Mak Ingemi is Fiscally Straight, Sexually Liberal | Lesbian Comedy Show | We’re Having Gay Sex

[@abbyehrenstein2550]

“I’m not well. I’m doing very poorly, I will live amongst the rats” is one of my quotes of the day

[@Anonymous-tl6tq]

if anyone asks me how im doing ever again i will say this

[@darxhart1646]

To be fair, as someone who had a pet rat... living amongst the rats is a great idea for ones mental health. 🤣

[@jasminebecker8424]

43:10

[@SpaceyD]

"I hooked up with a girl on the road which is not something I do very often" lmao how many times we've heard Ashley say this 💖

[@MagicalMudkips]

Maddie's "girl-girl boy-girl girl-boy boy-boy" description really resonated with me, and now I'm glad I have this new vocabulary to torment people with lol

[@theNihilisticEngineer]

Same 😂

[@nicolebacon2747]

same

[@jackday3079]

I liked Maddie's little rant about being queer means you don't have to give up any part of yourself. I was afraid I'd have to give up all the soft, sweet, nice parts of my personality when I came out as a transman, but no! I didn't have to, because there are men who are soft, sweet, and nice, just like me.

[@SingSirenMae]

100% 🙌🌻💛

[@DesertIslandDisk]

BIG FACTS!!

[@abigailjupiter374]

Omg, a lesbian commune in the woods is what I never knew I always needed 💥😹

[@juliaenzmann5299]

Ok seriously tho start this … like now. We’re selling vintage on depop, selling clay earrings & crochet accessories on Etsy, & starting a Patreon to buy the land. Ladies bust out the coveralls, we’re getting to work and building our cottages and sewing the land. **Hozier’s “work song” plays in the background ⛏**

[@LydiaOnYT]

As a queer woman in computer science, I am here for when the jokes get nerdy. I did not expect to hear about the turing test on this podcast lol.

[@tris5602]

Me too! Ashley thinks we don't follow the pod, but we do!

[@JolaMozyrska]

Comp Sci jokes on a queer podcast, I feel (NP)complete now XD

[@annachen5688]

i did not know this for a long time but apparently ashley actually co-founded or something for girls who code and she like...had a decently successful career in cs before becoming a stand up comedian

[@coolsenjoyer]

Alan Turing was gay so its also inherently queer topic

[@biscuitanne6770]

I feel like Maddie really came out of her shell this episode 💕

[@ashgavs]

Behind the scenes Maddie and I chat before and after every episode about how pod is going and how to best work together. It really clicked in a few weeks ago, but the episodes obviously haven't been released. I think they are absolutely killing it and our brains are becoming one, hahaha.

[@biscuitanne6770]

@@ashgavs I love that so much ☺️

[@yeodeolb]

Yeah, you questioned the "male gaze" and how it makes you feel in the episode with Natalie Wynn. I would love if it were possible to have her again as a guest ♥️, she's so funny.

[@talwyn_cc]

Yes! They gotta have Natalie Wynn back!

[@LamAnopro_]

Yes

[@liyonsmith8284]

The deep fake of course

[@ashgavs]

were working on it :)

[@ttarotkidd]

I'm glad Ashley talked about still being affected by the male gaze as a lesbian, because me too. A guy complimented my hair at the grocery store recently and it felt like a win lol

[@quillhovanec5006]

As a nonbinary person, really like listening to the gender portions of the episodes, and this one really got me thinking about my own relation to masculinity and femininity. And I agree with Maddie that fall really is the best time for gender performance. I think it would be super interesting to have Kate on as a guest to talk with Maddie about gender! It's so interesting, too, to hear Ashley's own relation to gender.

