Depression and hair - How to detangle your hair when it's really knotty

Bit of a different video for me as we chat about how to deal with knotty and tangled hair. I get a bit personal too and show you how my hair is after 3 days of wearing the same hairstyle while in isolation. READ MORE ---
I have a lot to say on this topic so it's a longer video than normal, but my main tips are:
- Don't feel bad about your hair
- Show your hair some love
- Always be gentle
- USE MORE CONDITIONER - this is key to detangling
- Use a brush with flexible bristles
(I'm using the Glide Flexibrush which is available from salons - this is a similar style you can find online amzn.to/3ps8aS8)
I also used the SheaMoisture Coconut leave in spray - available here - bit.ly/39eDsqd
Also I talk about how depression can change your hair and other factors that affect your hair too.
I really hope this helps and if you're struggling, please call a friend and see your doctor. Here are some numbers you can call:
AUSTRALIA
Kids Helpline - 1800 55 1800
Lifeline - 13 11 14
USA
LifeLine 1-800-273-TALK
CANADA
LifeLine 1-833-456-4566
UK
The Samaritans - 116 123
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Christina xx

[@thecheapweeb7595]

Thank you. I haven’t brushed my hair for two and a half months and I didn’t know what to do,but this video helped me. I’m fourteen and I haven’t really taken care of myself either

[@missmarston4953]

Hun I felt that Recently I've been kind of motivated to get myself together If you ever need a motivation buddy, I'm here :)

[@bloop1403]

same

[@cristelmejia7793]

Me and you literally have the same situation😅.. I'm watching these videos and then dont brush my hair 😐 because I always watch them veryyyyyy late at night

[@missmarston4953]

Update: got a pixie cut because it was so bad 😏

[@bloop1403]

@@missmarston4953 that’s great if it’s better for you than I support it :)

[@nonyabizness956]

I looked up this video when I realized that my hair was basically one solid piece. Quarantine and this year in general has really taken its toll and I'm really grateful for this video

[@Hairromance]

thanks for watching and hope you're doing ok 💛

[@lyric-jadedevine7425]

Going through this now and trying to get it out 😫 how’re you doing now?

[@taehyunstapiocapearlinkiga1770]

@@lyric-jadedevine7425 did you figure out how to get the whole knot out 😩

[@daniellesolo4776]

Mine’s in the same state right now: terrified I won’t get it out, but hoping I can at least get it to a more “separated” // normal state

[@lifeisapain2284]

The last time I had a major knot my mum cut it out, and now I have a big piece of hair missing in the middle of my head. At least you can’t see it when I have my hair in a ponytail

[@mycutecatfelix9845]

I have a horrible case of hair depression. I always cover it and refuse to let anyone see it or touch it.. I can’t even tell you how long it’s been since I even attempted to try and brush it out.... but today I am going to really honestly truly start to brush it out. Without giving up. Even if it take a few days... thank you for making me feel that I’m not alone. Even the people in the comments that aren’t afraid to tell their story. It’s brave and exactly what I needed to hear; so thank you to everyone in the comments for also making me feel like I’m not the only one because for a long time I thought I was the only one. Sorry for the long sappy post but I meant every word. Wish me luck and if you want to stay updated on my journey just leave a comment and I’ll keep you updated! Please no hate. Depression can honestly do this to you and much worse. All it takes is one day of feeling okay to take a stand. Anyways now I’m rambling. Here I go! I’ve got this..

[@Hairromance]

thank you for sharing 💛 put on a new series to binge watch and make the process more fun - good luck!

[@rezinate1700]

How did it go?

[@mycutecatfelix9845]

@@rezinate1700 I finally brushed it out! I feel so much better I wish I could post pictures on here!!!

[@skittlessunshine5518]

@@mycutecatfelix9845 ahhh yay!!!! I know the feeling. Just to run your fingers through it again is amazing 🙂

[@unapologeticallyJax]

ya right now mine is in a solid pancake mat... at the back like a huge dread. This is horrific.. im 51 and in 30 yrs of having long hair i have NEVER let my hair get like this. I am way beyond the lovely girl in the vid... but i have also you tubing girls with black hair that easily gets matted and ppl getting dreads out that have gone matted. I am white... but i really appreciate the vid and comments... knowing i am not alone. a month of depression hair up in a bun all day and night and not dealing with the tangles that started like the girl in the video has.... at that time ... has left me scared i wont get it out either. Gonna keep trying. Will update on here if i get this damn thing out.

[@kimberligalvez2014]

this made me cry.. you are compassionate.

[@Hairromance]

❤ lots of love! Hope you are doing ok 💕

[@R.A.A.]

Kimberli Galvez I was just gonna say that ... All we need the most sometimes is Compassion & kindness.

[@R.A.A.]

