GHOSTED by a person you’re close to

Stunned by the fact that someone close ghosted you? Stuck in a loop of wondering ‘why?’ This isn’t some random person. You can talk to each other. Still confused? Here’s the answer
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[@donaczella]

The best thing to do after being ghosted is getting busy and not allow yourself to thinking what you did wrong, what happened etc. This behaviour is not normal and lack of communication is a clear indicator this person's got problems with themselves

[@patrickprus6865]

People that ghost you are just cowards that are afraid of confrontation in my opinion. I never ghosted anyone. If the relationship was not going well I would have a sit down and tell them that I was not happy and that I would rather end things. Just ghosting someone is plainly disrespectful.

[@SusanWinter]

You’re clearly a considerate person ❤

[@rosariocannistraro3561]

Even if its not working out I wouldn't do that , People like that usually like to be thought of as pure and good and they usually want your love /time faithfulness it reserve the right for themselves to do you dirty as hell in return , And if you ghosted them 110 percent of the time you can bet they would have a nuclear meltdown .

[@tincou7694]

Depends on who you are ghosting, the duration of that relationship or friendship, and the reason you are ghosting someone. Some relationships lack balance or are toxic, and contrary to popular belief, you don’t owe anyone an explanation when redirecting your energy.

[@neezuss]

"It shows their inability to be a partner for you." 🔥

[@robertblake9892]

If people don't value my friendship theirs is worth even less to me.

[@x-mess]

I need to put this on a plaque n hang it on my wall 😂😂 thanks!

[@NWWood17]

Being ghosted has seriously been one of the most emotionally painful things I've had to deal with. It's been five months since my ghosting and generally speaking I'm ok now. But the pain is still there, and it feels so deeply rooted. There are still times when I get deep feelings of sadness. I feel like I'm broken or damaged in some way. I'm just never going to be the same person I was before I got ghosted. Hard to explain but it's such a cruel thing to do to someone.

[@divyamane9065]

I am literally in the same situation rn and it hurts so bad feels like my heart's shattered into pieces 💔

[@NWWood17]

@@divyamane9065 So sorry. I know it's brutal. I wish there was an easy solution. I used to hope so much to hear back from her. Maybe we could fix things and move forward like it was just some big misunderstanding. But now I'm not sure. The practical side of me says forget her, she disrespected me big-time and she showed her true colors. My heart wants to be more forgiving. It tires me out. I don't know how long it's been since you were ghosted or what your situation is. I would encourage you to remain active. Get out there and take part in activities you like or find interesting. Things do get better with the passing of time. It's a slow gradual process but you will get better.

[@colefox2882]

Feels like it’s worse than a breakup because you don’t know what happened, was it your fault? Were you not good enough? Did you not do enough? Is it over? Should you be supportive and stick around and wait for their depressive episode to cool off even though it’s been months? It’s extremely excruciating when you really love that person with all your heart. 😣

[@NWWood17]

Same here. It's been a year now for me and the questions still plague me from time to time. Still dealing with sadness over it. Did I hurt her in some way I'm unaware of? Does she hate me? Fear me? Does she perhaps want to speak with me but she's afraid to contact me? But the ball is in her court and has been for a long time. The pragmatic part knows that no response IS a response. Bottom line is that she wants nothing to do with me. But my heart still can't understand why the person I knew did this to me. ​@@colefox2882

[@NWWood17]

​@@divyamane9065I'm so sorry. I hope you are doing better now. I know it's painful. I wish I could just make it go away for us. Heartbreak is brutal.

[@turner2952]

Years ago, I would beat myself up, blame myself, and waste hours wondering what I did when this would happen. NO MORE. I now care more about myself and maintaining my own peace of mind. People have to prove themselves by their actions, not by their words. Trust has to be earned over time. Thank you, Ms Susan, for the great work you do. You are helping so many of us!

