15 Harsh Psychology Truths - Adam Lane Smith | Modern Wisdom Podcast 310

[@ChrisWillx]

Yes team. Here's the timestamps: 00:00 Intro 04:06 Manipulating the Male Sex Drive 09:58 Why Women Divorce Men 15:15 Female Sex Drive 17:50 Your Annoying Child is Your Fault 22:40 Stop Using Diagnostic Terms 28:28 Overcome Depression with Purpose 34:02 Psychology of Sex & Assault 46:30 Discussing Attraction 54:51 Impact of Identity Obsession 1:00:45 You’re Better Than Your Last Mistake 1:04:29 Sex for Approval Over Intimacy 1:09:19 Adam’s Top Relationship Advice 1:18:48 Chris’ Bonus Harsh Truths

[@jensgeiermann923]

Thank you for that episode! It realy helped me to answer some questions that I hat for a long time.

[@heretic124]

Came here after you mentioned it on Michael Malice's podcast and this is one of the best guests ever. Hope to hear more from him.

[@bryanbcd1]

Im here 4 days later in the middle of malices podcast just to listen to this guy , gonna finish malice after

[@carlotapuig]

Me too. I only found this because of that reference in the talk with Malice. So glad I did, this one has been the best episode ever.

[@betts12220]

"Most people who complain about status hierarchies use complaining to...gain status." Big Facts.

[@Lanesra62905]

And there's nothing inherently wrong with that

[@ytsur549]

I like this. Since my separation, I'm at the gym twice a day. It has made a huge difference in my self image and self love. A divorce can absolutely tear a man into pieces. Good diet and gym time.

[@ForeverYoungKickboxer]

Divorce got me back into combat sports, had an awesome 6 year 2nd career, won a couple ammy belts against guys 20 years younger. It was a great period of my life.

[@MeanBeanComedy]

Good work, men. Glad to hear you're bouncing back! 😁👍🏻 Looking forward to seeing where else you both go! 💪🏻💪🏻✊🏻

[@kalash_nikov]

@@ForeverYoungKickboxer "Was"? What happened then? You got into another relationship and it all went to shit? Not trying to be a dick, genuinely curious, while I can't stop internally laughing at the thought how many guys have decent life, but then get into relationship (which is supposed to improve it further) and many things get worse :D I'm not the one to judge anyone though, because I'm not happy with my life in our outside of a relationship.

[@williamf.buckleyjr3227]

Every time I want to kick Psychology to the curb, a dude like this cat (or Jordan P.) comes along and gives me pause. Very thought-provoking video. Thanks, Man.

[@MeanBeanComedy]

Yeah, Psychology just has far more "chaff" vs the "wheat."

[@MeanBeanComedy]

@Me me I think he was unaware of the long-term, low-dose dangers. Also, you don't know what that patient was like. Maybe he was a danger to himself and Peterson wanted him to take an antipsychotic. That's not really a big red flag. "He CLAIMED to not know that taking one specific drug for a long time at a low dose was dangerous, yet he encouraged an entirely different person to take an entirely different drug at an entirely different time and place!! SUSPICIOUS!!"

[@MeanBeanComedy]

@Me me No, it's my way of saying your premise is wrong. Is this a copypasta for you? I've seen you post this all over the YT comment section.

[@HueghMungus]

@@MeanBeanComedy WHAT??? From what I've heard over dosens of these videos is how much wheat there is! Not the opposite, how do you explain the chaff???

[@MeanBeanComedy]

@@HueghMungus I'm sorry, I was in a Looooong thread with a guy who deleted all his comments, so now my points don't make sense! 😆🤦🏼‍♂️😫

[@averagejoe2043]

This has to be perhaps one of the most thought provoking discussions I've ever listened to. It goes to show that most of us do not understand how the mind works. Psychology is a course that should be taught in high schools.

[@JohnODonovan1987]

Adam Lane Smith doesn’t understand much about the mind either based on this interview.

[@valerieforeman6326]

​@JohnODonovan1987 good for light entertainment purposes only😊

[@mmonroe259]

Thank you for having someone on who doesn’t say the typical things...So interesting to hear a professional say that he’s never seen a woman divorce a healthy man.. so many pro men channels claim that women divorce men because feminism have made women malcontents ,who divorce men just because they want a a new man with better superficial traits.. it’s great to hear different more professional perspectives

[@shannonrosengarth8874]

This is astounding and incredibly refreshing in an age where we are not so much as allowed to admit that men and women are different. How this man hasn’t been canceled yet is beyond me, but I’m thrilled to hear him speak these truths about gender differences!