Hair Romance I don't know what you said exactly that in less than 2 minutes I choked on my tears, I pause it, Here to tell you that am here as a form of fighting back, trying to lift up my spirit, It's really hard leaving the bed, but I miss me ... What's hurting the most isn't how I used to look, "how I to used to feel ... Full of life." You made my day Angel , I really can't remember the last time My eyes filled with tears .

[@barbaragray4309]

Thank you ,my hair is long & ties up in knots when I wash it,I will try this& hope it works,............

[@Hairromance]

@@R.A.A. hope you're doing ok 💛 thinking of you!

[@helloiamtiredallthetime.631]

I’ve been depressed for 9 years without any help for it, but I’m at my worst right now with my hair, because of quarantine. My hair is so knotted. I am trying to force myself to finally brush my hair, but there’s so much. I’ll edit when I can, and how it went. Edit: I brushed through most of it, but still have a good chunk in the back. I’ll have to take a shower to get rid of it. Edit 2: YES, I FINALLY BRUSHED THROUGH IT! I’m so proud!

[@Hairromance]

I'm so proud of you too! I hope you're doing something kind for yourself today 💕

[@helloiamtiredallthetime.631]

@@Hairromance Thank you so much! I did some baking, and am drawing right now! Both help my mental health a lot :)

[@Hairromance]

@@helloiamtiredallthetime.631 love that 💛💛💛

[@lyric-jadedevine7425]

How long did it take, haven’t brushed mine since November and I’m finally getting it done now, it’s seems to go on and on

[@helloiamtiredallthetime.631]

@@lyric-jadedevine7425 It took a good while, but it gets better and easier as time goes on. I know it’s very difficult, and feels impossible. You can do this, and I’m here for you.

[@lexjordan691]

I’m bawling, I needed those first 3 minutes of this video. We all blame ourselves and I was about to rip a brush through my hair but I’m willing to take the time to slowly de-tangle it

[@Hairromance]

hope you're ok Lex 💛 be kind to yourself 💛

[@lexjordan691]

@@Hairromance thank you I’m doing much better🥺

[@Hairromance]

@@lexjordan691 I'm so happy to hear 💛

[@deborahgayle9693]

I just found this video and I’m crying watching it, I just got out of an abusive relationship... and I’ve been wearing my hair in a bun for 2 weeks now... 😩 it’s so bad

[@Hairromance]

Hi Deborah, I'm so glad you're out of that relationship! Hope you're ok and taking care of you now 💛

[@656babydoll]

Try the biosilk therapy. U can find it at winners or home sense at a lower price. I use it and it makes a great improvement.

[@yourlocalwhore6917]

School had came back and I felt so drained and tired that I couldn’t even untangle hair. It’s currently a mess, I don’t have depression, never been diagnosed but school stresses me out a lot. Thank you!

[@Hairromance]

hope you're ok! 2020 is a lot 💛 good luck with school and be kind to yourself xx

[@nikkifortner2874]

UPDATE‼️‼️ So.. while what she said is obviously good advice, it wasn't anything the majority of us didn't already know. It was her DELIVERY that sealed the words in. Her kindness. Patience. Love. Just her. It was her. As far as this method working for me, idk. If it goes the way it did yesterday and I can't find another way to get this damn thing out my head, it'll probable take over a week😑🥺 My hair is halfway down my back. . Right now tho, its not even hitting my shoulders. I get really bad panic attacks which bring in depression. I honestly can't even tell you when the last time I actually washed and brushed my hair was. Its all just one huge knot. 3 minutes in to this video and I'm already loving everything about it. Whatever you say to do, I'm gonna try and then come back to update 🥰 Wish me luck 🤣🙌

[@Hairromance]

Thanks Nikki, sending you a big virtual hug and hope you're ok 💛

[@lilkittenxo3054]

I can’t thank you enough for this video. Last month I experienced homelessness to the fullest. My hair is in between 26-28 inches long and was stuck in a bun for 32 days. I didn’t have access to a brush or conditioner. Now that I am getting back on my feet, trying to brush my hair has been a nightmare. This video really gave me comfort while working through! I have a few more sections to go and I feel amazing. Thank you!

[@Hairromance]

I hope you're ok, I'm so glad you're here 💛

[@Melissa-zw1ft]

Agreed here. Sometimes you can only “be happy and all positive” only so much. Sometimes it’s easier to deal with (a little) sadness and do the minimum with hair and makeup.