[@SusanWinter]

I’m glad to hear that you’re in such a good place! Self love and growth is essential for happiness! Thanks for watching

[@jonwilkinson3886]

Classic Fearful Avoidant attachment style behaviour. The thing is - They often don't see it as a problem. :(

[@fatcatontario]

People who ghost especially those who they have known for a while, are cowards or are avoiding "collateral damage". The only time I've ghosted anyone was because they gave me the "unhinged" vibe.

[@SusanWinter]

Natalia! Hello dear lady.

[@user-iw2lf4lc9y]

Someone ghosted me after we had not long had a conversation about how awful ghosting is. I thought“ what a hypocrite!” said person is also a psychotherapist by profession! I would have expected better!

[@tomduane4892]

Same thing happened to me ,

[@nakdcrypto]

I'm so glad you covered ghosting by someone you know

[@cherylross393]

The people are insecure,scared or whatever or a serial player.

[@SusanWinter]

Sadly, it does happen and can hurt so much worse. Thank you for taking the time to comment!

[@nakdcrypto]

@@SusanWinter Thank you for the video and for all your content and wisdom shared

[@shreenjandutta]

@@nakdcrypto Wow Makes so much sense

[@toscadonna]

They were close to you, but you weren’t close to them. That’s why they don’t care about how their actions effect you. Ghosting, unless you’re doing it to avoid violence, is cowardly and evil.

[@bogan-slayer7469]

I disagree. Perhaps the person’s behaviour and actions have slowly become intolerable over time. You’ve told your “friend” time after time that these behaviours and actions won’t be tolerated, but they continue on and on. I just ghosted an ex after being good friends for 30 years! Despite my attempts to prevent it, the “friendship” was now toxic (well for me at least). After 30 years, I ghosted her, blocked her and never want to hear from her again. She had hundreds of chances to change or at least properly explain her actions, yet she never did. I definitely don’t see my actions as cowardly or evil, on the contrary.

[@marmackk]

@@bogan-slayer7469 That is not ghosting. Ghosting is when a person disappears without having a prior conversation with the person being ghosted. The person being ghosted has no idea what he or she did wrong.There was no indication that the ghoster was upset with the ghostee's behaviour. The ghoster acted as everything was fine and then made an instant decision to disappear without a word. What you are describing is going no contact.

[@bogan-slayer7469]

@@marmackk No. Where did you get that definition? The usual definition is a sudden, unexpected and complete cessation of contact, where the person being ghosted did not imagine it coming. That’s ghosting. No contact is a technique used in an attempt to attract the other person’s attention and to possibly re-kindle the relationship. I have absolutely no desire to re-kindle the relationship or to attract attention. I’ve cut them off like an unwanted wart, ie, ghosted them.

[@marmackk]

@@bogan-slayer7469 And again cutting off contact with ghosting is usually done with the ghostee being given no indication of the ghoster having an issue with the ghostee.That is why ghosting hurts so much because there was no indication given that there was anything wrong with the relationship. No contact is not limited to a technique used to attract the other persons attention,it also extends to a person cutting off a person for good with no intention to attract them back into their lives.

[@bogan-slayer7469]

@@marmackk Well, you go right ahead and run with your own definitions if it makes you feel better.

[@snatchinitback4635]

Nah - once you realize you've been ghosted, you move on and NEVER make contact again! They knew it before you texted and they have no apology and no remorse. DON'T CHASE ANYONE! I realized the ghoster in my life ("bestie" of 25 yrs) gave me a HUGE gift. So many business plans we'd talked about that I was "sold" on and planned to get into with them - what a gift to be spared moving forward in such big ways with such a person. Ha!