[@samuelvilz]

Hey there, fellow listener. Have some timestamps and show notes :) 00:00 Men's relationship to physical strength and mental health (clip taken from 33:34) 00:20 What makes Adam an authority on harsh psychology truths? 01:15 Adam defines attachment and attachment issues 04:06 Truth 1: Women are disgusted when they learn about the male sex drive. Then they harness their newfound power. - Comparison to the female sex drive - Evolutionary psychology 09:56 Truth 2: Adam has never seen a woman divorce a healthy man - The most common divorce dynamic Adam has witnessed 15:15 Truth 3: Sexless husbands don't know how the female sex drive works 17:46 Truth 4: If your child is an asshole, it's your fault. - Causality in the child's brain - Don't beat yourself up, but take ownership as a parent 22:38 Truth 5: Not everything is a diagnosable issue - Parameters for diagnoses of psychological ailments 28:28 Truth 6: Depressed men need purpose more than anything else - Women's need for the feeling of being loved and being useful to those they care about - The power of lifting weights 34:02 Truth 7: Sexually traumatized women believe it was their fault - Rape is not personal - The reason for female orgasms during rape - Psychology behind rough sex - Women's sex-related preferences during different times of their cycle 43:24 Why we don't like incest: Chris talks about the Westermarck Effect - The uncomfortable statistics of women reuniting and having sex with their fathers 46:31 Truth 8: Women don't trust unstable or unreliable men - Chris talks about the psychology behind the attractivity of going to the gym 51:30 Female beauty standards: The hourglass shape, making your body type work for you, and health signals 54:49 Truth 9: We've started teaching children to try to be loved instead of building character - Virtue signalling and status games 1:00:44 Truth 10: You are better than your worst mistake that you still measure yourself by - Make your mistakes mean something 1:04:29 Truth 11/12: Your attachment issues might make orgasms impossible - Female focus on "doing sex right" - "If you don't get an orgasm, what are you getting instead?" - The question that ruins sex for some women 1:09:17 Truth 13: Men try to please women like they'd please their mother - What men try to do and what women actually want 1:13:08 Adam on main errors people make when setting out on relationships 1:18:33 Truth 14: The Cohabitation Effect 1:20:44 Truth 15: The biggest predictor of extra-marital sex is pre-marital sex 1:22:18 Bonus Robert-Wright-ism: Staying together without producing children might cause you to fall out of love 1:25:12 Where you can find Adam Lane Smith - His Website: adamlanesmith.com/ - Course on how to get a girlfriend: gumroad.com/l/htgagf Thank you, Chris and Adam, for this enriching conversation 😊 It was so nice I listened twice

[@santosturmio8189]

Legend 👏

[@Darknight526]

Thank you Samuel!

[@gregorywitcher5618]

Sam, you’re the man!

[@cosmicartsastrologicalserv242]

In my work as a counselor, I have noticed that women tend to think of divorce as some thing that had to happen. The marriage just didn’t work out and so they filed for divorce. Men on the other hand, seem embarrassed that they divorced. They tend to think of it as a personal failure that they couldn’t keep their marriage or their family together. I don’t have any data to back this app and haven’t done a study, but I think it’s a thread to follow.

[@alexryan43244]

Nah it's just alimony and child support. If you remove these 2 two male infidelity will hit the roof

[@lejordanhighley]

Brilliant, I needed this one today! Especially "You are better than your worst mistake." Thanks Chris, keep them coming.

[@smj.mp4]

I fell behind with listening to some of these episodes so I regret that I didn't see this sooner. This episode might be my favorite. Harsh truths that some people won't be able to handle.

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

So much truth here why women divorce.

[@njabulov.hadebe9102]

this is incredibly illuminating!!!

[@mmason84]

I have actually learned a lot about myself listening to this.

[@jamienelson3470]

This was fascinating. Worth a second listen!