[@Hairromance]

thank you, it's a bit of a rollercoaster right now, right? Hope you're ok 💕

[@legendcc1]

I wish there were more people like you in this world 💖

[@Hairromance]

thinking of you 💛

[@HarMarz07]

I'm so thankful for this video... its been almost three month of me putting my hair in the same bun or leaving it up because my depression and anxiety. My hair is usually below my bottom but it is so matted that ts just below my shoulder blades. It's gotten to the point where I just cry and cry... but the sweet way you explain And the self love you promote had inspired me to take care of myself. Thank you.😭🥰

[@dianapoirier7176]

Please My Friend Love 💕😘 yourself enough to 1 take care of your body push yourself here if you need pain relief go to drs and demand it from this world 🌎 and people if you need mental health go to Dr or group therapy for yourself then take care of your body then your environment fung shway then once you can care for yourself you can care for others in your life or it'll be easier to get a life 🦋🕊️ live sweetie 🥰😘 DON'T WORRY BE 😊😁 HAPPY PLAY THIS SONG AS YOU GET TO BRUSHING, BUBBLES BUBBLES IN THE TUB WASHY WASHY SCRUB, SCRUB, SCRUB,,BE WELL GOD LOVES YOU ,YOUR GUARDIAN ANGEL LIKE VES YOU 😇😘🕊️& I LOVE YOU TOO🥰 🙏

[@zoelemon1851]

My hair has gotten so knotted and greasy that I just want to cut it all off. I beat myself up for not being food at taking care of it but I was never taught how. Thanks for helping, ill do this now.

[@Hairromance]

Thanks for watching and I hope you're doing ok 💛

[@ceci1ist]

this is the third time this year that this happens to me. I just get so upset about my knots that i just avoid it all together. I finally got the courage and just listening to you while i do it just helps so much. A lot of people get really embarrased about this including me. Thank you, you aare helping so many right now.

[@GentlethemJoey]

Depression hair is real. I usually just yank a ton of it out as I brush it to death. Is that not the right way? Lol. Thank you for this, hopefully it won't be so painful next time.

[@Hairromance]

Hope you're doing ok, it's an extra tough time now. Lots of love 💕

[@hayleeperkins3007]

My hair is crazy. I haven’t washed or combed it in like a week. Ugh. I hate it.

[@valeriapebble]

Start by using a rat tail comb to gently pick apart the mats, then liberally apply leave in conditioner or just regular conditioner, and brush from the bottom first to get out the knots. I'm a student hair stylist and I have a client who I'm helping, and I just slathered leave in conditioner and got to de-tangling. We've brushed for 3 hours so far and her next appointment is tomorrow so we're gonna get it all fixed for her ☺️

[@adriannisifonte2368]

@@valeriapebble God bless you!

[@valeriapebble]

@@adriannisifonte2368 💖 I hope it helps. I finished her hair in 5 hours using that technique! We were really crunching for time, but it caused her minimal pain.

[@swilliams5554]

I can’t even separate my hair into two sections. When I take my bun down my hair stays in a ponytail shape even if I shake my head. Hair is matted to my roots. Really nice video, thank you, we need more honest content like this on KZbin

[@jianhaotanswife7799]

Me too, havent brushed it in 3 months

[@Hairromance]

thank you 💛💛💛 and I hope you're doing ok now. Be kind to yourself 💛

[@AlexeJade]

Mine too. I have 3 huge knots

[@sagescott580]

Mine too… haven’t brushed since February

[@savannahbanks]

Months, me! Depression.

[@ayeasha1961]

Thank you so much. Ive been sitting here for days so upset with what my depression has done to my hair. I needed to see this so badly. I cried

[@Hairromance]

Thanks for watching and I hope you're ok Ayeasha. It's going to be ok xx

[@ashleyb5552]

I feel so heard, seen, and validated. I thought this was just me. It’s been almost 2 1/2 months since I brushed my hair. I’m so scared, but I need to do it & I know I’ll feel so much better

[@rachaelcooke6108]

I’m 17, I struggle with anxiety, my hair touches the floor, and I have a very demanding schedule, I also have a very sensitive scalp. This video is a new life for me!! ❤️❤️

[@Hairromance]

wow your hair is so long! So glad I could help 💛

[@BeegirlsHoneyHouse]

This is lovely~thank you and all for sharing..I’ve joked with myself(🤦‍♀️) about my pandemic, quarantined remote work-stuck at home, tangled matted hairdo. I’m single, live alone and have minimal social interactions. My hair is dreadful and I’ve had an awful experience every-time I’m working it. Now I’m ready to follow your guide and gentle approach.🌎💚🌀✌🏽🎁tyvm Love

[@Hairromance]

thinking of you and sending a virtual hug 💛

[@elizabethb6]

Been laid off and working in the yard everyday. I am a curly girl and my hair is a mess... thank you for this video. Going to give my hair some more love!

