Me And Girlfriend "Opened" Our Relationship And Now It's Losing It's Spark r/Relationships

[@lovinglifebutnotonearth3909]

Story two: the OP needs to reread the line she wrote about the world not revolving about the celebrity's daughter. That goes for the OP's daughter too

[@flowerjpotter1629]

That's so true. What did she think the security was for ? Haha, someone said the mean word to her daughter, they told her no. How dare they !!! Thunders the entitled mother.

[@MiraTheWarlock]

Yeah the entire post reminded me of that girl who snapped a picture with Harry Styles At a family members funeral That she crashed

[@paulinadeboer3604]

THIS!

[@12skuly]

@@MiraTheWarlock what this the first time hearing about that how can anyone be so heartless

[@carolinenagel7085]

Some people seem to think that famous people are public property and should do the public's bidding anytime, anywhere.

[@MizTameRumors]

This was doomed from the go. Her motives for opening the relationship were not 'to regain the spark' , she just wants to be single but she's doesn't have the balls to break up with him.

[@sonialinsey8083]

He spent 5 minutes sleeping around and found a better girl lol. His gf needs HELP.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: Aaand this is why you don't open up monogamous relationships ✨️ Yet another story to add to the "Partner asks to open the relationship so they can see others without guilt but then goes insane when their partner also starts seeing other people" list

[@nikkismith2858]

It's only when the other partner finds a bond with another person. The bond is the biggest threat because it's special & hard to replicate compared to random sex

[@jackchop1576]

@@nikkismith2858 You must be the ex-gf from Story 1.

[@jesterbob828]

@@jackchop1576 LMAO

[@AmukaAkuma]

99%, she had the first candidate(s) lined up before even having the convo with OP.

[@golden_leader9227]

@@AmukaAkuma I think so too. Usually the person that wants to open the relationship suggests it so, in their mind, it doesn't count as cheating. They already have one or multiple side choices lined up.

[@k3upikachu]

Oh my God the entitlement of the person whose daughter didn't get to meet a celebrity. No self-awareness. Did they realize that that "minute to take a picture with a fan" would become hours if they stopped for every fan I want you to take a picture? They're just trying to set boundaries. I hate people who think that celebrities don't deserve privacy and personal lives bc they're in the public eye

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

"My GF has changed so completely overnight that she reads like a case-study of someone who got a girder shot through her brain, & has started disrespecting me financially, & IDK what I should do." Me in the cheap seats, holding up a big sign: *"YOU SHOULD LEAVE HER BRO"*

[@owl7072]

Pfft 🤭

[@audreym3908]

I need you in my cheap seats and tell me that the next time I'm in a no good relationship. 😂

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

@@audreym3908 happy to render that service, I work for free as my gift to mankind. ;-)

[@audreym3908]

@@mysterylovescompany2657 You'll be paid in whatever food/snacks/drinks you want lol

[@carolroberts4614]

There's nothing like heckling from the cheap seats!

[@michamocha]

I think it's pretty ironic how Op says the celebrity needs to remember that the world doesn't revolve around her when she's angry over the woman for wanting a day to herself to spend time with her own daughter. Op should take a page from her own book and analyze that statement for herself. Yeah, it's normal to feel a bit bummed out, but you're not entitled to a celebrity's time. You're paying for their music, not their attention when you demand it.

[@thedestroyasystem]

Exactly. Also, I don’t understand how people can admire and respect a person so much that they get giddy at the thought of interacting with them, but NOT admire and respect them enough to leave them tf alone. I would much rather see my favorite celebrities in person and leave them be, than possible be an annoyance, inconvenience, or worse to them.

[@delmarhi]

The Karen factory is a 24 hour operation. Just keep churning them out. This lady is going for employee of the month.

[@robertx8020]

PPL Like OP never do any self reflexion. They always need to blame others!

[@buildtherobots]

I can't imagine how the celebrity's daughter feels about having a famous mom who people always want to take pictures with her, even on your birthday at your party.

[@SaphireSalvatore940]

Story 2: "the girl needs to learn that the world doesn't revolve around her" OP cannot seriously be that oblivious. She's the one who needs to learn that very lesson

[@ElleD308]

Let's be real, when an SO asks for an open relationship and "immediately" finds someone, it's because they were already cheating or wanted a guilt-free opening for someone they already have.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: YTA way to teach your daughter that the world owes her everything. OP has a LOT of audacity for that "she need to learn the world doesn't revolve around her" line.

[@1911odisea]

Story 1: It's kinda crazy how much sympathy people have for women. She sounds absolutely horrible and abusive. If the genders were reversed, people would screaming to high heaven for OP to leave, not wondering if she is depressed or her parents were mean to her.

[@AmukaAkuma]

It's reddit, what did you expect.

[@andysheepleton]

That plus there's nothing wrong with looking after your own self interests. Let's say that she had horrible depression and that is why she acted the way she did. Why is that OP's problem? Actually that really seems like an even better reason to break up with her. He isn't helping anyone by artificially enabling her to just screw him over by supporting her while she does. This just adds to her warped version of the world. Never set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm.

