Why are 66% of young men single

[@joejett5084]

The new American dream is to stay single, stack money and leave.

[@chrishart8548]

Wish I had realised this earlier

[@uhhmon319]

Literally what I’m doing 😂

[@Nick-1992-SRB]

Yes exactly leave the Hellhole.

[@irishprik]

The New American dream is stay single, try not to starve, pray for escape. Like a prison sentence, hopefully when you can get out there's somewhere to escape to.

[@reformedstoic1581]

Yep. Western women are unmarriageable.

[@gzu-em8we]

Unpopular opinion Social Media and apps like TikTok has bred a generation of grossly narcissistic young women. The dating world is disgusting.

[@Drifter4804]

It has. But no one wants to admit it because of the entertainment factor. They have become addicted.

[@DoubleStudentLoans]

Not unpopular, just not allowed to say

[@elfixa]

That's a fact My dude, social media screw up girl's and indirectly family and society.

[@zeus014]

True. And the only good thing about this glaring fact is that the vast majority of these modern women - especially in the under-30 set - is that they are too stupid to notice this trait in themselves or to realize just how obvious it is to everyone else. They are overt narcissists rather than covert. Even when they speak and act in a covert manner they fail to realize just how obvious their character is - and that the guys who play along with it are only doing so until they've hit it and quit it. So keep doing those duck-lip poses and wearing those tight outfits and paint-by-number faces, girls. Keep telling everyone you're the prize, that you're a ten and that you're an empath. This way the objects of your desire - no matter how brief - know exactly what to expect from you and to act accordingly. 🙂

[@gzu-em8we]

@@zeus014 preach good sir

[@Pacolad]

Why are men left to their own devices so often? I feel like there’s a huge expectation for growth without any guidance.

[@blacklyfe5543]

What do you mean their own devices ?

[@Metaphix]

@@blacklyfe5543 No community. It's different for some men who have all that. Like having uncles, a father, 2 grandfathers, community mentors, all to help you navigate. Some men have none of that at all. They have their dog.

[@TheNebulon]

Guidance? Wow, need anything else?? Get back to work MALE

[@Justafayze]

@@Metaphixdude so true, I’ve noticed all the self help online dating advice is great and all but nothing like your cool older brother or uncles guidance - it’s always such good advice!

[@sullathehutt7720]

Modern occidental "children are resilient" nonsense from psychologists and other academics. Also, because "discipline and hierarchy is fascistic."

[@faris5785]

Went on a 1800 km roadtrip on a motorcycle for 2 weeks alone after a nasty break up. One of the best experience in my life.

[@helixmoore7636]

She was the wrong one.

[@macaronienshiis]

correction: 1118 miles

[@eduardom3209]

Me but it never dated in the first place

[@freeottis]

Can you share more? Why was it the best experience?

[@Mirak-el]

​@@macaronienshiisEWWWWWW

[@kristinebailey6554]

Starting around 2015 my son (a former Marine) began the hunt for a nice girl. (He is very attractive btw and has good solid employment.) He's not into smoking, drugs, drinking to excess or tattoos. He's still looking in 2023. From what I am seeing in his age range, I don't blame him.

[@112kain]

He needs to leave the country. Unless he wants used and damaged goods that’s all that’s left largely.

[@dsmkrotj4990]

Your, son does not fit the bad boy image young women want only the safe back up guy after they have used up like a kleenex.

[@Kolobochok95]

Yup. Often you'll see young women who will rather go for the overconfident "bad boy" type who does all the drugs and drinks than for the disciplined guy who is into sports. Generally speaking that is. I fall into the latter category, always been into sports, taken care of myself and am reasonably successful and stable in life. Yet I have lost some really good girls/women that I saw potential in to said guys who barely put in any effort and were just trashing themselves. Often they got money from their rich parents or leased some expensive car. After about a year of "fun" they break up with the guy since he turns out to be a POS and come running back to you. This is oddly common these days and simply makes you lose interest as you are basically seen as a resource and adventure rather than a partner in crime so to speak.

[@alangwhiteTheBoss]

Thank u for raising a good Marine ma'am. I am in the army it's definitely changed

[@kikiisabeast2575]

Best of luck to him! My husband is also a former marine.. as a woman I didn't think any man would find me desirable because I was shy and dorky (likes anime, video games comic books) I was still girly to a degree as I did enjoy dance but I was not the outgoing flamboyant type who was willing to sleep with them so I was tossed aside.. I am lucky I found my husband who shares the same morals as I have, or I'm sure I would have had to just give up on men and stay single as well.

[@minabotieso6944]

We are also in a loneliness crisis that young men are doing the worst at. Saying just go make male friends is just like looking at the pew research study and saying just go find a girlfriend. Young men are systemically struggling at human connection in general and it’s not a thing of that they are lazy and stay inside playing video games all day. Just going outside and signing up for activities doesn’t easily make you friends.

[@markumoeder]

Men today were brainwashed as young boys in schools to be silent and social behaviors towards other boys was punished, listining to bullshit feministic teachers was the norm.

[@TonyTheTiger1000]

Yeah that loneliness sucks

[@notyet2345]

Men were probably always this way....men never had to be decent human beings to get a woman....oppression actually hid how incompetent and inept men really were. Oppressing women and denying women the ability to provide for themselves is the reason why most men even got a woman in the first place. Now that women can provide for themselves and are happier single and child free, it takes a lot more than oppression to get a woman.

[@blue18404]

True. Men gave allowed this to happen though. The American white male doesn't understand what power, civilization and biology truly is.

[@genovasquez8361]

Why the fuck people try befriend me every where I go

[@primeobjective5469]

Divorce rates are at 54%. 70% are initiated by women. Men are learning seeing other men lose everything financially, while also paying child support & alimony. Men are avoiding & rejecting divorce, by NOT getting married to begin with.

[@CynthiaAlorney-kh8hq]

Am looking for a serious man white in my life

[@andrematias987]

Keep looking.

[@johnm84]

It's actually 80 percent of marriages that are filed by women.

[@scinformation7229]

The main reason for divorce from the women's point of view, is that she is doing it all. She's earning the money, doing the cleaning, shopping, child-care, and he's watching TV. After a while she is exhausted and resentful and wonders why she married a lazy immature man? She can't respect him or love him - especially if he's into porn, gambling, cheating, etc.

[@johnm84]

@@scinformation7229 Nonsense.

[@bear1830]

My ex cheated on me 5 years ago, still suffering to this day. I bought her a promise ring, we were talking about getting married, etc. then out of nowhere she turns cold on me. I later found out she was cheating and it was soul crushing. Still painful to this day

[@old_lady100]

I'm sorry for what you went through. I hope you find happiness 🤗 you deserve it.

[@brandonjones2279]

Went through a similar situation about 3 years ago, and it still stings. Don't think that'll ever really go away, honestly, but I have at least found a positive spin on the situation, that seems like could be applicable for you as well. We had been engaged for a few months, and had a wedding date set for about 6 weeks after the breakup wound up happening. Yet, every time I look back, I find myself actually feeling happy and grateful. Not that she cheated, mind you, but that I found out and ended things before we actually got married. Would've been a whole lot messier if we had to go through the divorce process rather than just splitting. Just something to keep in mind, that has helped me cope. Keep your head up, King. You're not alone. 😊

[@catharsismemory]

Cheating is so terrible, hopefully you find a girl who will truly love you.

[@natashadickson4819]

At least, you didn't marry a cheater. Could have led to divorce. 💔

[@I_have_been_sent]

But but….she’s muh one and only 😂

[@dksdmusic]

22 year old here, I’ve checked out of the dating pool already. I gave it a final shot 2 years ago and was disappointed as always so I chose to focus on my career instead and cultivated a bunch of hobbies. I’ve also emphasized male friendships in my life and have just gotten distant to all females outside my mum. I’m not interested in pursuing anymore and am comfortable by myself. It’s way too much of a headache to deal with these things. Better to just avoid it for your own sanity and find new things to do.

[@isidoraveronica]

Awwww 😢

[@sulphurous2656]

Honestly not surprised. The age at which men in our nations seem to gain an understanding of the situation and stop caring just seems to get lower and lower by the year. But this can be dangerous for societies in the long run, especially with the sudden gender imbalance on the rise. God knows what these boys will turn to as they grow up.

[@Gott6666]

@@sulphurous2656 Managers

[@Madness1299]

@@isidoraveronica Don't just say "awww", if you really feel sorry for him talk to the guy, get to know him, make and effo... ...oh who am I fooling.

[@isidoraveronica]

@@Madness1299 how would I do that? Lol

[@MrShizNipz]

As a 26 year old with a few life long friends still (for over 10 years now) I can confidently say that many of us are not putting in effort anymore. The amount of times ill reach out to people to try and engage in an activity, for it to fall on radio silence or for the plan to fall throught entirely is so discouraging that you end up not asking anymore. There are so few actual real life day to day role models that we end up resorting to these online self help gurus.That's all fine and great but it does leave a pit of emptiness that there isn't really someone around that cares to see you progress and achieve our potential.

[@FactStorm]

So true man...I feel ya. Take care my friend.

[@FactStorm]

@bill ted That's a great point, it's almost enlightening to many.

[@normanosborn1277]

"Friendship" is the idealization of an evolutionary survival mechanism, consisting in social cohesion, which stems from human beings' physical inferiority in comparison to other animals (strength in numbers vs individual brute force). Despite that, nowadays, it's pretty much useless for becoming wealthy and powerful (it if were useful, statistically, most people would be wealthy and not mediocre or, in underdeveloped countries, broke); it only works, if you have the right contacts, who must be willing to help you.

[@minabotieso6944]

@billted3323 you are preaching to the choir. He is talking about 100% creating the activity and putting all the effort into the relationship and still getting ghosted. KZbin comment advice sucks.

[@sweetbizil]

Agreed, but at 29 I have been realizing that no one is coming to save me. No one is going to help me. The only person who can get things done is me. It's still lonely as hell, but at least I feel purpose right now like I have never before. We can't change others or the circumstances around us, we can only change ourselves.

[@peiershen8221]

I'm 33 and I'm still single. Probably gonna be that way for the rest of my life. I already accepted it as truth.

[@jamessixx7660]

25 n i feel u bro. I've been single since 2011... Had many chances but I have serious anxiety... only now I've been changing.. got 2 phone numbers this year, but no replies. And always get rejected... I feel like giving up as well. I'm 5'2 so I'm at serious disadvantage but I have $130,000 cash cuz I've been single 4 so long. And I have a goal of buying a big house....

[@trentonparrish1136]

Dude I’m 32 and I have never had a girlfriend 😢

[@eduardoacosta-ni5bm]

Its over

[@hanacoahmed93]

I'm 30 and been single since birth 🙂💔

[@AdamTopCommenter]

that's gonna be the reality for a lot of men and no feel good platitudes are gonna help us.