[@kalash_nikov]

Really enjoyed this podcast. I especially loved the part at 56:45 not because of this mindset explaining current strong lean towards identity politics (this topic has been covered by many people, like JBP, Haidt, etc.), but because it seems to me it also explains why so many people feel the need to do so many different things. The line "I will pick many things that are interesting, and I will tell people that I'm interesting..." made me realize (or at least consider) that. I think that's why many tie their interests with their identity "I'm a gamer", "I'm a Belieber", "I'm a gymrat", etc. and then they keep trying find more and more unique things to do. We can also see it manifest in how we try to make our life appear interesting on social media - posting pictures with exotic animals, jumping with a parachute, eating frozen camel poo, and so on. Don't get me wrong, nothing bad about those things (especially camel poo), but it often seems like collecting those "interesting moments" in order to be able to show and talk about them later, is the main goal. Even Gary Vee gave this advice to small business owners "Make your business unique and interesting, people will come to your restaurant not for food, but to be able to make a unique picture and post it on fb/ig". I don't know how true that is, I will think about it some more, but this idea of trying to present ourselves as interesting rather than having a good, admirable character, is definitely very intriguing. The only thing I'm not sure I agree with is that it used to be different "in the past". Maybe, but I don't see any evidence of that and we tend to romanticize the past. I think it's always been human tendency, it's just easier to pretend we are interesting these days and put it on a public display.

[@Lakoda26]

OMG please have Adam back on, this is gold.

[@evanduquette]

I love me some harsh truths! Can't wait to listen this evening.

[@willowway42]

We are talking about women's cycles but leaving out how they are significantly changed by the advent of hormonal profolactics. 🤔

[@MeanBeanComedy]

Good point!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Unrelated: are you British?

[@willowway42]

@@MeanBeanComedy thanks. And im an Aussie 👍

[@MeanBeanComedy]

@@willowway42 KK, your profolactic spelling made me think either UK, NZ, or AU, because US & CA use the ph. Sooo weird how we all use different spelling and punctuation rules! 🤦🏼‍♂️

[@drewsimon9652]

One of the best guests whose been on the podcast recently! (Only 2nd to JBP). Hope he comes on again!

[@ChrisWillx]

Press Subscribe for more uncomfortable insights about our species.

[@DEMillerEarl]

I'm subbed, liking and sharing, thank you for this video Chris, eye opening.

[@ChristinaChrisR]

Those are the best insights. Really looking forward to listening.

[@badgerlife9541]

This episode was great! I think you voiced a key insight about today's ideologically possessed, let's call them SJWs, not being able to ''COMPETE'' at 1:00:10. That line made me see a connection between this victim-points mentality and today's economic climate! Because it's actually true that many young people can no longer ''COMPETE'' in today's highly globalized and technology-centered world! This loss of a valuable role, a purpose in life and a good career is certainly one contributor leading SJWs to rebel and go full Woke, supporting CRT, Marxism, BML, Antifa, or any other radical causes! If you think about it, the sad truth is that unless you're highly skilled and understand technology, for example, you know how to code, understand machine learning, or you can design or fix complex machines in today's technological society, then there's little demand for you and your skills as a person. Sure, there are still 'service' sector jobs available today, but they are much lower paid, not as valued by society, and will be outsourced and replaced by machines over the next decades. There is no way back from this technologized society. But it's almost no wonder that many young people are becoming resentful and falling victim to the mind viruses of CRT, postmodernism, BLM, Marxism, Antifa, etc.

[@DEMillerEarl]

@@badgerlife9541 okay I understand the argument, but I genuinely think you don't understand the value physical menial jobs have. A Farmer or welder or carpenter doing his job well literally allows for the technology that we use. Everything prior to having internet and running water and electricity has to be done and maintained constantly, or it will fall apart. So, those jobs are needed more than ever and needing to be highly skilled in technology matters but not as much as I think you think.

[@badgerlife9541]

@@DEMillerEarl I agree. And at the moment we still have those jobs where people can learn a trade and work with their hands, but they're being automated at a rapid pace. Of course labor jobs will continue to exist even when machines take over most of the work in factories and construction, but you've gotta admit that there are a lot fewer of them since the US steel, mining, coal, automobile, etc. industries have all downsized immensely or been moved to China. Running water and electricity barely employs human labor compared to 100 years ago. Very soon trucking will be self-driving and warehouse labor will also be performed by machines. Have you seen Boston Dynamics?