[@321licata97]

Was really missing Kate at the beginning of this co-host transition, but Maddie is really coming into her own and showing so much of herself - what I’m trying to say is I’m becoming attached 💛 loved the pod, as always. Also- nothing is gayer and more feminine than the moon: leaving space for the other suns to shine, consistent and reliable change, and power over moisture 😂 (literally in oceanography ‘bulge’ is the word used to describe what the moon does to the ocean)

[@lidiabidia105]

Maddie speaking about how being queer means not giving up any parts of yourself, really stuck with me. When I was first coming to terms with liking girls, all of the other queer people at my school thought I was too feminine and actually just straight and would tease me about it often. I actually ended up giving myself gender dysphoria by trying to present more masc to appease the people around me. Glad that now I’m an adult and nobody around me is holding onto these weird ideas and projecting

[@gabyhernandez1790]

I’d love to have Maddie’s Share Corner be a thing 😂

[@sarahgreefable]

Merch sells itself

[@rociog8486]

omg I love the chemistry between Mak and Ash, great episode! this is just the laugh I needed. Also, Maddie's hair is gorgeous, extremely cute today. Saludos desde Argentina 🇦🇷

[@ashgavs]

more of it on our new podcast!

[@dannieden5049]

I loved Maddie's sharing corner and gender check-in!

[@c_No2631]

Portland, as Jade Fox described best is, “White R Us” town. LA has little pockets of cottage core areas like, Topanga, Laurel Canyon, and as suggested above, Mt. Washington. Outside of Seattle is real nice too!

[@autry9562]

My wife and I are living the cottage core dream an hour north of Portland. We couldn’t be happier! Foggy forests and 4 real seasons. Ugh the colors of our trees right now are out of this world. Highly recommend the PNW!

[@bingbongalong]

it's just too bad the Portland area is so white-centric

[@HypeerChick]

Okay but thinking of the engagement thing, you could get engaged, move in together, realise you fucking hate it and then have the whole ring situation, telling family you're no longer engaged, the rent/mortgage AND possibly cancelling wedding things you've booked / started doing. That sounds so much more stressful that getting a month to month or 6 month lease/rental with someone to trial run living together...

[@bingbongalong]

Yeah I never want to get married, but if I did there's no way I'd get engaged with someone I haven't lived with

[@JuMixBoox]

Mak's laughter is so infectious.

[@leahoconnor3412]

Mak you can live in LA and have cottage core lifestyle if you just get a place closer to like highland park/mount washington/more so just explore areas that you don’t see when you’re visiting. There is so much green space when you look for it, you don’t have to be caught up with all the pressure of influencers and fakeness if you don’t want to. I’m a queer woman living a lovely life in LA and it’s totally possible to if you keep yourself humble and don’t just hang out in like west hollywood for example!! I go out and have fun but then I retreat and go to the gym and hike and have a little garden space. Just my two cents!!

[@saggguy7]

hi its me i’m the psych major - you’re actually right, the meyers-briggs test is a lot like horoscopes in that it’s fun and can be valuable on a personal level, but it’s not scientifically valid or reliable. it’s just interesting to see what you find in the tea leaves, as maddie said.

[@MangoBased]

when ashley said 'we grew up in a society' and looked at the camera to give an eyebrow raise and nod, I looked at the screen (second monitor) and did the same thing lolol

[@grumpy-mcbaldsoo-killing-hoes]

19:35 I can sense how out of it mak is whenever the conversation is centered around men and honestly as a lesbian it’s frustrating how you can never escape them in any form so I feel ya mak

[@laurenbeavers6811]

This 🙌

[@huiberdineboes9404]

I need to study for my exam but i have to stop and watch this. Absolutely love this

[@twilighttess211]

My favorite part of the podcast was describing and analyzing the Moon ,differentiate them form the sun ,exploring the possible future outcomes and the reasons behind them. 🙃

[@missywoford1809]

Maddie saying fall is the best season gender-wise spoke to my genderqueer soul. They're spot on with the layers, hoodies, coziness, and flexibility.

[@internalfugue16]

Gonna give Maddie's intro bit a go... "While AI runs on binary code, they don't! Let's hear it for Turing Test approved Maddie Weiner *applause noise*" (ya ya that's not how the test works, maybe you can improve on this)

[@r.l.4400]

I totally related to what Maddie said about their gender being a "girl-girl-boy-girl-girl-boy" - thank you so much for sharing, Maddie! Also, as i am also not feeling completely cis Maddie reaffirming femininity as a part of nonbinary gender expression for afab non-binary people really was helpful to hear.