[@wowwowpowpow]

The numbers make it clear that there's several women for one man. Basically women are literally sharing men.

[@_Dynamight_]

Lmao no.

[@OccidentalAryan]

@@_Dynamight_ They are.

[@_Dynamight_]

@@OccidentalAryan Nah. Not me. Nor my girl friends. Nor the girls in my family. Nor my colleagues or customers.

[@TP-nx7uf]

Maybe they are dating foreigners out of the country. I know so many american women marrying outside of the US.

[@TwanBankz]

@@_Dynamight_even in highschool brah yes

[@jessieheywood6401]

I've been trying to get a girlfriend for years. Going out, meeting girls, going on dates, but nothing ever sticks for longer than a month and I really don't understand why. People also say it's easy to have casual hookups nowadays but I haven't found it easy at all and it takes me many months of talking to different girls to maybe find one that's interested. I consider myself a decently attractive guy and still struggle so idk how people are doing it nowadays

[@AQ1579]

I'm in same boat man it's rough out there but we gotta keep our head up

[@Justafayze]

Honeslty you could try women in other countries - they have different outlook on relationships I’ve noticed - probably the longest relationship I’ve had was with one from mexico - the language barrier is rough though not gonna lie but they care about relationships and not hook ups. You could also try church too. You gotta find the pockets where they hang out though in my experience. I met her at my job! Also focusing on yourself works pretty well too and being less about getting girls, from my experience that is. Hope that helps!

[@karlstrauss2330]

I’m in the same boat as you. I’m doing all the “right things” dating gurus say and nothing changed

[@barbellsamurai8014]

simple - you are not good looking, you just cant be honest with yourself

[@jessieheywood6401]

@BARBELL SAMURAI obviously if I felt I was unattractive then it would make sense, but I promise you I'm what many people consider good-looking

[@J_Derry]

Turned 40 this year. I have learned to be alone and enjoy it. My passions, hobbies, and work have become more attractive than any woman or the idea of a relationship could ever be.

[@Elliecham]

As a woman who has always been a loner I agree. Hobbies keep your mind stimulated. Same goes with volunteer work. I question what my purpose is, what makes me happy, etc. Helping others and caring for the environment has brought me so much joy. Keep at it!

[@barcaman1013]

Cope

[@fayelis]

@@barcaman1013 You can say its a cope because you worship woman validation but he is living his life how he sees fit.

[@mattdelany6799]

Keep doing you. If they don’t chase you, it is their loss. You are the king.

[@Sabakinno]

All that matters is if you spread Your genes... Otherwise You are s looser in nature eyes... Imagine there are men who spread their genes with 500 women by sperm donation... Thats a huge win, his genes will last to the end of man kind. Man without child is looser in nature

[@andrel1055]

The worst thing is that it doesn't even matter what you are as a person, it matters only what you can provide, basically like an object, not like a human being. Most of us will live, spend the best years, grow old and die completely alone. Nobody there who really genuinely cares. We make jokes about it without to understand this is one of the saddest things in our sick Era.

[@ShadyRapture]

It doesn’t have to be sad. That’s what he’s saying. The saddest part for me is not being able to have children of my own, but being alone and financially free is awesome. Having friends (and more importantly) the ability to make friends anytime and anywhere, is dope. You can live a full life. Having no wife is eh it sucks but a lot of times we forget the ugly parts or less pleasant parts of marriage. It’s very rare that marriages are without seriously depressing rocky points. The biggest let down is not having kids. Everyone I know that has them has changed and says the same thing about it giving them purpose and becoming the best part of their lives. Tbh if I’m not in something serious by my mid 30s I’m just gonna knock up a fling so I can at least have a child lol. Or maybe I won’t. But it’s a backburner plan lmao.

[@divineeye1254]

I care but that's only me and I can only do so much plus my life has been a struggle to despite not deserving it

[@577jrock]

Yup. Many, many unpartnered men either drink themselves to death or commit suicide. Die all at once of die slowly, pick one. No amount of male bonding is going to fill out longing for romantic partnership. Fools errand.

[@ayuanabradford3206]

Sadly true. Never found a real friend yet as all my fake friends don’t give a fuck

[@djohnsveress6616]

Did you consider that perhaps both matters ? That there is some guy who can provide but also is really good fucking guy ? Oh but girls date ass holes all the time, they're DUMB.. Well why do you care about dumb girls and envy the ass hole guy ? Don't go all melodramatic on me when these things just don't logically click.. This isn't the voice of a sound mind, in these comments people are so critical of girls but i would also raise attention to the mental sanity of some of these guys..

[@andersonfg1]

Society says men are to be blamed. I've seen so much anger against men nowadays I can relate to young guys not wanting to engage with the world. When your told you are to blame for all the world's troubles and being told "we don't need men". I can understand.

[@ssykes7]

Everything is men's fault. When more men were graduating than women, it was men's fault. When more women are graduating than men, it's men's fault.

[@posintabook597]

By society you mean Reddit ? Who is the society exactly? Bro just turn off the tv and quit social media Leftist politics and brain control are not the actual society

[@SlyGuyMorad]

I sincerely wish you and I luck in this cold world, man. It’s safe to say us young men just want to find genuine love and companionship with the woman of our dreams. We don’t have hard standards or anything (just be a healthy weight and feminine woman). Why is that so hard to demand?

[@andersonfg1]

@@SlyGuyMorad Keep it real my man. Know a few of us older guys are here for support.

[@womansrights6068]

Good hope they take accountability to their actions

[@flechette3782]

Also the top 10% of men have multiple girlfriends. I am serious. Women would rather share a top tier man than date an average man.

[@bobbob9821]

Yeah. I used to have this friend who was a Chad and remember women would stalk him like they were groupies and he was a rockstar. Two wanted to give him a bj at the same time. They would not stop trying even when he blew them off. Multiple sexual harassment cases if the roles were reversed. Other than his looks, he was probably the least impressive or interesting person I've ever met in my life.

[@whirlwindmgtow5534]

You are correct.

[@guy8360]

Cause they don't prioritize love and compatibility... they prioritize money and status

[@meinkek7896]

​@@guy8360 wrong. They prioritize genes. Genetics. Even millionaire is getting dumped

[@OfficialHaloBelle]

@@meinkek7896 God I hate this world, bring the asteroid

[@TheRealLesterGreen]

My experience with online dating was no one can get anyone’s full attention. Especially in bigger metro areas. Everyone is getting messages from so many people and it’s hard for anyone to decide on who to focus on. Each time you login, there is more new people messaging you or responding to you. But all those people are experiencing that exact same thing, it’s like everyone is constantly distracted by someone new

[@markhill7418]

🎯

[@Alwaysiamcaesar]

Yep, my experience as well. Even as a man, I just ghost matches because my attention span can hold only so many. Not saying I’m a hotshot getting a ton of matches, some guys get way more and hotter. But I just think dating apps are the wrong design for human dating rituals.

[@vinaydhiwar8604]

Those are simps

[@exoticspeedefy7916]

Nope, Its all about who stands out from the crowd from a womans perspective

[@TheRealLesterGreen]

@@exoticspeedefy7916 I would think that would apply to everyone

[@mastermindrational1907]

The party’s over. I have retreated to being alone all day. I don’t go out or talk to anyone, other than people at work.

[@amandaburleson2035]

exactly i have to get literal drunk in order to enjoy going to a restaurnant, or a festival or club. or even a show or walking downtown, so thats not sustanable

[@FactStorm]

Me too, and I gave up on life. I literally work and see a friend or two during the week, other than that I exercise a bit and occasionally vacation but no women in my life - I dont even get laid, on very rare occasions.

[@amandaburleson2035]

@@FactStorm how do you look ? are you attractive

[@FactStorm]

@@amandaburleson2035 That's subjective, now isn't it?

[@rocket_smash1681]

@@amandaburleson2035 the problem isn't attractiveness though. Attractiveness in itself is subjective...what you find attractive may not be the same for another person. The current dating scene today is a combination of Hypergamy and options. Women today have many choices - they can choose to date from a pool of guys aka Chads, Tyrone, etc. or the multi-millionaire sitting on his yacht on some island in Miami. What this means is, only a small group of guys (20%) end up getting all the dates - you will have someone getting 7+ dates in a week, while another guy will not get a date for years. It's not a surprise that some are giving up...the main danger though is, more and more will see this happening which in turn will have more and more men quit dating and that will have some major societal effects for the future.

[@SnoutBetter002]

I can confirm as a male nurse from overhearing my colleagues talk : women think they are inherently deserving of a high quality man without meeting him half way.

[@John-wl7wu]

the thing is they can let them to think and behave like that, because they know that even if they could not to find high quality man they will find someone good enough in they older age anyway. Guarantee by design. :)

[@lilpandanesegirl]

depends on the women they choose. they choose the 9 and 10

[@AnthonyManzio]

@@lilpandanesegirl 55 here alder men too. All married couples end up having 3 some and do swinging too. Never ever get married. All end up divorcing.

[@SAMMIE0998]

You create feminist women

[@Jo_Wardy]

Women think they can have the best but the girl is shit

[@hallajavel]

I dont want a woman who only cares about my money and status

[@NONAME-kw3pu]

and the BIG 4x4 TRUCK/SUV... boat, nice house, HARLEY.... all bought on time so pay for the thing 3x before it is paid off... if it is every paid off. i cannot imagine the $$$$ wasted buying new.... and pay pay pay for it as it depreciates to the max and by the time it is paid off it is worth .. 1/3-1/2 of its BUY IT NEW Value... years ago.

[@CakeIsSpy]

Your are not in luck. Women want a prince charming, that is both money and status.

[@WriteMeASong7]

Then don’t be with a woman whose looks are the only important factor.

[@NBackTA]

@@WriteMeASong7 Look are everything for women, then how much benefit you can provide for her.

[@cigh7445]

What about your looks? Sadly people aren't attracted to each other for no reason, something about a person has to attract them in the first place. Personality and real connection only comes after attraction

[@obits3]

The more successful I’ve become, the less I’ve cared about women.

[@steph6109]

Cool. You should spend more time with men and see if that floats your boat.

[@christopherjameswright9614]

Congratulations Tom keep up the good work 🎉🎉🎉. Ignore the haters 💯💯💯

[@SDtraining627]

Same here, i am 31 now.

[@reformedstoic1581]

They have nothing to offer but their snatch, and they throw it all over the place like it's worthless.

[@alexy.9306]

Yea, I also noticed that the more successful and more value I acquired as a man, the less I gave a fuck about women.

[@jacobperez8921]

Yup! I agree. I am 29 and i am considered to be a “failure to launch” person. I never once dated a girl even in high school and I always had trouble talking to women even today and I noticed the dating market has gotten worse and I regret not trying harder to find a nice girl when I was younger. Nowadays it’s hard for even a guy with a good and stable job to find a good girl. The risk of cold approaching women is not worth it anymore.