[@MA-rn2xp]

This happened to me months ago. A person I considered a very close friend almost a best friend just stopped reaching out to me. It's been 8 months and never heard from them again. She's a low maintenance type but I didn't expect her to never reach out as if I never existed. It was a slap in the face for all the time we spent together making memories invested etc. It almost feels like i never meant anything to her. Especially coming from someone like me who has a hard time trusting people. 🙃 then another friend I was hoping to reconnect with and make plans with ghosted me and I dont know what I did wrong 😔

[@Caigga900]

Thanks Susan. Sometimes we love to give them the benefit of the doubt and chalk the ghosting up to anxiety, busyness, forgetfulness, etc. With social media, unfortunately we often have evidence that this person isn't dead and has pas de problème using their fingers. As hours turn to days , turn to weeks, you realize that this person just doesn't care about you the way you thought. Don't sweat it though people, be the best you were created to be!

[@beecat9951]

Yup. Guilty of this. Turns out he's got back with his ex and just not told me.

[@nakdcrypto]

"Pas de problème using their fingers" - love it!

[@janep165]

No don’t give them any benefit. As Susan said .. they know what they’re doing. Don’t stand for ghosting. Men are getting away with this behaviour time and time again as woman are happy losing their power. Don’t allow a guy to treat you like this. If they ghost then block them.

[@SusanWinter]

I appreciate you taking the time to watch! Thank you for the support!

[@suziechampagne357]

It's totally disrespectful and cowardly

[@davidcasillas285]

Good information Susan. Best quote here. "No response is a response." Perfect for those who may be wondering. You're the Best Susan! ❤️

[@SusanWinter]

You’re so sweet David! 🤗

[@stephenn77]

Indeed! The more experience you have being ignored or rejected by people, you realize this is true.

[@itsjusme1982]

One of my oldest friends just did this. I stewed over it. Decided this isn't healthy for ME. So I text her (she won't anger calls), told her how it felt and it was unacceptable. Let her respond, then blocked her number.

[@averagejane09]

I almost think friend ghosting is worse than romantic ghosting. They are both awful, but I find it more painful when it is a friend.

[@cleopetra87]

I've been ghosted before but it doesn't bother me, I move on. I don't hold onto anyone. Recently, I told a close friend who became toxic in my life that I needed space, and stopped messaged them, that's more polite to do!

[@SusanWinter]

I agree that letting her know your boundaries before cutting off communication is important

[@sisteranastasia9101]

Being ghosted is truly terrible. I got ghosted by the guy I fell in love with for the 1st time, aged 16-18. H put me through hell and it hurt me for the rest of my life. I know it's not a fun story, but Susan knows me for a long time, so... sharing it.

[@SusanWinter]

Sending you all the virtual hugs, Anastasia!

[@stephenn77]

People suck… to put it bluntly.

[@angelam2269]

I’ve unfortunately had this happen to me 16 yrs ago. It really changed the trajectory of my dating life - sadly for a bit of time. This video really hit home and wished I heard it years ago. Back then ghosting wasn’t a common thing and nobody really understood how painful it is. You have the best videos Susan!!!

[@robpz448]

14 Year relationship here. Argument in text , dumped and blocked everywhere. Unbelievable. Haven't heard from her for a month. I don't care if she's with somebody else (which i dont know that for sure again dont care) it's just , how could after all this time I be disposed of like garbage? I tried to reach out a few times to reconcile with her. No luck. My last attempt for closure / before I completely walk out of this persons life for good (like they did to me already) was reaching out to her Dad. I was cool with her dad and he liked me. He Said he's going to talk to her maybe tomorrow or in a couple days then he'd reach out to me. That's where the situation stands. I'm not perfect but she's definitely not either. I just want some answers and not to feel like garbage. If we talked one last time, we could've put everything on the table. We didn't do that. The situation is just unreal to me and my mental health had been severely jeopardized in the last month.

[@ashlonfrank6058]

hey man, it sucks to know this happened to you. I'm so sorry about that. I wish things ended well, but for her to ghost you like that after a 14 year relationship, bro it is mad disrespectful. I understand why you would feel this way and you deserve closure. It sucks to be left clueless in a relationship when you have no idea why your partner's behavior changes drastically. No one deserves to be treated like that! Stay strong and remember that there's so much more in life besides a relationship so try to focus on yourself and your goals. Easier said than done but YOU GOT THIS!