[@lancesanvers]

Yeess! Done subs both in YT and Spotify! I love the dynamic of you 3 in Chosen Family!

[@tifannycayading2072]

I understand Ashley’s point of view with the not moving in until engagement. I had that same mind set too. But then I ended up in a 3 year LDR with someone I’m going to spend the rest of my life with. Moving in, as long at there’s clear boundaries financially, (separate bank accounts and like a household account)then the issue with money tangled up wouldn’t be an issue. Boundaries and promises that are agreed early on prior to the move would help ease process and even make the progression of the relationship more seamless.

[@ezratlas]

mak saying “boo thing” with a totally straight face is hilarious 2 me

[@abigailjupiter374]

Loved this episode btw!! Would so be down for 1.5 hr episodes, love the longer ones 👍

[@jordanolberding7555]

49:00 “I reformed my love brain to stop loving people who didn’t love me well” OOF, I felt that one. I haven’t figured out how yet, but I probably should 😂 All around a great ep ❤ Cracked up at the moon thoughts 😂 And the convo about NY vs LA cultures and the pressures to look good in both places was super interesting. Chicago does not have those pressures, and when I first moved here from New York, I was lowkey horrified. Fortunately/unfortunately, I have since adapted.

[@JkenzieG]

Maddie's line regarding, "It's ALL there" resonates so well with me right now, (working through All-or-Nothing Thinking). This podcast has been real great! Thank you!

[@_madikorn_]

I love Maddie as a cohost. They are so freaking funny and relateable. Lolve their humor and style. Such a cool human and I can't wait to hear more from them!

[@_madikorn_]

ps- not just bc we share a first name lol

[@noellealmeidasantos374]

i love how mak is almost completely silent during half of the episode but there are still some random shots of her holding the mic and not saying a word

[@kenziewenzieasmr9800]

I’ve been a long time fan of the pod, Alayna & Mac. So I’m so stoked that you guys have started a pod together 🥰

[@emmabunch-benson4795]

I totally get what Ashley’s talking about with the ego boost from male validation or attention, even if you hate men & aren’t attracted to them-just goes to show how deep rooted compulsive heterosexuality & the patriarchy is within us.

[@allie-873]

I'd totally come to an ashley gavin show risking outing myself to colleagues as both trans and lesbian if only you'd have some shows in Belgium someday

[@ingvarvalgeirsson4627]

I resonate with what Maddie said about wanting to be a boy in a girl way, girl in a boy way and a girl in a girl way but hating the idea of being a boy in a boy way and I've never been able to put that into words which suck cuz as a biological boy I've never been able to articulate how I feel so I always just told people that idk how I feel, but now I finally feel like ill be able to at least articulate maybe not explain why but being able to tell someone that will def make a difference in my life.

[@LilThreat88]

Oh my god, I loved all those "boy in a girl way" and so on! Please do more exploration of that on the pod, if you can!!

[@leabusborg1017]

As a danish woman, having analyzed many danish paintings, 27:21 made laugh so much

[@haileyhorton-smith8046]

I absolutely love the podcast!!! It’s the podcast I didn’t know I needed in my life. You three are just everything! Great chemistry, content and an all around good time. My favourite podcast already. ✌️

[@alaynaknapp3157]

Ash every time she hooks up w someone on the road: “I don’t normally hook up on the road, but”

[@freshman1212]

Yesssss to Maddie's second share! Being a girl in a boy way (and vice versa) and feeling especially gay, gender wise when engaging in sexy stuff is such a trans/nonbinary queer thing. I experience that too, thank you so much Maddie!!!!

[@Sselwal]

I completely agree with Ashley on the rule about living together and 💍. I made this rule with my partner, and we are living together now and planning the wedding ❤

[@laurenzimmerman5311]

PORTLAND!!! Mak would thrive in Portland except for the short summer season.