[@salsifi836]

I am 24 and for now, I am at the same state

[@Digimonfusion280]

Same man. I also feel like making a good friend is an impossible task as well, it may be because i live in Brazil and ppl here don't seem to know what a friendship means.

[@flameshoter6]

Same boat 28 yrs old. Stable job with benefits and pension and with a recent promotion. College educated. The two people I have been friends with for the last 10 years have always been flaky and secretive about everything. Which is why I consider them to be more like associates. I got into cooking, biking, repairing things (only with what I'm comfortable with), etc. Trying to get into kayaking this year but its either been super windy or raining (every single weekend for like the last 2 months). Haven't been on a date in 10 years. Given up on looking for a partner because of how awful society has been. And its only getting worse. There's no community events in my area. No public volunteer groups. I'm not the kind of guy to go to clubs or bars. (No clubs near me anyway). Dating apps led to no matches. Churches are not my thing either. Hell, people at my work are even flaky. They'll go out to eat in groups on the drop of a dime. Not even a single day in advance . Not even a few hours. They even brought their own lunches but choose to go out to eat instead of eating what they got in the break room. I refuse because I don't want my food to spoil. They always say they will give me an advance warning the next time but don't. I've gotten the hint. If they ask me again, I'll be mad and tell them to just stop. Done with society in general. They don't do me any favors, I won't do any for them.

[@Master_ofReality]

It’s over

[@polpol1005]

dont give up and meanwhile look at yourself what can you change about yourself for better maybe

[@wolvves4293]

Just remember everyone: A dog wont wake up in the morning and tell you it doesnt love you anymore.

[@yazx2434]

no but it might poop in your shoe :)

[@-Hipocrita66]

​@@yazx2434si no sabes educar a un perro no es problema de los demás :)

[@daorientalgamer6610]

​@@yazx2434you can train a dog to not do that.

[@lovejunkie490]

You can abuse a dog and he won’t fight back. That’s why you like dog so much..

[@cccccccccccccv]

a cat will tho

[@johnnyjohnn281]

I'm divorced. Was royally shafted by my ex and lost everything. Witnessed every dirty trick under the sun to get everything from me. This has turned me off dating and marriage altogether. My sons have seen what I went through (near-homelessness) and are also avoiding dating. This kind of situation is now very common.

[@thepassportog]

Sorry to hear that. Seriously

[@abacaxi1471]

Hope you are well sir. Unfortunately this knowledge wasnt common in the past

[@leagueofotters2774]

I am sorry that you were burnt by your ex wife but am grateful for you and men like you sharing your stories with the rest of us.

[@Clark-s8s]

Sad but true, blame Hollywood.

[@FoB39]

Millions of men been put thru the same and worse brother . Hope your doing better now

[@fiat_ow7876]

Two factors 1. Young women like older men that have done more with their life, which leaves younger men out. (red pill explanation) 2. Young women are sharing guys. Average guy has no chance in todays market. (black pill explanation) Both are probably true and sum up dating for young men today.

[@Vader007.]

On dating sites the most desirable age in women is 18 while in men is 50 (Study done by Elizabeth Bruch, an associate professor of sociology at the University of Michigan). It makes sense.

[@logmart8113]

I know there will be some smart men who will have lots of women. Good luck, keep it up. Let them feel the pain.

[@jopeteus]

I have a girlfriend now. I got rejected about 1500 times before a girl wanted to be with me. Just rejection after rejection. In that time, I graduated university. I learned two languages.

[@Tamar-sz8ox]

Happy for you , good on ya

[@impudentdomain]

that sounds like a lot, but none of this is new. When I was in college I was turned down 40 times in a row.

[@alangwhiteTheBoss]

How different is ur life with your girlfriend than with out

[@mathisnotforthefaintofheart]

She is your gf because of your money. And she won't stay...

[@FTWGamerTrue]

​@@mathisnotforthefaintofheart i want to call this negative thinking but unfortunately this is just how it typically is

[@loltheworld]

Dating apps and social media legitimately crushed men and put women on a pedestal like nothing before in human history. This is the only reason why so many men are single and unable to attract partners now.

[@SlyGuyMorad]

Correct, and we live in a word where we still complain women are being oppressed yet they’re running the world. Or how sex sells, and they post half naked photos online then proceed to blame men for “objectifying” them. Women are unbelievable and I’m not just saying that to sound rude to them. It’s just objectively true.

[@nevergiveupbaby1720]

Dating apps gave men a reality check and I love it so much

[@Mirthe4390]

@@loltheworld yes, social media is the cause of so much mental health issues. I stopped with it, never been happier. Of course not with KZbin, but trust I'm way more mindfull with the content I do watch

[@hannahstriker]

@@nevergiveupbaby1720 They also gave women like yourself a reality check as well. Hence, all the videos on TikTok from delusional "Feminists" like yourself, crying about being "single" and "alone". Enjoy it while it lasts after all.

[@sub-zero7008]

@@nevergiveupbaby1720Yep and I bet she’s single!! 😂🤡👍🏻

[@tronmartin1]

It is because young men are getting wiser. They realize that the cost of relationships outweigh the benefits. Women have made dating an awkward and not very rewarding experience.

[@evilds3261]

You could say the same about the job market. A lot of people are not negotiating or trying to understand each other's wants and needs.

[@Quaberr]

Wrong. They’re getting more ignorant bc they’re too busy projecting bs ideas of who they think all women are while at the same time objectifying them and not seeing them as actual people. 😂 you can’t form an actual connection with someone you don’t even see as a person. Guys just see women as a means to an end instead of an end in itself. They also base a great amount of their own value on whether they can “get” women or not. Extremely toxic.

[@tronmartin1]

@@Quaberr Men are objectifying women? LOL, Women are walking around in clothes much too small for them, and revealing way too much. Then women get on social media in thongs and other provocative outfits for attention. They are constantly objectifying themselves. Also, men spend more on dating. Why? because women are selling their vaginas. Men pay for se. That is the rule. Many times we do not get sex. Men buy the diamond rings, Women initiate o0-85% of the child support and alimony. Men only get around 75% of the time with their children that women get. Men lget their wages garnished for child support, and have to pay the child support clearing house a fee AND their employer. Mom does not pay anything and she is not accountable for where the money goes. Even if she has an affair the divorce works the same way. Women initiate over 70 percent of all divorces, and it is easy to see why. The most common reason is "we grew apart." You ladies want equality some of the time, and you want traditional gender roles some of the time. You want it both ways. All you do is use men. You are really a waste of our time and money. You would not understand because you do not invest as much in relationships as men. Men approach you, they ask you, they pay for stuff, then they ask you to marry them, then they buy the ring, then you leave them and he pays you child support. NO Thanks.

[@tronmartin1]

@Macdonald Involuntary? Women control sex, men control marriage? Men are the ones that initiate dating/courtship, and the proposal, etc. They are choosing to avoid relationships with women. The cost outweighs the benefits. Why are women initiating over 70% of divorces? The system rewards women for breaking the contract. It is not involuntary, trust me. Men want to spread their seed, but only when conditions are favorable. Conditions are not favorable. Read the book "Men on Strike" by Dr. Helen Smith. It explains why men are boycotting marriage.

[@tronmartin1]

@Macdonald What do you mean simple relationships are "Hard to find?" Do you mean decent women are hard to find?

[@mattp4735]

Idk man, I make well over 150k, 6’, decent looking in shape and overall just nice but striking out with girls left and right. They want a X factor, all of the above but more importantly a killer instinct. They have resources so they want to indulge the feral feelings. If you’re a normal balanced calm guy who approaches life with caution, it’s repelling to them. In my experience at least

[@natashadickson4819]

A woman having resources prevents desperation, prevents her from settling for a guy she doesn't really want to be with.

[@jungshin87]

based take

[@realjoedee]

I make 250k, I've got a six pack, I'm a leader of men, and even I'm finding it difficult at times. If I'm having this much trouble I can only imagine how some dude who's making a median income must feel. Granted I'm a bit older at 46 but I still date women as young as 22. But it should be far easier given where I'm at in life. Something is not right with society if guys in my position top 10 percenters are having this much trouble

[@elijahpicklestein1718]

This is true what I have been noticing for a few years now is that women all kinds are with degenerates with face tats and gangster methheads.

[@Wanderer2035]

I remember when I was in the dating market a couple years ago, whenever I would talk to women they would almost always give me the cold stare like I’m some weird creep, or give you the “eww” factor. I’m totally decent looking, and I wasn’t a pro in conversations but I was okay, but still the women just automatically label you as some creep before you get a chance to say anything. Or sometimes I would say something just to talk about whatever, and they would ignore me like I wasn’t there. I know if I pressed on she would probably say I was harassing her. That’s why I just gave it up and started working on myself. I do think there’s some things men need to fix about themselves, but women have this weird messed up attitude towards other males, before they even know the guy they often automatically label him as “ewww” and “creep” if he goes and talks to her. I’m not surprised guys are checking out, like who wants to be constantly dissed like that. They try to be so nice to them trying to have a nice conversations with them, taking them out on dates and buying them things, all often so the girl can just laugh at what a “weirdo” he is, and talk S about him to her friends. It’s really cruel and sad. And also for the guys that cat call women on the street or try to act all arrogant and cocky to women ruin it for everyone else.

[@StephenP93]

Everything you talk about here is what I lived. Diagnosed with cancer at 18 and again at 21. Didn't get into college till 23, and by the time i did, all my classmates from highschool had graduated or close to it. I spent the first year working really hard on my classes and in the gym, but by the time i turned 24, i had seen enough on social media and experienced enough in real life to become what gen z now calls "black pill" Spent the next 5 years in a near constant state of borderline suicidal depression all while changing schools and shifting through odd jobs until last year, i finally snapped out. Went back to finish my degree and have been job hunting since. If you're 18-29 and reading this, i turn 30 this week. It wasnt too late for me, and its not too late for you.

[@armyoftwo13]

Glad you made it out Stephen, proud of you.

[@dorn885]

I had last stage T- NHL Lymphoma when I was 17 (now 37). Two years chemotherapy, since then stable. I had a lot of bad times after it, so much that I often asked myself if surviving is really "winning". I am content now, living my life alone.

[@selvamani1973-p7b]

same boat as you bro, going to finish university at 33

[@StephenP93]

@@selvamani1973-p7b I finished at 29 but I feel you man. Find strength and hang in. We're going to find our light.

[@jo18533]

@@selvamani1973-p7b still very young.

[@BVN-TEXAS]

You became attractive because of money. That’s it pure and simple. Your money is her money and her money is her money.

