How Do I Help My Wife Feel Secure and Fulfilled?

[@neils5539]

My method from before we married was to ALWAYS tell her the truth. If she asks a question (do you like this outfit, what do you think of this new recipe, what's bothering you, etc.) she ALWAYS gets an honest answer. It took a bit for her to get used to it, but 48 years later she knows I mean what I say. She respects that and has confidence in herself because she knows I mean it when I give her a compliment. It goes both ways too. She does the same with me.

[@LastRebel1978]

Best way but few were raised with truth as a metric. Either shame and guilt or excessive adoration, add in romance novels and soap operas and light the fuse, oh don’t forget happiness over a lasting loving functioning healthy relationship.

[@Francisco-Danconia]

1000% the right way to do it! My wife and I are so one board with complete honest and transparency. It is the only way to truly be healthy.

[@nietwojinteres7278]

Yup, my wife doesn't hear my compliments. Yet she's almost ecstatic when another man compliments her.

[@rougebaba3887]

Man is this true.... I can look her dead in the eye and tell her she is beautiful, because she really is beautiful. And the look on her face is nothing but openly skeptical. The insult is that I can tell she doesn't think I am cursed with poor eyesight or easily impressed or blinded by love... Nope, she thinks I am lying to her. She doesn't believe me when I tell her the truth while being 100% genuine with her! It's the look I get every single time I compliment her on virtually anything.

[@fightingfortruth9806]

I told my wife yesterday she was the most beautiful woman in the world. Her response was, "well if you ever died, I'd be looking for another guy the next day at the gym."

[@smokingcrab2290]

Take as many assets you have and put them all into an offshore account and an offshore trust and LLC. Lawyers limited taught me this. It'll take 2 months to set up. Then after it's all said and done just leave her and she won't get anything. You'll win it all. She won't have a leg to stand on. Then when she cries in court just tell her "well, looks like you can find your gym guy now"

[@racebannon96]

Thank you for reminding me why I never remarried. I went through my divorce 27 years ago, never again. Plenty of peace and freedom in my home. I was able to recover financially and retired seven years ago. Although I went No Contact with the ex-wife 15 years ago, her life is a mess. No longer my problem.

[@Susan-fg3nv]

There has to be some missing conversation. The response doesn't even go with the opening statement

[@nineteeneightyfour3680]

Sick woman but she’s not alone

[@j.p.5716]

@@Susan-fg3nv - As if a woman has to make sense with what she says? ROTFL

[@Trueimage0217]

I’ve asked my husband for compliments … the one time I confronted him about it he said that he wouldn’t because I would let the compliment go to my head. I never asked again. Years later he accused me of an affair which was not true. To this day been married 19years no complients, no presents on anniversary,birthday, or even Christmas. I have learned to offer it up to the lord . It’s hurts every time. He claims that I have what i need and I can’t say I don’t. I can buy what I want with his $ of course… six kids Sahm and homeschool. Somehow I still feel like crap. Since I’ve had no compliments ever… “only cop a feels” like you described in other videos. I get nothing from that. I let him do it cuz I know it helps him. Not planning to leave since I took my vows seriously. I’ve gained weight since it doesn’t matter how big or how small I am. Nothing helps. And now I’m just sad. .. I really do hope you can respond to this comment. Or anyone for that matter. Is the problem still me??? Probably but please explain to me how.

[@prague5419]

Middle aged gentleman here. If I am out of line here, I beg your forgiveness, but I feel strongly about this. Ma'dam, that's no way to live. That man is broken. No, the problem is absolutely NOT you. You are a worth complimenting. You are someone beautiful in many many ways. You might be lovely to look at, intelligent, emotionally intelligent, wonderfully creative, you might even be a comforting, physically amorous person that would be both happy and make others happy with hugs and cuddling....but your husband seems to be the male equivalent of a "cold, frigid wife". No, Ma'dam, you are not the problem.

[@hyronharrison8127]

I love to see you get emotional while accepting the metaphorical flowers your husband gave you. I hope one day the women in my family can feel the same way!

[@BetterYet]

Hey sweetie, you look great today... What?... Does that mean I've looked terrible up to now?... Thanks for nothing!.... Right....

[@TallGlass-fh8qf]

Man: You look sleepy. Woman: Are you saying I look ugly, right now? Man: No, I’m saying you look sleepy… Woman: Do these jeans look right on me? Man: Yeah, you look good. Woman: But are you sure they look right? Man: I just said you look good… Woman: I’m asking if I look fat!

[@Spookyaki1]

I literally told my ex “I’ve never been more attracted to you than I am now” and she actually got offended by it 😅

[@NevisYsbryd]

Having been somewhere similar (and as a man)-foundational insecurity-no one and no thing can ever convince someone of their worth. Anything can be questioned, second-guessed, doubted in intent, downplayed, dismissed, etc. Insofar as your value is contingent on _anything_ else, you are dependent on it and thus inherently insecure. Self-love and true confidence must and only ever can be asserted as an act of faith. It lies beyond the scope of pure reason and thus evidence can only be inconclusive. You must _choose_ to be confident and trust that others can love you of your own accord.