[@Lesbiel]

omfg mak PORTLAND WOULD BE PERFECT FOR YOU was just there in the spring & i totally see it. its perfect for someone wanting to be near queer people but who primarily loved being in nature :)

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

The best thing about it Mondays love this podcast and chosen family is amazing too thank u ❤️🏳️‍🌈

[@Zweigenhaft9]

As a Queer who grew up in LA and hates Hollywood culture, LONG BEACH IS WHERE ITS AT

[@stefaniedc1128]

Maddie is a fucking GEM. The way they smile at you when you got a little emotional toward the end is just comforting perfection. NO NOTES.

[@ayla1316]

Not a YOUNG lesbian, but my wife and I are doing our homestead/cottage core life in Northern California. We need to take over this red county, all my fellow cottage core lesbians come hither to Nor Cal.

[@Katrina_powell11]

I love how the “Samsung” thing is bouncing on the tv behind mak

[@karartistry]

Spoiler for which HP character Maddie is! I WAS WHISPER SHOUTING NEVILLE LONGBOTTOM!!!! I cheered outloud alongside you Ashley 🤣🤣

[@brittanycraigo2191]

Maks lighting makes her eyes look really good.

[@hustler212]

O my freaking god, the math - conservative, science -gay analogy was so so on the point... P.S: I was also fav of English teacher... I think the stereotypes are quite true.

[@amandadawes8138]

Best way to get rid of hanger on -ers is to arrange a second meeting in “like an hour from now”

[@amyparsons23]

Petition to bring on Kate as a guest to discuss gender! 🥳✅

[@leahbrown7139]

This podcast helps me relate to women so much!!!!

[@emmabunch-benson4795]

In my 28 yrs alive my mindset is that I don’t wanna move in with someone until we’re engaged & I don’t wanna actually go through with marrying them until we’ve lived together for a few years to see how that goes. I fully believe this is the smartest move

[@Godzillanofiller]

howling at the old irish bogart voice she used for neville

[@Mountain_Biking_Vampire_Which]

39:31 COLORADO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@angeladavidson2350]

Me, at the beginning of a gender crisis, minding my own business Me after Maddie's ✨gender update✨: 👁👄👁 This was such a great episode! Brb I think Maddie awoke something Gender in me

[@LamAnopro_]

Something gender

[@bockrottom4877]

YES! Im so glad you got Mak on here, I love her.

[@cajaha]

me: currently planning on becoming an english- and mathteacher. Which stereotype am i gonna become?

[@shinonobi1011]

Everytime you say "Hello Bottom Nation!" ....I just raise my hand with enthusiasm and wave with a big fat HI I AM BOTTOM!!... and I just feel so seen and validated lmaoooo!!

[@tigeriowidewood7702]

Love this podcast. I Hope you come to Germany one day :)

[@ashleyG92892]

Ashley is the ideal woman😍🏳️‍🌈🫶🏻 Funny,beautiful and caring.

[@MagentaRoseRed]

"I'm just like a dolphin..." would be amazing on a shirt

[@aceistheplacewithunhelpfulaces]

10:20 coincidentally, the only reason I like math, I don’t like “ explain your answer bitch “ but I like just numbers and numbers with no explanation.

[@kmiknik4861]

Every single word of the dolphin riff. Holy shit 'Queerness is about not having to give up any part of yourself'

[@JuMixBoox]

You can tell I'm not straight because as soon as Ashley asked "Do you like fall?" my head was instantly filled with nothing but girl in red's We fell in love in October.

[@dewimatthews6037]

She got through the announcements whithout calling us 'worthless piece of shit'. Aaaw!

[@thunderboltz1096]

There is definitely that guy 💀 I saw Third Eye Blind once and the lead singer sent the security guard to tell two girls in the front that he wanted to meet them on the bus.

[@kencoleman5007]

While trans, the Aspie in me loves the objectivity in math. I'm not "awesome" at math, but I'd suggest "The nonbinary "Z" axis on the gender graph!".

[@kencoleman5007]

Math does change and evolve, but it's more in pioneering approaches that get validated.