[@Crazy_Broke_Asian]

Yeah he basically just said that straight up and then blabbered on about how you need to go to Germany with a bunch of dudes and hang out in the woods or whatever lmao. So out of touch

[@nevergiveupbaby1720]

Cope more ATM machine

[@cccdy6375]

@@Crazy_Broke_Asian 🤣

[@D_402S]

Don't forget height. They want a tall ATM who makes her life like a Disney princess living in some Gothic Mansion

[@Simply1ism]

Dating is a bother. Bearing in mind girls have asked me out it doesn't take a second to be given advice to change! As I genuinely have wellbeing in mind I know there's an issue so move along.

[@BnibroC69]

all the classic copes. “men peak in their early thirties! just keep working / grinding for the next ten years and you'll get tha girlz! i promise! and don't forget to drop a bunch of money getting out there and traveling“ does anyone actually see women in their early twenties dating ultra successful thirty five year old men? i dont

[@War-Zone349]

I do, yeah, but you have to be well-put together

[@Gebyindahouse]

Exactly

[@tevinmoss12]

Money + power = all the things

[@Gebyindahouse]

@@tevinmoss12 lookism also, you don’t necessarily need the wealth if you look good.

[@BnibroC69]

@@tevinmoss12 what happens if you already have money success looks and all those other things and the women don't magically appear? enough men are crossing the finish line only to find there is no woman waiting for them at the end. and then dropping out entirely because they've been lied to for years in the form of messages like yours. cant blame them

[@robertthane]

Hypergamy. The word your looking for is Hypergamy.

[@maebandy]

Said the crowd who reeks of stagnancy. Why would she need to level-up if you're improving yourself?

[@thedoruk6324]

@@maebandy bruh

[@maebandy]

@@thedoruk6324 cmon we all know it isn't just women giving up and throwing away all their pants that don't have elastic in waists after marriage. There are a lot of people who see the wedding day as the checkered flag not the sound of the starting gun of the tandem race towards goals of shared improvement. Maybe if the weddings didn't exhaust so much energy and money people wouldn't feel like they need to sit down and rest for 6 months after to recuperate. An ass at rest watching Netflix for 6months tends to stay that until someone at work starts to look like a better snack than the leftovers somebody cooked and hasn't touched since jamming them in the freezer a year ago.

[@thedoruk6324]

@@maebandy I thought you were blaming men. Never mind.

[@YorkYolk]

Everything that women do is hypergamy boundaries? hypergamy no boundaries ? Hypergamy 💀💀💀⚰⚰⚰

[@Josh-fp2qn]

And men over 30 have given up completely.

[@KentPetersonmoney]

Also some men actually want to get married and start a family by the time their 30 or even 25. I knew from childhood that I didn't want to be an old father. I intended on being married young but not once as a kid did I think I would get rejected all the time. Probably a good thing I did'nt know as a kid because I might have taken my life if I knew at 12 that I'd still be single at 39.

[@KentPetersonmoney]

@@jameswhite3415 If she's the one who wanted the divorce then justice was served. Best punishment is leaving a wife with nothing.

[@andrewevans7992]

I’m 27 and freaking done

[@Robodude_0528]

I’m 37 and it hasn’t panned out for me. Home owner, dog owner, physically fit, no overwhelming personality flaws, and talented musician. Can’t keep a relationship beyond 3 months

[@moneylineparlay105]

I used bumble in the states for 4 days and got zero matches, used it in Vietnam for 2 days and have over 26 matches. Get your passport

[@MD-xl1sq]

This!

[@Sephiroth3000]

..and expect to be shamed and criticized by the same women who didn't want you on Bumble.

[@moneylineparlay105]

@@Sephiroth3000 could careless, they don't care what we think and I don't care what they think. Let them have a battle royal for the 13 chads that they want and I will live a life of abundance abroad.

[@johnblah1040]

You must be white.

[@Sephiroth3000]

@@moneylineparlay105 that's the spirit. I have the same experience by the way, in Vietnam but also Japan and Indonesia. But the women here (in the West)... they don't want to have anything to do with the average guy, but will not go out of their way to shame and blame him out loud when he finds love elsewhere. It's sick and sadisitc if you think of it...

[@Hschlick84]

This is how human civilization crumbles.

[@FactStorm]

Let it, we deserve it. The poor dinosaurs did nothing, it is humans being selfish, self centered & destructive towards mother earth

[@kenshii9d147]

Women are going to suffer the most

[@hoedemakerbart]

It was fun while it lasted

[@andradeb2695]

Let it crumble then

[@ruleoftwo6174]

human civilization isnt just the west. in fact, most of the civilizations that have lasted longer to this day aint the west. its exactly this hubris that is leading the downfall and the rest of the world is awaiting with anticipation

[@jonbaxter2254]

If there is a small chance of getting accused of being a creep, singled out and condemned by people online - possibly losing your job even - it's just not worth it. At all.

[@ChurlzVA]

It's about looks, bro. If people assume that you're creepy, you're just not attractive.

[@MarquosXoloVanda]

​@@ChurlzVAeven if not attractive, that's no excuse to treat people like pariahs

[@Xenozillex]

@@MarquosXoloVanda Women's feelings are more important than treating an ugly man with basic human respect.

[@notpillow6759]

​@@MarquosXoloVandathat is how women view ugly men they discriminate against them act like they are some kind of subhuman genetic failed experiment that deserves nothing but the absolute worse ive seen it second hand

[@riasgremory80]

@@ChurlzVA true asf women dont even view sub5 men as humans

[@JonahTheGreat]

I’m 23 and never been on a date, never had a girlfriend, and never even held hands with a woman. I try to stay strong, but sometimes the loneliness is a lot to handle.

[@stephengrant4841]

I genuinely think it’s impossible for women, even in that same situation, to understand how defeating this can feel for guys. We’re wired differently, I think they can handle a lifetime with no romantic life better.

[@plutoneptune]

Stay single forever. It's empowering actually.

[@Nothingness687]

@@stephengrant4841they can live with no romantic life, because they all can just hook up with someone. And they all do, you won’t find a virgin in her 20s nowadays.

[@XTRABIG]

damn bro. listen man. put yourself out there a little more. you need some female companionship. doesn't mean you have to get married or anything but it's healthy for a man to have experiences with women.

[@plutoneptune]

@@XTRABIG no it's not healthy

[@MrRocksW]

The advice about focusing on male friendships is extremely good. I am 30 now but a few years ago I had almost no friends, with some deliberate effort now I have a few and it has enriched my life immensely. I have not dated anyone since I was 17 and I still feel invisible to women but it doesn't sting so bad when you have a few people in your corner.

[@JustNo8808]

Still you have to realize that friendships come and go. It's not important the friends you have, it's important your ability to make new ones.

[@acct4600]

no such thing as a unicorn.

[@ace464]

@@JustNo8808 terrible advice. there are definitely ppl that could possibly be around till the day u die. be open minded

[@MrTony]

@@JustNo8808 shit take tbh, my homeboys have helped me through very dark times simply by being around. A good friend will last way longer than an relationship.

[@SomethingSomethingg]

​@@JustNo8808Well, relationships come and go too.

[@mazze84]

A couple of years ago, I went full "monk mode" for two years straight. Coming of a divorce I needed a reset. Meaning, not looking for partnership, hook-ups or any confirmation from the opposite sex at all. Work, mental and physical health and sorting my life the best I could without distractions did wonders for me. Worst, and by far, best period of my life, without a doubt.

[@DeusVults-1523]

Monkmode is a blessing when done right

[@milorxngo]

You gotta be careful wifh monk mode if you go too far Into it there is no coming back it's like you enter a zen mode

[@mook601]

@@milorxngo I think it’s too late for me. I plan on practicing “semen retention” for the rest of my life.

[@Żagñùţ01]

Many of these young men saw the mistakes of the previous generation and just want peace of mind

[@snoguy7181]

Cope

[@winterwulf1995]

Absolutely. Never met a happily married man but I've met plenty of divorced broken husks

[@Żagñùţ01]

@@snoguy7181 Just Google the most divorced generation and then ponder why the generations after are abstaing.

[@logmart8113]

Thanks to social media, we see what's coming.

[@CryptidBuddy]

Millennials have to be the worst generation of the past 200 years holy crap

[@Asara-k7e]

Not going to college does not mean someone isn't intelligent. College is overrated.

[@handsomeX]

I totally agree and I have a master's degree.

[@TheDezedez]

@@handsomeXsame

[@SerajAlhorany]

Am in college an what you say is 100%

[@BDKamerra]

I think he's forgetting about one thing. When people are out in public, no one talks to one another. When you do attempt conversation or branching out socially it's stilted and often unfruitful. Everyone seems so atomized, and there is no depth.

[@anthonyf616]

No eye contact, On their phones

[@joebriggs5781]

I hate that. I used to work in some big cities and would actually intentionally stay in hotels that were many blocks away from where I was working because I loved to walk the streets in the early morning and talk to people and grab coffee and breakfast and discuss things like the local sports teams...but it's just not really like that anymore. Everyone's on their phones.

[@anthonyf616]

@@joebriggs5781 it's pretty crazy how disconnected I feel outside. Not for a lack of trying. Almost like it's easier to form meaningless connections on social media. I hate this shit so much

[@TomesTheAmazing]

It's so true I feel like I'm committing a crime just by approaching a girl in public.

[@piccolo5346]

Try being the one person who's not on his phone in public, I guarantee you that you will catch strangers stare at you funny.

[@oocloudoo1549]

27, single, living at home. I’m 100% checked out.

[@mathisnotforthefaintofheart]

You got a job? Strive for financial independence! That is true freedom and you will enjoy it. Practice stealth wealth and nobody is bothering you.

[@oocloudoo1549]

@@mathisnotforthefaintofheart nah I’m pretty convinced America will collapse completely in 10 years or less. No sense in working while the flames burn the brightest

[@clauaome25]

lol you are super young

[@oocloudoo1549]

@@clauaome25 I’m about 50% through my lifespan actually

[@clauaome25]

@@oocloudoo1549 but for a man his dating life truly starts at 30, maybe 35.

[@1Skeptik1]

Woman: "Now that I am divorced, I don't understand why men my age don't want relationships leading to marriage?" Man: "How did your divorce turn out?" Woman: "I got custody of my kids, the house, alimony, child support, and half of everything, including his retirement."

[@kapsi]

why would you say that

[@1Skeptik1]

@@kapsi I am guessing you were never processed through the "system". In my case, after I paid the taxes (my liquidated 401K) and attorney fees there was not much left. My EX and "friend" bought a double wide (my retirement fund), I paid support and lived with a roommate in similar circumstances for 7 years. It took me 9 years to recover. Thirty-five years later I am a millionaire and I make a Country Club home by the Coast of Florida. My EX married her "friend" and they still have the doublewide. Comprende?

[@unreal4good367]

@@kapsi because it happens so frequently...