[@Laura_Whitney]

🤯 well….this was eye opening!! Such good information! Thanks guys!!

[@claudiuionus506]

This episode blew my mind! Amazing!

[@BradleyJames66]

Thank you so much Adam. Your advice is much needed and appreciated.

[@missshroom5512]

I notice he did not mention transitioning out of our reproductive years. It is a reverse puberty that eventually turns us into who we were before puberty but with wisdom. I think most people in America that get depression and anxiety in their 40’s is because of the chemicals that fall to the way side after time just like puberty changed us from adolescence. It is sad we can’t talk about this process and the stigma attached to it in our society. It really is not all that bad once you make it there.👍🏼🌎☀️💙

[@iim2155]

Actually just got done reading Models after you mentioned it a few months bac, and it's uncanny how much of what is talked about there as far as female attraction is being echoed here.

[@multihullminion9201]

Frankly we’ve been pretty duped... glad this man had the moxie to open this can of worms. This discussion touches upon the male sex drive as we know it coming from the perspective of a society that is quite ignorant of our very technologically advanced ancient past. The transcendental tantric practices passed down through the ancient esoteric teachings placed the genders on on a more balanced scale, with transmutation through proper practices moderating the tilt.

[@jimmorris9824]

Best Free Valuable Therapy Session.

[@roymaitland6345]

I would like to see Rollo Tomassi be interviewed by you. Cheers 😊

[@carlotapuig]

This was the best episode ever. Thank you very much to both and please have Adam back soon.

[@constantdoodle32]

Dude that sibling imprint thing is wild. It's crazy that it's an actual natural way a human was designed to not interbreed

[@chrisdraper845]

Definitely one of my favourite episodes so far. This was very enlightening. Thank you.

[@ohnoitisnt]

Adam Lane Smith - Do that video on the decline of attachment since ww1 please

[@peter.joseph]

Can you host Adam Lane Smith again? We need an annual podcast with him! 😂

[@richardmock3198]

I listen to so many podcasts, so it still surprises me every time I get my mind blown 🤯 by new statistics or research on stufff 😁👍

[@lassyduckie8830]

The comment about saying "I am anxious" instead of "I am worried" was hilarious. I hear "I am anxious" or "I have anxiety" all the time!!!!

[@bigd711]

This deserves so many more views

[@h2t26]

Exhausted wives bewildered husbands, damn this described my break up. We weren't married but yes she was trying and trying to get me to change. Men want women to stay the same, women want men to change. They are opposed the thing is if the women changes the man usually accepts it, when the man doesn't change the women leaves.

[@2sevensdaievans]

It's people like this that allay the regret I sometimes feel at pursuing a career in psychology, including professor Red Skull of course. Nice one Chrissy boy!

[@WhizzingFish12]

It's a tough field to operate in unless you buy into the woke perspective. They'll threaten your license for Wrongthink on trans issues, for example. I know several long-term psychologists who are appalled at the ideological capture + ideological enforcement mechanisms set in place by the APA. Be careful.

[@2sevensdaievans]

@@WhizzingFish12 yeah or revoke your scholarship, as was the case for me at undergraduate when I emailed a professor asking why there's so much political dogma baked into the course, that It's detracting from learning psychology etc. Oh and i also received an email from the university mental health services to say that I'd been referred to them because of the "alarming nature of your email". Careful indeed my friend...

[@WhizzingFish12]

@@2sevensdaievans That's sad to hear but all too typical. Fortunately, I am not in that field. It's a shame that they've become so captured because psychology is fascinating if it's allowed to be freely explored.

[@jrtaylor1275]

Oh wow point made on anxiety.. I have been slammed by the propaganda machine of the businesses model of mental health to thinking my anxiety is anxiety.. it’s more to do about worrying. Great conversation, interview and WISDOM that SHOULD BE IN THE TOPS OF THE INSTITUTIONS THAT TEACH THESE FAKE DOCTORS!!

[@snugglepuffin4721]

I’ve followed this guy for awhile on Twitter and I’ve only just realised how awesome he is at what he does. Is he inside peoples brains? Lol. I’ve never seen/heard a psychotherapist be so accurate in every single word he says... And such a seriously decent guy too.

