20 Years Later I Told My Ex's Wife That He Cheated On Me r/Relationships

[@jackierenee1691]

"I am old. Rawr 🦕" OP is my soulmate lol

[@peterhobson3262]

I'm 75 but I know how to make a Reddit update.

[@spykewyn8395]

"Rawr is dinosaur for 'I love you'."

[@fizzydizzystudios4768]

I loved that bit! *Rawr!*

[@robertx8020]

@@peterhobson3262 I'm younger and know how to fly a plane ...so what?

[@Alissandre_Iskander]

​@@peterhobson3262 ... congrats?

[@hi_stranger9156]

The fact that Polly’s totally off the board freaking out about her husband being the cheater back then and not the OP, leads me to believe that SHE HAS the same problem or suspicions of her own about her and Buzz’s relationship. No wonder Polly’s going ape sh*t about the whole thing.

[@trilbynhiss]

Yet she married him anyway. SMH

[@momo382844]

Not to mention, Buzz’s Family still loves OP. Despite calling her names, they apparently still have good memories of her and misses her cooking. Man, that must suck, but hey, Polly chose to stick around. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@sovereigncrux]

I bet it's cuz Buzz played that card with Polly previously. "I'd never cheat on you, I've been cheated on and know how it feels." Except he doesn't, he'd been the cheater.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

​@@trilbynhissshe married him under false pretences when she didn't know OP and it was Buzz who cheated. Stop pretending is somehow her fault

[@akselandor8975]

Not necessarily. I don't want to defend the guy, but it's it seems more likely that Polly just found herself in an environment where the family she was going to eventually marry into would constantly bring up that other woman. She had been living in the shadow of OP for almost 2 decades whole time, which was bound to mess her head up.

[@doubleedge2422]

Op: sorry for the anti-climactic update The update:man dies of a heroin with overdose

[@cb9825]

It was a woman, but yes, not exactly a normal situation. 👀

[@audreym3908]

@@cb9825 the bff was a guy

[@cb9825]

@@audreym3908 huh, I thought BFF means "best female friend"? 😅

[@dindog22]

@@cb9825 BFF = Best Friend Forever

[@cb9825]

@@dindog22 good to know 😀 turns out their "forever" was not that long 🤣

[@paulastiles5507]

Story #1: So, Buzz slandered OP to his entire family and the next chick (and possible AP). Then the next chick decides to insult OP to her face with said lie and is shocked - SHOCKED - when OP sets the record straight. OP's mom was wise. It's funny that Buzz was so salty about being ghosted that he decided to slander OP and set up this karma grenade for years down the road. As for the family, they didn't bother to confirm, so screw them. OP has no reason to grant either them or Polly any grace. It's not as though there's been any contact in two decades. Maybe Polly shouldn't have called a complete stranger a "whore" in the first place. LOL! that he was obsessing over OP for decades. BFF sounds evil and thankfully is no longer with us.

[@OthelloSilvermoon]

Op in story one is just awesome they moved on to a new better life, they are taking the best possible path of revenge, living their best life~

[@ElleD308]

My ex did that 😂 I broke up with him because after he quit his job to "find something better" he stayed 2 months playing video games and getting annoyed that I didn't cook as soon as I got home from work. He told everyone he broke up with me because I cheated with 5 men 🤣🤣🤣imagine every time I encountered his sisters... lovely.....

[@mkuti-childress3625]

⁠@@ElleD308Jesus! What an ass!

[@geckokid8265]

To be fair to Polly at least she pulled her to one side and had the nerve to say it to her face rather than whispering behind OP's back

[@marshawargo7238]

​@@ElleD308 Did karma ever get back at him for you? That kind of lie can cause a lot of damage, possibly permanent!

[@D-M-K-1-2]

Story 1: You will never be wrong for dropping the truth in a sea of lies.

[@Daug555]

That part!

[@onepieceisking5493]

This! If your life completely crumbles because of a bunch of lies you told because you don't want to tell the truth that's on you.

