common assholes and ppl on the cluster B spectrum (narcissists, borderlines, histrionics and antisocials). You should avoid that at all costs. It's a huge red flag. Had a neighbor trying to convince me that I imagined being attacked by his dog calling me crazy etc. just to get out of being held accountable (in this case, me telling him to please keep the physical distance you normally would anyway - you know, horrible stuff like that). It's the first warning you might be dealing with someone like that (worst case scenario).

[@ajoy3337]

Jeanne Braun I think I might have confused two different things lol. I meant more the people who try to talk to you in a “calm down it’s not that bad” way when you’ve freaked out completely over something. I don’t think that’s gaslighting though.

[@healingandgrowth-infp4677]

Yes. Also the ones says you are making it up or exaggerating it or just trying to get attention.

[@LoveeAsHell]

Me, an INFP: taking refuge in my own world because real life sucks. Real Life: "Hey! Stop daydreaming, you have a mountain of urgent things to do, bills to pay and deadlines, etc..." Me: *realize that and get overwhelmed, panic attack...* "What am I going to do?!" *Slowly returning to my own bubble to find shelter, ease anxiety and shut down the stressful and negative thoughts..* "Ah, better!" Real Life: *things getting a lot more urgent each time, and even worse...* Me: *in total denial* "It's going to be fine! :)" *Although I know it won't, and that I'm stuck into my world because I'm overwhelmed, and each time I try to leave my bubble I get even more overwhelmed...* "I'm running in circles. Please, need help!" This video is so spot on, you speak the truth my friend, we INFP must feel personally attacked by this but we also know all of this is true! x)

[@f.j.9391]

As an INFP 9w8 I learned that using the energy I saved up, I use to destroy those problems, sometimes it takes shutting down those emotions, there's nothing wrong with detaching from emotions, studies have shown to be helpful in life, those emotions & passions don't go away tho so you'll have free time to daydream. Also another good way of helping is doing things little by little, if you keep reminding yourself to do this little thing & that's the goal then you can actually have tiny goals instead of thinking of the big picture with all these small details instead those details will become easy small goals. It's about changing perspective that helped me along the way. An INFP 9w8 actually is an INFP 4 at first but how they are shaped & grew up really depends on how they view things, so answer=view things differently.

[@dreamingblue3939]

This is my exact situation right now. I'm watching this vid to procrastinate and try to ignore the steadily growing mound of schoolwork and responsibilities looming behind me...

[@fernandavelez6582]

Yeap. Feel you, sis.

[@LoveeAsHell]

@@f.j.9391 thank you for your answer but even if I acknowledge this, and I already was trust me, it's easier said than done :/ I just don't know how... That is a problem.

[@f.j.9391]

@@LoveeAsHell it's not I was saying my own personal growth. & that's true that's why I put alot of hard work in to be like that, I'm an INFP 9w8, I'm not expecting you to be one, they way I talk sound like I'm talking to you mostly because I don't give a fuck about "I" "You" "me" etc.

[@johnathanrhoades7751]

I am an INFJ married to an INFP. All these things are very true from my experience. I'm having to learn to adventure, help push us both to social connection (not EITHER of our strengths 😄), and figure out when to push vs let off, ground vs explore, offer solutions vs comfort, etc.

[@jyc313]

What were some things that you two had to work on? I”m starting to date an INFP woman and we’re great so far but I can see communication being something to put extra effort on. Thanks in advance!

[@johnathanrhoades7751]

@@jyc313 The biggest thing for me as someone who very naturally makes value judgements on basically everything I hear (hello J) is learning to NOT initially do that with anything that is said and just listening and asking exploratory questions to start.

[@jyc313]

Oh i can relate to that. I went into this relationship with her knowing that is a trait of mine so mostly have been able to approach similar situations well. Once in a while tho, it comes out. Luckily not regarding anything major so she's been chill so far and understanding.@@johnathanrhoades7751

[@GabsAlexz]

I started dating someone and a few weeks ago I told him I needed time off whatsapp, I was so nervous about his reaction and he just said "Ok, take your time. Text me when you feel ready". That's the moment I said ok, this might work out.