[@Hairromance]

💕 sorry to hear, hope you're ok and thinking of you xx

[@susanstutts8001]

Hi I was in the hospital with cancer for along with no one that would help with my hair.everytime I got home I ended right back in the hospital. I am69 and my hair is so matted in the back and feels hard in some places. Please help me I refuse too cut it it's my best assett

[@raspberryghost7372]

I have bad depression hair I thought of shaving it since it's bad bad but I want to try my hair is a big confidence holder for me I want to try first before just saying Chuck it. So far 1 quarter is detangled and it's not the worst yet. I use to just sit in a tub of warm water that would eventually turn cold to sit there and untangle my hair your video helped me to not be angry at my hair but to be a bit more gentle. Thanks,❤

[@Hairromance]

thank you 💛 detangling is normal and we don't need to make it uncomfortable or a punishment, it can be relaxing if you make it that way 💛

[@abnormia]

Omg this was exactly what I needed. I didnt wash my hair in a week and when I finally got my hair in the shower it took me probably half an hour to detangle. I have curly hair so i dont brush it unless I'm in the shower with a fook ton of conditioner. Youre a life saver ^^

[@traceymurphy4804]

Amen, sister...

[@Hairromance]

Hope you're doing ok! I had to go through this again today so be kind to yourself 💕

[@peytonnicholson]

I lost three family members in 3 weeks, I've been neglecting my personal hygiene along with brushing my hair. I just keep it in a bun 24/7. tonight I had a bit of motivation for the first time in 5 months, I washed my hair, found this video and got my hair detangled after not having the motivation or energy to brush it for 4+ months. it took 3 hours, but I did it thanks to you and your video. thank you. having my hair cleaned and properly brushed made me smile, genuinely, for the first time since the losses.

[@Hairromance]

oh I'm so sorry for your losses, that is so sad. thank you for spending some time with me and I hope you're continuing to be kind to yourself 💛💛 thinking of you

[@aliviajohnson7733]

If you had to go through this I’m so sorry and I’m so proud of you no matter what my friends motivated me to get up and take care of myself if you ever feel alone I’m here I needed the help and I had the right people to help and if you need the right help you can always talk to me

[@TheShadowgal1]

Christina, thank you so much for this. I manage depression and am dealing with 2 autoimmune disorders, which led to losing half of my hair after Christmas. As it's growing back during the pandemic, it's often in the same bun for several days at a time, and dealing with the tangles when the time comes can be daunting. I appreciate your openness about your own experiences, and words of encouragement. 💛🇨🇦

[@Hairromance]

Hope you're doing ok and I really appreciate your lovely comment xxx

[@-Cece]

Thank you Christina! You are spot on with the symptoms I struggle with. I suffer from thick matted curls, super tender scalp, and long tresses that I don't want to spend the time fixing. And this is a reflection (pun intended) of the lack of love for myself. Mind blowing revelation here!! Since working from home (and even before) I often put my hair up and took it down multiple times a day stressing it further. Thank you for discussing this very important and real topic. You are the first I have seen to acknowledge mental health and hair struggles as being connected to each other. Thank you for sharing your love!

[@Hairromance]

Thank you! And hope you are doing ok. There's such a collective stress at the moment and it can come through in so many ways. It can help to recognise any symptoms so you can bring back that self care. Sending you lots of love 💕

[@abbeybevan8225]

this is making me cry, thanks for looking out for us when we cant do that ourselves

[@leadu161000]

thank you so much! i suffer from depression and i didn’t wash my hair for almost 2 weeks, it had crazy knots

[@Hairromance]

thanks for watching! Hope you're doing ok xx take care xx

[@jianhaotanswife7799]

I havent brushed mine for 3 months. Also im so sorry. I am going through the same thing. Dm me in ig @igblinksofficial !

[@shernfx3321]

This made me very emotional. My hair has been matted for awhile now because I’ve been too embarrassed to do anything about it/ask for help. Thank you for making this.

[@Hairromance]

you're not alone 💛 make it a nice thing to do and take you're time. I hope you're ok cc

[@toastscab6725]

I’ve been depressed for a couple months now and my hair in awful and tangled horribly I hope this video helps:)

[@Hairromance]

thinking of you & hope you're doing ok 💛

[@noorehqamar8442]

@@Hairromance kindly help me to save my hair.. its a massive ball that i am unable to depart into a section. What product will works perfectly

[@Hairromance]

@@noorehqamar8442%F0%9F%92%9B there's no magic product, any conditioner will do and allow plenty of time. Relax and work slowly and you'll get there

[@traceymurphy4804]

Thanks so much for this. I have been so sad and not carrying how my hair looks and its a rats nest. So necessary right now!