[@mattdonlan7745]

I tried being the good parents for both of us. My ex wife just didn't have empathy or compassion for them, or me. It took me a long time to figure it out (divorced after 20 yrs) and I've had some good talks with my son (22y) over the past few years about my part and her part in raising him. He gets it. My daughter(25y), however, believes I'm the bad parent and the ex is a victim. I can see the effects it's had on her and I'm saddened by it.

[@littlelam3691]

Maybe neither one of you were entirely the “good parent” or “the victim.” 🤷🏼‍♀️ Just something to think about because that is usually the case, as hard as it can be to accept. Your daughter probably has some insight.

[@SN-jh3bb]

this is common, learn to identify the behaviors that underline higher triad traits, as many as two thirds of all people are more psychopathic than not in attachment to a romantic other, innate morality cannot be faked.

[@DL-idk]

I think he just explained to me why I dislike my female body so much. I hate it when it forces me into feelings that don't belong to me. My reasonable self would mock at me and hate myself for succumbing to them. It's like fighting a constant war with my physical design to stay true to myself. This could be one of the most ridiculous things I've ever discovered in life.

[@monolith94]

What kind of feelings do you feel like your body is forcing on you?

[@SandrinesVoxServices]

It might be a good idea to attempt to identify why that is and to accept things as they are if it's the right thing to do... Everyone experiences things that we wish we could control. It seems society wants us to believe we're in control when we clearly aren't, it isn't that simple. I hope you can learn to love your female body someday. I love mine and wish everyone to love theirs, whether they are male or female.

[@monolith94]

Also, it's never reasonable to hate someone for having a feeling. Reasonable people don't hate like that.

[@oerjanlothe2369]

A very interesting conversation!

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

He's correct as to why women divorce. I'm a woman and divorced in my 40's

[@fightingprawn8918]

This was very enlightening. I would be very interested in hearing more from this man. Thank you very much Chris.

[@awelilbabyyt5606]

I have so many questions about myself and my marriage now.

[@Thank-u-so-much-for-everything]

thn please share with us.......!😅

[@badgerlife9541]

1:00:10 is the key insight by Chris! I believe it is this fact that the majority of young people today in fact ''CAN'T COMPETE'' anymore in today's highly globalized and technology-centered world that is leading them to rebel by going full Woke, supporting social justice and CRT, Antifa, or any other radical cause. The sad truth is that unless you're highly skilled and technologically minded, so, for example, you know how to code, you understand machine learning, or you can fix complex machines in today's technological society, then there's little demand for you and your skills as a person. Sure, there are still 'service' sector jobs available today, but they are much lower paid, not as valued by society, and will be outsourced and replaced by machines over the next decades. There is no way back from this technologized society. But it's no wonder that many young people are becoming resentful and falling victim to the mind viruses of CRT, postmodernism, BLM, Marxism, Antifa, etc.

[@Sleepline]

You should have Andrew Huberman on. He drops lots of truth bombs and talks about health issues from an evolutionary perspective quite a bit (especially sleep).

[@marcus8710]

I second Andrew Huberman.

[@SnoWhite2420]

Yes!!!

[@apow8535]

Thank you for this and looking forward to your next talk! ❤️

[@jackallen7950]

Wow, that was a hell of a listen. Loved it

[@sphinxmalinx]

What a brilliant interview!

[@householdone7559]

Lived with my girlfriend for about 6 years before we got married. We lived in 1 bedroom for about 5 of those years. Got married 7 years into it... Glad we're still going strong 5 years into marriage.... Guess we're lucky. (so far) But 1:25 "we are rational beings" ohhhhhhhhhh boy..... if only. We have the capacity to be but on the whole we are not. If we were, we wouldnt have the 'leaders' we have, climate change would have been sorted, coroavirus would have been handled differently, advertising wouldn't work on us etc etc etc....

[@householdone7559]

@Doctor Detroit "There is no climate change". That's a big statement that can't be backed up by anything. Even without the info we hear, it should be pretty obvious to the senses that something is up.. and that's from the UK, try going to the south of Italy, parts of India/Africa etc and tell them "there's no climate change," they'll put you in hospital. And that's without the actual actual evidence from actual melting glaciers. You can see it with your own eyes... unless you think (like flat earthers think of space photos) that every single photo is photoshopped. Being skeptical doesn't mean disbelieving everything. So about the thinking remark. Right back at you.