[@alaalfa8839]

It seems education is important for both genders. But there should be some balance, have freedom of choice. then as experts say those long-term marriages are flourishing if both have the same values, hobbies, same lifestyle. so it's interesting that when you see a couple from the same environment or same job, for example, music field or science field. they understand each other so much that their marriage is long-term, and they share similar points of view or values. It's like the music or the topics brings them together because of empathy. They put themselves in the shoes of the other person. For example, if both love sports or hiking or traveling there is a bigger chance that they will have a long-term relationship. I agree that men are designed to be high performers. As John Gray says estrogen makes women talk about emotions more often. 10 times more noticing emotions and problems when under stress. So I guess women should do some yoga or sport to be less in stress. Testosterone suppresses the estrogen in the man´s body, to be calmer and focus more on task. Testosterone is about problem-solving. So it's true that men are usually better leaders and problem solvers. He also says women should not force their husband to think too much about their emotions. She shouldn't ask him how do you feel, but What do you think? Because if she forces him to feel emotions too much, it's against his biology. But men feel happy to make the wife happy, or create values etc. He says men shouldn't ask women What do you think, but how do you feel? because if he forces her to think rationally and logically it is against her biology, She is becoming masculine. Love and empathy and gratitude are not about logic, its energy, and vibration as Einstein would say. because man expects her to have the type of thinking and feeling as women have thanks to estrogen. He teaches couples how to communicate properly. Empathy helps put each other in their shoes. But elderly men get much more estrogen and females get more testosterone. so it seems they should do some meditation yoga and not think bout their identity so much even Dr. Joe Dispenza says the less you think about your identity such as gender nation, profession, lifestyle, language, status etc. the better you focus on your tasks.

[@polpol1005]

Man: And most importantly, what was the reason for divorce?

[@robertobravo6834]

A real man loves himself so much that he doesn't need the love of anyone else.

[@mattwagnermovies6308]

I just turned 30, never been to college. Divorced after 8 years of marriage. This new life after my spiritual awakening has been so hard but so full of growth. Getting in touch with nature and getting out into the world has been really good!

[@DarkArmedDaddy1]

That’s a difficult time in a man’s life, you think you know a lot but you really know nothing, you’re still learning and maturing and gaining experience. It’s not easy, but as soon as I turned 30 my entire mindset shifted. Hang in there brothers

[@maryamdiao1509]

20s and anything before time is constant learning and growth it gets better in your 30s depends tbh on the person

[@louisfiorucci4904]

Gonna poke a hole in your thesis… I’m 35, single, backpack, do landscape and macro photography, work on major motion features, my job takes me accross the country, college educated, typically read about 50 books a year, and referee soccer…yet my very first date she wants to know about my 401k and student debt. I’ve been depressed overwhelmed with feelings of inadequacy obsessing over making more money, finding new qualification’s and activities like scuba and forklift certs, when I realized the key to happiness is lifting off the social pressure and just do me. I’m sorry I was not born into a life of overwhelming financial privilege. If I do better than my parents then I’ve done alright. This is why men are over it.

[@stephenjones5304]

How about this (my idea)?: "Success is not needing it."

[@somenuttysquirrel]

A rich and robust man of the world here! You could've stopped at backpacking & photography, and still been miles ahead of the 'gamer boys'. I spent half my life as a semi-pro guitarist (to the degree that I once worked with one of Taylor Swift's recording engineers)... these days, I'm practicing hand-drawn animation and would like to start a podcast..... think it's getting me laid? Think again x'D Keep doing you, amigo; you aren't a meal ticket.

[@neski311]

I don't think I'm ever gonna do better than my late dad. He was a beast. Too bad I couldn't learn crap from him. Fuck cancer

[@rapunzelz5520]

Ditch the apps. Maybe you will find a backpacker or photographer in your travels that you connect with. Don't give up. Take a different tack.

[@rapunzelz5520]

The lousy economy should get some of the blame.

[@seanlheeger]

Real friends no longer exist.

[@tappajaav]

Bullshit.

[@jbone9900]

​@@tappajaav it's the truth

[@tappajaav]

@@jbone9900 Nope. Not in the slightest.

[@jbone9900]

@@tappajaav most people are toxic to the core.

[@R_wir3]

@@jbone9900 they do, but you should have met them in your early years like I did. No, I don't have a big circle or friends or gf

[@BerserkGorilla]

Women just don't want me, dawg. I'm not going to lie about it

[@brianmcauley1]

They don’t want the majority of us bro 😂

[@lebossy]

I hope things are going better. I know it sucks

[@jimnfl7134]

@@lebossy 3 words always go into my mind: MONEY, MONEY. MONEY

[@lebossy]

@@jimnfl7134 Since the 70's wages have been stagnate and it's made the dynamic hard for everyone. We are all out here just trying to do our best. Money can make you feel like you are not stuck on the hamster wheel of life but it sure doesn't keep you warm at night.

[@snakeeyes9246]

​@@jimnfl7134I want money, and not to attract women. I want it to buy the house and the cars I want.

[@obijuankenobi3814]

I feel like the big thing for young men is that our efforts are not valued and appreciated, and that people just expect all these things from us like they're entitled to it. Asking a girl on a date is a big deal for a lot of guys. Putting yourself up for potential rejection and taking a hit to your confidence and ego. This was worth it almost all the time before because the act of asking a girl out was looked at as a very flattering thing to do. Even if she wasn't interested, she still respected the confidence and balls it took to go up and ask her that. Then when you go on the date, you pick her up, open the doors for her, move her seat for her, pay the bill, all these things for her. These were truly valued and appreciated but now, it seems like there are so many women out there who believe they are "the shit" and a "queen" and "Im a 10" so much that they feel entitled to those things. We don't mind doing those things for people who genuinely value and appreciate them, we absolutely don't want to do them for someone who feels like they're owed those things. The risk just isn't worth the reward anymore, at least not nearly as much as before. Don't get me wrong, I've gone on a few dates and some of them they really appreciated all the kind things I did for them and going the extra step. I don't want this to seem like it's every woman because it isn't, but I have met a lot of women who feel entitled to things. The world doesn't owe you shit, you are not a queen, you are not a "boss chick", you are a human being just like I am. Imagine I was walking around all the time calling myself a "boss man", a "king", saying I'm perfect and deserve all these things. Any woman with a connected brain stem would stay the hell away from me, and for good reason. We need to really reintroduce humbleness into our society. We don't need luxury, we don't need all these things, I don't need to make 100k+ a year to be happy. Focus on the things that really matter, human connection, family, relationships, etc. Social media has everyone's priorities mixed all the way up that we've lost the core reason to be in a serious relationship.

[@slapshotjack9806]

Just keep at it and you’ll find someone that’s high value as soon as they start gold digging just leave it

[@kourosh3538]

This comment was epic. Glad wise people like you still exist

[@CordeliaWagner]

Men qho do things for a woman want something in return. No nope, not going on a dinner date.

[@astronova3508]

@@CordeliaWagnerWhat’s wrong with them wanting something in return? What happened to EQUALITY

[@SEATACx]

@@CordeliaWagnerthey want to be treated with that same respect, what’s the issue?

[@Mike-eg3he]

I'm 28, poor, and unnatractive. I decided to stop looking. Eventually you get tired of constant rejection. Unfortunately I don't have anything to look forward to in the future either every time I try to improve my financial situation it never works out. At this point in some ways I feel like I'm just waiting to die, hopefully sooner than later.

[@MrMrsteve01]

You have to lower your standards sorry.

[@Mike-eg3he]

@@MrMrsteve01 What am I supposed to do, go to the bottom of the barrel? At a certain point it isn't worth it

[@piedramultiaristas8573]

Acts 2: 38 take a upci girl

[@rogermarin1712]

You are not the only one.

[@clauaome25]

Level up brother. Good luck.

[@flightmaster1213]

The problem I have is that everywhere I look I see happy couples. I got no matches on any apps, and get ghosted constantly. It’s making everything harder and it’s starting to affect most aspects of my life.

[@lidiagizaw3828]

get off the apps dude . meet women by going to events or do the same activities as u

[@jk22222sd]

As a guy who is 27, I would say this also affects many men who are in their late 20's, 30's, and on too. Everyone's goes through their journey differently.

[@CrossoverFan4life]

I honesty feel the deck is stacked against introverts overall and dating is one of the biggest categories where this is true.

[@Josh-fp2qn]

Women hate introverted men.

[@Josh-fp2qn]

America and women hate introverts

[@TwanBankz]

@@Josh-fp2qnespecially fat women lol biggest haters

[@Mirthe4390]

​@@Josh-fp2qnI don't I want an introvert

[@TerryProthero]

In my situation, I had autism that wasn't diagnosed until I was 44. This made me socially awkward, and when I tried dating at about the age of 20, it was a disaster. But worse than that, I was pursuing it because I falsely believed that I had to do this. After coming out of a long bout of depression, I came to realize that this was complete BS. Dating is an option. Not a requirement. Regardless of what fools might tell you. After giving it some thought, I came to realize it wasn't even anything I wanted to do in the first place. I find women attractive, but I realistically didn't offer anything they wanted, and they didn't offer me anything I wanted. Compatibility works in both directions, and I had never met a woman I was compatible with. In my case, it was an exchange that didn't benefit either party. And the more I learned about the process of dating, the more I didn't like it. So, I decided to drop the whole thing, and I have been much happier because of it. Now at age 52, I'm doing better in all aspects of my life because of it. If you want to date, go ahead. But never let people pressure you into it. It's an option. Not a requirement. You don't owe anyone anything. Look at your situation, and honestly assess whether dating is for you. If it is, go ahead and have fun with it. But don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself and try to make your entire self worth about how successful you are with women. There are so many things that are more important in life.

[@raymondojo4130]

FACTS, Society pressures can affect ones identity. You have to be comfortable within you own skin. Totally agree, dating is option, but know your life purpose is key.

[@slowlylosingit1967]

Really good advice. Wish everyone would read this.

[@Ariovistus50]

Women haaaaate autistic people like myself. They can't play mind games and manipulate us and we don't like to fake all the time and they can't stand that.

[@FloppaTheBased]

man you just lost your libido lol. As a young straight healthy male you can't just "forget about women" it doesn't work like that

[@TerryProthero]

@@FloppaTheBased I haven't lost my libido at all. I'm quite healthy in that regard for a 52 year old. Well, maybe more like a 20 or 30 year old. My right hand is also unusually strong for some reason. But that's probably unrelated. Yeah, it does work that way for men who aren't happy being a woman's b*tch.

[@higginslakelover3658]

If you're not 6'4", drive a pick up truck, where your hat backwards and treat women lousy that you won't get a girl.

