"Is my therapist bored with me?" | ep.201

[@Lemonady]

Timestamps! Q1 - 1:03 Q2 - 8:09 Q3 - 19:42 Q4 - 33:02 Q5 - 36:55 Q6 - 40:26 Q7 - 47:47

[@eloisemarie5219]

Thank you❤

[@Lemonady]

@@eloisemarie5219 ❤

[@dreamagine]

Thank you, person who asked the last question! Feels good to be validated.

[@sahdogwrangler5594]

I had the privilege of going to an exceptional psychologist for about 7 years. I cried when he retired. I kept trying to find a new therapist & after many months, I found another really good one. I recall when seeing that doctor, that he would gently steer me away from venting to a productive session focused on myself. He said it was an honor to serve his clients & earn their trust. I hope he's enjoying a well deserved retirement. My life changed for the better because of him. I know its rough to find a good fit for a therapist but never give up. I ended up going through an online platform(not Better Help!) So that helped me widen my search. Imo, if you think your therapist seems bored, if a discussion doesn't help, time to find a new one.

[@Datb2]

Which platform

[@sahdogwrangler5594]

@@Datb2 Grow Therapy, they accept my insurance

[@MarkOfArc]

Congrats on over 200 episodes. Just think about all of the people you’ve helped through this podcast. It was this podcast and community that encouraged me to get back into therapy in 2023 ❤️🧡💛💚💙

[@lolatJESS]

Thanks for this video, you keep uploading these lately as I need them - the universe is weird. The question about thinking about your therapist was useful. After a long time of trying to find a psychiatrist that is good and listens to me, someone whose doing more than just medication, and allowing me to process with psychotherapy has been very validating and comforting since they also specialize in trauma. We've been meeting weekly for months now - and I have started thinking about them - like humanizing them and thinking about their life outside of our sessions - it started to feel kind of yucky and weird. I am not thinking about them for hours like the original person asking the question, but it's enough to feel weird. Your video helped me understand this in myself a bit more and to feel less creepy or like a weirdo, that this is fairly normal.

[@TheAlixour]

True. You are reaching us out there. Thank you!

[@itsonlyatail]

I’m 68 and I remember as a kid wanting attention so much, I would threaten to run away and my mom would say, ok see you latter……one time one of my 4 daughter were angry for me for some reason and said she was going to run away! It was so traumatic for me to hear her say that, it was like a punch in my gut! I hugged her and I told her I would go with her because I loved her so much and I would miss her so much. Something I think my mother should have said to me.

[@Gisela_aka_gies]

I Had a therapist who yawned, multiple times when i was talking. Did not returned to her, but it took a lot of time to get another one and to trust they wanted to help and listen to me. i was scared i was boring.

[@MidlifeEdit]

The money question hit hard as I did so much growing up that was disrespectful to self to survive and that’s def colored my work life and money.

[@kennfranc]

I’m always listening to kati’s podcast on spoti and here on youtube. However, I think she never discussed moving on from break ups or love in general. I am also curious on her take about self forgiveness for hurting the people you love. I hope she can talk about these.

[@nancyliawoods]

Thank you so much Kati 💓

[@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988]

Great! Thanks for doing this! Too bad that my questions don't get many thumbs up! But excellent work anyway!

[@ChiviA84]

Thumbs up should not be a factor, you are worth more than that.

[@anuruksuriyaarachchi3988]

@@ChiviA84 ❤

[@rvhdbxjn7170]

Thank you Katie❤

[@WaysToHeal]

It's true that you've created lots of videos about emotional neglect. But how I wish you can also write a book all about that.

[@Jantonov1]

I bought a grilled chicken burger at the mall this week. It was so abysmally small and expensive that I have been trying to figure out how I can make up for the lousy $10 ever since. Two days later it still bugs me. lol. I grew up with a gambling addict father.