[@briansmaller7443]

Celeb story - this is why celebs like filming in New Zealand. They can sit in a cafe and nobody bothers them. When LoTR was filming I used to run into various actors all the time around town. Nobody gave a shit about who they were.

[@michaelmaiara4770]

Story 3: Some commenters are calling the OP out for being a judgmental jerk, but what about his father? Where do you think he got that trait from? He is just calling out his father's hypocrisy.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: NTA OPs sister cheated on his friend. He doesn't want to be around a cheater and his parents are acting like he's the bad one? No. Dad is a hypocrite

[@nilianstroy]

Dad and reddit

[@SilverstreamPJ28]

Story 2: it's the celebrity's daughter's birthday. She's completely entitled to a semblance of peace AT LEAST on this particular day. I've seen plenty of celebrities and managed not to pester them.

[@atinyevil1383]

I also thought of it from a standpoint of this not being a public event and security not wanting to take a chance that OP or Daughter being dangerous.

[@colinayre2109]

Last story, NTA…you have a hard line about cheaters. It’s your right to have that line and cut people out. If you choose to not associate with cheaters it’s your call (even if they are family), I’ve cut people out of my life for less. Them demanding an apology is funny. They can request something from you, but you always have the choice to give an apology or forgiveness. In regards to ‘but they are family’ I’ll quote Bobby from Supernatural, ‘Family don’t end with blood, boy.’ You can’t choose who is related to you, you do choose your family.

[@babycakez8070]

Honestly I think some people are be harsh to Op on that last one. If he been best friends with that guy from when he a kid, he reaction makes sense. People will that long of a friendship especially since childhood their friendship get treated like brotherhood and they treat each other’s like brothers. From his comments it sounds like he from no fault state, so on her way out she also financially screwed the guy. He sister also apparently didn’t work full time, and still hasn’t admitted to the affair. Which is just salt the wound. Honestly his mum is now laying in the bed she picked. She had chosen the emotional support her daughter, and her son picked to support his best friend. She doesn’t want to accept it will never go back to the way it was, and honestly that’s her fault. When people cheat it affect the relationship and how people see you. And most times it not going to back to “how it was”.

[@robertbishop5158]

It comes down to what your definition of FAMILY is

[@ronniec427]

Last Story: I don't understand why people are so harsh towards OP. It sounds like he might have been closer to Brendan than his sister even before the split so it makes sense for him to choose Brendan over his sister. His parents need to realize that if they want a relationship with both their children, they need to stop trying to force a reconciliation and choose to celebrate holidays with each child seperately if they want to see both children for said holidays.

[@hellkitelord8319]

I went into more detail in my comment and I agree with you.

[@tiryaclearsong421]

I feel like a lot of comments are harsh towards him because he sounds like he is fueling some of the strife rather than being upfront and the way he speaks comes across as harsh so commenters are taking it personally. The whole family sounds like a lot and the sister is terrible for cheating and screwing her husband out of his home. I wouldn't say OP sucks, but I do feel like Brenden is the innocent in all of the nonsense.

[@kristinicole2055]

I mean everyone does shit they probably shouldn’t, but OP also didn’t see everything behind closed doors. Obviously she wasn’t happy and she could have handled it better, but he still shouldn’t be so invested in her relationship that he can’t even be in the same room as her. She’s his sister. Not his girlfriend.

[@LadyBern]

He went out during COVID, and quoted the bible, and Reddit tends to lean in favor of women. I read that one and people have the excuse that she could've been cheatinh because the ex was abusive to her and she ran away. The op isn't in the wrong but they don't like him so going by emotions instead of logic they feel he's the A hole. Buuut as always if the roles were reversed it'll be "no you're right! Your brother is the AH and your parents were wrong. Good jobs quoting the Bible of all things at them. Nta go be with the family you choose!" "I'm sorta hoping something developes between op and former SIL." (Instead of the tiresome 'make him an art room?')

[@robertx8020]

@@kristinicole2055 He knows his friend and he knows his sister longer than ANY of us ...she cheated! where is the 'chreaters are always wrong' argument?

[@jackchop1576]

Funny how she bullied him into it and then lost it the moment he found someone even though she gets passed around like a bong.

[@wmdkitty]

Another point in the "poly is just fancy cheating" column.

[@teresadurham8828]

I totally don't get the comments in the last story. I think OP did a great job supporting his ex brother-in-law calling out his sister for her bad behavior and their parents for enabling it. He didn't do anything wrong or even childish. He's the most mature out of all of them.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

‼️THANK YOU!! I completely agree! His sister cheated on and betrayed his best friend and then forced him to sell the house to pay her!! She's disgusting and so are all the cheaters on reddit calling him TA. The ONLY people who relate to and sympathize with cheaters are other cheaters.

[@Michael.CrazedAlaska]

No kidding, especially once those edits/ updates came out show how much shittier the sister actually is, the parents only care about “grandbaby access”

[@audreym3908]

I've read some of the comments on the post when it came out and it was crazy!