[@robpz448]

@@ashlonfrank6058 Thank you Ashlon. Yes I agree. There is definetely more to life then being in a relationship with a woman. Definetely though , when it ends , you want to be able to discuss what happened, not just end abruptly. It's just crazy man.

[@SusanWinter]

I’m so sorry to read this because that behavior is completely unacceptable on every single level

[@robpz448]

@@SusanWinter Yes. It's horrible.

[@babajaga6687]

I'm so sorry to hear that, man! Have you had a chance to talk properly one last time? Are you better now?

[@orscha6126]

many video on ghosting, but this is the most mature, realistic, helpful one !!! Thank you human decency ...or lack of it.

[@sophiejune4515]

It is hard but so true sometimes you have to get closure on your own. I was ghosted by a long time friend some I knew since grade school. This was right around the start of the pandemic and I honestly thought she died but later saw her in a news article so clearly alive. I had to accept that she didn't want to be friends anymore with no explanation. It's not like we argued or anything just out of nowhere no communication. Considering how long we knew we each other if she needed a break or even thought we weren't compatible as friends she could have texted me if she didn't want to talk and I would've understood. But I'm finally over it but I am reluctant to invest in relationships of any kind because I wonder about being ghosted again.

[@julie5668]

You are so spot on! I have felt these feelings myself and I've also thought those things, but whatever may be going on in their lives could equally be happening in mine. I would only ever fight for a child. As adults, we all may choices.

[@pixvuhobbyzone2814]

Hi Susan, with the current social media accessible by all, I am appalled by the "abusers" that keeps BLOCKING people...is this their power trip?

[@lc2748]

Thank you so much for this. Time will have to heal this. ❤

[@mikyl-fo8rh]

Ghosting - when things are better left unsaid or there's nothing left to say 😐

[@bp51082]

This has not happened to me a lot but it has happened, and relatively recently. I'm personally comfortable living in the space where I can consider it disrespectful and immature, but also recognize that especially when it comes to fearful avoidant and dismissive attachment styles, they are simply playing out a sometimes severe childhood trauma wound where they can't deal with confrontation. Again, sucks and doesn't have to be tolerated, but I can feel that way and also have some empathy.

[@SusanWinter]

That’s a very measured response and it seems as though it has served you well

[@jlina]

I don't agree with this unless they are children. As adults they need to learn to use their words, it is a disservice to them and to you to let this pass.

[@bp51082]

@@jlina "Just get over it" is easy for people to say that have had routine experience. People that have been through things like severe abuse, sexual or otherwise, have a more difficult path than that and reactions are often deep, and involuntary. And require a lot of professional help to get past. On a separate note, I would simply quote: "holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die". What exactly are you accomplishing by staying angry or bitter other than hurting yourself?

[@kf4083]

Thank you! Recent first experience with this. This is very helpful.

[@zachtolchin3320]

Thank you, I needed this today.

[@davidcasillas285]

Their loss Zach. This happened to me. Guess what? She's tried coming back 6-7 times after her "Chad" used her up. Hold your ground and never take them back. They did it once and will do it again. No excuses. These aren't 13 year old kids who don't know any better. Peace Brother & Community.

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you for watching!

[@tonymartone8687]

what a great and interesting talk. thank you Susan. be safe. ❤️

[@SusanWinter]

Hugs to you Tony!