[@NEIYUWN]

The episode “Maddies sharing corner” were created

[@julia3374]

In the words of Brittany S. Pierce: "Dolphins are gay sharks". So there ya go, another thing in common😂

[@Hollyz1000]

Interesting how Maddie remembers INTJ specifically for the MBTI test.

[@laurenbeavers6811]

It makes me wonder if she tested as an INTJ. Also I love MBTI! I'd love to know Maddie's type. Ashley said she's an ENFJ, riding close on the F/T.

[@Hollyz1000]

@@laurenbeavers6811 I was trying to figure Maddie's out as well because I'm an INTJ and it never struck me to think she would be as well. Maybe because it's the rarest type, especially for females, that it was more memorable to her than "MBTI"? I can see Ashley being ENFJ/ENTJ 😂

[@Ferx68]

I’m also an INTJ 😂 would be interesting to know the correlation between gender / sexual orientation and personality types

[@kenziewenzieasmr9800]

I can totally relate to Mac with the overly strict Christian parents who don’t let you watch anything fantasy related. I didn’t watch twilight or Harry Potter until I was an adult because my mom thought it would “invite demons into out house”

[@bingbongalong]

That's sad :( Christian culture is so unnecessarily restrictive

[@antotheja251]

Maddie is nailing it. I can relate to almost everything coming from her and i wish she talked for longer. She is literally my spirit content ❤️

[@ashleymarieeee]

Definitely the other Portland. Maine for life.

[@riotroyale]

i have to be so honest i thought maks shirt said "mommy" before i noticed the tommy hilfigure logo underneath

[@senikh9722]

Can you please make a podcast video where you guys just give us advice. I'm a baby gay here and I have no idea what I'm doing :')

[@grumpy-mcbaldsoo-killing-hoes]

Hey check out chosen family

[@ashgavs]

That’s… literally the podcast we advertised on this episode. It’s called chosen family

[@gabymo3375]

There's a TikTok sound that says "inside you is a gay Twink and a lesbian, you're nonbinary and confused" lol

[@colleenrawson8477]

"stupid love brain" 😂we all need that advice, thanks dad.

[@justjulss8365]

THE THING MADDY SAID. most of my own femininity comes from loving women in a way, loving women makes me want to be more feminine

[@atate43]

I had the wild religious family and I was allowed to watch Harry Potter but Rugrats was not allowed 🤔

[@nyxie2877]

1:01:48 Oh my gods you’re just like me. Literally just like me YOU GET ME “This is going to resonate with like two of the listeners” IT’S ME! I AM ONE OF THE TWO!

[@nyxie2877]

I’m sorry I sound so excited this is a very big revelation for me

[@literallyacat1366]

I'm cottagecoring it up in Pittsburgh. It's a city, but a very woodsy city. Plus I literally own a cottage.

[@julia_rsm]

I also guessed Neville!!!

[@pipinghotcoffeee]

Rockford, IL is gay friendly apparently

[@WAMilyFamily]

"In the mood for fruit" HAHAHA That is pure gold!

[@oheyseven]

I brought home the first Harry Potter book in 4th grade and got a very long lecture about witchcraft and the devil and how Harry Potter is demonic etc. I finally read the series in my 20s and even got my mom to read them as well. 😝

[@coolsenjoyer]

Parents not allowing Harry Potter in their house is good actually, your parents just had the wrong reason

[@ayla1316]

Thank you for the humanely raised comment. I raise our chickens (working up to the rest of our meat) so I know for a fact they only have 1 bad day in their whole life.

[@emilypumpkinseller]

LMFAO THE sun moon analysis at the end IM DYING violently explode one day which feels male LMFAOOOOO

[@phuyu5624]

i feel mak so muchh i am femme presenting and when i get attention from men i get so annoyed like I'm not doing it for you do not look at me plz 😭😭

[@ksecrets]

48:00 soooooo relatable🖤

[@ellycook9057]

I also get mad or I feel disgusted when a man checks me out or gits on me

[@maddiehempell3324]

Would you ever tour the UK? The British gays need you 💅

[@nataliecohen814]

Psych major here....the Myers Briggs personality tests are not used seriously by anyone in our industry ;) Tea leaves for sure