[@audreym3908]

I think it was just his writing style that everyone has an issue with (he's NTA FYI).

[@BerryTrekkin]

Not to mention demanding that he apologise to Tory and her new husband. Apologise for not enabling her cheating? I read a lot of the comments and so many people convinced themselves that Tory must’ve left because Brendan was an abuser (they assume she left in the middle of the night because she was afraid for her safety if she told him). They also think OP is too angry and involved in his sister’s marriage because of how he wrote the post. I just couldn’t see what the commenters saw. Maybe they’re right, but there was no evidence of it in the post, they’re just making assumptions.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY, 2:*YTA* Celebrities are people too. You’re not entitled to whatever interaction be a photograph, an autograph, or to sit at the table and share a meal with them if you catch them out of the restaurant. OP did come across as entitled especially with that line “that girl needs to learn the world does not revolve around her“…… I mean she’s like every other person that is trying to spend time with their kid. The update/comments were OP said “that girl wouldn’t be anywhere without her fans“ as much as I do not like Amy Schumer she did have a similar interaction where some Dad and his son were trying to take pictures with her when she was just out minding her own business doing some shopping and he had the audacity to say “we made you so we own you“ Celebrities and even Internet personalities are not indebted to their fans and have to “pay them back“ by interrupting their personal life. It’s called boundaries. Celebrities are people too I’m sick and tired of this mentality that they’re basically indebted to the fans and they had to interrupt their personal life to give the fans what they want.

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

Pl who don't understand that celebrities are hit for _so many_ "just 1 minute" photos/autographs/pleasantries literally every time they're out in public that if they stopped to give every 1 that was asked they'd just about _never get anywhere on time_ are worryingly short of empathy & socially objectifying that person. Also, if I was a celeb who knew there were crazy - like actually _crazy_ - fans out there, I wouldn't let anyone close while I was out with my children, either; they didn't sign up for the same risks that I did. A celeb being specifically _nasty_ is 1 thing. A celeb just not having time/energy for you is quite different. OP sounds sounds oblivious & self-absorbed.

[@GIChiyo]

The picture with a fan one: I doubt the OP realizes how many times a day people pester them for pictures, some of the people who ask are not even fans and just want a picture for boasting online YTA, enough with the "I am the main character" energy...

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I dated a couple of "celebrities" in my younger years. They weren't even stars but often did get recognized in public. I was amazed at how patient they were with people asking for pictures or autographs. I would have been an awful celebrity because I wouldn't have done it.

[@silverphoenixyt4208]

I've been binge listening to your reddit videos lately and it's very comforting! It's also really fun to listen to as I make Sims collages

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 you are a massive AH and you are raising your daughter to be a bratty entitled AH. It won't ruin your daughter's day either to not get that interaction by your same logic. Celebrities are people too. They should be allowed to have some time to be off. How would you feel if you and your daughter were just trying to have a nice time and people were hounding YOU for photos. I'm so glad that many people called you out. I'm glad the discourse around this is changing because it's not right to expect celebrities to always be on.

[@somethingelse4204]

Story 1: That woman is gaslighting the hell out of OP.

[@tinycrimester]

story 1: boundaries are good and all, but this is why you don't restrict your kids TOO much growing up, or they'll end up rebelling at a later stage.

[@petitmains]

I was on a tourist ride with the actress who played my hero, she was with her daughter. So I waited until we were out of the enclosed no exit out space and approached her security to ask first. They asked up the chain and joyfully she...was happy to come say hello and sign my receipt. Mind this was 15+ years ago and cell phones with cameras had barely shown up and fan entitlement wasn't insane.

[@juletneptune6264]

Sometimes the parents you choose doesn't have to be blood. Family is what you made of it, because Sometimes your real family are so toxic, HURTFUL and disrespectful that you better off with out them.

[@ianmoritzplatapino3684]

Story 1 when she ask for an open relationship, you know its over, glad he kicked to the curb, she was already cheating and this was the oportunity to do it without being branded a cheater

[@LovLocs58]

STORY 2: I live in a city that's overflowing with celebrities. When I was younger, my mother told me that because of where we live, we're bound to come across a celebrity. Just remember that they are people too who go to the dentist, the grocery store, the doctor's office. They deserve their privacy, particularly, when they're doing ordinary tasks. If they're not at a performance, then you're not entitled to their attention and time.

[@Azulakayes]

Last story: NTA, It is weird though. I love my sisters but I understand OP. I would probably support my sisters but there are friendships that are so precious that if my sisters screwed them over, it would be hard for me to forgive them and I would need some serious space. OP is allowed to dislike his adulterous sister. I don't see what people are saying about him being insufferable. I really don't understand.

[@anthonygilmour6236]

Probably because he is male and the sister is female and he posted on Reddit. 🤔🤷

[@bbjjbb61]

I've heard this one. OP's gf is not a healthy person right now. OP unfortunately missed all the signs of a partner who isn't invested in their relationship and a selfish person who can't see how what she's doing is causing harm to someone she claims to love. Also, people NEVER go through this much to explain a man's behavior. Other than that one commenter people are trying to "explain" her behavior, they aren't telling him how truly toxic this woman is, they aren't telling him to get out and do some reflection because it's hard to see the forest for the trees. I wish people would, at the very least, acknowledge their bias and admit that they don't see women behaving badly in relationships quite as bad as men. Last story: Ohhh Reddit hypocrisy. Nice.