[@householdone7559]

@Doctor Detroit So with no information, you claim to know me. In absence of evidence. Insults and smears work best. That's what the media does. Chances are you're against the media (like many of us) but you are doing exactly what they are. tut tut tut

[@Thank-u-so-much-for-everything]

We have the capacity to be but on the whole we are not. If we were, we wouldnt have the 'leaders' we have😅,,,,very right..........somehoe my mind able to understand your amazing knowlwdge.......

[@peripheralparadox4218]

Men who seek approval from women in the way they sought approval from their mother - that’s Will Smith in a nutshell!

[@declancarroll1799]

A brilliant and very interesting conversation 👍

[@ClumsySmurfett]

Thank you, this is one of the most interesting interviews I've seen 🤯 You just have to put aside your opinions and biases and drink in this knowledge .

[@minimanr5052]

53.20 love it! He’s so right

[@mattanderson6672]

Brilliant interview!!

[@ldahmy]

41:27 yeah I stumbled upon ur channel from the Peterson ep and glad I did

[@ELTarTree]

Fascinating stuff. Thanks

[@John-wf5if]

Very much enjoyed this 👍

[@BatchelderPatrick]

Would like to see the subject of single fathers discussed. I was a single father of a toddler still in diapers and his sister one and a half yeas older. I never remarried. No time, no money with research showing 80 percent of second marriages failing Too, with you being an only child a discussion on the effects of that.

[@blakedenton8247]

Related to most of these ideas. Excellent podcast mate.

[@cameronidk2]

wow i saw the cover art in my side bar .. was a "meh" over an hour long .. then i saw in my notifications and went "oh it's Chris" now I'm watching ..

[@kaljuk.5456]

Väga hea !

[@wyleecoyotee4252]

He failed to mention that the divorce may have been initiated by the man but filed by the woman.

[@heliosophist334]

29:05 Take a moment to let that sink in.

[@GhostSal]

Ladies, male s3x drive is extremely high because testosterone is like fuel for our libido. The thing is just because we are always thinking about it and want it doesn’t mean we can’t control ourselves. It just means if he is yours (or attracted to you), you can have him whenever you want. It is dependent on age though, when I was a teen I felt like it was like trying to contain a wild beast living inside me. As guys get older it becomes much easier to control. I don’t like the idea that guys are primarily only interested in s3x, we (most of us that is) absolutely also want a loving affection faithful relationship. The other thing is I disagree that women aren’t at times also at the mercy of their own hormones (just like men). The difference is instead when hormonal levels peak, for guys when we are young (teens and young men) our hormones are always in hyperdrive but for the ladies it may come and go in different ways. Also, the fact women can have most any guy at any time makes that need less of a priority. I don’t think it’s only that s3x is strictly emotional for women as eluded to here but it also at times primal just like for guys.

[@MrRocksW]

Fantastic guest really insightful

[@nonnobissolum]

Some interesting ideas and truths. But as seems too often to be the case, applied much too broadly and sweepingly.

[@rpjswish]

Seems that's the only way when speaking to a large audience, but maybe we'll get to a starting point.

[@NeoCortexMonkey]

Dang, what an interview 👌

[@paulsansonetti7410]

Go read " what do women want" by Bergman Female arousal is way more deviant than y'all seem to think or are willing to say Look at 50 shades of grey being the best selling book in UK history And the hybristophilia phenomenon

[@jimbeam4736]

Hey Chris, you are mentioning some great books during the podcast. Could you provide some kind of reading list? Because I´m listenting to your show while I´m running, it´s hard to remember all the titles.

[@householdone7559]

All super interesting but i really liked at arounf 30:20 about men who get depressed because they lack purpose or meaning. That really resonated because it was like Jordan Peterson who talks about men losing their identity. And reminds me of a Ted talk where a psychologist was talking about how depression was treated in other countries without drugs and he was saying that the people needed purpose - a project and one of the things he went on to do was to get a group of depressed people and told them to turn a crappy piece of land into a beautiful garden.... and it worked really well. It was like a key to ending depression in them without the use of drugs. Very interesting stuff "Women don't trust an unstable or unreliable man" --------- erm boris johnson's got a number of kids though... they can't all be from prostitutes.