[@Hairromance]

Hope you're doing ok 💕 be kind to yourself xx

[@_martinasaliba]

I cannot thank you enough, seriously. I don’t necessarily think i have depression but I’m very unmotivated to do things such as shower, brush my teeth, make my bed etc and if i’m being honest, i haven’t brushed my hair in a week or so. Plus i have VERY curly hair so you can imagine how knotted it is right now. It’s currently 12:41 a.m, what i am planning to do is start working on myself. Tomorrow (or should i say, later today) I’ll make my bed, brush my teeth, go to school, do my homework, and spend the rest of my day working on my hair. I’m off to bed now, wish me luck guys :) I’ll keep you updated on what happens :)) Update: didn’t wash my hair. but i had a really good day. tmrw i don’t have school i’ll try washing it then. I did all my productive chores and im really proud. I’ll let you all know what happens :))

[@ninasmith9804]

I just sat at my kitchen table for 2 hours, while my mum brushed out my matted/knotted hair. My hair is extremely curly, and knots easily, and I just don’t have the time or will to brush it. This is the 3rd time this situation happened to me and was extremely bad. It came out though. Sit through the pain! It is so rewarding, and you can do it! ❤️

[@carole7538]

Thank you for making this. I had my second baby in April 2020 & got diagnosed with postpartum depression less than 2 weeks later. I’m 4 months postpartum now & experiencing god awful postpartum hair loss to the point where I’m scared to brush my hair. It’s nice to know I’m not alone.

[@Hairromance]

you're definitely not alone xx take care of you xx

[@TheBombshellBabydoll]

Thank you so much. I'm 4 months postpartum and I went over a week not brushing my hair. When I tried, I cried because I felt like such a failure at life. I am suffering from some pretty severe depression and I was so worried I would have to chop off all my hair. The very idea of attempting this task brought on panic and your video really made me feel better. I can barely get myself to shower and to know that I'm not alone brings a heavy weight off my shoulder

[@Hairromance]

you're not alone 💛 I'm glad you're here

[@ecampbell5837]

I have been there, my heart breaks for you. It will get better. Little bit at a time.

[@moon9child575]

I hope everyone who finds this video is kind to themselves ❤️ Thank you for taking the time to share this.

[@1990cb]

Reading through the comments makes me feel so much better that I'm not the only one who has this problem! Not just the knotty hair but not having the motivation to actually brush it each day from depression/anxiety etc. I cannot stress how bad my hair gets sometimes when I get stuck in a rut Thank you for this video! You seem like such a lovely person

[@Hairromance]

thank you 💛 you're definitely not alone and I hope you're doing ok 💛

[@AlexeJade]

I’m glad I’m not the only one. Left my hair in a bun for very long time and have 3 big knots. Feeling overwhelmed

[@KellenHillard1102]

I lost my father unexpectedly almost 4 months ago. I've dealt with depression and anxiety throughout my life. Losing him has sent me spiraling into a depression deeper than I've experienced in over a decade. I haven't brushed my hair since losing him. I've worn it on top of my head in a bun for months. It gets knotted, but it has never in my life been this matted. I came across your video to search for ways to help my predicament. I appreciate your kind words and tenderness when it comes to mental health. Watching your video made me feel loved. I particularly liked how you sat down and did the video of detangling your own hair... walking the viewer through the process, step by step, using yourself as an example. Thank you for sharing this video. It brought me peace, comfort, and hope tonight that everything will be okay. 💜

[@ohmanholyshiit]

I see I’m not the only one who try’s to hide their tangled hair by making it a messy bun.

[@lyric-jadedevine7425]

Nope

[@Hairromance]

definitely not alone! 💛💛💛

[@JenStriff]

I just found this video and can I just say thank you so so so fricking much. You are a bright ray of sunshine during a very dark time for me.

[@markstevens1941]

Your empathy & compassion is overwhelming heart felt you actually understand . Thank you so much your video really helped me I was so desperate.

[@Hairromance]

Thanks so much Mark, I hope you're doing ok 💛

[@markstevens1941]

@@Hairromance your welcome, everyday is a battle but with caring beautiful soul's like yourself makes me believe there is hope. People & family members don't realize that a kind word or understanding is enough for people with mental heath issues instead they ignore you , tell you to pull yourself together. Your words touched my heart as if you were talking directly to me it gave me hope & I managed to take the knots out my long hair & felt better afterwards keep shinning bright like the star that you are. Love, light & blessing's to you :)

[@abidebythecurse]

Thank you for making this video. I have dealt with minor depression hair before, but today was my worst hair I've ever had, and I was scared of diving in to it because it had been a little over 2 weeks of not brushing and just popping it in a pony or bun for 2 weeks. This helped me know I could tackle this. It took a little over 30 minutes to gently brush it out, and I feel so much better. Thank you for making such a kind and caring video about this.

[@Hairromance]

thank you so much for leaving me such a lovely comment! I really appreciate it 💕💕 I hope you're feeling ok now too 💛

[@damarisrodriguez5118]

This is probably one of the most helpful videos I have seen on YT, on many levels.