[@HarrySappington]

He should be proud to have a wife like you. 😊

[@Viktor_Bolsov]

It's so strange... it's like giving my wife a compliment genuinely makes her upset/irritates her and I have no idea why. It's almost like she thinks I'm lying to her. What's the solution here? No more compliments? Don't tell her she looks good when she does her make-up?

[@JDavidHopkins]

What I say is, “You look great today! What the hell happened?”. She still gets pissed but at least I get a laugh!

[@nerychristian]

Women are no different than men. We ourselves would get tired if the same person was complimenting us every day about the same thing. Women are not stupid. They know when you are just flattering them.

[@vedinthorn]

If you do that she'll then blame you for slacking off.

[@samuelbell3281]

It's called lose/lose. It's what women do best.

[@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115]

Pathological liars always think of everybody else's words are lies.

[@SALTYCOMBATDIVER-ExInstructor]

I continue to think positively about my spouse and her amazing accomplishments. As well as her incredible beauty and potential. Even while she has filed for divorce and refuses to rebuild our relationship, I still love her and wish her the best. I wish she would see me as a good man and one that would continue to give her everything I could possibly give. But instead she sees me as someone she's not in love with.

[@ironglandx3270]

Same here. It was sad to see. I would compliment her almost every day, yet she would tear me down, even in front of people.

[@mikthe2004]

Yep, same here. Women will arbitrarily lose their feelings for you, and move on to the next guy in a never ending cycle of unfulfillment. It's just the way it is. Take solace that it won't work out with the next guy, and they will have regrets even if they don't tell you.

[@smokingcrab2290]

You have a great heart my friend. But now it's time to focus all that love on yourself and not her. Let her go brother.

[@KeiPyn24]

You'll receive greater love and understanding if you give it all to Jesus. Most fulfilling relationship of which will flow into other human relationships with ABUNDANCE Pax Christi Ave Maria Mater Dei!

[@balticstain7150]

You have a fantastic channel, you should be so proud of yourself..peter

[@sandevilleadfoot8443]

This is so true for me, Really I just wanted to say thank you for your videos. Been watching a few months now and it’s really opened my eyes to a lot. And I just feel fortunate to have found a good man and doing my best to be a good woman for him.

[@dantelossantos7562]

I am proud of you too and how genuine you are, your work is really eye opening. I wich you the best.

[@UnknownFather69]

I will be honest, your videos make me never want to get married. Stumbled across your channel. Im 26, soon to be 27. Thank you, youre opening a lot of eyes and this is good marriage repellant material

[@christopherfrederickson9847]

I've had enough of throwing it into the empty bucket.

[@tcreather1]

My husband has been listening to you. So here we are, I need to do more to be a better wife to this good man. So, How do I get secure with myself? I use to be secure and self confident but have been torn down by my husband over these almost 30 years. A lot of history but he has talked to other women about us instead of me, I still can't load the dishwasher correctly, park correctly in the driveway, do laundry right, cook right. The list can go on. He is a pilot and never let me know where is was for the 1st 20 yrs of marriage, I would have to call other women to find out how to reach him in emergencies. I was made to shut down my business because of his actions (kissing & groping me in front of clients). He would give other women compliments and stare without noticing my efforts or giving compliments to me. He also has taken me on 1 vacation in the 29 yrs together and dates never occur. But it is me being emotional, I am not to cry, yell, do anything but smile and talk clinical to him. How do I learn to be more clinical for him? How do I know he is proud of me without ask him if he is?

[@sarahnovella4971]

with all the horrible things he's done, why are you still married to him?🤔

[@namaste758]

This is not a good man. You are not the person she is speaking to. A good man would never do those things to his wife

[@Francisco-Danconia]

You are 100% with the wrong man, and I'm so sorry to hear all of that. My wife was with a husband like that for 12 years, before we met. He forced her into an open marriage, and one day he screamed at her that he wanted a divorce. We were just friends at the time, but I took care of her and she left him (the final straw was when he slept with a minor in her bed while she was away hanging with me) I bought her a house and took care of her and treat her 4 children as my own. She was a zombie when I met her. Completely subservient to his will in an insanely unequal relationship. Now she has power and boundaries, and even gets that little shit to cry sometimes when his narcissism flares up. I love the woman she's become, and you can become that to. You sounds like you deserve so much better.

[@regulaguy1733]

Beware of a woman who can't take a compliment.

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

beware of the woman that won’t earn a compliment but expects one.

[@nerychristian]

This is why people need to select a good partner. Most men are blinded by a woman's beauty and charm, and overlook the red flags she puts out.

[@Susan-fg3nv]

Facts

[@pitapita3559]

Thank you so much!! :D thank you for helping me with truth so much

[@paulpodolka7306]

Thank you for helping the good man!