[@householdone7559]

@@cantbendknee Never read it. Sounds interesting. I've heard it from different - unconnected sources so it stands out as one of the more accurate explanations we have at the moment.

[@hariseldon3786]

Now lets get Adam Lane and Jordan Peterson together - you can be the ref and we can be the crowd cheering on...

[@Joeytrib1985]

I wonder if that is Robert Glover of No More Mr Nice Guy fame? There's a guest you should look into Chris!

[@Opo-D]

What is the take on attachment issues and narcissism? Can fixing attachment issues fix narcissism?

[@Thank-u-so-much-for-everything]

may be if people just seek deep knowldge instead of gossips/just unuseful talk........... what do you think........?........😅

[@dartharpy9404]

Great interview 😀

[@charlieweaver6322]

The narrative type at 1:03:00 where a person goes from High to low back to High would fit the structure of The Prodigal Son and also the Persephone myth. The death and rebirth of Christ is another one. They're very ancient Archetypal stories.

[@CaribSurfKing1]

What about a wife who was previously clinically diagnosed with anxiety, depression and OCD, was on meds as treatment. Then starts blaming the husband who gets physically ill dealing with this, even though he wants to emotionally help i.e. its just too much for him? Is it his fault for being able to cope with her being SO emotionally unstable? Oh, my wife, looks like a super model and is super intelligent, if you are wondering why I fell in love like an idiot and was prepared to ignore the issues ( and I had never dealt with serious mental issues in previous relationships )!

[@Thank-u-so-much-for-everything]

unstable miserable minds just seeks each other company...........😆 do you agree........?

[@Iceblade423]

1:17:00 When reading stories of uncertainty in a pairing/"situationship" (for lack of a better term), I always wonder why you don't know. First date (maybe beforehand even), I'm wanting to cover some important basics about what we are looking for with the date. I can't believe so many people are not like this with first/second dates. He seems to be suggesting something a little more intense than that; but still much of this should be default/understood yet isn't.

[@GamerKidPlaysGames]

bring this guy back

[@evanfritchie7657]

This content is absolutely awesome, We all need to share this guy on social media, Very Powerful! :)

[@mrl7451]

Fantastic interview :)

[@profeh3346]

Is the dynamics around sexual abuse the same when the abuse comes from a (previously trusted) family member?

[@neildunford241]

The evolutionary slant is amazing. I've also been listening to the Dark horse podcast that often uses the evolutionary lens to view topics. We'd be dumb to think that we're so evolved as to have no connection to early mankind.

[@BatchelderPatrick]

"interceed?" Did he mean "intersect?" (I'm a psychologist, PhD)

[@pil3driverwaltz164]

Mind blown 🤯

[@angelcandelaria6728]

Holy shit. What a good episode

[@kingaPL338]

Overall, fantastic interview, a lot of truth that's very uncomfortable in this day and age. However, the ending was a bit off. One thing is, at the end suddenly all the "on average", "typically", are gone. The more sexual partners before marriage, the more after the marriage. Mental damage from a lot of sexual partners (???) The number of sexual partners as a predicament of the divorce. Point blank, that's what happens. Always. Erm, no, it's not. Yes, we are still mammals. But the reality is more nuanced than "womb is in a driver's seat". I understand that we crave black and white world but everything falls into a bell curve. That being said, I still think that if we talked more about evolutionary drivers, instead of pretending they don't exist, it would help everyone to navigate their emotional life better.

[@johnkrstyen7351]

11 ish min mark guy completely describes my marriage and divorce.

[@Woody10719]

Ok, so I got very emotional in the first 2 minutes..

[@Smithstockphoto]

wow. guys. real cool. both you guys are dope

[@KICLEI_CANADA]

What do we do if we are a female in the good boy relationship. It’s been 13 years and I’m done?

[@221Dw]

I thought you'd lost your left arm at the start!

[@xyanide1986]

Man that good boy points story kinda hit home. Oof.

[@endgamefond]

I am a female. Our sex drive is not strong. Right. we care more about emotional needs than sex.

[@danielmeehan425]

The insest part was freaking disgusting! WTF

[@wellingtonmulenga9777]

What’s the evolutionary psychology book?

[@johndoe-is2fw]

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