[@tonymartone8687]

@@SusanWinter Hugs to you as well 🤗 love ❤️

[@FlorenciaUSAR]

I've never been ghosted by a guy (I don't really ever date) or a younger person that I can remember. The last few people that ghosted me are actually middle-aged women. And I don't consider myself someone that's overbearing or insisting on things. It'd be a text to ask about doing lunch because this old friend I ran into at the store said that we should or gifting a friend I went to lunch with a talked for hours a nice face cream and then asking her how she liked it. Or reaching out to someone that I thought of and haven't seen in years and that person responding once, asking me about my life, and then ghosting me once I tell her about my life and ask her a little more about her kids, etc. So, it goes to show that yes, ghosting has become a thing that people just do I guess.

[@SusanWinter]

Unfortunately it has become normalized only due to the fact that so many people have chosen to take the cowardly route rather than to speak the truth or even be diplomatic in their goodbye

[@LuisArias-ui5dw]

Happy Tuesday you always give the best advice Susan and I definitely take it to the heart 🌹❤

[@SusanWinter]

Happy Tuesday to you Luis! Thanks for the love!

[@anon_ya]

Bingo. Great; mature advice!

[@addicted183]

I'd rather vent to my therapist than reaching out to them because that's just giving them more power. In my case, this "friend" kept posting her outings on social media. So I know for a fact she hasn't been kidnapped or in an accident. I deleted her number. It hurt so much. We weren't super close but we hung out occasionally and I considered her a friend.

[@sarahjaneross2918]

This... So empowering!

[@SusanWinter]

Thanks for the love!

[@mariahducker6840]

You’re a queen

[@judyb8018]

Whatever you just did with your makeup and hair color....you look FABULOUS! This subject just happened to me. He spent time with me for about a month but finally said on the phone after ghosting "we are not really on the same page" but he was still looking for his wife. This was the day after I cooked him a meal and I refused to be intimate without an emotional connection even tho he said I was "sexy as hell." He offered to stay in touch as just friends to grab coffee. No contact. I asked him to delete all my photos. Totally disrespected. It was obviously his issue not mine.

[@SusanWinter]

You deserve to be treated like a Princess! This was the universes way of clearing out the old to give way for the new

[@zenmaiden1]

Hi Susan, love love the help you share! ❤

[@SusanWinter]

AHHHHHH... ZEN MAIDEN. And I love your ongoing support and thoughtful commentary. Have a beautiful day.

[@regiana8079]

Thank you Susan, i need to realize that "he dont want me", i have to make clear decision about this...

[@ShowMeWhatINeedToKnow]

My best friend did this -- kept flaking out, canceling on me at the last minute, made every one of our healing sessions trivial stuff about her while my life was falling apart, etc. Her last cancelation, I asked if she wanted to setup a time another next visit and she said she would let me know -- and she never got back to me. Which was expected, as I had read between the lines by then. Still shocked and amazed by her behavior, and how people piss friends away like it's nothing -- although I will say she was in her 20s -- so different generation. She also started leaning towards the WOKE movement and thought people of color should have special privileges -- so perhaps it was for the best.

[@D3vilMayCry99]

What about if I’ve been seeing someone for two months. We’ve gone on so many dates and we both have told each other we like each other. We went hiking last weekend and he informed me of how busy he would be the next two upcoming weekends. After the hike he didn’t reply back to me after a day and informed me that he is going to have a hectic week and will have to be a bit distant. Which I understood but not sure, feel as if this is a nice way of him wanting to slowly ghost me. He hasn’t messaged me anything. Idk but if I really like someone i’d find time to talk to them even just once a day. Not sure what to feel at this point or to just start the moving on process…

[@averagejane09]

Seeing all these posts you realize how common this is. We don't hear about it much in real life I imagine because people are embarrassed that it happened to them. At least that is why I don't tell people it happened to me. It really is an awful thing to experience. But, life is full of tough lessons I guess. Hopefully we all come out the other side stronger and more secure for it. It is their bad behavior so where else do their values fail? Better off.

[@kwonjiyong73]

My long time close friend never respond to my chat anymore.. I don't understand why

[@SusanWinter]

I’m so sorry to hear that. You deserve better!

