How Infidelity Changes Both Partners

Infidelity doesn't just destroy a relationship - it changes both individuals permanently. One partner has to work through guilt and one through betrayal, and these can leave permanent scars. This video shares in detail how both partners are changed and what to expect.
Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC is a psychotherapist, specializing in intimacy, parenting, body image, and relationships.
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[@indreluko3717]

Wow.. Spot on! It changed completely who I am after my partner cheated and had an affair for nearly 2 years.. Like u said.. I had blind faith 100 percent towards my relationship.. And after I question every single move or word 🤔😊 I started analysing everyone's behaviour 😁😅

[@jimobrien6903]

100% agree. Your words have come from myself as well. Sucks!

[@wm7929]

I don't believe my ex-wife carries any loss for her adultery. Many nights I lay sleepless, panic attacks, and anxiety while she's 6 inches from me softly snoring and enjoying a relaxing sleep. I lost joy from most activities while she spared no opportunity for fun, even telling me she has no desire to sit around with me and be sad, life is too short to not have fun. Many unfaithful are damaged from cheating, but some aren't. It helps to face the facts in front of you.

[@ebest1338]

Totally relatable. Trauma in the body. The cheating spouse seems to have no clue the damage done to you, the joy/life just crushed out of you, thinks you're no longer fun to be around. He sleeps w/out a bother.

[@ShaunyP26]

That’s because she likely didn’t face any consequences, because she’s sleeping next to you and not alone as a divorced woman. Boot her out of your life. It will not get better.

[@wm7929]

@@ShaunyP26 That was early on, I was still in a lot of shock. This was after 20 years of marriage. It is a huge shock, no other way about it. We're divorced now.

[@ShaunyP26]

@@wm7929 Did she ever apologize? How did you get past it? I divorced mine within 65 days from DDay. She abandoned me with a foster child and married the guy within 6 months of divorce. I'm a year and a half out and my anger still is as strong as it ever was and I got everything in the divorce.

[@wm7929]

@@ShaunyP26 She did apologize but not to the degree of remorse or repentance. Recovery is a lot of work and she barely went through the motions; the first year after discovery was full of resisting and rebelling, and in the year after that it I saw a reluctant effort, never with a joyful heart, and mostly an annoyed attitude. For me things were just dying and I gave up. I'm about 4 years out now and maybe 50/60% healed, I get small bouts of anger now and then but I can move past it. Many of the guys in my men's group have divorced with the same story, our unfaithful wives just didn't do the work. They say that when the woman cheats it's usually over, and I think there's a lot of truth to that. You have my empathy on your situation as well. It's horrible.

[@bossent.9575]

This is the most accurate video based on exactly how I feel thank you

[@jazzye6493]

Same feelings apply to emotional infidelity. Through Instagram, Google chats, Whatsapp. Sexting it's disgusting. He has deleted everything after I blew up and kicked him out. He came back broken and ashamed. He has changed 100% but I still don't trust and feel safe. I'm giving him a second chance.

[@PattiJohnson-r6p]

We seem to be in the sane boat. So sorry you have been treated this way we didn't deserve this.

[@jazzy8009]

Thank you. It changes your relationship forever. I've had many lovers since then

[@xeropunt5749]

Not knowing the potential partner causes a mismatch, which causes dysfunction, which cause straying. Get to know people before you settle down. Some still go further after shocking/disappointing displays of bad behavior. Learn to unhook once you see deal breaking behavior. They can improve, but more likely remain & worsen over time, affecting you & your children. People rarely change. They need massive near death like experiences ;)…Transforming yourself is tough enough.

[@yolandabrewer689]

My sister is going through this right now. Definitely having a hard time accepting this. But everyone learns life lessons differently.

[@alive4627]

This is pure gold!!!

[@kristine4038]

He kept his EA so secretive for 5/6 years I did not suspect anything, I was blinded and trusted him and take him for granted Sadly he did not confess/admit and his penalty was Death

[@mygoodnessdarlin]

Infidelity is always abuse of the highest order. Cheaters are profound abusers.

[@klunkworks2020]

Stop moving the camera!!!

[@Zobovor]

It's a motion detection camera, it does it automatically.