[@Matty-fl2tu]

But if they are 6ft 4 spend 6hours in a gym all day and eat protein for the rest of the day and have no time for a girl, guess what they still fuckin get a girl 😂

[@explorermike19]

No. Dude, don't buy into that internet lie. You don't have to be 6'4" or have a six-figure income or any of that other stuff that that you hear about on internet videos. There are LOTS of women who will appreciate you, love you, and treat you like a king just for who you are. That said.... date them, but don't marry them. Women are good for men. Divorce courts are bad for men.

[@draza3083]

​@@explorermike19We call this: cognitive dissonance

[@explorermike19]

@@draza3083 indeed

[@draza3083]

@@explorermike19 I was talking about you my boy 💀

[@A_JoshOfAllTrades]

Not only are they dating older, they're dating (sharing tbh) the same small group of guys. Can't miss that part lol

[@Hypnotically_Caucasian]

polygamy with extra steps and less loyalty...

[@chinchilla415]

The top men have soft harems. The fact that women either don't underatand this, or gaslight men saying it's not the case, either just showcase how the more empathic gender have NP capability to have empathy for men.

[@karlstrauss2330]

It’s not just for guys in the 20s. I’m in my 30s and I can’t get dates despite being more established than I was 10 years ago.

[@kitty1256x]

Over 40 will be even harder

[@maryamdiao1509]

How come you think that’s so?

[@steph6109]

25 -40 is the sweet spot for men. Visually appealing, somewhat fit and energetic, more financially stabilised and mentally matured. Men at 40 start having the erectile dysfunction, beer belly and receeding hairline comes through, body pains start. Wrinkles start coming in etc. Start. The older you get the worse it gets.

[@GGWP-nx3kn]

It‘s all about your looks. No woman cares about how established a man is, unless they wish to fleece him. Women get piped down by lifetime felons on the daily. 😂

[@markremy4946]

@@steph6109 What's the sweet spot for women. I think it ends at early 20s.After that, they are the pits.Even young girls today are mostly fat, pierced and tattoes with blue hair. Unappealing!!!

[@mitthrawnuruodo1730]

As a 25yo male, I’m focusing on my career. I want to find someone but my job comes first.

[@NKN82]

Cool but the youth, health, energy, and wishes not longs forever. I'm 32 and every year after 30 I want less and less. From 15 to 30 age girls looks for you so damn beautiful and wanted, but when you getting older they looks for you just like average any random people, they all the fkn same and you have low motivation to get relationship.

[@joshua50101]

​@@NKN82 I am hearing you pal (metaphorically speaking) now imagine how it is for a 42 year old man like me. I cant be bothered anymore.

[@0fficialselena__90]

AS YOU SHOULD!

[@JediTiga]

Corporate America has succeeded. That's what they want you to do. Your occupation comes first. No significant other or kids to prioritize? Looks like you can work more hours and devote more to your meaningless job. Any corporation's dream is a slave-wager who will give all their labor to them their entire life without any other wants or desires. Now ask yourself who is behind the destruction of the family unit and the rise of "independent" women? It's no coincidence that the "solution" for both genders in this new twisted culture is to focus on their "career". Then everyone applauds.

[@Rudolph_Manor]

I'm 34 turning 35 this year and I love my inner peace and I'm taking a break from dating and relationships to focus on myself. 💯 I'm glad to be single and childless. 💯

[@jaysouthmusic8230]

I don’t blame you I’m 24 and I’m the same way

[@gobot4455]

As a married man, I would say stay single guys. Keep your friend group. Travel. Meet up at the local bar. The women I dated in my day were not great. I can't imagine it has gotten better with time and it is better to be comfortable by yourself than alone with a wife/gf.

[@konstantinrebrov675]

Meet up at the local bar? Why would you want to date an alcoholic?

[@RossLemon]

Meet up at the local bar? No thank you. OF wh*res aren't my type.

[@danielgomez7236]

It's a lot worse today, all they want is to be "tiktokers" or "streamers", be OnlyFans models, have a lot sugar daddies, I will follow your advice.

[@KFrost-fx7dt]

konstantinrebrov675 keep making excuses to not do work.

[@drink.juice.]

@@KFrost-fx7dt ??

[@aldimbog]

39 year old here, getting close to 40. Had 1 serious relationship only in 2014-2017, we lived together. But I learned the hard way that she, like most women, cared more about what I could do for her and not so much about me, while from my end I had no expectations and just wanted to be with her and loved her. This is the key issue I think... many guys like me realized that all women want from them is to provide - time, money, attention... some women are obfuscating this simple truth, others are very blunt about it which is a major turn off. Funny enough when I was younger I lived under an illusion that women are delicate, need to be fought for, that they are somehow special. Now thanks to my ex I understand that they are just regular people who use certain things to get what they want, and are probably too focused on self survival/putting themselves first. Selfish. And can they be really blamed for it, when so many men out there are ready to provide? not really. I think many men, including me, just learned to be selfish too - thats all. Either way, it's been an awakening.. some get that knowledge much earlier in life, others much later, and others don't even learn and keep repeating the same mistakes.

[@rc6115]

I agree, I have the same age than you and I think many women are fucked up and that dating market sucks, but do you realize that you are extrapolating 1 single experiencie into billions of people?

[@aldimbog]

@@rc6115 I am very likely extrapolating that 1 real experience (before her there were many short-lived bullshit times, 1 random nice 1 night stand, but mostly just pointless 1-sided shit). I didnt get much experience but I guess I learned a lot from that 1. Plus I look around, seeing how guys in my circle doing everything for their gfs. There're also dating apps of course - been swiping for years now, seeing more of the same "I like this, I like that, I need a gentleman", all asking for stuff. I am just tired of giving, and since I started focusing on my own needs its become easier to live really

[@aldimbog]

Also forgot to mention about $. With her my account shrunk in a major way (gifts, trips all that good stuff). But being 7 years single I accumulated enough and got an investment property. I keep thinking - had I been with her still, or anyone else and their "me me me" crap, I would've been only doing that - running around and catering to their needs. I honestly think that we men weren't born just to keep someone happy. It shouldn't be hard work either. I dunno.. maybe those nice not very demanding women exist, but I think they are truly rare :\

[@rrrealqueen]

​@@aldimboglmao the only thing i ask for my husband to save up some money for emergency for him cause hes a spender... i was never a spender i would only ever want atleast one date or two dates a week it doesnt have to include money but certainly food. Its a mutual bonding. My hisband spoila ne with clothes but im not a material girl i rather save it for a trip w him or something

[@aldimbog]

@@rrrealqueen thats great! I wish more women were like you :\

[@jacobtani9785]

I’m In my early 20s and is still a virgin, never had a girlfriend, hell haven’t even had my first kiss yet. I’ve already given up about a year and a half ago on trying to find my life partner. If i was to start dating again, I have always been a dating to marry type of person, not the dating for hookups, one night stands etc. type of people that are now majority of my generation. It’s embarrassing to be a part of a generation that has ruined dating for everyone else that are actually more mature, have self-respect, common sense, and is responsible. Most of my generation are the exact opposite of these qualities said above. When I did try and put myself out there, all I got was rejected or used. It opened my eyes to how the dating world works now. I’m about a 7 or 8 in looks and workout 4 times a week consistently, still trying to work my way to becoming a law enforcement officer and I’m almost there. It’s just a complicated process in itself for this specific type of field but it’s steadily progressing. I’m an armed security guard as of right now and it’s already hard for me to make ends meet because of where I live. All in all most women of my generation would see me as a red flag due to not being financially stable yet rich. I don’t do drugs, smoke, vape, drink, party or go clubbing which is all red flags as well to most women of my generation. That’s why I have given up because these women want more negative aspects influencing their life than positive and it shows how delusional they can be.

[@christiansnaturestudio6599]

It's their loss if they don't see the awesome value in you. You deserve the very best woman.

[@NV-qe3px]

same position as you. and the moment we find the "one" 9 times out of 10 she already got multiple bodies. can't win this shit dawg

[@elh2983]

Save money and go to an Escort. I am serious about that it will help you to get over the bitterness and you will be less woried about life.

[@avostorm8111]

I mean I'm sure you can find a virgin girl, you just may not be that attracted to her. So you really got to look inside to see what you want.

[@brett.c1649]

Dude go to a farmers market look for the girls selling soap or baking goods. Worked for me

[@darkpaw1522]

I’m a woman but I’ll give my synopsis: The bar to date for men is high. It’s always been higher for men. Money the primary factor, this is true throughout all of history. So what happens when more people are poorer? You’d then say, well women are poorer too. And you’d be right. But just because a woman is poorer doesn’t mean her expectations are as equal to men; they’re often higher, especially financially. They’re looking for men who make more money than them, in a world where the average man is poorer every year. For the women who do “settle” they often offer little. Sex and intimacy is a strong motivation for men; it’s not everything, but men like to feel desired, like their hard work paid off. *Men want to feel validation.* Women have not been making men feel desired; not the average man anyway. People work harder today and are poorer than ever. So men are now working towards a prize that doesn’t exist, validation. And if women don’t provide validation, men simply look for it somewhere else. Men choose to be single, not because they dislike dating, simply because the juice isn’t worth the squeeze. So now you have a ton of average poor men dating down, and a bunch of average poor women dating up. The stats are 66% vs. 34% because women simply they date multiple men; but doesn’t mean all men they’re dating is equal in their eyes.* They simply date multiple men and/or just date down for a bit; where as men don’t have that option, as less and less women even below them are willing to settle, let alone giving the man validation. With the average man already having less opportunities to date as I’d, it puts men in a place where they have the most expectations and the least reward. As time gone on the scales tipped too far, and now there’s too few women willing to date, and too few men who fit those same women criteria. Men are fighting a battle with odds against them, with a prize not worth all the effort. So they focus their efforts on prizes they can not only obtain but makes them feel desired and validated. They stopped playing the game all entirely.

[@zsedcftglkjh]

Looks like equality was fool's gold. Well said. I'll say a prayer for you at Church next Sunday.

[@NoNameWillBeGiven778]

Good job woman. You inflated the l0sers' deluded egos

[@NoNameWillBeGiven778]

​@@anotherland2462you have no wife chump

[@ninagrace-lee8323]

I somewhat disagree. Like Red Pillers say, the market will decide your value. A lot of men conveniently ignore this fact when it doesn’t fit their narrative. The world is a competence hierarchy. More now than ever, men and women have to compete for resources. We need more skilled labor, people who can solve complex problems with max impact. The men who refuse to become competitive in the job market are at the bottom. They tend to make excuses about why they can’t get a college degree or 2, why they can’t make more money, why they can’t work 50 hour weeks. Meanwhile 20% of women are actually becoming the men they wish to date. If men want more options, they need to stop being lazy and EARN the lifestyle they want. Go to a high earning field, pay your dues, save up your money and when you get to a certain financial threshold, look for a quality woman. Men still have 1950s expectations, while women are working towards 2030. Guys don’t have room to be traditional any more - they need to stack their money and forecast for what the world will look like in the future. The future is egalitarian, which means you won’t attract a slim woman with decent earnings if you aren’t her equal.