[@LordSeal7]

Unless you are really rude about it or do it for really shitty reasons, like to break someones self esteem when they are going through something shitty

[@onepieceisking5493]

@@jackchop1576 and you stop being a troll.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

​@@LordSeal7that OP has no part in. She was approached by a drunk person and she told the truth. Don't kill the messenger

[@Azulakayes]

Story 1: OP's mom is the main MVP of this story...her advice paid off massively.

[@rubymeaddle]

Best revenge is living well

[@tazhienunurbusinezz1703]

She isn't wrong though. Most guys that cheat like the idea of their wives or gfs doing the pick me dance. If you don't do that, all of a sudden their ego gets crushed.

[@Russman67]

Story 1: OP has No obligation to continue her ex-boyfriend's lie. Especially when she didn't know about the lie for 20 years. What he did was a dirtbag move. This is neither her circus nor her monkeys.

[@TH-hy9kr]

Both OPs are legendary. The partying neighbor ladies sound like a hoot.

[@peterhobson3262]

While OP may have to put up with Karen (hopefully not much longer), he does have a bunch of new friends.

[@mistyvaughn6356]

That's gonna be me one day😅

[@MarionHogan-m5i]

Do you think I could be invited to the social events OP goes to? I would bring a cheeseboard to go with the wine. Please?

[@stuckinmopro8533]

I’m betting that Polly has had a few times that she suspected her husband of cheating. If not she wouldn’t have accepted what OP said so quickly. After all once a cheater usually always a cheater.

[@TheBlueDsc]

Story 2: Putting out everyone's trash EXCEPT for the hag's is a level of petty I hope to someday be able to live up to.

[@Snowshowslow]

Yeah that's inspiring 😂

[@habituallearner7680]

OP sets a great example for the rest of us

[@rf159a]

Story 2: I'm 65 and I wish I lived in OP's neighborhood!!! 😂😂😂

[@Sassy_Kat]

My neighbor and I are blessed with an elderly woman that is 85 years old (doesn’t even look her age) and she is such a blast to be around. She has a much younger SO and they are just hilarious, telling stories about their life travels and when they lived in California. He’s from a Cali and she’s from Louisiana. They’re the type that are funny when drunk.

[@vegaskullkid4503]

So… Polly being drunk led to a two decade long lie being uncovered and Buzz being seen as the liar he was. It also was uncovered that Buzz’s own family missed OP and we’re just as much in the dark on Buzz’s lie as Polly was, who felt insecure because of how obvious it was that Buzz and his family genuinely missed OP. This was a rollercoaster but glad the truth came out and hope the best for OP. Even hope Polly gets some help for her insecurities and that she makes a decision that’s best for her regarding Buzz.

[@marshawargo7238]

Not done watching yet, but I don't think karma thought he had gotten enough yet. The scales of justice are imbalanced or he's been cheating again! Karma: "I'm Baack🖤 "😂 S Proof that cheaters Know that They are wrong, when they lie! To their children, relatives & friends they don't want anyone to know who is the real cheater!

[@vegaskullkid4503]

@@marshawargo7238 😂, Karma said,"I ain't done withcha yet Buzzy boy!"

[@autumn557]

Cheaters would be less called out in cheating if they didn’t lie about non cheaters cheating.

[@Kumo5980]

And be less suspicious if he hadn’t been cheating behind Polly’s back Buzz has to be cheating right now as we speak with someone they never learn

[@ANNA-fr333]

Exactly...

[@despinasgarden.4100]

Tbh, i can understand why Polly thinks that Buzz could be cheating on her too, now that she knows that Buzz is not only capable of cheating on his SO, but he's also able to lie to her and to his family for 20 years. If she is as insecure/paranoid of OP as she says, she's probably thinking "If she was able to cheat on a woman like OP, then who's saying that he isn't cheating on me?" Plus, she was under the impression that she helped Buzz recover after his cheating ex "broke his heart" the start of their relationship is probably tainted in her mind now. I'm not saying that Buzz IS cheating on Polly, 20 years is a lot of time for personal grow and changing for the better, but i see why Polly is freaking out and doubting him, a lot of people would consider his lying a red flag too.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

She already mentioned that they went to couples counseling and, if she approached OP like that, it means that she is suspicious already

[@gabriellemeche992]

I don't know, I think he probably cheated before. One, he lied about it. If he changed he would have not or set it straight later. Two, he was still trying to find OP. He was going to try to cheat on Polly. Three, the way she completely agreed. I mean they've been together for almost two decades. She knows him even better than OP had.