[@cobraninja2968]

Mine did too

[@mendicius_jade]

4:05 Thanks for affirming I did the right thing. I may get a bit emotional on that last letter I sent him, but I am glad to hear that I did the right thing after all (though it might not be perfect nor flawless). I guiltily admit, I am still stalking him from time to time through a fake account (without bothering him of course) and I see how he changed his demeanor towards others, at least on line, but he hasn't reached me out nor unblocked me yet. I no longer care.

[@SusanWinter]

Little by little. It gets better

[@ZetaCancri]

By someone I thought I knew. But she was a breadcrumbing narcissist "friend" and I only ask her how she was doing

[@Toya650]

OMG! All of this...Recently happened to me

[@SusanWinter]

I’m so sorry to hear that

[@katec9893]

I recently went to reply to a friend and realised she'd blocked me! It really distressed me for a few days as we hadn't argued and I didn't know why she'd do that. Blocking me was so harsh and brutal. I've since reflected that the friendship hadn't felt good for a while so it's for the best, but it would have been better if we'd just become distant civil acquaintances rather than her randomly blocking me. Good riddance to her, I don't want people in my life who would treat me like that.

[@katecahill5257]

Thank you, I needed to hear this today. Eventhough it's an old message. I was recently ghosted by a 'friend'. I reached out a couple of times to ask 'How are you'?. I didn't hear back. I don't understand how a friend could ghost a friend who has only ever been kind, good and supportive to them. I wrote that very thing in a text to my ex-friend. Didn't get a response. It hurts me, but I look at it, the ghosting and bad behavior is on him. And, if it was something I did, my ex-friend would have told me. Texting is the most impersonal thing in the world.

[@DramaScenes1]

Heyy, by chance would you like to be friends then? Im a 24 year old from the Caribbean and just thought it would be cool to connect with someone else to get a different perspective on things and just to vibe out.

[@averagejane09]

Sorry you went through that. I think...I am going through that right now. Messaged a friend to say hi after three months and two days later no response. Last time this happened, I reached out after a month and asked if everything was ok and she responded enthusiastically saying she lost track of time. This time? NVM. Twice? I don't think so. The second ghost is the worst. When you follow up and ask if everything is ok and they STILL don't respond. Then you know it is deliberate. This is on her my dear. It is incredibly unkind to not respond the second time. At that point she should put her big girl pants on and let you know why she is not responding. At least give you the respect of closure. You have to be a very selfish and cruel person that when someone reaches out a second time and it is clearly hurting them that they were ghosted to continue with the silent treatment. What an arse. Be kind to yourself and don't spend another minute worrying about such a person.

[@cobraninja2968]

Friend of mine that liked me and wanted to see me ghosted me after she was sick. Saw her all over fb commenting her friends and don’t wanna talk to me I guess. She told me she’s been sick and I thought it was about her parents not being around anymore and I guess she’s losing interest.

[@M4nvrs]

Another golden nugget from the omniscient Susan Winter!

[@SusanWinter]

Why thank you! Glad you enjoyed it!

[@M4nvrs]

@@SusanWinter You're welcome! Always!

[@seanbailey1156]

Everyone likes to throw the word coward around to justify to themselves why someone stopped talking to them, at what point do people stop and self-reflect and ask themselves what they may have done to yield that behavior. While often times it is the wrong thing to do, especially if that person has asked you what's going on and you lie about it, but sometimes people get in return what they put out. Creating false narratives to tell yourself you did nothing wrong can be equally if not more harmful than ghosting, but let's be honest, a lot of people disrespect or neglect people who would go out their way for them for no real reason, then wonder why there friendships fail or communication stops. Accountability matters. It's not always the other person's fault.

[@josephnorton1225]

Is it reasonable to respond to a ghoster that you wish them all of the best, that you will always be happy for them, and thank them for the wonderful times you had together? And then followed my more anguish of ghosting?