[@zoelee3991]

This video is 1 year old and I found it and I’m thankful . So much stress and depression I haven’t brushed my hair and it’s so embarrassing I went to 3 different hair places and no one could help

[@kita3256]

You are an angel. Thank you. This was so beautiful because it really matters to depressed people like me.

[@astriddelis6101]

You are so sweet and calming thank you so much. This really be a stressful time but you made me feel so safe about this 🥹💕

[@LuckyLioness369]

Thank you for your kindness and compassion. This helped me a lot.

[@judyb1539]

Watching this with tears streaming down my face.I am not alone...thank you!!!!!!

[@polymatheialearning]

Thank you so much for this video. I have been dealing with depression for longer than I care to admit and I am so glad to have come across this video at the right time.

[@stephyvandee11]

Thank you so much for this video and the time you took to create this, it really helped a lot because I don't want to burden or depend on people with my anxiety and depression, so watching this while brushing my hair with you too, is like spending time with a gentle, calm and loving friend.

[@kerrazee]

Thank you for being non judgemental and friendly. I appreciate your kindness ❣

[@samanthacampbell375]

I have been searching for videos on how to detangle my hair. It was up in a "mess bun" for over 2 months. I battle with depression and care tasks always fall to the bottom of my list. When I came upon your video I was immediately beyond grateful. I suddenly knew I wasn't the only one who struggles with this issue. Thank you for creating a safe place not to feel judged and providing the tools and information that I needed to begin to untangle my hair. Thank you, thank you, thank you. 💛

[@daraghflaherty8033]

So glad I found this video. My depression hair continues to get worse and I'm too overwhelmed to do anything about it and embarrassed to go to a salon. The patience and non-judgmental approach of this video is just what I needed to finally deal with mine.

[@loudipe]

this video is like a hug, Thank you!

[@Linda-cq8yk]

I love how your smile shines through your eyes

[@Hairromance]

😊 thank you

[@basicwhitebitch9970]

THANK YOU, THANK YOU THANK YOU, YOUR ACTUALLY THE BEST !!!! I APPRECIATE THIS BEYOND WORDS ❤️💞

[@clem304]

Thank you so much. I can't really express how much this video met me with kindness and helped me to care for myself better. Thank you.

[@Hairromance]

You are so welcome 💛 thank you for watching

[@darkmatterlover]

You’re so gentle and encouraging, thank you for making this video, it really helped :)

[@Hairromance]

thanks so much for watching and hope you're doing ok 💛

[@kellypassalaqua3427]

Aren’t you a love! Such a kind and loving tutorial on how to detangler your hair. This has helped me so much and I’m excited to try a leave in conditioner as I’ve been experiencing hair loss and my hair knots up into like a rats this you would say so I’m feeling more hopeful and I thank you so much sweet lady! 💖

[@jewellheinlein9073]

I love you! I'm sitting here crying because I'm scared to start the process and I can see my sadness in your eyes be at your still so positive. We really do need more people like you. Don't ever doubt how much these videos mean to people!

[@Hairromance]

thanks so much Jewell, that means so much to me xx I hope you're doing ok today 💛

[@ambbie2710]

Thank you for your patience and guidance. This feels really hard emotionally untangling because I realize how bad my depression is while doing so. I am so sad and it's hard to do this, it's been a month and I feel disappointed I stopped trying. While I'm untangling my hair reality just hits hard. Thank you for not leaving me alone during this process

[@shannonmc7090]

Thank you so much. I feel much more positive about getting these knots and mats out of my hair. It did only take a few days of depression and drinking for my hair to be a matted mess. Thanks for being so vulnerable and compassionate. I’m going to make an effort because of you. You are amazing.

[@debbiedoes]

Thank you , especially, for assuring that this shouldn't be a cause of shame.

[@ericasnyder5109]

God bless you ❤️ I started dealing with my depression hair today the knots are super bad and thankful I found this video! Thank you 🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@gojoramsay]

thank you so much for this video i cant even appreciate you enough ❤️❤️ i didnt brush my hair for 2 months straight during quarantine and i was able to comb thru it all and i told myself i’d never let it get that bad again but here i am a few months later and i haven’t combed my hair in 3 months. it’s so bad and i’m so ashamed of it but your words are so encouraging, thank you genuinely ❤️❤️

[@syfygamerchick]

You are such a beautiful soul thank you so much. It's comforting to know that someone out there understands that sometimes it just isn't so easy to do something as "simple" as brushing your hair. Stay who you are ❤️❤️❤️🥰

[@Hairromance]

thanks so much 💛 the small tasks can be so hard xx

[@ramonaholmes579]

You have such a beautiful spirit! I have been so sick in bed for the last week and my hair is a complete nightmare!!! This has made me less overwhelmed and I'm finally tackling it. Thank you. xx