[@nvfury13]

The reason for why certain people bend over backwards to excuse women’s behavior is obvious when you question/listen to them enough, they don’t think women are as capable or emotionally/mentally mature as men (or even boys). Like how you’ll see them call a male teacher that does something terrible with his female middle school student a predator, and call a male middle school student that has the exact same thing happen to them a predator/manipulator/seducer if the teacher is female.

[@bbjjbb61]

@@nvfury13 Very true. It's disgusting. As if women, supposedly being the "weaker sex", aren't also capable of manipulation and predator behavior. I'm actually sick of hearing how women need understanding and counseling but men need to be shunned and locked up. Maybe I'm old, I don't know, but I just cannot get behind this turn American society has taken.

[@GBunnyG]

Perfect timing, I watched while cleaning up the mess from Thanksgiving today. ❤️❤️

[@Breevis29]

I remember when my ex wanted to open our relationship. It ended so badly for him. As soon as he finished his sentence, I broke up with him. Mind you we just started dating with the intention of being monogamous. In his mind I was still with him and he started sending me pictures of this woman. I ignored him but he kept messaging. Then his messages stopped. Oh well, life continues. As it did a year later when he called me to tell me that his girl was so crazy that he had to move states and change his name. I tried everything in my soul to feel bad for him, but I just couldn't. At the end of our conversation, he asked me for money. I blocked him after that.

[@plantemor]

That relationship is deadder than dead.

[@ShadowCthulhu]

Once you "opened" the relationship that relationship was over. “And now, in the interest of equal time, here is a message from the National Institute of Pancakes: It reads, and I quote, "Fuck waffles.” - George Carlin

[@yoyopron]

Story 2: imagine that woman had any other job. The kid asking for a selfie and an autograph is work. It would be like your boss bothering you on your day off because "you owe it all to them." She deserves downtime just like anyone else.

[@HighFlySoyGuy]

In the last story OP’s sister sounds fucking horrible and I wouldn’t want to be around her either. OP is NTA in my opinion.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#3 - I think I need more info, like OP's responses to comments that one comment you read mentioned. Has OP always been the ahole to the family? To his sister? Were there a lot of problems in sis's marriage to OP's buddy? There is just a lot to unwrap with this one. Hey, at least OP got a good meal and nice folks at B' parents' house - and he cannot be all bad, since B's mom (fierce tiger mom she is) got her in little jab of family being chosen. That one made me laff!

[@kevinclark495]

the irony of the mum on story called calling the celeb entitled for having a day to herself spending time with her own daughter

[@maddydavidsdottir9862]

For reference, op, me and people like us are demisexual. We can't feel/experience or have sexual attraction without first emotional attraction/interest (sorry English isnt my native language) there is a name for us, we are part of the LGBTQia+ community and you can be bisexual AND demisexual, demisexual AND heterosexual, demisexual AND gay/lesbian, etc. You can also be demisexual and asexual/aromantic/greysexual (some argue they're both part of the same sub spectrum) you can also be demisexual and non binary/gender fluid. Demisexuality is more often experienced by people who are ace/aro and people who are autistic. It is also not abnormal or weird. We are not "bisexual with extra steps" and no, not everyone feels and thinks this way because a "normal" heterosexual man can go out, get drunk and have a 1 night stand but most demi's physically can not do that. We need to build a mentally and emotionally stimulating connection before sexual attraction and if we dont vibe emotionally, we wont vibe sexually. You can also be demisexual with a preference for one gender/type as in you can be demi and only have interest in cis men or you can be demi and have interest only in cis women, trans women, non binary and gender fluid. Just because we are demi doesnt mean we dont have preferences. It's a spectrum within a spectrum lol

[@thedestroyasystem]

Wonderfully and thoughtfully explained! (and your English is perfect :)

[@maddydavidsdottir9862]

@@thedestroyasystem thank you so much :) or in Norwegian, takk! I know its not very relevant but as a demi woman, I like to spread awareness. I'm 31 and it wasn't until 4 years ago I finally had a name for me. I spent years being told I was weird or wrong, that I was just bisexual or that my autism was the reason. It was so refreshing to finally be able to name my sexuality. I've experienced so much bi-erasure over the years and, I admit, not everyone will agree demisexual exists, especially the lgbtqia+ community unfortunately but I'm on a 1 woman mission to spread awareness lol there's a lot of us out there who don't know and are always told what we experience doesn't exist and that's not true. Even if it's just 1 person, at least they'll be able to say "wait? It's real?" Have a blessed day!