[@lanigirl01]

LDR 2.5 yrs and havent heard from him in 4 days. Idk what i did or said. I even called him and he didnt pick up. Holiday happened. Nothing all day. Really short video dates like 10 min always working. Im hurt. He knows my dating history. Knows ghosting is the worst thing for me.

[@luna69_69]

Hi Susan How do men perceive a woman who is not liked by other women? Appreciate your help, thanks 😊

[@luna69_69]

@Manley156 what if she just had one or two female friends and generally doesn't get along with other women because of the drama and pettiness they tend to bring (also them lacking practicality)

[@keepinitkawaii]

Wow how timely 🥴

[@SusanWinter]

🤗

[@mysticizzm]

Why is the common response to pull away/ or deny-deflect-defend when someone develops deep feelings that are not conducive to the box they put you in? i.e "friendzone"?

[@ronmichaels9761]

Well stated.

[@SlatherBird]

🙌🏻

[@johanna77777]

my own little sister.. heartbreaking

[@prabs1060]

literally 3 people ghosted me in a row. why why urgh

[@tomjardine100]

I hate it, but what can you do?

[@yvonnesylten1788]

What about ghosting a friend when the friendship has just fizzled out? Sometimes its just time to step away from a friend. Telling them why would just hurt them. Its seems like too much drama to tell them the reasons, so I just faded out. I do not feel like I owe an explanation.

[@bogan-slayer7469]

I agree 100%. I just ghosted an ex-girlfriend who I’d remained good friends with for 30 years after. Some things become toxic and are not worth keeping alive or making excuses for. It wasn’t easy to do, but it was the best thing to do. Why drag out the inevitable with apologies and explanations? Time is too precious now. Cut it and move on.

[@marmackk]

Because fading out of a friend's life without an explanation doesn't hurt them.

[@tincou7694]

That’s my experience 💯

[@atlantean1209]

Don’t be a coward. Give the reason before you ghost, it’s basic human decency.

[@zfunk56]

This person only likes my posts now. We had an open relationship and I was open about seeing another person again who he's even met. I have a girlfriend as well. Not sure why he'd pull back suddenly. He hasn't even looked at my last pretty innocent message.

[@Ana-tt8rv]

I beg to differ, Susan. If you are an acquaintance/college friend/high school friend and you never make plans to meetup with them atleast once in a year, they don't owe you constant communication. It is unfair to the other person who's getting this sort of online relationship. People have developed these weird ghosting tendencies coz like in the old days when a relationship's time comes,it doesn't end / fade in this social media era. It just get dragged on endlessly without either of the parties making an effort to connect outside of texting. If it's a old friend that has suddenly gone silent, and if you really want them in your life, you step up and make plans to meet up or something before deeming them a bad person. Sometimes they can just be hopeless and overwhelmed coz basically they just have a "ghost" version of the friendship you had but with same responsibilities. Better yet, if you don't want to do that, stick to being a low maintenance online relationship, instead of constant texting maybe go for emails once in a while or something like that. Also, we need to bring back emails/letters.

[@janep165]

I beg to differ Ana.,Its dating relationships Susan is referring to. I’ve had exactly what she’s referring to happen. This time I had dating tools at my disposal from Susan and a couple of other coaches I also respect. I was so ahead of the game I saw what he was doing and stepped up and called him out then spun him on his heels. I took my power back. He ghosted me prior to this then he came back after an absence. Because he’s cocky and arrogant enough sadly

[@Ana-tt8rv]

Ok. Maybe I got it wrong, is this about dating your friends/ acquaintances?

[@janep165]

@@Ana-tt8rv dating… dating ex’s.. dating confused people… dating anxious avoidants .. dating chancers etc lol

[@Ana-tt8rv]

​​@@janep165 ohh. ok 😅 Thank you. 😄

[@SusanWinter]

@@janep165 Good that you caught it, jane