[@elizabethm7163]

There is so much love in this video. ❤️ Thanks for this! I don't need it now but I might in the future. Videos like this are so important

[@Hairromance]

❤❤❤ thank you

[@elizabethm7163]

​@@Hairromance I was right! I've been neglecting my hair and not brushing it properly so now I need this video. Thank you. 😊

[@patking2894]

wow this was exactly what i needed after a week of depression isolation THANK YOU

[@soniafox6411]

Such a lovely video and message which made me cry at your words of kindness. Thank you for making this video. My hair goes to the dogs when I'm feeling low also and the longer it goes on the harder it gets to even think about sorting it out. I'm feeling quite empowered to condition my hair here now.

[@moniquemccaulley1738]

Thank you so much. Work and being tired and not taking time for myself left my hair matted and tangled. This helped me so much to take the time to love my thick curly hair again. 💞💖

[@Happyrunner27]

I found your video because my hair is constantly knotting. Wow, I did not expect you to stir up my feelings. Even though the video was slow for my liking, I needed to slow down and have the mindful moment. Thank you!

[@Hairromance]

thanks for taking some time with me 😊💕

[@wereoneasystreet]

After a lot of tears, conditioner, and ice water, I finally got through all my hair. I haven't brushed nor washed it since my friend passed. It was so so knotty and I had no idea how to comb through it or what to do. I found this video, and sat down, and brushed through it all. You don't even understand my gratitude at this, thank you so so much

[@sieraconstent]

I just wanted to give you a huge virtual hug and thank you 🙏🏻. Acknowledging how mental illness is not totally uncommon or something to judge or beat yourself up over. This happens to me every couple months, and literally EVERYTHING you have said about self loathing, etc…..I do get so upset, I will be balling my eyes out while ripping my way below shoulders hair, with such a painful and skull sores. You are an absolute Goddess, thank you for all your advice and COMPASSION!🤗🥰😘🥰🥺☺️

[@loreleilee453]

Thank you for letting people know that they deserve self-care. I’ve never seen a video or heard anyone discuss tangled hair due to depression. I get LARGE knots after just 1-2 days. I don’t know if I can get them out and I don’t want to cut my hair. Thank you for your thoughtfulness. 💜

[@awho33]

Thank you for being so genuine and real. I thought I was alone. I'm so overwhelmed because I have really long hair... Like past my butt...I've been keeping my hair in a bun for 2 weeks nonstop. It's overwhelming

[@Hairromance]

you're definitely not alone 💛💛💛 I hope you're doing ok Alicia

[@soltarotstudio]

I haven't brushed or shower in months and decided ti watch your video and I have already detangled 1/8 while watching, it feels so nice, I'm excited to see the result, I haven't seen my hair loose in a long time, I have a stubborn depression BUT I really really want to feel better, enjoying to go outside again and have a coffee in a nice cafe, having my house clean and recover my hygiene. If my hair looks good is so much probably I do all those things, it sounds nuts but I feel it like that. I have just started, I have a 1/8 done of my hair and I feel so happy and optimistic, thank you soooo much for this video, thank you for saying we shouldn't punish ourselves or feel bad and just seeing it like a spa day, like enjoyable self care, you can go to bed so proud of yourself, you genuinely change people's lives, you make them feel better and sort out difficult tasks and recover their lives and selfsteem. Thank you thank you thank you, I only wish the best of positive karma for you🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 (sorry for my English, not my first language)

[@camlol5622]

as of now I have gotten one side of my hair detangled and the other side is really bad but after watching this video o don't want to give up. I have my spotify playlist on and I am in my comfy clothes. thank you so much for this, I truly appreciate this

[@dizzytel]

Thank you so much for your nonjudgmental kind attitude.

[@silentowl2812]

Thanks for the video !!! My hair had never been so bad until now. Anyone struggling with depression you’re in my prayers !!! Time heals don’t give up. Much love Namaste 🙏 ❤️🔥💕

[@creeksideinvestments3746]

So glad found this video had mine in a loose bun for last month or more and in bed being depressed it was so matted but watching this was able to get it out pretty quickly and sat in dark to keep from seeing amount of hair that came out was unreal once turned light on. I send love n prayers to anyone else going thru something like this.

[@creeksideinvestments3746]

And thanks you for making this video

[@jeannesnodgrass8073]

Thanks for making this video. My hair is short now but when I had waist length hair (curly 3b) detangling my hair gently in sections took at least 15 minutes each time. I just figured it into my routine and considered it part of having such long hair. Having a good attitude made this a peaceful time to slow down each day and enjoy my hair.💕

[@Hairromance]

Thanks for sharing! That's a lovely way of looking at it 💕

[@karentrottkq]

So compassionate! I love this video, you are a beautiful person inside and out.