[@Deedoof]

Cheaters have the audacity to invite the betrayed partner to their wedding, I've never heard it the other way around.

[@pippo17173]

In this case he is a flat out moron. Legit believe op would be a door mat but nah, she is the nuke that wipes the whole ocean.

[@cb9825]

I was under the impression that one of OP's friends was marrying a relative of Buzz. It wasn't the wedding of Buzz and Polly.

[@thehawkseye3412]

It's been twenty years since.. She was not invited by the ex. Her friend was getting married to some relative of the ex's family with a different surname even. They ran in to each other not knowing before hand.

[@justozzy5559]

Last story: Some Americans have Letterboxes but most of us have mail boxes, either attached to the house, or on a post like you said.

[@piximaya98]

Yup. Where I live in Texas the mail people won't deliver your mail if it isn't at the street so they can just put it in the box from the mail truck.

[@shanittathompson2039]

My gmom has one because she lives in the city.

[@animepiglover]

Letter boxes are an old AF sort of thing that I think lots of people used to have in the US but have gradually faded out. My house had one that had been kinda sealed so we couldn't put stuff through it but it was a little flap you could lift that said mail on it

[@mimilapin]

"End of a stick outside your house" 😭😭😭😭 i have never thought of it that way but its so true

[@helenafarkas4534]

story 1: for a bit, I was wondering if OP's ex really DID cheat on her, or if (ex)BFF manufactured the entire thing to break them up - but it turns out EX truly WAS a turd after all. and that Polly apparently has buyer's remorse. either way, OP is well shut of their entire drama!

[@cocobrowny]

Me too!!! I’ve read one too many Reddit stories where someone close to them has totally sabotaged their life

[@ScragsP22]

“I know a lot of people in America have their letter boxes on a stick outside the house” Bwhhhawwwww!!!!! On a stick!! 😂😂😂😂 And that one produced soda through my nose. Man! That freaking hurts/burns!

[@mbyerly9680]

A post, Mark. The term is "post." Snicker.

[@LazerDude]

Story number two: the absolute pettiness to go to every single other person’s house on the street and move their trash to the curb is absolutely the level that I want to achieve one day

[@LovesGaming37]

Oh I remember this story. I think Buzz's friend was in love with Buzz

[@cb9825]

Apparently she loved him so much she got him to try heroin 😂 was she thinking "other girls wouldn't want him if he becomes a drug addict"? Unhinged af.

[@TheDeviantMom]

For story 1: I suspect op is the one that got away. I’m guessing the ex’s cheating escapade was a one night stand deal, he felt instant regret and was planning to take it to the grave except his former, and now deceased, BFF knew about it and said something. Once he realized what an asshole the BFF was I’m sure he experienced a severe case of coulda,woulda,shoulda’s, especially if he realized the only reason the op was told was because of the BFF’s hatred for op.

[@marshawargo7238]

BUT he didn't cut him off or do anything until he tried effing with his second marriage. Only Then did he drop him. Maybe the BFF was in love with Buzz & hated any woman he was with? Even if it wasn't sexual but only "It's you & me buddy, against the world forever" 😂 or "bros over ho's"

[@sobe1315]

Story 2, i would love to have old lady friends like that 😂😂😂❤❤

[@phoenixfire8978]

Those are the old ladies I aspire to be someday.