[@deebee4575]

Woman: do you like my new hairstyle? Man: wow, yes, you look great! Woman: so you're saying I looked terrible up until I got this haircut?

[@johnizitchiforalongtime]

This video gave me some answers.

[@TheRomans9Guy]

Make your plan for what you want your life to be. What you want for your career, for your real estate, for your investments, for your travel, for your clothes, cars,& music, and go after it with everything you have. And don’t change when she questions or criticizes you. THAT’s what will make her feel secure and fulfilled.

[@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115]

And don't listen to her "advice"

[@TheRomans9Guy]

@@nosotrosloslobosestamosreg4115 I tell the guys I talk to that a good woman can have a fantastic perspective that you don’t have, and her insight can complement yours. BUT, never take her advice without first listening, absorbing, analyzing and testing it to determine if you think it should change your plans. If you can’t see that it does, do not change. Never do what she suggests just because you’re not sure what’s best. In that case, always do your plan first. It’s better for you and for her.

[@kylepoma]

Love your channel. I gotta show my wife your content….

[@Gk2003m]

Hon, dinner’s great. (Five seconds elapse) “So do you like the bronzini? How about the Brussels sprouts I made, aren’t they delicious?”

[@mrmcbeth]

I literally just had this conversation.

[@ml9215]

It's because the compliments are disingenuous

[@bgrego88]

Women dont hear compliments or the truth

[@bumpercoach]

a man compliments because HE wants to (like talking to his car or whatever) NOT to make her happy... wisest to not care how she hears it since if he holds back thats also letting her dictate which she uses to disdain him

[@TheRomans9Guy]

This is exactly right. A man does everything out of his own strength, not because he needs to find strength from his woman.

[@mgyver2003]

I'd love to know when and how you learned your God given identity 😊

[@Lolitha76]

I gave up waiting for improvements after 28 years. She knows what's on this channel is the truth. But she doesnt want to change. I'm feeling cold in this dark place. A big thank to the pioneers of the feminist movement, no females to be found now.

[@cliffchampion5501]

I like how emotional you are it shows how genuine and truly feminine you’ve become. I miss women that where like this before being infected with feminism

[@TGP109]

Lol, you're too young to know what life was like before ''feminism'' dear. It's been around for millennia, it didn't just start in the 60's.

[@crowtservo]

Me: Hey gorgeous, how are you? Wife: Stop trying to butter me up for sex!

[@crowtservo]

Me: Hey gorgeous, how was your day? Wife: Stop trying to butter me up for sex!

[@Brody.W]

I'll attend your course via Holy Spirit Sofia.

[@Cathyhins]

*I love the grounded reality of this channel!!!* Retirement took a toll on my finances, but with my involvement in the digital market, $27,000 weekly returns has been life changing. AWESOME GOD❤️🎉❤

[@ElizabethManassi]

I'm in a similar situation where should I look to increase income? Do you have any advice? What did you do ? Thank you

[@Cathyhins]

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[@Cathyhins]

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[@Cathyhins]

[@Cathyhins]

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[@Susan-fg3nv]

I do not believe you can love people who do not love theirself.

[@Francisco-Danconia]

That is completely ridiculous logic. Do you love a baby, who doesn't even understand the concept of love? You can love anyone, you just can't necessarily change them with your love

[@Susan-fg3nv]

@@Francisco-Danconia I will reword it for you. I do not believe a person who does not love rheirself can receive my love

[@Francisco-Danconia]

@@Susan-fg3nv how does one come to love themselves without first seeing love in the world and from others?

[@Susan-fg3nv]

@@Francisco-Danconia just like everyone else does by having values and standards and trying new things. Confidence is built on success. A person that does not see value in theirself will not believe a person who says there is. You cannot prime a dry well.

[@Francisco-Danconia]

@@Susan-fg3nv I understand the intent of your original statement, however wells are not analogous to human perspectives of self worth. But if they were, the act of priming something, by definition, is that it is first dry, otherwise it wouldn't need priming. You don't prime wells, you prime pumps that go into wells. Just like you prime the human mind for love, by showing it love. A person does not just magically have standards and values, they are imprinted on them through society and their upbringing. I agree confidence is built from success. Confidence and love are totally different concepts. Love is a floaty, subjective term that's differently described by a lot of people anyhow, so I'm not even sure what you really mean by love when you say it.

[@rayabe]

💌💌💌💌💌💌💌💌

[@jenaedaniels8057]

Go Karen!!!

[@Dawnarow]

This is a massive blunder. Communication skills are lacking if a woman is just "confident in herself". Back to the basics: responsibility for the words she says and actions she takes. Also basics of relationships (as few as possible) so that you can direct the issue from where it stems. Categorize this crap and help everyone. Thanks!

[@alohaohana901]

Ridiculous.

[@Brody.W]

Lacey Week'es needs a new throat and facial structure in Christ Jesus of Nazareth. Amen and amen.