[@elises8825]

Yay :)

[@malcolmlim4597]

Omgosh! How is it so far!!

[@GabsAlexz]

@@malcolmlim4597 So far it's good! We met last weekend~ I'm still having a hard time with text messaging but he understands :D

[@fernandavelez6582]

Wuuuff, that's so good!!

[@michellecampa9850]

@@GabsAlexz idk why but i feel so happy for you:) and i mean it

[@justjewelz2769]

When he said. "Get over it!" My left eye started twitching.... triggered here 😆

[@katieglamer]

I knowwwwwwwwww!

[@julia-js7uw]

I'm an INFJ and my boyfriend is an INFP, the first time when he showed need some "resting time" was kinda scary for me, cuz I thought it might be my fault. But now I can understand this better and our relationship is amazing.

[@j.j.r.6075]

Same my bf is INFP. Sometimes I struggle because he takes thing VERY personally. Like FJ said, sometimes it feels like he's only thinking about his own feelings... and then he refuses to talk about it with me. It can be hard. I'm patient, and I never intentionally invalidate his feelings... but still

[@loufnovula3555]

Wish my exes were as understanding and as patient as yall 🤧

[@j.j.r.6075]

@@loufnovula3555 I hope you find someone just right and balanced with you :) As an INFP, you may not want to hear it, but its a two way street. We'll try our best to understand and give advice, but in the end, (as FJ said) growing and getting out of your own head, opening up, has to come from you.

[@NinaDiniz7]

@@j.j.r.6075 I'm INFP and my last serious relationship ended because of that. To him, it always looked like I was distant, like if I didn't want to talk and didn't love him. The thing is, is difficult for us to open up about a lot of things and even more difficult to rly express what we're feeling. Happily that was years ago (yes, I remained single, as a classical infp lol), and I feel I can understand myself much better now and feel more confident when it comes to that. But I'm still me, that won't change, so you know, I can understand me better and talk about that openly, but that doesn't mean I will be able to not act like that. 🤷‍♀️

[@j.j.r.6075]

@@NinaDiniz7 Thanks for sharing. Honestly I appreciate the insight :)

[@steakismeat177]

I think we can be very social, but only when we’re in the mood. I know my social anxiety holds me back at times from finding relationships. Though the social anxiety isn’t that extreme to where every social encounter is a nightmare. Only the important encounters are.

[@chaoticbreeze6262]

My best friend is an INFP and I've observed so much of what you mentioned in this video. It's like their hearts are on their sleeves but they'll rarely let that come out. And the people who deeply understand them will "just know".

[@jeannebraun367]

Sounds about right^^

[@ryo-kai8587]

'It's like their hearts are on their sleeves but they'll rarely let that come out. And the people who deeply understand them will "just know". ' Man, that's deep... It's so true. What we need seems so specific yet ethereal and elusive!

[@chaoticbreeze6262]

@@ryo-kai8587 glad to know that I could understand INFPs, they're so amazing. Except for the times when they confuse you by not telling what they feel, but that's really fine, haha.

[@potato-ez5ee]

"Tell my wife I love her very much" "She knows." Why was that so gosh damn adorable? 🥺😭

[@j.bo.e2579]

This is a very insightful video... The only thing that did not ring true to me as an INFP, is "the biggest challenge is opening up to realizing that other people's judgements are just as valid as their own" - My biggest challenge has been just the opposite... to realize that MY judgements are just as valid as those of others, and to try to assert my opinions more strongly.

[@ashleyb4984]

I totally agree with you. My biggest challenge is for sure thinking that I’m valid. Which is annoying because I’m a therapist and can consciously tell myself, you are valid!!!! But it still hasn’t fully clicked. Hopefully one day

[@YunelKuroya]

exactly. An INFP with trust in themselves is far better in opening up to other people ironically.

[@nolonger2569]

omg true

[@rudetins]

Yes!

[@AnnKas10]

Yes, actually that's bcz u are an INFP-T(turbulent), while there r the INFP-As(Assertive), who r kinda the opposite of you(and me lol). Maybe he talked about the Assertive INFPs or maybe he talked about INFPs in general, which means that there r exceptions.