[@CircusoftheMoon]

I need a squad of old ladies to befriend. 😭

[@rylashadow18]

S1) Her sitting there calling you out of your name acting like she has some knight in shining armor only for you to truly reveal him to be a turd wrapped in tin foil. I'd be done with the lot of them outside of sticking to "I owe no one an apology nor an explaination. You don't get to spread lies about someone and not expect them to snap back with the truth. He's (insert bride's name) problem now. Leave me alone." For Buzz and his family OP is the one that got away. Polly probably has some insecurities as the old saying goes "Once a cheater. Always a cheater." Buzz sticking to that lie is proof he hasn't changed for one iota of a minute. Now Polly is seeing and hearing it for the truth. Well again Buzz is her problem to deal with. S2) I'm proud of you OP. Make sure you're helping the non Karen neighbors get all the help they need. They don't want to get tossed off the property? How about don't be an entitled selfish prick of an enabling clown with micro brain cell wife. Okay all these ladies sound like gems and I love them myself.

[@aNoisyPlatypus]

I just love how excited Mark gets for neighbour drama 😂

[@endermenon4836]

How do we know when it's Mark posting these stories and when it might be Poppy pretending to be Mark

[@Justaperson354]

That’s the thing, mark never existed to begin with. It’s always been poppy.

[@carolroberts4614]

Mark is languishing in the next cell to Markee!

[@elizahamilton5599]

@@carolroberts4614markee industries got them both😔😔

[@kentario1610]

That's one smart dog, Mark should enter her for some world records! ...oh wait

[@geckokid8265]

​@@carolroberts4614 Poppy's the one holding them captive

[@devegas4910]

Story 1: This is just me guessing, but after that bs went down with the ex-bff trying to break up Buzz and Polly, Buzz might've went looking for op again. He already probably did that every now and again. And it didn't help that his family spoke fondly of OP (his fault tbh), but even if he isn't cheating on Polly, Op's the one that got away

[@paulastiles5507]

Polly confirmed in one of the updates that he did, indeed, go looking for OP at least once years later by stalking her friends' social media accounts.

[@sherrygibbs7547]

If you live in a cold area of the world, don't remove dead flowers, and your last tall grass and leaves of the season...gueen bees and momma ladybugs/ladybirds go into hibernation under the leaf duff/insulation. If you want to have your pollinators and bug eaters back in the spring, leave their winter-overing hibernation cover on the ground, for them! Also, leaving properly chewed up lawn clippings on the ground, puts their nutrients right back into the soil they came from...less fertilizer required.

[@Wh00000]

BFF from story one sounds like a toxicly jealous friend if he hated the two girlfriends we know of from Buzz. Sad as it is that addiction did i him in, but Buzz is probably better off without him in his life. He is not, however, better off continuing a lie and then continuing to obsess over an ex when he's got a lady right there who deserves his attention and care. There might well be a divorce in the future for them.

[@fizzydizzystudios4768]

“I am old. Rawr. 🦕” lol. I have nothing to say here I just think that’s funny and cute. And relatable.

[@LukeStonePharmD]

Mailboxes at the road are typically for more rural areas. Some mail is delivered house to house by hand, either in a wall mounted box or thru the door slot. The vast majority of the land in the US of A is still rural.

[@asterismos5451]

I basically never see the slots in the doors here. It gets too cold in the winter, that would be horrible for your heating bill!

[@tandelogan2825]

In Australia, the majority is letterboxes, even in the city. But I think this is because we do not have doors straight onto the street, most houses have a front lawn/area. There are some exceptions in the inner city, but even our terrace houses have a front fence where the letterbox is.

[@somethingmcsomethingface8180]

In the US, the ones in the doors are only in temperate regions where the single family houses are right near the sidwalk and a mail carrier has a walking route. Apartments usually have a set of boxes in the lobby or common area. Rural and suburban homes have mail boxes on posts by the street so the mailman can deposit mail in them without having to exit his car. They even buy right hand drive vehicles for this.