[@hannahstriker]

@@ninagrace-lee8323 But you completely contradicted yourself here. Women like yourself, also conveniently leave out the facts that do not fir their narrative. According to the available statistics, men, on average, not only earn more than most women do, they also work more hours than women, take more overtime, take less paid leave and work more dangerous jobs. Even women that have white collar careers, work less hours than their male counterparts and take more time off work to focus on their children instead. The problem is that women like yourself, have the 1950's mentality when it comes to dating, but also with a modern twist(as long as it benefits you of course). In another comments of yours, you scoffed at a man complaining that some women expect "princess treatment", while offering nothing in return. And that is where the real problem lies, in that you expect men to behave in a "Traditional" manner, to be more "Masculine", financial providers and all that. While you simoultaneously do not hold women to the same standards. You expect men to offer you the world, without giving them anything in return. And even viewing women behaving in a more "Traditional" as being "oppressive", even though you expect men to behave in a similar manner. Women like yourself do not absolutely long for an "Egalitarian" future in the slightest. Expecting men to be the pinnacles of "Masculinity", while viewing women being attractive and thin as "oppressive", is not very "Egalitarian", innit?

[@CognitoH4zrd]

I'm 26 years old (getting close to 27) and I have no desire to have someone in my life. I realised there's only one person that's gonna take care of me and that's me alone. I'm gonna be making that money and taking care of myself and my mental health.

[@fayelis]

on the last days men will be lovers of themselves

[@notafortnitegamer]

It’s time to watch school days bro

[@CognitoH4zrd]

@@notafortnitegamer school days? Is it a show or movie?

[@notafortnitegamer]

@@CognitoH4zrd it’s an anime , easy to find on the internet

[@andrewevans7992]

26 here too.. i can’t imagine seeing myself with anyone anymore unless I leave the usa

[@williamreif5609]

I'm 60, and the young men today have outsmarted me by not getting married. You guys rock.Stay focused dudes. 😅🤣👍😎PEACE

[@User37717]

Thanks baby, you single?

[@lavelhare3723]

True

[@gendalfgray7889]

Was marriage that bad?

[@definitelynotjiraiya5063]

​@@gendalfgray7889Lol. 😂

[@nondisclosure2848]

They are living at home with mama.

[@himbe23]

Dude- that Male friend point. Totally Accurate. I have bonded over the past year and a half with my pastor. He continuously pushes me to do better and gives me unbelievable respect. I work out with him, study the Bible with him, and learn a lot with him. Absolutely powerful words. Thank you.

[@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485]

That’s a mentor right there

[@Englishnamee]

Thats a dream mentor right there 🙏

[@himbe23]

@@Englishnamee he's awesome!

[@aaronjohnson7656]

Here are some double standards that I think about sometimes. If a guy breaks up with a girl for any reason, we consider it okay for the girl to lash out and call him a selfish, inconsiderate piece of sh*t. If a girl breaks up with a guy, the guy just has to take it and not complain, regardless of what the reason for the breakup is. Also, if a guy dumps a girl simply to date a hotter girl, he's considered a douche bag, but if a girl does the same thing, she's "leveling up".

[@man58652]

But we men also have double standards We see a man who break girls heart a cool mf while a girl doin this is a bich For me both are wh*res

[@PeterB87]

This isn’t being talked about at all, men need have the skills in identifying red flags and not tolerate those women. You need to have the ability to reject women and never think about them ever again (giving women validation). Stop chasing women that have zero interest in dating you.

[@577jrock]

This is true, but near impossible to do. When you go for years without getting attention from an attractive woman and then you get one interested in you, it's near impossible to walk away from her without a fight.

[@ChurlzVA]

​@@577jrock Sorry brother, but you've gotta stop that way of negative thinking.

[@TwanBankz]

@@577jrockits not impossible bro but it does suck unfortunately 😂

[@dustysgarden2254]

We’ve all lost our way. Younger women are aggressive and non traditional. Career focus and not family/home focused. Younger Men are softer and have less drive for physical long careers and basically are scared of these demanding women.

[@20thcentury_toy]

I don't think young man being scared is necessarily a problem, I'm pretty sure this fear existed far before our time and will still do after, the thing is that young man have no incentives to face this fear. Fight the world, secure the bag so you could maybe get a mediocre wife doesn't sound like a good deal

[@michaelrodriguez3329]

Well Said

[@jessesdomain444]

​@@20thcentury_toyit's even harder to "secure the bag" since we're entering a great depression

[@lewis10599]

@@20thcentury_toy I think he meant scared as in resorting to seeking validation from women rather than being the lead..

[@tomh2425]

@@20thcentury_toy These thoughts have been in my head for some time: Non-traditional (I get that some is outdated but blindly following progressive ideas no thx), career-focused, highly demanding while not bringing much to the table, "need to experience" (lol)... It is probably just a bigger symptom of the state of society.

[@JEFFMAN90]

Looks like the so called black pilled losers were right after all. People need to give them an apology straight up

[@dsds3968]

People prefer easy to digest lies rather than difficult truths.

[@AbuBased731]

Le Bla¢kPill remain Undefeated

[@Josh-fp2qn]

Young women want looks, status, money. Older women want money, looks, status.

[@riasgremory80]

The blackpill is the ultimate truth

[@gregrodgers107]

I’ll stay single for as long as it takes, had plenty of relationships, all they do is drain your time, energy, resources, sanity, and most of all my peace, my job is hard enough why do I want extra drama? Nah I like my peace

[@lax8189]

That’s exactly how I feel

[@CynthiaAlorney-kh8hq]

Hello

[@gekko505505505]

this

[@UndefynedVariable]

Them 34% are also only "single". Meaning at least half of them are in situationships imo

[@kezmenflowers8691]

Dating older, dating each other, dating the same man or choosing to remain single.

[@tonym3712]

What analysts missed is that Chad and Tyron keep a harem.

[@o0julek0o]

I was going to write a comment but it literally couldn’t matter less if I do or not. Nobody will actually listen, nobody will help, and nothing will change.

[@leteci_]

True unfortunately. Only you can help yourself.

[@TheAntiMan-k2d]

sadly so

[@dalepetersen1166]

I think two or three women are dating the same guy and each one of the women think they're in a committed relationship when the guy is really just playing the field. That's what's going on with the numbers

[@Bennysol]

Exactly. I've been saying that for years

[@andreatosi342]

Partly, they are sharing, they are dating older + THERE ARE MORE YOUNG MALES. (And there are more old females like after 60 so this is the reason for ~50% gender distribution)

[@kw5961]

Andrew Hubermans

[@eeroala5132]

I thnk a lot of 18-29 year old women think they are in relationships when in reality, they are just one of many options for Mr. Chad. These ladies are diluting themselves and wasting their prime years.

[@Hiperid]

Hypergamy is the real reason. In a nutshell, majority of today's modern women want man who is better and more successful than them in most important life segments. They want higher earner, more intelligent, better educated, stronger and emotionally stable partner on who they can look up to. It's in their nature and gene code, but real question is what they provide in return? Are they pretty, friendly, fit, feminine, supportive? In most cases they are not, and have zero incentive to work on themselves, because they think options are unlimited. Thats why most of them remain single, or divorced with kids. By 2050, projections are that more than 50 percent of woman in their thirties will be single and childless. Problem is real, and future is grim for both sexes.

[@kubasniak]

Depopulation agenda is working as intended. People on top cheering with champagne.

[@ss2gora0]

- says the sexless AI

[@annatar6453]

It’s not 2050, it’s by 2030

[@LexRex11]

Its not even natural hypergamy though. Its an over inflated form.

[@vikingrolloishot1789]

Women are fine being single and childfree. Less headaches and problems from men. It's best both genders go our separate ways. All a man will give you is babies and poverty.

[@greganderson2239]

I’ve been single for 7 long years and I’m tired of it.

[@JosephusAurelius]

I’m 24 and have dated maybe 10 times and ‘chatted up’ maybe 30 women. If you aren’t totally perfect in their eyes or don’t play with their mind games, you are just an ‘option’ in the queue of 10s or even 100s of other guys. I have no compassion for these types of women

[@theoutlander9564]

As a man who has spent a year on several dating sites and has sifted through over 20,000 profiles resulting in less than five conversations and 0 dates I can tell you that dating apps and dating in general don't work... I'm 6 ft 2 and physically fit and my best year was 334,000 usd, there is literally no hope in dating.

[@chuck1052]

Women on dating apps are delusional. It's best to meet someone from your social circle.

[@mabru4318]

Make rounds at certain spots (resto, lounge, gym, beach/trail, farmers market, church etc) Inspire sexual tension. Don't lead with money or status. You've got the rest covered.

[@jonathanbuck2564]

this comment absolutely crushed me. God help us. If there's no hope for someone like you then I should probably just off myself right now.

[@Chris-lp8mz]

Money doesn't mean much on these apps. It's mostly for hookups. You just need a job and be extremely attractive. Not like a 7, more an 8, preferably a 9 or 10 to have it like girls.

[@mikesantos011]

Money doesn't matter on dating apps, literally all based on looks

[@hellworld3000]

when i kept getting rejected even by really low tier women i was smart enough to check out

[@__Shun]

samee if only u saw who i just got rejected by i wanna just end it all

[@andre1987eph]

At age 26 I got accepted to a University of California medical school. I messed around for 3 years looking for love (past gf, new campus gf, mail order ladies from Russia ) instead of mastering anatomy and biology. I got kicked out at age 29. I needed a man to sit down with me for a day and teach me how life really worked. I never received that counseling but I became that man 30 years too late. My advice is a man in his 20s 30s 40s should only be focused on The Grind. Relationships will only be a setback

[@PLsexpicklePL]

I like the casual mention of mail order brides lol!

[@tomh2425]

what are mail order ladies, and what are you doing now? :P

[@bucktooth002]

​@@tomh2425you marry one & after 5-8 years you get divorce.

[@mattdelany6799]

True.

[@smegmatic308]

@@luminouslight3579 it's enticing now. Have you seen any women lately?

[@dragonbeardable]

Women don't care as much about getting cheated on, what else is the explanation for only 34% of women being single?

[@TheGumbyRules]

Lots of sharing of men.

[@factsondeck1552]

Why care about cheating when you’re in it for the cash

[@americancapitalist9094]

Dating older men and eachother.

[@hillsideonly]

​@@factsondeck1552 true

[@bucktooth002]

Women would rather share a man over just having a one on one relationship.

[@likearollingstone007]

It wasn’t like that pre-socials media

[@joeswanson733]

obviously it wasnt as noticeable and again like money expectation has inflation as well as we saw that over time since they're doing better they would expect more... and with limitations on technology there was only so much their loonacy could go as they were tied to down geographical location or whomever would actually enter their life flow or social circles.