[@GraveyardMaiden]

Unless OP says he's demi, best not to label him as such. Even allo people have boundaries and preferences when it comes to sex, just because some people don't engage in sex with complete strangers doesn't mean they're demi

[@ashab6806]

@@GraveyardMaiden exactly

[@maddydavidsdottir9862]

@@GraveyardMaiden I hope you stretched before your leap hon! Fyi I dont assume, I've seen the story on reddit before and ops other posts where he states hes demi 💅🏽 as someone who has suffered bi-erasure and been mislabeled and crapped on my entire life, I purposefully go out of my way to avoid doing the same, Shame you cant have the same mentality though :(

[@audreym3908]

I was the one that sent you the last story and knew it would be a duezy

[@ec4145]

Story 3: The dad has a, "family over everything" mantra? Anyone else notice how these types always end up sacrificing the one who won't allow themselves to be victimized? Or stands up for decency? Then these "but faaaamily" people have no problem abusing and cutting them off. It's a bullshit excuse people pull out to make their loves easier or exert their favoratism.

[@blitsriderfield4099]

When my mom was a kid, her family was driving through the rocky mountains when they passed John Denver riding a horse. My grandfather pointedly refused to stop the car and instead used it to teach that people, even celebrities, need their space.

[@low-keydrama1260]

Story 1 and 3: Are proof that while Reddit can give out solid advice at times, it can still bring out a lot of awful advice and unnecessary and at times hypocritical bashing

[@helar2574]

One way "open relationship" equal to "from my life you go" we really need to start respect ourself first, others second

[@Knives7777]

Last Story: Op did nothing wrong. There is no world where you owe civility to people who hurt your loved ones and certainly not a damn cheater.

[@tamishashenault640]

This don’t make sense to me Reddit is so flip flop for ( story 3) he says that he don’t support what his sister did as far as cheating but everybody is saying he is a yta for what because he is telling his family they are wrong for enabling his sister for cheating and until they stop he would not come around he said he went nc with sister but lc with parents and I think it’s because he won’t them to come around so leaving the door open so it’s just makes me wonder if they are saying he is yta because who the person was to him

[@shannonbullock2202]

I bumped into quite a few "A list celebrities" as a teen and young adult bc of where I lived. At that time several huge movies filmed scenes all around the neighborhood I lived in, by my high school and the places I hung out the most. I never got excited over seeing or speaking to anyone famous bc just don't find them to be more special than anyone else. I admire their work, but not them if that makes sense. That being said...before they became famous, most of these people yearned for the day they get recognized in public and have fans swooning over their presence. It's sad, but true. They wanted to be considered better than the every day person. They signed up for this and once they have it for a while a lot of them act like they are too good to acknowledge fans. It REALLY pisses me off when they blow off a child. It's part of their job and why they get to live such a privileged life. I wish everyone realized famous people aren't special and stopped treating them as such, but when u choose that life and start acting like u are too good to acknowledge a child fan, u no longer deserve the privilege of having fans.

[@HunnieSuckle24]

Story 1: I, personally would've walked away the moment the suggestion of opening the relationship was presented. OP and his gf (ex) are literally from two different worlds and they are not aligned. Both of them have some growing and internal work and healing to do. Last Story:I don't condone cheating and it's actually a dealbreaker for me. OP is more upset that his sister screwed over his friend. I'm almost certain that if it was a random dude, then he might not have been going so hard about this. Sister is an asshole for obvious reason. Parents are assholes as well because, yes that's their daughter, they should respect OP stance on not communicating with his sister. That family over everything is bullshit. Not eveyone from your bloodline is family. Some are simply relatives. They want OP to apologize but sister nor new husband apologized for their affair. Regardless of the went on in the relationship, cheating is not the answer.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I'm introverted and demi-sexual, so if my partner is working more I'm just going to do more hobbies. I don't understand why anyone's answer to that would be to have sex with someone else. That would solve nothing for me and give me issues I didn't have before.

[@audreym3908]

For me it's watching/catching up on some shows/movies or hang out with friends or reading my BTR (books to read) list, painting/drawing, or working out more. Plus you can talk about what you've been up to while they're working more and maybe if they're interested in joining you for one of your hobbies that's great.

[@thedestroyasystem]

Sounded like OP from that story was demi, too. Just nice to see, when so often demisexuality gets dismissed as specific to women.

[@GraveyardMaiden]

@@thedestroyasystem Probably not, like you got to keep in mind even a demi person might do hook ups with out feeling attracted to a person, and allo people can have preferences and boundaries when it comes to sex

[@thedestroyasystem]

@@GraveyardMaiden that’s true, I’m not trying to put out a blanket statement about anyone not into hooking up. But in this situation, the way that OP described himself was pretty much word for word the definition of demi sexual- “I’m not able to have sex with strangers without a bond.” But only OP can choose what terms do or don’t fit them, of course.

[@AIBot929]

@@thedestroyasystem I was thinking that too, like the verbatim definition

[@Rose_Bride]

_"...that girl needs to learn that the world doesn't revolve around HER-"_ Instead, according to OP, it apparently revolves around _her_ daughter, INSTEAD. 🙄 The fact that OP evidently -refuses to acknowledge- doesn't see the *irony* and *hypocrisy* in her words as she describes the entitlement of _herself_ and her EQUALLY entitled _daughter_ is simply ASTOUNDING. I'm glad the Redditers tore this lady a new one and spelled it out to her.