[@thatjeff7550]

@@asterismos5451 Although they're rare, I've been in a few places that still had the letter slots in the door. The one I recall the most was at a small office that was set in a historic home in a neighborhood that had a walking mail carrier that delivered to the door. Apparently there was a deal where the USPS wanted everyone to get a mailbox at the curbside but there was some ruling for the historic overlay that allowed the slots to still receive mail. Of course, the USPS kept that with the stipulation that if anyone were to move mail service to the road at a mailbox, they couldn't go back to door service. I think the neighbors next door asked if they could close the slot up and have the mailbox on the side of the house but were denied even that.

[@jodiecrowther7531]

​@@tandelogan2825In England it's incredibly rare for someone to have a letterbox on the property. Pretty much everyone has a slot in the door. Despite it being similar to what you described. Most people here have a front garden so the postman has to walk the road but also go into everyone's garden and put mail through their actual door

[@wonhur885]

A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 5 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@MalcolmM.Stanton-hy4jb]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counsellor who helped me bring her back

[@wonhur885]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counsellor, and how do I reach her?

[@MalcolmM.Stanton-hy4jb]

Her name is Shelly renee white, and she is a great spiritual counsellor who can bring back your ex.

[@wonhur885]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

[@Iflie]

So glad the Op put his laptop out, satisfying when people act the smart way right away. Cameras really help so much with justice. I doubt the karen will be able to stay out of trouble, husband better superglue her to a chair or something. I would hate having to go walk out of the house every day to get the mail from a "box in a stick", plus it seems unsafe for your mail. But yeah you do run the risk of fireworks or something being pushed through.

[@akl2k7]

People worry about the world turning into a surveillance state, but it seems almost like a lot of the people with cameras are common people, and they generally set up cameras due to crime in the first place.

[@Iflie]

@@akl2k7 Yeah ring doorbells seem to be lifesavers, not just for you but for your area. I'm one of those people that has nothing to hide so I'm fine with cameras everywhere. Otherwise you depend on your word or a human witness and those are incredibly unreliable. I want cameras that go into the cloud and can run all the time. None of that "cop did this but his camera was out of power"stuff

[@angienorton5577]

Those little ole ladies sound like a hoot to be around! LOL

[@riakun]

Dude, the group of ladies in the second story sound awesome. I hope OP and them continue to be friends and have game nights with them for many years to come lol

[@dm9078]

Man OP sounds awesome. Buzz missed out on an amazing woman.

[@momo382844]

Thank goodness, he did. OP would have became just like Polly.

[@pippo17173]

He wanted a party girl and op wasn't giving that. Standards are standards but buzz played the stupid game and won the stupid prize.

[@hothotheat3000]

Nothing hurts a narcissist more than being ignored. OP 1’s mother is a genius.

[@sarahjaneuldricks6729]

Just me casually kicking a door in like Shrek so I can get to my headphones so I can listen bettet

[@WobblesandBean]

Polly "didn't mean to accost" her? That's a load of BS if ever I heard it. Polly and OP's ex deserve each other.

[@Josku2411]

Oop a tad late and just discovered Måneskin and Dolly Parton have done a version of Jolene together and it absolutely slaps!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

🤩🤩 sounds like i need to look that up heck yeah

[@LusterDust]

WHAT?!

[@stillscrimmaging283]

All people who get caught cheating on the person they’re married to should be put on a registry so things like this don’t happen in the future

[@juliebiggerbear7300]

23:45 some people have letter boxes, we call them mail slots here, and some people have the box on a stick (adorable description by the way!)

[@JodyBruchon]

In the U.S. most places have mailboxes but there are quite a few homes with mail slots (not all have boxes, the mail often just falls onto your entry threshold) and especially businesses in plazas often have mail slots.

[@lina9535]

Story 2: am I evil for cackling at OP for calling that "arctic conditions"?

[@momo382844]

Buzz is very self destructive, ain’t he? His BFF may have been an instigator, but Buzz was a grown man, not a young 20 year old. He blew up his own life with one bad decision after another. OP should thank Polly for taking her trash. This could have been OP’s life. 🤭

[@bluebeanie561]

Few minutes in: Wait, his friend who hated OP did this plan to split them up and the ex went along with it? Just how much more did the ex lied? Edit: oh so the bff is a toxic person. good to know that ex was played like a puppet until the trash was finally thrown out.