[@navinsingh5819]

WOMEN looking for rich guys rejecting poor ones sounds like prostitution to me.

[@jbowen867]

That is all women tho. Not new all women are prostitutes in one way or another

[@TheAntiMan-k2d]

dating is just expensive prostitution

[@-acidArmor]

My parents divorced when i was 12, and i've witnessed the entire process from start to finish. It wasn't pretty. Now i'm 30 and ONLY NOW i'm realising how much of an influence that divorce had on me. For 18 years i've had a mindset of not getting in the relationship because it's gonna fall apart anyway, and hadn't even realised it that clearly before now. When i've met attractive and single girls at the parties, university, meetings and work, my mind have been rejecting every single one of them by default. The worst(best?) part is, it's not gonna change, because i still think i'm better this way. The solo grind brought me a successful job, strong healthy body and my own place.

[@ChaddeusThaddeus]

Messy parental divorce at 12 gang

[@alaalfa8839]

It seems education is important for both genders. But there should be some balance, have freedom of choice. then as experts say those long-term marriages are flourishing if both have the same values, hobbies, same lifestyle. so it's interesting that when you see a couple from the same environment or same job, for example, music field or science field. they understand each other so much that their marriage is long-term, and they share similar points of view or values. It's like the music or the topics brings them together because of empathy. They put themselves in the shoes of the other person. For example, if both love sports or hiking or traveling there is a bigger chance that they will have a long-term relationship. I agree that men are designed to be high performers. As John Gray says estrogen makes women talk about emotions more often. 10 times more noticing emotions and problems when under stress. So I guess women should do some yoga or sport to be less in stress. Testosterone suppresses the estrogen in the man´s body, to be calmer and focus more on task. Testosterone is about problem-solving. So it's true that men are usually better leaders and problem solvers. He also says women should not force their husband to think too much about their emotions. She shouldn't ask him how do you feel, but What do you think? Because if she forces him to feel emotions too much, it's against his biology. But men feel happy to make the wife happy, or create values etc. He says men shouldn't ask women What do you think, but how do you feel? because if he forces her to think rationally and logically it is against her biology, She is becoming masculine. Love and empathy and gratitude are not about logic, its energy, and vibration as Einstein would say. because man expects her to have the type of thinking and feeling as women have thanks to estrogen. He teaches couples how to communicate properly. Empathy helps put each other in their shoes. But elderly men get much more estrogen and females get more testosterone. so it seems they should do some meditation yoga and not think bout their identity so much even Dr. Joe Dispenza says the less you think about your identity such as gender nation, profession, lifestyle, language, status etc. the better you focus on your tasks.

[@Vilayat_Khan]

only now after i m 33 i realize how much my mom suicide had on me. i was 9

[@nickem6556]

If i will ever have kids, i will feed them all blackpilled video in a row with raw statistics so they will not even try :p

[@BuTanka]

I feel for you. you are strong@@Vilayat_Khan

[@edwardcrow6385]

All I picked up from this was that I should give up on dating in my 20s and just focus on my self. If I fail at becoming successful by my mid 30s it’s game over and I have to start over again from the spawn point. Well, wish me luck brothers!

[@Yggdrasill8]

The true goal is to not spawn back here and stay up there

[@askme2985]

I'm 36 and single. All of my friends are single besides one. For what it means we all went to college as well. My best friend I grew up with had a very bad break up years ago where this girl out of the blue just ended the relationship. He hasn't been in a relationship since. If you're going to have a relationship with a younger American born and raised white female, good luck. I find many of them to have mental issues, expecting the world to be handed to them on a silver platter, can't cook if their lives depended on it and think they're the best thing there is with the attitudes many of them carry. I've had good luck with Latina's that were raised out of this country. Talking with some Colombian girls that are interested in getting to know me and vice versa. They're also not into the pronouns bullshit, I identify as zi/they and whatever other silliness. Not all young born and raised American white females are bad, but for me Latina's fit the bill. Traditional. Like a man to take the lead while supporting him and don't seem to have all these mental problems going on.

[@valley6824]

@@MeyCord love doesn’t exist. Save us your bs.

[@ThomasAlexander734]

Bro, I agree with you 100%! Lol, pronouns zi/they 😂

[@ChipmunkGuyGamerGaming]

Be very careful with Colombians and South Americans in general. I have a lot of friends who go down there specifically for the women, however a lot of them really only want to be around you for your money due to the amount of poverty down there. Idk that I would look for a wife down there. Maybe try Eastern Europe.

[@joebeta1837]

That's sad that White American women are the way you describe them. I find America White women very beautiful and have been wanting to date one.

[@divineeye1254]

@@valley6824 Love exists but only me and god have it.. everyone is just transactional

[@andrewmath7719]

I dont think they are all dating older. They just consider being in chads rotation not being single.

[@cybernetic_crocodile8462]

Damn, dating and relationships sound horrible and super difficult. No wonder so many fellow guys of my age just gave up on them.

[@jaysouthmusic8230]

You have no idea man

[@Yggdrasill8]

​@@jaysouthmusic8230 It's going to get crazier with that 2030 prediction of a huge population chunk of lonely single 40 year old women and the advent of AI/Robotics relationships. 40 to 80 is a long time to spend alone for these women. Are these 40 year old single women going to all try and share those few successful 40 year old men, and would these top tier men even want those worn out bitter ladies, and would the single 40 year old betas even want them when their AI virtual or robotic girl is angelic by comparison?

[@Teimo]

Ive been saying this for a while. We as men need to grow our expectations higher and stop giving women whatever they want while also sacrificing our own well-being. This isnt supposed to be for revenge or anything, but because women have so much more freedom in choosing their partner, they can be so much more picky than us men. And we as men keep simping and sacrificing who we are just to be with a woman. This isn't healthy for either gender and this isn't to make women feel worse. It's to make it fair

[@jaysouthmusic8230]

THANK YOU someone finally said it. As men we should up our standards and not settle for women that do not deserve us at our best

[@NV-qe3px]

us men are taught to be 100 percent perfect while women are already perfect. biggest load of horseshit man

[@user-wi1us5br6m]

To all my boys out there struggling in this cruel world, i feel your pain every single day. I have struggled all my life with women and low self esteem that they caused. Im 30 and never even kissed a girl. The couple of dates from online that i have landed ended with "i dont feel a romantic connection to you". I have zero friends and almost always have had no friends since my teen years. I feel i am losing the will to live at this point. Still live with my parents and women dont want me for that reason whenever they find out online. I cry daily now with this. This is the male privilege that i hear all the women talk about. They dont realize how good they have it. They are just very selfish and conceited. That is my rant. Dont be afraid to make connections online with other guys in this predicament. It can help with the deep pain you may be feeling.

[@johnedwards230]

My suggestion would be to try and Cultivate hobbies and interests, hopefully that'll give you a chance of developing friendships by joining groups

[@Linksballs]

Just wondering, have you been going on dates with women who you'd say are in your league looks-wise? For example if you're overweight, are you going on dates with overweight women?

[@bro918]

This is truly gutwrenching to read... i know thisll be me in 5 years

[@VonGoldfinger]

I’m not an expert but it sounds like you need professional help. If I was you I would seek consultation from a psychologist to solve that. Friendships are communities that you have to seek out and fit in. It can be anything: world of Warcraft, the gym, army, salsa dancing. Life is not about wailing and complaining for us men: we need to get out there and conquer the world.

[@huguescorbeil1999]

I really don’t mean to be mean, but it sounds like you have some work to do. You can’t be a 3/10 (not saying thats what you are) and want a 8/10. Go to the gym, learn new skills, get a decent job and move out. Of course women are not going to want to get with you if you’re out of shape or not independent.

[@jimm9157]

36 years old. Had friends. They got married and now I see them every couple months or so. I haven't dated in over a decade. Online dating sucks. Cold approaches suck. I'm about to go live in the woods.

[@math1181]

Just curious Why didn't you date and get married around the same time as your friends?

[@mmm-ie5ws]

just think about it. IDK this guy but I know the answer, Not surprised women dont know squat about men.@@math1181

[@Robodude_0528]

@@math1181 I’m 36 and unmarried, I think I can answer for him: Dating is basically impossible for an average man. While I do get dates, they can barely get past the 3 month mark. People (especially women) are way more picky now. No one wants to put in effort. If the relationship hits the inevitable minor speed bump, it’s over. On to the next one. I think it’s a miracle anyone is able to form lasting relationships at all these days

[@andrewevans7992]

@@math1181you really cant figure that out?! Its literally why 66% of men are single, its cause you greedy 304’s didn’t like anything about him that you could use.. doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that out

[@LisaFenton-h7f]

Perhaps, focus on developing new interests you'd meet new people for both friendship & romance. Sorry but, LIFE REQUIRED EFFORT. nO EFFORT MEANS NOT GETTING THE RESULTS YOU WANT.

[@Aidyn3000]

The blackpill is that men need to climb an endless mountain of self improvement before they even have a shot at being in a relationship whereas women only need to exist in order to score a guy. Being in nature and hanging out with "the guys" may help for people who are already socially well-adjusted, but it isn't going to help men who have been socially isolated from any positive social contact for so long that they've completely lost the ability to talk and connect to people. Abject social isolation is a problem unique to modern men, and it's not something that a stroll through the forest is automatically going to fix.

[@fayelis]

If your not a chad you need to carry mountains just to be with an average women, who will statistically divorce you later on anyway. 💀

[@acct4600]

@@fayelis even Chad & Tyrone are struggling & i'm a 6'5" Tyrone. if its not the looks or the height, its the money or something else. they'll smash but they won't settle down. they require more cash.

[@fayelis]

@@acct4600 Nah chads are not struggling lol.

[@acct4600]

@@fayelis chads & tyrones aren't finding wife material or long term relationships among american women. they're just smashing & passing. you can only do that for so long... guarantee you old chads are struggling to find decent women to settle down with out of this batch of women. by the time they're of a certain age, they're all ran through.

[@FamilyIsGone]

​@@acct4600yeah blackpillers don't understand this

[@seguramlk]

It's not just in the States my friend. It's a global phenomenon. Here in Brazil we are going towards the same direction at an alarming pace

[@DedsecSyndicate666]

my names Chris i live in canada and the women here seek money and i rather go to Japan Britain or maybe russia to find someone

[@oswaldjameslangston6008]

​@@DedsecSyndicate666not britain 😂

[@somenuttysquirrel]

It is indeed a global phenomenon... out of all the countries I've studied on this subject, China seems to be in the most abysmal state: 躺平 "Tang Ping".

[@DedsecSyndicate666]

@@somenuttysquirrel damn rise of entitlement

[@somenuttysquirrel]

@@DedsecSyndicate666 Rise of men throwing in the towel because the threshold is too high.