[@Hairromance]

thank you 💛💛💛

[@peteperez462]

Your a very kind person. Thank you. I never thought I was depressed. My hair is down to my butt yet it’s up to my neck in such a knot. Mine too spends time in a bun bc it’s so long. My daughter is going to help me today and I was looking for inspiration and I found you. Thank you. I feel better especially knowing how many hairs you lose everyday. I can’t separate my hair. Lots of things have happened over the last year but you have given me hope. I’ve never thought about washing my hair as self love but that would explain why I never give myself time to take care of mine bc it takes a while. I’m going to love myself more and judge myself less.

[@Hairromance]

thank you 💛💛💛 I just adore what you said - love yourself more and judge yourself less. Beautiful 💛💛

[@susansplawski7573]

Thank you so much for this video! I totally get the depression/anxiety connection with curly, wavy, frizzy hair- its a lot of work! Exhausting. I sleep late due to depression and when I have to get up early I can’t deal with my hair. I put it up or throw a hat on. In a few days time I have an unmanageable mess and I don’t want to go out in public. So I watched your video and untangled my hair with you. I do feel better now. You are the first person to put words to this problem and I appreciate it.

[@jaysylvain1760]

Thank you so much for your time and help! You've saved my hair!

[@420orcagang]

My depression hair is really bad (I’m talking the back is multiple clumps) and just seeing someone talk about all this wout the tips alone is truly special tysm, I’m a 24 year old chubby sad boi and my hair is the one thing that makes me feel like a princess. Seeing my boyfriend very soon and fingers crossed I can fix it all by then. Seriously again, tysm the fact this video exists is so lush and helpful

[@Hairromance]

Hope you're ok and glad you've got something fun to look forward to with your boyfriend! 💛💛

[@taediumvitae5613]

You are an angel! You radiate kindness and empathy! While watching this wonderful video, I managed to untangle my waist-long hair which had turned into one huge matted ball. I feel so much better now. Thank you so much!

[@ellied140]

i haven't brushed my hair in months. this video helped thank you :)

[@brendasaldana6821]

Wow, thank you I got that big knot I had in my hair for 2 week out! I didn't think I could I was debating to just cut it out. Thank you soooo much!

[@savannah3954]

I would just like to say thank you SO much for this video! I really struggle with my hair getting knotty, especially when it gets wet, no matter what hairstyle I put it in before it gets wet (and I'm not sure why that is but....anyway). So, it causes a lot of anxiety and stress for me anytime it gets wet, causing me to sometimes procrastinate brushing it for a really long time (this time was almost two weeks), until I just can't take it anymore, and this video is really helping me through it. It is taking a REALLY long time, but I am very slowly making progress, and although I might even need to take a few days, I know that with the kindness in this video (along with the helpful tips), that I will eventually get through it. So I just want to say thank you for making this, and helping me to feel that I'm not alone. Much love to you!💕

[@mik212who7]

Thank you for sitting with me and encouraging me to brush my hair out

[@Hairromance]

thank you 💛 hope you're doing ok today

[@beansprout4431]

thank you so much for this - i have waist length wavy hair and it's been a tangled mess for at least a week now thanks to depression creeping back in. i was getting really discouraged and felt like i should just chop it all off. but i think the message here is clear - i just need to take better care of myself and show myself love, and that includes my hair!

[@Hairromance]

thank you for watching and I hope you're doing ok 💛💛

[@alexthebudgie9071]

I haven’t brushed my hair in 2 week and not properly in months. I’ve decided to do it before my shower. Thank you for this guide.

[@Hairromance]

hope you're doing ok 💛

[@vanessab9499]

I am soo happy I found this. Between personal life issues , becoming a first time mom and covid I feel like my hair is always a mess. My hair has been so important to me my entire life and I do not feel like myself . I feel ashamed and embarrassed most of the time but this helps very much. I appreciate this so much thank you , your an angel! Xoxo

[@Hairromance]

thanks Vanessa 💛 I hope you're doing ok, I know you're a great mom

[@sarahdeason493]

Extremely helpful ... Your tips are spot on .. I worked on my hair while you were talking me thru it and began the video again to talk me thru the remaining tangles .. Your soothing voice made all much easier as well / THANK YOU !

[@Hairromance]

thank you Sarah, I'm so glad I could help 💛💛 hope you're doing ok

[@loreleilee453]

Finally, someone who is sweet and understanding! I have MEGA-THICK, waist length, curly hair. Every time I get it cut, hairdressers say it’s the thickest hair they’ve ever seen in their lives, and other women say they’d kill for hair like mine. One night of not braiding it or brushing it, and it’s full of knots due to depression. My husband doesn’t understand and he’s an M.D. (Psychiatrist).