[@thebigmystery7841]

The one about the celebrity would have been such an amazing learning opportunity for her daughter too.... You pull her aside and go "Their security says that they are celebrating her daughters birthday...we should let them enjoy it. If it was your birthday youd want the day to be about you, right? Theyll remember you were such a nice fan letting them have a nice day to themselves! And we can go celebrate having gotten a chance to see them. Lets get ice cream!" Switch it around to something positive and something to be proud of. When I worked as a baby sitter and kids didnt want to help clean up before parents got home, id tell them how proud and amazed their parents will be to see such a clean house after being out all day. The kids usually get excited and clean up because kids soak up stuff like that as a sponge. So sad she didnt get the same opportunity....

[@flowerjpotter1629]

I don't blame the celebrity for wanting some peace on her daughter's birthday. It sounds like the security is there for a reason but the complaining mother thinks her child is entitled no matter what. No she's not !

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you, take a deep breath let it out slowly, and lower your shoulders. Know that you are important to someone even if you feel like no one loves you, guess what I do. I'm so proud of you being here. Thank you. Now make sure you take care of yourself and drink some water, eat something and take a stretch break.💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@darknezfire]

I cannot express how much your comments has helped me through this hard months. Thank you so much ❤️

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@darknezfire I'm glad that I've been able to help I'm sorry it's been hard much love m8🤗🤗💜💜

[@pattyslater514]

Holy 🐄, I've got my own story I can add along side Story #2! When I turned 19.... a "few"(LMAO) years back, my sister, who I was living with at the time(I took a year off between high school and college to make some more money, but primarily to figure out what I wanted to get into), her husband, and my very VERY bestest friend, my four year nephew and I made a day(at my sister's request/demand) for celebrating my 19th(legal drinking age in Ontario, Canada)Birthday. I just wanted something that included my incredible nephew, sooo first stop Toronto Zoo. It was actually a lovely warm day in mid April. I was so in love with my nephews reactions to all of the animals. I had purchased him so many books that I read to him nightly, many being about creatures spanning the globe. I was blown away with how much he had retained from MY readings. We were in the orangutan habit when my nephew and I were chattering away, my sister calmly grabbed my chin lifting it a few inches and turning it to my direct left. I'm not going to name names but that is when I saw the lead singer of a very world renowned band that the lead singer was just having a day out with his young two children. My sister and brother in law pestered the living HELL out of me to go up and ask for an autograph. They kept saying things like "it'll be fine" and "it's your birthday". I felt extremely uncomfortable as the more I "watched" so many others recognized him and gave him a wide birth as he was having a day with his kids, so I did too. From what I could see that day, almost EVERYONE recognized him, but just kept chugging along for the sake of his children giving them a day out to the zoo with their Dad. 🦧❤️

[@Josku2411]

Oop early and i'm currently sketching a little before i head to bed

[@vernell2601]

Happy Thanksgiving Waffle Gang

[@mindyschocolate]

S1: sounds like the relationship has run its course.

[@willegan1823]

Even before I started this video, I wasn't surprised at the first story. Opening a relationship in an attempt to save it almost never works, and often it ends up breaking it faster. I didn't expect what was going on with the girlfriend, though. I'm glad OP is doing better now. Second story: wow, OP sounds super entitled. Third story: Definitely an ESH. There's a difference between calling out a cheater and slut-shaming, and OP's remark about diseases went way into the latter. But the sister did hurt her ex-husband badly.

[@Andrea.S.Alvey12]

"I understand that it's her daughter's birthday, but" Anything in front of the word "but" is negated by the word "but." YTA

[@lisawhereisthecultjam]

Story 1: Sounds like she’s going through a manic phase.

[@rhonafenwick5643]

Story 2: "that girl needs to learn that the world doesn't revolve around her" Oh, the friggin' irony.

[@rylashadow18]

S1) OP should of known the moment that the concept of open relationship was offered the relationship was already over. That was a sign that their partner either has been cheating, has been thinking of cheating or has been lining up the person they want to cheat with. Then to turn around and threaten to end the relationship? It was over when the respect and consideration was nuked at the option of opening a relationship. It's one thing you go into a relationship with expectations, boundaries and wishes. The very moment someone changes that by making demands for an open relationship or your done always settle for being done and know your worth. Therapy should of been on the table first and foremost to work at the issues and get to the why she wanted to play trick pony. People who expect you to do the pick me dance likes tugging at the strings of the commitment, but once they've shown they could care less you need to cut those strings and do better. If she had issues she should of sought out therapy, get help in a healthy way and work at these issues. Anyone who wants to makes excuses for lack of accountability aren't mature enough to look after a rock garden. Sounds like OP's healing and recovering from that toxic relationship. S2) Dude you were told she was there for personal reasons and would like to not be disturbed. Then you bash her online for wanting personal space for her daughter's birthday? She probably sacrifices special moments like performances at schools, recitals, activities as well as other things when she has to work. So when she decided to take personal time for her daughter she's supposed to forgo that just because you want to throw a hissy fit? Yes you suck. You're not owed anyone's personal time especially when you've already been told no. Sounds like you spoil your daughter too much and I hope this celeb got wind of your post, the comments and puts you on blast for being entitled.