[@jokestermasteroflaughter7754]

I think karen waddling is a perfect way to describe how they move. That along with skulking.

[@taylorwashington7682]

I honestly dont feel any sympathy for Polly. Who approaches someone like that

[@DameNickum]

Mail Box placement depends on how old the house is. My mom & dad’s house had a Mail Drop that was a slot on the wall of the covered porch, and ended in a box in the kitchen wall. It was awesome! And so was the peep hole, which was a tiny back door that opened in the front door so you could look out 👀. There was a cast iron basket over the opening on the front of the door. Great details. Now, in a small town, our mail box is grouped with 3 others about midway between those 4 houses, just off the sidewalk. Insecure but convenient.

[@Snowshowslow]

Well, your mail is less secure that way but your house is more secure.

[@cmsxcb]

Ah yes Nokia. The phone with a Currency Converter THAT COULDN'T BE USED WHILE ABROAD!!!

[@paulastiles5507]

That was so freakin' annoying, too.

[@AutumnLeafdust]

Currently being meowed at by my fool of an adult cat, Biscuit, as he demands he's fed right MEOW! As for the partial hospitalization thing I said a few days ago, uhh, self-imposed bust, because I am not a morning person at all, and I would have to be awake before 7 am just to be taken there before 8 am, so I was out. Not the only reason, but the half I'm comfortable mentioning 😔 Hopefully y'all are doing notably well enough today, and if not, hopefully y'all can unwind in your own ways

[@thomasmurray3920]

Story 1: If you don’t speak ill of others, then things won’t boomerang back on you.

[@justinebidulopoutchini9774]

In Canada, we have mail boxes but they’re usually right by the door in the wall, not on a stick by the road

[@theeverdreamwitch]

One of my favorite things about Mark’s tangents is how I get to learn the little differences the UK has when compared to the US. It’s actually really interesting.

[@diivaiinthehouse1]

Mark’s description of an American mail box as a “ box on a stick” is perfect and hilarious.

[@whitneylivingston5706]

Awesome stories today!!! Story 2 has to be one of my favorites you’ve read. Now I want to go to game night and have fun with the little old lady club!!

[@bettinawright3310]

Yeah we have letter boxes in Australia - I'm a teacher and a kid I taught "allegedly" had beef with another kid and stole their cement mailbox! No idea how he detached and did it because he was pretty scrawny.

[@iamharper6994]

An excited Mark is contagious and always makes me smile. Neighbor drama is some of the best drama

[@cmsxcb]

Story 1: As my Gran always told me, "Tell the truth and shame the Devil".

[@user-fg4tn8ot6b]

Story one: Buzz is a coward. Polly needs to leave. Buzz's family needs to leave OP alone. OP is cool with how she handled everything.

[@ten5h1]

Story 1: your gratitude is met with my indifference.

[@Gumbier_Than]

The second story was just a riot. I loved that OP got invited to play game nights with the elderly ladies in the neighborhood. 😊

[@plaidhoodies]

a few houses here in the southern US have letterboxes, but they tend to be much older homes. most houses have mailboxes outside, and apartments tend to have things like PO box-style setups too.

[@davidprice6002]

Mark's delivery is just awesome

[@meezerluvr]

Letterboxes - In the US, most people in detached homes have a mailbox (on a stick at the end of the drive). Semi-detached and apartment homes may have a cluster of lockboxes outside for mail. Some of the older homes, particularly row houses, have the traditional letterbox (slot in the door). In areas with letterboxes, the postman walks the delivery route. Mailboxes are usually accessed by the postman without getting out of the vehicle. Postal vehicles are frequently right-hand-drive for this purpose.

[@trilbynhiss]

Why would anyone feel sorry for Polly? She's been with the guy for 20 years and finally got married to him. He sounds like a high risk spouse anyway but it was finding out that he cheated on a girlfriend 21 years ago that suddenly caused her to have doubts? She's an idiot.