[@nicolemarie1909]

Love your videos

[@marinakiell1069]

What happens if you think you have a repressed memory of something but you don’t know what it is? I was reminded that at one point when I was a child I was wetting the bed after I was potty trained and that somehow my pediatrician had me look at a drawing on a tongue depressor to get me to not wet the bed anymore. I’m wondering now as an (almost) 34year old adult if my mom didn’t have the wherewithal to ask me why I had regressed to wetting the bed and only went straight to “hey Dr can u help me my daughter is wetting the bed”. Now I’m worried that something I have no memory of now was suppressed when my pediatrician hypnotized me out of wetting the bed with a tongue depressor by stopping the issue at hand but not getting to the root cause.

[@wafflewaffle8529]

Hot take ,it’s probably best to just leave so called repressed memories alone especially if you feel that they are negative , I don’t think there is any use digging .

[@thebookofdaniel5837]

I think my therapist is bored of me and I feel as though she thinks I’m pathetic. But that’s all in my head. I constantly invalidate how I feel and my personal experience. On two separate sessions, she kept falling asleep :/ is that normal? Perhaps she was just having a long day.

[@nikkir1664]

Hi, Katie, thanks for all your videos! Please do some videos on financial anxiety, indeed. Although I can afford to be unemployed for some time, I am currently unemployed and stressing out about finding a job. Then when I do have a job, maybe I save more than I need to and miss on actual life. It's like money, savings and dealing with money itself is some sort of weird enjoyment.

[@timtreefrog9646]

I am paranoid that each person I see is bored with me (specifically me.)

[@Doozie-s5j]

Don’t worry about that. Many of us are bored with ourselves. But guess what! Others unknown to you perhaps would find you quite interesting. Definitely.

[@johnbillings5260]

I understand that. But everyone has something to give.😊

[@j0.ZEF-Who]

Oh I should give those books to my parents

[@christineewing3492]

Hi Kati. I have to ask this question. If you no longer see any clients in person, do you feel that you may lose touch with the "coal face" ? You will no longer have the experience of face-to-face interactions. Therapists as well as clients benefit from this. I'm not sure the KZbin method is the same thing. I watch your videos often, and have learned a lot, but it just isn't the same thing as seeing a therapist in person.

[@HaakonOdinsson]

What’s happening if a therapist says that you are fighting against them?

[@denialdier]

I require so much attention everyone gets sick of me so, I started spreading out my attention; with my memory issues I am inconsistent. A broken arrow

[@ShepStevVidEOs]

A therapist when I was in college said I was boring and I was putting her to sleep. I think she wanted to work in the career center not as a therapist because she’d steer the conversation to career things all the time.

[@james22939]

Such a in😢topic

[@puturro]

I put myself in remision with my first therapist, once I noticed he was bored

[@Datb2]

My betterhelp therapist looks so tired of me is always late yawning. I deleted my account

[@petersouthwell5971]

Therapy is a dangerous game. I don't like "trusting" somebody that Im paying. It's a conflict of interest. A bad therapist can send you on an actually, pretty fucked up ride.

[@mateusnanet]

Historically, there were 7 and then 8 bites for treating eating disorders with opioids. Then 32 bites for treating eating disorders and BPD with much oxytocin, much dopamine, much norepinephrine, and much gaba. That was much much much much time ago. 😆😆😆😆

[@skippygaming9695]

could you go back if you wanted to? like are you still regeristed to pracitce?

[@tannwich5350]

For $200+/hr, you'd think they could find something about you that interests them or that they like about you. And finally a few are catching on to the trauma-informed thing. They belittled it as babyish for a long time.

[@AlmightyAnt300]

What people go to therapy to entertain y'all

[@1HeartCell]

Let's face it, the likelihood that your therapist has heard a more interesting story than yours is very high.

[@LauraWithers-ps9st]

She’s interesting and I can understand the issues and how to heal. But I wish she wouldn’t use such foul language. I think that would be offputting for me. Sounds a little unprofessional. But that may be her style..

[@marinakiell1069]

Appt KZbin First one

[@andrewhiggins9274]

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Limerence I had to Look it up as I didn't know what it was so I Thought there might be other People Who didn't know what t was