[@Mewse1203]

Be kind, be safe and take care of yourself. Have a great day. HAPPY THANKSGIVING!!

[@petralee574]

Story 3: Cheating is always destructive- not only to the immediate intimate relationship but also to the extended family around. The cheater is in the wrong here. One can choose who to associate with … some chose to just simply overlook the cheating behavior and try to bury it, and others choose to not associate with a cheater at all. Kind of falls along the lines of “who you associate with, reflects who you are as well”! I don’t blame OP - he has strong boundaries- good for him. To him, cheating and lying are deal breakers - as they would be for me. And anybody who tries to shame him for having boundaries, falls under the same category- deal breaker- family or not - the family and the sister ATAs

[@Weirdandwonderfull19]

Story 2- OP is TA. If any celebrity were to stop every time a fan wanted a picture, they would never get anywhere! It would be constant. They're people too, they have lives and obligations. If they want to focus on family then they should be able to. They're just regular humans like the rest of us, they just have a job that makes them popular. Yes, their success is partly thanks to fans, but that doesn't mean they owe their fans every second of their personal lives. Do you know what a musician owes their fans? A damn good live performance. That's it. They don't owe anyone anything outside of that.

[@lamer5799]

"I want to open the relationship" = "I want permission to cheat on you"

[@wmdkitty]

Every single time. And it's usually because they already have someone either in mind or already in bed.

[@bbwsenpai2562]

Listening to this on a road trip with my daughter (7 yrs old) and after story 2 I asked her “ Hey baby, what if we went out to eat somewhere and Jojo Siwa (her favorite ) was there?” Her: “Omg I’d be so excited I’d run to her” Me: “Would you take a picture with her?” Her: “yeah!” Me: “What if she didn’t want to take a picture with you “ Her: “Aw that’d be ok I’d just buy her some food” Like ok aww. I honestly was expecting disappointment or her to say she’d beg her or just try to get a picture anyway. Ig I might be doing this parenting thing ok after all 😅

[@AmukaAkuma]

There is no such thing as "opening a relationship/marriage etc.", it has to be agreed upon from the get-go. She probably had a candidate(s) lined up even before starting the conversation with OP. Only correct response is to show them the door to the streets.

[@gordybrown3667]

The irony of the the second op say that the girl needs to learn the world doesn't resolve around her.

[@gabrielwense3506]

Op of third histori is MVP as well. Sister is a spoiled brat. She dint just cheat. She even stole the house. And she is younger. Clearly a case where parents oversee the little girl behaviour

[@BigL_TheKing]

The last story proves cheaters defend cheaters. OP’s sister is disgusting and so are those comments trying to bash him. No one cares how she screwed over his best friend at all. They just want to rug sweep and make him the Gillian because he wants her held accountable.

[@Finallyflowered]

I think everyone can agree what the sister did was wrong but parents are supposed to love their children unconditionally. Dispute their daughter’s moral failings they still love her. OP demanding his parents cut off his sister is incompletely unreasonable.

[@Becks-and-books]

The problem here is he’s giving ultimatums and gets mad when it doesn’t have the effect he thinks it should. One child says to exclude the other child, the other child is alright with everyone coming. Either they actively exclude a child, or let another child make their own choices.

[@Becks-and-books]

@@Finallyflowered yep. Parents’ love isn’t and shouldn’t be conditional. It should take A LOT more than cheating to make a parent cut a child off, no matter how badly one thinks of cheating.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

‼️ STORY 1 okay OP doesn't get to complain his girlfriend is spending his money when HE KEEPS GIVING HER HIS MONEY!! Bro dump her. Why did you even come to reddit?

[@thomasjoseph5876]

Exactly. He went from "victim" to enabler. Monogamous people CANNOT be in open relationships. When will people understand this??? The moment she suggested they should open their relationship is the moment he should have packed her bags and sent her out the door because the relationship ended the moment it was brought up. And you just know it was instigated by her going back to college. She was probably already cheating by the time she asked him for an open relationship.

[@justinecorrington4106]

Story 2: imagine if op was stopped by a customer outside of work. Op told the customer that she wasn’t working, but enjoying time with her daughter. The customer then went off, saying without customers she wouldn’t have a job without customers. She’d think my job isn’t my whole life

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 I've heard this one before. One Person wants an open relationship. The other doesn't but goes with it out of them cheating anyway. The one who didn't want it start having fun. The who wanted it are mad.