[@trilbynhiss]

Story 2 - I just started watching but had to stop to comment. Rent increase of $200 a year is only $16 a month. That's not worth the hassle of moving out.

[@cb9825]

It was not the wedding of Buzz and Polly. one of OP'S friends got married to a relative of Buzz.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

For the last time, it was somebody else's marriage in which OP, Buzz and Polly were guests. OP explicitly lists Polly as wife. And even then, it's not her mistake to marry after 20 years of a relationship. It's that Buzz is an asshole that treats her like crap, like many women apparently

[@suziyork78]

Mailboxes are much more common than letter boxes. Letter boxes would probably be more common in older cities on the east coast. I have a mailbox affixed to the outside wall by my front door

[@madambutterfly1997]

Drunk people are more honest

[@pinkdipi]

I love a cheeky comeback and hearing about people with a SPINE! Please more stories with strong characters, our lovely Mark!

[@Itscaitlinyo]

I had never thought of mailboxes as a strange concept until this video, but hearing “you got them on the end of a stick outside your house” straight up broke my brain 🤣🤔🥴

[@MogofWar]

"I unblocked her, we talked this out, I wished her the best, and blocked her again.

[@merlinathrawes746]

Story 1: Together 18 years and only now getting married? Not saying anything's wrong with that, but it is a little unusual. Somebody (former bff?) was/is definitely playing games. UPDATE: It seems that bff didn't like anyone who came between him and Buzz. It seems OP leaving really threw Buzz into a deep hole, but at least he seems to have found his way out, unlike bff. But that is/was not OP's problem or responsibility. Polly seems to have some insecurities, but those too are her problems and not OP's.

[@audreym3908]

it wasn't their wedding, just a relative of the groom.

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

OP mentions Polly as his wife and the wedding was between OP's friend and a distant relative of the groom(that's why she didn't recognise him)

[@loridetweiler1345]

That last story! Priceless!❤

[@Narnia1963]

Some places have door slots, most have mail boxes (on poles/bricked), and some still have letter boxes by the front door.

[@NemFX]

To answer your question, personal mailboxes are exceedingly rare in north America. We used to have them, but they basically stopped being a thing. You now see, what are essentially communal ones. Imagine a box on legs, about 6 feet tall, maybe 3.5 feet wide, about 1.5 feet deep. The box itself is split vertically into three boxes, and each of those is split into locked cubbyholes for each house. So, depending on your street, you could have just one, or a couple of them. It's like, one of those boxes for around.. I'd guess 40 houses?

[@meagancall5005]

"You have to help, we're on the verge of eviction!" Oh. No. The neighbors who started a beef immediately on OP moving in, evicted? So. Sad.

[@kg5626]

Story#1 OP was 18 whdn she started dating a 24yo. The BF lived apart from her and probably cheated a lot. Polly needs to get over the bs from 20 years ago. Polly needs to get over insecurity and learn not to be a trash person who calls women she doesn't know whores. I hope no one bothers OP with this bs.again.

[@fallenmar9894]

Some places have letter boxes. But usually only in cities, and sometimes only on older single family buildings. New buildings tend to have a bank of PO boxes for all tenants

[@ladyofthelake93]

In reference to the letterbox question- Like a mail slot in the door? My grandparents' house still has one, but I can't think of any others I remember seeing recently. They're not common anymore.

[@myroc1]

I've seen a letterbox here in America, but it was rare and I was probably young the last time I saw one. If you live in the city I imagine it's more common and collection boxes are more abundant. I remember as a kid half of our street had mailboxes at the end of the driveway, but the other half had mailboxes bolted directly to the house near the door rather than a gateway into the house itself. The mailman walked right up to our door from his little truck back then. I've been renting apartments for about 16 years and we have letter boxes for outgoing mail and all the mailboxes for our incoming mail are centralized near that (no sticks though lol). Also, something I didn't think about is that it's very convenient for Americans to be able to leave their outgoing mail to be picked up from the same box vs going to the Post Office or collection box. Apparently Mailboxes made it easier since in a lot of America the houses aren't very close together and would take a long time to walk from door to door vs dropping at the curb from a vehicle.