[@ScooterBond1970]

Celebrity story brought a famous quote to mind: "Don't you understand, the public OWNS you!" -Homer Simpson, to Alec Baldwin and Kim Basinger

[@kazzieheart]

Story 3 - ESH, he’s asking the parents to choose a child because his sister is a cheat. Cheating is awful but it really has nothing to do with the parents. It’s not like she personally attacked him, she betrayed his friend and left him. What was she supposed to do after being caught cheating? Stay just so her brother can be happy. It’s good that that relationship is over. He’s upset for his friend and he can be but it’s really entitled of him to expect the parents to cut the daughter out for him to be there. The parents suck for trying to force him to apologise when he did nothing wrong in the start and the sister obviously sucks.

[@LoveableNiki]

My favorite outro...💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿

[@hellkitelord8319]

With the last story highly depends on how religious the parents are if they had been doing similar things op had done then he's NTA just throwing their hypocrisy right at them or, if they have ranted about cheaters in similar ways but sense it's their daughter they don't care. To be fair it sounds like OP said if you will not hold her accountable for her actions I will. Though the OP is more aggressive then most we have seen similar things before and the OP was deemed NTA also, sounds like he doesn't bring it up most of the time until they show hypocrisy like with him only going out three times and them raising a stink about it.

[@Nanashinoshi]

story one: OP needs to drop her like a bad habit.

[@Spooky.Pookie]

😘 Hope you're doing well and have a great day!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

You too m8 much love 💜💜🤗🤗

[@Mapache095]

I really don’t get the comments on the last post.., that’s some mental gymnastics

[@LoveableNiki]

Story 2: YTA. Not OP getting dragged on FB and trying again on Reddit. Girl, leave us alone.

[@jjr9792]

Story 2 - How can Op be that big of an entitled a****** and not even realize it? The celebrity "owes" them? I, I don't even have words to express how gross that mindset is. I'd be willing to bet that Op has used the sentence "MY taxes pay YOUR salary" more than once in her life, and treats workers like crap everywhere she goes, because she believes her meager purchases are somehow the sole reason every employee even has a job in the first place.

[@Fishingandstones]

Last story screw that they dont want to talk to you and were easy to cut you and the ex like that they showed there true colors from the very beginning.

[@onyxdragon1179]

Just what the hell is up with the commenters on the last story? Did they lack basic reading skills or something? It was clear OP was NTA, but they were just... I don't know, coming up with judgments based on what little info they had?

[@Grimangell135]

Last Story: NTA. Tori wants to sleep around and the parents want to excuse it because "family". When someone willfully screws up, and yes this was willful, they should be taken to task. If OP doesn't want anything to do with his sister who doesn't seem too bothered by what she did, then his parents shouldn't pressure him. If anything, their unwillingness to see reason because family is very telling. If they excused her cheating, where's the line?

[@savanna8103]

when did reddit get so tolerable of cheaters?

[@Imolos]

story 3: it ended as ESH. which if you read OP's comments makes sense because in somenthing he is totally out of his mind but in some ways he is right. so ESH but soft for OP. I thing every country should have at fault law. And also more thing to always have prenup if you buy something before marriage.

[@GallowayJesse]

Should've ghosted her the minute she brought it up.

[@melhawl3685]

Absolutely daughter and mother were entitled.

[@roelthas]

Sorry, but the last one is an obvious NTA, their cheating trash of a sister is the one that messed up the family, yet they took it out on OP. They chose their shitty bed, and now they have to lay on it.

[@MimosaRose]

Story 1- when I hear open relationship, I immediately see RED FLAG. There is a reason why 92% of open relationships fail.

[@queencars802]

I have no clue why OP is clinging to such a toxic relationship, shes dragging you down. I'm so glad Reddit got thru to him! You can only cling onto what used to be for so long, if she actually acted like she wanted to change on her own I'd understand but theres too many red flags here. So what whenever she has some internal issues instead of going the healthy way will she always go being a financial burden, making OP broke from frivolous things, and screwing multiple partners without really caring how OP feels? So glad OP left because she's not ready for a relationship

[@taliabettendorf1949]

Story 1- The relationship lost it's sparked after opening it? What a shock..... Who would've known?

[@Ms777Lena]

If the guy wrote about his wife cheating and being cut off by her brother everybody on reddit would say something about consequences and would be happy but if the family writes about cutting someone off because they have cheated that they are too invested and it's not their business.

[@gngrblls2thwall]

S3: I mean it does sound like his sister is a biohazard. Don't blame him for wanting nothing to do with her. Hard to tell what his beef is with his parents. Does he hate his parents for not disowning his sister? "I responded with a bible verse about adultery and how the support it" - Refusing to disown your kid is not the same as condoning everything they do. Basically neither the parents or son should be making demands about what kind of relationship the other has to have with daughter/sister.

[@nikkismith5490]

For story #3. Zooterone had it wrong. “You really quoted Bible verses about adultery to your father?” It’s something I saw a lot in the church. People would be adamantly “The Bible is law” but would ignore parts of it when their family did things that violated their beliefs. Quoting verses to people like that is a fairly common way people call out hypocrisy. And judging by OOP and the responses from the dad…I’d say they’re probably in that grouping of people who liked to cherry pick when they need it.

[@IronLantern89]

What is this end credit song?