[@lina9535]

Here in Sweden it depends on where you live, or more like how your place is, regarding if you have a mailbox (usually villas and "stand alone" houses have these), some appartments have a big "box" with mailslots/boxes (1 for each tenant), and some appartment has regular mailslots (the one you're talking about, that's straight in the door). Where my mom and I lived until I was... eeeeehhh 10? Had a mailslot. Grandpa had a mailbox. My current place has a "communal mailbox", since I live in a grouphome for my ASD (but we did use to have the other kind of "mailbox" that I mentioned).

[@SaruCharmed]

The good luck cat is called a maneki neko (beckoning cat). Neko cat just means "cat cat" lol

[@ko-miyavi]

Yeah, most older houses have Letter Boxes. We typically call 'em "mail slots"

[@ChangedWinds]

Due to the pony from the pony express, the pony is actually too tall to access the door posts. That's why in America we use a post box at the end of our drive way. It's specifically tall enough for the local post office ponies to access.

[@mbyerly9680]

And we use their manure to annoy Karen neighbors.

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

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[@TH-hy9kr]

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[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

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[@FlamesofJagger]

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[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

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[@FlamesofJagger]

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[@strangastrigo]

I've lived in houses with letterboxes, mailboxes, as well as post office box only. Some places are more strict than others. The mailman hated the letterbox and we had to complain to the postmaster about the guy cramming stuff in and ripping it. My current town is small enough they keep threatening to remove the post office and make us drive 20 minutes to the next nearest one. Any mailboxes in this town are decorative and usually taken over by wasps or spiders.

[@acatnamedtaz2167]

In Australia, we have mail boxes for mail delivery ( same sort of thing as Uk , red but rectangle with a rounded top), and letter boxes at our house to receive mail

[@lina9535]

Story 1: while OP isn't the AH, she DID contribute to causing the chaos. Polly was the one to crack the can open, but OP removed the lid, by telling the true version. Of course people are going to want details, from the person who corrected the story. Where else are they going to get it? From the guy who lied to protect his own behind? So yeah, OP is kind of responsible for, in a way, releasing the chaos, but they aren't an AH for it.

[@MyaKHamilton]

Where I live in Ohio we have a mail slot that has a chute next to the side door, so mail doesn't just fall into the house. Mail often gets stuck if there is a lot of it.

[@LotusBloom0309]

Letterboxes used to be more common than they are now. You would find them on home build pre-WWII. Most people with older homes that still have them use a mailbox anyway for convenience.

[@ThatAutisticBlackMan]

some houses in the US have letter boxes but its typically an older home with it's original door intact

[@Silence-1170]

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[@daneallsaleem3174]

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[@Silence-1170]

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[@anniel3305]

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[@DJShihTzuman]

Canadian Apartment Renter here! My mail goes through a mail slot on my apartment door into my apartment. I grew up with a mail box outside the front door.

[@raayvenwolfgirl5539]

Some U.S. houses have mail slots as we call them (the door mail) but most have mailboxes which are the boxes on poles. That or these locker sorts that have multiple locker type boxes for houses along that street.

[@nikkid7838]

The visual of the mailbox on a stick had me laughing…

[@jeannebuttons5301]

US Citizen Here, California Specifically Yes there are houses that have Letter Boxes, my great-grandparents home and two of the houses that my Grammie lived in before she moved to her final home. It just depends somewhat on the age of the house and the location it was built. It's common in some parts of San Diego and San Francisco and I would presume it's most common where it would be impossible to have a stand-alone mail box.

[@jakemarie828]

To answer your question, we do have letterboxes in the US, and we call them "mail slots." More common in older style townhouses in cities like New York and New Orleans

[@Sworddove]

Yes, we do have letter slots in a lot of our doors however, many post offices will only deliver to exterior mailboxes unless there is a package that is too big to fit in the box.

[@Wrenfire]

Mark: some houses have letter boxes but I think most houses/apartments use mail boxes by the street so that the letter carrier can get around quickly